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October 1, 2024 34 mins

In this heartfelt episode of Modern Gays, hosts Daniel and Garet chat with Joey Guzman Kuffel, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in LGBTQ+ fertility and mental health. Joey dives into his personal and professional journey, exploring the unique challenges and emotions queer people face when building families, particularly through surrogacy and IVF. The conversation covers vital topics such as the initial steps in family planning, the decision-making processes involved in egg donation and surrogacy, managing anxiety during IVF, and dealing with societal and familial judgment. They also discuss the significance of mental health support and therapy in navigating the rollercoaster of emotions that come with building a family in the LGBTQ+ community. This episode is packed with invaluable advice for those considering parenthood, seeking connection, and fostering love within their relationships.


Key Highlights:

  • LGBTQ+ Family Planning: Joey discusses the key factors to consider when starting a family, including choosing egg donors, surrogates, and the emotional preparation needed for this life-changing journey.
  • Mental Health Support: The importance of consulting a mental health professional early in the family-building process, providing a safe space to explore options and prepare for challenges.
  • Managing Expectations: Joey emphasizes that every path to parenthood is unique; comparing your journey to others’ experiences can lead to unnecessary stress and anxiety.
  • Coping with Judgment: Strategies for setting boundaries and coping with judgment from society, family, and even self-imposed doubts during the process of surrogacy or IVF.
  • Navigating Relationship Dynamics: The episode explores the impact of family building on relationships, stressing the importance of communication, shared responsibilities, and maintaining connection as a couple.

 

Connect with Joey:

Joey Guzman-Kuffel, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of Counseling With Joey & Associates. Inspired by his own journey to fatherhood through surrogacy and egg donation, Joey specializes in fertility, IVF, and surrogacy counseling for LGBTQ+ individuals and couples. His practice provides culturally competent, empathetic care for those navigating the emotional complexities of third-party reproduction. The team offers consultations, psychological evaluations, and traditional therapy services.
 

 

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