November 25, 2025 • 21 mins
We explore humility as a core parenting skill and show how to plant it like a seed that grows into self-awareness, stronger relationships, and peace. We offer scripts for handling praise, draw a clear line between confidence and arrogance, and share stories that make the lesson stick.
• planting humility as a character seed
• confidence versus arrogance and why it matters
• scripts to receive praise without inflating ego
• self-awareness as the path to growth
• empathy that strengthens friendships and teams
• humble leadership for moms and kids
• listening practices that invite ideas
• peace and emotional stability over approval
• sharing gifts to serve others and build unity
Moms, if you were encouraged by this episode, I encourage you. Number one, leave me some feedback. Let me know that you were encouraged. Number two, tell another mom. Tell another parent.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Hey ladies, welcome to the Mom to Mentor podcast.
If this is your first timejoining, welcome.
If you are a repeat listener,thank you for your loyalty.
I cannot say that enough.
Knowing there's so many otherparenting podcasts out there,
(00:23):
you decided to stop by andlisten to me.
So thank you so much for that.
Hey, I'm gonna get right intoour topic for the day.
I'm still planting characterseeds for our virtual character
garden.
And character seeds or charactertraits, however you want to look
(00:45):
at it, they make up ourpersonality.
That's why I want to share thiswith you.
A lot of time we don't focus onpersonality traits, right?
These things aren't taught,they're corrected, but they're
never taught.
I want to take this opportunity,share with you, moms, of what it
(01:07):
means to plant these characterseeds in your children, and not
just your children, but you.
Because when we think about whatit means to be a mentor, we're
setting that example, we'reproviding guidance as it relates
to life's challenges or justlife in general.
(01:30):
That's what this podcast is allabout equipping you so that you
can equip your child.
If you haven't heard priorepisodes, some of the other
character seeds that I'veplanted or attempted to plant
for our virtual character gardenis apology, honesty, respect,
(01:55):
confidence, compassion,creativity, patience, gratitude,
forgiveness, kindness,determination, accountability,
and today's hot topic, fresh offthe press, we're going to be
(02:20):
talking about humility or beinghumble and why that's important.
It's easy when you have a uniquegift or unique talent, for
instance, you know, some of thesports stars out there, and I
don't even know if that'scorrect, but when you see folks
(02:40):
in sports that do exceptionallywell in their craft, it's easy
to, oh wow, you make them youridol and you put them on this
pedestal and sports folks walkaround with their jerseys on and
all of this good stuff.
They're all about that person,that individual, and that's
(03:03):
fine, just can't go overboardwith it, and then it also
depends on how that personaccepts their gift or their
talent because it can make thembecome arrogant.
And me for myself, I've placedpeople at a level that I'm like,
(03:25):
wow, I just really admire themor I idolize them, right?
And when I finally got to meetthe individual and they were all
arrogant and snooty, don'tbother me.
I was like, whoa, whoa.
My attitude towards thatindividual changed all because
(03:46):
of the arrogance.
Now, again, there's a differencebetween arrogance and
confidence, right?
Confidence is knowing who youare, arrogance is thinking, oh,
I'm better than you are.
Know the difference between thetwo, and there's nothing wrong
with confidence.
I'm not gonna spend a whole lotof time here because there's a
(04:07):
whole nother episode out thereabout confidence.
We need to teach our childrenabout being humble and having an
attitude of gratitude when itcomes to humility, because it's
easy when people see youruniqueness and this talent that
(04:29):
you possess, it's easy to comeby and say, Oh, you're all that
and a bag of chips.
And then the next thing, youknow, they're back in the day
when I was growing up, talkingabout the big head.
And then somebody said, Bring mea pen, because we need to bust
your head.
Your head is getting too bigbecause they're taking all of
this wonderful compliments andthinking they did it on their
(04:53):
own, versus saying, you knowwhat, I'm grateful that I do
have this unique gift or thistalent that I'm able to share
with others.
I'm gonna give you an outline ofsome benefits of why we need to
be humble or display thathumility.
(05:14):
The first one is self-awarenessand growth.
Humility enables individuals toacknowledge their flaws and
areas for improvement.
When you're arrogant, you thinkyou can do no wrong.
And that's not true.
When we identify our flaws, thathelps keep us humble.
(05:37):
The self-awareness is crucialfor personal development as it
encourages a mindset open tolearning and growth.
And we all, no matter what yourage is, continue to learn
because learning leads togrowth.
(05:57):
And when you're humble, you cando that.
Number two, it improvesrelationships, and you're going
to interact with a lot of peoplethrough your lifetime.
And you probably already have,mom, and your kids will too.
And it's not just the loverelationship we're talking about
(06:18):
here.
We're talking about when youstart work, they go to school.
Anytime you're interacting withpeople, that is a form of a
relationship, it improvesrelationships.
So when humble individuals tendto be more empathetic and
compassionate, allowing them toconnect better with others.
(06:42):
This fosters positiverelationships as humility helps
reduce jealousy and promotes asupportive environment.
Yeah, because again, when youget or when people get arrogant,
it does invite jealousy becausewho do you think you are?
(07:05):
I can outshine you, I can dobetter.
Yeah, and we don't want thatkind of attitude following us,
and and your children wouldn'twant that.
And I'm sure all of our childrenand your children have some
uniqueness about them thatstands out, but they still have
(07:26):
to remain humble, especially inrelationships.
You can't go around thinkingyou're better than that other
person, it just leads todisaster, and especially if
you're gonna get in a loverelationship, yeah, you can't
(07:48):
think you're better than yourpartner.
It enhances leadership, andleadership roles humility is
vital.
And mom, you are our leader.
Leaders set examples for theirfollowers.
And who are your followers, mom?
Oop, I gave it away.
(08:09):
That's right.
Your children or your child,they're following you, they're
watching you, they're listeningto you.
It's important for you todisplay that behavior, that
humility.
(08:30):
Humble leaders are moreapproachable, willing to listen
to others, and we got to do alot of that.
I wasn't very good at that withmy children, but you have to be
willing to listen to yourchildren because if you don't,
someone else will.
Yeah.
And that's when things start togo left, and that's when you get
(08:54):
into correcting mode becausesomeone else listened to them.
Leadership creates acollaborative atmosphere that
encourages them to contributetheir ideas, and kids have a lot
of great ideas, both of my kids.
I enjoy having conversationswith them, and I'll put that
(09:18):
out, put this out there.
They are older, they are adults.
How about that?
And I enjoy conversating withthem, I enjoy hearing their
point of view, and I'm learningfrom them based on some of the
things that they've encounteredthrough life that I did not
teach them.
(09:39):
But having that conversationwith them is beautiful, it's a
beautiful thing.
While your kids may be younger,you still want to set it up
where they can come and talkwith you, mom, and have a
discussion with them and berespectful so that they can come
(10:02):
to you and not have to go tosomeone else.
When we talk about humility, wetalk about psychological
well-being.
Yep, that's a big word or bigwords.
Practicing humility can lead togreater happiness and emotional
(10:24):
stability.
Yeah.
Humble individuals oftenexperience less stress and
anxiety as they are less focusedon self-promotion and more on
the collective good.
So all I said there, moms, isthis is code for peace.
(10:48):
So if you had to extractanything out of this, just one
word.
Peace.
So when you practice humility,you're practicing and
encouraging peace.
And peace is a beautiful thing.
You can't buy it.
You can't, but you certainly canstrive for it.
(11:09):
So again, mom, take this timeand say when someone comes and
gives you a compliment or ortries to elevate you, thank you.
I appreciate it.
But that as far as it goes,right?
(11:29):
As soon as you start wateringthat compliment, it starts to
grow and grow and grow.
And then soon no one can tellyou anything.
You're extending an invitationunnecessarily.
So again, your response is thankyou, I appreciate that, but I'm
(11:53):
really not all that, but Iappreciate you, I appreciate
your vote, and that's how youminimize or de-escalating going
to that arrogant level.
So that's how you teach yourchildren.
You acknowledge it, appreciateit, and move on.
(12:18):
And that's it.
Put a period, don't put a comma,put a period, right?
Because we have to maintain alevel of humility because it's
gonna take us a lot farther thanarrogance.
Finally, promoting unity andteamwork, humility helps in
(12:45):
creating a sense of belongingand unity within groups.
And guess what?
You're gonna have to work withpeople, you're gonna have to be
involved in different things inyour life, and you're gonna have
to get through that.
And so one person can't outshineanother person.
(13:06):
You have to work together, youhave to have that attitude of
gratitude when you're working ina team setting.
Yeah, we can do this, and youachieve more when you work as a
group, when you have an attitudeof gratitude and not looking at
one person that you're betterthan the other.
(13:27):
Work together.
So, in conclusion, in a worldthat often values self-promotion
and competition, humility standsout as a powerful trait that
enhances personal and socialdynamics.
(13:48):
By embracing humility,individuals can cultivate a more
meaningful and fulfilling life,characterized by strong
relationships, continuousgrowth, and a positive impact to
(14:08):
those around them.
So, mom, as you are interactingwith your children, as you are
interacting with others, Ichallenge you to be humble and
really and focus on your peace.
(14:31):
Because again, when you focus onyour peace, everything doesn't
require a response.
When people approach you andsay, hey, you did all this,
that, and the other.
Yeah, don't take a whole lotinto that because those same
people that elevate you cande-escalate you, and that's the
(14:52):
truth.
That's the truth.
And again, strive for peace, andthat's how you would present it
to your child.
If they are gifted, that'swonderful, that's awesome.
Just make sure they use it thatbenefits others.
Take that talent, take thatgift, right?
(15:15):
Maybe another person next doordoesn't know how or want to know
how you do what you do.
Share your gift.
That's what humility looks like.
That's what being humble lookslike.
Yeah, and I'm gonna be donehere.
But this week, my daughter, Isaid my kids are adults, but she
(15:39):
is fantastic when she doesmakeup.
She's just all that.
And I asked her, and I tell heroften how well she does as a
makeup artist.
And she's not a professional,but she does, she might as well
be because she does very good.
But I asked her about one of hertechniques to applying makeup,
(16:04):
and she said, Oh, this is what Iuse.
I use this and this.
When you are humble, you don'tmind sharing.
If God gave you that gift, can'tnobody take it away from you.
So practice humility.
Learn to share your talent,learn to share your gift.
(16:25):
When you start doing that'swhere your peace comes in at.
You don't have to focus onjealousy because it's been
assigned to you, whatever thatgift is.
Moms, if you were encouraged bythis episode, I encourage you.
(16:46):
Number one, leave me somefeedback.
Let me know that you wereencouraged.
Number two, tell another mom.
Tell another parent.
Because many parents were justlike me when I was raising my
kids, feeling around in the darkwhen it comes to parenting,
(17:07):
thinking all I have to do isjust provide for my kids, that I
didn't need to teach my kids.
That's what this podcast is allabout.
Take this opportunity, tellanother parent that, hey, let's
get into parenting mode.
Let's really understand whatparenting is, and it's really
(17:29):
about teaching our children.
It's ensuring that they'resuccessful.
So when it's time for them toleave, yeah, there's not going
to be any worries.
There will be, but it's notgoing to be as much because you
taught them.
You taught them and it stayswith them.
How do I know?
(17:50):
Because the things I did teachmy children, they do come back
and say, Mom, remember when?
So I know it works.
I know it works.
Hey, you have a good day, agreat week, and a fantastic
month.
Take care.
Hey ladies, welcome to the Mom to Mentor podcast.
If this is your first timejoining, welcome.
If you are a repeat listener,thank you for your loyalty.
I cannot say that enough.
Knowing there's so many otherparenting podcasts out there,
(00:23):
you decided to stop by andlisten to me.
So thank you so much for that.
Hey, I'm gonna get right intoour topic for the day.
I'm still planting characterseeds for our virtual character
garden.
And character seeds or charactertraits, however you want to look
(00:45):
at it, they make up ourpersonality.
That's why I want to share thiswith you.
A lot of time we don't focus onpersonality traits, right?
These things aren't taught,they're corrected, but they're
never taught.
I want to take this opportunity,share with you, moms, of what it
(01:07):
means to plant these characterseeds in your children, and not
just your children, but you.
Because when we think about whatit means to be a mentor, we're
setting that example, we'reproviding guidance as it relates
to life's challenges or justlife in general.
(01:30):
That's what this podcast is allabout equipping you so that you
can equip your child.
If you haven't heard priorepisodes, some of the other
character seeds that I'veplanted or attempted to plant
for our virtual character gardenis apology, honesty, respect,
(01:55):
confidence, compassion,creativity, patience, gratitude,
forgiveness, kindness,determination, accountability,
and today's hot topic, fresh offthe press, we're going to be
(02:20):
talking about humility or beinghumble and why that's important.
It's easy when you have a uniquegift or unique talent, for
instance, you know, some of thesports stars out there, and I
don't even know if that'scorrect, but when you see folks
(02:40):
in sports that do exceptionallywell in their craft, it's easy
to, oh wow, you make them youridol and you put them on this
pedestal and sports folks walkaround with their jerseys on and
all of this good stuff.
They're all about that person,that individual, and that's
(03:03):
fine, just can't go overboardwith it, and then it also
depends on how that personaccepts their gift or their
talent because it can make thembecome arrogant.
And me for myself, I've placedpeople at a level that I'm like,
(03:25):
wow, I just really admire themor I idolize them, right?
And when I finally got to meetthe individual and they were all
arrogant and snooty, don'tbother me.
I was like, whoa, whoa.
My attitude towards thatindividual changed all because
(03:46):
of the arrogance.
Now, again, there's a differencebetween arrogance and
confidence, right?
Confidence is knowing who youare, arrogance is thinking, oh,
I'm better than you are.
Know the difference between thetwo, and there's nothing wrong
with confidence.
I'm not gonna spend a whole lotof time here because there's a
(04:07):
whole nother episode out thereabout confidence.
We need to teach our childrenabout being humble and having an
attitude of gratitude when itcomes to humility, because it's
easy when people see youruniqueness and this talent that
(04:29):
you possess, it's easy to comeby and say, Oh, you're all that
and a bag of chips.
And then the next thing, youknow, they're back in the day
when I was growing up, talkingabout the big head.
And then somebody said, Bring mea pen, because we need to bust
your head.
Your head is getting too bigbecause they're taking all of
this wonderful compliments andthinking they did it on their
(04:53):
own, versus saying, you knowwhat, I'm grateful that I do
have this unique gift or thistalent that I'm able to share
with others.
I'm gonna give you an outline ofsome benefits of why we need to
be humble or display thathumility.
(05:14):
The first one is self-awarenessand growth.
Humility enables individuals toacknowledge their flaws and
areas for improvement.
When you're arrogant, you thinkyou can do no wrong.
And that's not true.
When we identify our flaws, thathelps keep us humble.
(05:37):
The self-awareness is crucialfor personal development as it
encourages a mindset open tolearning and growth.
And we all, no matter what yourage is, continue to learn
because learning leads togrowth.
(05:57):
And when you're humble, you cando that.
Number two, it improvesrelationships, and you're going
to interact with a lot of peoplethrough your lifetime.
And you probably already have,mom, and your kids will too.
And it's not just the loverelationship we're talking about
(06:18):
here.
We're talking about when youstart work, they go to school.
Anytime you're interacting withpeople, that is a form of a
relationship, it improvesrelationships.
So when humble individuals tendto be more empathetic and
compassionate, allowing them toconnect better with others.
(06:42):
This fosters positiverelationships as humility helps
reduce jealousy and promotes asupportive environment.
Yeah, because again, when youget or when people get arrogant,
it does invite jealousy becausewho do you think you are?
(07:05):
I can outshine you, I can dobetter.
Yeah, and we don't want thatkind of attitude following us,
and and your children wouldn'twant that.
And I'm sure all of our childrenand your children have some
uniqueness about them thatstands out, but they still have
(07:26):
to remain humble, especially inrelationships.
You can't go around thinkingyou're better than that other
person, it just leads todisaster, and especially if
you're gonna get in a loverelationship, yeah, you can't
(07:48):
think you're better than yourpartner.
It enhances leadership, andleadership roles humility is
vital.
And mom, you are our leader.
Leaders set examples for theirfollowers.
And who are your followers, mom?
Oop, I gave it away.
(08:09):
That's right.
Your children or your child,they're following you, they're
watching you, they're listeningto you.
It's important for you todisplay that behavior, that
humility.
(08:30):
Humble leaders are moreapproachable, willing to listen
to others, and we got to do alot of that.
I wasn't very good at that withmy children, but you have to be
willing to listen to yourchildren because if you don't,
someone else will.
Yeah.
And that's when things start togo left, and that's when you get
(08:54):
into correcting mode becausesomeone else listened to them.
Leadership creates acollaborative atmosphere that
encourages them to contributetheir ideas, and kids have a lot
of great ideas, both of my kids.
I enjoy having conversationswith them, and I'll put that
(09:18):
out, put this out there.
They are older, they are adults.
How about that?
And I enjoy conversating withthem, I enjoy hearing their
point of view, and I'm learningfrom them based on some of the
things that they've encounteredthrough life that I did not
teach them.
(09:39):
But having that conversationwith them is beautiful, it's a
beautiful thing.
While your kids may be younger,you still want to set it up
where they can come and talkwith you, mom, and have a
discussion with them and berespectful so that they can come
(10:02):
to you and not have to go tosomeone else.
When we talk about humility, wetalk about psychological
well-being.
Yep, that's a big word or bigwords.
Practicing humility can lead togreater happiness and emotional
(10:24):
stability.
Yeah.
Humble individuals oftenexperience less stress and
anxiety as they are less focusedon self-promotion and more on
the collective good.
So all I said there, moms, isthis is code for peace.
(10:48):
So if you had to extractanything out of this, just one
word.
Peace.
So when you practice humility,you're practicing and
encouraging peace.
And peace is a beautiful thing.
You can't buy it.
You can't, but you certainly canstrive for it.
(11:09):
So again, mom, take this timeand say when someone comes and
gives you a compliment or ortries to elevate you, thank you.
I appreciate it.
But that as far as it goes,right?
(11:29):
As soon as you start wateringthat compliment, it starts to
grow and grow and grow.
And then soon no one can tellyou anything.
You're extending an invitationunnecessarily.
So again, your response is thankyou, I appreciate that, but I'm
(11:53):
really not all that, but Iappreciate you, I appreciate
your vote, and that's how youminimize or de-escalating going
to that arrogant level.
So that's how you teach yourchildren.
You acknowledge it, appreciateit, and move on.
(12:18):
And that's it.
Put a period, don't put a comma,put a period, right?
Because we have to maintain alevel of humility because it's
gonna take us a lot farther thanarrogance.
Finally, promoting unity andteamwork, humility helps in
(12:45):
creating a sense of belongingand unity within groups.
And guess what?
You're gonna have to work withpeople, you're gonna have to be
involved in different things inyour life, and you're gonna have
to get through that.
And so one person can't outshineanother person.
(13:06):
You have to work together, youhave to have that attitude of
gratitude when you're working ina team setting.
Yeah, we can do this, and youachieve more when you work as a
group, when you have an attitudeof gratitude and not looking at
one person that you're betterthan the other.
(13:27):
Work together.
So, in conclusion, in a worldthat often values self-promotion
and competition, humility standsout as a powerful trait that
enhances personal and socialdynamics.
(13:48):
By embracing humility,individuals can cultivate a more
meaningful and fulfilling life,characterized by strong
relationships, continuousgrowth, and a positive impact to
(14:08):
those around them.
So, mom, as you are interactingwith your children, as you are
interacting with others, Ichallenge you to be humble and
really and focus on your peace.
(14:31):
Because again, when you focus onyour peace, everything doesn't
require a response.
When people approach you andsay, hey, you did all this,
that, and the other.
Yeah, don't take a whole lotinto that because those same
people that elevate you cande-escalate you, and that's the
(14:52):
truth.
That's the truth.
And again, strive for peace, andthat's how you would present it
to your child.
If they are gifted, that'swonderful, that's awesome.
Just make sure they use it thatbenefits others.
Take that talent, take thatgift, right?
(15:15):
Maybe another person next doordoesn't know how or want to know
how you do what you do.
Share your gift.
That's what humility looks like.
That's what being humble lookslike.
Yeah, and I'm gonna be donehere.
But this week, my daughter, Isaid my kids are adults, but she
(15:39):
is fantastic when she doesmakeup.
She's just all that.
And I asked her, and I tell heroften how well she does as a
makeup artist.
And she's not a professional,but she does, she might as well
be because she does very good.
But I asked her about one of hertechniques to applying makeup,
(16:04):
and she said, Oh, this is what Iuse.
I use this and this.
When you are humble, you don'tmind sharing.
If God gave you that gift, can'tnobody take it away from you.
So practice humility.
Learn to share your talent,learn to share your gift.
(16:25):
When you start doing that'swhere your peace comes in at.
You don't have to focus onjealousy because it's been
assigned to you, whatever thatgift is.
Moms, if you were encouraged bythis episode, I encourage you.
(16:46):
Number one, leave me somefeedback.
Let me know that you wereencouraged.
Number two, tell another mom.
Tell another parent.
Because many parents were justlike me when I was raising my
kids, feeling around in the darkwhen it comes to parenting,
(17:07):
thinking all I have to do isjust provide for my kids, that I
didn't need to teach my kids.
That's what this podcast is allabout.
Take this opportunity, tellanother parent that, hey, let's
get into parenting mode.
Let's really understand whatparenting is, and it's really
(17:29):
about teaching our children.
It's ensuring that they'resuccessful.
So when it's time for them toleave, yeah, there's not going
to be any worries.
There will be, but it's notgoing to be as much because you
taught them.
You taught them and it stayswith them.
How do I know?
(17:50):
Because the things I did teachmy children, they do come back
and say, Mom, remember when?
So I know it works.
I know it works.
Hey, you have a good day, agreat week, and a fantastic
month.
Take care.
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