Evolving Beyond Motherhood: The Journey to Becoming Your Child's Mentor

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The podcast is undergoing a name change from "Single Moms United" to "Mom to Mentor," better reflecting the message that mothers are more than just providers—they are examples their children model themselves after. This rebranding emphasizes the mentorship role mothers naturally play in their children's lives and the responsibility that comes with being observed and emulated.

• Good moms teach their children through both verbal instruction and observable behaviors
• Better moms commit to continuous learning so they can pass new knowledge to their children
• Children absorb everything they see, shaping their future behaviors and parenting approaches
• The podcast will now feature guest interviews sharing both challenges and success stories
• Single motherhood should not be defined by negative stereotypes but by the positive impact on children
• Education of children shouldn't be fully outsourced to schools but prioritized by parents
• The multi-generational impact of good parenting creates a positive cycle for future generations

What are you going to teach your child this week and what are you going to learn this week?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey ladies, welcome to the Single Moms United
podcast.
If this is your first timejoining, welcome If you are a
repeat listener.
Thank you for your loyalty.
Hey, I have some wonderful newsfor you.
Some of you may have alreadyseen it if you're a follower.

(00:21):
I am transitioning the title ofthis podcast from Single Moms
United to Mom to Mentor becauseit better aligns with the
message that I'm trying to sharewith you all, and the purpose
or the goal of this podcast isto say that we are more than
just moms.

(00:41):
We are mentors.
And what does that mean to be amentor?
That means we are looked atdifferently than just moms.
We are mentors.
And what does that mean to be amentor?
That means we are looked atdifferently than just a provider
and a nurturer.
We are also looked at as beingexamples, and that's what a
mentor is Someone that you lookat and model yourself after.
Now doesn't it make more senseto say you're also more than a

(01:07):
mom, you're also a mentor?
Yeah, because our kids arewatching, they're observing,
they are digesting our behaviorsthat they see us do on a daily
basis, and generally, as amentor, you want them to seem
more positive than negative.

(01:28):
A mentor is someone who youdesire to be, or at least
capture some of their characterand apply it to your life.
That's why they're a mentor.
If you're used to seeing singlemoms united, it's still around.
I'm slowly phasing it out and Imay slip up from time to time

(01:52):
and say Single Moms United.
So just know there's a reasonfor that is because that's how
all of this got started.
Mom to Mentor better aligns withthe purpose of this podcast.
I would love to hear from you.
If you have thoughts or ideasor like the name change, let me
know.
Visit me atsinglemomsunitedpodcastcom.

(02:13):
And yes, I'm in the process ofchanging my URL as well to make
it a little simpler for you toaccess.
But I would love to hear fromyou.
In addition to the name change,I'm also going to be opening up
and inviting guests to mypodcast to hear about some of
your challenges and yoursuccesses as a single mom,

(02:36):
because this is all aboutmotivating each other.
Right?
Society has given us a bad name, said we're lazy and we're some
other names I can't mention orI won't mention, but this is our
opportunity to encourage eachother by our success stories,
and I've shared several of themwith you over these past few

(03:00):
years, months, weeks andhopefully you're finding value.
And if you are finding value,then absolutely tell another
single mom.
What I'm hoping to do with thispodcast that I have not done
with prior episodes is just tomake sure there's support out
here for you, single mom,there's education out here for

(03:24):
you as you're raising yourchildren.
You know, when I had my kids,it was a lot of feeling around
in the dark, but the good newsis the good news is you don't
have to do that anymore, becausenot only this podcast, but
there are other podcasts outthere that will support you,

(03:45):
single mom, and motivate you totake you to another level with
your thinking and your parenting.
It's not a one size fits all,but you should always be
learning, and one thing that Ifound out is you know I talk
about good moms and bad moms anda good mom is she's a teacher.

(04:07):
She's teaching her children notonly through verbal interaction
, but what our children, or whatyour children are seeing.
You're also teaching them thatway as well, through body
language, your reactions, yourcomments all of that.
They're learning, they'reabsorbing and they're paying

(04:28):
attention to what you're doing.
Keep that in mind.
So now I want to tell you abouttaking it one step further as
far as being a good mom andgoing to be a better mom is.
Not only are you teaching yourchildren, that's a good mom.
Now you're learning to teachyour children that's a better

(04:48):
mom.
There's so much out here thatwe don't know including myself.
We still.
I still don't know a lot ofthings.
Yes, my children are older.
Yes, they are a young lady anda young man now that are out in
the world trying to do the bestthat they can.

(05:08):
Mom, you need to also take onthat challenge of not just
teaching but learning.
That's what makes you a bettermom, don't you want to be a
better mom?
And you should.
Once you start teaching yourchild different behaviors and
about life, there's still a lotyou don't know and there's a lot

(05:33):
that is changing on a dailybasis.
So I encourage you not onlytake that step up to teach your
children, but take that step upfor you to learn to also pay
forward in teaching them whatyou've learned.
Why is that important?

(05:54):
You're going to have to releasethem into society one day.
They're going to have childrenand look at the pattern or the
behavior you're setting up as aresult of you teaching your
child.
Now your child will pay itforward to their child and your
grandchild right.

(06:14):
And so now you're going to beable to say, did I do a good job
?
Because now you're going to seewhat happened as a result of
your teachings to your own child, to see how they're paying it
forward and, oh boy, I can onlyimagine that would be a
beautiful sight to see yourchild educating their child.

(06:36):
Today is brief and to the point.
Their child Today is brief andto the point.
Just wanted to let you knowthere's a name change, some
things that are happening as itrelates to this podcast.
You know I always call or askyou all what you're doing and
spend time with your child, andI'm also challenging myself to
take it to another level as well, and that other level is number

(06:59):
one modifying the name toreally more align with the
purpose of this podcast and thenbring on other people that have
similar challenges how theyovercome these challenges, what
they learn, what they pay backand what they taught their
children.
That's what this podcast is allabout, and if you want to be a

(07:23):
guest on my podcast, you can goto singlemomsunitedpodcastcom.
Go out.
Leave me a comment of why youwant to be on the show.
Tell me about some of yoursuccess stories, what you've
learned along the way as aparent or as a single parent,
and what you've paid forward toyour child.

(07:43):
What challenges have youovercame or overcome as a parent
?
That's what this is all about.
Somebody else needs to hearyour story.
I would love to hear your story.
I would think that we probablyhave a lot in common as far as
some of the challenges we'veovercame as a parent, so I would
love to compare notes.

(08:04):
If you enjoyed today's episode,tell another single mom, pour
back into your child or yourchildren.
Don't just say you know what?
I'm a provider.
I'm going to make sure you haveeverything.
All of that is wonderful.
That is I'm a provider.
I'm going to make sure you haveeverything.
All of that is wonderful.
That is your basics as a mother.
But now it's time to step upyour game.

(08:26):
And when I say step up yourgame, I'm talking about just
going that extra mile, teachingthem.
And again, you don't have toblock out time and say, okay,
little Johnny, little Ruthie,this is what we're going to talk
about today.
No, just show them positivebehaviors.
Mom, I was in the store today,with it being Easter, I heard a

(08:49):
mom tell her young daughter anoverview of Easter and why it's
a special occasion, and I wasthinking to myself, wow, that's
what it sounds like when we'reeducating our children.
That's a good mom.
Yeah, because now she'seducated her about this holiday,
the Easter holiday, and what itmeans.

(09:10):
And I wasn't trying to be nosy,but they were standing right
behind me, so I did hear theconversation.
But ladies, ladies, do me afavor Not only be a good mom,
but be a better mom.
Put it in your eyesight, oryour goals to be a better mom.
And how do I become a bettermom?

(09:31):
How do you become a better mom?
Is now, we take it to anotherlevel and you're also learning,
and you're learning to teach.
And when I say learning toteach, I'm saying you learning
something so that you can pay itforward to teach it back to
your child.
We should not hold schools andother organizations responsible

(09:53):
for teaching our children.
That should be a part of ourrole and it should rank high on
the list of things that weshould be doing as it relates to
supporting our children andeducating our children.
You know, I was readingsomewhere.
It says you know what?
You should have a call toaction after you do your podcast

(10:14):
, and so here's my call toaction to you what are you going
to teach your child this weekand what are you going to learn
this week?
Yeah, that's it.
That's the call to action.
Again, I would love to hearfrom you.
Let me know your thoughts.
You can also leave thoughts onmy YouTube page.
I hope you all have a fantasticday, a wonderful week, and be

(10:37):
safe.
Encourage your children,motivate your children and,
matter of fact, encourageyourself.
As a reminder, you can do thisand guess what?
How do I know?
Because I've done it.
I'm somewhere I thought I'dnever be, but part of that did
come through my ownself-motivation.
All right, ladies, have a greatday, take care.