Thriving as a Single Mom in 2025

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How do we, as single moms, leave a legacy of positivity and purpose for our children in this brand new year of 2025? Join me on this heartfelt episode of the Single Moms United Podcast as I share my personal insights into the intricate dance of modeling positive behavior while embracing the unique challenges of single parenting. Discover strategies that will help you manage emotions behind closed doors and understand the profound impact of those tender, everyday moments—because as I always say, "A hug a day keeps the bad influencing away." Let's embark on this journey together to create nurturing environments where our children can thrive by absorbing the best of what we offer.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hey, ladies, welcome to the Single Moms United
podcast, where we cannot spellUnited without the letter U or
Y-O-U.
Hey, I want to send a shout outof Happy New Year, welcome to
2025.
I'm confident, ladies, thatthis is your year to thrive.

(00:25):
Hopefully, 2024 allowed you toopen new doors and you take
advantage of that and make ityours, because it's not about
how you arrived at the singlemom title, it's what you do with
it, right.
So this podcast is designed toencourage and motivate you.

(00:48):
Single mom, being a singleparent it's not easy.
It's not easy, but you can doit.
You can do it, I'm confident.
How do I know?
Because I'm a single mom.
Every challenge that prettymuch all of them that you're
facing, I faced and got throughit, and so I want you to be

(01:10):
encouraged today and put a smileon your face.
You know you're going to have atough day every now and then,
probably more often than not,but this is not the time to
wallow in it, if that's anappropriate word.
Get up, get moving.
It's okay to feel sad and feeloverwhelmed some days, but don't

(01:33):
stay there.
Don't stay there, mom, you havea lot of work to do.
You have a lot to show yourchild or your children, and so
you can't stay in that and, forlack of a better term, have that
pity party.
It should be temporary, allright.
So I've set my spiel and I wantto continue down the road of

(01:57):
selecting words from the letterI.
Today's word is impression.
You know, impression is whattype of mark are you leaving on
your children?
What are they seeing, right?
What type of impression are youmaking on them?
You know, in the real world wetalk about first impressions are

(02:21):
lasting impressions, right?
How people meet you, they sizeyou up in the first seven
seconds.
Did you know that?
But with children it'sdifferent, because this is
long-term.
You know, once upon a time Icared about what people thought
of me.
I really did, but they didn'tsow into my life or weren't a

(02:42):
real value in my life.
But for some reason I caredabout what they thought.
Just the natural response,right, because that's what we're
made of as far as our DNA.
Here's the good news it doesn'tmatter what people think of you
, because you'll probably neverencounter them again.
It's a once in a lifetime thing.

(03:04):
But your child or your children, it is important what they
think of you.
You know why?
Because they're going to mimica lot of your behaviors.
That's right.
You get angry easily.
Guess what?
You're probably encouraging orteaching them about anger and

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not being able to manage that,and that's an issue.
You have to be careful aboutwhat impression you're leaving
on your children, because atsome point you are going to have
to release them into the world.
They are going to carry some ofthose same behaviors they saw

(03:47):
you do as you were raising them.
How do I know?
I see things or hear my kidssay stuff that I'm like, wow, I
didn't mean for them to hearthat.
I didn't mean to display thatbehavior in front of them, mean

(04:08):
to display that behavior infront of them, but it happened.
So how do you correct that?
And you have to correct it.
You should be allowing yourchildren to see more positive
behaviors than negative, becauseyou're never going to totally
suppress negative behavior.
Your negative behavior shouldnot be forefront of your
interactions.
You should be able to create anice balance of what your

(04:32):
children see, and most of itshould be positive.
Now, when you have that urge toshare your real thoughts or
display negative behavior, tryto do it in private and not in
front of the kids.
Okay, they will pick up on thatand they'll carry it.
It is almost like you carryinga cold and you know you sneeze

(04:57):
and the next thing you know yourchild is sneezing because they
caught the cold.
Because, unfortunately, that'show these bad behaviors occur,
as well as positive.
As well as positive becausethey are like sponges, they pick
up everything.
But when we talk about theimpression that you leave on

(05:26):
your children, I encourage youto just display positive
behaviors, because there are somany influencers out there today
where they can pick up otherbad things.
It's up to you, mom, to leavethat positive impression.
Now here's my own slogan andyou can use it.
You're welcome to use it A huga day keeps the bad influencing

(05:47):
away.
A hug a day keeps the badinfluencing away.
Again, moms, if you're tryingto change your behaviors which I
strongly encourage you to doand if you're struggling with
that again, just try to channelthat bad behavior outside of the
kids, that they're not allowedto see that, because it's only
going to benefit you in the end.

(06:08):
It really is.
I get it.
Life is something else.
It is something else and youhave to learn how to deal with
it, and we're not really taughtat least I wasn't how to deal
with life and the negativethings that you have to contend
with on a daily basis, andnobody teaches us that.

(06:31):
But we are taught.
When someone gives us something, to say thank you, right.
When we cross in front ofsomeone, or so forth, we say
excuse me or I'm sorry, thattype of thing.
But nobody teaches about theother pieces of life that we
have to deal with.

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If you're like me, you learnthrough what you see, and your
kids are like that as well.
They're watching you and howyou react, and if you don't go
back and educate them, if it'sbad behavior that they're seeing
, then they're going to continueto go down that path in life.
We have to have more of the 90%of them seeing positive things

(07:17):
that we do than 10% negative,because you're mad all the time
or got an attitude all the timeand that's not okay.
That's not okay and you got tolearn how to deal with that.
So again, moms, what type ofimpression are you leaving on
your children?
What do you want them to takewith them as they enter into the

(07:42):
world, and how to combat thatnegative behavior that they're
going to experience from othersout in the world?
So just think about thatbecause, remember, this podcast
is about critical thinking andthat's something you have to
take and keep in mind.
As a mom, we're more than justnurturers.

(08:03):
We're mentors, we're educators.
We want our children to do well.
We have an opportunity to turnthings around and be a positive
role model for our kids.
It's not going to be easy, buthere's the good news you can do
this.
You can do this.

(08:25):
I promise you.
You can do this.
Single mom, if you enjoyedtoday's episode about
impressions, tell another singlemom and also visit my website,
single Moms United Podcast.
Let me know.
I would love to hear from you.
There's also a survey out there.

(08:47):
I would love to hear that, hey,yeah, this went well, or yeah,
it really didn't do anything forme.
And if it did not, I'd love toknow why.
Because, again, this podcast isdesigned to motivate and
encourage you.
Single mom, all right, Again,happy new year.

(09:08):
I will continue to extractwords from the letter I and if
you have a word choice you wouldlike for me to elaborate on,
let me know.
Again, go to my website andleave me some comments, or go to
my YouTube page and leave somecomments.
Have a great day, ladies, takecare.