February 19, 2024 • 31 mins
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I talk about my Valentine’s Day, apologize to Mo’Nique on my assumption about her Netflix deal, and I remind people to stop oversharing. It gets you in trouble yay. But it’s also never deletes boo.
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M-O-W-M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-W-E , that's my name, mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
Mama Q, say it faster or slow,don't really matter, though the
U-E gets a minute.
Tongue tizzy yo, hey, kindadizzy bro.
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Who is she?
Mama Q?
Mama gave birth little waste,no girth, 60 years ago.
No, I don't want.
Mo Q is a line and I tried toalign this double end.
Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy modules.
Mama Q, I'm the first one inand the first one out.
Memphis Tend to Key is mywhereabouts.
Duncan Plain Mayn, saying stickit to one topic.
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I reply your mind is verymyopic with Mama Q.
You need better optist pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
Uh, definitely.
No need to whisper gracefully.
I like a better off key.
Now let's see.
Do you remember me?
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name, Mama Q.
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Hey, hi, it's me, mama Q.
I welcome you to Mamas and Q.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
ASMR episode.
In this episode, I willtitillate your ear with my voice
and random sounds and Q.
Today, 60 seconds of giving.
What's going on?
It's giving.
Let's get it popping and croakon the joke.
Huh, what's going on?
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In this segment?
I'll tell you what's going onin my life since last episode.
All right, we had Valentine'sDay, woop, woop.
Now my booling love of mymotherfucking life.
This is going to be the lasttime I let him get away with
this.
So we said that we weren'tgoing to exchange gifts.
Well, I had requested for usnot to because, as I've always
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said before, he does so much forme that I really don't want to
ask for anything additional.
Again, there's nothing wrongwith people who are like that,
but I don't want to because,again, I get, I feel like I
receive, love all the time orwhatever.
And so I had taken him and meand me out of the Friday before
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Valentine's Day and I paid forit after kind of some heart.
So we were like, okay, that'sValentine's Day.
What did he do?
He came through with some rosesand some chocolate.
Well, no, no, no, there was.
It was flowers, because it didhave roses, but it wasn't all
the way roses, okay.
So he gave me that forValentine's Day and I'm just
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like I was appreciative.
I was appreciative of it.
I'm pretty sure I shared thisbefore Christmas.
We said again because at thetime my money wasn't looking
right, so we weren't going toexchange, because I always feel
bad, like if I can't get him agift and stuff, and so like he
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was like, okay, and he gave me aMichael Kors purse and we're so
petty with it.
So, okay, I've realized thathe's still going to take care of
me, no matter what I say, andI'm not offended or mad and
stuff.
And I was like, dang, can I dosomething for you?
He was like, well, you alreadytook me and made me to a
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restaurant and I was like, yeah,but like something for you?
He was like, no, I'm good, andso I just never know what I
could do for him aside fromsaying thank you of all the
things that he's done for me.
It's so greatly appreciated andstuff.
So that was that and many mecame through with a promise ring
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and oh my gosh, I'm not ready.
I know that she's getting older, but I had so many questions
and I was trying to ensure thatmy trauma wasn't showing because
I was asking all thesequestions about the relationship
and what does this ring meansand everything like that.
Thank you very much.
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There are some people out therein the world obviously I don't
think this particular guy islike this, who like if they
spend money, time and effort onyou, they get upset.
If the feeling is notReciprocated or if you change
your mind and you can getviolent and stuff like that.
And so that I know, is comingfrom my trauma and I didn't want
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to project my trauma to her.
So the best way that I feellike I could do that was by me
asking her all these questionslike what does this mean to you?
And Stuff like that, and whatis his expectations about it?
You know, do you want to be hisgirlfriend?
Like all these things and stufflike that.
And I, and how, about a few dayslater we had to get some oil,
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cooking oil, to get the ring offbecause it couldn't fit.
And and I think it's so funny,because of the simple fact she
was kind of hesitant about Onthe ring itself and I guess,
like that was.
I say Spirit right, well knows,but I feel like dang, is that
spirit way of saying like yo getrid of the ring or whatever,
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I'm not for sure.
But again, if she like it, Ilove it and I'm okay with that.
Um, as always, speaking aboutthe ancestors and stuff, I did
give them some flowers becausefor holidays I try to show them
love too, and, um, they've beencoming through with me a lot and
Stuff is, so I just try to dosomething a little special, as
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much as I could, just to showthem that I'm appreciative of
them.
And let's see what else.
Um, oh, the new job that'sgoing well and stuff like that.
Oh yeah, it's going well.
Um, I Don't know for mypersonality, well, okay, so I
have a feeling that mypersonality always screams
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intimidation and stuff, and Ihate that, but it is what it is.
I can't control no one by myself, so that's kind of aggravated
because I feel like myco-workers don't really want to
have shit to do with me, whichon one end, is great, but on the
other end it's like dang, likewe're supposed to be a team and
work together and stuff likethat.
So I kind of don't like that.
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But, um, I'm slowly trying tocome out of my shell or trying
to have them come out of.
Well, no, have me come out myshell a little bit, but not a
whole lot, because, at the endof the day, yes, we're a team,
but we're still got workers andstuff.
So that's that.
Oh, and I also have beenlistening to the little like um,
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let me see what's the downloadsthat spirit is giving me.
It's been going well and I'vebeen meditating more.
Um, I try to meditate for alittle bit, consist Consistently
, I'm trying, I'm getting there,work in progress, but, like
before I became a workday, Ijust meditate for a little bit
and just go on with it.
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And, lastly, I'm driving withmany me.
Oh, my gosh, we're surviving,we're surviving.
But she needs more practice andso I think what I'm gonna do is
have, like the other familymembers, try to help her,
because I don't know if she'squote-unquote, not listening, or
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it's getting emotional, whichemotions are fine.
But, like you know, is thisreaction because I'm her mom or
is it because, like, she justdoesn't want to listen to me, or
is she always nervous, like isshe anxious by the wheel?
So we're trying to figure thatpart out.
But, yeah, aside from that,life has been going great and
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stuff it's giving.
I'm giving you the encouragementto make through the week.
Let's tackle eating thatelephant together, one bite at a
time.
Yo, oh my gosh, so much.
I want to give someoneencouragement over, and this
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might sound like a repeat, butclearly Some people might need
it here again.
So I'm giving you theencouragement to keep your
opinions and need to overshareto yourself.
Then I want you to keepspeaking your truth.
Everyone got a platform and amic in their mouth, and I know
how this is sounding coming fromme, but my audience and content
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is niche as hell and I like it.
Others, though, oh my fuckinggoodness, I know I ain't their
target audience, but it's, it'sfine below it.
Not everything needs to beshared because it's on the
internet forever, and I'm sure Imentioned it before, but again,
it gotta be a friendly reminder.
So I know that it might soundlike it doesn't make any sense,
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like I'm contradictingcontradicting myself by saying
keep your opinions to yourself,but speak your truth.
So, um, I'm not gonna go toomuch into Monique the comedian,
because I'm gonna talk aboutthis in the pop culture episode,
but what I mean with speakingtruth is again like what she did
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with her Saying about how muchmoney that netflix offered her
and how she felt like she wasmore, she was worth more than
that.
That's speaking her truth.
Now, other things that I thinkthat, yes, speak your truth, but
also don't Overshare and keepyour opinions to yourself.
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This is not monique, this islike more so I guess other
people in the world likeOpinions, that Opinions that
like make you be viewed acertain way and if you're saying
these opinions, just they haveclickbait, or to have a reaction
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like I'm gonna keep it toyourself or whatever Like, and
we know that opinions cannot beproved.
So it's okay to have youropinions, but Sometimes, if
they're cringe worthy, just keepit to yourself.
Like, for example, earliertoday, a classmate and my job,
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yeah, co-worker why I'm sayingoh yeah, cuz we sometimes
training classes anywayco-worker of mine Was saying
something I didn't get you allof it, but it says something
along the the ends of yeah, yougotta do that neutral cock
clothing shit.
And so of course, alreadypeeped that he seems like a very
conservative type of person andstuff, and like for me it
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didn't offend me, but for me tohear him say something like that
, yeah, that was him speakinghis truth, but you just don't
know who's around, who you couldoffend.
So by saying the neutral cockcloth and shit like that sounds
disrespectful because I thinkthat he's gonna see what's the
gender of his child.
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And so again I'm there, bitsand pieces of the conversation
and Knowing his personality,this lines up.
Now it's not like I Miss context, know, I exactly knew what he
meant because, again, somepeople don't like to learn and
they don't want to know nothings.
So having gender neutralclothing colors, you know, some
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people might be a bald edit of apronouncing, but that's tough
together.
But like, if you don't know thesex of your child and when you
do get your all, wow, yep, theword escapes ultrasound, yeah,
when you get your ultrasound,the person who's doing the
ultrasound can never say it's100% this or that type of baby
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that you're carrying.
So like, for my mean to me Ithink that was like 60% it's a
girl or whatever, like that.
And you know, humans makemistakes.
So if the couple doesn't wantto know the sex of the baby, the
gender, what, not of the baby,obviously what people will do?
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They will give them genderneutral clothing colors.
So therefore they don't do thewrong colors or whatever.
And so I say that to say that,again, that's his opinion.
But certain things doesn't needto be said and everything
doesn't need to be said outwardand so.
But at the same time, whenpeople do show their true colors
about saying stupid shit, Ilike it, but it's like come on
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now another example peoplearen't using with these red pill
talks about who needs to besubmissive, feminine energy,
masculine energy and all thisother stuff, and it's like it's
so boring.
It's to me, it's likeanti-black and it's like
counterintuitive,counterproductive, I'm sorry,
counterproductive about it,cause, like, what is it really?
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What is this really gonna help?
It's not gonna do anything.
And it's like to me, if that'sthe type of relationship you
want, fine, but like, you knowhow certain conversations can
make people want to haveinteractions, and do we really
need that type of energy goingon?
I think not.
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So it's like yeah and so, like,stop doing that.
And then over sharing, oh mygosh.
Like and I'll talk about thisother part as well with the
bubble culture but like oversharing as far as like telling
people, like I remember someyears ago somebody had posted a
picture of their baby doing ablowout.
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Like why, why are you sharingit on my timeline?
I don't need to see that.
I think they deleted it later.
And then I remember that therewas this couple where she was in
a bikini and so I guess hersignificant other had took a
picture I'm pretty sure it wasconsensual and he ended up
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posting it and it was like, yeah, you know, my woman looks good,
blah, blah, blah, blah.
And I noticed that later on inthe day that he had deleted that
and so, like to me, those wereboth examples of over sharing,
because it's like, okay, youdon't know how your significant
other felt looking in thatbikini, and they might, and your
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significant other she mighthave felt like yo, you're
showing a little bit too much,or whatever.
And so I think it's like one ofthose things that, yay, again,
you know, you are proud ofyourself.
Probably your significant otheryou wanna share stuff that
might make somebody laugh orwhatever for the memories.
But yeah, and my boo thing, heget told me because I always
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like to take pictures of thethings that we do, cause I was
like, well, you know, if mymemory gets bad, I wanna be able
to remember this quote, unquoteand stuff.
And now I'm starting tounderstand that with him he
thinks that I overshare too muchor whatever.
So of course I'm not gonnaalways get it right and my
response to him was like it'snot over sharing at least I'm
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not tagging you in the picturesand stuff like that.
So I might decide to like stepaway with like documenting us
having so much time and fun witheach other, or whatever Cause.
You know it's not all about me.
But I feel like, in conclusion,that there is a balance between
everything.
You know what I'm saying, so Idon't know what that balance is,
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and sometimes you might notalways get it right.
You might have to delete orapologize, but just be mindful
of the things that you say andyou do and who's around you,
because you never know who'slistening, who you might have
been.
Let's get it popping.
I blow out the bubblessurrounding pop culture and talk
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about it.
I finally saw club Shay Shayand Monique the comedian.
Look, I hate admitting when I'mwrong or changing my view about
things, but that's the part ofevolution.
Okay, I gotta say it.
I apologize for being on thattrain so many years ago,
thinking that Monique wasn'tworth more than a milli, a milli
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, a milli that Netflix initiallyoffered her Stupidly.
I felt like she should beappreciative for money that they
offered because she wasn'trelevant.
At the time, I did not thinkshe was low-balled due to her
race or her gender.
I since then, have changed mymind.
White people will get mad moneyfor acting black or invited to
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the cookout for being the bareminimum of a human.
Now, other things Monique saidI don't agree with, which is
fine, which let me put a pin init, okay.
So, like my book Think and I, asI told you before, we have been
looking at Marvel in itsentirety timeline, yeah,
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timeline.
So we had to go back to gothrough the defenders and, oh my
goodness, the character.
What is her name?
Karen, that was on theDaredevil, oh my gosh, that
right there to me is the epitomeof white privilege and also the
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bare minimum effort.
Like the jig was working for aspoiler alert.
But Daredevil met her as she wasworking at this job.
Oh my gosh, okay, she wasworking at this job and stuff,
and so, like, they helped herwith her case and so she didn't
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have any money to pay her back.
So she ended up being Daredeviland his assistant Foggy being
their secretary, right, okay?
So then she moved on from beinga secretary to be a writer at
the local newspaper withinHell's Kitchen.
Like what the fuck?
So, okay, fine, wait, wait.
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But here's the crazy part aboutit as the secretary someway
somehow now I don't know toomuch about legal stuff, I don't
even know if she was considereda paralegal but like she was
able to sit at the table withFoggy and the Daredevil, like if
that right there, like ifpeople say oh, you know, white
privilege does not exist,bullshit.
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Yes, I get it.
That's just a show and it'sfictional.
But sometimes fiction goes withreality.
And so my boo thing and I werelooking at this was like how the
fuck she went from a secretaryat the place and being able to
sit at the table in the courtnext to the two attorneys and
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then went from there to beingable to write a story, and now
that's her job.
She's a reporter for the localnews I mean newspapers like are
you fucking kidding me?
So that's the shit I mean.
Anyway, back to Monique.
Now there are other things thatMonique said that I don't agree
with, which is fine.
I ain't gotta agree with everytake.
Humans are multi-dimensional,we're full of laws and sometimes
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we need to evolve.
I want to say all the time, butI'll put the sometimes in there
.
But to me, the money portion,yeah, everything is part of the
isms.
Isms mean racism, genderism,feminism, like all that.
Well, obviously not thefeminism part, but you know what
I mean Sexism.
There we go, okay.
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So, speaking more about Monique, I think her marriage reminds
me of Asian play, bdsm,regardless if they say the verb
is you're not.
That's the file that I'mgetting for them From that
relationship.
I disagree with her view aboutbunnets because my thing is
Massa is not here anymore so Ican look how I want to look, and
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there has been photo proof thatwhite people used to walk
around with rollers in theirhead and scarves around their
head.
I'm pretty sure I mentionedthis before.
So it's like now we supposed tolook presentable and you don't
know what I'm going through.
So maybe this is presentableenough for me and from a
spiritual point of view, some ofus need to cover our hair.
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Now, what I wear upon it?
Probably not, but I do wear ahair coverance and stuff.
So to me, what's the difference?
And I wear a bunnet when I goto bed and everything, but it's
like, as long as it's for me,and me only as long as I'm
street legal and what I'mwearing with the fuck and I'm
not here to impress anybody.
Which sidebar?
Oh my gosh.
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This past weekend I went out tothe park by myself, I didn't
have to ask my booth to buyanything for me and I was so
happy.
I don't think I was matchingwith my outfit either, but I
just got off at work and I wasso happy to enjoy happy hour and
to like, eat and like.
Last week I forgot to put thison my what's going on, but here
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we are about.
It was a lot of self care.
Last week I got my manicure,pedicure, got my hair done and I
was able, like I said, to eatand stuff and I did not have to
worry about if I was going totry to highlight me or not and
everything.
And, oh my gosh, it makes mefeel so great because I already
got somebody and I'm socomfortable with myself that I
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don't give a fuck, like I don'thave to be everybody's cup of
tea and stuff.
So it's like to me with Moniqueif she's one of those type of
people who want to be, who wantto have a lasting impression on
strangers, so be it.
And I guess from a celebratorypoint of view it makes sense
because you know again, anythinganybody put on the internet is
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there forever, but me I'm likeman, fuck that shit.
So that right there I don'tagree with at all and stuff.
So, um, oh yeah, and her, her,her, saying that her husband
told her how to be a woman andon her place in the marriage.
I disagree with that too,because I hardly believe in a
partnership and I feel like ifmen say that women can raise men
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to be men, then damn it.
Men can raise women or tellwomen how to be a woman and
stuff.
And I don't think that there isanything that my boo thing can
teach me about being a woman atall.
We don't have the same things.
So it's not like I can tell himhow to, and I know it's more
than just sex organs.
But the point of what I'mtrying to say is that we are not
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the same.
We're not the same underneathour clothes.
So, like that part, now you cansuggest hey, you know, boo thing
, I would like for you to wearthis, this, and that I don't
mean that that makes me more orless of a woman, and stuff like
that, because I don't know forme when I think about saying
about how to be a woman, itmakes me think of sexual stuff,
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and I'm not trying to sexualizeit, but I'm so used to like
people sexualizing the parts ofa woman, you know.
And on top of that I'm so usedto hearing men talk about what a
real woman is and stuff likethat, and of course it sounds so
transphobic and I'm not gonnarepeat that stuff, but like even
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saying about like how they usedand the outfits and everything
should look, and it's just not.
No, that's just not working forme.
I don't mind people havesuggestions and opinions, but
you gotta teach me.
And then, of course, the waythat my mind is thinking, it's
like teaching me for real, likeit's almost like Teaching a
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child, like I feel like you haveto teach a child, but you
shouldn't have to teach an adultcertain things.
You shouldn't have to teach awoman how to be a woman when
she's been a woman our entirelife, like what sisters that
make.
That's how I feel.
And my place I'm not married,obviously, but my place is
wherever the fuck I want myplace to be like.
If I want to sit At the head ofthe motherfucking table, I will
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, and if I want my boot theyneed to sit at the end of the
table.
You know, like I don't know,just to me little itty-bitty
things like that Just don't sitwith me.
But if she like it, I love it.
The part about her son I sawbits and pieces about on TikTok
and it got to be too much for me, like I felt like I did not
need to be Brevy to the back andforth of the things they were
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saying.
Like I'm nosy to a point y'all,but sometimes those things get
a little bit cringy.
Now, speaking of children, theesthetician she's from Memphis,
no less.
Allegedly, even though therewere pictures, allegedly.
There's a picture of herseven-year-old daughter
performing a Brazilian wax on anadult and according to the mom,
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she said their child performedthe Brazilian wax on about what?
24 women from 7 am To like 3 pm.
Ish and the daughter allegedlymade a little bit over seven
hundred dollars from it.
Now, look, I get it.
Now, listen to this part verycarefully because I'm not
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agreeing with none of this, butlook, I get it.
Your spouse and or yourchildren can work for you under
your LLC.
We know that.
That's a fact.
However, however, however, andhowever However your dependents,
which is your spouse and oryour children.
They have to be of age to dothis task and, according to
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Tennessee law, to be anesthetician you gotta be a
minimum of 60 years old.
This child was seven, accordingto the mom, and you know that
you have to follow a by by childlabor laws.
So like, come on now, there'sno fucking way that the mama
thought this was cute.
There's no fucking way thatthese women thought that was
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cute to consistently show theirbody to a child.
I don't give a fuck that theywere women and the child is a
girl.
To me it's nasty, very nastyand it's illegal.
And this goes back to what Isaid Everything does not need to
be shared.
But hey, because she was ableto share this and it got through
the proper authorities, youknow they were called and it was
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able to be taken down.
Unfortunately, again, becauseit's on the internet, is there
forever.
But at least, like, she sharedthe pictures, even though she
was wrong for sharing them, butthe authorities were called and
they took care of it.
So that way, her and the otherwomen involved well, hopefully,
the other women involved can getpersecuted or Whatever the flow
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for it is, but hopefully thiswill teach her and anybody else
like you don't do that shit.
You do not display yourself,don't children in that way at
all.
And you know I love to readcomments, as some of the
comments were like there'snothing wrong with that and I
hate this culture.
I play in capitalism but I hatewhich is another ism, but I
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hate this culture of gettingmoney by any means necessary To
survive.
I don't like that, like youknow from, as I've said before,
staying up late and not gettingyour sleep because you know
you're you're on sleep when youdie, like no, that also culture
is not cool.
And now it's kind of to thepoint like, oh, you know, let
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that little girl make that money, what you know.
That is not how that works.
And I just sometimes I try tosee the thought process behind
people with the things that theysay, and I can't see it for
this, like, the only assumptionthat I can make is that this
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Mother had to think that thiswas okay, because this is our
LLC and this is her child, but Idon't understand how she
thought it was okay to show now,granted, there was no pictures
that from what I saw, thankgoodness but there was no
pictures showing, but theimplication was there and that's
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disgusting and nasty and I'massuming that the child back was
turned again.
I'm not for sure and it's notlike I was out looking for the
pictures, the pictures beforethe prosecution.
The stuff has said a stopsharing these pictures, but they
came across my feet andeverything like that.
And, oh my gosh, like the partthat bothers me is that the
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people who decided to report onthis other people like y'all
didn't even like Cut the pictureout or just like not post the
picture period.
Like we do not need to see thiswoman leg up in the back of the
child.
Like, again, I'm not for sureif the child face ever was shown
, but like we do not need to seethe legs being cocked up to
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imply what is going on.
Like that was just too much.
It was just too much.
It was just too much.
So again, this is where I goback to saying like you all were
shared, that was nasty, thatwas disgusting, that was illegal
and, yeah, you did too muchCroak on the joke.
(30:17):
That's where I give you mybusiness jokes and we laugh
together.
Or nah, today's joke.
Did you hear about the pregnantbedbug?
She'll be having a baby in thespring?
Well, guess that's my cuteleave.
M-O-W-M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-W-E , that's my name, mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
Mama Q, say it faster or slow,don't really matter, though the
U-E gets a minute.
Tongue tizzy yo, hey, kindadizzy bro.
(00:25):
Who is she?
Mama Q?
Mama gave birth little waste,no girth, 60 years ago.
No, I don't want.
Mo Q is a line and I tried toalign this double end.
Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy modules.
Mama Q, I'm the first one inand the first one out.
Memphis Tend to Key is mywhereabouts.
Duncan Plain Mayn, saying stickit to one topic.
(00:47):
I reply your mind is verymyopic with Mama Q.
You need better optist pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
Uh, definitely.
No need to whisper gracefully.
I like a better off key.
Now let's see.
Do you remember me?
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name, Mama Q.
(01:09):
Hey, hi, it's me, mama Q.
I welcome you to Mamas and Q.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
ASMR episode.
In this episode, I willtitillate your ear with my voice
and random sounds and Q.
Today, 60 seconds of giving.
What's going on?
It's giving.
Let's get it popping and croakon the joke.
Huh, what's going on?
(02:52):
In this segment?
I'll tell you what's going onin my life since last episode.
All right, we had Valentine'sDay, woop, woop.
Now my booling love of mymotherfucking life.
This is going to be the lasttime I let him get away with
this.
So we said that we weren'tgoing to exchange gifts.
Well, I had requested for usnot to because, as I've always
(03:16):
said before, he does so much forme that I really don't want to
ask for anything additional.
Again, there's nothing wrongwith people who are like that,
but I don't want to because,again, I get, I feel like I
receive, love all the time orwhatever.
And so I had taken him and meand me out of the Friday before
(03:38):
Valentine's Day and I paid forit after kind of some heart.
So we were like, okay, that'sValentine's Day.
What did he do?
He came through with some rosesand some chocolate.
Well, no, no, no, there was.
It was flowers, because it didhave roses, but it wasn't all
the way roses, okay.
So he gave me that forValentine's Day and I'm just
(04:01):
like I was appreciative.
I was appreciative of it.
I'm pretty sure I shared thisbefore Christmas.
We said again because at thetime my money wasn't looking
right, so we weren't going toexchange, because I always feel
bad, like if I can't get him agift and stuff, and so like he
(04:22):
was like, okay, and he gave me aMichael Kors purse and we're so
petty with it.
So, okay, I've realized thathe's still going to take care of
me, no matter what I say, andI'm not offended or mad and
stuff.
And I was like, dang, can I dosomething for you?
He was like, well, you alreadytook me and made me to a
(04:42):
restaurant and I was like, yeah,but like something for you?
He was like, no, I'm good, andso I just never know what I
could do for him aside fromsaying thank you of all the
things that he's done for me.
It's so greatly appreciated andstuff.
So that was that and many mecame through with a promise ring
(05:04):
and oh my gosh, I'm not ready.
I know that she's getting older, but I had so many questions
and I was trying to ensure thatmy trauma wasn't showing because
I was asking all thesequestions about the relationship
and what does this ring meansand everything like that.
Thank you very much.
(05:25):
There are some people out therein the world obviously I don't
think this particular guy islike this, who like if they
spend money, time and effort onyou, they get upset.
If the feeling is notReciprocated or if you change
your mind and you can getviolent and stuff like that.
And so that I know, is comingfrom my trauma and I didn't want
(05:48):
to project my trauma to her.
So the best way that I feellike I could do that was by me
asking her all these questionslike what does this mean to you?
And Stuff like that, and whatis his expectations about it?
You know, do you want to be hisgirlfriend?
Like all these things and stufflike that.
And I, and how, about a few dayslater we had to get some oil,
(06:11):
cooking oil, to get the ring offbecause it couldn't fit.
And and I think it's so funny,because of the simple fact she
was kind of hesitant about Onthe ring itself and I guess,
like that was.
I say Spirit right, well knows,but I feel like dang, is that
spirit way of saying like yo getrid of the ring or whatever,
(06:33):
I'm not for sure.
But again, if she like it, Ilove it and I'm okay with that.
Um, as always, speaking aboutthe ancestors and stuff, I did
give them some flowers becausefor holidays I try to show them
love too, and, um, they've beencoming through with me a lot and
Stuff is, so I just try to dosomething a little special, as
(06:54):
much as I could, just to showthem that I'm appreciative of
them.
And let's see what else.
Um, oh, the new job that'sgoing well and stuff like that.
Oh yeah, it's going well.
Um, I Don't know for mypersonality, well, okay, so I
have a feeling that mypersonality always screams
(07:16):
intimidation and stuff, and Ihate that, but it is what it is.
I can't control no one by myself, so that's kind of aggravated
because I feel like myco-workers don't really want to
have shit to do with me, whichon one end, is great, but on the
other end it's like dang, likewe're supposed to be a team and
work together and stuff likethat.
So I kind of don't like that.
(07:37):
But, um, I'm slowly trying tocome out of my shell or trying
to have them come out of.
Well, no, have me come out myshell a little bit, but not a
whole lot, because, at the endof the day, yes, we're a team,
but we're still got workers andstuff.
So that's that.
Oh, and I also have beenlistening to the little like um,
(07:59):
let me see what's the downloadsthat spirit is giving me.
It's been going well and I'vebeen meditating more.
Um, I try to meditate for alittle bit, consist Consistently
, I'm trying, I'm getting there,work in progress, but, like
before I became a workday, Ijust meditate for a little bit
and just go on with it.
(08:20):
And, lastly, I'm driving withmany me.
Oh, my gosh, we're surviving,we're surviving.
But she needs more practice andso I think what I'm gonna do is
have, like the other familymembers, try to help her,
because I don't know if she'squote-unquote, not listening, or
(08:41):
it's getting emotional, whichemotions are fine.
But, like you know, is thisreaction because I'm her mom or
is it because, like, she justdoesn't want to listen to me, or
is she always nervous, like isshe anxious by the wheel?
So we're trying to figure thatpart out.
But, yeah, aside from that,life has been going great and
(09:02):
stuff it's giving.
I'm giving you the encouragementto make through the week.
Let's tackle eating thatelephant together, one bite at a
time.
Yo, oh my gosh, so much.
I want to give someoneencouragement over, and this
(09:24):
might sound like a repeat, butclearly Some people might need
it here again.
So I'm giving you theencouragement to keep your
opinions and need to overshareto yourself.
Then I want you to keepspeaking your truth.
Everyone got a platform and amic in their mouth, and I know
how this is sounding coming fromme, but my audience and content
(09:46):
is niche as hell and I like it.
Others, though, oh my fuckinggoodness, I know I ain't their
target audience, but it's, it'sfine below it.
Not everything needs to beshared because it's on the
internet forever, and I'm sure Imentioned it before, but again,
it gotta be a friendly reminder.
So I know that it might soundlike it doesn't make any sense,
(10:09):
like I'm contradictingcontradicting myself by saying
keep your opinions to yourself,but speak your truth.
So, um, I'm not gonna go toomuch into Monique the comedian,
because I'm gonna talk aboutthis in the pop culture episode,
but what I mean with speakingtruth is again like what she did
(10:32):
with her Saying about how muchmoney that netflix offered her
and how she felt like she wasmore, she was worth more than
that.
That's speaking her truth.
Now, other things that I thinkthat, yes, speak your truth, but
also don't Overshare and keepyour opinions to yourself.
(10:52):
This is not monique, this islike more so I guess other
people in the world likeOpinions, that Opinions that
like make you be viewed acertain way and if you're saying
these opinions, just they haveclickbait, or to have a reaction
(11:12):
like I'm gonna keep it toyourself or whatever Like, and
we know that opinions cannot beproved.
So it's okay to have youropinions, but Sometimes, if
they're cringe worthy, just keepit to yourself.
Like, for example, earliertoday, a classmate and my job,
(11:34):
yeah, co-worker why I'm sayingoh yeah, cuz we sometimes
training classes anywayco-worker of mine Was saying
something I didn't get you allof it, but it says something
along the the ends of yeah, yougotta do that neutral cock
clothing shit.
And so of course, alreadypeeped that he seems like a very
conservative type of person andstuff, and like for me it
(11:59):
didn't offend me, but for me tohear him say something like that
, yeah, that was him speakinghis truth, but you just don't
know who's around, who you couldoffend.
So by saying the neutral cockcloth and shit like that sounds
disrespectful because I thinkthat he's gonna see what's the
gender of his child.
(12:20):
And so again I'm there, bitsand pieces of the conversation
and Knowing his personality,this lines up.
Now it's not like I Miss context, know, I exactly knew what he
meant because, again, somepeople don't like to learn and
they don't want to know nothings.
So having gender neutralclothing colors, you know, some
(12:42):
people might be a bald edit of apronouncing, but that's tough
together.
But like, if you don't know thesex of your child and when you
do get your all, wow, yep, theword escapes ultrasound, yeah,
when you get your ultrasound,the person who's doing the
ultrasound can never say it's100% this or that type of baby
(13:02):
that you're carrying.
So like, for my mean to me Ithink that was like 60% it's a
girl or whatever, like that.
And you know, humans makemistakes.
So if the couple doesn't wantto know the sex of the baby, the
gender, what, not of the baby,obviously what people will do?
(13:23):
They will give them genderneutral clothing colors.
So therefore they don't do thewrong colors or whatever.
And so I say that to say that,again, that's his opinion.
But certain things doesn't needto be said and everything
doesn't need to be said outwardand so.
But at the same time, whenpeople do show their true colors
about saying stupid shit, Ilike it, but it's like come on
(13:45):
now another example peoplearen't using with these red pill
talks about who needs to besubmissive, feminine energy,
masculine energy and all thisother stuff, and it's like it's
so boring.
It's to me, it's likeanti-black and it's like
counterintuitive,counterproductive, I'm sorry,
counterproductive about it,cause, like, what is it really?
(14:08):
What is this really gonna help?
It's not gonna do anything.
And it's like to me, if that'sthe type of relationship you
want, fine, but like, you knowhow certain conversations can
make people want to haveinteractions, and do we really
need that type of energy goingon?
I think not.
(14:29):
So it's like yeah and so, like,stop doing that.
And then over sharing, oh mygosh.
Like and I'll talk about thisother part as well with the
bubble culture but like oversharing as far as like telling
people, like I remember someyears ago somebody had posted a
picture of their baby doing ablowout.
(14:52):
Like why, why are you sharingit on my timeline?
I don't need to see that.
I think they deleted it later.
And then I remember that therewas this couple where she was in
a bikini and so I guess hersignificant other had took a
picture I'm pretty sure it wasconsensual and he ended up
(15:12):
posting it and it was like, yeah, you know, my woman looks good,
blah, blah, blah, blah.
And I noticed that later on inthe day that he had deleted that
and so, like to me, those wereboth examples of over sharing,
because it's like, okay, youdon't know how your significant
other felt looking in thatbikini, and they might, and your
(15:35):
significant other she mighthave felt like yo, you're
showing a little bit too much,or whatever.
And so I think it's like one ofthose things that, yay, again,
you know, you are proud ofyourself.
Probably your significant otheryou wanna share stuff that
might make somebody laugh orwhatever for the memories.
But yeah, and my boo thing, heget told me because I always
(15:56):
like to take pictures of thethings that we do, cause I was
like, well, you know, if mymemory gets bad, I wanna be able
to remember this quote, unquoteand stuff.
And now I'm starting tounderstand that with him he
thinks that I overshare too muchor whatever.
So of course I'm not gonnaalways get it right and my
response to him was like it'snot over sharing at least I'm
(16:19):
not tagging you in the picturesand stuff like that.
So I might decide to like stepaway with like documenting us
having so much time and fun witheach other, or whatever Cause.
You know it's not all about me.
But I feel like, in conclusion,that there is a balance between
everything.
You know what I'm saying, so Idon't know what that balance is,
(16:40):
and sometimes you might notalways get it right.
You might have to delete orapologize, but just be mindful
of the things that you say andyou do and who's around you,
because you never know who'slistening, who you might have
been.
Let's get it popping.
I blow out the bubblessurrounding pop culture and talk
(17:02):
about it.
I finally saw club Shay Shayand Monique the comedian.
Look, I hate admitting when I'mwrong or changing my view about
things, but that's the part ofevolution.
Okay, I gotta say it.
I apologize for being on thattrain so many years ago,
thinking that Monique wasn'tworth more than a milli, a milli
(17:24):
, a milli that Netflix initiallyoffered her Stupidly.
I felt like she should beappreciative for money that they
offered because she wasn'trelevant.
At the time, I did not thinkshe was low-balled due to her
race or her gender.
I since then, have changed mymind.
White people will get mad moneyfor acting black or invited to
(17:47):
the cookout for being the bareminimum of a human.
Now, other things Monique saidI don't agree with, which is
fine, which let me put a pin init, okay.
So, like my book Think and I, asI told you before, we have been
looking at Marvel in itsentirety timeline, yeah,
(18:11):
timeline.
So we had to go back to gothrough the defenders and, oh my
goodness, the character.
What is her name?
Karen, that was on theDaredevil, oh my gosh, that
right there to me is the epitomeof white privilege and also the
(18:32):
bare minimum effort.
Like the jig was working for aspoiler alert.
But Daredevil met her as she wasworking at this job.
Oh my gosh, okay, she wasworking at this job and stuff,
and so, like, they helped herwith her case and so she didn't
(18:54):
have any money to pay her back.
So she ended up being Daredeviland his assistant Foggy being
their secretary, right, okay?
So then she moved on from beinga secretary to be a writer at
the local newspaper withinHell's Kitchen.
Like what the fuck?
So, okay, fine, wait, wait.
(19:16):
But here's the crazy part aboutit as the secretary someway
somehow now I don't know toomuch about legal stuff, I don't
even know if she was considereda paralegal but like she was
able to sit at the table withFoggy and the Daredevil, like if
that right there, like ifpeople say oh, you know, white
privilege does not exist,bullshit.
(19:37):
Yes, I get it.
That's just a show and it'sfictional.
But sometimes fiction goes withreality.
And so my boo thing and I werelooking at this was like how the
fuck she went from a secretaryat the place and being able to
sit at the table in the courtnext to the two attorneys and
(19:58):
then went from there to beingable to write a story, and now
that's her job.
She's a reporter for the localnews I mean newspapers like are
you fucking kidding me?
So that's the shit I mean.
Anyway, back to Monique.
Now there are other things thatMonique said that I don't agree
with, which is fine.
I ain't gotta agree with everytake.
Humans are multi-dimensional,we're full of laws and sometimes
(20:23):
we need to evolve.
I want to say all the time, butI'll put the sometimes in there
.
But to me, the money portion,yeah, everything is part of the
isms.
Isms mean racism, genderism,feminism, like all that.
Well, obviously not thefeminism part, but you know what
I mean Sexism.
There we go, okay.
(20:43):
So, speaking more about Monique, I think her marriage reminds
me of Asian play, bdsm,regardless if they say the verb
is you're not.
That's the file that I'mgetting for them From that
relationship.
I disagree with her view aboutbunnets because my thing is
Massa is not here anymore so Ican look how I want to look, and
(21:03):
there has been photo proof thatwhite people used to walk
around with rollers in theirhead and scarves around their
head.
I'm pretty sure I mentionedthis before.
So it's like now we supposed tolook presentable and you don't
know what I'm going through.
So maybe this is presentableenough for me and from a
spiritual point of view, some ofus need to cover our hair.
(21:25):
Now, what I wear upon it?
Probably not, but I do wear ahair coverance and stuff.
So to me, what's the difference?
And I wear a bunnet when I goto bed and everything, but it's
like, as long as it's for me,and me only as long as I'm
street legal and what I'mwearing with the fuck and I'm
not here to impress anybody.
Which sidebar?
Oh my gosh.
(21:46):
This past weekend I went out tothe park by myself, I didn't
have to ask my booth to buyanything for me and I was so
happy.
I don't think I was matchingwith my outfit either, but I
just got off at work and I wasso happy to enjoy happy hour and
to like, eat and like.
Last week I forgot to put thison my what's going on, but here
(22:08):
we are about.
It was a lot of self care.
Last week I got my manicure,pedicure, got my hair done and I
was able, like I said, to eatand stuff and I did not have to
worry about if I was going totry to highlight me or not and
everything.
And, oh my gosh, it makes mefeel so great because I already
got somebody and I'm socomfortable with myself that I
(22:29):
don't give a fuck, like I don'thave to be everybody's cup of
tea and stuff.
So it's like to me with Moniqueif she's one of those type of
people who want to be, who wantto have a lasting impression on
strangers, so be it.
And I guess from a celebratorypoint of view it makes sense
because you know again, anythinganybody put on the internet is
(22:52):
there forever, but me I'm likeman, fuck that shit.
So that right there I don'tagree with at all and stuff.
So, um, oh yeah, and her, her,her, saying that her husband
told her how to be a woman andon her place in the marriage.
I disagree with that too,because I hardly believe in a
partnership and I feel like ifmen say that women can raise men
(23:18):
to be men, then damn it.
Men can raise women or tellwomen how to be a woman and
stuff.
And I don't think that there isanything that my boo thing can
teach me about being a woman atall.
We don't have the same things.
So it's not like I can tell himhow to, and I know it's more
than just sex organs.
But the point of what I'mtrying to say is that we are not
(23:40):
the same.
We're not the same underneathour clothes.
So, like that part, now you cansuggest hey, you know, boo thing
, I would like for you to wearthis, this, and that I don't
mean that that makes me more orless of a woman, and stuff like
that, because I don't know forme when I think about saying
about how to be a woman, itmakes me think of sexual stuff,
(24:02):
and I'm not trying to sexualizeit, but I'm so used to like
people sexualizing the parts ofa woman, you know.
And on top of that I'm so usedto hearing men talk about what a
real woman is and stuff likethat, and of course it sounds so
transphobic and I'm not gonnarepeat that stuff, but like even
(24:23):
saying about like how they usedand the outfits and everything
should look, and it's just not.
No, that's just not working forme.
I don't mind people havesuggestions and opinions, but
you gotta teach me.
And then, of course, the waythat my mind is thinking, it's
like teaching me for real, likeit's almost like Teaching a
(24:43):
child, like I feel like you haveto teach a child, but you
shouldn't have to teach an adultcertain things.
You shouldn't have to teach awoman how to be a woman when
she's been a woman our entirelife, like what sisters that
make.
That's how I feel.
And my place I'm not married,obviously, but my place is
wherever the fuck I want myplace to be like.
If I want to sit At the head ofthe motherfucking table, I will
(25:05):
, and if I want my boot theyneed to sit at the end of the
table.
You know, like I don't know,just to me little itty-bitty
things like that Just don't sitwith me.
But if she like it, I love it.
The part about her son I sawbits and pieces about on TikTok
and it got to be too much for me, like I felt like I did not
need to be Brevy to the back andforth of the things they were
(25:28):
saying.
Like I'm nosy to a point y'all,but sometimes those things get
a little bit cringy.
Now, speaking of children, theesthetician she's from Memphis,
no less.
Allegedly, even though therewere pictures, allegedly.
There's a picture of herseven-year-old daughter
performing a Brazilian wax on anadult and according to the mom,
(25:52):
she said their child performedthe Brazilian wax on about what?
24 women from 7 am To like 3 pm.
Ish and the daughter allegedlymade a little bit over seven
hundred dollars from it.
Now, look, I get it.
Now, listen to this part verycarefully because I'm not
(26:13):
agreeing with none of this, butlook, I get it.
Your spouse and or yourchildren can work for you under
your LLC.
We know that.
That's a fact.
However, however, however, andhowever However your dependents,
which is your spouse and oryour children.
They have to be of age to dothis task and, according to
(26:34):
Tennessee law, to be anesthetician you gotta be a
minimum of 60 years old.
This child was seven, accordingto the mom, and you know that
you have to follow a by by childlabor laws.
So like, come on now, there'sno fucking way that the mama
thought this was cute.
There's no fucking way thatthese women thought that was
(26:55):
cute to consistently show theirbody to a child.
I don't give a fuck that theywere women and the child is a
girl.
To me it's nasty, very nastyand it's illegal.
And this goes back to what Isaid Everything does not need to
be shared.
But hey, because she was ableto share this and it got through
the proper authorities, youknow they were called and it was
(27:17):
able to be taken down.
Unfortunately, again, becauseit's on the internet, is there
forever.
But at least, like, she sharedthe pictures, even though she
was wrong for sharing them, butthe authorities were called and
they took care of it.
So that way, her and the otherwomen involved well, hopefully,
the other women involved can getpersecuted or Whatever the flow
(27:42):
for it is, but hopefully thiswill teach her and anybody else
like you don't do that shit.
You do not display yourself,don't children in that way at
all.
And you know I love to readcomments, as some of the
comments were like there'snothing wrong with that and I
hate this culture.
I play in capitalism but I hatewhich is another ism, but I
(28:04):
hate this culture of gettingmoney by any means necessary To
survive.
I don't like that, like youknow from, as I've said before,
staying up late and not gettingyour sleep because you know
you're you're on sleep when youdie, like no, that also culture
is not cool.
And now it's kind of to thepoint like, oh, you know, let
(28:24):
that little girl make that money, what you know.
That is not how that works.
And I just sometimes I try tosee the thought process behind
people with the things that theysay, and I can't see it for
this, like, the only assumptionthat I can make is that this
(28:44):
Mother had to think that thiswas okay, because this is our
LLC and this is her child, but Idon't understand how she
thought it was okay to show now,granted, there was no pictures
that from what I saw, thankgoodness but there was no
pictures showing, but theimplication was there and that's
(29:07):
disgusting and nasty and I'massuming that the child back was
turned again.
I'm not for sure and it's notlike I was out looking for the
pictures, the pictures beforethe prosecution.
The stuff has said a stopsharing these pictures, but they
came across my feet andeverything like that.
And, oh my gosh, like the partthat bothers me is that the
(29:30):
people who decided to report onthis other people like y'all
didn't even like Cut the pictureout or just like not post the
picture period.
Like we do not need to see thiswoman leg up in the back of the
child.
Like, again, I'm not for sureif the child face ever was shown
, but like we do not need to seethe legs being cocked up to
(29:54):
imply what is going on.
Like that was just too much.
It was just too much.
It was just too much.
So again, this is where I goback to saying like you all were
shared, that was nasty, thatwas disgusting, that was illegal
and, yeah, you did too muchCroak on the joke.
(30:17):
That's where I give you mybusiness jokes and we laugh
together.
Or nah, today's joke.
Did you hear about the pregnantbedbug?
She'll be having a baby in thespring?
Well, guess that's my cuteleave.
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