March 7, 2024 • 50 mins
Every mom knows the juggling act of work-life balance is not easy, it's our daily reality. Our guest, Liane V Benjamin joined us to share her honest take on following your dreams, relationships and motherhood.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Her journey over the past decade
- How she worked hard to get to a life she visualized
- Her Christianity
- Her advice for those going through a breakup
- How to forgive in a relationship and start over
- Chasing her aspirations while keeping her identity intact
We opened up about the struggle to stay present for both family and career, and the incredible importance of fitting in that girl time—because let’s face it, we all need it. Leanne V shared her insights on setting boundaries and maintaining friendships amidst the chaos of motherhood. We navigated the complexities of wanting to be there for every little moment, while also chasing our own aspirations and keeping our identities intact.
Liane's journey through breakup and self-love offers a good look at the strength needed to keep one's personal values at the forefront.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
When you come to LA, you just have stars in your eyes
, Like I'm here.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Yeah, this is it.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
I'm going to make my dreams a reality.
This is what God is calling meto do.
You're just so excited and ithits you real quick.
Reality is not easy.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
There's so many people.
I gave everybody the same drink.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
What's up, what's up, hey Mom, what's?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
up.
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Welcome back to Moms.
Actually, my name is Morgan andI am Blair, and we have here
Leanne, leanne V, hello, thankyou so much for coming, so
excited to be here.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Yes, Introduce yourself really quick, bragging
yourself.
This is your moment.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
My name is Leanne V.
I'm from Northern California, Iam in social media, I do a lot
of beauty, fashion, fitness,lifestyle, family, everything.
She's running down the list.
She's running down the list.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Social media.
Yeah, so we are so excited tohave you.
Thank you so much for coming tosit on the couch with us.
You guys know the drill we'regoing to have some good, candid
conversation, so let's just jumpright into our game.
It's giving motherhood.
Are you ready?
Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
You're like what is it?
It's giving motherhood.
So you're asking about thepaddles Yep.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Like what's this, what is this?
Speaker 3 (01:12):
You're about to find out.
All right, here we go.
So this is our littleicebreaker game so we can get to
know each other a little bitmore.
So the gold side is going to beyour yes, or the first option.
The white side is going to beyour no, or?
Speaker 1 (01:29):
the second option.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Ok, yes, no, I'm like yes, no first, second, all
right, and then just ask if itgets confused.
But, the secret to this game isyour first answer is the right
answer.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Trust me.
Good, here we go.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Let's do this.
Do you believe in traditionalgender roles?
What?
Like I say yes, Leanne says yes.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Can you just explain it a little bit?
Like do you mean like the wifealways has to be the one cooking
?
I would say, like certain youknow, like domestic is more.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
I would say domestic is more like the female thing,
the outside stuff is maybe morethe male things.
Like I feel like if you wantedto stay home and not work like
that would be OK.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I'm like I want to be right here, so I'm going to be
right in the middle.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
I'm in the middle too , yeah, because there are
certain things that I'm like Ido and there are certain things
that he does.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
But I feel like I'm not touching the trash.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
So I would say yes.
The only reason I want to sayno is because.
So I'm saying yes because Iwould want him to be more
flexible on the female stuff,but I don't want to do any of
his stuff.
Right.
So it's like yes, I would wantyou to help with the dishes in
the laundry.
But no, I'm not mowing the lawnor taking out the trash oh,
none of that.
So I believe it should beflexible on our side, because we
have more stuff, ok, all right,but otherwise I believe in.
(02:52):
yeah, so that's why I believe in.
Ok, next question.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Wait.
I want to say why, yes, why Ifeel like from me, me and my
husband, or even with my child.
I feel like in the family andour household everyone is like
operates in their masculine andfeminine energy.
So it's hard, because sometimesI enjoy being outside and doing
hard work, and sometimes Dawndoes the dishes in laundry.
Like it's just, it depends onhow we feel and we kind of just
(03:15):
do the teamwork things OK.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
That's all makes the dream work.
I'm 100% there for sure.
Did you feel any pressure tosnap back?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Yes, I did Pressure, I didn't because no one's
looking at me.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yeah.
I'm not surprised by youranswer, but no one was checking
for me.
I didn't feel it because I wasso young.
So no one was like yeah, I hadmy baby.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Because you just snapped back right away.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
You didn't even have to think about it.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I was a fresh 20.
So I'm like mm.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
I will say I didn't know.
After you have a baby, youstill look pregnant, because on
TV that's not how it happens andsome women do look like they
just like are back to normalright away.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
So everyone's, different.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
So where was your pressure coming from?
Speaker 1 (03:57):
You know, being in the public eye and being an
influence to my followers, Ifeel like you have well.
A part of me feels like I justwant to be perfect.
But at the same time, I have tobe realistic to our life and how
our bodies are and everyone'sbody is different, heals
differently.
So I feel like I did care andfelt the pressure, but at the
same time I didn't allow it tochange my mindset, to being hard
(04:20):
on myself, and I think it'snormal to be hard on yourself
because you just go throughthese emotions, especially
having a baby, your hormones areeverywhere.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Yeah, very so.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
you're just like you know, I just want to be happy
and healthy and I think I wasjust really excited to get back
to my normal routine, which wasimportant because I just I
missed being able to be activeand it is nice to have everyone
want to help and do things foryou, but then later on you're
like I just want to do things.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
You're like I'm going to do a body's help?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Yes, but I mean, yeah , I did feel the pressure.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
So the next question have you ever ditched an event
or plans with your friends andblamed the kids?
I have.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
I think it's a real excuse.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
I'm sure I have.
I feel like I have at somepoint, I'm sure.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
I have I'm pretty honest, but I'm like I could
imagine one day just kind oflike over over serving yeah,
like it wasn't that big of adeal, like the kids said they
needed me, but they reallydidn't.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
And then I made it like oh no, I have to go back to
the house right now.
Yeah, I could have definitelydone that type of thing.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yeah, that's not the same.
Sure, I've done that before.
Sorry y'all, Definitely.
I mean I was ready to go.
My husband was like this ishonestly the best answer you can
excuse, you can say becauseit's real, Like yes, Like you're
not lying, it's a lie.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Because they always need you.
Yes, you're like I got to go tokids, kids first, or I don't.
When I don't, that's what I do.
When I don't feel like findinga sitter, I'll just be like, ah,
I can't because I don't have asitter.
I didn't try.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
What about your parents?
That happens.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Oh yeah, no, Well, I don't live with close-up animals
.
Oh OK, so you can't say thatyeah.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
So it's like, so it's legit.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
So it's cheesy yeah dang Like.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
I'm telling you so, anybody who's heard that from my
head.
It's the truth, it is the truth, it's the truth.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Ok, me next.
Sorry y'all.
All right, Did your intimacychange after baby?
Speaker 1 (06:10):
I would say middle, middle.
Yeah, I think we're on the samelike mental direction, with our
intimacy.
I feel, like we're very honestand open about how we feel with
our intimacy.
So I feel like it's the same,but yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I think we're more tired.
Yeah, I was gonna say.
That was literally what I wasgonna say we're just tired, so
I'm like you tired me too, okay,goodnight.
Yeah, perfect, and that's whatit is.
It's like I'm tired, it'smutual.
But if you want to, I wouldyeah, you good, okay, great.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
I'm not gonna hold you, I mean waiting for him to
be like I'm tired, like good,but you gotta pretend like
you're the one ready so you'renot the only one saying no, you
be like I mean.
I was ready.
I was ready, I mean, I was good.
And you'll be like okay andyou're like wait, no, I can't
wait to go for a sit down.
If I say I'm ready, then he'simmediately untired, Immediately
untired.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Yeah, being tired is the real thing.
You don't want to do anything,I just wanna sleep.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Oh my gosh, just lay there.
Okay.
So do you believe it's possiblefor parents to parent equally?
No, no, no, I don't.
I always say you could be thebest father in the world and I'm
gonna say, like in a two parenthousehold because I don't know
if it's like a single father anda mother no longer exists than
(07:25):
maybe he does.
But in a two parent household,no, and I don't care how much,
it's just different.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
I agree it's tough.
I feel like everyone,especially your significant
other they could be raised adifferent way.
Everyone's just different.
So you kind of have to figureit out together, and that was
one thing I feel that was achallenge in our relationship
was figuring out the roles andthe responsibilities for each
other.
For me, I'm gonna end upwanting to do everything.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
And then you will get to do more than you should.
You will get to do, and thenyou get a little resentful.
You don't want to, but youcan't help it.
They're sleeping and you'relike I'm awake.
Two am, five am.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
So I think it's a conversation we had to have so
that we can both be happy.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
And I think too, it's just never going to be equal in
totality, like in life when wealways say like 80, 20.
So there's gonna be a time inlife or a season where he's able
to give 80 and I'm only able togive 20.
And then vice versa Right now,when we travel and all that
stuff, I'm giving a lot lessthan 80 and he has to pick up
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this lack, and that's.
We just keep looking.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
I mean, that's honestly.
I feel like that's what keepsour relationship happy, and the
fact that you guys can do thatand balance each other is so
important.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Yeah, because the more 50-50 is just everybody
sitting there and their cells upfor failure.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
No, I just know if I leave the house, I have prepared
100 things for him.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Yes, let the house Nothing, yeah, nothing Like you
got like a course, like what.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
That too I didn't even think about that.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Like when I do leave, I still prep so many things.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
So you did the other 30% before.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Yeah, yep, I did.
That's crazy, that's true.
Okay, let's see.
Do you believe you've masteredthe work-life balance?
I feel like I'm here again.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
I feel like I'm still learning to balance everything,
because every day is sodifferent, the baby's changing
and some nights she will befussier than others.
I feel like I'm still learningto balance everything.
And also with our lifestyle,social media, especially with
the things that go on what'strending, what's happening.
(09:37):
We try to balance what's thepriority to talk about, what
content is trending on TikTok,or we need to do this video
because this is going viral.
So I feel like it's just abalance of everything and
sometimes, out of nowhere,things can happen with real life
stuff.
So we just try to keep up witheverything and we have a good
rhythm.
I feel like the thing is that'sreally hard as a creator.
(09:59):
You don't have aclock-in-clock-out situation, so
you just can keep going, andthere was a time where I feel
like I ran myself to the ground,where I have no breaks, and
even my breaks is me editing inmy phone.
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Especially when your partner is your husband and your
family.
So you really never yeah forsure.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
I feel like we had to figure out a schedule that was
healthy for both of us, whereMonday through Friday we're
working Weekends, we have toturn off our phones or just at
least put it aside and make surewe're in the presence of art,
with our family and beingpresent.
So I think it's super important, and I've also learned to
capture content and put my phonedown and edit later.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Because it's so hard.
Does it ever make you?
Speaker 1 (10:41):
I mean, I used to, but it's so refreshing to be in
the moment and to just enjoy.
And a lot of my family membersare like I don't know how you
get this content.
And then you come up with thiswhole video at the end Like how
are you filming?
And you were here, so I've justlearned how to just get it and
put my phone down so I canreally be involved.
But I feel like I've masteredit, but I'm still learning with
the new lifestyle and thechallenges that happen.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
No, I said no.
You know I don't believe inwork-life balance.
It's like balance means even tome.
I believe in work-lifeintegration.
You figure out how to makesomething work and you know if I
have to work more for two weeksand then, like, I have to
figure out later on or maybe itnever gets because there is no
balance, it doesn't get balancedlater and sometimes stuff is a
(11:26):
lot more upfront so you can havethat time later on.
But I'm a work-at-home, youknow, entrepreneur as well, so
it's easy to make every singleday a work day.
But you can also control yourschedule.
It's when you no longer feellike you can control it, when
you let your schedule startcontrolling you.
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And you have to remind yourself,like I would tell my husband
all the time I'm like they can'tdo it without you.
So like if they got to wait,they have to wait, and if they
keep going then you know thatmight not be the thing for you.
So not being afraid of likelosing an opportunity because
you turned off, but you alsojust have to understand.
Sometimes, because you're tryingto build something, I'm going
(12:07):
to be working more than I will,you know, two years from now or
three years from now, and that'sgot to be okay, right.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah, I think for me, I would say I've mastered the
idea of work-life balance and Iam so close to really really
being strong in boundaries,because that's really what it's
all about.
Yes, and boundaries, especially,like Blair said, like being an
entrepreneur working from homeand really and you two like
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never really cutting off isreally about where the
boundaries are and having thatbalance.
And I love that you use theword rhythm, because I use that
word all the time.
Yes, about just having therhythm.
Sometimes the rhythm isliterally like this Right, and
then sometimes the rhythm islike you know, a smooth jazz
type situation.
Yes, so I feel like I havemastered that, because I know
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when my life is going to becrazy and then when my life is
going to be smooth.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I think, too, the journey of balancing and
mastering this whole jugglingsituation of how we have so much
is not feeling guilty taking abreak.
Yes, because I think, as youknow an entrepreneur and someone
that you just want to be thebest you could be and provide
and work and make sure you'redoing everything you need to do
to be the best version ofyourself.
It's so much pressure that youput on yourself where you feel
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guilty to even take a breaksometimes, or when you.
Because my mom, she's such ahard worker.
I get my work ethic from mymother and I feel like she's
because my parents and Dawn'smom lives with us, yeah, and
they're retired.
They live with us.
We take care of them, but theyalso take care of us.
They cook, they clean, they doso much and help.
That's great, but seeing my momlike she never sits still and
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so it makes me feel better.
I'm like I got to get up tooand like clean and help you
because you're over heregardening and brooming.
I want to blow the leaves and Ijust feel like I just always
want to make sure I'm doing mypart.
But I think the guilty part isthe most thing, the most
important thing where we don'tmake ourselves feel bad about
taking a break because it's soimportant Exactly.
Speaker 3 (14:05):
Because you would want your daughter to take a
break.
Yes, yes, like even if you arerunning around the house, and
this is probably what your momwants for you.
Like you don't want to see yourdaughter, like I'm running
around, so you don't have to runaround.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Yeah, you know yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
But it's easy to say that she's a little like.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
it's just so much.
She's gonna do the same thingLike mommy.
You make me want to work.
Yeah, exactly, it's so hard,though it is Because you want to
be great.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Yeah, I think that's the thing.
It's like, I'm like I'm notgreat yet, so I have to keep
going.
So that's, I feel that.
I feel that.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
I mean that answers the next question.
Oh my, gosh you did.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
The next question literally is about do you
experience mom guilt?
Oh yes, oh my god, mom guilt isso real.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Yes, I, oh my god, I get it.
I didn't understand it before.
Especially I feel it when Ileave the house, even for just
going to the grocery store,because I just want to be with
my baby and I think maybe it'syour firstborn?
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Because I'm like, I feel like I just want to be
there to help all the time,because, I don't know, maybe
it's mom guilt leaving her.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
I think it's different forms of mom guilt too
, because I will say I will runto the grocery store without my
kids, like I hate taking my kidsto the grocery store, to target
, I don't like taking them outto the stores and stuff.
I'm excited you also have threekids.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Yes, I'm gonna have one.
Yes.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
But it's different, like you know, different levels
to the mom guilt For sure.
Speaker 3 (15:28):
No, yeah, even my first.
I did not want to take themanywhere, but I have like
postpartum anxiety.
I was gonna say, part of it'salso like an evolutionary pool.
Yeah, you're still in yourpostpartum period, like you, so
that means you have hormonesrunning through you that keep
you close to your child and,like other hormones like if
you're depression or anxiety youcan feel like you don't want to
be or others.
So it's like, it's like anevolutionary bind that wants you
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close to your daughter.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
So there's, you know I think I'll feel better when
she can communicate better.
Oh yes, so I can understand,because she's Zaya is a little,
I wouldn't say a hard baby, buta very particular baby.
She likes to be held a certainway.
Oh yes, I feel like she likesto face out.
My mommy knows and my mom doestoo, and it's funny and
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interesting to live with my mom,with my baby, because I'm the
baby of the family and her babyhad a baby.
So her parenting and alsoteaching me, and I'm like I want
to do it this way and she'slike, well, you came out fine
and it's just oh, oh, oh.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
That is the conversation of generations.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Yes, so I mean there are obviously pros and cons
living with your family, butit's so much of a blessing for
me and Dawn so I, you know, feelthat it's just the best
situation for us, because evenwhen I leave I don't feel as bad
, because I know that they'rewatching and spending time with
her?
Yes, so you figure it outEspecially like you said, before
they can speak.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
I think that's one thing that did get to me.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Yeah, because you're like what is?
Speaker 3 (16:49):
wrong with you?
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Yeah, what age is it that they can really express?
Every child is different.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Okay, my first child.
She was speaking at like 10 anda half months, like she was
full sentences before she wasone.
Yeah, then my second childdidn't really talk for real
until she was like two and ahalf, wow.
And then my third, same as myfirst, wow.
He was talking by one.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
That's amazing.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
See every thing is different, but I understand that
, because if you leave them, ifsomething happens, you want them
to be able to explain andexpress themselves for sure,
exactly so.
Last question, and then we aredone with the game.
Do you still prioritize girltime, or do you seldom get to
enjoy it Since?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
you've been on one.
I do.
Okay, I do.
How do you do that?
Speaker 3 (17:37):
I said yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Yes, especially in this past You've been doing
great.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Yeah, I've been doing really great.
Well, this is my girl timeright now.
Yeah, this is the one.
I prioritized it.
Yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
And I come from a family with three girls.
I have two older sisters and Ihave such an amazing bond with
my girls and also a lot of mygirls have kids, oh good.
So we all come together and dodinners, and there's been a lot
of birthdays.
So I feel like when I feel likebecoming a mom, I move with
more intention and purpose,where my time has to make sense.
Yes, or else it's going to heror I'm sleeping.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Yes, because I don't get no sleep.
Yes, yes, yes, I love that.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
I feel like me and the girls do try to prioritize
our best to have dinners or evenmovie nights.
So I feel like it is important.
You know my girls are importantto me.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
I love that.
Yes, I try.
That's really good.
Well, I want to ask you,because you are, you know, the
social media influencer.
You ran down the list of allthe things that you do, but what
is something that your audiencedoesn't get to see often, or
something that you would love totalk about more but you don't
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get to talk about as often asyou would like?
Speaker 1 (18:45):
You know I so I grew up in a Christian household.
My dad was a pastor and Iactually like talking about my
faith, talking about just myfaith walk honestly.
Like social media, there's somany other things that we talk
about, but no one really asksabout that part, even if I talk
about it a little bit people,it's just not like the hot topic
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, but I would love to talk aboutit more because I feel like
it's a big part of my life.
Growing up and living out herein LA, that was my number.
One thing is my faith.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
That's a good thing.
Well, you got two Christiangirls over here I do.
I'm gonna ask, like, how do youstay focused on it, especially
in somewhere like LA, especially?
Speaker 1 (19:23):
It is a challenge because moving to LA, there's so
many distractions and you justwant to especially make and
build relationships withdifferent people and I feel like
the most important thing to memoving out to LA is making sure
that you focus on your purposeand not letting anyone or anyone
take you away from what youknow, that you want.
(19:43):
I feel like when you come to LA, you got to already know what
you want to do and who you are.
Yes, who you are and being okaywith who you are and expressing
who you are to the people thatyou meet.
But at the same time, you knowyou, you realize you meet people
, you go through experiencesthat can also shift and change
your mindset, but also stayingtrue to who you are through that
experience, because you know,you think about it, you're not
(20:06):
the same person you were a yearago.
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Two years ago, three years ago At all.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
So being yourself is always a challenge too, because
you're evolving constantly andexperiences always change you
and your perspective in life.
And being a mom it's like, yeah, I feel like I care so much
more about the most importantthings I didn't really think
about before, like the respectthat I have more for my mom,
like you've been doing these forme before I can remember, I
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think, church, having a goodcircle of friends and being
consistent with whatever youfeel that helps you stay
grounded.
If it's hanging out with yourfriends, that and going to Bible
study or church or journaling,I think it's just important to
do those things that keep yougrounded, because there's going
to be times where you'll bepulled so many ways and you just
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have to make sure you'realigned, and I think that was
what helped me.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
To ever get off the walk because, especially being a
PK, like sometimes, you fightagainst it.
Yep.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
I for sure have, and I think that you feel that
conviction in your heart whereyou're like you know what I
don't feel right and God willtell you in certain
circumstances and conversationswhere this isn't really me, you
know, and I feel also I've beenjudged and some of my family
members are like, oh, you're aChristian girl, why are you
going to LA?
This is the most like, this isthe devil's playground.
Why are you here?
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And my dad was the biggestsupporter for that and
expressing to me, saying youknow, you are a light and you
have to go to a dark place to bea light.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
Jesus was hanging out with all the people With all
the folks, if you're in a churchwith all the other people like
you know.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
Yeah, so I think that's um, that's what I would
have to say.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Well, I would ask you , though you said you want to
talk about it more Is theresomething that kind of hinders
you from talking about it morewhere you feel like, because
there's such judgment or becausemaybe it's not the hot topic,
that you kind of shy away fromit, or even the fact that, like
I think too, there is somecookie cutter version of what
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people think a Christian womanis supposed to look like.
And so we get this idea in ourhead and then when we see
something different, it's likeit's kind of shocking.
But I would say I would thinkthat if people saw you talk more
about it, you would inspirewomen who are like oh my gosh,
she looks like me, and so thisis possible.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
You can also scare people away because people
Christianity's like had such anegative like feeling sometimes
with people growing up Iremember I saw I grew up in a
Christian school, that I went toa public school freshman year,
but I used to be like, liketalking to my dad, I'm like dad,
I just want to talk to herabout God and she doesn't want
to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
And my dad's like you can't force people.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
I've learned you can't bang people on the Bible.
Your example is who you are andwhat you reflect is just the
reflection of what you want toteach.
So I'm just like I don't haveto say his name.
If I'm just living thislifestyle and sharing it and
then eventually, hopefully, likeeven someone wants to talk
about it, you talk about it.
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But I've been freely talkingabout it on social media here
and there.
Again, I don't want to be apreacher, that's not like unless
I feel that that's my callingin that situation.
But I always try to sneak it inin conversations where I feel
that can be relatable andhelpful for people that are
searching for that kind of lightor conversation.
But for my content, I try toalways showcase love, showcase
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just being a good person andshowcasing the love that I have
for my family and, yeah, justreflecting through example.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
I think if more people do that, I think you know
we can make Jesus cool you know.
Jesus is cool Because peoplehave been so anti-religious
because they think, oh, they'reso judgmental.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
They're like oh, you didn't know.
Like.
Speaker 3 (23:57):
I'm Christian and I love you.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
I love you, and that's why we do what we do,
even on our platform.
Like everybody knows if you'vebeen following us for a while we
love the.
Lord, it's very important to beable to show that it doesn't
have to look a certain way, andwe are the light and you know.
Whatever you think is differentabout us is because we know the
Lord.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Yes, right, it's the light.
Speaker 3 (24:18):
Yes, I'll say we're faith-based, not necessarily
faith-forward.
Yes, Like you know, unless Godsays, talk about it be it fun,
but otherwise you're going toget it.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
It's going to come out different people you
mentioned.
You're not even the same personas you were a year ago.
So let's talk about yourevolution over the last 10 years
.
The last 10 years Because youwere.
Was it at a car dealership?
Speaker 1 (24:43):
I've worked so many jobs.
The car dealership was the lastjob I was working before I did
social media.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
Okay, and so, like, from there to now, like, could
you have imagined it?
And then, how do you, how doyou think you've gotten here?
Speaker 1 (24:58):
You know.
So, looking back, thinkingabout the Lee Ann that just
moved out here, I mean, thiswhole journey was a roller
coaster.
It was never smooth.
I feel that I've always beendiscovering myself in every
chapter of my life and I thinkthat when I moved out here I
remembered this was beforesocial media.
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The main advice was like youjust got to go out there.
You got a network.
You got a network.
And how do you network?
You just go to these events andyou have to go to these red
carpet events and dance classes,acting classes.
It's just so many things thatyou want to put your foot in the
door so that you can buildrelationships.
So that's what I pretty muchdid at first, just till I found
something that clicked with me,Because when you come to LA, you
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just have stars in your eyesLike I'm here.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
This is it.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
I'm going to make my dreams a reality.
This is what God is calling meto do.
You're just so excited and ithits you real quick.
Reality it is not easy.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
There's so many people.
I gave everybody the same dream.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Right.
I'm like, hey, this girl'stelling me to this person and
it's like it feels like whatpeople were saying growing up.
They're like it's too much of acompetition when you move to LA
, it's not realistic, you'regoing to come back and move back
to Modesto.
So, again, my faith reallyhelped me stay focused and I
felt that this is my purpose andI'm going to really succeed and
figure it out whether, if ittakes me, however long it takes
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me.
My mom was like let's just thinkof it as a college trip where
you go for a few years and comeright back if it doesn't work
out.
But they still supported me,especially being Filipino.
I know my Filipinos can feel mebecause they want you to be a
nurse or a doctor, anything inthe medical field, and I just
didn't feel like that was whatmy heart wanted to do.
(26:40):
And so, again, moving out here,taking all these classes, my
first job was Island Burger,which I loved because I got some
free fries, and then also Iwalkano, then a tanning salon
job, then I was an independentcontractor delivering totes and
boxes from the airport.
It's just so many differentthings, people do not know who
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they got Boxing.
Wow, and I got to do red carpethosting.
I was able to do what else?
I've just done so manydifferent things in the industry
just to meet people.
So from a hopeful dreamer to goget her really focusing and
working so hard and facing myfears like head on, I'm like I'm
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going to figure it out and I'mgoing to fake it till I make it,
because I remember YouTube.
I was doing YouTube and it's socrazy because I used to do just
this and pretend I'm gettinginterviewed from someone.
So I'll be looking like this ohfor that question, you know,
and now I'm really gettinginterviews.
I just really cool, but I usedto fake my interviews to make it
seem as I was you know somebody.
(27:46):
Oh, I see You're preparing, likeyou said, fake it till you make
it and so doing that and tryingto understand the industry and
meeting different producers, andI mean I just love the creative
art of just everything inHollywood, but it does come with
something, you know you got toreally figure out, you know what
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you want.
And so I was working a part timeat the dealership in Burbank as
a car salesman and on theweekends I was touring as a
backup singer for this artist,dev, which was an amazing
opportunity for me because I wastraveling.
That was my first time I wentto the Philippines and traveled
and performed, so I was able tohave these opportunities,
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traveling and just, you know,living this dream, enjoying to
do, you know, things outside ofan office.
I always wanted to just becreative and, you know, just do
what I enjoy doing.
And so from then on, I rememberfrom the dealership, my lunch
break I'd run and do Vine videosat my friend's house.
So Vine was pretty much whatallowed me to accumulate
(28:49):
millions of followers, whichoverflowed to Instagram and
there was no TikTok at the time,it was called Musically.
Speaker 2 (28:57):
That's what I remember.
Okay, that's what me and Laylaused to be.
Okay, and Musically was fun too.
It was a fun time so.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
I just remembered every app that came out.
I'm going to go on it and I'mgoing to try to just build a
following, and I feel like justthat hustle inside me allowed me
to be able to build thefollowing.
And I don't want to fastforward to now but through that
journey, just constant videosbeing consistent with content
and really being intentionalwith what I want my viewers to
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watch me for.
Like, okay, I want to do beauty,I want to do fashion.
So I'm going to startincorporating that and even
though I didn't know how to domakeup, I'm taught.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
I literally had to teach myself how to do.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
No girl, I did not.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
You know how to do it .
No, I'm like she did this.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
Okay, I'm going to do that wing too and figure it out
, come on.
So literally I just figured itout and took one step at a time,
and that's pretty much how Igot here.
It's just, there's so manydifferent opportunities that God
will open doors for you whenyou allow yourself to just go
for it, yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
So I think that's like proof, though, because we
always get a bunch of questionsfrom moms that are like how do I
know when to start and how todo it?
Really, it sounds like youdidn't think too hard, you just
went for it, and you know that'sthe thing about faith too.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
I was saying you can't.
You just have to just havefaith and trust in God and also
trust in yourself.
If you feel that it's somethingright for you, you'll know if
it's right or wrong, and even ifyou make mistakes.
There are some things that I'veexperienced like I could have
done this, but everythinghappens for a reason.
I'm a strong believer in thatand I mean, if you make a
mistake, you learn from it.
So I think everything has itspurpose.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Yeah, Now, as far as all of your things that you've
been doing, and all the workthat you have done and goals and
passions and going after all ofthose things now that you're a
mom, has that changed at all?
Is your passion a little bitstronger or do you feel like
you're ready to pull back sothat you can focus on your
daughter?
What's it like now?
Speaker 1 (30:55):
I'm definitely more driven.
Okay, I'm more hungry, I'm morecreative, because I'm like this
is great content that I canshare.
Because now I'm a mom yeah, Ican relate to moms out there.
Speaker 3 (31:07):
And I think the mom part.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
No.
I can make that and it's so fun, like me and my husband have so
much fun doing content,especially with my daughter
we're doing, and it's soannoying when people are like,
oh my God, your daughter, you'remaking her work already and
it's like she's not doinganything.
But she loves the camera too.
Yeah, anytime I put like thephone up, she'll try to get in
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front and just play with myphone.
I can feel that she enjoys it.
You know, so I've just been somuch more hungrier and driven
ever since I've had a baby.
I love that, yeah.
Speaker 3 (31:42):
Having you and your husband focus on your
relationship, because when youwork with somebody and I've
realized that working with myhusband is so easy to make
everything about work and youthink your relationship might be
strong.
Or what have you?
Because we talk all the time,we're with each other all the
time and then you realize likeit's a lot of work.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
We've had this conversation actually not that
long ago, maybe like a few weeksago and it's like you have to
constantly remind your partnerthat you have to remember to
have romance.
You have to communicate yourfeelings.
We have our check-ins like howare you feeling?
And also making sure we balanceour us time.
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Even when we're tired, we tryto at least with at least even
having dinner at the house, justyou and me, and maybe having my
parents look after her.
It's definitely been a challengethat we're still learning and
juggling and trying to balancethe time that we have together,
but we just enjoy being togetherwith my daughter.
It's like our us time.
(32:43):
We'll get it when we can, butat the same time, we have to
make priority Exactly but forwhat we do at home.
We're so blessed to work fromhome, so we have the freedom to
be able to have that us time andhave our family time.
But we just communicatecommunication and just really
understanding each other'sfeelings, and I'm so grateful my
husband's so good at listeningto me when I do feel like
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there's something that I'mfeeling.
So yeah, it's not perfect.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
We have our discussions but for the most
part it's good that wecommunicate through everything.
Speaker 3 (33:16):
Well, that makes sense, so I was gonna also ask.
One thing that really impressedme about you was when you broke
up with your husband.
Like when you were dating andyou broke up with him and I
thought that was like such astrong stance, Like obviously it
wasn't easy, but what made youlike we're gonna break up, Like
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I'm not just gonna forgive youand we're gonna keep moving?
Speaker 1 (33:40):
In relationships, especially in Hollywood.
You meet people in the industrythat are beautiful and talented
and I feel like it's so hard tofind something so pure and real
in the Hollywood industrybecause everyone's always
looking for the latest, thegreatest, the youngest, the
richest, like it's just so muchcompetition.
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But when you do find someonethat has the same morals and
values and also loves you forwho you are, and you know that
that person's a good person, youwant to connect with that
person.
You end up building arelationship, which is with Don.
It's interesting because I methim when he got off America's
Next Top Model and I'm thinking,oh my God, he's so probably
conceited and all this.
And we were friends for threeyears before we started dating.
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And through our relationship, Ithink the challenge was when
someone that is in the industrywith you, they live this
lifestyle that is one foot in,one foot out, I feel, because
it's hard to transition frombeing a person that is in the
industry living this lifestyleDon was a rapper, he's out
clubbing and all that stuff andthen for him to transition to
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becoming a committed husband,especially not having a male
role model in his life and nothaving the proper guidance.
He has these habits and thegenerational curses, and these
are things that I had to learnafter I broke up with Don as to
why he is the way he is and howthe arguments that we had faced
and is it me?
Is there something wrong?
Speaker 2 (35:05):
with me.
I don't understand.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
I thought I was a great girlfriend.
All these things can happen andcause you to question so many
things.
But there comes a point in yourlife where you're with somebody
and if something is not workingand you're just unhappy about
something or break the trust,you get fed up.
You get to a point where you'relike I'm done, it's over, I'm
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out, and sometimes it takes timeto get to that point.
Speaker 2 (35:30):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
I've had girlfriends where, from the outside looking
in like girl, you need to leavethis toxic relationship.
But they will not leave untilthey've had enough.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
So it's like and everybody's enough is different.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
And some people are honestly settled and okay with
it.
Yeah, a lot, and I always wantto make sure that I am a great
influence and give hope to girlsout there that you can you can
step out of something that youfeel so deep in.
I felt like I dug myself in ahole and I couldn't get out, and
especially with Dawn.
We were together for four yearsbefore we broke up and my mom
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was so invested our families,everything, and that makes it
harder to be.
We lived together and to makethe decision.
I just said you know what I loveme too much to allow things to
be the way they are and I'mgonna leave and I'm out.
So it took a lot for me to getto that point.
But you know when enough isenough, when you get to that
point.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
Yeah, I think it's just really important not to
take somebody back becausethey've done all these things
and it seems like they did itbecause of just you Cause I
think it's like, okay, did youchange for you, or did you
change for me?
Cause how long is this changegoing to last?
You know what I?
Speaker 1 (36:41):
mean, and you know, I think for me I wasn't so
focused on him when we broke up.
It was more so that Idiscovered self love, like I
knew I loved myself, but no, Ifeel like I truly didn't love
myself, cause there were thingsin the relationship that I was
accepting that I don't know myworth.
I can't allow this to, you know, keep happening.
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And I feel like there was.
He proposed actually that sameyear and then I broke up with
him, so even when he proposed.
I'm like I don't even know if Iis this supposed to be the way I
feel, I'm unsure and I justdidn't feel 100% sure.
And it's completely normal theysay you can kind of have some
questions and doubts, but I justknew in my heart, I just wasn't
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sure because, again, I feellike our relationship, we were
happy, but I didn't feel like wewere completely ready for
marriage and there were thingsthat I feel that Don needed to
clean up in his life, of habitsand, again, generational curses,
and I think that the hardestthings to do is unlearn a lot of
the things that we were taughtin the generational things that
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you know we've experienced inlife.
And so I said you know what I'mreally going to focus on myself
.
I'm going to focus on self love, I'm going to really take care
of me and through the months ofour breakup I we both had the
same counselor that we wereworking with and he's been
working.
Shout out to Tony Gaskins, he'samazing, he's definitely helped
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and guide me through myexperiences of just the breakup
time.
And breakups are always so hardbecause you feel so much,
you're sad, you're happy, you're.
You know there's so manyemotions and then, at the same
time, everyone still talks aboutit because they're asking how
are you?
Speaker 3 (38:24):
And they bring it up.
Speaker 1 (38:25):
And it took me three months to finally share on
social media.
I feel like I owe that to them,because they've been so
supportive and invested in ourrelationship.
Where I have to say it.
Speaker 3 (38:35):
And so You're going to date publicly?
Yeah, like I need to knowpublicly and people notice.
Speaker 1 (38:39):
They're like how come you don't post with him anymore
, like because they're nottogether.
Speaker 2 (38:44):
But Kodo's to you, though, because I think, as a
woman, everybody wants to bemarried, everybody wants to get
proposed to, everybody wants tohave a man that's trying, and so
, to have that in front of youand still be like no, this is
still not right.
Kudo's, because I think itinspires women who are like okay
, no, I know what I feel in mygut, I'm trying to ignore it a
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lot of myself, but like no, youactually did it and you waited.
Speaker 1 (39:10):
It's so hard Cause I had well.
At the same time I feel likeit's I don't hate anyone, but I
hated him, so it allowed me tobe okay with this breakup and
even when he was working with mycounselor and he'll kind of
tell me like hey, you talked toDon.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
I'm like.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
no, he's like well, just to let you know, he's
writing a book.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
He's actually doing this now.
He's actually having, and I'mlike that's cool.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
I don't care, but the time when we had Cross Paths
again was for his book launchand my parents wanted to go and
our friends are still eachother's friends.
So, fast forward to sevenmonths later, we ended up going
my mom, was like, please can wejust stop by?
So we stopped by and we saw thebook.
He also asked permission beforemessaged and asked like, do you
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mind if I share our story?
I'm like, yeah, whatever, Idon't care.
So when we were there, Iremember him doing a public
apology and I just it was such apowerful apology that it takes
a lot and it takes a lot ofpause for a man to apologize in
public, Especially publicly, Tobe okay with being so
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transparent, and so I reallyappreciated that about him and
what he did and I did see thework that he's put in, but I
still wasn't like sold out oreven wanting to get back to him.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
You're always like that man, good for you, good for
you.
Speaker 3 (40:26):
And touch Yeng Little tear bye, right.
Speaker 1 (40:31):
So it had to be God to truly bring us back together,
because I was ready to justcompletely be okay without
seeing him ever again.
But again after that, throughtime he talked about even I want
to date you again.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
I'm a whole new man.
Speaker 1 (40:46):
I want to take you out, and we were just starting
from scratch.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
And.
Speaker 1 (40:50):
I feel like he was a whole new person and he quit
drinking.
He stopped smoking, he doesn'tgo out anymore and the thing is,
even if a man says that they'llstop doing that, it's really
important that they don't do itfor you again, like you said for
themselves.
He has no desire for that, andthat's I feel like.
You know, it was nice that hegenuinely didn't want to, and
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until this day.
So he's been sober since then,which I'm so proud of him,
Because that's really congrats,he did the work, that's also God
.
Speaker 3 (41:21):
I feel like God really Does that be like.
If you want to drink, if youwant to do all the things, do
them.
Speaker 1 (41:25):
Yeah, enjoy them Without me, yes, without me, and
that's fine.
But don't pretend for me,because the moment, I'm not
enough for you.
Speaker 3 (41:33):
You're going to go back to those things.
Well, I've been doing all thisstuff to win you back in to love
you and you're still actinglike this?
Speaker 2 (41:40):
Because then they hanging over your head?
Yeah, because I did it for you.
Speaker 3 (41:42):
First, psychology it's like no.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
Yeah, and then doing it.
Speaker 3 (41:46):
They're not doing anything for you.
Yeah, they're gaslighting you,yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:49):
Pretty much, and being public was also tough
because a lot of people havetheir opinions.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
And a lot of people feel entitled they're like oh,
you should have said combat.
Speaker 1 (41:59):
I know you Did people say that oh my god, I'm not
sure to this day Till this daythey're like they're married, or
the kid where was?
Speaker 3 (42:03):
I.
They don't want them to behappy you know, I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
So at the end of the day, you just have to do what
makes you happy.
Of course, I think that wasreally what we focused on,
because when we, I remember wewere in Hawaii and we're like
we're going to post a video, areyou ready?
Like this is it?
We're going to share toeveryone that we're back
together, and I remember it wasValentine's Day and the comments
made me so sad.
Because a lot of people were soeither disappointed.
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There's a lot of handful ofpeople that were so happy too.
So I just you know you can'tplease everyone, and I've just
again, so you still read thecomments?
Of course I do.
You guys are the reason why I'mhere.
I do read comments.
I do try my best to reply toeveryone.
I just don't like to reply tothe negative comments.
I give more energy to thepositive.
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My parents will be the ones tocome for you all.
Speaker 3 (42:53):
She said look, I have to do more things and my mom
just said what.
You can't say that, but I saidit, so I guess I can man.
Speaker 2 (43:01):
Right, what would you say to someone who is actually
going through, you know, abreakup or really just kind of
they know they need to leave,but they're not ready?
Speaker 1 (43:14):
I created a whole plan for me because, oh, I
thought you meant for the girls.
I was like wow, when I broke up, I'm like, ok, this is what's
going to help me, because I knowwhen I start wanting to fall
back.
So, first, I remember I wrotemyself a love letter, so
literally writing yourself likedear Leigh Ann, you know your
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worth, you're beautiful, you'restrong, like all the amazing
things that you are.
You write it to yourself, soevery time you feel weak, you
read it to yourself as if you'rereading it from someone.
Two, I made a playlist of allthe I'm single and I'm not going
back and all the breakup songs.
Put a playlist because thesongs will make you miss
somebody.
Yeah, so it's like I need tohave the counter the playlist
(43:57):
Also your friends, a circle ofpeople that support and love you
.
And it was so horrible becausewhen we broke up, it was 2020.
And I literally was in Mexico.
We're about to travel, I'mabout to be out, and then we had
to be in the house every day,exactly.
So I feel like that was Godforcing me to really face my
feelings and heal, becausethat's not masking my feelings
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if I'm just going out andturning up with my girls, like
it's just not the best way, butI feel like it was honestly such
a healing journey and focusingon self-love and also this helps
too.
I don't know if it helps foreverybody, but I would write a
list of things why I shouldn'tgo back to that person or what
they did to me.
Do not let me go back.
So if I ever missed my ex orsomething, I'd say, ok, he did
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this.
Speaker 3 (44:43):
Oh, why do you miss girl?
Speaker 2 (44:44):
Yes, so you write yourself a reminder of why you
guys broke up in the first place, because we'll easily forget
what you did yes, as soon as youmiss them, you guys live
together and have that person,yep, and you do not see them.
You have amnesia, all of asecond you have.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
I really had to make it clear that you cannot come
and see me, even if you say youforgot something at the house,
I'll leave and have my mom giveit to him, like I just really
made sure there were boundaries.
And what else did I do?
Speaker 3 (45:13):
I'd have been like oh I'm upstairs, you go downstairs
looking over.
Speaker 1 (45:17):
Yeah, and blocking.
I guess I blocked him, buteveryone has their own levels of
healing, and I think those arethe things that helped me.
Speaker 2 (45:25):
So, yeah, I think you set a good example for your
daughter Like you weren't eventhinking about children, because
when she's going to have herfirst breakup and you're going
to be like I got you, girl, Igot a plan.
Yes, exactly, I got the plan, Igot a plan, my daughter having
a boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (45:39):
I know, I literally cried the first week having her
and I'm like she's going to oneday get married.
Oh my god, dawn, yes, it's sowild.
Speaker 2 (45:47):
Yes, no, my stepdaughter has a boyfriend now
.
Speaker 3 (45:49):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (45:50):
I'm going to say that .
Speaker 1 (45:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (45:52):
I was like he looks like Soulja Boy, what With no
tattoos.
Oh my god, no tattoos.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
That's what it looks like to me, but yeah, that's so
weird, that's so weird, that'sso cute.
Did you tell her that?
Well, she didn't, she knows.
Now I told her that, yeah, I'llprobably tell her too.
Speaker 1 (46:05):
I just found out today, oh you did you heard it
here first?
Speaker 3 (46:08):
Yes, you heard it here first.
Did your goals change after youguys get back together?
Speaker 1 (46:14):
obviously yes.
Speaker 3 (46:16):
He did the work for himself.
They got back together, I think, did get married and had a
fabulous, fabulous wedding,thank you.
So did any of your goals changeonce you got married?
Because you've been hustling sohard for a decade and it's like
Leanne wants to do this and dothis.
But now you're a partnershipand I know you guys worked
together.
But like.
Speaker 1 (46:35):
I feel that our goals I think what's so beautiful for
me and my husband we have verysimilar goals.
We have the same end goal.
We definitely have hadconversations about our
direction in life, because Ifeel like you want to be with
your purpose, make someone thatalso supports your goals, and
(46:56):
Dawn has always been reallyunderstanding and supportive to
whatever I want to focus on,whether it's beauty or fashion,
and now, being a mom, like wejuggle everything and again I
feel like we shift and changewhat we want to focus on
depending on the season ofthings, and my goals, I feel,
(47:18):
are still the same.
I just still want to besuccessful and continue living
life with happiness and purpose,and I think for me, doing what
you love for a living is success.
Speaker 3 (47:30):
That's what I was going to ask you.
I was like, what's successful?
How do you know?
Speaker 1 (47:33):
Being at peace is success to me, and everyone has
different definitions of success, but to me that's what it is,
and especially having a baby.
Again, our priorities havechanged so much.
Everything is about our familyand our daughter.
And I just enjoy it so muchbecause now I can really utilize
everything that I'm goingthrough as topics and
(47:53):
conversations and content.
So whatever I'm struggling with, I add it and apply it to what
we're doing in our life.
So, it changes Now that we havea baby, now it's baby stuff.
Speaker 2 (48:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
So yeah.
Speaker 2 (48:05):
Well, last question what do you think moms actually
need?
Speaker 1 (48:09):
to hear.
Now, being a mom, I think thatwhat I feel they need to hear is
that you're doing an amazingjob.
You're doing an amazing job.
For you to question if you arebeing a good mom shows that you
are a good mom, and a lot ofmoms are so hard on themselves
especially me sometimes and Ithink that when you hear someone
(48:30):
actually just acknowledge thework that you do and the love
that you give, it's just you'rean amazing mom is what I want to
say.
Speaker 3 (48:38):
Yeah, I love that.
Before we go, is there anythingon your heart or anything on
your mind that you want to getout, that you haven't been able
to say?
Speaker 1 (48:46):
You know I feel like I've expressed everything of
that, but at the end of the day,happiness is priority.
I feel like a lot of people getso invested in everyone's
opinions in social media andbullying is real.
I think that the comments canreally get to you for anyone
that is wanting to be a creator.
(49:07):
I think that when you know thatyou feel whatever's in your
heart is what you want to do,don't let anyone shift you away
from that and do not take thecomments personal.
And if you're not doinganything right, I feel like
that's when comments will come.
You know you're doing somethingright.
If you got all the commentscoming at you, that's true, the
haters are real fans, really sodon't be discouraged.
Speaker 3 (49:28):
Right Wanted engagement Right.
Speaker 1 (49:29):
And I think that's the responsibility of being a
creator is you will get all thecrazy comments and opinions, and
again, that's how you just haveto be grounded in God and your
faith and your family, becauseeveryone's always going to have
something to say, so give themsomething to talk about.
Speaker 2 (49:43):
Serious, serious.
That's how you end it.
That is how you end thisepisode.
Speaker 3 (49:50):
Well, thank you so much.
I love having you here.
Thank you so much for having me.
Girls are amazing.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (49:56):
And congratulations for doing this amazing podcast.
This is so beautiful andempowering for women.
Thank you, we really appreciateit.
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (50:07):
Thank you, See you, hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom?
What's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom?
When you come to LA, you just have stars in your eyes
, Like I'm here.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Yeah, this is it.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
I'm going to make my dreams a reality.
This is what God is calling meto do.
You're just so excited and ithits you real quick.
Reality is not easy.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
There's so many people.
I gave everybody the same drink.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
What's up, what's up, hey Mom, what's?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
up.
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Welcome back to Moms.
Actually, my name is Morgan andI am Blair, and we have here
Leanne, leanne V, hello, thankyou so much for coming, so
excited to be here.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Yes, Introduce yourself really quick, bragging
yourself.
This is your moment.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
My name is Leanne V.
I'm from Northern California, Iam in social media, I do a lot
of beauty, fashion, fitness,lifestyle, family, everything.
She's running down the list.
She's running down the list.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Social media.
Yeah, so we are so excited tohave you.
Thank you so much for coming tosit on the couch with us.
You guys know the drill we'regoing to have some good, candid
conversation, so let's just jumpright into our game.
It's giving motherhood.
Are you ready?
Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
You're like what is it?
It's giving motherhood.
So you're asking about thepaddles Yep.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Like what's this, what is this?
Speaker 3 (01:12):
You're about to find out.
All right, here we go.
So this is our littleicebreaker game so we can get to
know each other a little bitmore.
So the gold side is going to beyour yes, or the first option.
The white side is going to beyour no, or?
Speaker 1 (01:29):
the second option.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Ok, yes, no, I'm like yes, no first, second, all
right, and then just ask if itgets confused.
But, the secret to this game isyour first answer is the right
answer.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Trust me.
Good, here we go.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Let's do this.
Do you believe in traditionalgender roles?
What?
Like I say yes, Leanne says yes.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Can you just explain it a little bit?
Like do you mean like the wifealways has to be the one cooking
?
I would say, like certain youknow, like domestic is more.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
I would say domestic is more like the female thing,
the outside stuff is maybe morethe male things.
Like I feel like if you wantedto stay home and not work like
that would be OK.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I'm like I want to be right here, so I'm going to be
right in the middle.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
I'm in the middle too , yeah, because there are
certain things that I'm like Ido and there are certain things
that he does.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
But I feel like I'm not touching the trash.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
So I would say yes.
The only reason I want to sayno is because.
So I'm saying yes because Iwould want him to be more
flexible on the female stuff,but I don't want to do any of
his stuff.
Right.
So it's like yes, I would wantyou to help with the dishes in
the laundry.
But no, I'm not mowing the lawnor taking out the trash oh,
none of that.
So I believe it should beflexible on our side, because we
have more stuff, ok, all right,but otherwise I believe in.
(02:52):
yeah, so that's why I believe in.
Ok, next question.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Wait.
I want to say why, yes, why Ifeel like from me, me and my
husband, or even with my child.
I feel like in the family andour household everyone is like
operates in their masculine andfeminine energy.
So it's hard, because sometimesI enjoy being outside and doing
hard work, and sometimes Dawndoes the dishes in laundry.
Like it's just, it depends onhow we feel and we kind of just
(03:15):
do the teamwork things OK.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
That's all makes the dream work.
I'm 100% there for sure.
Did you feel any pressure tosnap back?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Yes, I did Pressure, I didn't because no one's
looking at me.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yeah.
I'm not surprised by youranswer, but no one was checking
for me.
I didn't feel it because I wasso young.
So no one was like yeah, I hadmy baby.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Because you just snapped back right away.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
You didn't even have to think about it.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I was a fresh 20.
So I'm like mm.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
I will say I didn't know.
After you have a baby, youstill look pregnant, because on
TV that's not how it happens andsome women do look like they
just like are back to normalright away.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
So everyone's, different.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
So where was your pressure coming from?
Speaker 1 (03:57):
You know, being in the public eye and being an
influence to my followers, Ifeel like you have well.
A part of me feels like I justwant to be perfect.
But at the same time, I have tobe realistic to our life and how
our bodies are and everyone'sbody is different, heals
differently.
So I feel like I did care andfelt the pressure, but at the
same time I didn't allow it tochange my mindset, to being hard
(04:20):
on myself, and I think it'snormal to be hard on yourself
because you just go throughthese emotions, especially
having a baby, your hormones areeverywhere.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Yeah, very so.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
you're just like you know, I just want to be happy
and healthy and I think I wasjust really excited to get back
to my normal routine, which wasimportant because I just I
missed being able to be activeand it is nice to have everyone
want to help and do things foryou, but then later on you're
like I just want to do things.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
You're like I'm going to do a body's help?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Yes, but I mean, yeah , I did feel the pressure.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
So the next question have you ever ditched an event
or plans with your friends andblamed the kids?
I have.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
I think it's a real excuse.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
I'm sure I have.
I feel like I have at somepoint, I'm sure.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
I have I'm pretty honest, but I'm like I could
imagine one day just kind oflike over over serving yeah,
like it wasn't that big of adeal, like the kids said they
needed me, but they reallydidn't.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
And then I made it like oh no, I have to go back to
the house right now.
Yeah, I could have definitelydone that type of thing.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yeah, that's not the same.
Sure, I've done that before.
Sorry y'all, Definitely.
I mean I was ready to go.
My husband was like this ishonestly the best answer you can
excuse, you can say becauseit's real, Like yes, Like you're
not lying, it's a lie.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Because they always need you.
Yes, you're like I got to go tokids, kids first, or I don't.
When I don't, that's what I do.
When I don't feel like findinga sitter, I'll just be like, ah,
I can't because I don't have asitter.
I didn't try.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
What about your parents?
That happens.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Oh yeah, no, Well, I don't live with close-up animals
.
Oh OK, so you can't say thatyeah.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
So it's like, so it's legit.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
So it's cheesy yeah dang Like.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
I'm telling you so, anybody who's heard that from my
head.
It's the truth, it is the truth, it's the truth.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Ok, me next.
Sorry y'all.
All right, Did your intimacychange after baby?
Speaker 1 (06:10):
I would say middle, middle.
Yeah, I think we're on the samelike mental direction, with our
intimacy.
I feel, like we're very honestand open about how we feel with
our intimacy.
So I feel like it's the same,but yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I think we're more tired.
Yeah, I was gonna say.
That was literally what I wasgonna say we're just tired, so
I'm like you tired me too, okay,goodnight.
Yeah, perfect, and that's whatit is.
It's like I'm tired, it'smutual.
But if you want to, I wouldyeah, you good, okay, great.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
I'm not gonna hold you, I mean waiting for him to
be like I'm tired, like good,but you gotta pretend like
you're the one ready so you'renot the only one saying no, you
be like I mean.
I was ready.
I was ready, I mean, I was good.
And you'll be like okay andyou're like wait, no, I can't
wait to go for a sit down.
If I say I'm ready, then he'simmediately untired, Immediately
untired.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Yeah, being tired is the real thing.
You don't want to do anything,I just wanna sleep.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Oh my gosh, just lay there.
Okay.
So do you believe it's possiblefor parents to parent equally?
No, no, no, I don't.
I always say you could be thebest father in the world and I'm
gonna say, like in a two parenthousehold because I don't know
if it's like a single father anda mother no longer exists than
(07:25):
maybe he does.
But in a two parent household,no, and I don't care how much,
it's just different.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
I agree it's tough.
I feel like everyone,especially your significant
other they could be raised adifferent way.
Everyone's just different.
So you kind of have to figureit out together, and that was
one thing I feel that was achallenge in our relationship
was figuring out the roles andthe responsibilities for each
other.
For me, I'm gonna end upwanting to do everything.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
And then you will get to do more than you should.
You will get to do, and thenyou get a little resentful.
You don't want to, but youcan't help it.
They're sleeping and you'relike I'm awake.
Two am, five am.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
So I think it's a conversation we had to have so
that we can both be happy.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
And I think too, it's just never going to be equal in
totality, like in life when wealways say like 80, 20.
So there's gonna be a time inlife or a season where he's able
to give 80 and I'm only able togive 20.
And then vice versa Right now,when we travel and all that
stuff, I'm giving a lot lessthan 80 and he has to pick up
(08:29):
this lack, and that's.
We just keep looking.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
I mean, that's honestly.
I feel like that's what keepsour relationship happy, and the
fact that you guys can do thatand balance each other is so
important.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Yeah, because the more 50-50 is just everybody
sitting there and their cells upfor failure.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
No, I just know if I leave the house, I have prepared
100 things for him.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Yes, let the house Nothing, yeah, nothing Like you
got like a course, like what.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
That too I didn't even think about that.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Like when I do leave, I still prep so many things.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
So you did the other 30% before.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Yeah, yep, I did.
That's crazy, that's true.
Okay, let's see.
Do you believe you've masteredthe work-life balance?
I feel like I'm here again.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
I feel like I'm still learning to balance everything,
because every day is sodifferent, the baby's changing
and some nights she will befussier than others.
I feel like I'm still learningto balance everything.
And also with our lifestyle,social media, especially with
the things that go on what'strending, what's happening.
(09:37):
We try to balance what's thepriority to talk about, what
content is trending on TikTok,or we need to do this video
because this is going viral.
So I feel like it's just abalance of everything and
sometimes, out of nowhere,things can happen with real life
stuff.
So we just try to keep up witheverything and we have a good
rhythm.
I feel like the thing is that'sreally hard as a creator.
(09:59):
You don't have aclock-in-clock-out situation, so
you just can keep going, andthere was a time where I feel
like I ran myself to the ground,where I have no breaks, and
even my breaks is me editing inmy phone.
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Especially when your partner is your husband and your
family.
So you really never yeah forsure.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
I feel like we had to figure out a schedule that was
healthy for both of us, whereMonday through Friday we're
working Weekends, we have toturn off our phones or just at
least put it aside and make surewe're in the presence of art,
with our family and beingpresent.
So I think it's super important, and I've also learned to
capture content and put my phonedown and edit later.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Because it's so hard.
Does it ever make you?
Speaker 1 (10:41):
I mean, I used to, but it's so refreshing to be in
the moment and to just enjoy.
And a lot of my family membersare like I don't know how you
get this content.
And then you come up with thiswhole video at the end Like how
are you filming?
And you were here, so I've justlearned how to just get it and
put my phone down so I canreally be involved.
But I feel like I've masteredit, but I'm still learning with
the new lifestyle and thechallenges that happen.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
No, I said no.
You know I don't believe inwork-life balance.
It's like balance means even tome.
I believe in work-lifeintegration.
You figure out how to makesomething work and you know if I
have to work more for two weeksand then, like, I have to
figure out later on or maybe itnever gets because there is no
balance, it doesn't get balancedlater and sometimes stuff is a
(11:26):
lot more upfront so you can havethat time later on.
But I'm a work-at-home, youknow, entrepreneur as well, so
it's easy to make every singleday a work day.
But you can also control yourschedule.
It's when you no longer feellike you can control it, when
you let your schedule startcontrolling you.
(11:46):
And you have to remind yourself,like I would tell my husband
all the time I'm like they can'tdo it without you.
So like if they got to wait,they have to wait, and if they
keep going then you know thatmight not be the thing for you.
So not being afraid of likelosing an opportunity because
you turned off, but you alsojust have to understand.
Sometimes, because you're tryingto build something, I'm going
(12:07):
to be working more than I will,you know, two years from now or
three years from now, and that'sgot to be okay, right.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah, I think for me, I would say I've mastered the
idea of work-life balance and Iam so close to really really
being strong in boundaries,because that's really what it's
all about.
Yes, and boundaries, especially,like Blair said, like being an
entrepreneur working from homeand really and you two like
(12:34):
never really cutting off isreally about where the
boundaries are and having thatbalance.
And I love that you use theword rhythm, because I use that
word all the time.
Yes, about just having therhythm.
Sometimes the rhythm isliterally like this Right, and
then sometimes the rhythm islike you know, a smooth jazz
type situation.
Yes, so I feel like I havemastered that, because I know
(12:57):
when my life is going to becrazy and then when my life is
going to be smooth.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I think, too, the journey of balancing and
mastering this whole jugglingsituation of how we have so much
is not feeling guilty taking abreak.
Yes, because I think, as youknow an entrepreneur and someone
that you just want to be thebest you could be and provide
and work and make sure you'redoing everything you need to do
to be the best version ofyourself.
It's so much pressure that youput on yourself where you feel
(13:25):
guilty to even take a breaksometimes, or when you.
Because my mom, she's such ahard worker.
I get my work ethic from mymother and I feel like she's
because my parents and Dawn'smom lives with us, yeah, and
they're retired.
They live with us.
We take care of them, but theyalso take care of us.
They cook, they clean, they doso much and help.
That's great, but seeing my momlike she never sits still and
(13:47):
so it makes me feel better.
I'm like I got to get up tooand like clean and help you
because you're over heregardening and brooming.
I want to blow the leaves and Ijust feel like I just always
want to make sure I'm doing mypart.
But I think the guilty part isthe most thing, the most
important thing where we don'tmake ourselves feel bad about
taking a break because it's soimportant Exactly.
Speaker 3 (14:05):
Because you would want your daughter to take a
break.
Yes, yes, like even if you arerunning around the house, and
this is probably what your momwants for you.
Like you don't want to see yourdaughter, like I'm running
around, so you don't have to runaround.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Yeah, you know yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
But it's easy to say that she's a little like.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
it's just so much.
She's gonna do the same thingLike mommy.
You make me want to work.
Yeah, exactly, it's so hard,though it is Because you want to
be great.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Yeah, I think that's the thing.
It's like, I'm like I'm notgreat yet, so I have to keep
going.
So that's, I feel that.
I feel that.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
I mean that answers the next question.
Oh my, gosh you did.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
The next question literally is about do you
experience mom guilt?
Oh yes, oh my god, mom guilt isso real.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Yes, I, oh my god, I get it.
I didn't understand it before.
Especially I feel it when Ileave the house, even for just
going to the grocery store,because I just want to be with
my baby and I think maybe it'syour firstborn?
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Because I'm like, I feel like I just want to be
there to help all the time,because, I don't know, maybe
it's mom guilt leaving her.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
I think it's different forms of mom guilt too
, because I will say I will runto the grocery store without my
kids, like I hate taking my kidsto the grocery store, to target
, I don't like taking them outto the stores and stuff.
I'm excited you also have threekids.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Yes, I'm gonna have one.
Yes.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
But it's different, like you know, different levels
to the mom guilt For sure.
Speaker 3 (15:28):
No, yeah, even my first.
I did not want to take themanywhere, but I have like
postpartum anxiety.
I was gonna say, part of it'salso like an evolutionary pool.
Yeah, you're still in yourpostpartum period, like you, so
that means you have hormonesrunning through you that keep
you close to your child and,like other hormones like if
you're depression or anxiety youcan feel like you don't want to
be or others.
So it's like, it's like anevolutionary bind that wants you
(15:51):
close to your daughter.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
So there's, you know I think I'll feel better when
she can communicate better.
Oh yes, so I can understand,because she's Zaya is a little,
I wouldn't say a hard baby, buta very particular baby.
She likes to be held a certainway.
Oh yes, I feel like she likesto face out.
My mommy knows and my mom doestoo, and it's funny and
(16:12):
interesting to live with my mom,with my baby, because I'm the
baby of the family and her babyhad a baby.
So her parenting and alsoteaching me, and I'm like I want
to do it this way and she'slike, well, you came out fine
and it's just oh, oh, oh.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
That is the conversation of generations.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Yes, so I mean there are obviously pros and cons
living with your family, butit's so much of a blessing for
me and Dawn so I, you know, feelthat it's just the best
situation for us, because evenwhen I leave I don't feel as bad
, because I know that they'rewatching and spending time with
her?
Yes, so you figure it outEspecially like you said, before
they can speak.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
I think that's one thing that did get to me.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Yeah, because you're like what is?
Speaker 3 (16:49):
wrong with you?
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Yeah, what age is it that they can really express?
Every child is different.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Okay, my first child.
She was speaking at like 10 anda half months, like she was
full sentences before she wasone.
Yeah, then my second childdidn't really talk for real
until she was like two and ahalf, wow.
And then my third, same as myfirst, wow.
He was talking by one.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
That's amazing.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
See every thing is different, but I understand that
, because if you leave them, ifsomething happens, you want them
to be able to explain andexpress themselves for sure,
exactly so.
Last question, and then we aredone with the game.
Do you still prioritize girltime, or do you seldom get to
enjoy it Since?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
you've been on one.
I do.
Okay, I do.
How do you do that?
Speaker 3 (17:37):
I said yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Yes, especially in this past You've been doing
great.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Yeah, I've been doing really great.
Well, this is my girl timeright now.
Yeah, this is the one.
I prioritized it.
Yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
And I come from a family with three girls.
I have two older sisters and Ihave such an amazing bond with
my girls and also a lot of mygirls have kids, oh good.
So we all come together and dodinners, and there's been a lot
of birthdays.
So I feel like when I feel likebecoming a mom, I move with
more intention and purpose,where my time has to make sense.
Yes, or else it's going to heror I'm sleeping.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Yes, because I don't get no sleep.
Yes, yes, yes, I love that.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
I feel like me and the girls do try to prioritize
our best to have dinners or evenmovie nights.
So I feel like it is important.
You know my girls are importantto me.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
I love that.
Yes, I try.
That's really good.
Well, I want to ask you,because you are, you know, the
social media influencer.
You ran down the list of allthe things that you do, but what
is something that your audiencedoesn't get to see often, or
something that you would love totalk about more but you don't
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get to talk about as often asyou would like?
Speaker 1 (18:45):
You know I so I grew up in a Christian household.
My dad was a pastor and Iactually like talking about my
faith, talking about just myfaith walk honestly.
Like social media, there's somany other things that we talk
about, but no one really asksabout that part, even if I talk
about it a little bit people,it's just not like the hot topic
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, but I would love to talk aboutit more because I feel like
it's a big part of my life.
Growing up and living out herein LA, that was my number.
One thing is my faith.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
That's a good thing.
Well, you got two Christiangirls over here I do.
I'm gonna ask, like, how do youstay focused on it, especially
in somewhere like LA, especially?
Speaker 1 (19:23):
It is a challenge because moving to LA, there's so
many distractions and you justwant to especially make and
build relationships withdifferent people and I feel like
the most important thing to memoving out to LA is making sure
that you focus on your purposeand not letting anyone or anyone
take you away from what youknow, that you want.
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I feel like when you come to LA, you got to already know what
you want to do and who you are.
Yes, who you are and being okaywith who you are and expressing
who you are to the people thatyou meet.
But at the same time, you knowyou, you realize you meet people
, you go through experiencesthat can also shift and change
your mindset, but also stayingtrue to who you are through that
experience, because you know,you think about it, you're not
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the same person you were a yearago.
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Two years ago, three years ago At all.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
So being yourself is always a challenge too, because
you're evolving constantly andexperiences always change you
and your perspective in life.
And being a mom it's like, yeah, I feel like I care so much
more about the most importantthings I didn't really think
about before, like the respectthat I have more for my mom,
like you've been doing these forme before I can remember, I
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think, church, having a goodcircle of friends and being
consistent with whatever youfeel that helps you stay
grounded.
If it's hanging out with yourfriends, that and going to Bible
study or church or journaling,I think it's just important to
do those things that keep yougrounded, because there's going
to be times where you'll bepulled so many ways and you just
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have to make sure you'realigned, and I think that was
what helped me.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
To ever get off the walk because, especially being a
PK, like sometimes, you fightagainst it.
Yep.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
I for sure have, and I think that you feel that
conviction in your heart whereyou're like you know what I
don't feel right and God willtell you in certain
circumstances and conversationswhere this isn't really me, you
know, and I feel also I've beenjudged and some of my family
members are like, oh, you're aChristian girl, why are you
going to LA?
This is the most like, this isthe devil's playground.
Why are you here?
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And my dad was the biggestsupporter for that and
expressing to me, saying youknow, you are a light and you
have to go to a dark place to bea light.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
Jesus was hanging out with all the people With all
the folks, if you're in a churchwith all the other people like
you know.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
Yeah, so I think that's um, that's what I would
have to say.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Well, I would ask you , though you said you want to
talk about it more Is theresomething that kind of hinders
you from talking about it morewhere you feel like, because
there's such judgment or becausemaybe it's not the hot topic,
that you kind of shy away fromit, or even the fact that, like
I think too, there is somecookie cutter version of what
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people think a Christian womanis supposed to look like.
And so we get this idea in ourhead and then when we see
something different, it's likeit's kind of shocking.
But I would say I would thinkthat if people saw you talk more
about it, you would inspirewomen who are like oh my gosh,
she looks like me, and so thisis possible.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
You can also scare people away because people
Christianity's like had such anegative like feeling sometimes
with people growing up Iremember I saw I grew up in a
Christian school, that I went toa public school freshman year,
but I used to be like, liketalking to my dad, I'm like dad,
I just want to talk to herabout God and she doesn't want
to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
And my dad's like you can't force people.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
I've learned you can't bang people on the Bible.
Your example is who you are andwhat you reflect is just the
reflection of what you want toteach.
So I'm just like I don't haveto say his name.
If I'm just living thislifestyle and sharing it and
then eventually, hopefully, likeeven someone wants to talk
about it, you talk about it.
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But I've been freely talkingabout it on social media here
and there.
Again, I don't want to be apreacher, that's not like unless
I feel that that's my callingin that situation.
But I always try to sneak it inin conversations where I feel
that can be relatable andhelpful for people that are
searching for that kind of lightor conversation.
But for my content, I try toalways showcase love, showcase
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just being a good person andshowcasing the love that I have
for my family and, yeah, justreflecting through example.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
I think if more people do that, I think you know
we can make Jesus cool you know.
Jesus is cool Because peoplehave been so anti-religious
because they think, oh, they'reso judgmental.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
They're like oh, you didn't know.
Like.
Speaker 3 (23:57):
I'm Christian and I love you.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
I love you, and that's why we do what we do,
even on our platform.
Like everybody knows if you'vebeen following us for a while we
love the.
Lord, it's very important to beable to show that it doesn't
have to look a certain way, andwe are the light and you know.
Whatever you think is differentabout us is because we know the
Lord.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Yes, right, it's the light.
Speaker 3 (24:18):
Yes, I'll say we're faith-based, not necessarily
faith-forward.
Yes, Like you know, unless Godsays, talk about it be it fun,
but otherwise you're going toget it.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
It's going to come out different people you
mentioned.
You're not even the same personas you were a year ago.
So let's talk about yourevolution over the last 10 years
.
The last 10 years Because youwere.
Was it at a car dealership?
Speaker 1 (24:43):
I've worked so many jobs.
The car dealership was the lastjob I was working before I did
social media.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
Okay, and so, like, from there to now, like, could
you have imagined it?
And then, how do you, how doyou think you've gotten here?
Speaker 1 (24:58):
You know.
So, looking back, thinkingabout the Lee Ann that just
moved out here, I mean, thiswhole journey was a roller
coaster.
It was never smooth.
I feel that I've always beendiscovering myself in every
chapter of my life and I thinkthat when I moved out here I
remembered this was beforesocial media.
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The main advice was like youjust got to go out there.
You got a network.
You got a network.
And how do you network?
You just go to these events andyou have to go to these red
carpet events and dance classes,acting classes.
It's just so many things thatyou want to put your foot in the
door so that you can buildrelationships.
So that's what I pretty muchdid at first, just till I found
something that clicked with me,Because when you come to LA, you
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just have stars in your eyesLike I'm here.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
This is it.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
I'm going to make my dreams a reality.
This is what God is calling meto do.
You're just so excited and ithits you real quick.
Reality it is not easy.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
There's so many people.
I gave everybody the same dream.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Right.
I'm like, hey, this girl'stelling me to this person and
it's like it feels like whatpeople were saying growing up.
They're like it's too much of acompetition when you move to LA
, it's not realistic, you'regoing to come back and move back
to Modesto.
So, again, my faith reallyhelped me stay focused and I
felt that this is my purpose andI'm going to really succeed and
figure it out whether, if ittakes me, however long it takes
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me.
My mom was like let's just thinkof it as a college trip where
you go for a few years and comeright back if it doesn't work
out.
But they still supported me,especially being Filipino.
I know my Filipinos can feel mebecause they want you to be a
nurse or a doctor, anything inthe medical field, and I just
didn't feel like that was whatmy heart wanted to do.
(26:40):
And so, again, moving out here,taking all these classes, my
first job was Island Burger,which I loved because I got some
free fries, and then also Iwalkano, then a tanning salon
job, then I was an independentcontractor delivering totes and
boxes from the airport.
It's just so many differentthings, people do not know who
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they got Boxing.
Wow, and I got to do red carpethosting.
I was able to do what else?
I've just done so manydifferent things in the industry
just to meet people.
So from a hopeful dreamer to goget her really focusing and
working so hard and facing myfears like head on, I'm like I'm
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going to figure it out and I'mgoing to fake it till I make it,
because I remember YouTube.
I was doing YouTube and it's socrazy because I used to do just
this and pretend I'm gettinginterviewed from someone.
So I'll be looking like this ohfor that question, you know,
and now I'm really gettinginterviews.
I just really cool, but I usedto fake my interviews to make it
seem as I was you know somebody.
(27:46):
Oh, I see You're preparing, likeyou said, fake it till you make
it and so doing that and tryingto understand the industry and
meeting different producers, andI mean I just love the creative
art of just everything inHollywood, but it does come with
something, you know you got toreally figure out, you know what
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you want.
And so I was working a part timeat the dealership in Burbank as
a car salesman and on theweekends I was touring as a
backup singer for this artist,dev, which was an amazing
opportunity for me because I wastraveling.
That was my first time I wentto the Philippines and traveled
and performed, so I was able tohave these opportunities,
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traveling and just, you know,living this dream, enjoying to
do, you know, things outside ofan office.
I always wanted to just becreative and, you know, just do
what I enjoy doing.
And so from then on, I rememberfrom the dealership, my lunch
break I'd run and do Vine videosat my friend's house.
So Vine was pretty much whatallowed me to accumulate
(28:49):
millions of followers, whichoverflowed to Instagram and
there was no TikTok at the time,it was called Musically.
Speaker 2 (28:57):
That's what I remember.
Okay, that's what me and Laylaused to be.
Okay, and Musically was fun too.
It was a fun time so.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
I just remembered every app that came out.
I'm going to go on it and I'mgoing to try to just build a
following, and I feel like justthat hustle inside me allowed me
to be able to build thefollowing.
And I don't want to fastforward to now but through that
journey, just constant videosbeing consistent with content
and really being intentionalwith what I want my viewers to
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watch me for.
Like, okay, I want to do beauty,I want to do fashion.
So I'm going to startincorporating that and even
though I didn't know how to domakeup, I'm taught.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
I literally had to teach myself how to do.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
No girl, I did not.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
You know how to do it .
No, I'm like she did this.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
Okay, I'm going to do that wing too and figure it out
, come on.
So literally I just figured itout and took one step at a time,
and that's pretty much how Igot here.
It's just, there's so manydifferent opportunities that God
will open doors for you whenyou allow yourself to just go
for it, yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
So I think that's like proof, though, because we
always get a bunch of questionsfrom moms that are like how do I
know when to start and how todo it?
Really, it sounds like youdidn't think too hard, you just
went for it, and you know that'sthe thing about faith too.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
I was saying you can't.
You just have to just havefaith and trust in God and also
trust in yourself.
If you feel that it's somethingright for you, you'll know if
it's right or wrong, and even ifyou make mistakes.
There are some things that I'veexperienced like I could have
done this, but everythinghappens for a reason.
I'm a strong believer in thatand I mean, if you make a
mistake, you learn from it.
So I think everything has itspurpose.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Yeah, Now, as far as all of your things that you've
been doing, and all the workthat you have done and goals and
passions and going after all ofthose things now that you're a
mom, has that changed at all?
Is your passion a little bitstronger or do you feel like
you're ready to pull back sothat you can focus on your
daughter?
What's it like now?
Speaker 1 (30:55):
I'm definitely more driven.
Okay, I'm more hungry, I'm morecreative, because I'm like this
is great content that I canshare.
Because now I'm a mom yeah, Ican relate to moms out there.
Speaker 3 (31:07):
And I think the mom part.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
No.
I can make that and it's so fun, like me and my husband have so
much fun doing content,especially with my daughter
we're doing, and it's soannoying when people are like,
oh my God, your daughter, you'remaking her work already and
it's like she's not doinganything.
But she loves the camera too.
Yeah, anytime I put like thephone up, she'll try to get in
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front and just play with myphone.
I can feel that she enjoys it.
You know, so I've just been somuch more hungrier and driven
ever since I've had a baby.
I love that, yeah.
Speaker 3 (31:42):
Having you and your husband focus on your
relationship, because when youwork with somebody and I've
realized that working with myhusband is so easy to make
everything about work and youthink your relationship might be
strong.
Or what have you?
Because we talk all the time,we're with each other all the
time and then you realize likeit's a lot of work.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
We've had this conversation actually not that
long ago, maybe like a few weeksago and it's like you have to
constantly remind your partnerthat you have to remember to
have romance.
You have to communicate yourfeelings.
We have our check-ins like howare you feeling?
And also making sure we balanceour us time.
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Even when we're tired, we tryto at least with at least even
having dinner at the house, justyou and me, and maybe having my
parents look after her.
It's definitely been a challengethat we're still learning and
juggling and trying to balancethe time that we have together,
but we just enjoy being togetherwith my daughter.
It's like our us time.
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We'll get it when we can, butat the same time, we have to
make priority Exactly but forwhat we do at home.
We're so blessed to work fromhome, so we have the freedom to
be able to have that us time andhave our family time.
But we just communicatecommunication and just really
understanding each other'sfeelings, and I'm so grateful my
husband's so good at listeningto me when I do feel like
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there's something that I'mfeeling.
So yeah, it's not perfect.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
We have our discussions but for the most
part it's good that wecommunicate through everything.
Speaker 3 (33:16):
Well, that makes sense, so I was gonna also ask.
One thing that really impressedme about you was when you broke
up with your husband.
Like when you were dating andyou broke up with him and I
thought that was like such astrong stance, Like obviously it
wasn't easy, but what made youlike we're gonna break up, Like
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I'm not just gonna forgive youand we're gonna keep moving?
Speaker 1 (33:40):
In relationships, especially in Hollywood.
You meet people in the industrythat are beautiful and talented
and I feel like it's so hard tofind something so pure and real
in the Hollywood industrybecause everyone's always
looking for the latest, thegreatest, the youngest, the
richest, like it's just so muchcompetition.
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But when you do find someonethat has the same morals and
values and also loves you forwho you are, and you know that
that person's a good person, youwant to connect with that
person.
You end up building arelationship, which is with Don.
It's interesting because I methim when he got off America's
Next Top Model and I'm thinking,oh my God, he's so probably
conceited and all this.
And we were friends for threeyears before we started dating.
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And through our relationship, Ithink the challenge was when
someone that is in the industrywith you, they live this
lifestyle that is one foot in,one foot out, I feel, because
it's hard to transition frombeing a person that is in the
industry living this lifestyleDon was a rapper, he's out
clubbing and all that stuff andthen for him to transition to
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becoming a committed husband,especially not having a male
role model in his life and nothaving the proper guidance.
He has these habits and thegenerational curses, and these
are things that I had to learnafter I broke up with Don as to
why he is the way he is and howthe arguments that we had faced
and is it me?
Is there something wrong?
Speaker 2 (35:05):
with me.
I don't understand.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
I thought I was a great girlfriend.
All these things can happen andcause you to question so many
things.
But there comes a point in yourlife where you're with somebody
and if something is not workingand you're just unhappy about
something or break the trust,you get fed up.
You get to a point where you'relike I'm done, it's over, I'm
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out, and sometimes it takes timeto get to that point.
Speaker 2 (35:30):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
I've had girlfriends where, from the outside looking
in like girl, you need to leavethis toxic relationship.
But they will not leave untilthey've had enough.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
So it's like and everybody's enough is different.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
And some people are honestly settled and okay with
it.
Yeah, a lot, and I always wantto make sure that I am a great
influence and give hope to girlsout there that you can you can
step out of something that youfeel so deep in.
I felt like I dug myself in ahole and I couldn't get out, and
especially with Dawn.
We were together for four yearsbefore we broke up and my mom
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was so invested our families,everything, and that makes it
harder to be.
We lived together and to makethe decision.
I just said you know what I loveme too much to allow things to
be the way they are and I'mgonna leave and I'm out.
So it took a lot for me to getto that point.
But you know when enough isenough, when you get to that
point.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
Yeah, I think it's just really important not to
take somebody back becausethey've done all these things
and it seems like they did itbecause of just you Cause I
think it's like, okay, did youchange for you, or did you
change for me?
Cause how long is this changegoing to last?
You know what I?
Speaker 1 (36:41):
mean, and you know, I think for me I wasn't so
focused on him when we broke up.
It was more so that Idiscovered self love, like I
knew I loved myself, but no, Ifeel like I truly didn't love
myself, cause there were thingsin the relationship that I was
accepting that I don't know myworth.
I can't allow this to, you know, keep happening.
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And I feel like there was.
He proposed actually that sameyear and then I broke up with
him, so even when he proposed.
I'm like I don't even know if Iis this supposed to be the way I
feel, I'm unsure and I justdidn't feel 100% sure.
And it's completely normal theysay you can kind of have some
questions and doubts, but I justknew in my heart, I just wasn't
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sure because, again, I feellike our relationship, we were
happy, but I didn't feel like wewere completely ready for
marriage and there were thingsthat I feel that Don needed to
clean up in his life, of habitsand, again, generational curses,
and I think that the hardestthings to do is unlearn a lot of
the things that we were taughtin the generational things that
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you know we've experienced inlife.
And so I said you know what I'mreally going to focus on myself
.
I'm going to focus on self love, I'm going to really take care
of me and through the months ofour breakup I we both had the
same counselor that we wereworking with and he's been
working.
Shout out to Tony Gaskins, he'samazing, he's definitely helped
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and guide me through myexperiences of just the breakup
time.
And breakups are always so hardbecause you feel so much,
you're sad, you're happy, you're.
You know there's so manyemotions and then, at the same
time, everyone still talks aboutit because they're asking how
are you?
Speaker 3 (38:24):
And they bring it up.
Speaker 1 (38:25):
And it took me three months to finally share on
social media.
I feel like I owe that to them,because they've been so
supportive and invested in ourrelationship.
Where I have to say it.
Speaker 3 (38:35):
And so You're going to date publicly?
Yeah, like I need to knowpublicly and people notice.
Speaker 1 (38:39):
They're like how come you don't post with him anymore
, like because they're nottogether.
Speaker 2 (38:44):
But Kodo's to you, though, because I think, as a
woman, everybody wants to bemarried, everybody wants to get
proposed to, everybody wants tohave a man that's trying, and so
, to have that in front of youand still be like no, this is
still not right.
Kudo's, because I think itinspires women who are like okay
, no, I know what I feel in mygut, I'm trying to ignore it a
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lot of myself, but like no, youactually did it and you waited.
Speaker 1 (39:10):
It's so hard Cause I had well.
At the same time I feel likeit's I don't hate anyone, but I
hated him, so it allowed me tobe okay with this breakup and
even when he was working with mycounselor and he'll kind of
tell me like hey, you talked toDon.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
I'm like.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
no, he's like well, just to let you know, he's
writing a book.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
He's actually doing this now.
He's actually having, and I'mlike that's cool.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
I don't care, but the time when we had Cross Paths
again was for his book launchand my parents wanted to go and
our friends are still eachother's friends.
So, fast forward to sevenmonths later, we ended up going
my mom, was like, please can wejust stop by?
So we stopped by and we saw thebook.
He also asked permission beforemessaged and asked like, do you
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mind if I share our story?
I'm like, yeah, whatever, Idon't care.
So when we were there, Iremember him doing a public
apology and I just it was such apowerful apology that it takes
a lot and it takes a lot ofpause for a man to apologize in
public, Especially publicly, Tobe okay with being so
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transparent, and so I reallyappreciated that about him and
what he did and I did see thework that he's put in, but I
still wasn't like sold out oreven wanting to get back to him.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
You're always like that man, good for you, good for
you.
Speaker 3 (40:26):
And touch Yeng Little tear bye, right.
Speaker 1 (40:31):
So it had to be God to truly bring us back together,
because I was ready to justcompletely be okay without
seeing him ever again.
But again after that, throughtime he talked about even I want
to date you again.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
I'm a whole new man.
Speaker 1 (40:46):
I want to take you out, and we were just starting
from scratch.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
And.
Speaker 1 (40:50):
I feel like he was a whole new person and he quit
drinking.
He stopped smoking, he doesn'tgo out anymore and the thing is,
even if a man says that they'llstop doing that, it's really
important that they don't do itfor you again, like you said for
themselves.
He has no desire for that, andthat's I feel like.
You know, it was nice that hegenuinely didn't want to, and
(41:13):
until this day.
So he's been sober since then,which I'm so proud of him,
Because that's really congrats,he did the work, that's also God
.
Speaker 3 (41:21):
I feel like God really Does that be like.
If you want to drink, if youwant to do all the things, do
them.
Speaker 1 (41:25):
Yeah, enjoy them Without me, yes, without me, and
that's fine.
But don't pretend for me,because the moment, I'm not
enough for you.
Speaker 3 (41:33):
You're going to go back to those things.
Well, I've been doing all thisstuff to win you back in to love
you and you're still actinglike this?
Speaker 2 (41:40):
Because then they hanging over your head?
Yeah, because I did it for you.
Speaker 3 (41:42):
First, psychology it's like no.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
Yeah, and then doing it.
Speaker 3 (41:46):
They're not doing anything for you.
Yeah, they're gaslighting you,yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:49):
Pretty much, and being public was also tough
because a lot of people havetheir opinions.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
And a lot of people feel entitled they're like oh,
you should have said combat.
Speaker 1 (41:59):
I know you Did people say that oh my god, I'm not
sure to this day Till this daythey're like they're married, or
the kid where was?
Speaker 3 (42:03):
I.
They don't want them to behappy you know, I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
So at the end of the day, you just have to do what
makes you happy.
Of course, I think that wasreally what we focused on,
because when we, I remember wewere in Hawaii and we're like
we're going to post a video, areyou ready?
Like this is it?
We're going to share toeveryone that we're back
together, and I remember it wasValentine's Day and the comments
made me so sad.
Because a lot of people were soeither disappointed.
(42:29):
There's a lot of handful ofpeople that were so happy too.
So I just you know you can'tplease everyone, and I've just
again, so you still read thecomments?
Of course I do.
You guys are the reason why I'mhere.
I do read comments.
I do try my best to reply toeveryone.
I just don't like to reply tothe negative comments.
I give more energy to thepositive.
(42:50):
My parents will be the ones tocome for you all.
Speaker 3 (42:53):
She said look, I have to do more things and my mom
just said what.
You can't say that, but I saidit, so I guess I can man.
Speaker 2 (43:01):
Right, what would you say to someone who is actually
going through, you know, abreakup or really just kind of
they know they need to leave,but they're not ready?
Speaker 1 (43:14):
I created a whole plan for me because, oh, I
thought you meant for the girls.
I was like wow, when I broke up, I'm like, ok, this is what's
going to help me, because I knowwhen I start wanting to fall
back.
So, first, I remember I wrotemyself a love letter, so
literally writing yourself likedear Leigh Ann, you know your
(43:35):
worth, you're beautiful, you'restrong, like all the amazing
things that you are.
You write it to yourself, soevery time you feel weak, you
read it to yourself as if you'rereading it from someone.
Two, I made a playlist of allthe I'm single and I'm not going
back and all the breakup songs.
Put a playlist because thesongs will make you miss
somebody.
Yeah, so it's like I need tohave the counter the playlist
(43:57):
Also your friends, a circle ofpeople that support and love you
.
And it was so horrible becausewhen we broke up, it was 2020.
And I literally was in Mexico.
We're about to travel, I'mabout to be out, and then we had
to be in the house every day,exactly.
So I feel like that was Godforcing me to really face my
feelings and heal, becausethat's not masking my feelings
(44:20):
if I'm just going out andturning up with my girls, like
it's just not the best way, butI feel like it was honestly such
a healing journey and focusingon self-love and also this helps
too.
I don't know if it helps foreverybody, but I would write a
list of things why I shouldn'tgo back to that person or what
they did to me.
Do not let me go back.
So if I ever missed my ex orsomething, I'd say, ok, he did
(44:42):
this.
Speaker 3 (44:43):
Oh, why do you miss girl?
Speaker 2 (44:44):
Yes, so you write yourself a reminder of why you
guys broke up in the first place, because we'll easily forget
what you did yes, as soon as youmiss them, you guys live
together and have that person,yep, and you do not see them.
You have amnesia, all of asecond you have.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
I really had to make it clear that you cannot come
and see me, even if you say youforgot something at the house,
I'll leave and have my mom giveit to him, like I just really
made sure there were boundaries.
And what else did I do?
Speaker 3 (45:13):
I'd have been like oh I'm upstairs, you go downstairs
looking over.
Speaker 1 (45:17):
Yeah, and blocking.
I guess I blocked him, buteveryone has their own levels of
healing, and I think those arethe things that helped me.
Speaker 2 (45:25):
So, yeah, I think you set a good example for your
daughter Like you weren't eventhinking about children, because
when she's going to have herfirst breakup and you're going
to be like I got you, girl, Igot a plan.
Yes, exactly, I got the plan, Igot a plan, my daughter having
a boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (45:39):
I know, I literally cried the first week having her
and I'm like she's going to oneday get married.
Oh my god, dawn, yes, it's sowild.
Speaker 2 (45:47):
Yes, no, my stepdaughter has a boyfriend now
.
Speaker 3 (45:49):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (45:50):
I'm going to say that .
Speaker 1 (45:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (45:52):
I was like he looks like Soulja Boy, what With no
tattoos.
Oh my god, no tattoos.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
That's what it looks like to me, but yeah, that's so
weird, that's so weird, that'sso cute.
Did you tell her that?
Well, she didn't, she knows.
Now I told her that, yeah, I'llprobably tell her too.
Speaker 1 (46:05):
I just found out today, oh you did you heard it
here first?
Speaker 3 (46:08):
Yes, you heard it here first.
Did your goals change after youguys get back together?
Speaker 1 (46:14):
obviously yes.
Speaker 3 (46:16):
He did the work for himself.
They got back together, I think, did get married and had a
fabulous, fabulous wedding,thank you.
So did any of your goals changeonce you got married?
Because you've been hustling sohard for a decade and it's like
Leanne wants to do this and dothis.
But now you're a partnershipand I know you guys worked
together.
But like.
Speaker 1 (46:35):
I feel that our goals I think what's so beautiful for
me and my husband we have verysimilar goals.
We have the same end goal.
We definitely have hadconversations about our
direction in life, because Ifeel like you want to be with
your purpose, make someone thatalso supports your goals, and
(46:56):
Dawn has always been reallyunderstanding and supportive to
whatever I want to focus on,whether it's beauty or fashion,
and now, being a mom, like wejuggle everything and again I
feel like we shift and changewhat we want to focus on
depending on the season ofthings, and my goals, I feel,
(47:18):
are still the same.
I just still want to besuccessful and continue living
life with happiness and purpose,and I think for me, doing what
you love for a living is success.
Speaker 3 (47:30):
That's what I was going to ask you.
I was like, what's successful?
How do you know?
Speaker 1 (47:33):
Being at peace is success to me, and everyone has
different definitions of success, but to me that's what it is,
and especially having a baby.
Again, our priorities havechanged so much.
Everything is about our familyand our daughter.
And I just enjoy it so muchbecause now I can really utilize
everything that I'm goingthrough as topics and
(47:53):
conversations and content.
So whatever I'm struggling with, I add it and apply it to what
we're doing in our life.
So, it changes Now that we havea baby, now it's baby stuff.
Speaker 2 (48:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
So yeah.
Speaker 2 (48:05):
Well, last question what do you think moms actually
need?
Speaker 1 (48:09):
to hear.
Now, being a mom, I think thatwhat I feel they need to hear is
that you're doing an amazingjob.
You're doing an amazing job.
For you to question if you arebeing a good mom shows that you
are a good mom, and a lot ofmoms are so hard on themselves
especially me sometimes and Ithink that when you hear someone
(48:30):
actually just acknowledge thework that you do and the love
that you give, it's just you'rean amazing mom is what I want to
say.
Speaker 3 (48:38):
Yeah, I love that.
Before we go, is there anythingon your heart or anything on
your mind that you want to getout, that you haven't been able
to say?
Speaker 1 (48:46):
You know I feel like I've expressed everything of
that, but at the end of the day,happiness is priority.
I feel like a lot of people getso invested in everyone's
opinions in social media andbullying is real.
I think that the comments canreally get to you for anyone
that is wanting to be a creator.
(49:07):
I think that when you know thatyou feel whatever's in your
heart is what you want to do,don't let anyone shift you away
from that and do not take thecomments personal.
And if you're not doinganything right, I feel like
that's when comments will come.
You know you're doing somethingright.
If you got all the commentscoming at you, that's true, the
haters are real fans, really sodon't be discouraged.
Speaker 3 (49:28):
Right Wanted engagement Right.
Speaker 1 (49:29):
And I think that's the responsibility of being a
creator is you will get all thecrazy comments and opinions, and
again, that's how you just haveto be grounded in God and your
faith and your family, becauseeveryone's always going to have
something to say, so give themsomething to talk about.
Speaker 2 (49:43):
Serious, serious.
That's how you end it.
That is how you end thisepisode.
Speaker 3 (49:50):
Well, thank you so much.
I love having you here.
Thank you so much for having me.
Girls are amazing.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (49:56):
And congratulations for doing this amazing podcast.
This is so beautiful andempowering for women.
Thank you, we really appreciateit.
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (50:07):
Thank you, See you, hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom?
What's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom, what's up?
Hey Mom?
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