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Laura (00:01):
If your life was a
business, would you hire or fire
the person running it?
hello and welcome to money andcareer mastery from overwhelmed
to ownership.
I'm Laura Sexton, your abundanceand legacy coach here to help
you navigate the world of money,debt payoff, and career growth
with confidence and clarity.
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In this podcast, we'll tacklethe financial and career
challenges, holding you back,optimize your income and build
the freedom that comes with trueownership.
If you're ready to break freefrom overwhelm, create a budget
that aligns with your values anddesign a legacy that empowers
future generations.
You're in the right place.
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Hey, accelerators, I have aquick question.
Have you ever felt like yourlife was running you.
Instead of the other way around.
Your to-do list is piling up andit is transferring from one day
to another.
Your schedule is running rampantand the finances well, I'll take
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care of them later because Ijust don't have the time.
I realized that I was showing uplike an overworked assistant in
my own life.
I was running task to task withno vision, no authority, and
definitely no margin, and Ididn't like it.
When I took a step back, what Irealized was.
If my life was a business, Iwould definitely fire me.
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I would not be the one in chargeof making the decisions because
I was not doing a good job.
So many of us are overwhelmedbecause we're stuck in employee
mode, reacting instead ofleading.
But what if you stepped into therole of CEO in your own life?
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What decisions would change ifyou acted like the leader and
not just the doer?
Now, some of you may belistening to this and you are,
you are like, Laura, I haven'tworked in corporate in forever
and I don't understand how thisnecessarily lines up.
And I get it.
But it wasn't until I waslistening to a podcast, I have a
friend named Kelly Plummer whoruns that big CEO energy, and
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she just, on her podcast one daywas talking about what it's like
to be the CEO to go fromemployee in your business to the
CEO in your business.
And it hit me square between theeyes and I said, well, what if
that was my life?
What if I looked at my life thatway and I said, okay, this is a
business that I am running, andnot only is there a legacy
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impact to this where my kids arewatching me and I'm trying to do
the best I can for everybodythat's around me, but I realized
that I wanted to do the best forme and I wanted to do the best
for my spouse, and I wanted dothe best for my kids.
And I couldn't do that if I wasonly in reactionary mode.
What's crazy is that 94% ofAmerica's millionaires believe
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that they control their ownfuture, whereas the number of
people, non millionaires, thatbelieve they control their
future is slim margins less than25%.
What does that tell you?
Because what it tells me is thatif I want to be a millionaire, I
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need to realize that I'm incontrol of my own future.
I'm in control of my current.
I'm in control of my future.
I'm not in control of my past.
I can't do anything to changethat.
I can change my future.
What I need for you to realizeis that you are the only one
responsible for your legacy.
No one is coming to rescue you.
They're not going to budget foryou, and they're not going to
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make sure that your values showup on your calendar.
That is 100% you.
When I say that.
What comes to mind for you?
Because you may be starting tothink, well, I have this one
situation over here and no.
What I've learned this week,this is a really big lesson for
me.
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You can have a circumstance, butdon't let your circumstance
become your excuse.
When I realized, I was listeningto myself this week and I
started giving excuses, and Iwas like, oh, that's not, that's
not actually an excuse.
It's just a circumstance thatI'm in When I look at it that
way, and I say that's acircumstance.
From that circumstance, I cancontrol my thoughts.
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I can control my reactions.
I control, I control mypositive.
Actions, my negative actions.
If I look at it as acircumstance and not an excuse,
I can change it.
But if it's an excuse, it'sgonna stay over there and it's
gonna hold me back.
You are the only one responsiblefor your legacy.
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Your vision will leak withoutyour leadership.
You are the only one who seeswhat that vision is.
It will drain out of the side ofthe ship.
If you are not holding it insideof a container, you have to hold
your vision and you have to walkit out because no one is coming
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to do it for you.
Stop outsourcing your piece toother people's expectations.
What they want in their life isgreat for them.
It should not affect you.
You get to decide who gets avote in your life.
Now, maybe you're listening tome and you're like, yeah, I
think what Laura's saying iscorrect here, and maybe you're
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listening to me and you're like,absolutely not.
I'm not gonna listen to thislady anymore.
That's fine.
I believe that you are 100%capable of creating the outcome
that you wanna create.
We just have to do it one stepat a time.
It's not gonna happen overnight.
There is no get rich quick.
Get rich quick is almost alwaysa scam.
In fact, I'd say 99.9% of thetime, get rich quick is a scam.
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People fall out if they don'tknow what they are doing.
And if you think the only wayfor you to win is to get rich,
quick gambling, you know,Bitcoin, same thing.
You know, house flipping, anykind of scheme, it's not gonna
help you.
In fact, you were more likely toput yourself in a very
precarious or horriblesituation, then you are to
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actually win.
By trying to do things quickly.
You guys know slow and steadywins the race every time.
Every time I read the book, thetortoise wins.
So what does it look like tolead your house yourself, like a
CEO?
There're gonna be some simpleshifts that are gonna create
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some really big clarity here.
Okay?
The CEO plans ahead.
You are the CEO of your own lifeplan ahead.
Set your weekly rhythms, budgeton purpose.
Decide your calendar instead ofletting your habits decide for
you, instead of letting someoneelse tell you what you are and
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are not going to do.
The holidays are coming, myfriends.
You're the CEO of your family.
Plan ahead, decide what you aregoing to do ahead of time
instead of being in the heat ofthe moment.
And somebody goes, Hey, can youcome over?
And you're like, yeah, yeah, Ican't come over.
No problem.
And then you realize you'vetriple booked yourself.
That happens around holidaytimes.
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You have to be the CEO and youhave to plan ahead.
On the same token, A CEO willdelegate.
You have to let go of thingsthat other people can help you
with.
And I realize that this isn'teasy, especially for a lot of
moms where we wanna be able tosay that we can handle it all.
No, I got this.
I don't need any help.
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Can I tell you friends?
The most liberating thing in theentire world when somebody goes,
Hey, can I help you with that?
It's just saying, yes.
That would be amazing.
You have no idea.
I promise you, it makes life somuch better to accept the help
because not only are you gettinghelp for something that is hard,
you are getting to bless anotherperson by letting them help you
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and you get to do something withease that would've otherwise
been difficult.
I remember the first time that Isaid yes to help.
It was my daughter's birthday.
We were in the middle of COVIDand I was very pregnant with our
third child.
It was my eldest daughter'sbirthday.
I was tired and I was trying torun an outdoor social distance
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birthday party.
It was only two of our friendsand we were in a bubble together
and it was totally fine andsafe, but one of my friends
said, would you like me to helpyou set that up?
And I breathed cyber relief, andI was like, yes, that would be
absolutely amazing.
It was amazing.
I got so much help.
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It wasn't like I was asking themto build a fort or anything.
I needed help laying out paper'cause it was a paint party and
we were gonna let them walk onthe paper and paint with their
toes and paint with their handsand it was like a whole fun
thing.
The kids absolutely loved it,but I was having a hard time
getting down on the ground androlling the paper out.
They just asked if they couldhelp me, and it was so amazing.
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So now when people ask me, theyknow that I'm going to say yes.
They don't send out vague offersbecause I'm going to say, yes,
I'm going to delegate.
I delegate to my children.
I ask one of them to do thelaundry and one of them to do
the dishes, one of them to dothe silverware.
They all have a task.
One of them is their job to getthe plates set on the table,
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delegating, letting go of thingsthat other people can help you
with.
It gives you peace, it givesthem purpose, and everyone feels
better because of it.
Another thing A CEO will do is ACEO assesses regularly.
They look at the results, notjust the feelings.
They're hard facts.
They need to know actualnumbers.
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They're looking at the results.
What is the desired outcome?
That's the thing, the desiredoutcome, not what is right in
front of us.
Yes, we need to know what'sright in front of us, but if you
don't know the desired outcome,you can't measure what's right
in front of us as to whether ornot it's good or bad or making
progress.
You need to know as a CEO, whatyour desired outcome is, and
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then you need to assess thingsaround you regularly.
What is the state of your home?
Is that getting you to yourdesired outcome?
What is the state of yourfinances?
Is that getting you to yourdesired outcome?
What is the state of yourcalendar?
What is the state of yourrelationships?
Are we getting to our desiredoutcomes?
Having desired outcomes iswonderful, but if we're not
assessing regularly, we can'tdecide whether or not we're
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making progress.
You are the CEO of your life.
Assess things, determine whetheror not they're going well.
Change based on what's needed.
And lastly, A-C-C-E-O is goingto invest in growth.
Now it's growth financially.
Maybe you sit down with afinancial coach.
Maybe you sit down with aninvestment advisor.
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You invest in growthemotionally.
Maybe you're seeing a therapist.
You invest in growthspiritually.
Maybe you're a church more oftenthan you were before.
You're going to invest ingrowth.
Maybe you need a personaltrainer.
What I do know is that you doneed to invest in growth.
CEO of a business is not okay.
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Remaining stagnant, and youshould not be either.
No more languishing friends, nomore of that.
No, only moving forward.
It can be slow growth, it can belittle baby steps.
That's okay.
You need to constantly begrowing because if you're not
growing, you're dying.
And that is not what I want foryou.
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You need to sit down and audityour systems, audit your inputs,
ask yourself what's going great.
Let's double down on that.
Let's do it again and again, butwe also need to ask what's
broken?
What needs fixing?
Is your budget falling apart?
Do you not have time for rest?
Is there not enough margin inyour day, your money or any?
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If you get to the end of the dayand you are just broken, this
needs to get fixed.
Then ask yourself, what'scluttered and causing decision
fatigue?
Friends, I cannot decide what'sfor dinner anymore.
I cannot do it.
I'm too tired.
So I have invested in anutrition coach.
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I sit down with a nutritionistevery two weeks and we plan out
what's for dinner.
We make sure that it's helpingall of us grow.
The whole family is being fed.
Well continue to look ateverything in your life.
Audit your systems, audit yourinputs.
If you, if I am one of 9,000podcasts that you listen to
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weekly and you don't have timefor anything other than
listening to podcasts, you needto delete some of those other
podcasts'cause they're nothelping you.
You see what I did there Thatwas rather self-serving.
Your time, your money, yourenergy and your attention are
all assets that need to beassessed, that need to be
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growing.
You need to be ruthless aboutyour ROI, your return on
investment.
Are you spending your time onthings that count?
What about your attention?
Are you giving it to somethingimportant if you find that this
podcast could serve you well andit just needs one or two more
things, send me an email.
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I wanna make this count for you.
But I also wanna help you set upsome recurring systems that are
going to make sure that you'retying your money, your energy
and your attention are allgrowing in the way that you need
them to.
So that means money check-insevery week where you check in.
Is the money doing what I wantit to?
Am I behaving with my money?
Did I mess up somewhere?
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Did something come up that Iwasn't planning?
How can I move things around andmake sure that I stick within my
budget?
Have family meetings.
I love a family business meetingonce a week where we sit down
and we go over, this is what ourcalendar says, this is what our
finances say.
This is where I have margin thisweek.
This is where I'm gonna needsome extra help.
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Do a calendar reset, especiallyright now, especially right
before the holidays.
What is it that you want out ofyour holiday season?
Assess your calendar.
Decide how you want to allocateyour time.
Listen, CEO leading well doesnot mean that you are doing it
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all, but it does mean that youare doing the right things and
that you are doing the rightthings well.
So you need to ask yourself, ifI were CEO of my life, if I were
CEO of Elara, incorporated.
What would I change first, pickone area to lead yourself better
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this week.
Is it your money?
Is it your time, your margin,your boundaries?
What is it for you?
You as the CEO, determine thepath that you are going to take
you as the CEO determine whatneeds to be delegated.
Whether or not we're followingthe vision, we're growing in the
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right direction.
You get to make those decisions.
So pick one area to lead betterthis week, and don't forget to
block off 30 minutes for apersonal CEO check-in.
This can be journaling,planning, reflecting, whatever
it is you need to be doing.
But you need to be focused inone of the most powerful traits
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of a great leader, generosity.
Generosity of your money, yourtime, your talents.
So I'd like to invite you tojoin us inside the free Facebook
group coming in November.
We're going to have a seven daygenerosity challenge.
We're calling it Give thanks andgive back.
It's all about living fromoverflow with your time, with
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your money, your energy, andit's gonna start the first full
week of November.
The link is down in the shownotes and I'd love to see you
there.
Do not forget.
CEO, Mrs.
Manager, ma'am, your life andyour future is 100% up to you
and how you react to the thingsthat happen around you.
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I'm here for you and I cannotwait to watch you accelerate
your legacy.
So accelerators go out and makea difference.
thank you for spending time withus today on Money and Career
Mastery from Overwhelm toOwnership.
Remember, your legacy isn't justabout financial freedom.
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It's about living with purpose,taking action, and building a
foundation that lasts forgenerations.
Don't just listen, implementwhat you've learned and share it
with someone who could use afinancial or career
breakthrough.
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I'll be back next week with morestrategies to help you master
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your money and career.
Until then take ownership ofyour future and build your
legacy with intention.