October 9, 2025 • 56 mins
You don’t have a money mindset problem, babe… your body just doesn’t feel safe holding wealth yet. 🧠💰
Join 💸 Wealth Recalibration with me to recalibrate and recode your mind, body, and soul for money and abundance!
In this juicy, educational, and deeply personal episode, Samantha shares the truth about what was really blocking her abundance (and likely your,s too).
She reveals how years of journaling, visualizing, and affirmations didn’t move the needle until she understood what was happening inside her brain, body, and subconscious mind.
In this episode, we chat:
✨ Why your brain’s #1 job isn’t to make you rich… It’s to keep you safe
✨ How your nervous system can reject abundance even when you’re consciously asking for it
✨ What’s actually happening in your brain during overworking, overspending, guilt, control, and fear cycles
✨ How to reprogram your subconscious to hold more money, not just manifest it
✨ Lessons from the timeless wealth classics that changed Samantha’s life
💻 Resources & Links Mentioned in this episode:
💸 Wealth Recalibration - Learn how to recode and recalibrate your mind, body, and soul for money and abundance: https://www.samanthakozuch.com/wealth-recalibration-challenge
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📚 Books Mentioned & Key Lessons:
💎 The Science of Getting Rich – Wallace D. Wattles
Teaches that wealth is a creative process, not a competitive one. Samantha explains how your energy must be coherent and calm before you can “act in a certain way” that attracts riches.
💫 Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill
The power of faith-based action: success flows from belief and emotional certainty, not force. Samantha shows how overworking stems from fear… and how trust activates quantum results.
🧠 The Psychology of Money – Morgan Housel
True wealth has little to do with intelligence and everything to do with emotional behavior. Samantha breaks down how emotional safety determines your capacity to earn, keep, and grow money.
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(00:08):
Welcome to the Money, Mindset, and Manicures podcast, the
ultimate guide to building a life you're obsessed with.
I'm Samantha Kazuch, and I'm here to empower women just like
you to script your dreams into reality and create the life
you've always dreamed of. Get ready to be inspired,
motivated, and empowered as we elevate our lives together.
(00:37):
Hey, hey babe, welcome back to another episode of the Money
Mindset Manicures podcast. I want to start this episode by
saying something I wish someone had told me years ago, like
decades ago. Like everyone should have been
taught this when we were in school from a very, very young
age. But here we are.
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And I am teaching it to you in this episode because I know this
is going to bring you some relief around money.
And that is you do not have a money mindset problem.
Your body just doesn't feel safewith wealth yet.
And for years, I was doing all of the things from drilling,
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affirmations, visualization. I hustled really hard.
I went to college, I got my degree.
I'm the queen of personal development.
But no matter how much mindset work I did, no matter how hard I
worked, money felt inconsistent in my bank account.
I'd manifest a big launch or I'dwork really hard.
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When I had previous businesses in my 20s and I had lots of
different clients and students and all that sort of stuff.
It's like I would make money butit would instantly disappear.
Or I think I would just have to work harder, but then it wasn't
coming in as much as I wanted to.
All of it. It just seemed like I could not
relax around money and that's when I realized my body was
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living in survival mode while mymind was trying to manifest
overflow. And these two frequencies do not
match. So today I want to share with
you. I think there's like 5 stories,
5 situations, 5, I don't want tosay money problems, but just
five areas where I want to sharewith you to see.
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One, if you relate to this, two,if you struggle with this, and
if you do with either of those two things, then I want to open
your eyes to what's actually going on.
So I'm going to share with you the real story behind my money
breakthroughs, the science of what's happening in my brain and
body as well as yours, spirituallessons that really helped me
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rewire my patterns and some wisdom from some books that have
completely changed my life that I've read over the years.
And I kind of thought back to like, where were these pivotal
moments where I read something and I was all like, Oh my gosh,
that is me. And I started piercing a lot of
these things together. And some of my favorite books
that I highly recommend that youread is The Science of Getting
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Rich. Of course, you've probably heard
Think and Grow Rich. Read that one.
And then also the psychology of Money.
Because once I understood how mybody, now I'm saying body as in
nervous system, my subconscious and energy, how this is all
connected, everything started toshift and money started flowing
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in effortlessly. And even if or when I hit my
financial ceiling, because at every single transition, an area
of your life, like for example, you're going from, you know, 0K
to 2K to 5K to 10K to 20K to 50K, things start resurfacing.
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So what was really cool about learning this is that when I
felt that I was hitting the ceiling, when I would start
sabotaging myself or experiencing these five things
I'm going to cover today, I would be like, oh, there it is,
there it is. Let me go into my money block
toolbox and start working through this.
So I don't cap myself with income or I don't self sabotage
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myself with my finances because at the end of the day, it's not
that I started working harder, but it's because I felt safe and
receiving it. So you might want to grab a pen
and paper for this one and take some notes.
But this is an episode that I know is really going to help you
shift the way you look at money,how you act with money, how you
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feel with money and how it will start coming into your life.
And also if you feel by listening to this episode that
wow I really am struggling with this stuff, I really need some
help with rewriting my money story, with regulating how I act
and behave with money, then I highly recommend wealth
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recalibration and I've linked that below.
So get into wealth recalibration.
This is a 10 day series of audios and videos that's going
to help you shift reprogram and how you feel with money.
Because at the end of the day, if you do not feel good with
money, if you have anxiety around money, if you feel
stressed around money, if you feel angry with money, if you
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feel guilt around money, babe, there's no manifestation method
in the book that you will do that will help you manifest it
if you don't start regulating itin your body first.
This might be a little bit of a lengthy episode, but it's going
to be so worth it. So let's dive in.
So first, I want to kick this off with the science of why you
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actually block money. So here's what most people don't
understand. Your brain's number one job is
not to make you successful. It's to keep you safe.
Can you believe that? Can you believe that this smart,
intelligent organ that you have in your body, its number one job
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is just to keep you safe? Not successful.
Not successful because your subconscious mind, which runs
95% of your thoughts and behaviors, doesn't care if
you're wealthy. It only cares if you're
familiar. So when you set a new goal, your
brain automatically checks, is this familiar?
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Is this safe? Can we do this?
Is there a threat? That's what's running through
your brain. Even though your higher self
where you want to go, you want abetter life, you want to be
successful, you want to be happier, healthier, joyful, and
you want to do the things that make you feel good.
But if your brain does not see this new thing as being
familiar, it sees it as a threat.
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So if you grew up around struggle, inconsistency, or
lack, that becomes your brain's definition of safety.
This is crazy. And This is why it's
subconscious reprogramming is soimportant because most of us
unless I don't know, I mean, I feel like at some point you grew
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up feeling struggled, your lack probably.
So when you start earning, when you start earning more, when you
start expanding or even relaxing, your brain actually
freaks out because you're homeostasis And reminder, I'm
coming from like a medical background.
That's what I went to college for.
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But homeostasis basically just means like this is your normal,
this is your normal. This is level 0.
So if that level 0, you grew up and things were struggling and
this and this can take this to any single part of your life as
well, not just money, but like if there was struggle, if there
was lots of fighting in the household or arguing or no love
or those conversations of being broke and all those things, your
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brain started regulating that asyour homeostasis, as your
normal. So then insert you get a job,
you wanted to seek out success, you wanted to seek out love, you
wanted to seek out all these things that are going to make
you better. That's different because you're
like, I don't want to continue this shit.
I don't want to pass this on to my generations to come, my kids,
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my family. I don't want to live like this.
But what's happening then is your brain is actually sending
signals through your body that say danger, danger, danger.
We've never been here before. We haven't experienced this
before. What is this?
What is this wealth? What is this expansion?
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What is this relaxing? What is this feeling good?
This is not normal. Normal, normal, normal.
No, no, no, do not go. And then that's why you self
sabotage. That's why your money overflow
disappears. That's why you start to
overwork. It's not because you're broken.
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It's because your brain is trying to protect you.
And this is where the Science ofGetting Rich, the book, comes in
with this lesson. Wallace D Waddles, he's the
author, and he teaches that wealth isn't something we chase.
It's something we create throughthought and energy.
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Wow. Isn't this what we talk about in
manifestation all the time? We have to feel it in our body.
We have to visualize it and see it.
We create it through thought andenergy.
But what he doesn't say directly, and what I learned the
hard way is that you can't thinkor visualize your way and to
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overflow if your body is stuck in survival, you have to teach
your body that abundance is safe.
And that's when your energy starts to match your desire.
So I want you to just take a look at your life right now and
does it make sense what I just taught you?
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Like, doesn't that make sense? Because it does for me.
And I'm like, whoa, my whole life, you know, I could never
really tell that we were quote UN quote, not necessarily broke.
I had clothes on my back. I there was always food on the
table. We always had a place to live.
We always had air conditioning and electricity and those
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things, right? But I couldn't shop where all
the cool girls shopped at Abercrombie and Fitch and
Charlotte Russe and you know, all those stores, those cool
girls stores, No, because those jeans were $100.
Absolutely not. My mom would take us to Kmart
and I think Target too. And I grew up in Australia, so I
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don't think we had a, we didn't have a Walmart there, but you
know what I mean? So for me it was just like, OK,
this is this is normal. Not having the nice things was
normal. So think about in your life
where your homeostasis is, what is your normal that you have
been ingrained with that you have been taught And doesn't it
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make sense now that wow, when you've actually been wanting to
make more money or maybe you've been wanting to save, or maybe
you wanted to become more successful in your business.
And then you wonder, oh crap. Like I've been self sabotaging
myself because my brain is freaking out.
It's crazy. Which leads into what do we then
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start doing? Usually for me, I then was
taught, OK, if I just work harder, if I just go to school,
go to college, that's the ticketto success.
That is the ticket to money. Get that degree, I'm going to
get paid. So my first pattern was hustle.
I was addicted to working in my 20s after I graduated college
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and that lit a fire under my assbecause basically I did not go
to Med school how I was supposedto.
I basically throughout college and even high school, that's
what I was studying to go do. My parents, I'm first
generation. My parents were just like not
pushing me, but just like, that's what you go do to be
successful. Be a doctor, be a doctor, be a
lawyer, be, be something prestigious, right?
So in my 20s when I decided to not do that, I got addicted to
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working because I'm like, I needto just work really, really hard
because I need to outwork what Iwould do as a doctor.
So I remember so many times in my 20s where I would miss family
functions, stuff with the holidays.
Like I just remember so many fights even with my sister and
my parents when I couldn't show U for things because I had to
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work. I literally worked every effing
day, every day. And I was modeling, acting.
I was a spokesmodel for a lot ofdifferent companies.
I used to travel a lot. And mind you, I was an
independent contractor basically, which means you work
for yourself, you choose when you get to work.
I, it's not like I had a schedule or anything like that.
I decided and I decided that every single day I needed to
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work because if I didn't work, Iwouldn't make the money.
So I was addicted to working andI always thought success meant
doing more and then achieving more, being busy.
And even when money came in, I couldn't relax and I'd instantly
look for the next goal or the next launch or the next client
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or the next gig, the next milestone, whatever it was.
I would constantly be looking. And then also I realized this a
couple weeks ago, I was listening to a podcast and I
also realized that when I was little, and this is so crazy
because I'm still working through this to this effing day.
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So my parents, you know, they worked really hard.
They were immigrants. So I think my mom had two jobs
at one time. My dad worked really long hours.
And of course, me and my sister,we would go to school, come home
and we're kids. So when we weren't in sports,
we'd come home. We'd, you know, you know, we'd
watch our TV shows or play with our toys or just hang out or
whatever it was. And I just always remember when
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my dad would come home and he would get so angry, like if we
weren't doing homework or something like that, he would
get so angry. And that trained me that, oh,
dad's pulling into the garage. If even if we were watching TV
or playing with toys or something like that, like I
would go to my books or go pretend that I'm like busy
working, like studying. And I noticed still to this
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freaking day, still to this day,for example, if I'm home and
Mark leaves to go to the gym or something and he comes home and
I'll just be laying on the couchon on my phone, you know,
creating some tik toks or something like that.
Or just even just mindlessly scrolling on Instagram or
something. Like just not doing anything.
I would hear the garage open andI would like to jump up and act
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like I was busy cleaning or doing something.
And I'm, I'm noticing this and it's so crazy because 1.
He doesn't fucking care. Oh my God.
He doesn't care if I'm laying onthe couch.
Like he knows how hard I actually work when it's work
time. He has never said anything to
me. He has never ever ever inclined
that I am a lazy like ever. Like I'm telling you, this is so
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deeply rooted program from when I was a child that still pops
up. And I, I want mention this to my
sister a couple weeks ago when Ihad this realization and she's
all like, Oh my God, I do the same thing.
And it was just so crazy that I've had this realization and I
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know I do it, but it's wild thatI'm still trying to train myself
out of this behavior. But it is such a real thing
because at the end of the day, what I didn't realize was that
my brain was just addicted to the cortisol and the dopamine of
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this work hard mentality. Like every time I worked harder,
I got this chemical hit. It made me feel safe even if I
was burning out. So I wonder if you just like
work, work, work so hard, hard, hard, hard, hard.
And then all of a sudden it's you're just burnt out.
You're like, I'm so over this. I don't want to do this anymore.
This is boring. Yeah.
So in survival mode, your body confuses exhaustion with safety
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because it's familiar. That stillness, the rest, the
day off, the relaxation, those feel dangerous when your
identity is built around hustle.So if you have trouble just an
hour out of your day, going to relax.
Taking the day off to relax, if you feel guilt and shame around
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that, Oh my gosh, we have some reprogramming to do because this
is not normal. You should not feel guilty about
resting because I know you, babe, I know you're putting in
the work, you're putting in the hour somewhere.
But we have not been built or created to hustle and work 24/7.
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And then when I read, think and grow rich, Napoleon talks about
the principle of faith-based action.
So he teaches that wealth is built not from fear or force,
but from calm conviction, the belief that your desire will
manifest because you've already decided it will.
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And then I realized all those years I was acting from fear and
not faith. And again, we're tying this back
to manifestation. What do we say, right?
We need to be convicted in what we desire and what we are doing.
Once we declare it, it is decided.
And then we just need to take the inspired action.
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But if we're taking that action from fear from Oh my gosh, if I
do not do this every single day,all day for five hours, 10
hours, then I'm not going to be successful.
That's fear. That is fear.
There is such a fine line and difference between taking action
from fear and taking convicted action.
Like you were doing this becauseyou fucking, you know, like, you
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know, the text finds these couldhelp when you do this because at
the end of the day, like when I work on things in my business,
right, I could sit here in my office on my computer and my
phone for 10 hours doing stuff back-to-back to back-to-back to
back-to-back to back. But that's not working from
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conviction. That's fear and force.
I've gotten myself down to aboutfour hours of work per day and
anything outside of that, I don't really count.
Instagram and social media creating the content I create I
I consider in the four hours, but from like editing and
posting and na na, na, I, I don't I count that outside of
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that because that's more just kind of fun for me.
But just like real work, whetherI'm recording a podcast, writing
an e-mail, tapping into the community and answering
questions in there, creating content for the elevate her app
or for the manuscripting journal.
That's all in that four hours every day.
But I'm working with com conviction because I'm like, Oh,
I know these are the things I need to do today in order to
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move the needle along towards mygoals, But I don't need to sit
here thinking I have to work 10 hours a day every single day.
Otherwise everything's going to collapse.
No, that's fear. So where have you been acting
from fear and where have you been acting from convicted
faith? Because the moment I started
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slowing down and letting myself rest and allowing stillness to
feel safe, money started flowingwithout the grind.
And even to this day, I'll be real like there are times where
there is just quote UN quote nothing to do.
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And I'll find myself getting a little busy with a project.
And I'm also a manifester in human design, so I get lots of
downloads, all the effing time to create, to do like for
example, with the Mayor Scripting Journal.
Oh my gosh. Like I love being able to create
new products and everything for that.
I've had to hold back on so manyproduct ideas over the last year
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because I've been very streamlined on what's going on
with this company and where it'sgoing and what we're releasing,
which I'm really excited about because there's some things
coming out for the holidays thatare going to be really, really
great. But I get lots of ideas and then
I want to put them into action. But then that creates a lot of
work with those things. So I've had to also fine tune
and balance myself of like, Oh my gosh, Sam, if you just keep
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literally creating every single download that you get into this
physical 3D, like you will burn yourself out.
So I've also had to taper it back a little bit to allow
stillness to feel safe because for the first time when I
started doing all of this and really understanding and
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learning with my action behavior, my energy, where I was
putting it, am I feeling good? Am I burnt out?
Am I tired? Am I excited?
I'm exhausted. But my energy was matching the
vibration of trust and not tension.
And that's when everything really started shifting, which
made it feel so, so good. Interrupting this episode for
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OK, let's get back to the episode.
Are you the hustler? Are you the overworker?
Can you relax? And if not come into wealth
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recalibration, I'm going to be dropping that throughout this
entire episode because I struggled with this for way too
long. Way too long.
And I just wish I had learned this at least in my early 20s.
Like God, if you are in your early 20s right now or you know,
it's never too late to learn something new.
But gosh, y'all are so lucky forsocial media and YouTube and all
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these different tools and these things in your face to teach you
this awareness. Like I wish we had that.
But here we are today and maybe all of these things that I went
through in my life not maybe I'mpretty sure it's the reason I am
now here teaching you all of this.
So you can you know, quote UN quote, learn from my mistakes,
learn from my listens and not repeat them and to get ahead of
it. OK, so the third one of this is
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the overflow problem. What is the overall problem when
money comes in for you? Does it disappear just as fast?
Because this was the next pattern I had to face every time
I had money coming in. And in my 20s, I had really good
money coming in for a 20 year old, like in my 20s without
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having a corporate job. Like I was pretty sure I was
averaging like at least I want to save between 7:00 and 10:00
KA month. I think my highest month in my
20s was like 15 K and I was not selling products and courses and
that sort of stuff. By the way, this was just
modelling acting. I was a spokesmodel for
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companies. I, you know, it was, it was
cool. I was like making good money.
Like for me that was like crazy good.
But when it would come in, it just appeared just as fast.
I literally felt like I couldn'thold on to it.
And even though I was making minimum of 6 figures a year,
sometimes, you know, 150I maybe approach 200 at one point, maybe
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towards the end before I made really pivoted.
And that was crazy to let go of that income.
But that that was my one of my crazy pivot stories.
I was still 10s of thousands of dollars in debt.
I was living the life and then Istill had debt and then every
single month I was like, well I just need to work harder.
I just need to take 0 days off this time.
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Like none. Like just keep working more,
keep charging more. Like keep increasing,
increasing, increasing. I kept doing that and my income
kept growing. But how was it that I was still
landing in debt? And I was taught by the Dave
Ramsey's of the world that I hada spending problem.
I had a budget problem. I had a money mindset problem,
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but I didn't. What I learned is I had a
capacity problem because my subconscious didn't feel safe
having more than what I was familiar with.
So it found ways to get rid of the money.
New expenses, surprise bills, a treat yourself a moment that
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went way too far. I had the luxury car.
I had the luxury condo. I live by myself.
My freaking condo is like this gorgeous two-story place in
Scottsdale. It was fucking fire.
Oh my God, it was so fucking nice.
I had the BMW and I got BMW after BMWBMWI had the clothes.
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I travelled a lot, not just frommy job, but then outside of
that, I was just living the lifeand I was like, well, I'll just
keep working harder. Like it's fine, it's fine, it's
fine. But all of it was my body's way
of returning to its safety pointof being broke.
Because that's what I knew. The struggle, the constantly
chasing, that was normal. So if I ever had overflow, Oh my
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gosh, that that was, that was crazy.
That's now I would panic becauseI got to spend it.
So I got to keep on, keep the cycle moving.
And in The Psychology of Money, Morgan Household explains that
doing well with money isn't about intelligence.
It's about behavior. And behavior is driven by
emotion, not logic. So if your emotional baseline
associates overflow with instability, you'll always
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unconsciously return to struggle.
I had to teach my body to feel calm in abundance.
I had to celebrate receiving without waiting for the other
shoe to drop. And I also had to believe that
holding wealth was normal because so far, like in my
family and also growing up, I don't know about you, but money
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wasn't talked about. It was like rude.
So my parents didn't talk to me about money.
All my mom would ask me, are yousaving money?
Are you saving money? Are you saving money?
Are you saving money? And I'd be like, no, leave me
alone. I'm going to do the opposite
because you're annoying me. Like, literally, I wasn't sat
down and taught anything. I got credit cards.
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You know, I don't know how it istoday, but when I went at
college, I had credit cards justflooding into my mailbox.
I didn't apply for them. They just appeared, started
appearing in my mailbox. And I was like, oh fuck yeah,
$1000 spending spree. Yes, sign me up.
Oh, my gosh, this card's giving me $500 over here.
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Yes, I can use that this weekend.
Because, you know, when they send you credit cards for the
first time, they give you reallylow limits.
Like, I wonder if this is still legal to this day because, like,
this should be illegal. No child in their right mind, I
don't care if you're 18, whatever, going to college.
No, that's that's your kid. No child in their right mind
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should be having a credit card just sent to them without
somebody explaining what it is, how it works, the consequences
of it. You know, how to use it
responsibly. Like it's crazy.
Like I know why they do it. They want you to be in debt,
right? But it, it, it just blows my
mind. And my parents obviously didn't
know. Like I didn't tell them.
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I'm like, God, mom, I got this credit card.
No, I didn't have a relationshiplike that because we didn't talk
about money. I really had to lean into and
understand that everything that I've been experiencing my entire
life, and this is not at this point into my 30s, early 30s,
was like, wow, this isn't a budgeting problem.
I'm constantly fighting it against something that I
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literally cannot fix because that's not the problem.
So when I started to hold wealthlike it was normal, when I
started normalizing money to feel good, my bank account
stopped feeling like a roller coaster and it started feeling
like a home. So going into the next section,
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which is the good girl guilt when wanting more feels wrong.
This is another one that hit me really hard because every time I
levelled up, I moved into the dream apartment, bought
something luxurious, booked a trip.
Oh my gosh, I even totally forgot a couple years after I
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got out of college. Ended up buying a house that was
cool and then a couple of years later I bought it with the I
bought it but I had a boyfriend that moved in with me at the
time and it was crazy. Oh my gosh, the deep, the wounds
run so deep. But at the time the relationship
was not good. This is such a messy part of the
story. I'll explain this in another
story if you guys want to hear it.
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Anyway, so I bought this house, he moved in with me and then
like three years later, I ended up selling it because I bought
it during a down market. And then I ended up selling it,
made a decent profit on it, likealmost 6 figures profit on this
house. And no joke, literally that
money was gone I think within five months, if even way fast,
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on top of the money that I was already making in my business.
Like it was crazy. It was so crazy every time.
What I'm trying to say is, everytime I levelled up, I did the
things that I'm so excited for, but then I also felt guilty.
And then I felt guilty for wanting more.
And then I was like, who am I towant this much?
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And that guilt didn't come from logic.
It actually comes from your amygdala, which is the part of
your brain that scans for dangerbecause when it perceives
judgement or rejection, it floods your body with anxiety.
So even though I consciously wanted more and you may be
wanting more, but your body associated wealth with
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disapproval. So why don't you just think
about that, right? Like if your amygdala perceives
judgement or rejection, it's going to flood your body with
anxiety. So if you currently struggle
with anxiety, I want you to kindof take a look at like, I'm no
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doctor. Is there something or an area of
your life or things that you're trying to do where you feel like
people are going to judge you orreject you?
Because that's the part of your brain that's just scanning for
danger, right? So what if you started doing the
processes that I'm teaching in wealth calibration?
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And what if you could retrain your brain to not feel that way?
I have a feeling that your anxiety may go down.
Like, I'm no doctor, but I'm just saying because I feel like
there's a lot of people that saythey're anxious, that they have
anxiety, right? So you're, you're just
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constantly living in fear of something, fear of something not
happening, fear of being rejected, fear of being judged.
Interesting, isn't it? Even though I consciously wanted
more, my body associated wealth with disapproval.
Isn't that crazy? And then I revisited the book
The Science of Getting Rich, andthen something really clicked.
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Waddell says that the desire formore life, more beauty, more
abundance isn't greed, It's the divine urge of expansion.
And I say this all the time. I actually put up an Instagram
post this week talking about that.
You know, we're taught like having money, having more is
greedy. Don't you have enough?
When is enough enough? Enough is when my fucking
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highest self believes we have enough.
And guess what? We're always going to be
elevating. We always want to upgrade.
We always want to live a better life.
If we if it's possible to have more, why not?
There is nothing wrong with that.
There is nothing wrong with that.
Abundance isn't greed. When you think about this way,
when you have more money and I know you listening, you have a
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fantastic heart. You have such a big heart.
You are so much love and light. I know that when you have more
money, you're going to be able to give back more.
You're going to be able to help more people.
You're maybe going to be able todonate more.
You'll be able to give back. Maybe you'll be able to help
your family. There's so much good we can do
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when we have more money and moregood people in the world need to
fucking have money. But all the bad ones have taught
us no, it's greedy to have more money, no it's evil.
Money is fucking evil. Do not have more, it is bad.
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Think about where all these stories are coming from.
And I'm not just saying they came from your parents or people
around you growing up. Now this comes from a higher
agenda because imagine if good people had money in this world.
Imagine money doesn't make you evil, it just amplifies the
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person you already are. So if right now, like, right,
you're driving and you're like, oh, you see a homeless person,
you're like, they come up to your window and you're like,
fuck, like, I really want to give them a couple bucks, but Oh
my gosh, like I really need thiscouple bucks for laundry or I
really need this couple bucks tobuy my kid fucking dinner
tonight. I can't give this.
Imagine if you had so much abundance that you, yeah, you
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could give when you wanted to because you want to, right?
Just imagine. Just imagine.
But we are so ingrained with a lot of these negative money
philosophies in our minds that holds us back from being able to
hold wealth, and we sabotage ourselves with it.
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So this reframe really changed everything for me.
I realized that my Des, my desires weren't bad.
It was sacred, Those desires that you have out in the world.
Like just think about it. You want a certain car, you want
a certain house, you want a certain outfit, right?
You want those things. Like for me, fucking Lamborghini
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I'm staring at on my vision board right now.
It's crazy to me that I don't have it yet because I'm like,
this shit is coming into my lifeand I'm like, when the fuck is
this going to happen? But I'm like, I'm like, I know
I'm going to have 1. So for me, it's a Lamborghini.
It's having a beautiful huge home on a minimum of A1 acre
lot, not in a neighborhood. I want like big huge lot.
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Like I, I don't want to see my neighbor's house and then when
it comes to clothing and outfitslike that, I just want beautiful
structured clothing. I don't give a shit what brand
it is to be honest. I'm all about bags.
Like I love a good bag, give me the luxury label bags.
But clothes and stuff, I don't know.
I just don't care. I feel like I just know too much
about manufacturing at this point.
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I don't care. Same with bags, but whatever.
I, I, I'm a bad girl. I don't care much about branding
of shoes and stuff like that. Whatever and I love really good
jewelry. Like give me all the diamonds.
I love really good jewelry. So for me, those are my desires,
for example, right? Just, you know, physically.
But then there's so many other things like cars like, you know,
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like I don't care for Porsches, I don't care for Ferraris, I
don't care for, I don't know, whatever else, right?
Those are not my desire. My desire is a Lamborghini.
Isn't that interesting? So what is your desire?
There is a reason it's on your heart.
Maybe it's for a type of house, you know, for me, having a big
gorgeous home in the mountains, Oh my God, I love to visit it.
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But is that my desire to live inone of those?
No, Uh, uh, mine's probably going to be somewhere, I don't
know, close to the ocean, close to the beach.
It needs to be by a body of water, even if it doesn't has to
have a pool. But like, I know what my desire
is and I know what it's not. So isn't it interesting that you
have a certain preference? And I always love to think about
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it. Wow.
I feel like this desire is on myheart so heavy because literally
there's a fucking timeline of mealready living in it and I just
need to play catch up to merge with it.
So that's why I say, like your desires, they're not bad.
They're not greedy. It's because if they're leading
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you, they're golden bread crumbsbeing thrown back from your
higher self that, hey, this is where we're going.
Yeah, you're on the right track.Keep going, keep going.
This is it. So when I kind of started
looking at things in that perspective, I was like, oh,
this guilt that I had, it meltedinto gratitude.
I was all like, oh, my gosh, I'mso excited, so grateful.
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The shame turned into power. Like, yeah, this is where I'm
going. And I finally gave myself
permission to want it all, not to have it all, to want it all.
Are you giving yourself permission to want it?
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After you're done listening, let's get back to the show going
into the next one and we have two more or three more left, but
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the next one is the control loop.
Why we force when we don't trust?
Are you a control freak? I used to be.
I used to want to control everything.
I micromanage every client, every dollar, every launch.
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And I told myself it was becauseI was strategic.
I just knew what I wanted. But really it was fucking fear.
And when the brain senses uncertainty, it activates the
anterior cingulate cortex, whichis responsible for conflict and
worry. So This is why uncertainty feels
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physically uncomfortable. Your brain is literally trying
to keep you in the known. So what do we do with this?
We try to control outcomes, to feel safe.
But control is not safety, It isa temporary illusion.
The control actually keeps you from receiving what's available.
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And in the book Think and Grow Rich, Hill teaches that you have
to create a mental picture so, so vivid and hold it with such
unwavering faith that doubt cannot coexist.
Faith and control cannot live inthe same frequency.
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And this is when I knew that I still had some shit to do about
the Lamborghini because it was maybe like, I want to say like
at least six months ago, maybe it was last year.
And I was like getting really frustrated because we were
thinking about getting a new car.
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And Mark's like, well, let's just get the Lamborghini.
And I like to look at him and I'm like, what?
He's like, we can get the Lamborghini.
Like we have the cash and the funds, like why don't we just go
get it or at least like go test drive one and go check someone
some out. And he was being 100% serious.
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And I immediately my body went into full blown absolutely
fucking not like what you're crazy.
Like, no, this is no terrible, no uncomfortable.
No, it's here. No, we're not doing it.
Literally you guys. And I was like what the fuck?
I've literally had this Lamborghini on my vision board
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for my God since I was in my 20s.
And I literally had this reaction to my husband telling
me let's go get it. And my brain came up with a
million O 1 reasons why I shouldnot have it yet.
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How I'm not deserving of it yet.How I'm not worthy of it yet.
And I've been slowly peeling back the layers on that.
And there's honestly so many other things that are going into
this equation, which at the timeand even now, because, yeah,
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this happened last year, becauseit happened before a wedding.
I'm like, absolutely not like babe, like we literally have a
really expensive wedding coming up.
We have this, that and the other.
And for me, I was trying to be financially responsible a little
bit to be like, yes, I would love to do that.
Obviously not because I was fucking scared of shit, but also
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we had so many other things. And I know what the Lamborghini
is coming, but there was just somany other things.
I'm like, it would be so stupid honestly financially at this
point to go do that. Let's wait until.
But also side note, the way thatI felt in my body, I was like,
wow, I still have some deeper wounds to fucking figure out
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where the hell this is coming from and why do I not feel ready
or worthy. So I've been working through
those, which has been really fun, but honestly, it's because
the Lamborghini for me is a little bit down on the list
before other things that I want to do an accomplished with our
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finances first. So there's this funny,
interesting dance that I have right now with actually bringing
my manifestations to fruition, but then also in which order
that they come in. And some will say it's like,
well, if you have the opportunity, go get the thing.
But when it comes to playing around with these large amounts
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of money, you got to, you got tohave a little bit of logic with
it. So it's kind, but just know that
because I had that visceral reaction before the logic of,
wait, no, we have a wedding. We're going to pay for this.
Then we have the first, No, no, no, no, we can't get this car
yet. But because I had that visceral
reaction, I was like aware, Oh, I still have some work to do and
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I've been doing it all year and it's been feeling really, really
good. And the conversation of
Lamborghini has not come up yet.And that's for a whole other
different sorts of reasons. I'll tell you guys later and
soon, but I know it's on the horizon eventually, hopefully in
the next year, we'll see. But it's just been wild to now
understand this work and then gothrough an experience and then
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have a reaction, but then realize you're having the
reaction and then realize, Oh myGod, I know what I need to do
now. And that's what I believe is the
most important thing and why I wish this is taught to people at
a younger age. Because if I had these tools
back then, it's like yes, I, I would not have sabotaged myself
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as much as I did throughout the last 15 years because I would
know well if I'm self sabotagingmyself with money, if I'm not
able to relax, if I'm just spending as far as I can as much
as I can, you know, I knew what was happening, which at the time
I did not. All of this to say is like when
I finally learned to surrender, to release timelines, to stop
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forcing results and just trust the flow, I found that things
started working out faster than I could have planned.
And This is why with the Lamborghini, I'm like, I'm like
just letting it go right now andI'm not forcing it.
I could literally like we could if we wanted to, like go get
that thing tomorrow. But I'm like, there's a couple
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of the pieces of a puzzle that need to fit in and I'm not going
to go force it. I know the opportunity is going
to come up when it's supposed to.
And this is how opportunities doarise.
This is how clients come out of nowhere.
This is how money shows up for unexpected places because when
you stop forcing, you make spacefor miracles.
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And that's a really powerful place to be.
Got a couple more here left thatI really want to cover, but
they're really important. So let's get into from debt to
overflow. So at my lowest point I've
shared, I was I think at most $50,000 in debt.
This is just personal debt. I'm not talking about business
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debt for like managed to be journalist stuff like business
debt is so different. I'm talking about personal
spending debt, OK. And every time I would sit down
and pay a bill, whether that's opening up my banking app or
opening up, you know, a bill letter that come in, it's like
my heart would race, I'd panic, I'd spiral.
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And then what I would do is I would overwork to try and fix
it, which would lead to burnout all over again.
It's like, right. Are we understanding these
cycles now and then? What I didn't realize is when
you're in chronic stress, your brain is in fight or flight and
your limbic system takes over and blood flow literally moves
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away from the logical part of your brain, which is the
prefrontal cortex, into your survival centers.
So physically, you cannot make expansive creative money
decisions from that state. If you are chronically stressed
out, if you are constantly in fear, if you're a constantly
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anxious, if you're a constantly in fight or flight, you cannot
make expansive creative money decisions from that state.
And where do most people live inone of those states?
So no one really is making expansive creative money
decisions. We're all living in fear.
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We're all living in doubt. We're all living in scarcity and
if we are living in that, then there's no way you can become
successful because you will not make the decisions and moves to
be successful because you are stuck in fear.
It's crazy. Like do you hear this?
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Is this making sense? And in The Psychology of Money,
which I really hope, please bookmark all of these books that
I'm recommending. They are so good.
And if you're not a good reader,listen to them on Audible when
you're in the car. But in The Psychology of Money,
Household talks about how wealthis not about income.
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It's about emotional control. It's about staying calm when
everyone else is reactive. And this is when it hit me and I
don't need more income first, I need more internal safety.
And that's when I begin anchoring safety.
And This is why I do this through grounding, through
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breath work, through tapping, through inner dialogue, which is
like the guided meditations, thevisualizations inside the app.
Doing all of this shifted my energy.
This is how I'm able to have my body relax, and from that space,
overflow starts becoming naturalbecause my brain was no longer
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scanning for danger, it's scanning for opportunity.
When we focus on the things thatwe desire, we're going to see
the opportunities. If we're focusing on the things
we do not have, you're going to get more of that.
Isn't this interesting how you can tie all of this back to
manifestation law of attraction,right?
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You're going to attract what you're thinking about.
You're going to attract what youfeel because that is what your
brain is scanning for. So what are you attracting?
This is how you heal the survival brain.
And then last but not least, thescience, spirit and safety of
the integration of all of this. Here's where the truth of it all
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ties this together. You cannot think your way out of
dysregulation and you can't affirm your way out of fear.
You can't say all the affirmation, say all the
affirmations that you want, but deep down you're still in fear.
Lack scarcity like you have thatthat's your normal in your body.
You can't affirm your way out ofit.
You have to feel your way into safety because when your body
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feels safe, your mind will believe it.
When your mind believes, your actions are going to start
aligning because you're able to then take them.
And then when your actions align, your energy magnetizes.
It's as quote UN quote simple asthat.
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Because I learned that wealth iscreative energy that's
manifested. Faith and feeling are access
points to manifestation. And if you have emotional
mastery, you have a wealth mastery.
So when you combine those faith,feeling and safety, you become
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unstoppable. That's when money flows, not
because you chase it, but because you embody it.
So if you've listened to this episode and you're like, Oh my
gosh, whether you have all of these things or struggle with
all of these things, whether youstruggle with just the one or
whether you're like, wow, I don't know if I have any of
these or I'm I'm sure you do because these are the most
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common ones. And it's crazy.
It's like, I would love to know,do you have all of these like I
did or am I just like really special and got hit with the
with the money mallet of listen,you got to go through all these
lessons. Maybe that's why I'm here
teaching it all. I don't know, but I would love
to know like, is this is this normal?
Did you did you as well go through all of this?
But if you feel like you've beendoing all the manifesting and
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maybe you've been doing all the mindset work and you just feel
like you're still in the same place and you're not breaking
through that financial ceiling that you keep hitting, it's not
because you're not manifesting, right?
It's because your body and braindon't feel safe holding it.
So I urge you, like you have to,you have to join my wealth
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recalibration challenge because we're going beyond mindset.
We're rewriting the emotional, energetic, and some conscious
patterns that have kept you in survival mode so you can finally
feel safe and overflow. Because when safety becomes your
baseline, abundance becomes yourdefault.
So I want you to promise me like, don't just go listen to
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another podcast again. Don't just leave this episode
thinking, oh, that was great. I learned something new.
No, let's fucking change it. The tools are here.
I'm literally giving them to youinside wealth Recalibration.
It's 10 days. We kick off with a group call.
And even if you don't, if no matter when you're listening to
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this, you're going to be able toget this.
You'll be able to replay the thegroup call.
And then every single day for 10days, you have 10 audios, a
minimum of 10 audios that are nomore than 20 minutes.
Some of them are 15. But inside those audios that you
listen to every single day, I'm taking you through a very, very
custom made audio where it combines visualization,
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subconscious reprogramming, nervous system regulation all in
one, paired over Theta binaural beats, which that is the tone
that's going to help you reprogram it at a subconscious
level. And all you need to do is listen
to those audios everyday. And I know this sounds crazy,
but let me tell you. Let me tell you, this should
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change my life and I know it will for you as well.
So say yes to wealth recalibration.
Go join right now, get inside, download the elevator app
because it's all it's all going to be in there.
Get in there and start recalibrating and recoding your
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mind, body and soul for wealth. You were never bad with money,
you were just protecting yourself from expansion.
And that's what we're going to change together.
So again, that link is down in the show notes or you can even
connect with me on Instagram. Send me Adm that you listen to
this. I'm so excited to help you
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change this because this is the help I wish that I had in my
early 20s, but here we are and it's fine.
It is what it is. You don't have to chase wealth.
You just have to calibrate to it.
And calibration begins with safety.
So I love you so much. Share this episode with someone
that you know is having money problems, money struggles,
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because more people need to knowabout this.
Honestly, it's like being lied to that you have a budgeting
problem, a money mindset problem.
No, you just don't feel fucking safe.
So share this with someone that you know will benefit from this.
Get them to join in wealth recalibration with you, with me,
with us. We have so many women already
inside, and I cannot wait to help you change not only the
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trajectory of your life, but forgenerations to come.
Because when you heal this, thenyou create the ripple effect.
Whether if you go on to start a family or just make an impact
with friends and family in your circle, it needs to happen.
All right, my love, thank you somuch for listening and I'll see
you inside Wealth recalibration.I love you so much.
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Hey, hey babe, welcome back to another episode of the Money
Mindset Manicures podcast. I want to start this episode by
saying something I wish someone had told me years ago, like
decades ago. Like everyone should have been
taught this when we were in school from a very, very young
age. But here we are.
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And I am teaching it to you in this episode because I know this
is going to bring you some relief around money.
And that is you do not have a money mindset problem.
Your body just doesn't feel safewith wealth yet.
And for years, I was doing all of the things from drilling,
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affirmations, visualization. I hustled really hard.
I went to college, I got my degree.
I'm the queen of personal development.
But no matter how much mindset work I did, no matter how hard I
worked, money felt inconsistent in my bank account.
I'd manifest a big launch or I'dwork really hard.
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When I had previous businesses in my 20s and I had lots of
different clients and students and all that sort of stuff.
It's like I would make money butit would instantly disappear.
Or I think I would just have to work harder, but then it wasn't
coming in as much as I wanted to.
All of it. It just seemed like I could not
relax around money and that's when I realized my body was
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living in survival mode while mymind was trying to manifest
overflow. And these two frequencies do not
match. So today I want to share with
you. I think there's like 5 stories,
5 situations, 5, I don't want tosay money problems, but just
five areas where I want to sharewith you to see.
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One, if you relate to this, two,if you struggle with this, and
if you do with either of those two things, then I want to open
your eyes to what's actually going on.
So I'm going to share with you the real story behind my money
breakthroughs, the science of what's happening in my brain and
body as well as yours, spirituallessons that really helped me
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rewire my patterns and some wisdom from some books that have
completely changed my life that I've read over the years.
And I kind of thought back to like, where were these pivotal
moments where I read something and I was all like, Oh my gosh,
that is me. And I started piercing a lot of
these things together. And some of my favorite books
that I highly recommend that youread is The Science of Getting
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Rich. Of course, you've probably heard
Think and Grow Rich. Read that one.
And then also the psychology of Money.
Because once I understood how mybody, now I'm saying body as in
nervous system, my subconscious and energy, how this is all
connected, everything started toshift and money started flowing
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in effortlessly. And even if or when I hit my
financial ceiling, because at every single transition, an area
of your life, like for example, you're going from, you know, 0K
to 2K to 5K to 10K to 20K to 50K, things start resurfacing.
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So what was really cool about learning this is that when I
felt that I was hitting the ceiling, when I would start
sabotaging myself or experiencing these five things
I'm going to cover today, I would be like, oh, there it is,
there it is. Let me go into my money block
toolbox and start working through this.
So I don't cap myself with income or I don't self sabotage
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myself with my finances because at the end of the day, it's not
that I started working harder, but it's because I felt safe and
receiving it. So you might want to grab a pen
and paper for this one and take some notes.
But this is an episode that I know is really going to help you
shift the way you look at money,how you act with money, how you
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feel with money and how it will start coming into your life.
And also if you feel by listening to this episode that
wow I really am struggling with this stuff, I really need some
help with rewriting my money story, with regulating how I act
and behave with money, then I highly recommend wealth
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recalibration and I've linked that below.
So get into wealth recalibration.
This is a 10 day series of audios and videos that's going
to help you shift reprogram and how you feel with money.
Because at the end of the day, if you do not feel good with
money, if you have anxiety around money, if you feel
stressed around money, if you feel angry with money, if you
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feel guilt around money, babe, there's no manifestation method
in the book that you will do that will help you manifest it
if you don't start regulating itin your body first.
This might be a little bit of a lengthy episode, but it's going
to be so worth it. So let's dive in.
So first, I want to kick this off with the science of why you
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actually block money. So here's what most people don't
understand. Your brain's number one job is
not to make you successful. It's to keep you safe.
Can you believe that? Can you believe that this smart,
intelligent organ that you have in your body, its number one job
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is just to keep you safe? Not successful.
Not successful because your subconscious mind, which runs
95% of your thoughts and behaviors, doesn't care if
you're wealthy. It only cares if you're
familiar. So when you set a new goal, your
brain automatically checks, is this familiar?
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Is this safe? Can we do this?
Is there a threat? That's what's running through
your brain. Even though your higher self
where you want to go, you want abetter life, you want to be
successful, you want to be happier, healthier, joyful, and
you want to do the things that make you feel good.
But if your brain does not see this new thing as being
familiar, it sees it as a threat.
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So if you grew up around struggle, inconsistency, or
lack, that becomes your brain's definition of safety.
This is crazy. And This is why it's
subconscious reprogramming is soimportant because most of us
unless I don't know, I mean, I feel like at some point you grew
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up feeling struggled, your lack probably.
So when you start earning, when you start earning more, when you
start expanding or even relaxing, your brain actually
freaks out because you're homeostasis And reminder, I'm
coming from like a medical background.
That's what I went to college for.
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But homeostasis basically just means like this is your normal,
this is your normal. This is level 0.
So if that level 0, you grew up and things were struggling and
this and this can take this to any single part of your life as
well, not just money, but like if there was struggle, if there
was lots of fighting in the household or arguing or no love
or those conversations of being broke and all those things, your
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brain started regulating that asyour homeostasis, as your
normal. So then insert you get a job,
you wanted to seek out success, you wanted to seek out love, you
wanted to seek out all these things that are going to make
you better. That's different because you're
like, I don't want to continue this shit.
I don't want to pass this on to my generations to come, my kids,
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my family. I don't want to live like this.
But what's happening then is your brain is actually sending
signals through your body that say danger, danger, danger.
We've never been here before. We haven't experienced this
before. What is this?
What is this wealth? What is this expansion?
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What is this relaxing? What is this feeling good?
This is not normal. Normal, normal, normal.
No, no, no, do not go. And then that's why you self
sabotage. That's why your money overflow
disappears. That's why you start to
overwork. It's not because you're broken.
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It's because your brain is trying to protect you.
And this is where the Science ofGetting Rich, the book, comes in
with this lesson. Wallace D Waddles, he's the
author, and he teaches that wealth isn't something we chase.
It's something we create throughthought and energy.
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Wow. Isn't this what we talk about in
manifestation all the time? We have to feel it in our body.
We have to visualize it and see it.
We create it through thought andenergy.
But what he doesn't say directly, and what I learned the
hard way is that you can't thinkor visualize your way and to
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overflow if your body is stuck in survival, you have to teach
your body that abundance is safe.
And that's when your energy starts to match your desire.
So I want you to just take a look at your life right now and
does it make sense what I just taught you?
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Like, doesn't that make sense? Because it does for me.
And I'm like, whoa, my whole life, you know, I could never
really tell that we were quote UN quote, not necessarily broke.
I had clothes on my back. I there was always food on the
table. We always had a place to live.
We always had air conditioning and electricity and those
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things, right? But I couldn't shop where all
the cool girls shopped at Abercrombie and Fitch and
Charlotte Russe and you know, all those stores, those cool
girls stores, No, because those jeans were $100.
Absolutely not. My mom would take us to Kmart
and I think Target too. And I grew up in Australia, so I
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don't think we had a, we didn't have a Walmart there, but you
know what I mean? So for me it was just like, OK,
this is this is normal. Not having the nice things was
normal. So think about in your life
where your homeostasis is, what is your normal that you have
been ingrained with that you have been taught And doesn't it
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make sense now that wow, when you've actually been wanting to
make more money or maybe you've been wanting to save, or maybe
you wanted to become more successful in your business.
And then you wonder, oh crap. Like I've been self sabotaging
myself because my brain is freaking out.
It's crazy. Which leads into what do we then
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start doing? Usually for me, I then was
taught, OK, if I just work harder, if I just go to school,
go to college, that's the ticketto success.
That is the ticket to money. Get that degree, I'm going to
get paid. So my first pattern was hustle.
I was addicted to working in my 20s after I graduated college
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and that lit a fire under my assbecause basically I did not go
to Med school how I was supposedto.
I basically throughout college and even high school, that's
what I was studying to go do. My parents, I'm first
generation. My parents were just like not
pushing me, but just like, that's what you go do to be
successful. Be a doctor, be a doctor, be a
lawyer, be, be something prestigious, right?
So in my 20s when I decided to not do that, I got addicted to
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working because I'm like, I needto just work really, really hard
because I need to outwork what Iwould do as a doctor.
So I remember so many times in my 20s where I would miss family
functions, stuff with the holidays.
Like I just remember so many fights even with my sister and
my parents when I couldn't show U for things because I had to
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work. I literally worked every effing
day, every day. And I was modeling, acting.
I was a spokesmodel for a lot ofdifferent companies.
I used to travel a lot. And mind you, I was an
independent contractor basically, which means you work
for yourself, you choose when you get to work.
I, it's not like I had a schedule or anything like that.
I decided and I decided that every single day I needed to
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work because if I didn't work, Iwouldn't make the money.
So I was addicted to working andI always thought success meant
doing more and then achieving more, being busy.
And even when money came in, I couldn't relax and I'd instantly
look for the next goal or the next launch or the next client
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or the next gig, the next milestone, whatever it was.
I would constantly be looking. And then also I realized this a
couple weeks ago, I was listening to a podcast and I
also realized that when I was little, and this is so crazy
because I'm still working through this to this effing day.
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So my parents, you know, they worked really hard.
They were immigrants. So I think my mom had two jobs
at one time. My dad worked really long hours.
And of course, me and my sister,we would go to school, come home
and we're kids. So when we weren't in sports,
we'd come home. We'd, you know, you know, we'd
watch our TV shows or play with our toys or just hang out or
whatever it was. And I just always remember when
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my dad would come home and he would get so angry, like if we
weren't doing homework or something like that, he would
get so angry. And that trained me that, oh,
dad's pulling into the garage. If even if we were watching TV
or playing with toys or something like that, like I
would go to my books or go pretend that I'm like busy
working, like studying. And I noticed still to this
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freaking day, still to this day,for example, if I'm home and
Mark leaves to go to the gym or something and he comes home and
I'll just be laying on the couchon on my phone, you know,
creating some tik toks or something like that.
Or just even just mindlessly scrolling on Instagram or
something. Like just not doing anything.
I would hear the garage open andI would like to jump up and act
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like I was busy cleaning or doing something.
And I'm, I'm noticing this and it's so crazy because 1.
He doesn't fucking care. Oh my God.
He doesn't care if I'm laying onthe couch.
Like he knows how hard I actually work when it's work
time. He has never said anything to
me. He has never ever ever inclined
that I am a lazy like ever. Like I'm telling you, this is so
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deeply rooted program from when I was a child that still pops
up. And I, I want mention this to my
sister a couple weeks ago when Ihad this realization and she's
all like, Oh my God, I do the same thing.
And it was just so crazy that I've had this realization and I
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know I do it, but it's wild thatI'm still trying to train myself
out of this behavior. But it is such a real thing
because at the end of the day, what I didn't realize was that
my brain was just addicted to the cortisol and the dopamine of
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this work hard mentality. Like every time I worked harder,
I got this chemical hit. It made me feel safe even if I
was burning out. So I wonder if you just like
work, work, work so hard, hard, hard, hard, hard.
And then all of a sudden it's you're just burnt out.
You're like, I'm so over this. I don't want to do this anymore.
This is boring. Yeah.
So in survival mode, your body confuses exhaustion with safety
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because it's familiar. That stillness, the rest, the
day off, the relaxation, those feel dangerous when your
identity is built around hustle.So if you have trouble just an
hour out of your day, going to relax.
Taking the day off to relax, if you feel guilt and shame around
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that, Oh my gosh, we have some reprogramming to do because this
is not normal. You should not feel guilty about
resting because I know you, babe, I know you're putting in
the work, you're putting in the hour somewhere.
But we have not been built or created to hustle and work 24/7.
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And then when I read, think and grow rich, Napoleon talks about
the principle of faith-based action.
So he teaches that wealth is built not from fear or force,
but from calm conviction, the belief that your desire will
manifest because you've already decided it will.
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And then I realized all those years I was acting from fear and
not faith. And again, we're tying this back
to manifestation. What do we say, right?
We need to be convicted in what we desire and what we are doing.
Once we declare it, it is decided.
And then we just need to take the inspired action.
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But if we're taking that action from fear from Oh my gosh, if I
do not do this every single day,all day for five hours, 10
hours, then I'm not going to be successful.
That's fear. That is fear.
There is such a fine line and difference between taking action
from fear and taking convicted action.
Like you were doing this becauseyou fucking, you know, like, you
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know, the text finds these couldhelp when you do this because at
the end of the day, like when I work on things in my business,
right, I could sit here in my office on my computer and my
phone for 10 hours doing stuff back-to-back to back-to-back to
back-to-back to back. But that's not working from
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conviction. That's fear and force.
I've gotten myself down to aboutfour hours of work per day and
anything outside of that, I don't really count.
Instagram and social media creating the content I create I
I consider in the four hours, but from like editing and
posting and na na, na, I, I don't I count that outside of
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that because that's more just kind of fun for me.
But just like real work, whetherI'm recording a podcast, writing
an e-mail, tapping into the community and answering
questions in there, creating content for the elevate her app
or for the manuscripting journal.
That's all in that four hours every day.
But I'm working with com conviction because I'm like, Oh,
I know these are the things I need to do today in order to
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move the needle along towards mygoals, But I don't need to sit
here thinking I have to work 10 hours a day every single day.
Otherwise everything's going to collapse.
No, that's fear. So where have you been acting
from fear and where have you been acting from convicted
faith? Because the moment I started
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slowing down and letting myself rest and allowing stillness to
feel safe, money started flowingwithout the grind.
And even to this day, I'll be real like there are times where
there is just quote UN quote nothing to do.
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And I'll find myself getting a little busy with a project.
And I'm also a manifester in human design, so I get lots of
downloads, all the effing time to create, to do like for
example, with the Mayor Scripting Journal.
Oh my gosh. Like I love being able to create
new products and everything for that.
I've had to hold back on so manyproduct ideas over the last year
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because I've been very streamlined on what's going on
with this company and where it'sgoing and what we're releasing,
which I'm really excited about because there's some things
coming out for the holidays thatare going to be really, really
great. But I get lots of ideas and then
I want to put them into action. But then that creates a lot of
work with those things. So I've had to also fine tune
and balance myself of like, Oh my gosh, Sam, if you just keep
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literally creating every single download that you get into this
physical 3D, like you will burn yourself out.
So I've also had to taper it back a little bit to allow
stillness to feel safe because for the first time when I
started doing all of this and really understanding and
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learning with my action behavior, my energy, where I was
putting it, am I feeling good? Am I burnt out?
Am I tired? Am I excited?
I'm exhausted. But my energy was matching the
vibration of trust and not tension.
And that's when everything really started shifting, which
made it feel so, so good. Interrupting this episode for
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OK, let's get back to the episode.
Are you the hustler? Are you the overworker?
Can you relax? And if not come into wealth
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recalibration, I'm going to be dropping that throughout this
entire episode because I struggled with this for way too
long. Way too long.
And I just wish I had learned this at least in my early 20s.
Like God, if you are in your early 20s right now or you know,
it's never too late to learn something new.
But gosh, y'all are so lucky forsocial media and YouTube and all
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these different tools and these things in your face to teach you
this awareness. Like I wish we had that.
But here we are today and maybe all of these things that I went
through in my life not maybe I'mpretty sure it's the reason I am
now here teaching you all of this.
So you can you know, quote UN quote, learn from my mistakes,
learn from my listens and not repeat them and to get ahead of
it. OK, so the third one of this is
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the overflow problem. What is the overall problem when
money comes in for you? Does it disappear just as fast?
Because this was the next pattern I had to face every time
I had money coming in. And in my 20s, I had really good
money coming in for a 20 year old, like in my 20s without
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having a corporate job. Like I was pretty sure I was
averaging like at least I want to save between 7:00 and 10:00
KA month. I think my highest month in my
20s was like 15 K and I was not selling products and courses and
that sort of stuff. By the way, this was just
modelling acting. I was a spokesmodel for
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companies. I, you know, it was, it was
cool. I was like making good money.
Like for me that was like crazy good.
But when it would come in, it just appeared just as fast.
I literally felt like I couldn'thold on to it.
And even though I was making minimum of 6 figures a year,
sometimes, you know, 150I maybe approach 200 at one point, maybe
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towards the end before I made really pivoted.
And that was crazy to let go of that income.
But that that was my one of my crazy pivot stories.
I was still 10s of thousands of dollars in debt.
I was living the life and then Istill had debt and then every
single month I was like, well I just need to work harder.
I just need to take 0 days off this time.
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Like none. Like just keep working more,
keep charging more. Like keep increasing,
increasing, increasing. I kept doing that and my income
kept growing. But how was it that I was still
landing in debt? And I was taught by the Dave
Ramsey's of the world that I hada spending problem.
I had a budget problem. I had a money mindset problem,
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but I didn't. What I learned is I had a
capacity problem because my subconscious didn't feel safe
having more than what I was familiar with.
So it found ways to get rid of the money.
New expenses, surprise bills, a treat yourself a moment that
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went way too far. I had the luxury car.
I had the luxury condo. I live by myself.
My freaking condo is like this gorgeous two-story place in
Scottsdale. It was fucking fire.
Oh my God, it was so fucking nice.
I had the BMW and I got BMW after BMWBMWI had the clothes.
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I travelled a lot, not just frommy job, but then outside of
that, I was just living the lifeand I was like, well, I'll just
keep working harder. Like it's fine, it's fine, it's
fine. But all of it was my body's way
of returning to its safety pointof being broke.
Because that's what I knew. The struggle, the constantly
chasing, that was normal. So if I ever had overflow, Oh my
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gosh, that that was, that was crazy.
That's now I would panic becauseI got to spend it.
So I got to keep on, keep the cycle moving.
And in The Psychology of Money, Morgan Household explains that
doing well with money isn't about intelligence.
It's about behavior. And behavior is driven by
emotion, not logic. So if your emotional baseline
associates overflow with instability, you'll always
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unconsciously return to struggle.
I had to teach my body to feel calm in abundance.
I had to celebrate receiving without waiting for the other
shoe to drop. And I also had to believe that
holding wealth was normal because so far, like in my
family and also growing up, I don't know about you, but money
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wasn't talked about. It was like rude.
So my parents didn't talk to me about money.
All my mom would ask me, are yousaving money?
Are you saving money? Are you saving money?
Are you saving money? And I'd be like, no, leave me
alone. I'm going to do the opposite
because you're annoying me. Like, literally, I wasn't sat
down and taught anything. I got credit cards.
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You know, I don't know how it istoday, but when I went at
college, I had credit cards justflooding into my mailbox.
I didn't apply for them. They just appeared, started
appearing in my mailbox. And I was like, oh fuck yeah,
$1000 spending spree. Yes, sign me up.
Oh, my gosh, this card's giving me $500 over here.
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Yes, I can use that this weekend.
Because, you know, when they send you credit cards for the
first time, they give you reallylow limits.
Like, I wonder if this is still legal to this day because, like,
this should be illegal. No child in their right mind, I
don't care if you're 18, whatever, going to college.
No, that's that's your kid. No child in their right mind
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should be having a credit card just sent to them without
somebody explaining what it is, how it works, the consequences
of it. You know, how to use it
responsibly. Like it's crazy.
Like I know why they do it. They want you to be in debt,
right? But it, it, it just blows my
mind. And my parents obviously didn't
know. Like I didn't tell them.
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I'm like, God, mom, I got this credit card.
No, I didn't have a relationshiplike that because we didn't talk
about money. I really had to lean into and
understand that everything that I've been experiencing my entire
life, and this is not at this point into my 30s, early 30s,
was like, wow, this isn't a budgeting problem.
I'm constantly fighting it against something that I
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literally cannot fix because that's not the problem.
So when I started to hold wealthlike it was normal, when I
started normalizing money to feel good, my bank account
stopped feeling like a roller coaster and it started feeling
like a home. So going into the next section,
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which is the good girl guilt when wanting more feels wrong.
This is another one that hit me really hard because every time I
levelled up, I moved into the dream apartment, bought
something luxurious, booked a trip.
Oh my gosh, I even totally forgot a couple years after I
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got out of college. Ended up buying a house that was
cool and then a couple of years later I bought it with the I
bought it but I had a boyfriend that moved in with me at the
time and it was crazy. Oh my gosh, the deep, the wounds
run so deep. But at the time the relationship
was not good. This is such a messy part of the
story. I'll explain this in another
story if you guys want to hear it.
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Anyway, so I bought this house, he moved in with me and then
like three years later, I ended up selling it because I bought
it during a down market. And then I ended up selling it,
made a decent profit on it, likealmost 6 figures profit on this
house. And no joke, literally that
money was gone I think within five months, if even way fast,
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on top of the money that I was already making in my business.
Like it was crazy. It was so crazy every time.
What I'm trying to say is, everytime I levelled up, I did the
things that I'm so excited for, but then I also felt guilty.
And then I felt guilty for wanting more.
And then I was like, who am I towant this much?
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And that guilt didn't come from logic.
It actually comes from your amygdala, which is the part of
your brain that scans for dangerbecause when it perceives
judgement or rejection, it floods your body with anxiety.
So even though I consciously wanted more and you may be
wanting more, but your body associated wealth with
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disapproval. So why don't you just think
about that, right? Like if your amygdala perceives
judgement or rejection, it's going to flood your body with
anxiety. So if you currently struggle
with anxiety, I want you to kindof take a look at like, I'm no
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doctor. Is there something or an area of
your life or things that you're trying to do where you feel like
people are going to judge you orreject you?
Because that's the part of your brain that's just scanning for
danger, right? So what if you started doing the
processes that I'm teaching in wealth calibration?
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And what if you could retrain your brain to not feel that way?
I have a feeling that your anxiety may go down.
Like, I'm no doctor, but I'm just saying because I feel like
there's a lot of people that saythey're anxious, that they have
anxiety, right? So you're, you're just
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constantly living in fear of something, fear of something not
happening, fear of being rejected, fear of being judged.
Interesting, isn't it? Even though I consciously wanted
more, my body associated wealth with disapproval.
Isn't that crazy? And then I revisited the book
The Science of Getting Rich, andthen something really clicked.
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Waddell says that the desire formore life, more beauty, more
abundance isn't greed, It's the divine urge of expansion.
And I say this all the time. I actually put up an Instagram
post this week talking about that.
You know, we're taught like having money, having more is
greedy. Don't you have enough?
When is enough enough? Enough is when my fucking
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highest self believes we have enough.
And guess what? We're always going to be
elevating. We always want to upgrade.
We always want to live a better life.
If we if it's possible to have more, why not?
There is nothing wrong with that.
There is nothing wrong with that.
Abundance isn't greed. When you think about this way,
when you have more money and I know you listening, you have a
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fantastic heart. You have such a big heart.
You are so much love and light. I know that when you have more
money, you're going to be able to give back more.
You're going to be able to help more people.
You're maybe going to be able todonate more.
You'll be able to give back. Maybe you'll be able to help
your family. There's so much good we can do
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when we have more money and moregood people in the world need to
fucking have money. But all the bad ones have taught
us no, it's greedy to have more money, no it's evil.
Money is fucking evil. Do not have more, it is bad.
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Think about where all these stories are coming from.
And I'm not just saying they came from your parents or people
around you growing up. Now this comes from a higher
agenda because imagine if good people had money in this world.
Imagine money doesn't make you evil, it just amplifies the
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person you already are. So if right now, like, right,
you're driving and you're like, oh, you see a homeless person,
you're like, they come up to your window and you're like,
fuck, like, I really want to give them a couple bucks, but Oh
my gosh, like I really need thiscouple bucks for laundry or I
really need this couple bucks tobuy my kid fucking dinner
tonight. I can't give this.
Imagine if you had so much abundance that you, yeah, you
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could give when you wanted to because you want to, right?
Just imagine. Just imagine.
But we are so ingrained with a lot of these negative money
philosophies in our minds that holds us back from being able to
hold wealth, and we sabotage ourselves with it.
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So this reframe really changed everything for me.
I realized that my Des, my desires weren't bad.
It was sacred, Those desires that you have out in the world.
Like just think about it. You want a certain car, you want
a certain house, you want a certain outfit, right?
You want those things. Like for me, fucking Lamborghini
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I'm staring at on my vision board right now.
It's crazy to me that I don't have it yet because I'm like,
this shit is coming into my lifeand I'm like, when the fuck is
this going to happen? But I'm like, I'm like, I know
I'm going to have 1. So for me, it's a Lamborghini.
It's having a beautiful huge home on a minimum of A1 acre
lot, not in a neighborhood. I want like big huge lot.
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Like I, I don't want to see my neighbor's house and then when
it comes to clothing and outfitslike that, I just want beautiful
structured clothing. I don't give a shit what brand
it is to be honest. I'm all about bags.
Like I love a good bag, give me the luxury label bags.
But clothes and stuff, I don't know.
I just don't care. I feel like I just know too much
about manufacturing at this point.
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I don't care. Same with bags, but whatever.
I, I, I'm a bad girl. I don't care much about branding
of shoes and stuff like that. Whatever and I love really good
jewelry. Like give me all the diamonds.
I love really good jewelry. So for me, those are my desires,
for example, right? Just, you know, physically.
But then there's so many other things like cars like, you know,
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like I don't care for Porsches, I don't care for Ferraris, I
don't care for, I don't know, whatever else, right?
Those are not my desire. My desire is a Lamborghini.
Isn't that interesting? So what is your desire?
There is a reason it's on your heart.
Maybe it's for a type of house, you know, for me, having a big
gorgeous home in the mountains, Oh my God, I love to visit it.
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But is that my desire to live inone of those?
No, Uh, uh, mine's probably going to be somewhere, I don't
know, close to the ocean, close to the beach.
It needs to be by a body of water, even if it doesn't has to
have a pool. But like, I know what my desire
is and I know what it's not. So isn't it interesting that you
have a certain preference? And I always love to think about
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it. Wow.
I feel like this desire is on myheart so heavy because literally
there's a fucking timeline of mealready living in it and I just
need to play catch up to merge with it.
So that's why I say, like your desires, they're not bad.
They're not greedy. It's because if they're leading
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you, they're golden bread crumbsbeing thrown back from your
higher self that, hey, this is where we're going.
Yeah, you're on the right track.Keep going, keep going.
This is it. So when I kind of started
looking at things in that perspective, I was like, oh,
this guilt that I had, it meltedinto gratitude.
I was all like, oh, my gosh, I'mso excited, so grateful.
(38:29):
The shame turned into power. Like, yeah, this is where I'm
going. And I finally gave myself
permission to want it all, not to have it all, to want it all.
Are you giving yourself permission to want it?
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After you're done listening, let's get back to the show going
into the next one and we have two more or three more left, but
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the next one is the control loop.
Why we force when we don't trust?
Are you a control freak? I used to be.
I used to want to control everything.
I micromanage every client, every dollar, every launch.
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And I told myself it was becauseI was strategic.
I just knew what I wanted. But really it was fucking fear.
And when the brain senses uncertainty, it activates the
anterior cingulate cortex, whichis responsible for conflict and
worry. So This is why uncertainty feels
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physically uncomfortable. Your brain is literally trying
to keep you in the known. So what do we do with this?
We try to control outcomes, to feel safe.
But control is not safety, It isa temporary illusion.
The control actually keeps you from receiving what's available.
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And in the book Think and Grow Rich, Hill teaches that you have
to create a mental picture so, so vivid and hold it with such
unwavering faith that doubt cannot coexist.
Faith and control cannot live inthe same frequency.
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And this is when I knew that I still had some shit to do about
the Lamborghini because it was maybe like, I want to say like
at least six months ago, maybe it was last year.
And I was like getting really frustrated because we were
thinking about getting a new car.
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And Mark's like, well, let's just get the Lamborghini.
And I like to look at him and I'm like, what?
He's like, we can get the Lamborghini.
Like we have the cash and the funds, like why don't we just go
get it or at least like go test drive one and go check someone
some out. And he was being 100% serious.
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And I immediately my body went into full blown absolutely
fucking not like what you're crazy.
Like, no, this is no terrible, no uncomfortable.
No, it's here. No, we're not doing it.
Literally you guys. And I was like what the fuck?
I've literally had this Lamborghini on my vision board
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for my God since I was in my 20s.
And I literally had this reaction to my husband telling
me let's go get it. And my brain came up with a
million O 1 reasons why I shouldnot have it yet.
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How I'm not deserving of it yet.How I'm not worthy of it yet.
And I've been slowly peeling back the layers on that.
And there's honestly so many other things that are going into
this equation, which at the timeand even now, because, yeah,
(43:19):
this happened last year, becauseit happened before a wedding.
I'm like, absolutely not like babe, like we literally have a
really expensive wedding coming up.
We have this, that and the other.
And for me, I was trying to be financially responsible a little
bit to be like, yes, I would love to do that.
Obviously not because I was fucking scared of shit, but also
(43:40):
we had so many other things. And I know what the Lamborghini
is coming, but there was just somany other things.
I'm like, it would be so stupid honestly financially at this
point to go do that. Let's wait until.
But also side note, the way thatI felt in my body, I was like,
wow, I still have some deeper wounds to fucking figure out
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where the hell this is coming from and why do I not feel ready
or worthy. So I've been working through
those, which has been really fun, but honestly, it's because
the Lamborghini for me is a little bit down on the list
before other things that I want to do an accomplished with our
(44:27):
finances first. So there's this funny,
interesting dance that I have right now with actually bringing
my manifestations to fruition, but then also in which order
that they come in. And some will say it's like,
well, if you have the opportunity, go get the thing.
But when it comes to playing around with these large amounts
(44:48):
of money, you got to, you got tohave a little bit of logic with
it. So it's kind, but just know that
because I had that visceral reaction before the logic of,
wait, no, we have a wedding. We're going to pay for this.
Then we have the first, No, no, no, no, we can't get this car
yet. But because I had that visceral
reaction, I was like aware, Oh, I still have some work to do and
(45:12):
I've been doing it all year and it's been feeling really, really
good. And the conversation of
Lamborghini has not come up yet.And that's for a whole other
different sorts of reasons. I'll tell you guys later and
soon, but I know it's on the horizon eventually, hopefully in
the next year, we'll see. But it's just been wild to now
understand this work and then gothrough an experience and then
(45:38):
have a reaction, but then realize you're having the
reaction and then realize, Oh myGod, I know what I need to do
now. And that's what I believe is the
most important thing and why I wish this is taught to people at
a younger age. Because if I had these tools
back then, it's like yes, I, I would not have sabotaged myself
(45:58):
as much as I did throughout the last 15 years because I would
know well if I'm self sabotagingmyself with money, if I'm not
able to relax, if I'm just spending as far as I can as much
as I can, you know, I knew what was happening, which at the time
I did not. All of this to say is like when
I finally learned to surrender, to release timelines, to stop
(46:23):
forcing results and just trust the flow, I found that things
started working out faster than I could have planned.
And This is why with the Lamborghini, I'm like, I'm like
just letting it go right now andI'm not forcing it.
I could literally like we could if we wanted to, like go get
that thing tomorrow. But I'm like, there's a couple
(46:43):
of the pieces of a puzzle that need to fit in and I'm not going
to go force it. I know the opportunity is going
to come up when it's supposed to.
And this is how opportunities doarise.
This is how clients come out of nowhere.
This is how money shows up for unexpected places because when
you stop forcing, you make spacefor miracles.
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And that's a really powerful place to be.
Got a couple more here left thatI really want to cover, but
they're really important. So let's get into from debt to
overflow. So at my lowest point I've
shared, I was I think at most $50,000 in debt.
This is just personal debt. I'm not talking about business
(47:25):
debt for like managed to be journalist stuff like business
debt is so different. I'm talking about personal
spending debt, OK. And every time I would sit down
and pay a bill, whether that's opening up my banking app or
opening up, you know, a bill letter that come in, it's like
my heart would race, I'd panic, I'd spiral.
(47:46):
And then what I would do is I would overwork to try and fix
it, which would lead to burnout all over again.
It's like, right. Are we understanding these
cycles now and then? What I didn't realize is when
you're in chronic stress, your brain is in fight or flight and
your limbic system takes over and blood flow literally moves
(48:06):
away from the logical part of your brain, which is the
prefrontal cortex, into your survival centers.
So physically, you cannot make expansive creative money
decisions from that state. If you are chronically stressed
out, if you are constantly in fear, if you're a constantly
(48:27):
anxious, if you're a constantly in fight or flight, you cannot
make expansive creative money decisions from that state.
And where do most people live inone of those states?
So no one really is making expansive creative money
decisions. We're all living in fear.
(48:48):
We're all living in doubt. We're all living in scarcity and
if we are living in that, then there's no way you can become
successful because you will not make the decisions and moves to
be successful because you are stuck in fear.
It's crazy. Like do you hear this?
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Is this making sense? And in The Psychology of Money,
which I really hope, please bookmark all of these books that
I'm recommending. They are so good.
And if you're not a good reader,listen to them on Audible when
you're in the car. But in The Psychology of Money,
Household talks about how wealthis not about income.
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It's about emotional control. It's about staying calm when
everyone else is reactive. And this is when it hit me and I
don't need more income first, I need more internal safety.
And that's when I begin anchoring safety.
And This is why I do this through grounding, through
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breath work, through tapping, through inner dialogue, which is
like the guided meditations, thevisualizations inside the app.
Doing all of this shifted my energy.
This is how I'm able to have my body relax, and from that space,
overflow starts becoming naturalbecause my brain was no longer
(50:13):
scanning for danger, it's scanning for opportunity.
When we focus on the things thatwe desire, we're going to see
the opportunities. If we're focusing on the things
we do not have, you're going to get more of that.
Isn't this interesting how you can tie all of this back to
manifestation law of attraction,right?
(50:38):
You're going to attract what you're thinking about.
You're going to attract what youfeel because that is what your
brain is scanning for. So what are you attracting?
This is how you heal the survival brain.
And then last but not least, thescience, spirit and safety of
the integration of all of this. Here's where the truth of it all
(51:03):
ties this together. You cannot think your way out of
dysregulation and you can't affirm your way out of fear.
You can't say all the affirmation, say all the
affirmations that you want, but deep down you're still in fear.
Lack scarcity like you have thatthat's your normal in your body.
You can't affirm your way out ofit.
You have to feel your way into safety because when your body
(51:27):
feels safe, your mind will believe it.
When your mind believes, your actions are going to start
aligning because you're able to then take them.
And then when your actions align, your energy magnetizes.
It's as quote UN quote simple asthat.
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Because I learned that wealth iscreative energy that's
manifested. Faith and feeling are access
points to manifestation. And if you have emotional
mastery, you have a wealth mastery.
So when you combine those faith,feeling and safety, you become
(52:07):
unstoppable. That's when money flows, not
because you chase it, but because you embody it.
So if you've listened to this episode and you're like, Oh my
gosh, whether you have all of these things or struggle with
all of these things, whether youstruggle with just the one or
whether you're like, wow, I don't know if I have any of
these or I'm I'm sure you do because these are the most
(52:29):
common ones. And it's crazy.
It's like, I would love to know,do you have all of these like I
did or am I just like really special and got hit with the
with the money mallet of listen,you got to go through all these
lessons. Maybe that's why I'm here
teaching it all. I don't know, but I would love
to know like, is this is this normal?
Did you did you as well go through all of this?
But if you feel like you've beendoing all the manifesting and
(52:52):
maybe you've been doing all the mindset work and you just feel
like you're still in the same place and you're not breaking
through that financial ceiling that you keep hitting, it's not
because you're not manifesting, right?
It's because your body and braindon't feel safe holding it.
So I urge you, like you have to,you have to join my wealth
(53:14):
recalibration challenge because we're going beyond mindset.
We're rewriting the emotional, energetic, and some conscious
patterns that have kept you in survival mode so you can finally
feel safe and overflow. Because when safety becomes your
baseline, abundance becomes yourdefault.
So I want you to promise me like, don't just go listen to
(53:35):
another podcast again. Don't just leave this episode
thinking, oh, that was great. I learned something new.
No, let's fucking change it. The tools are here.
I'm literally giving them to youinside wealth Recalibration.
It's 10 days. We kick off with a group call.
And even if you don't, if no matter when you're listening to
(53:55):
this, you're going to be able toget this.
You'll be able to replay the thegroup call.
And then every single day for 10days, you have 10 audios, a
minimum of 10 audios that are nomore than 20 minutes.
Some of them are 15. But inside those audios that you
listen to every single day, I'm taking you through a very, very
custom made audio where it combines visualization,
(54:20):
subconscious reprogramming, nervous system regulation all in
one, paired over Theta binaural beats, which that is the tone
that's going to help you reprogram it at a subconscious
level. And all you need to do is listen
to those audios everyday. And I know this sounds crazy,
but let me tell you. Let me tell you, this should
(54:43):
change my life and I know it will for you as well.
So say yes to wealth recalibration.
Go join right now, get inside, download the elevator app
because it's all it's all going to be in there.
Get in there and start recalibrating and recoding your
(55:08):
mind, body and soul for wealth. You were never bad with money,
you were just protecting yourself from expansion.
And that's what we're going to change together.
So again, that link is down in the show notes or you can even
connect with me on Instagram. Send me Adm that you listen to
this. I'm so excited to help you
(55:29):
change this because this is the help I wish that I had in my
early 20s, but here we are and it's fine.
It is what it is. You don't have to chase wealth.
You just have to calibrate to it.
And calibration begins with safety.
So I love you so much. Share this episode with someone
that you know is having money problems, money struggles,
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because more people need to knowabout this.
Honestly, it's like being lied to that you have a budgeting
problem, a money mindset problem.
No, you just don't feel fucking safe.
So share this with someone that you know will benefit from this.
Get them to join in wealth recalibration with you, with me,
with us. We have so many women already
inside, and I cannot wait to help you change not only the
(56:13):
trajectory of your life, but forgenerations to come.
Because when you heal this, thenyou create the ripple effect.
Whether if you go on to start a family or just make an impact
with friends and family in your circle, it needs to happen.
All right, my love, thank you somuch for listening and I'll see
you inside Wealth recalibration.I love you so much.
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