The Secret to a Strong Marriage & Stress-Free Life Revealed!

Have you ever considered the quiet power of a heartfelt 'thank you' at home? Today, we explore how these small acts of gratitude can strengthen marriages. Recognizing daily kindnesses, like a cooked meal or a listening ear, deepens our emotional bonds.

We also discuss the balancing act couples face with careers, businesses, and raising families, highlighting gender roles and modern pressures.

In our second segment, 'Stress Less for a Healthy Life', we talk about how letting go of minor irritations can improve relationships and add years to our lives.

As we close this episode and our eight-year run, we thank you, our devoted listeners. Your stories and support have made this journey special. Here's to more laughter, less stress, and cherishing life's meaningful moments.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 2 (00:00):
expressing appreciation and gratitude for
your partner and the things theydo strengthens the emotional
connection in the marriage and Ithink that that's important but
can be difficult because youjust continue on a cycle like
you just keep fun, like theperson does it, and it's like
all right, cool.
So like you know you cook andit's like a right thing, you
know, because you cook, yeah,but every once in a while it's

(00:21):
nice to hear you know.
Thank you for that meal, it wasreally good yeah right, even
though it's like it's nice tohear you know.
Thank you for that meal.
It was really good yeah.

Speaker 1 (00:29):
Right, even though it's like maybe it's your
standard salmon, but sometimes Iwas in my back salmon.
Tonight I saw this Instagramrecipe.
I was going to ask you should Igo get the salmon and make that
tonight?

Speaker 2 (00:35):
Because that's so good.

Speaker 1 (00:39):
I think the family would enjoy this as much as me.
Now, that is my sign of thatmight be my love language I
enjoy doing it and I know weneed to eat, and it's healthy
and it keeps us full and andbeing able to do what we want to
do yeah, but and I know it'simportant I do think it's
important, but it can get lostbecause you're just constantly
doing it.

Speaker 2 (00:55):
So I think of like a kid in school sometimes, when
they're like the smartest kid inclass kind of take it for
granted yeah, after a while, Imean you congratulate them, but
you ain't doing it the wholeschool year.
Yeah, because you're like.
I just know this person isgoing to excel.
That's what he or she does andit is what it is.
But I would like to hear itsometimes, I would like to feel
it sometimes that you knowwhatever that looks like what is

(01:16):
something that you feelunderappreciated for?

Speaker 1 (01:18):
underappreciated for maybe not under.

Speaker 2 (01:21):
Maybe you could be appreciated more for sometimes,
but I've said this before, thisis out there.

Speaker 1 (01:26):
You might go viral for it.
What it ain't nothing.
I knew they wasn't perfect.

Speaker 2 (01:31):
I know that's what they waiting for oh, I didn't
say I was perfect, um, butsometimes if you can feel
overwhelming or underappreciatedwith working a nine-to-five and
the businesses, because that'dbe, whipping my behind as of
lately, as of lately being likefive, six months these last
months have been difficult.

Speaker 1 (01:49):
I would say that'd be more difficult than normal my
behind.

Speaker 2 (01:52):
So it's different because with anthony he has the
multiple businesses that we runin, multiple things that happen
on the back end.
Right.

Speaker 1 (02:00):
I have that plus the nine to five and the multiple
meetings and everything elsethat I have to, and I would say
probably taking care of alani'son top of that too and then
alani, marriage friend, likeeverything else you still have
going on in life, right, so youstill have that part of it.

Speaker 2 (02:16):
And then sometimes we're like we have conversation
with our coaches, we have aconversation with people, and
well I'm like, yeah, I'm not,I'm going to do that.
Thanks, I didn't realize that.

Speaker 1 (02:25):
That's appreciation and gratitude right there.
I got this done on Wednesday ohwell, maybe we're recording
this podcast on Wednesday.
How about that?

Speaker 2 (02:35):
It's been a few days, let's just say that we're
recording this on Wednesday.
And so sometimes I'm just likeI'm just not going to do it.
And they're like, why not, youhave to do the work.
And I'm like, yeah, I know I dothe work, I've been doing the
work, but it's hard.
But then it's also like itfeels like you're doing
everything in a business, Right?
So how do we balance me havingto assist with the business and

(02:56):
having nine, nine to five?
So I don't know as overwhelming, because we're both in it to
win it right.
Like there is no, oh, only youdo her nighttime routine on both

(03:16):
of us, or only you take her tothe bathroom to potty train, or
only you feed her.
No, we both do that, dependingon the day, depending on what's
going on, whatever.
So I don't feel um toooverwhelmed with her.
And then we also have, uh,babysitters that come and assist
when we need to do somethingtogether.
So that really helps as wellthat there is a place to take a

(03:37):
break, as needed, when we can,at least.
And uh, so the last one, whatabout for you?

Speaker 1 (03:42):
you, oh no, I don't think.
I think for me it's.
It's one of those like you'rethe, you're the husband this
kind of goes to gender roles.
It's like, listen, I got tomake it, it has to work, or it
has to work, so I'm willing todo whatever we need to do to
make make things happen.
So it would be like, all right,well, Alani needs this, or she
needs to be potty trained, or wethis, or we got to eat food.

(04:04):
Right, the business is stillhalf the business.
So I just think, for for me, asa husband, I think a lot of men
feel the same way and you I'veseen this tweet sometimes it's
like you got to be a husband,you got to be a father, you got
to be a nurturer as well.
People want you to be emotional.
You got to be the CEO, so yougot to be an a-hole sometimes,

(04:25):
and it's like as a, as a maleespecially in 2020 I mean women
feel the same way, where it'slike you got to be the, the head
honcho or the head head, bright, and you got to do all
these things queen queen b, headb whatever they want to call it
, but it was like as a man yougot to be.
You can't be over emotional, butpeople want you to show emotion

(04:45):
and stuff like that.
So I would say balancing allthe hats is would be challenging
for me at time, from time totime.

Speaker 2 (04:52):
Yeah, it puts a lot of pressure.

Speaker 1 (04:54):
And then you also got to make sure that marriage is
functional.
So I would say just thepressure of society, societal
norms on men, especially menthat are providers, especially
when it comes to married men.
I think it's just challengingfrom time to time, but I think
I'm still appreciative and I'mgrateful for the opportunity to
be able to say that you know, Ihave a healthy marriage, I have
a healthy daughter, we gothealthy businesses.

(05:16):
There are people who would likemy friend.
I told my friend Andre theother time.
He said yo, you guys have madeit Like what you guys have is
what people are still lookingfor and if you don't appreciate
that, you will always be chasingmore and not recognizing what
you already have like in frontof you right.
So that was one of the things healways reminds me.
Every couple of months he'slike yo, you don't got to do

(05:36):
this, you don't got to do that,you don't got to chase that.
And he's like you already havewhat you were chasing.
You just too, just looking back, like we have these jobs, we
have these careers, we havethese businesses.
Five years ago, you were cryingfor this, you were praying for
this, you stayed up every nightfor this, and then you have it.
Now you wait, you want thatthing.
That's five years from today,right, and you're chasing that

(05:57):
today.
So that's what I would say.

Speaker 2 (06:00):
So Okay, you said, there was one more thing.

Speaker 1 (06:03):
I would say continue growth.
We just spoke about thatMarriage is a journey of growth
and learning, embracing newexperiences, challenges and
opportunities, so that you canenrich your bonds over time.

Speaker 2 (06:14):
So I think it just brings me to like.
I'm like, yeah, eight years isa long time, but if you compare,
it yeah.
I was going to say, if you'regoing to compare it to 20 years
and no, that's not that long,right, but it is a really long
time and it has flown by.
We spent our eight years in anew city, away from family and
friends.
Now, what eight years wouldlook like if we stayed in New

(06:36):
York?
I'm sure would be completelydifferent.
In eight years we've, you know,got a dog side hustles our way
out of $114,000 of debt, we'vebecame millionaires, we got our
own home, we have threeinvestment properties, we got a
baby and another baby on the way.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
So I think multiple businesses YouTube, instagram,
social media.

Speaker 2 (07:01):
Yes.
So I think within our eightyears I would say job well done,
job well done.
Yes, we've had ups and downs.
I think our biggest ups anddowns was when we lost Tony's
best friend and then a year ortwo later we lost my uncle,
which is more like my father,and then a year after we went

(07:23):
through fertility challenges.
So those have been reallythings that kind of like rocked
our relationship, just on theemotional side of it and going
through that, that part of itwhich I think we could do an
episode on that emotional sideof the fraternity journey with
both of us.
But anyway, that is anotherside of what years, what eight

(07:45):
years, has looked like.
But it has been prosperous, ithas been great, it has been
enjoyable, it has been loving,caring, all of the above.
So I am I don't have nochampagne glass, but cheers to
80 more years together and I'mexcited for our 10.
80 more, yeah.

Speaker 1 (08:04):
Black man on the list for about 72.
That was back in the day.

Speaker 2 (08:08):
My grandfather is 91 or two, so her grandfather 91 we
still have that.

Speaker 1 (08:14):
We still have the.
We recorded an episode with him.
I wasn't the best audio, itwasn't because I was still
learning the mics and stuff, butyou could watch it.
But anyway, we never put it out.
He said the reason that he'slived for so long is because he
doesn't stress over littlethings.
So guys take that.
If you're thinking aboutgetting married or you want to
take anything from this episode.

(08:35):
Try not to stress over thelittle things, because that will
keep you alive, that will keepyou healthy and that will keep
you happy.

Speaker 2 (08:40):
You never know what it could be.
But yeah, cheers to us, cheersto us.
Thank you for listening.

Speaker 1 (08:44):
Hopefully you guys learned something, whether you
have a relationship or not.
Are you thinking about this?
This could be.
This could be applied tobusiness relationships, friends,
family partnerships.
Whatever you guys want to applyit to Make sure you guys leave
us five stars, leave us eightstars for eight years.
How about that?
Appreciate you guys tapping inand staying tapped into us?

Speaker 2 (09:04):
More than a silo podcast featuring the hard dogs.
Have a good one.
Peace and happy eight yearanniversary to us.