Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited Mothers

Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited Mothers

Welcome to Mother Mayhem, the podcast for daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers. I’m Heather Gray, licensed therapist and narcissistic abuse recovery expert. If you're healing from the mother wound, emotional neglect, or childhood trauma, you’re in the right place. Start with the first 8 episodes—they lay the foundation for your healing. Learn to understand your experience, set boundaries, and build more honest, grounded relationships. Listener questions are welcome. You’re not alone. Other daughters are here. I am, too.

Episodes

August 6, 2025 32 mins

Have you ever wondered: Am I always in a trauma response? Is everything I feel just about my past? If so, you’re not alone and you’re not wrong for asking.

Today we break down the differences between trauma brain, nervous system dysregulation, and normal emotional responses.

When you’ve survived a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother, it’s easy to feel like every reaction you have is suspect. But healing isn’t about becoming u...

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This week, we’re talking about what happens when choosing yourself feels like betrayal, especially when you’ve been raised to equate love with loyalty, and loyalty with obedience.

Whether you're trying to navigate guilt, set boundaries, or claim your voice, this episode reminds you: you don’t have to choose between love and self-respect.

And as always, daughters, you don’t have to manage any of this alone.|

You can always join us ...

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What happens when you find out the story your mother told you about your life… wasn’t true?

Today we’re talking to about:

  • How gaslighting from a parent distorts a child’s reality

  • What betrayal trauma feels like when the gaslighter is your mother

  • Why self-trust gets severed after emotional manipulation and medical abuse

  • How trauma teaches you not to believe yourself

  • The grief, rage, and confusion that surface when you start to see cle...

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A hundred conversations. A hundred chances to tell the truth. A hundred reminders that healing is possible—even when it’s messy, slow, and still unfinished.

In this episode, we’re not breaking anything down. We’re building something up. Together.

You’ll hear two powerful stories from daughters who’ve done the hard work of healing, of making peace with who they were, so they could become who they are.

These aren’t just feel-good stori...

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What happens when going no contact with your narcissistic or emotionally abusive mother means losing more than just the relationship with her?

In this powerful follow-up to Episode 92, we hear from Coraline—a daughter who’s already done the impossible: named the abuse, broken the cycle, and chosen to protect her peace. But what happens when that decision triggers suicide threats, family pressure, and the fear of losing connection wi...

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Have you ever been called ungrateful, selfish, or disloyal by your mother just for setting a boundary, speaking your truth, or simply because you exist?

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we’re talking about what happens when a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother turns the tables and calls you the problem.

Whether she accuses you of betrayal, labels your healing as disloyalty, or punishes you for pulling away, the pain of thes...

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In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we’re talking about one of the most emotionally damaging tactics used by narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers: the silent treatment.

This episode explores the emotional and psychological effects of the silent treatment and provides listeners with strategies to heal and regain control of their lives.

When your narcissistic mother uses silence as a weapon, it doesn’t just hurt in the moment. I...

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In today’s episode of Mother Mayhem, we dive deep into the process of healing from narcissistic abuse and I offer insight into how daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers can begin to trust themselves and find joy in their lives again.

If you've struggled to feel safe in your body, or have a hard time trusting yourself after years of emotional neglect or narcissistic manipulation, this episode is for you. I wal...

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Welcome to Mother Mayhem, the podcast for daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers. In today’s episode, we dive into one of the most common struggles many daughters face: questioning whether their childhood trauma and mother wound "count."

If you've ever found yourself wondering, "Am I overreacting?" or "Is my experience really trauma?" this episode is for you. Whether you’ve been d...

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What happens when healing from trauma starts to change everything—your identity, your relationships, even your marriage?

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, I read a powerful letter from a daughter who has done the work to heal… and now finds herself in a life that no longer fits.

She’s changed. Her needs have changed. But her marriage hasn’t—and now she’s wondering: What do I do with the life I built before I healed?

This episode refle...

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This week, we tackle a situation you daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers know all too well: how to respond when your mothers emotionally manipulate and use guilt to control you. 

Today, we’re breaking down the difference between guilt and shame—how guilt, in its healthiest form, can help you improve yourselves, while shame distorts your sense of self-worth and keeps you  stuck in unhealthy patterns.

Narcissisti...

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In this episode of Mother Mayhem, join me as one daughter walks you through her path toward lower contact with narcissistic parents.

Many of you have reached out asking for advice on how to manage relationships with abusive parents, especially when considering lower or no contact, and in this episode, we dig into the real-life process of making that shift.

It’s not an easy decision, and it’s certainly not something that happens over...

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In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we dive deep into the emotional triggers that often surface during trauma recovery—specifically anger, jealousy, and rejection.

As daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers, these emotions can feel overwhelming, but they’re not just random feelings—they are powerful tools that can guide your healing process.

We talk about why anger is not only valid but crucial in the recovery proces...

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In this powerful episode of Mother Mayhem, you’ll hear the story of a brave Mayhem Daughter who has been a regular in our Tuesday Group. While we can’t take credit for all that she has overcome, we are incredibly proud to be part of her healing journey.

This daughter shares her raw and transformative experience of growing up with a narcissistic mother. Her story highlights the complexity of surviving emotional, psychological, and ph...

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In today’s episode of Mother Mayhem, we explore how to navigate a relationship with your narcissistic or emotionally limited mother when you haven’t decided whether to go no or low contact.

This conversation brings up so many emotions, from guilt and confusion to anger and sadness, and it’s important to recognize that healing and decision-making around these relationships are complex and deeply personal.

In this episode, we discuss:

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    If you grew up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother, you learned to survive in an environment where love was conditional and your worth was tied to how much you gave.


    So when you met him—the charming, attentive, affectionate man who made you feel seen—it didn’t feel dangerous. It felt like love. Like finally being chosen.

    But over time, the warmth faded. The pressure grew. No matter how much you gave, it was never enoug...

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    What does healing actually look like when you’ve grown up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother? In this episode, follow a daughter for a month as she takes you inside her daily experience of being a daughter—navigating triggers, small (but powerful) shifts, and the quiet work of untangling old patterns.

    From noticing what once went unseen to facing the deep ache of being mothered by someone who couldn’t love you the wa...

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    If you’ve ever struggled with disordered eating, food control, or feeling unsafe in your body because of food, you are not alone. And more importantly—it’s not your fault.

    In this episode, we explore how childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and survival responses shape your relationship with food, your body, and your emotions.

    This isn’t about willpower or discipline. It’s about understanding why your nervous system treats food as a...

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    By the time a daughter begins to see and name the impact of her mother wound, she has already endured so much more. It’s never just the mother wound—it’s the ripple effect. The way one trauma leaves you vulnerable to another. The way survival sometimes demands choices that come with their own kind of pain.

    In this episode, we talk about:

    • The weight of cumulative trauma and how it shapes your nervous system
    • Why the fear response...
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    This week, we speak to the painful reality of having a mother who is emotionally limited. What does it really mean when your mom can’t show up for you the way you need her to? How do you cope when you realize her emotional limitations are not just a phase but a core part of who she is?

    We explore the emotional impact of having a mother who doesn’t have the tools to meet your needs, how this shows up in your life, and what it means f...

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