Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited Mothers

This is a conversation I didn't expect to be having.

We’re in the middle of a series on navigating aging narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers, and I wasn’t planning to step away from that.

But after Oprah’s recent episode on estrangement and no contact, I watched too many daughters get shaken in places they’ve worked so hard to steady. Between the social media clips, the framing of the conversation, and several deeply un...

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the hardest realities daughters face when their mothers age. Your mom may be getting older, more fragile, or more dependent, but the patterns you grew up with haven’t changed. So how are you supposed to make decisions about caregiving, contact, or end of life when the relationship has always been complicated and often painful?

Today I’m answering the questions daughters ask the most in thi...

This week, we're starting a short series on one of the hardest chapters daughters face: what happens when the mother who never cared for you starts needing care herself.

This isn’t just about your aging narcissistic moms. It’s about identity, boundaries, guilt, and the stories you tell yourselves about what it means to be a good daughter. Even if your mother isn’t aging yet, or if you’ve already walked through this, you’ll hear ...

This season is a lot for daughters... the pressure, the memories, the emotional muscle memory that shows up whether you celebrate the holidays or not.

I’ve been hearing from so many of you about what this time of year is stirring up, and I don’t want you carrying it alone.

I’m hosting a free Mayhem Holiday Gathering on Thursday, December 11th at 11am PST / 2pm EST. It’s a community circle where we’ll talk honestly about what this se...

If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing what you know to be true, replaying old conversations, or wondering if you’re the problem, I’m talking to you today.

We’re talking about how gaslighting fractures self-trust, how it wires your nervous system for doubt, and what it really takes to start believing yourself again after narcissistic abuse.

You’ll learn: Why daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers struggle to ...

Some days healing feels like progress. Other days, it feels like hell.

In this episode, Mayhem gets real about what recovery actually looks like for daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers: the moments that make you question whether any of this work is worth it, and the deeper truth underneath the exhaustion.

We’re digging into what it means to keep going when the pain doesn’t ever seem to disappear.

You’ll hear:

Why ...

When you’ve been the target of a narcissistic smear campaign, the urge to defend yourself can feel unbearable.

You want to explain, correct the record, and be believed. But here’s the truth: healing after narcissistic abuse isn’t about proving your innocence. it’s about reclaiming your peace.

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we unpack what happens when daughters are scapegoated, misunderstood, or cut off after setting boundaries wit...

What happens when you’ve survived the chaos but still don’t feel safe inside your own skin?

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we unpack what it really means to reclaim safety, power, and self-trust after trauma, especially after growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother.

You’ll learn:

*Why your nervous system still scans for danger even when life is calm.

*How to tell the difference between trauma brain and wise mind...

Sometimes it isn’t about trauma brain or nervous system talk. Sometimes it’s just about life being messy and complicated and still leaving you asking, what the hell am I supposed to do with this?

In this episode, I answer two big questions from a daughter:

Trust after rupture: What do you do when someone you love, someone you thought was safe, lashes out, apologizes, and takes responsibility…but you’re still hurt and not sure where t...

What happens when you’ve spent a lifetime unseen, unchosen, and defined by someone else’s story?

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, a daughter asks: Who Am I, really?

Together, we explore:

Why daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers often feel dissociated or split from themselves

How dissociation shows up in daily life and gentle ways to come back into the present

Why listening and gathering resources without acting is...

Healing from childhood trauma isn’t a straight line. There’s a very messy middle. In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we explore what that messy middle really looks like for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers.

We’ll talk about:

Regret in healing: Why it shows up, why it feels like such a gut punch, and how to reframe regret as a sign of growth instead of failure.

Relationships under pressure: How marriage, friendsh...

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we’re talking about something every daughter eventually faces on the healing journey: the messy middle.

You’ve moved beyond survival mode: less hypervigilance, fewer shutdowns but freedom and peace still feel out of reach.

Instead, you’re navigating grief, anger, second-guessing, perfectionism, and the uncomfortable work of slowing down.

It’s confusing, frustrating, and messy. And yet…it’s where the...

What happens when your body was never fully yours to begin with?

In this powerful episode we’re having a conversation many daughters have never had out loud about bodily autonomy, maternal boundary violations, and the silent, insidious ways that narcissistic or emotionally immature mothers can lay claim to their daughters' bodies.

We’re not just talking about “bad boundaries” here. We’re talking about unspoken abuse, the kind tha...

Listener Note: This episode includes references to sexual trauma, emotional abuse, and boundary violations. Please take care of your nervous system and step away if you need to. You’re allowed to choose what you hold, and when.

Some daughters have lived through what many would call unthinkable: sexual abuse at the hands of their mothers. It’s a reality too painful to name, let alone process but that doesn’t make it any less real.

An...

What happens when you’ve gone no contact with your narcissistic mother… but your body still doesn’t feel safe?

This week, we hear from a daughter who has done all the right things. She’s named the abuse, set boundaries, gone to therapy, built a support network… and yet she still lives in fear of accidentally running into her mother.

Together, we explore what it means to feel stuck in trauma responses even after estrangement, and how ...

Why do relationships feel so confusing and hard?

If you grew up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother, you may have learned to associate closeness with danger and distance with safety.

This week,, we're talking about relational trauma, attachment wounds, and how childhood trauma shapes the way you show up in adult relationships.

We'll explore:

This week, we’re moving beyond the trauma  buzzwords to explain why you feel the way you do and what it really means to begin healing from relational trauma.

You’ll learn:

If you’ve ever felt like your anxiety is “too much” or your grief is “too messy,” you belong here.

Today, meet a daughter of a covertly narcissistic mother who didn’t begin to connect the dots until after her mother’s death. What follows is an honest, layered conversation about complex grief, panic attacks that don’t seem to make sense, and the painful tug-of-war between loyalty and truth.

Together, we explore:

• Why panic in adulth...