August 21, 2025 • 34 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Me are one.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
What's coming to me or what's coming to your town,
the world.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
It's not about today, it's about the future. Two keywords
delayed gratification. Every person minute is another chance to turn
it all around.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It's what you do right now that makes a difference.
The night is dark, it's just before the dawn.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
So I promise you.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
The dog is coming.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
You do the work now.
Speaker 4 (00:35):
Do the work now, and all of the shit that
you could ever want to do for your family, your kids,
your loved ones, it's all going to be on a
whole other stratosphere.
Speaker 5 (00:45):
This poll hit me in my chise Yusain both said
I trained four years to run nine seconds, and people
give up when they don't see results in two months.
Speaker 6 (00:57):
There's this huge time delay between when we start behaving
in a way that a winter behaves and when we
start winning.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
You can't have an easy life and a great character.
Having stuff isn't fun.
Speaker 7 (01:09):
Getting stuff is fun, right, It's not the pursuit happiness,
it's the happiness of the pursuit.
Speaker 8 (01:14):
Suffer now and live rest of your life of the time.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
Enjoy the journey, not the destination. A lot of us
delay our happiness when I get to this level, when
I get my degree, when I get the kids, when
I get married, I'm going to be happy. Enjoy the journey,
Enjoy the whole step, the whole process every day that
you get up to strive for whatever it is you're after.
But you don't celebrate when you get to the finished lands.
Celebrate all along the way.
Speaker 9 (01:41):
You get to be kind of content with doing the
exact same thing basically day after day after day and
making reasonable progress. The more impatient somebody is this is
a rocket science, the less likely it is that they're
going to stick to something for a long time.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
And like ninety nine percent of any cool.
Speaker 9 (02:00):
Shit that anybody does ever, usually takes a lot of
preparation and practice and just repetitive action to get good.
At how many people would watch econor McGregor fight if
in order to watch the fight they had to watch
the thousands of hours of training that he had to
do to work up to that level delayed gratification.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
So I would say it's a sign of maturity.
Speaker 10 (02:22):
It's just an investment in ourselves to just believe in
ourself enough to project to say I'm going to pass
up the plastic ring today for the gold crown tomorrow.
I'm gonna maybe make a sacrifice.
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Today for a Monday off instead of the Friday off.
Speaker 10 (02:41):
If I'm getting a long weekend, give you give yourself
the extra win, the freedom be cool through your future self.
Speaker 11 (02:47):
On the back end, you're going to lose sleep, You'll
doubt whether it'll work, you'll stress to make ends meet,
you won't finish it to do list, you'll wonder whether
you make the right cold and have no way to
know for yours. This is what hard feels like, and
that's okay. Everything worth doing is hard, and the more
worth doing it is, the harder it is, the greater
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the payoff, the greater the hardship. If it's hard good,
it means no one else will do it well for you.
Speaker 12 (03:17):
Nothing must ever done in the history of the world
by any human being that didn't require some level of
data gratification.
Speaker 13 (03:25):
Everything is hard before it's easy, and everything at the
beginning is difficult, but later it.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Becomes easy and automatic. You have to.
Speaker 13 (03:34):
Force yourself to discipline yourself at the beginning, but after
that it becomes easier and easier, and you actually feel happy,
you know.
Speaker 8 (03:43):
And every time I think about working out, you know
as hard as it is. Ali always said training is hard,
is tough, but suffer now and you'll live the rest
of your life as a champion.
Speaker 6 (03:53):
The problem is that the bigger the mountain you're trying
to climb, the bigger the w you're trying to get, typically,
the more delayed it between when you start behaving like
a winner and when you start being a winner.
Speaker 13 (04:04):
Now, here's the most wonderful thing. An athlete runs in
a race and comes in first. What do they call
this person the winner? Exactly? What it says is that
when you win, when you come in it's the winner.
Your body releases endorphins, which are called nature's happy drug.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
They make you happy and dopamine.
Speaker 13 (04:26):
So when you complete a task, your body releases these
drugs and.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
You feel happy.
Speaker 13 (04:33):
So every time you start and complete a task, you
feel like a winner, I mean, you feel like a winner.
You want to do it again and have that winning healing.
Speaker 14 (04:42):
Get serious, and you must get serious about two very
important things. Number one is setting your goals and where
you want to go. Designing the next five the next
ten years is so vitally important. Then you have to
get serious about another important subject, personal development. Ten years
from now you will surely become. So the big question
is who. Ten years from now you will surely arrive,
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and the question is where.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
So to answer the question.
Speaker 14 (05:09):
Of where you want to arrive and the kind of
person you want to be, you've got to get serious.
Speaker 12 (05:14):
Delay gratification means to sacrifice the hedonism of the present
to the security and iterability of the future, and so
that is a hallmark of maturity. That's also the ability
to make sacrifices. That's why the sacrificial motif is stressed
so hard in the Old Testament.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
You have to make sacrifices to what, well, to whatever
you value.
Speaker 15 (05:38):
The purpose of going for a hike, ironically, is not
to get to the top. It's to be on the trail.
And if you constantly stare at the top, you're going
to be out of breath. You're going to tell yourself
you have so much longer, why are we ever going
to get that? And you are going to miss the
entire point of your freaking life, which is the ride,
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the trail, the bridge, the mile markers, all of it.
And so part of my desire to be happier is
to continually remind myself it is not about getting on
that mountain, because when you get to the top of
that mountain, the top of one mountains just the.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Bottom of another one.
Speaker 15 (06:18):
And if you're going up, eventually you got to come
back down. Like that is just like if you focus
on the freaking trail, whatever step you're on, and you
keep reminding yourself, this is going to lead me somewhere.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
That is where the meeting comes in your life.
Speaker 16 (06:31):
If you don't see results in the first two days
or the first week.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
I'm done.
Speaker 16 (06:36):
That's the mentality of most people.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
The struggle is too real.
Speaker 16 (06:40):
We're not patient in the world where you can google
the best restaurants around me right now, no one is patient.
And for you to lose weight if you just stop drinking,
if you rare the hell you're going through.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
It takes a lot of patience.
Speaker 16 (06:52):
A lot of time, and a lot of pitfalls, a
lot of plateaus. You can hear so many fucking plateaus.
If you'll know how to get around that platu it's
not going to happen fast.
Speaker 14 (07:02):
Beware of what you've become in pursuit of what you want.
I got so obsessed with some things that I found
out later the price was too big to pay. If
I would have known better, I never would have paid.
But sometimes we learn when after so don't become so
obsessed with something that you lose your sense of reason
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or it costs you your friends.
Speaker 17 (07:28):
One of the most important things that we need to
teach young men is delayed gratification. If you just eat
what you want to eat, smoke what you want to smoke,
drink what you want to drink, and sleep with who
you want to sleep with, you're going to ruin generations.
Our culture does not teach delaid gratification. You don't need
to say just going to debt. You don't need to
wait to be married, just move in, sleep together. You
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don't need to practice self control. You just drink and
eat whatever you want and just wreck your life and
go into debt. And then both were a socialist who
will send you a stimulus so you can continue your
extended adolescence And if that offends you, you don't have
a job.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
But for those of us who do, it's frustrating. There's
a key concepts of life.
Speaker 18 (08:15):
And even if you're not where you want to be
in life, and you're grinding and you're on that hustle.
Speaker 19 (08:19):
And there's a lot of people I get it, keep grinding,
get but also appreciated, Appreciate that hustle, Appreciate this thing, Appreciate.
Speaker 9 (08:28):
This fucking beautiful, chaotic, unknown existence you're in.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
Thing we call life.
Speaker 6 (08:34):
And so one of my favorite quotes is the work
works on you more than you work on it. And
so if you want to be the best in the
world at something, you do the work to become the
best in the world, and the work works on you.
And so I mean there's a there's a biblical proverty.
I think it'says like there is profit in all labor,
and that means that even if the thing that you're
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working on right now doesn't amount to the outcome that
you expected that it would, it doesn't mean that you
don't become better through doing it.
Speaker 20 (09:06):
We may encounter many defeats, but we must not be
defeated that in fact, it may be necessary to encounter
defeats so we can know who the hell we are,
what can we overcome, what makes us stumble and fall
and somehow miraculously rise and go on. I know that
a diamond is a result of extreme pressure, less time
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and less pressure, and it's just crystal or coal or
fossilized leaves are just dirt, but time and pressure will
create a diamond.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
You're happy when you pay. Most of the time.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
It's a point.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
I fail. She looks absolute time.
Speaker 21 (09:51):
There's a lot of destruction and failure at the door
of a successful picture. I find Joe and sorrow, and
sorrow is greater than laughter. You know, an angel, it's
not far from those who are sad, and the illness
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can sometimes feel less.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
You believe and thank you. Man does what he can
m until his destiny is revealed.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
Well, I'm gonna cut off a minute of two.
Speaker 19 (10:35):
My doctor says it's okay to exercise, but what becomes
a strange.
Speaker 22 (10:42):
You better quit man, You know, doctor don't always talking
about That's what you.
Speaker 9 (10:45):
Want to do.
Speaker 12 (10:46):
A stray.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
You want to run into the pains you are, run
into your.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
Thoatills that sad people. You want run and it feels
like you're gonna thought.
Speaker 7 (10:54):
You want to keep running to you as the peep
see you're going with that, You're gonna fall out.
Speaker 22 (10:58):
You gotta run into your stomachs verts, your heart starts power.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
You want to put feel exact. You ain't going another.
It ain't going another step, which keep going.
Speaker 23 (11:08):
How many people on this planet are willing to wake
up every single day and go to the gym or
to the trail and put themselves through consistent and constant
adversity without immediate results. I'd say probably less than five
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percent of people are willing to do that. See, the
truth is, when you take up running, or you take
up going to the gym and working out, you're not
going to see results immediately. And so what working out
and what fitness does is it teaches you delayed gratification.
You know that if you do this over time, that
you will get the results that you want.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Do you want the future to change.
Speaker 24 (11:52):
For you, You've.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Got to change. If you don't change, the.
Speaker 14 (11:55):
Next six years of your life is going to be
just like the last six. You'll still be behind your bills,
you'll still be behind on your promises. If you will change,
everything will change for you. If you'll change your philosophy,
if you'll change your habits, if you'll refine your thinking,
if you'll change and accept some new disciplines, all kinds
of remarkable things will happen for you if you will change.
Speaker 25 (12:18):
And so what this young generation needs to learn is
patience that some things that really really matter, like job fulfillment, joy,
love of life, self confidence, a skill set, any of
these things, All of these things take time. Overcome the
need to have instant gratification and teach them the joy
is and impact on.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
The fulfillment you get from.
Speaker 25 (12:41):
Working hard over on something for a long time that
cannot be done in a month or even in a year.
Speaker 6 (12:47):
Most people don't get to fasten a feedback loop to
know that they're on the right path. It happens slower
than you expect and then faster than you can imagine.
And I think that's the part that everyone misses, is
expect the faster than they can imagine, and they imagine
really big, and so then their expectations.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Are really big, really fast.
Speaker 6 (13:05):
But they they take the intensity and they don't apply
it to a timeline that's appropriate. What has worked so
well for me and why the input over the output
focus has been so powerful is that I can extend
the time rise and basically and definitely because the goal
is me and then the external goals occur.
Speaker 26 (13:24):
If I'm eating food, I'll save the best for lass,
you know what I'm saying, I'll eat around it to
the one part that I really want. I want to
I'm gonna save there. I'm like, I'm a delay you
know what I'm saying, gratification. I'm that type of person.
So like I'm literally like, all right, I will party later.
I work hard now, so the second half of my
life I could do whatever the fuck I want. That's
that's been my mentality, is like, I'm not going to
trick off my early years for partying. It ain't worry
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about struggling and how I'm going to make it, how
much take care of my family, how I gonna take
care of everybody else? Like, that's not.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Gonna be me. I'm gonna grind it out now, you know, I'm.
Speaker 26 (13:53):
Saying, I'm gonna set up the foundation so I can
enjoy myself later. That's always been my mentality and and
that just what that works for me.
Speaker 27 (14:00):
But if you've never experienced a reward from discipline, it's
going to be very difficult for you. But you have
to know that after the three months of the six
months of sitting in your office and writing every single
day over and over and over again, you try to
write a book or a novel or whatever, it's boring,
Its health, and Man, I'm going to reach that moment
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in three months or four months.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
It's going to be a reward.
Speaker 27 (14:24):
And I'm going to feel it, and I'm going to
get an addiction.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
I'm going to get hooked to that.
Speaker 27 (14:28):
You get hooked to those rewards to the point where
other kinds of immediate pleasures don't have the same effect
on you.
Speaker 28 (14:35):
The ability to delay pleasure is a sign of maturity.
That's what grown ups do. Children do what feels good. Yolo,
you only live once quick instead of like I'm going
to sacrifice to get a greater outcome, I'm going to
live like no one else so that later I can
live and give like no one else. I've got to
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have the moment at this moment. That is a childish
expression of any area of your life. It will destroy
your marriage, it will raise horrible children, you know, it'll
mess up your career, and it certainly will mess up
your money. Short term thinking get rich quick has never
worked at any time in the world as an ongoing, provable,
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sustainable process. So we got to stick with this idea.
And that even includes our generosity. You know, we were
starting to talk about generosity and the generosity with these
folks with these millionaires that we studied is a steady thing,
like their savings is a steady thing. They're not trying
to have this one big event that says, look at me,
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how generous I am. Instead, they're fairly quiet about it,
almost absurdly quiet and anonymous about it, and they steadily
give in to something that they believe in.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
I called the Rockie cut scene.
Speaker 6 (15:56):
And almost every successful person that I have ever encountered
has gone through not a month or a year, but
many years of doing work without reward, where they have
to do things that other people find boring, and they
have to sacrifice things that everyone finds interesting that most
people want to do during that entire season of their life,
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and they basically sacrifice a season of other things that
they would prefer to do to do stuff that they
would not prefer to do because of the one thing
they want most. That's the Rocky cut scene. And instead
of lasting five minutes, it just usually last five or
ten years.
Speaker 24 (16:36):
Once you've mastered the ability to delay gratification, the ability
to discipline yourself to keep your attention focused on the
most important task in front of you, there's virtually no
goal that you cannot accomplish, and no task that you
cannot complete.
Speaker 22 (16:52):
We really need to begin to reward a culture of
delayed gratification. Delayed gratification doesn't mean no gratification. It just
means if you can wait, wait because your time and
opportunity will come. A young man who came to Dragons
Dead then I funded him. His name was Johan. I
gave him two million. I gave him two million on
the premise of what he committed to me on the show,
and when I did the due diligence, I asked him
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very specific questions about how he conducted himself and his business.
And the only thing I was asking him was I
was trying to understand the man's lifestyle. There's two million
rands a lot of money. When I give it to you,
where is it going to go. We actually understood that
his problem is he's a brilliant business person, he's just
very bad at managing his personal lifestyle. And so because
he mixes his business life with his personal life, his
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business is now not investment worthy. This is a culture.
Because you have it, you need to show you have it.
You never thought about what we do. We buy things
we don't need to impress people we don't like. We
won't even remember that we bought those things. It is
the most fascinating mental thinking.
Speaker 13 (17:50):
The great majority of people have an irresistible temptation to
spend every single penny they make and whatever else they
can borrow or.
Speaker 26 (17:57):
Buy it on credit.
Speaker 13 (17:58):
If you can't the leagorification and discipline yourself to refrain
from spending everything you make, you cannot become wealthy. W.
Clement Stone once said, if you cannot save money, then
the seeds of greatness are not in you. If you
cannot practice budgeting as a lifelong habit, it will be
impossible for you to achieve financial independence.
Speaker 6 (18:19):
And so I think that a lot of people don't
actually look at themselves in the mirror and say, like,
one year from today, will I remember this football game?
Will I remember the fact that I'm not where I
said I wanted to be? And to me that was
significantly more painful. Now this is an uncomfortable fact for
a lot of people. Your ability to delay gratification is
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actually a function of intelligence, and so your ability to
learn at a longer and longer delay. The sign of
intelligence is that you can actually expand the reinforcement window,
and they can still abstract it back to the original action.
If you want to practice intelligence, then being able to
actively delay your need for a result or reward from
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the work you do will make you a more intelligent
person because your rate of learning will actually increase despite
the fact that your reward rate will decrease in the
short term.
Speaker 11 (19:15):
The bottom line is that if you're talking about beating
everybody else on the planet to a thing, what you're
actually talking about is what are you prepared to sacrifice psychologically, physically, existentially, relationally, socially,
in terms of your self esteem.
Speaker 3 (19:30):
You're confident everything.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
That you must be willing to sacrifice who you are
today for who you want to become tomorrow. You have
to sacrifice who you are today for who you want
to become tomorrow. There's a verse in the Bible says,
when I became a man, I put away childish things.
Speaker 29 (19:44):
I'm willing to sacrifice right now for who I want
to be in the future. I'm willing to sacrifice my
current reality for the lifestyle I want to live forever.
Right If you can create that for yourself, then you'll
be dangerous.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
You can't become the best version of yourself unless you're
willing to nikele who you are today, the bad habits,
the bad friendships, bad relationships. Because if you want to
become a millionaire, if you want to become a person
that's successful, we want to develop a better physique, it
will require sacrifice.
Speaker 14 (20:10):
If you want to become best in this business, you
have to sacrifice second office, your time, second adfe your
healthy sacond advise everything would you have out of way?
Speaker 26 (20:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 30 (20:21):
When you're twenty five, you can be an idiot, it's
no problem. That's what young people are like. But they're
full of potential. Okay, well now you're the same person
at thirty. People aren't so thrilled about you at that point, Like,
what the hell have you been doing for the last
ten years. Well, I'm just as clueless as I was
when I was twenty two.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Yeah, but you're not twenty two. You're an old infant
and that's an ugly thing.
Speaker 30 (20:40):
So part of the reason you choose your damn sacrifice
because the sacrifice is inevitable, but at least you get
to choose it.
Speaker 6 (20:47):
My favorite Chinese proverb is everything must be hard before
it can be easy. I think it's amazing what you
can endure when you have no choice, Because at the
end of the day, life is hard, but believing it
should be easy makes it even hard.
Speaker 11 (21:04):
I got to show you this so Mark Manson put
this quote up a few months ago, and I've not
been able to stop thinking about it. The most important
question to ask is what pain do you want in
your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Anything
worthwhile is going to require some degree of pain and struggle.
So if you're oriented toward the pain and the struggle,
you're probably going to be more aligned with what you're
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capable of accomplishing, rather than if you just orient toward
the pleasures.
Speaker 3 (21:30):
I'm going to tell you the best advice I ever
got at Harvard.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
You want to be great, you need to sacrifice, and
then more painful the sacrifice, the greater you'll be.
Speaker 11 (21:39):
The person you have to spend the most time listening
to in your life is yourself. Try not to lose
their respect. Self respect and self esteem I think largely
comes from having faith in your own word.
Speaker 31 (21:52):
The way we're wired, and this is the way people
operate basically, is everyone's taking short term comfort that drug, drink, relationships, job, choices.
All the choices they make, they make no and there's
a level of comfort there. That's how people live their lives.
They're not prepared to step into that discomfort knowing that
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on the other side of that is the long term gain.
And if you want to achieve anything in life, if
you want to achieve successive work, successes in any aspect
of your life, you need to take short term discomfort
for long term gain.
Speaker 32 (22:30):
Being overweight is hard. Being physically fit is hard. Choose
your hard. Being in debt is hard. Being financially disciplined
is hard. Choose your hard. Working at nine to five
until you're sixty five years old, it's hard.
Speaker 29 (22:48):
Starting a business is hard.
Speaker 33 (22:51):
Choose your hard.
Speaker 32 (22:53):
A careless life without God is hard.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
A life dedicated to good is hard. Choose your hunt.
You see, life is never easy.
Speaker 32 (23:04):
It's hard by nature, and the only thing you have
to do is choose your hut.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
So choose wise do.
Speaker 34 (23:12):
But the most powerful part of thinking grow rich Man
is see as this party says, can you survive the temporary?
And if you can survive the temporary, says on the
other side of temporary pain, you can introduce to your
other self, and that other self.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
He doesn't say this, but that other self produces that
other life.
Speaker 30 (23:28):
If you concentrate solely on your career, you can get
a long way in your career. And I would say
that that's a strategy that a minority of men preferentially do.
Speaker 4 (23:39):
That.
Speaker 30 (23:39):
That's all they do. They work like seventy eighty hours
a week. They go flat out on their career. They're
staking everything on the small probability of exceptional status in
a narrow domain. But it's hard on them. They don't
have a life. It's very difficult for them to have
a family. They don't know how to take any leisure
activity like. They get very one dimension.
Speaker 22 (23:58):
And that's how you get to beat all the other
people who are doing that.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
It's the only way.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
But the problem is you don't get life.
Speaker 33 (24:05):
Do hard things for an easy life, do easy things
for a hard life.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
If you choose the easy route, you've got a hard life.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
If you choose you.
Speaker 33 (24:18):
Know, you don't have to go to the gym, you
don't have to build a business, you don't have to
be nice to people. You don't have to do public speaking.
I don't have to go live on Facebook. I don't
have to do it. I can sit and do fuck all.
But let me know how that works out for you.
When you start to face your fears every day, when
you start to do uncomfortable things every day, you know
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what happens. The uncomfortable things become more comfortable. And when
you get comfortable doing uncomfortable things, that's where you see success.
When you get used to the discomfort of lifting weights
and going to the gym, you get very comfortable because
you get more confident, because your self esteem goes up.
Speaker 3 (24:58):
Your self confidence goes up, and you look.
Speaker 33 (25:00):
The way that you potentially want to look because you're
doing the work.
Speaker 35 (25:05):
People do not change until they realize that the pain
of staying the same is way worse than the pain
of change. Because life is either easy now and hard later,
or hard now and easy later. Everything in life has consequences.
Choosing easy now and sitting on your phone and scrolling
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instead of working out means you might lack mobility. You
might not be able to walk as well later on
down the road. Easy now and hard later. Choosing fast
food over making a healthy meal today means easy now,
hard later, But the consequences of that easy now might
be a heart attack later.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
On down the road.
Speaker 35 (25:47):
Getting up and taking action towards a better you is
always harder now, whether it's your body, your money, your relationships.
Choosing hard now will make your life easier so much
later down the road.
Speaker 4 (26:01):
Any goal that you're going after, whether you're trying to
lose weight, or whether you're trying to build wealth, or
whether you're trying to start a ministry, or whether you're
trying to build a marriage, or whether you're trying to
open up a business, you have to have delayed gratification.
If you open up a business and you start eating
up all the profits and spending it as fast as
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you're making it, your business won't last long. You have
got to open up the business and ignore the profits.
If you have the strength to ignore the profits long enough,
they will accrue in value and strength to the point
that you can go beyond what We fall into the
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abyss of looking rich. It is far better to be
a thing than look a thing, but in our haste
to be impressive, we will take the shortcut of looking black.
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We have something that we do not, and when we
do that, we forfeit the opportunity to actually be what
we are professing. Because it is expensive to require immediate gratification.
Speaker 18 (27:24):
If you just sacrificed this summer, these next three months
of your life broke, you could change the entire trajectory
of your entire life.
Speaker 36 (27:36):
Get back to fucking work. It's time to get back
to work. You have to give it everything you got.
No more TV, no more parties, no more plan. If
you have a four point zero, what you need to
be doing is studying. Get off the phone. I'm sorry,
I'm not available until the end of this year. I'm
about to get busy.
Speaker 4 (27:54):
Nah.
Speaker 37 (27:54):
Hey, bro, I need to get back in that mode again.
That mode were nothing gonna take you off your O pivot.
You were just putting in that work every single day.
Said that version of you as different. You gotta tap
back into it. No'm me out here playing with no
potential because you one of them ones. Brother, you're special.
Speaker 18 (28:07):
If you literally just took your fucking attention that's here, here, here, here, here,
have fun, this and that this entire summer and focused
it into one thing. While everybody else is fucking around
and having fun and fucking the bitches and drinking and
going to the parties, enjoying life.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
But they're still broke. Your whole life could change.
Speaker 7 (28:29):
All self help is hard choices now, easy life later.
Everything is the marshmallow test. Everything is about saying, look,
you know that famous marshmallow test of give a kid.
You can have one marshmallow now or two later. Probably
the biggest thing I got from the show and from
following you was that idea of serving yourself in twenty
four hours, you have to serve someone. What are you
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going to do today that you tomorrow will appreciate? Because
for something about a day, it seems about the right
time frame. If it's in six months time and you're
trying to go to the gym and motivate yourself by
and you look great in six months, it's.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
Like, ah, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
I don't know if you can do that.
Speaker 38 (29:09):
If you literally boil success down in any field, it's
just the ability to endure short term discomfort for long
term achieve whether you want to lose weight, whether you
want to have a good marriage, or whether you want
to have a six pack, whether you want to make money.
It's like you have to be willing to endure short
term sacrifice for a long term achiap.
Speaker 26 (29:22):
There's two sides of pain that I don't think a
lot of people really understand.
Speaker 23 (29:28):
Right, There's there's one side of pain, that's.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
The suffering and the discomfort side of pain. But then
there's another sign of pain that's called effort. It's called glory.
Speaker 4 (29:41):
It's called if you can find a way to push
through pain, there's something right on the other side of it.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
And and if you never tap into.
Speaker 36 (29:51):
It, it's because the first time you felt that you
backed home, the first time you.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Feel that burn, the first time you feel too much.
Speaker 4 (30:03):
And we rastal lives with ourselves so well, we automatically stop.
Speaker 39 (30:08):
That's why both of us give up so much in
life so quickly.
Speaker 4 (30:12):
That's why kids have a problem.
Speaker 13 (30:15):
Finishing things today's time.
Speaker 37 (30:18):
As soon as they feel a fall bit of discomfortable
of things, they't write, Oh they're gone.
Speaker 4 (30:25):
I can't do it no more.
Speaker 7 (30:27):
With the pose that told you the greatest thing of
my life.
Speaker 39 (30:33):
It's the reason I'm staring the other day. Wouldn't you
want to know what would happen if you spent just
one year, just one year, giving it your absolute all.
You gave your diet your absolute all. You gave your
fitness regiment your absolute all. You gave your work your
absolute all, how drastically would your life change in just
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one year, one year of uninterrupted I bet your life
would change drastically. I bet you'd be a completely different person.
I bet you'd be completely unrecognizable. I bet you would
look back and be like, I can't believe I was
living the way I was. Time is going to pass anyway.
The next year of your life is going to happen
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regardless of what you do. So why don't you spend
that year giving it your absolute all and just see
what happens. If you do that, I guarantee you will
look back one year from today and say that was
the best decision I have ever made.
Speaker 36 (31:34):
Pour yourself together, and quit tripping cast you in the process.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
The marshmallow experiment was taking place.
Speaker 40 (31:42):
It took place in the late sixties where Walter Michelle
was a psychologist at Stanford out in Palo Alto. He
would come in and sit down on one side of
a table and it was a kid on the other
side of the table between four and eight years old,
and in front of the kid it was a marshmallow.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
So he says to the kid, you want the marshmallow?
Kids like yeah. He says, I'll tell you what.
Speaker 40 (31:59):
I have to go take a phone call in the
back here, but when I come back, the marshmallow is
still there.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
I'll give you another one. Can you wait.
Speaker 40 (32:06):
Every kid's like, yeah, totally, totally, totally worth it.
Speaker 1 (32:09):
He comes back five minutes later.
Speaker 40 (32:11):
So eighty percent of the kids that eat in the marshmallow,
twenty percent of the kids hadn't. That's a lot. Eighty
percent of the kids could not defer the gratification. So
the real question is who's the twenty percent. These are
the people that went on to do distinguished things. They
did better in school, they got better grades, they went
on to have more job success, they had better relationships.
Speaker 41 (32:32):
Bro, I want to do it. I want to do
it makes me feel good. I like feeling good, you know.
But I just know, I just know subconsciously that if
I only do the things that make me good in
the short term, it's going to lead to destruction in
the future.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
I'm supposed to live my life like it matters.
Speaker 19 (32:50):
When I sacrificed my future on the altar of now,
I waste my life, you know, when I when I'm
getting blasted, getting drunk and getting high and having sex
with anybody who will down with me when I'm living my.
Speaker 4 (33:01):
Life like that.
Speaker 19 (33:03):
What I'm doing is I'm sacrificing my future on the
altar of my present, and there's no way that ends well.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
You start going to the gym, you feel weak. In
order to become strong, you go to the library, you read,
you don't understand. You feel stupid in order to become smart.
The process of discomfort is inevitable. You have to go
through it. Most people have that initial feeling, that initial
lack of self belief because they don't understand that they
have to be humbled first in every aspect in the
north to grow. So you go to the gym, you
feel like shit. That's a good thing. It just shows
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you that you need to improve. Most people go to
the gym feel like shit.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
Never go back.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
Put on an oversized T shirt. Problem covered, No, it's
not the problem. It's not covered. You need to go
through that parallel problem. You solve it, and then you
get the reward. Every aspect of play facet your ability
to delay gratification. It's not just like, oh, I can
wait a week or I can wait a month. But
I made this tweet that went pretty viral. It was like,
if you can wait a year, you can make a
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ton of money. Like, if you can do something for
twelve months, you cannot need for financial goodness pretty much
for the rest of your life.
Speaker 3 (34:02):
I'm not saying you're going to be hell rich, but
you're not going to need for anything.
Speaker 42 (34:05):
If you can wait twelve months, if you can wait
a decade, you're going to be above the one percent.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
If you can wait ten years for.
Speaker 42 (34:13):
An outcome, be able to do the doing without seeing
the result for ten years, you will be able to
be above any most achievement of most people.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
And if you can wait a lifetime and you don't even.
Speaker 42 (34:26):
Need to see the result of your doing this even
while you are alive, but know that it may get
done after you pass that, I believe that you can.
Speaker 3 (34:35):
Change the world.
Speaker 42 (34:36):
And I mean then and so I think that if
people can just extend the time horizon that they're measuring
themselves on, they can just do so much more.
Me are one.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
What's coming to me or what's coming to your town,
the world.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
It's not about today, it's about the future. Two keywords
delayed gratification. Every person minute is another chance to turn
it all around.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It's what you do right now that makes a difference.
The night is dark, it's just before the dawn.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
So I promise you.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
The dog is coming.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
You do the work now.
Speaker 4 (00:35):
Do the work now, and all of the shit that
you could ever want to do for your family, your kids,
your loved ones, it's all going to be on a
whole other stratosphere.
Speaker 5 (00:45):
This poll hit me in my chise Yusain both said
I trained four years to run nine seconds, and people
give up when they don't see results in two months.
Speaker 6 (00:57):
There's this huge time delay between when we start behaving
in a way that a winter behaves and when we
start winning.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
You can't have an easy life and a great character.
Having stuff isn't fun.
Speaker 7 (01:09):
Getting stuff is fun, right, It's not the pursuit happiness,
it's the happiness of the pursuit.
Speaker 8 (01:14):
Suffer now and live rest of your life of the time.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
Enjoy the journey, not the destination. A lot of us
delay our happiness when I get to this level, when
I get my degree, when I get the kids, when
I get married, I'm going to be happy. Enjoy the journey,
Enjoy the whole step, the whole process every day that
you get up to strive for whatever it is you're after.
But you don't celebrate when you get to the finished lands.
Celebrate all along the way.
Speaker 9 (01:41):
You get to be kind of content with doing the
exact same thing basically day after day after day and
making reasonable progress. The more impatient somebody is this is
a rocket science, the less likely it is that they're
going to stick to something for a long time.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
And like ninety nine percent of any cool.
Speaker 9 (02:00):
Shit that anybody does ever, usually takes a lot of
preparation and practice and just repetitive action to get good.
At how many people would watch econor McGregor fight if
in order to watch the fight they had to watch
the thousands of hours of training that he had to
do to work up to that level delayed gratification.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
So I would say it's a sign of maturity.
Speaker 10 (02:22):
It's just an investment in ourselves to just believe in
ourself enough to project to say I'm going to pass
up the plastic ring today for the gold crown tomorrow.
I'm gonna maybe make a sacrifice.
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Today for a Monday off instead of the Friday off.
Speaker 10 (02:41):
If I'm getting a long weekend, give you give yourself
the extra win, the freedom be cool through your future self.
Speaker 11 (02:47):
On the back end, you're going to lose sleep, You'll
doubt whether it'll work, you'll stress to make ends meet,
you won't finish it to do list, you'll wonder whether
you make the right cold and have no way to
know for yours. This is what hard feels like, and
that's okay. Everything worth doing is hard, and the more
worth doing it is, the harder it is, the greater
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the payoff, the greater the hardship. If it's hard good,
it means no one else will do it well for you.
Speaker 12 (03:17):
Nothing must ever done in the history of the world
by any human being that didn't require some level of
data gratification.
Speaker 13 (03:25):
Everything is hard before it's easy, and everything at the
beginning is difficult, but later it.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Becomes easy and automatic. You have to.
Speaker 13 (03:34):
Force yourself to discipline yourself at the beginning, but after
that it becomes easier and easier, and you actually feel happy,
you know.
Speaker 8 (03:43):
And every time I think about working out, you know
as hard as it is. Ali always said training is hard,
is tough, but suffer now and you'll live the rest
of your life as a champion.
Speaker 6 (03:53):
The problem is that the bigger the mountain you're trying
to climb, the bigger the w you're trying to get, typically,
the more delayed it between when you start behaving like
a winner and when you start being a winner.
Speaker 13 (04:04):
Now, here's the most wonderful thing. An athlete runs in
a race and comes in first. What do they call
this person the winner? Exactly? What it says is that
when you win, when you come in it's the winner.
Your body releases endorphins, which are called nature's happy drug.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
They make you happy and dopamine.
Speaker 13 (04:26):
So when you complete a task, your body releases these
drugs and.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
You feel happy.
Speaker 13 (04:33):
So every time you start and complete a task, you
feel like a winner, I mean, you feel like a winner.
You want to do it again and have that winning healing.
Speaker 14 (04:42):
Get serious, and you must get serious about two very
important things. Number one is setting your goals and where
you want to go. Designing the next five the next
ten years is so vitally important. Then you have to
get serious about another important subject, personal development. Ten years
from now you will surely become. So the big question
is who. Ten years from now you will surely arrive,
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and the question is where.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
So to answer the question.
Speaker 14 (05:09):
Of where you want to arrive and the kind of
person you want to be, you've got to get serious.
Speaker 12 (05:14):
Delay gratification means to sacrifice the hedonism of the present
to the security and iterability of the future, and so
that is a hallmark of maturity. That's also the ability
to make sacrifices. That's why the sacrificial motif is stressed
so hard in the Old Testament.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
You have to make sacrifices to what, well, to whatever
you value.
Speaker 15 (05:38):
The purpose of going for a hike, ironically, is not
to get to the top. It's to be on the trail.
And if you constantly stare at the top, you're going
to be out of breath. You're going to tell yourself
you have so much longer, why are we ever going
to get that? And you are going to miss the
entire point of your freaking life, which is the ride,
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the trail, the bridge, the mile markers, all of it.
And so part of my desire to be happier is
to continually remind myself it is not about getting on
that mountain, because when you get to the top of
that mountain, the top of one mountains just the.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Bottom of another one.
Speaker 15 (06:18):
And if you're going up, eventually you got to come
back down. Like that is just like if you focus
on the freaking trail, whatever step you're on, and you
keep reminding yourself, this is going to lead me somewhere.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
That is where the meeting comes in your life.
Speaker 16 (06:31):
If you don't see results in the first two days
or the first week.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
I'm done.
Speaker 16 (06:36):
That's the mentality of most people.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
The struggle is too real.
Speaker 16 (06:40):
We're not patient in the world where you can google
the best restaurants around me right now, no one is patient.
And for you to lose weight if you just stop drinking,
if you rare the hell you're going through.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
It takes a lot of patience.
Speaker 16 (06:52):
A lot of time, and a lot of pitfalls, a
lot of plateaus. You can hear so many fucking plateaus.
If you'll know how to get around that platu it's
not going to happen fast.
Speaker 14 (07:02):
Beware of what you've become in pursuit of what you want.
I got so obsessed with some things that I found
out later the price was too big to pay. If
I would have known better, I never would have paid.
But sometimes we learn when after so don't become so
obsessed with something that you lose your sense of reason
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or it costs you your friends.
Speaker 17 (07:28):
One of the most important things that we need to
teach young men is delayed gratification. If you just eat
what you want to eat, smoke what you want to smoke,
drink what you want to drink, and sleep with who
you want to sleep with, you're going to ruin generations.
Our culture does not teach delaid gratification. You don't need
to say just going to debt. You don't need to
wait to be married, just move in, sleep together. You
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don't need to practice self control. You just drink and
eat whatever you want and just wreck your life and
go into debt. And then both were a socialist who
will send you a stimulus so you can continue your
extended adolescence And if that offends you, you don't have
a job.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
But for those of us who do, it's frustrating. There's
a key concepts of life.
Speaker 18 (08:15):
And even if you're not where you want to be
in life, and you're grinding and you're on that hustle.
Speaker 19 (08:19):
And there's a lot of people I get it, keep grinding,
get but also appreciated, Appreciate that hustle, Appreciate this thing, Appreciate.
Speaker 9 (08:28):
This fucking beautiful, chaotic, unknown existence you're in.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
Thing we call life.
Speaker 6 (08:34):
And so one of my favorite quotes is the work
works on you more than you work on it. And
so if you want to be the best in the
world at something, you do the work to become the
best in the world, and the work works on you.
And so I mean there's a there's a biblical proverty.
I think it'says like there is profit in all labor,
and that means that even if the thing that you're
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working on right now doesn't amount to the outcome that
you expected that it would, it doesn't mean that you
don't become better through doing it.
Speaker 20 (09:06):
We may encounter many defeats, but we must not be
defeated that in fact, it may be necessary to encounter
defeats so we can know who the hell we are,
what can we overcome, what makes us stumble and fall
and somehow miraculously rise and go on. I know that
a diamond is a result of extreme pressure, less time
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and less pressure, and it's just crystal or coal or
fossilized leaves are just dirt, but time and pressure will
create a diamond.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
You're happy when you pay. Most of the time.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
It's a point.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
I fail. She looks absolute time.
Speaker 21 (09:51):
There's a lot of destruction and failure at the door
of a successful picture. I find Joe and sorrow, and
sorrow is greater than laughter. You know, an angel, it's
not far from those who are sad, and the illness
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can sometimes feel less.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
You believe and thank you. Man does what he can
m until his destiny is revealed.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
Well, I'm gonna cut off a minute of two.
Speaker 19 (10:35):
My doctor says it's okay to exercise, but what becomes
a strange.
Speaker 22 (10:42):
You better quit man, You know, doctor don't always talking
about That's what you.
Speaker 9 (10:45):
Want to do.
Speaker 12 (10:46):
A stray.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
You want to run into the pains you are, run
into your.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
Thoatills that sad people. You want run and it feels
like you're gonna thought.
Speaker 7 (10:54):
You want to keep running to you as the peep
see you're going with that, You're gonna fall out.
Speaker 22 (10:58):
You gotta run into your stomachs verts, your heart starts power.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
You want to put feel exact. You ain't going another.
It ain't going another step, which keep going.
Speaker 23 (11:08):
How many people on this planet are willing to wake
up every single day and go to the gym or
to the trail and put themselves through consistent and constant
adversity without immediate results. I'd say probably less than five
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percent of people are willing to do that. See, the
truth is, when you take up running, or you take
up going to the gym and working out, you're not
going to see results immediately. And so what working out
and what fitness does is it teaches you delayed gratification.
You know that if you do this over time, that
you will get the results that you want.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Do you want the future to change.
Speaker 24 (11:52):
For you, You've.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Got to change. If you don't change, the.
Speaker 14 (11:55):
Next six years of your life is going to be
just like the last six. You'll still be behind your bills,
you'll still be behind on your promises. If you will change,
everything will change for you. If you'll change your philosophy,
if you'll change your habits, if you'll refine your thinking,
if you'll change and accept some new disciplines, all kinds
of remarkable things will happen for you if you will change.
Speaker 25 (12:18):
And so what this young generation needs to learn is
patience that some things that really really matter, like job fulfillment, joy,
love of life, self confidence, a skill set, any of
these things, All of these things take time. Overcome the
need to have instant gratification and teach them the joy
is and impact on.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
The fulfillment you get from.
Speaker 25 (12:41):
Working hard over on something for a long time that
cannot be done in a month or even in a year.
Speaker 6 (12:47):
Most people don't get to fasten a feedback loop to
know that they're on the right path. It happens slower
than you expect and then faster than you can imagine.
And I think that's the part that everyone misses, is
expect the faster than they can imagine, and they imagine
really big, and so then their expectations.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Are really big, really fast.
Speaker 6 (13:05):
But they they take the intensity and they don't apply
it to a timeline that's appropriate. What has worked so
well for me and why the input over the output
focus has been so powerful is that I can extend
the time rise and basically and definitely because the goal
is me and then the external goals occur.
Speaker 26 (13:24):
If I'm eating food, I'll save the best for lass,
you know what I'm saying, I'll eat around it to
the one part that I really want. I want to
I'm gonna save there. I'm like, I'm a delay you
know what I'm saying, gratification. I'm that type of person.
So like I'm literally like, all right, I will party later.
I work hard now, so the second half of my
life I could do whatever the fuck I want. That's
that's been my mentality, is like, I'm not going to
trick off my early years for partying. It ain't worry
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about struggling and how I'm going to make it, how
much take care of my family, how I gonna take
care of everybody else? Like, that's not.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Gonna be me. I'm gonna grind it out now, you know, I'm.
Speaker 26 (13:53):
Saying, I'm gonna set up the foundation so I can
enjoy myself later. That's always been my mentality and and
that just what that works for me.
Speaker 27 (14:00):
But if you've never experienced a reward from discipline, it's
going to be very difficult for you. But you have
to know that after the three months of the six
months of sitting in your office and writing every single
day over and over and over again, you try to
write a book or a novel or whatever, it's boring,
Its health, and Man, I'm going to reach that moment
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in three months or four months.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
It's going to be a reward.
Speaker 27 (14:24):
And I'm going to feel it, and I'm going to
get an addiction.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
I'm going to get hooked to that.
Speaker 27 (14:28):
You get hooked to those rewards to the point where
other kinds of immediate pleasures don't have the same effect
on you.
Speaker 28 (14:35):
The ability to delay pleasure is a sign of maturity.
That's what grown ups do. Children do what feels good. Yolo,
you only live once quick instead of like I'm going
to sacrifice to get a greater outcome, I'm going to
live like no one else so that later I can
live and give like no one else. I've got to
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have the moment at this moment. That is a childish
expression of any area of your life. It will destroy
your marriage, it will raise horrible children, you know, it'll
mess up your career, and it certainly will mess up
your money. Short term thinking get rich quick has never
worked at any time in the world as an ongoing, provable,
(15:23):
sustainable process. So we got to stick with this idea.
And that even includes our generosity. You know, we were
starting to talk about generosity and the generosity with these
folks with these millionaires that we studied is a steady thing,
like their savings is a steady thing. They're not trying
to have this one big event that says, look at me,
(15:43):
how generous I am. Instead, they're fairly quiet about it,
almost absurdly quiet and anonymous about it, and they steadily
give in to something that they believe in.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
I called the Rockie cut scene.
Speaker 6 (15:56):
And almost every successful person that I have ever encountered
has gone through not a month or a year, but
many years of doing work without reward, where they have
to do things that other people find boring, and they
have to sacrifice things that everyone finds interesting that most
people want to do during that entire season of their life,
(16:18):
and they basically sacrifice a season of other things that
they would prefer to do to do stuff that they
would not prefer to do because of the one thing
they want most. That's the Rocky cut scene. And instead
of lasting five minutes, it just usually last five or
ten years.
Speaker 24 (16:36):
Once you've mastered the ability to delay gratification, the ability
to discipline yourself to keep your attention focused on the
most important task in front of you, there's virtually no
goal that you cannot accomplish, and no task that you
cannot complete.
Speaker 22 (16:52):
We really need to begin to reward a culture of
delayed gratification. Delayed gratification doesn't mean no gratification. It just
means if you can wait, wait because your time and
opportunity will come. A young man who came to Dragons
Dead then I funded him. His name was Johan. I
gave him two million. I gave him two million on
the premise of what he committed to me on the show,
and when I did the due diligence, I asked him
(17:13):
very specific questions about how he conducted himself and his business.
And the only thing I was asking him was I
was trying to understand the man's lifestyle. There's two million
rands a lot of money. When I give it to you,
where is it going to go. We actually understood that
his problem is he's a brilliant business person, he's just
very bad at managing his personal lifestyle. And so because
he mixes his business life with his personal life, his
(17:35):
business is now not investment worthy. This is a culture.
Because you have it, you need to show you have it.
You never thought about what we do. We buy things
we don't need to impress people we don't like. We
won't even remember that we bought those things. It is
the most fascinating mental thinking.
Speaker 13 (17:50):
The great majority of people have an irresistible temptation to
spend every single penny they make and whatever else they
can borrow or.
Speaker 26 (17:57):
Buy it on credit.
Speaker 13 (17:58):
If you can't the leagorification and discipline yourself to refrain
from spending everything you make, you cannot become wealthy. W.
Clement Stone once said, if you cannot save money, then
the seeds of greatness are not in you. If you
cannot practice budgeting as a lifelong habit, it will be
impossible for you to achieve financial independence.
Speaker 6 (18:19):
And so I think that a lot of people don't
actually look at themselves in the mirror and say, like,
one year from today, will I remember this football game?
Will I remember the fact that I'm not where I
said I wanted to be? And to me that was
significantly more painful. Now this is an uncomfortable fact for
a lot of people. Your ability to delay gratification is
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actually a function of intelligence, and so your ability to
learn at a longer and longer delay. The sign of
intelligence is that you can actually expand the reinforcement window,
and they can still abstract it back to the original action.
If you want to practice intelligence, then being able to
actively delay your need for a result or reward from
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the work you do will make you a more intelligent
person because your rate of learning will actually increase despite
the fact that your reward rate will decrease in the
short term.
Speaker 11 (19:15):
The bottom line is that if you're talking about beating
everybody else on the planet to a thing, what you're
actually talking about is what are you prepared to sacrifice psychologically, physically, existentially, relationally, socially,
in terms of your self esteem.
Speaker 3 (19:30):
You're confident everything.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
That you must be willing to sacrifice who you are
today for who you want to become tomorrow. You have
to sacrifice who you are today for who you want
to become tomorrow. There's a verse in the Bible says,
when I became a man, I put away childish things.
Speaker 29 (19:44):
I'm willing to sacrifice right now for who I want
to be in the future. I'm willing to sacrifice my
current reality for the lifestyle I want to live forever.
Right If you can create that for yourself, then you'll
be dangerous.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
You can't become the best version of yourself unless you're
willing to nikele who you are today, the bad habits,
the bad friendships, bad relationships. Because if you want to
become a millionaire, if you want to become a person
that's successful, we want to develop a better physique, it
will require sacrifice.
Speaker 14 (20:10):
If you want to become best in this business, you
have to sacrifice second office, your time, second adfe your
healthy sacond advise everything would you have out of way?
Speaker 26 (20:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 30 (20:21):
When you're twenty five, you can be an idiot, it's
no problem. That's what young people are like. But they're
full of potential. Okay, well now you're the same person
at thirty. People aren't so thrilled about you at that point, Like,
what the hell have you been doing for the last
ten years. Well, I'm just as clueless as I was
when I was twenty two.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Yeah, but you're not twenty two. You're an old infant
and that's an ugly thing.
Speaker 30 (20:40):
So part of the reason you choose your damn sacrifice
because the sacrifice is inevitable, but at least you get
to choose it.
Speaker 6 (20:47):
My favorite Chinese proverb is everything must be hard before
it can be easy. I think it's amazing what you
can endure when you have no choice, Because at the
end of the day, life is hard, but believing it
should be easy makes it even hard.
Speaker 11 (21:04):
I got to show you this so Mark Manson put
this quote up a few months ago, and I've not
been able to stop thinking about it. The most important
question to ask is what pain do you want in
your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Anything
worthwhile is going to require some degree of pain and struggle.
So if you're oriented toward the pain and the struggle,
you're probably going to be more aligned with what you're
(21:26):
capable of accomplishing, rather than if you just orient toward
the pleasures.
Speaker 3 (21:30):
I'm going to tell you the best advice I ever
got at Harvard.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
You want to be great, you need to sacrifice, and
then more painful the sacrifice, the greater you'll be.
Speaker 11 (21:39):
The person you have to spend the most time listening
to in your life is yourself. Try not to lose
their respect. Self respect and self esteem I think largely
comes from having faith in your own word.
Speaker 31 (21:52):
The way we're wired, and this is the way people
operate basically, is everyone's taking short term comfort that drug, drink, relationships, job, choices.
All the choices they make, they make no and there's
a level of comfort there. That's how people live their lives.
They're not prepared to step into that discomfort knowing that
(22:15):
on the other side of that is the long term gain.
And if you want to achieve anything in life, if
you want to achieve successive work, successes in any aspect
of your life, you need to take short term discomfort
for long term gain.
Speaker 32 (22:30):
Being overweight is hard. Being physically fit is hard. Choose
your hard. Being in debt is hard. Being financially disciplined
is hard. Choose your hard. Working at nine to five
until you're sixty five years old, it's hard.
Speaker 29 (22:48):
Starting a business is hard.
Speaker 33 (22:51):
Choose your hard.
Speaker 32 (22:53):
A careless life without God is hard.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
A life dedicated to good is hard. Choose your hunt.
You see, life is never easy.
Speaker 32 (23:04):
It's hard by nature, and the only thing you have
to do is choose your hut.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
So choose wise do.
Speaker 34 (23:12):
But the most powerful part of thinking grow rich Man
is see as this party says, can you survive the temporary?
And if you can survive the temporary, says on the
other side of temporary pain, you can introduce to your
other self, and that other self.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
He doesn't say this, but that other self produces that
other life.
Speaker 30 (23:28):
If you concentrate solely on your career, you can get
a long way in your career. And I would say
that that's a strategy that a minority of men preferentially do.
Speaker 4 (23:39):
That.
Speaker 30 (23:39):
That's all they do. They work like seventy eighty hours
a week. They go flat out on their career. They're
staking everything on the small probability of exceptional status in
a narrow domain. But it's hard on them. They don't
have a life. It's very difficult for them to have
a family. They don't know how to take any leisure
activity like. They get very one dimension.
Speaker 22 (23:58):
And that's how you get to beat all the other
people who are doing that.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
It's the only way.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
But the problem is you don't get life.
Speaker 33 (24:05):
Do hard things for an easy life, do easy things
for a hard life.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
If you choose the easy route, you've got a hard life.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
If you choose you.
Speaker 33 (24:18):
Know, you don't have to go to the gym, you
don't have to build a business, you don't have to
be nice to people. You don't have to do public speaking.
I don't have to go live on Facebook. I don't
have to do it. I can sit and do fuck all.
But let me know how that works out for you.
When you start to face your fears every day, when
you start to do uncomfortable things every day, you know
(24:39):
what happens. The uncomfortable things become more comfortable. And when
you get comfortable doing uncomfortable things, that's where you see success.
When you get used to the discomfort of lifting weights
and going to the gym, you get very comfortable because
you get more confident, because your self esteem goes up.
Speaker 3 (24:58):
Your self confidence goes up, and you look.
Speaker 33 (25:00):
The way that you potentially want to look because you're
doing the work.
Speaker 35 (25:05):
People do not change until they realize that the pain
of staying the same is way worse than the pain
of change. Because life is either easy now and hard later,
or hard now and easy later. Everything in life has consequences.
Choosing easy now and sitting on your phone and scrolling
(25:26):
instead of working out means you might lack mobility. You
might not be able to walk as well later on
down the road. Easy now and hard later. Choosing fast
food over making a healthy meal today means easy now,
hard later, But the consequences of that easy now might
be a heart attack later.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
On down the road.
Speaker 35 (25:47):
Getting up and taking action towards a better you is
always harder now, whether it's your body, your money, your relationships.
Choosing hard now will make your life easier so much
later down the road.
Speaker 4 (26:01):
Any goal that you're going after, whether you're trying to
lose weight, or whether you're trying to build wealth, or
whether you're trying to start a ministry, or whether you're
trying to build a marriage, or whether you're trying to
open up a business, you have to have delayed gratification.
If you open up a business and you start eating
up all the profits and spending it as fast as
(26:24):
you're making it, your business won't last long. You have
got to open up the business and ignore the profits.
If you have the strength to ignore the profits long enough,
they will accrue in value and strength to the point
that you can go beyond what We fall into the
(26:45):
abyss of looking rich. It is far better to be
a thing than look a thing, but in our haste
to be impressive, we will take the shortcut of looking black.
(27:07):
We have something that we do not, and when we
do that, we forfeit the opportunity to actually be what
we are professing. Because it is expensive to require immediate gratification.
Speaker 18 (27:24):
If you just sacrificed this summer, these next three months
of your life broke, you could change the entire trajectory
of your entire life.
Speaker 36 (27:36):
Get back to fucking work. It's time to get back
to work. You have to give it everything you got.
No more TV, no more parties, no more plan. If
you have a four point zero, what you need to
be doing is studying. Get off the phone. I'm sorry,
I'm not available until the end of this year. I'm
about to get busy.
Speaker 4 (27:54):
Nah.
Speaker 37 (27:54):
Hey, bro, I need to get back in that mode again.
That mode were nothing gonna take you off your O pivot.
You were just putting in that work every single day.
Said that version of you as different. You gotta tap
back into it. No'm me out here playing with no
potential because you one of them ones. Brother, you're special.
Speaker 18 (28:07):
If you literally just took your fucking attention that's here, here, here, here, here,
have fun, this and that this entire summer and focused
it into one thing. While everybody else is fucking around
and having fun and fucking the bitches and drinking and
going to the parties, enjoying life.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
But they're still broke. Your whole life could change.
Speaker 7 (28:29):
All self help is hard choices now, easy life later.
Everything is the marshmallow test. Everything is about saying, look,
you know that famous marshmallow test of give a kid.
You can have one marshmallow now or two later. Probably
the biggest thing I got from the show and from
following you was that idea of serving yourself in twenty
four hours, you have to serve someone. What are you
(28:51):
going to do today that you tomorrow will appreciate? Because
for something about a day, it seems about the right
time frame. If it's in six months time and you're
trying to go to the gym and motivate yourself by
and you look great in six months, it's.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
Like, ah, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
I don't know if you can do that.
Speaker 38 (29:09):
If you literally boil success down in any field, it's
just the ability to endure short term discomfort for long
term achieve whether you want to lose weight, whether you
want to have a good marriage, or whether you want
to have a six pack, whether you want to make money.
It's like you have to be willing to endure short
term sacrifice for a long term achiap.
Speaker 26 (29:22):
There's two sides of pain that I don't think a
lot of people really understand.
Speaker 23 (29:28):
Right, There's there's one side of pain, that's.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
The suffering and the discomfort side of pain. But then
there's another sign of pain that's called effort. It's called glory.
Speaker 4 (29:41):
It's called if you can find a way to push
through pain, there's something right on the other side of it.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
And and if you never tap into.
Speaker 36 (29:51):
It, it's because the first time you felt that you
backed home, the first time you.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Feel that burn, the first time you feel too much.
Speaker 4 (30:03):
And we rastal lives with ourselves so well, we automatically stop.
Speaker 39 (30:08):
That's why both of us give up so much in
life so quickly.
Speaker 4 (30:12):
That's why kids have a problem.
Speaker 13 (30:15):
Finishing things today's time.
Speaker 37 (30:18):
As soon as they feel a fall bit of discomfortable
of things, they't write, Oh they're gone.
Speaker 4 (30:25):
I can't do it no more.
Speaker 7 (30:27):
With the pose that told you the greatest thing of
my life.
Speaker 39 (30:33):
It's the reason I'm staring the other day. Wouldn't you
want to know what would happen if you spent just
one year, just one year, giving it your absolute all.
You gave your diet your absolute all. You gave your
fitness regiment your absolute all. You gave your work your
absolute all, how drastically would your life change in just
(30:56):
one year, one year of uninterrupted I bet your life
would change drastically. I bet you'd be a completely different person.
I bet you'd be completely unrecognizable. I bet you would
look back and be like, I can't believe I was
living the way I was. Time is going to pass anyway.
The next year of your life is going to happen
(31:18):
regardless of what you do. So why don't you spend
that year giving it your absolute all and just see
what happens. If you do that, I guarantee you will
look back one year from today and say that was
the best decision I have ever made.
Speaker 36 (31:34):
Pour yourself together, and quit tripping cast you in the process.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
The marshmallow experiment was taking place.
Speaker 40 (31:42):
It took place in the late sixties where Walter Michelle
was a psychologist at Stanford out in Palo Alto. He
would come in and sit down on one side of
a table and it was a kid on the other
side of the table between four and eight years old,
and in front of the kid it was a marshmallow.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
So he says to the kid, you want the marshmallow?
Kids like yeah. He says, I'll tell you what.
Speaker 40 (31:59):
I have to go take a phone call in the
back here, but when I come back, the marshmallow is
still there.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
I'll give you another one. Can you wait.
Speaker 40 (32:06):
Every kid's like, yeah, totally, totally, totally worth it.
Speaker 1 (32:09):
He comes back five minutes later.
Speaker 40 (32:11):
So eighty percent of the kids that eat in the marshmallow,
twenty percent of the kids hadn't. That's a lot. Eighty
percent of the kids could not defer the gratification. So
the real question is who's the twenty percent. These are
the people that went on to do distinguished things. They
did better in school, they got better grades, they went
on to have more job success, they had better relationships.
Speaker 41 (32:32):
Bro, I want to do it. I want to do
it makes me feel good. I like feeling good, you know.
But I just know, I just know subconsciously that if
I only do the things that make me good in
the short term, it's going to lead to destruction in
the future.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
I'm supposed to live my life like it matters.
Speaker 19 (32:50):
When I sacrificed my future on the altar of now,
I waste my life, you know, when I when I'm
getting blasted, getting drunk and getting high and having sex
with anybody who will down with me when I'm living my.
Speaker 4 (33:01):
Life like that.
Speaker 19 (33:03):
What I'm doing is I'm sacrificing my future on the
altar of my present, and there's no way that ends well.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
You start going to the gym, you feel weak. In
order to become strong, you go to the library, you read,
you don't understand. You feel stupid in order to become smart.
The process of discomfort is inevitable. You have to go
through it. Most people have that initial feeling, that initial
lack of self belief because they don't understand that they
have to be humbled first in every aspect in the
north to grow. So you go to the gym, you
feel like shit. That's a good thing. It just shows
(33:31):
you that you need to improve. Most people go to
the gym feel like shit.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
Never go back.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
Put on an oversized T shirt. Problem covered, No, it's
not the problem. It's not covered. You need to go
through that parallel problem. You solve it, and then you
get the reward. Every aspect of play facet your ability
to delay gratification. It's not just like, oh, I can
wait a week or I can wait a month. But
I made this tweet that went pretty viral. It was like,
if you can wait a year, you can make a
(33:56):
ton of money. Like, if you can do something for
twelve months, you cannot need for financial goodness pretty much
for the rest of your life.
Speaker 3 (34:02):
I'm not saying you're going to be hell rich, but
you're not going to need for anything.
Speaker 42 (34:05):
If you can wait twelve months, if you can wait
a decade, you're going to be above the one percent.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
If you can wait ten years for.
Speaker 42 (34:13):
An outcome, be able to do the doing without seeing
the result for ten years, you will be able to
be above any most achievement of most people.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
And if you can wait a lifetime and you don't even.
Speaker 42 (34:26):
Need to see the result of your doing this even
while you are alive, but know that it may get
done after you pass that, I believe that you can.
Speaker 3 (34:35):
Change the world.
Speaker 42 (34:36):
And I mean then and so I think that if
people can just extend the time horizon that they're measuring
themselves on, they can just do so much more.
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