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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You have to start to make good words familiar. If
you want to change your life on a dime, make
self praise familiar, and make criticizing yourself I'm familiar. Move
away from that. I'm an idiot. I got rocks to brains.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
I mess everything up.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
You can change your life so quickly by making praise
and self belief familiar by constantly doing it. And meanwhile,
I make criticism I unfamiliar. So your mind can't go
in two lanes. The mind cannot hold conflicting beliefs. I'm good,
I'm nervous, I'm smart, I'm anxious. I'm a good student.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
I've got a terrible memory. People like me, but I'm
scared of rejection.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
That really messes up your mind because it wants to
go into one lane or the other, but it can't
go into both. It all comes back to two things,
the pictures you make in your head and the words
you say to yourself, which you are free to change
the way you feel about everything. Our mind loves loves,
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loves what is familiar, and really hates what is unfamiliar.
If your mind loves what is familiar, all you've got
to do is make good stuff familiar and one of
the things you can do to make familiar that will
change your entire life is to make self praise familiar.
I'm good, I'm smart, I'm kind, I'm nice, I'm interesting.
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This is what is so important about your mind. It
doesn't know and it doesn't care if what you tell
it is good or bad, useful or pointless, beneficial or not.
Your mind doesn't know and it doesn't care because your
mind makes your thoughts real every minute of every day.
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Your mind makes your thoughts real. And if your mind
makes your thoughts real, you better learn to make better thoughts.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I mean, imagine if we talk it to that at five.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Your mind's job is making your thoughts real, and your
job is think better thoughts. So when you understand the
workings of your mind, point one is, your mind does.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
What it thinks you want. And if I don't want
to be rejected, I don't want to be dumped, I
don't want to fail. I don't want to get it wrong.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
I didn't want to go to school on Wednesday and
take that exam. Your mind goes okay, I'm tuning in.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
I don't want to go to school on Wednesday. Why
don't I give you a raging.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Headache, chronic diarrhea. I don't really care. I just understand, give.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
You what you want. The mind is not logical. It
just tunes.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Into what you think, and when you think better thoughts,
you change your life.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
So we want to be the CEO of our own mind.
How do we do that? Well? It really is very easy.
Don't complicate it. It all comes back to how do
you talk to you.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
I've been working with teenagers or my adult life, and
I never cease to be horrified by how that describes that.
I'm an idiot. I'm a piece of you know what.
I have rocks for brains. I'm not very good. My
dad never sees me, so I guess I'm worthless, and
I always teach them. Look, the most important word you
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will ever hear to yourself in your whole life, or
not for some hot girl or some hot guy, or
even a teacher saying, gosh, you're smart.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
You are the best kid I've.
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Ever had in my class, even a parent saying wow,
parroding you is the joy of my life. No, the
most important words you will ever hear in your whole
life come from you.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You have to look at your beliefs whatever you believe.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
You're going to make it real. And when you believe
you're going to do something amazing, whatever you believe, you'll
make it real. So you've got to think about your beliefs,
because first you make your beliefs, and then your beliefs
turn right around and met you. And then there's something
called confirmation. Bi us, I believe.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I'm not smart. I believe my mind isn't very quick.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
I believe people don't really like me, and I've made
that believe and it's definitely making me because now I'm
kind of shy, I'm insecure, and now I'm looking for
proof of what I believe is truth. If I wake
up and I think I'm not enough, what kind of
feelings would I feel?
Speaker 2 (04:23):
I give you a clue. There'sn't a single good one
in there. Listen behaviors.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I wake up and think I'm not enough, I feel
sad or I feel angry.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
How am I going to behave? Pick anything again, here's
a clue. None of them are good. I don't take
any risk. I'm risk averse.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
I stay at home, maybe I cry, maybe I act out,
maybe I start bullying people. The emptiness you feel inside
is always because of the needs.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
That weren't met.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
And one of your needs is to believe in yourself.
And if you don't have that, you feel this emptiness.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Here not enough. If I'm not enough, guess what I need?
Speaker 1 (05:00):
More more food, more praise, more followers on my feed,
more alcohol or something. If I said I'm enough every day,
what kind of feelings would I feel? Here's another clue.
This time they're all good. You can't say I'm enough
and feel terrible.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
See words are like balm. If my skin was very
dry and I put loation, my mind doesn't.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Go as that from Prada or did you get it
free on an aeroplane doesn't care. Balm soothes dry skin,
and words soothe something as words are nourishing.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
If we think we're enough.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
And we feel happy, powerful, love to secure, you'd work
on your goals of the belief I can achieve my goals.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Because I'm enough, I'd commute. I talk to people. They
can't reject me. Nobody can reject me except me.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
And I'm never going to do that because I'm enough.
I would take some risks that you can tell yourself
whatever you like. You know, Mohammad Ali said, I told
myself I was the greatest.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Before I was. You know what what happened?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
In everyone's eyes? I became the greatest. What a concept?
Tell yourself you're the greatest. I want to show you
how to manifest. There are three ways to manifest. One
is just sitting there thinking, I'm going to manifest everything.
But you have to manifest in three ways. The first
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is you must believe you are worth it, whether you
want love or a great career, or promotion or money
or your own business. If you don't do step one,
which is believe you are worth it, you won't be
good at manifesting.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
The second is you got to really know what that
looks like. And then you've got to do the work.
So oh, I thought I could just manifest. No, it's
still got to study.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
It's still got to write your program, open your business work.
Eighty percent of your success is now to having a
success mindset.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
If you believe you're worthy, that will take you further.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Belief without talent takes you further than talent without belief.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
We will watch reality DV.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
We will see people with no talent, but they have
amazing self belief. If you have belief and no talent,
you probably will do better than's on with huge talent
and no belief. If you have both, you can go anywhere, impress, instruct,
install into you what you require, and you're going to
say in a powerful voice, I insist on this, I
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require this, I'm giving this to myself. Then you're going
to open out your hands and you're going to code
it in by really focusing on what does it look like,
feel like, sound like a little voice that goes, oh,
you're not going to do that. Then you're going to
move from side to side. It's a little movement, and
I'm going to help you eraise and erat. Okay, let
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go of those blocking thoughts.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
So let's go.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Close your eyes, touch the area right in between your eyebrows,
and I want you to repeat these words out. I
want you to think of what you really want and
what do you require for yourself?
Speaker 2 (08:05):
What do you want? What do you require? What do
you need? What are you prepared to give yourself?
Speaker 1 (08:10):
And I want you to say with unshakable confidence, what
I require for myself is say it. What I require
for myself is confidence. What I insist on for myself
is knowing, radiating that I'm enough. Open out your hands
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and I want you to notice what does that look like?
What does phenomenal success.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
And know and your enough look like?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
I want you to feel it, Feel that feeling of
knowing that you radiate confidence from your very pause.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Notice what that looks like? So see how would you move?
Speaker 1 (08:52):
How would you talk if you had unshakable confidence and enoughness?
Feel the fee feeling of radiating unshakable confidence. See what
it looks like. Notice what it sounds like. How do
you dialogue with you? How do you dialogue with others?
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And how do they dialogue back?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
See?
Speaker 1 (09:17):
One of the marks of self love is how do
you talk to yourself? Because if you love yourself and
I've got I'm an idiot. I got that wrong, you go,
I did something.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
It wasn't quite right, but I learned.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
So I want you to notice what it sounds like
when you dialogue with you in.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
A powerful way. Don't just hear it, do it.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
This technique won't self implode. You have the power to
impress upon yourself, to install and instruct your mind with
how you want to be. Call it in code it
in Notice what it looks like, feels like in that
little voice that goes mm, just erase it, stay in
the rightly used powerful words, powerful languages, make your mind
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your best friend. Self esteem doesn't mean what I think
of you. It means what you think of you. If
I said I hold you in.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
The highest esteem, that's what I think of you.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
But self asim is what you think of you. And
when you have self esteem, you're not arrogant, but you're
also not insecure because you understand that it comes from
in here and you have the power to change in
here massively.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
When you learn how to dialog with yourself