May 12, 2025 • 7 mins
Mother's Day brings up complex emotions for many, but Proverbs 15:1 offers wisdom: "a soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger." This guidance helps both children dealing with difficult maternal relationships and mothers trying to respond better to their kids.
• Mother's Day and Father's Day are often the heaviest times of year for people with broken family relationships
• Don't use this weekend to rehash bitterness or anger toward anyone
• This holiday might reveal you're not as healed as you thought from past hurts
• For mothers, practice giving soft answers when tired or stressed
• Many responses come from fear rather than intention
• Take time to thank the "standing moms" who support your children
• It truly takes a village to raise children well
If you've been blessed by women who have stood in the gap for your family, take a moment this weekend to express your gratitude to them.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey y'all, it's Saturday and guess what, it's
almost Mother's Day and guesswhat?
I've got a word ofencouragement for all of us.
Might be a little bit ofcoaching, if you will, but
Mother's Day is coming up, sothis is.
I think this is going to begood.
I'm going to come out ofProverbs 15, verse 1, a soft
(00:22):
answer turneth away wrath, butgrievous words stir up anger.
Another version of it, I think,is a soft answer turneth away
wrath, but harsh words stir upanger.
And the reason why I want toshare this on our awesome faith
fuel is because there's going tobe a lot of moms and a lot of
(00:42):
folks, a lot of folks who feellike they don't need to honor
their moms because they eithercame from broken relationships
or they're in a brokenrelationship with their mom, or
maybe your mom has passed andyou don't know how to deal with
this day.
You're still grieving, butthere are also moms who haven't
been around.
You know they feel guilty forhow they've treated their kids
(01:02):
and different situations, sothere's a lot of this weekend.
To me, mother's Day and Father'sDay for me are usually the
heaviest times of the year interms of people reaching out,
asking for prayer, because thisis where our brokenness really,
truly shows up for real, right.
So a soft answer, turn awaywrath is important this weekend
(01:23):
because, for one thing, ifyou're the child right and you
didn't have a great relationshipagain, you know how like we
pray and we ask God to bless usand all the abundance and want
the healing.
You go to church, you get happy, you come home.
But there are things that youneed to do in terms of your own
character, our own character, sothat we don't allow bitterness
(01:44):
to seep in or to sit and residewith us.
Bitterness and anger.
If you don't know what to say,you know that saying, if you
don't know what to say, don'tsay nothing at all.
This is a weekend that y'allwe're going to try to practice
that Don't force people who arein a season where they haven't
truly forgiven what's happenedto them.
You got to give people a chanceto get over it.
(02:04):
But also, if you have gonethrough some things and I'm
saying this from experience okay, I'm not saying I did not have
a perfect relationship with mymother, I went through a bad
ministry, I went through allkinds of stuff, okay, so I'm
saying this as a person who'shealed for the most part from
all of this?
Who's healed for the most partfrom all of this?
(02:26):
But don't one, don't use thisas the opportunity this weekend
to try to rehash or stir upbitterness or anger towards
anybody.
I'm praying that this weekend,especially for Mother's Day,
that you'll allow yourself to behealed and to forgive.
You might not think you havethat thing in your heart about
(02:47):
your mom, but I bet you that thethought comes even this weekend
.
This weekend is kind of alittle bit of a trigger that
you'll realize that you're notas healed as you thought you
were.
You kind of buried it.
You buried the issues, youburied the pain, you buried the
disappointment.
So I pray that this weekend iswhen you actually release all
that and you forgive that person, forgive your mothers.
(03:10):
Now, if you're a mother, that'sfrom a child's perspective.
We're all children, right?
Okay?
From a mom's perspective, thisis not the weekend, this isn't
the time for you to pick up yourthrone.
This, I think, for me, is whereI'm more introspective, I'm
more self-aware of the kind ofmom I am, and I start to think
(03:31):
about what are some of thethings that I want to do better,
what are some of the thingsthat I want to change.
So a soft answer for us meansthat we know y'all, we are tired
.
We're tired physically,emotionally, mentally.
But we have to start practicingusing soft answer with our kids
and not just pop off because weare emotionally tired or scared
(03:52):
.
A lot of times, moms, werespond out of fear and so we
pop off real quickly and wedon't want to do that to our
kids.
Soft answer turns away wrath,grievous words or harsh words it
just stares up anger.
And satanith away wrath,grievous words or harsh words,
it just stares up anger.
So there's both a teaching forall of us as kids.
So how?
(04:12):
Letting go of any bitterness,letting go of any judgment and
just truly just thanking god.
Thank god for the mother hegave you.
He might not have given you themom that you wanted, but he
gave you the mom you got andthat's that okay.
So we thank God for that.
And then, as a mother I meanmother, godmother, bonus mother,
(04:36):
stepmother, those playing thatrole, those who are raising the
kids okay, you have an impactand influence in the kid's life
that you need to.
We need to practice a softanswer, especially in the
environment right now.
I really hope that bless you.
Happy Mother's Day.
I did say thank you on one ofthe live prayers.
(04:56):
No, that's not true.
I said it on Thursday, theThursday teaching this week, and
I do want to say it againpublicly, to thank all of the
women in my life who love mydaughter, love of my daughter,
take care of her, they bless her, they pray for her.
I'm grateful for all thestanding moms.
I'm trying not to throw out toomany names, but there's a few
(05:20):
women, and especially that, like, honestly, I don't even know
that they'll watch this video.
I might tag y'all to say thankyou, but there's a few women who
they're still on my daughter'semergency pickup from elementary
school and my daughter's 16,because they are people that I
can trust.
They're, they open their homesto us and, um, they have been
(05:43):
standing moms and you know wedon't see each other a lot, we
don't even say a lot, okay, butI know that if anything went
down, these women would have mydaughter.
So I want to do a shout out toSheila Kane and I love you.
Thank you so much for blessingme.
You've blessed my family for 12years of my daughter's life, so
(06:04):
I was just counting, like mygod.
That's been a long time 12 or11.
You have one of those um, sothank you so much.
Thank you so much for that.
And then there's a whole family, actually, that um that have
stood in as family for us.
So I want wanna thank the Neelsand their daughters, because
(06:26):
they've all stood in as bigsister, slash, mama, slash,
auntie, slash, everything, sojust as a mom, and then, like I
said, there's others, but thesetwo families in particular have
really, really blessed us.
So may I encourage you to justsay thank you to those standing
(06:47):
moms, those who you might not berelated to, but those who have
been really helping it does takea village and those who have
been, you know, helping you withyour kids.
I hope this blesses you y'all.
All right, I love you.
I'm gonna pick up my spiritsnow because I felt like I was
gonna cry and I refused to cryon camera.
All right, I love y'all.
Have an amazing weekend, happyMother's Day and God bless you.
(07:09):
All right, I will see you nextweek.
Bye.
Hey y'all, it's Saturday and guess what, it's
almost Mother's Day and guesswhat?
I've got a word ofencouragement for all of us.
Might be a little bit ofcoaching, if you will, but
Mother's Day is coming up, sothis is.
I think this is going to begood.
I'm going to come out ofProverbs 15, verse 1, a soft
(00:22):
answer turneth away wrath, butgrievous words stir up anger.
Another version of it, I think,is a soft answer turneth away
wrath, but harsh words stir upanger.
And the reason why I want toshare this on our awesome faith
fuel is because there's going tobe a lot of moms and a lot of
(00:42):
folks, a lot of folks who feellike they don't need to honor
their moms because they eithercame from broken relationships
or they're in a brokenrelationship with their mom, or
maybe your mom has passed andyou don't know how to deal with
this day.
You're still grieving, butthere are also moms who haven't
been around.
You know they feel guilty forhow they've treated their kids
(01:02):
and different situations, sothere's a lot of this weekend.
To me, mother's Day and Father'sDay for me are usually the
heaviest times of the year interms of people reaching out,
asking for prayer, because thisis where our brokenness really,
truly shows up for real, right.
So a soft answer, turn awaywrath is important this weekend
(01:23):
because, for one thing, ifyou're the child right and you
didn't have a great relationshipagain, you know how like we
pray and we ask God to bless usand all the abundance and want
the healing.
You go to church, you get happy, you come home.
But there are things that youneed to do in terms of your own
character, our own character, sothat we don't allow bitterness
(01:44):
to seep in or to sit and residewith us.
Bitterness and anger.
If you don't know what to say,you know that saying, if you
don't know what to say, don'tsay nothing at all.
This is a weekend that y'allwe're going to try to practice
that Don't force people who arein a season where they haven't
truly forgiven what's happenedto them.
You got to give people a chanceto get over it.
(02:04):
But also, if you have gonethrough some things and I'm
saying this from experience okay, I'm not saying I did not have
a perfect relationship with mymother, I went through a bad
ministry, I went through allkinds of stuff, okay, so I'm
saying this as a person who'shealed for the most part from
all of this?
Who's healed for the most partfrom all of this?
(02:26):
But don't one, don't use thisas the opportunity this weekend
to try to rehash or stir upbitterness or anger towards
anybody.
I'm praying that this weekend,especially for Mother's Day,
that you'll allow yourself to behealed and to forgive.
You might not think you havethat thing in your heart about
(02:47):
your mom, but I bet you that thethought comes even this weekend
.
This weekend is kind of alittle bit of a trigger that
you'll realize that you're notas healed as you thought you
were.
You kind of buried it.
You buried the issues, youburied the pain, you buried the
disappointment.
So I pray that this weekend iswhen you actually release all
that and you forgive that person, forgive your mothers.
(03:10):
Now, if you're a mother, that'sfrom a child's perspective.
We're all children, right?
Okay?
From a mom's perspective, thisis not the weekend, this isn't
the time for you to pick up yourthrone.
This, I think, for me, is whereI'm more introspective, I'm
more self-aware of the kind ofmom I am, and I start to think
(03:31):
about what are some of thethings that I want to do better,
what are some of the thingsthat I want to change.
So a soft answer for us meansthat we know y'all, we are tired
.
We're tired physically,emotionally, mentally.
But we have to start practicingusing soft answer with our kids
and not just pop off because weare emotionally tired or scared
(03:52):
.
A lot of times, moms, werespond out of fear and so we
pop off real quickly and wedon't want to do that to our
kids.
Soft answer turns away wrath,grievous words or harsh words it
just stares up anger.
And satanith away wrath,grievous words or harsh words,
it just stares up anger.
So there's both a teaching forall of us as kids.
So how?
(04:12):
Letting go of any bitterness,letting go of any judgment and
just truly just thanking god.
Thank god for the mother hegave you.
He might not have given you themom that you wanted, but he
gave you the mom you got andthat's that okay.
So we thank God for that.
And then, as a mother I meanmother, godmother, bonus mother,
(04:36):
stepmother, those playing thatrole, those who are raising the
kids okay, you have an impactand influence in the kid's life
that you need to.
We need to practice a softanswer, especially in the
environment right now.
I really hope that bless you.
Happy Mother's Day.
I did say thank you on one ofthe live prayers.
(04:56):
No, that's not true.
I said it on Thursday, theThursday teaching this week, and
I do want to say it againpublicly, to thank all of the
women in my life who love mydaughter, love of my daughter,
take care of her, they bless her, they pray for her.
I'm grateful for all thestanding moms.
I'm trying not to throw out toomany names, but there's a few
(05:20):
women, and especially that, like, honestly, I don't even know
that they'll watch this video.
I might tag y'all to say thankyou, but there's a few women who
they're still on my daughter'semergency pickup from elementary
school and my daughter's 16,because they are people that I
can trust.
They're, they open their homesto us and, um, they have been
(05:43):
standing moms and you know wedon't see each other a lot, we
don't even say a lot, okay, butI know that if anything went
down, these women would have mydaughter.
So I want to do a shout out toSheila Kane and I love you.
Thank you so much for blessingme.
You've blessed my family for 12years of my daughter's life, so
(06:04):
I was just counting, like mygod.
That's been a long time 12 or11.
You have one of those um, sothank you so much.
Thank you so much for that.
And then there's a whole family, actually, that um that have
stood in as family for us.
So I want wanna thank the Neelsand their daughters, because
(06:26):
they've all stood in as bigsister, slash, mama, slash,
auntie, slash, everything, sojust as a mom, and then, like I
said, there's others, but thesetwo families in particular have
really, really blessed us.
So may I encourage you to justsay thank you to those standing
(06:47):
moms, those who you might not berelated to, but those who have
been really helping it does takea village and those who have
been, you know, helping you withyour kids.
I hope this blesses you y'all.
All right, I love you.
I'm gonna pick up my spiritsnow because I felt like I was
gonna cry and I refused to cryon camera.
All right, I love y'all.
Have an amazing weekend, happyMother's Day and God bless you.
(07:09):
All right, I will see you nextweek.
Bye.
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