In this solo episode, Muslim Life Hackers host, Mifrah Mahroof shares three reflections on being a role model, our relationship with time, friendships and the courage to be yourself.
Timestamps:
00:26 Reflecting on Personal Growth
01:12 Being a Role Model for Children
02:19 Understanding the Concept of Time
03:47 The Importance of Selective Friendships
05:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Episode Transcript
Hey everyone, Asalamu Alaikum and welcome to
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the show.
So this episode is going to be asolo episode.
The first solo episode I'verecorded since launching this
podcast.
And I thought that it would bea great idea to do this because
this year has been amazing.
Alhamdulillah, So today as Irecord this episode, it's the
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first day of the year.
So first day of the Islamicyear.
And so because of that, I'vebeen really reflecting on the
things I've been learning andover this last year, and
Alhamdulillah, like I'm reallyblessed.
I've been learning a lot ofthings, especially, After
launching this podcast and beingable to connect with all these
amazing individuals, learn fromthem, and alongside my journey
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of personal development in thecourses I take, the books I
read, podcasts, coaches, all ofthese things, right?
So there's a lot of reflectionthat I'm having and that I
actually want to share with you.
And I, Hope you benefit from it.
So let's start off.
I'm going to keep this episodesimple and just stick to three
things.
And I would love to know yourfeedback on this, whether you'd
like for me to do more soloepisodes or not.
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Yep.
I'm open to your feedback.
So let's start.
So the first thing I want toshare with you is around being a
role model for your children orbeing a role model for the
children, younger siblings thatactually look up to you.
So this is something that couldapply regardless of whether
you're a parent or not.
And that is that you owe it toyour children to be the best
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version of yourself.
And I thought about this a lotbecause the whole idea behind
this lesson is that Childrendon't listen to you.
They watch you very carefully.
And so if you really want thebest for them, then it's
imperative.
It is important that you alsotake growth and improving
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yourself as a person seriously.
so because of that lesson, I'veactually been taking my personal
development seriously, puttingin the money as well to actually
invest in myself, because Irealized that whatever
investment, whatever growth andwhatever work I actually do on
myself, I can be able to affectmy daughter as well.
So that's been a very big,important insight for me and a
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lesson.
So that was number one.
The second lesson that I havebeen also thinking about a lot
is the whole concept of time.
So the whole idea is that Allahis the master of time.
So I know that might sound likea bit of an abstract statement,
but when we actually look at itin a practical sense, it's very
profound.
So just say you have the Half anhour or some time in your lunch
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break to pray and then you thinkthat Oh my gosh I only have a
limited amount of time to prayand you keep watching the clock
So that causes you to rush andthen you rush through and then
you come back But if youactually take on the mindset
that no, Allah is the master oftime Let me go take my time.
Let me go pray.
Let me go pray with khushu, withconcentration and then you look
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at the time, You will besurprised to find that the time
actually goes slow.
It actually stretches in a way.
So you might think that, Oh mygosh, like I felt like the
prayer took long or this wholeslowly going and taking my time
to do it will take long.
Where in reality, it just tookwhat, seven minutes or
something.
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So this part here about Allahbeing master of time is a
mindset shift To not just lookat time as something that's just
limited, by looking at the timeand approaching at that.
No, if I do something forAllah's sake and he is the
master of time, then he willallow time to go slow for us as
well.
So there is that essence ofbarakah as well, that hidden
blessing that we seek for whenwe have this mindset.
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And finally, the third one isaround friends.
so one thing that I've learned Ithink I've already know this in
theory, but actually reallyreflecting on it is that you
don't have to be friends witheveryone.
Really, you don't have to befriends with everyone.
And I know this might be like,duh that's true.
And yeah, of course, liketheoretically it's true, but I
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guess it's, how many times do weplease that person, please this
person, because I don't know, wewant to, we want them to be
friends with us or something.
But the reality is it's okay.
Like it's actually okay.
There's going to be people inthe world that don't like you,
that might even hate you, butthat's okay.
The thing is even people hatedthe Prophet SAW and he was like
the best man to walk on thisface of the earth.
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Just realizing that it's okaythat you won't be friends with
everyone and it's okay thatpeople won't like you and Being
cool with that.
I think that's also verypowerful because once you're
cool with that, then you can beable to just give yourself
permission to accept yourselffor who you are and bring your
true self to the table.
Whether that's in the work thatyou produce or in how you show
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up to the world.
So even if you were creatingsome art or you had a podcast,
you had a YouTube channel orsomething, and you think, Oh my
gosh, I have to be this, becauseI want to appeal to everyone.
The thing is not everyone'sgoing to watch you.
Not everyone's going to like youand just accept that.
And just be yourself because thepeople who will resonate with
you will come to you.
And that actually takes lots ofcourage to show yourself,
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because it means that you'llstart repelling people away as
well and, it doesn't feel socool, especially when you're
recovering people's pleaser.
So those are my three takeawaysthat I've had, and I hope you
found it beneficial.
I intentionally wanted to keepthis episode short And if you'd
like more of these soloepisodes, then please let me
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know in the comments if you'rewatching this on YouTube And
until next time I will speak toyou all.
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