In this episode of the Muslim Life Hackers podcast, host Mifrah Mahroof discusses the importance of intuition in navigating community scandals. Mifrah explores how intuition acts as a powerful tool for personal growth, protection from harmful situations, and better decision-making. She also offers practical tips on how to develop and trust your instincts, seeking both spiritual guidance and professional help.
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
00:45 Addressing Community Scandals
01:35 Personal Experience with a Scandal
04:04 The Power of Intuition
08:27 Strengthening Intuition and Seeking Guidance
10:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Episode Transcript
Hey, Asalamu Alaikum and welcome to the
Muslim Life Hackers podcast.
I'm your host Mifrah Mahroof andas you may notice, today's
episode has no video.
So I sat down and tried to getthe video set up and then I was
going through my scarves and Ifound Multiple scarves had like,
toddler stains, oil stains, sowhen she eats food, my two year
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old touches my scarf, and then Ijust didn't get around to
sorting that out, and here I am,just sitting outside, I was
like, you know what, let me notkeep delaying it, because
sometimes I just want to sharesomething with you, and when I
don't get that video set up, Ijust never get around to it, and
that idea goes, and thosethoughts go, so, um, I hope that
(00:45):
you still stick around, eventhough it's not video and
actually let me know what youthink.
Alright, so in today's episode,I want to speak to you about
scandals in the community.
And the reason why I bring thisup is really to not speak about
these issues themselves, becauseI think that there's already a
lot of discussions on this,especially by people who are
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leaders in the community, andI'm not here to talk about that.
But I am here to share somereflections that I have on
what's been happening, and onething I have noticed and not
being spoken about much is thepower of intuition.
So the power of intuition as away to protect ourselves from
falling into these scandalsreally.
This isn't about victim blamingor freeing the guilty of blame,
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but as you know, in thispodcast, I talk about personal
growth, taking back our power,how we can show up as better
individuals and how we can learnlessons from all the things that
happen around us.
Why I decided to speak aboutthis is because recently there
was a scandal that came outabout a brother in the UK who
scammed people for money.
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And I actually crossed pathswith this individual.
So I didn't meet him face toface or anything because as you
know, I'm here in Australia andhe's there in UK.
But I did speak to him Weactually had him on our podcast,
but not recently in the lastyear.
So this was like back in 2015when me and my co host Maheen
were running the show and wejust were looking for like
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Muslims doing really coolthings.
One thing that I do reflect whenI look back at this experience
and what I noticed was that Ialways felt that there was
something off, right?
I can never put words to it.
And it's not that person wasn'trude in his interaction, or
there's nothing I can fault inhis character, right?
And the thing is, I still, andalso my co host as well, we both
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still had this thing that wejust felt off.
We just felt like, we don't wantto get too close or associate
with his work.
And you might be thinking atthis stage, Oh, well, Mifrah, if
you felt that way, why did youinvite him onto your podcast?
So to be fair, we didn'tactually know too much about his
work then, but this kind of ourfeeling came as a result of the
interactions that we had, seeinghis work online and also,
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getting that chance to speak tohim and all the things that
happen in the background inputting together an interview.
There's a lot of interactionthat goes back and forth.
Although this was all virtual,we still felt that.
something was off.
And so the funny thing was, Ithought I was being judgmental,
perhaps I couldn't give thebrother an excuse.
That's what I was tellingmyself, you know, give him an
excuse.
Maybe he's just different.
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Maybe his marketing style wasmore like a, you know, I appeal
to the hustle bros and he'sspeaking to a different type of
generation that I don'tunderstand, right?
I got no clue, but as Muslimswere taught, okay, give excuses.
So, excuses it was, And oncethis news came out, I started
asking other people in personabout how they felt about this
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individual.
So, I asked a number of people,men and women, and they also
mentioned that something wasoff.
So the lesson here is,especially as women, we have
powerful intuition.
Intuition means that gutfeeling, it's a quiet voice in
the background, and when youdon't listen to it, you feel
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like your body starts to rebel,like maybe you can't bring
yourself to taking action, youfeel like you have a bad feeling
about messaging someone, so thenwhen you start, your fingers are
like resisting.
So if I were to think aboutintuition as a person, intuition
would be someone who's sitting,in a gathering, and you have all
the loud people talking,talking, talking, and taking
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over the conversation, butintuition just, like, sits in
the background, and they listen,and then after that, when they
start speaking, there's like,wisdom that comes out of them.
They don't push their opinionson you, and they just remind you
and they leave it at that,right?
so it's not some force that youget pushed to doing something,
unless, I mean, I have heard insituations in which people's
situation became like, reallydire, like maybe they're in a
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dangerous situation and theirintuition had to like act very
loudly, perhaps in war times andstuff, Allahualam.
And it also reminds me aboutthis podcast I was listening to,
in which they were talking aboutthe Hunter Gatherer Society, and
they would say that when the menwould go out to hunt women who
were looking after, you know,the children of everyone, we
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would feel if danger is closeby.
So we just sense it.
And so whilst men have this too,even in Islam, there is this
thing about sixth sense, it'scalled firasa, right?
I really believe that it comesmore naturally to women.
So I remember even when I waspregnant with my daughter, how
powerful the intuition was.
After all, it's such a specialtime when an angel comes to
visit your womb and breathes thesoul into you.
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I had the intuition and Iremember during that time, I
researching into crypto and it'slike completely random.
This is a story for anothertime, but that was an
interesting one.
So this whole concept offollowing your intuition, it
might be a foreign thing,especially if you've been told
your entire life to ignore it.
So you've been told, oh, don'tlisten to what you say.
Just listen to what I saybecause I'm important or I'm the
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religious person here.
I'm right.
I know more.
And so, we might find ourselvesjust ignoring our lives, right?
But I truly believe that beingin touch with your intuition is
amongst the first lines ofdefense against getting involved
in scandals and not justscandals, it's also things like
having a friend who's two facedin your life.
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Maybe there's that friend inyour life and you have an
intuition or you're aroundpeople that you feel that
something is off and it's notjust once, right?
It's like consistently somethingis off and then later on, in
your life, you get burnt by themand you find that they were
really like bad people.
And I've heard these storiesmany times from friends in
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which, they would tell me about,hey, I had a bad experience with
this group of friends.
And when I would ask them, oh,did you ever have a feeling that
something was off?
And they'll be like, yeah, Idid.
And I was like, why didn't youlisten to it?
And it's more like, oh, I shouldgive excuses to them and stuff.
And I get that.
And I think it's a fine line totread and, um, thinking about if
I should listen, um, listeningto that and also asking Allah
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SWT guidance as well, prayingIstikharah.
And seeking that guidance sothat you can be guided to the
right path, right?
Because I'm not for like, oh, Idon't feel like doing that, or I
don't feel that person is good,and then you just like cut it
off.
Human interaction is complex,but what I am saying here is,
put some thought or some weightinto your intuition, actually
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listen to it, like, think aboutit like a small child, you know?
They're pointing towards some,something on the ground, like
maybe this or like a snake, andthey're pointing, and they don't
have the words, they'repointing, at least take it into
consideration.
that my intuition is telling methis.
What is it?
Maybe I need to ask people aboutthe character of these people.
Maybe I need to do some moreresearch and connect with other
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people.
Speaking about connection, Ithink that these scandals and
things happen when we're sodisconnected.
We don't get to like speak topeople face to face and have
these honest conversations like,what do you think about the
character of so and so?
Have you seen any misconduct?
Or seeing if they also feelsomething is off, right?
I think that if many people feelsomething is off, then that's
also a reinforcement of whatyou're feeling as well, like in
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this situation that I tell you.
Okay, how do I get started, withbeing more in touch with my
intuition?
I would say definitely to beaware that it exists, and that's
one thing, and the other thingis also start to clean and
purify your heart vision, likethrough repentance to Allah SWT,
your Adkar.
So think about it like glassthat's filled with dirt, and
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clean it, that's definitelyimportant.
And in addition to that, I wouldalso suggest that you address
your negative beliefs and yourtraumas too, and that can be
done through professional help.
Because the thing is, we allhave things from our childhood
that we are unaware of, and wehave to seek out the help for
that and we don't have to livewith that.
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Someone might have a beliefthat, my feelings don't matter
or I'm not important, I'm notworthy, I'm not enough.
And so they take this abuse orthey take these bad situations
of bad friends and people takingadvantage of them because of
that belief they have aboutthemselves.
So that would require someprofessional help to help you
overcome because it's, there isa way to overcome that.
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You don't have to feel likeyou're stuck with that.
You can read all the books andstuff and definitely they help,
but getting someone to help youwould make such a difference as
well.
So, doing the spiritual part,the adhkar, the repentance to
Allah SWT, asking him forguidance and seeing what comes
up, getting the professionalhelp.
And then I would suggest thatyou start with the little
things, like the littledecisions, even coming down to
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what you want to wear for thatday, or even if you're driving
around and you're in aneighborhood that you know, but
you're so used to using yourGPS, maybe turn that GPS off and
actually listen to yourintuition to guide you back.
So that's some things you can,start if you're totally off it,
totally not used to listening tothat intuition or at least
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giving it some importance inyour life.
And yeah, that's all I have tosay in today's episode.
I hope you enjoy it and I hopethe background sound wasn't too
bad.
I'm not in my office recordingthis.
I thought, hey, let me just likesit outside, in the nice air and
see if that changes content.
In addition to that, I wouldalso say connect with people in
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your And just have those friendsin your life who you can ask for
advice as well.
Because definitely, even in ourdeen, it's not just me, Allah
SWT, and that's it.
We also have people around usand we should ask people advice,
as well.
And, yeah, that's about it.
And that's all I have for youtoday.
I hope you enjoyed this episodeand take care and I will speak
to you soon.
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