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Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hello and welcome to my big game podcast, season 5,
finale, part 2, with me, benji.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Me, brat, giving you the life, the loves and loaves
of living in London.
I don't know what came out ofmy voice just there.
It's the champagne.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Two gays, one city.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
What could possibly go?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
wrong.
I feel more and more like oneof those presenters in like a
stadium.
Yes, when I do this.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Oh, my goodness, think big, dream big.
Yes, live that stadium lifehoney.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
I don't know if our duo podcast would do well in a
football stadium but I mean it'sstrange that things have
happened.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
I mean right now.
I'm very happy drinking thechampagne, enjoying our season 5
finale party.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
That's true, although what I will say is from what
I've heard of.
Like English football TV shows,I much prefer the American ones
.
You know they're like so muchmore fun.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I'm here for it.
Yeah, me too, me too.
But anyway, we are joined inthe studio with the wonderful,
the brilliant, the very handsome, david Arwood, who is Mr Gay,
great Britain 2022, and is afinalist representing Great
Britain in Mr Gay.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
World.
That's right.
So if you are just tuning inyou haven't heard part one, make
sure you go have a listen topart one before listening to us
this episode because, quitehonestly, it won't really make
sense.
But if you did listen to lastweek's episode, here is where we
got up to with our wonderfulinterview with Mr Gay, great
Britain.
This episode is sponsored byrainbowlotterycouk.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Play now and support LGBTQ plus dreams.
Okay, podcasters, raise yourglasses to our special guest who
is joining us today for ourseason 5 finale party.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
That's right.
Podcasters for the end ofseason 5 we thought we would
have some actual royalty on tomy big gay podcast.
So without further ado, pleasewelcome to the podcast Mr Gay,
great Britain.
And a finalist for Mr Gay World.
It is the one, the only theincredibly good, lurking David
Arwood.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Hello David, how are you?
Speaker 3 (02:29):
I'm really good.
Thank you, so nice to chat toyou both.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Oh, it's so great to have you on.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
We do actually have some questions for you which
your fans have written in with.
We put a couple of posts out onour Instagram and on last
week's episode, and I must admitsome of these questions were
wild to put it bluntly so we'vepicked sort of like a good chunk
(02:55):
of them which sort of give youthe idea of what people may have
been actually wanting to ask,answer them how you wish.
Just think delicate here, don'tbe scared.
So it's just.
It was so funny.
We literally had something likewhat's your favorite color to
insert very dirty question here.
Yeah, okay, okay, the brand.
I'll let you start.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Okay, so we'll go straight in with one question
from our listeners what sizefeet are you, david?
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Oh, wow okay, so read between the lines where they're
going with this, but yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Yeah, okay.
Well, I'm a size 10.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Great, I mean, if that person is listening and
that's done that for you.
Hopefully you can sleep easytonight knowing that information
.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I'm sure they were only asking because they really
would like to buy you a pair ofshoes.
Absolutely, I'm fabulous, I'minto that.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Size 10 in the house.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Okay, next question Since being crowned, what's the
weirdest DM situation you've had?
So I guess, what's thestrangest thing somebody's asked
you for in your DMs on socialmedia or you know weirdest thing
?
Speaker 3 (03:56):
I've had a lot of requests for money, like loads
of requests for money.
I guess that's not the weirdest, but I don't know if people
think that with a title yousuddenly become rich.
Sadly it's not the case.
But yeah, I've had so manypeople just say like, even from
like the simplest like oh, wouldyou mind lending me some money
(04:16):
so I can pay my rent or whateverthis month?
Oh gosh, yeah.
So I guess money is theweirdest one and it strangely
happened quite a lot straightafter I won.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Yeah, it was very odd , wow and they're from like
people in the LGBTQ pluscommunity.
They're looking to you as afigure that could help them.
Is that?
Speaker 3 (04:35):
what it is, or Um, potentially, yeah, I mean yeah.
Obviously it's quite adifficult thing to like say no
to someone I don't know, I can'tlend you money, but it's kind
of like a new form of begging.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Oh gosh, yeah, yeah.
Listen, I can't give you anymoney, but if you would like, I
can teach you the originalchoreography to rain on me.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
I mean that I can do, ready to go.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Well, that's just money in your pocket, if you ask
me to do that.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Okay, another question if you could open up
any shop in the world, what shopwould it be?
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Oh, wow, that's cool.
Okay, it's a bit boring, thoughI think my answer is a bit
boring.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Look, go for it.
Do you know what?
Me and Benji are trying to livea bit more of a wholesome life
lately, so actually we're onboard with the wholesomeness.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
I think, yeah, I think it would be some kind of
like vegan health food shopslash cafe.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Do you know what I'm here for it?
I'm vegetarian.
I don't know if you know that.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Benji's rolling his eyes.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
So I'm all about the healthy eating.
Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
Yeah, I mean I'm a bit of a fraud because I call
myself vegan, because I actuallyeat eggs now.
So I'm like vegan with a feweggs Sorry, chickens.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Do you know what?
I was a vegan for four yearsand eggs was my demise.
And now I've just I've fullyoff that boat and back into the
meat eating world.
But yeah, yeah, eggs are otherwith a downfall for me.
Next question sorry to go froma wholesome question into this
one.
It says David, are you into anyfetishes?
If so, would you care todivulge?
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Oh no, I'm gonna sound boring again.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
It's okay, brad, it's the most boring.
I always call Brad vanilla.
He's like we're not together,by the way, but he's like lights
off, shower first.
Keep your socks on Only on aSunday after 6pm, before he's
done.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
I'm trying to think so I do like sportswear, sports
kit yeah, kind of into that.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Yeah, I'm into that too, actually yeah that might
come in handy for our game lateron.
Oh wow, but I'll leave that fornow.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
All right, this is a good question.
What is your favorite type ofnight out?
Speaker 3 (06:51):
Oh, okay well, okay, so this has changed quite a lot
fairly recently.
But I mean I used to be amassive techno head, did you?
Yeah, I used to go on trips toBurgheim in Germany and like
have wild weekends and all ofthe rest of it, but I've kind of
mellowed quite considerably.
(07:13):
I'm like sober now and yeah, Imean I love a night out with my
friends basically, yeah, yeah.
So we would love a night at theBrewers or going out like
clubbing still.
But yeah, I think a good nightout always starts with a nice
meal get a bit drunk withfriends, all that kind of thing,
(07:33):
and then take the rest of itfrom there.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
really, yeah, I mean I feel like this is sort of
showing our age a bit.
In my 20s I like hit the clubstraight away big night, but now
I really enjoy, like thepre-drink session with the
friends, because you actuallycatch up and talk and then go
for a dance bit later on.
Yeah, but yeah, I feel like I'mwith you on that, on that
journey there.
David Love it, yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
OK, next question of all the parody dancers that
you've done, which would youlike to perform for real with
the original artist?
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Oh, my god.
Ok, well, I'm the biggest LadyGaga fan.
I'm just obsessed with her andI guess it's going to have to be
rain on me, because I love thechoreography so much and love
the song still.
I mean, when that song came out, I lost my mind completely.
Yeah, yeah.
(08:22):
So it's got to be Lady Gagarain on me after lockdown.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
I believe that was the first song that heaven
played right after they wereallowed to dance again.
It was the first song and I'veseen a video of it, and it was
chaos that everyone just wentfor it.
I love it.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
That song does remind me of the lockdown life,
because when it came out inlockdown didn't I would just had
it repeat all the time.
It was just minds with thattime.
Yeah, so good so good.
All right.
Another question, oh, this isactually quite relevant to what
we're talking about.
If you were Prime Minister forthe day, what laws would you put
in place?
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Oh, wow, ok, well, I would instantly ban all forms of
conversion therapy in the UK.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Yes, and actually do it this time.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
Yeah, right don't just promise it Literally after
five years of promises.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Disgusting.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
Yeah, I would scrap all this talk about scrapping
gender neutral toilets.
Make sure there were safespaces for all of our community,
and that would be the two mainones that I would absolutely
enforce straight away.
I'm totally with you on thatone, and I would make a law that
every single day needs to bepride.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Well, sign me up.
Where do I vote for you to bePrime?
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Minister.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
I love it.
Ok, and the last question foryou is if you win Mr Gay World,
what is the first thing you willdo with your title?
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Oh, that's such a good question.
I would launch my campaign, Iwould really hit the ground
running with poweringtogetherness and I want to set
up workshops.
Like powering togethernesswould be about setting up
workshops and going to differentcountries and sort of no holds
bar with that, like going toevery country or at least
(10:08):
reaching out to all of them andyeah, and start sort of meeting
people from different countriesand trying to get this campaign
off the off the ground.
So, yeah, I'd be superproactive straight away.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
basically, Well, david, you've just got so much
going on.
I absolutely love it.
We're gonna take a little shortbreak there, but don't go away,
listeners, because we've gotmore David fun with you coming
your way.
Speaker 3 (10:33):
Oh diva.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Hey Brad, oh hi, Benji Brad, what's on your mind?
Oh nothing, benji, justdaydreaming, I guess.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
What are you daydreaming about this time?
A thicker hairline?
Not today.
Oh then what is it?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
I just wish I could do more to support the community
without breaking the bank.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
Oh, and dreaming of true love's kiss Well you're in
luck because you can do more tosupport the community.
Really how?
By playing the rainbow lottery.
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Not included David Olwood.
Welcome back from the shortbreak.
We're still with David Olwood,who is Mr Gay, great Britain,
(12:00):
who is representing GreatBritain in Mr Gay World.
David, as we normally do, wehave a little game that we'd
like to play with you on thepodcast if you are up for this.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Absolutely.
I love a game.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Well, we love a game too, but this game has a bit
more of a twist.
So do you know the, the classicI mean people do as a drinking
game, I guess, um shag marry andavoid.
Speaker 3 (12:21):
Oh my god, I love it yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Well, we've done a slight different one called shag
marry ghost, because I feellike in the gay community People
ghost each other all the time.
So I thought it was slightlynice and saying avoid Absolutely
, and it's spooky season afterall.
Well, that's actually the realreason why we called it Because
it is Halloween season, notbecause I'm a serial ghost, so
(12:44):
Shag marry ghost.
But what we've done is we'regoing to give you three
different categories, okay, andthen in these categories, we
have a set sort of group ofwell-known names.
Right, we'll leave it at thatwithin it.
So would you like to know whatyour categories are?
Yes, go for it.
So for shag marry ghost, thecategories are sports, disney or
(13:07):
pop stars.
Okay, I'm gonna have to go withpop stars first.
Okay, so for pop stars, shagmarry ghost.
They are Peter Andre age fromsteps and Roland Kesey.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
So we thought we'd like do a bit of a throw back to
when we were younger and maybelooking up to these Hudson men.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
Yeah, okay um, I can't ghost any of them.
They've all given me so muchjoy but I feel like, oh my god,
I can't shag hate, right, let mejust go.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
That could be the way in to be his backup dancer.
Oh my god, think about thiscarefully.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
We've crushed it.
We do know that age is a reallybig fan of the podcast, so do
you be careful.
What he said about hate.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
Okay, okay.
So I think I think I'm gonnahave to marry H for sure.
So I will.
I love an Irish man.
I'll shag Ronan Keating, I will, um, I'll marry age from steps
and I'm gonna ghost Peter Andre.
Sorry, peter, oh, there's onlyone Peter in my life.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Oh, and that is your, your husband, right?
Speaker 3 (14:20):
My husband yes.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Yes, we'll come back to a bit later because I
definitely want to hear allabout that.
But do you remember that PeterAndre video the mysterious girl
who was like coming out of thewater and oh my goodness, I know
, but I feel like that's theobvious choice.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
It was the obvious choice.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
But also I feel like in your, your house right now.
You've just said out loud I'mgonna ghost Peter.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
They're thinking okay , what are they talking about?
Oh my god, the end.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Thank you for tuning in.
We'll see you next week, yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
All right.
So, david, what's next?
Do you want Disney or sports?
Um, let's go sports.
All right, why not?
So shag marry ghost between TomDaly, david Beckham or Lewis
Hamilton.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
Oh, that's really hard, literally.
Okay, I would Shag LewisHamilton, and then I I mean, if
it's good enough for Posh, it'sgood enough for me.
I would marry David Beckham.
(15:31):
And then I was really sorry,Tom Daley, but I'd ghost Tom
Daley, which I never thought I'dsay.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Well, benjy, we freel about that, because then that
means Tom Daley is available forhim instead, sort of yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
I would.
I would shag Tom Daley, marryTom Daley.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
And everybody else in the world would happily on a
desert island, just me and TomDone.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Tom, I'm still waiting for you to message me
back.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
You can have him, take him.
There is something about.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
David Beckham, though , isn't there.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
He like as he gets older, he still looks handsome.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Yeah, yeah.
Have you seen his newdocumentary on Netflix?
Speaker 3 (16:07):
No, pete has actually watched it and I haven't
started it yet, but I'm, I'mjust good.
Yeah, it's all about bigbrother for me at the minute and
all the reality shows that havecome back, so I haven't got
round to it, yeah yeah, yeah, Imean I'm still a bit angry about
David Beckham and the wholeguitar football thing.
So you know he's still not inmy good books, I know, I know.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
David was still waiting for you to stand up and
being a true ally again, likeyou used to be.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Absolutely.
Yeah, very true.
Agreed.
Well, david, that means youwere left with Disney, so are
you a big Disney fan?
Speaker 3 (16:36):
Yeah, I, honestly I used to love Disney as a kid, I
used to.
But the thing is I used towatch like the same ones, like
on repeat.
I just finish it and thenrewind it and start it again.
That I'm showing my age becauseit was a VHS.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
VHS.
Oh yeah, I know, I love thatyou said rewind.
Speaker 3 (16:54):
But I always get I panic with Disney because,
because I only know so many, Ipanic that I'm not going to know
them.
Ok, well, which were which?
Were the ones that used towatch a lot of the ones I used
to love were so Beauty and theBeast.
Lion King, aladdin were like mytop three for sure, ok are we
the same person?
Speaker 1 (17:12):
I feel like we live the same childhood.
Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
I imagine we're probably at asimilar age.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
I'm 35.
I don't know if you want to outyour age on that.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
I'm about to be 35 in a couple of months actually.
So yeah, yeah, yeah, there wego.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
He is married and happily living in Clapham Brad,
which you leave him alone.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
Stop making this about you.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Anyway, so, disney, here we go.
Shag, Marighost with the Beast,captain Hook and Jafar.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
Oh, ok, I would.
Ok, I would shag, captain Hook.
Ok, could be painful Into toys.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Back to the bond, the fetish question.
Speaker 3 (18:01):
Apparently, is one of them.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
Exactly, I'm into hooks.
It's a niche market.
I feel like, yeah, I definitelymarry the Beast yeah just to be
clear, it is the Beast in Beastform, not Prince form.
Speaker 3 (18:16):
Oh right, yeah, but I still feel like there's, like I
don't know, something quitecute you want to shag him now,
don't you?
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Great for winter.
Can you think of that as acuddle buddy?
I mean that is cozy.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
Yeah, that would cost it for sure, yeah, and then,
yeah, jafar can get gone by, hun, oh wow.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
So why, captain Hook?
What was your reasoning behindthat?
I'm very intrigued.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
I don't know.
I was just choosing betweenJafar and Captain Hook for a
shag which is quite surreal.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Well, I learned a new phrase today.
Benji actually told me this.
It's called CBT.
Have you heard of CBT?
Speaker 3 (18:54):
before, as in cognitive behavioural therapy.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
No, but that's what Benji said.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
It was at first Originally yeah, I said you
don't want to get these twoconfused.
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
Because on Grindr someone said that they were into
CBT and I was like what is CBT?
I?
Speaker 3 (19:09):
felt like so many acronyms for everything.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Yeah, add to Google, didn't I?
And it means cock and bulltorture.
Oh my God, that is Jafar.
Yeah, yeah, but Captain Hook, Ithink, can also help you out
with that one, if that's whatyou're into.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:26):
That is a risky threesome, isn't it?
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Jafar with that staff .
Speaker 3 (19:35):
I know, are you putting that staff Jafar?
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Could be a wild night .
You know never say never.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Oh, david, thanks so much for playing along, but
before we let you go, I reallywant to hear all about your
wedding and your marriage.
So tell me everything.
How long have you been marriedfor?
What was the wedding like?
Who proposed to who?
There's so many questions.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
Yeah, so I've been married to my husband, peter for
seven years over seven yearsnow, wow.
And yeah, we were together forlike two years before that.
So I guess not really that longfor a lot of people.
But we just as soon as we metwe kind of knew.
Well, I just knew he was theone for sure.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
And how did you meet?
Just asking for a friend onthat one.
How did you find a soulmate inlife?
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I was like I've never felt more single in my life.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
It's a bit of a juicy one actually because, yeah, I
was doing a musical, I was inlike final rehearsals for
Starlight Express before I flewoff to we were doing an Asia
tour and Peter came to watch thefinal rehearsal in London
before we flew out and as soonas he arrived I said to my
(20:52):
friend Shippy, I was like who isthat?
And it was Peter and myfriendship.
He was like, but that's Tim'sboyfriend and Tim was my musical
director.
Oh my God, yes, yeah.
So basically Peter came out tojoin Tim on the tour and they
(21:13):
were like on the rocks, theirrelationship wasn't going so
well and all that kind of thing.
And Peter came out and theybasically broke up.
And Tim then told me that he hadfeelings for me.
Oh my gosh, and I was like Ikind of I didn't feel the same.
(21:33):
I really liked Tim but I didn'tfeel the same.
But I also sort of had to behonest and say like I kind of
got a bit of a spark and aconnection with Peter and I
think he knew and he did sort ofsay like I know, I know.
So yeah, it was reallychallenging at the start.
I mean it was kind of ablessing in a way, because we
still had more of the tour to goand I then went to visit my
(21:56):
sister in Australia.
So I had like breathing spacetime away.
But I just wanted to get backand sort of date Peter properly
and so I cut my trip short inAustralia, moved back to London
and we moved in together veryquickly and he's never moved out
.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
Oh well, that is lovely that you found your soul
mate and you've been togetherfor so long as well.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
I know, yeah, and it's amazing.
We just like he's so supportiveand it just works like we like
best friends.
And he's an actor he's doingreally well.
He's on Hollyoaks at the moment, which is really cool.
He's just got a job inHollyoaks.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
Wow, amazing.
Speaker 3 (22:37):
Yeah, and his storylines on conversion therapy
, so it's really important.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah so yeah, that's so great
that they are airing that storyand making that aware to sort of
the general public.
Yeah, I feel like conversiontherapy is only really we know
that as our community and peoplethat are going through it.
But the sort of wider, widersort of population of the UK I
don't think really know whatconversion therapy is.
Yeah so yeah, big up Hollyoaksfor, for covering that storyline
(23:03):
for sure.
Speaker 3 (23:03):
Absolutely.
Yeah, it's really good.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
So you, you dated for two years.
You then got married.
Who proposed to?
Speaker 3 (23:10):
who I proposed to Peter in Paris In Disneyland,
right?
No, not in Disneyland.
No, captain, who got you farover watching Game, jealous no
we actually did go to Disneyland, but not that was a different
trip.
But yeah, I told him that wewere going to spend a weekend
with my family and then I waslike surprised, we got on the
(23:32):
Euro star and we went to Parisand had a lovely weekend, yeah,
so that's, that's how we gotengaged.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
And where did you actually propose?
Was it outside, like the EiffelTower, or in a restaurant?
Or where was the set in?
Speaker 3 (23:43):
It was in a restaurant and you know what I
was so nervous like, yeah, yeah,but we were walking along the.
Is it the Sen?
I think it's the Sen in thepast.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Yeah, yeah, the river , right, the river, the river.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
I'm so sorry about his dick chair.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
Sorry, so we were walking on the Sen and there was
this cellist playing this likebeautiful song and I was so
nervous, like in my head, I waslike this is the perfect time.
You should do it now, youshould do it now.
But I planned everything atthis restaurant so we kept on
walking and it was still, it wasstill lovely.
But I was like wedged betweentwo tables, like down on one
(24:19):
knee, like, but yeah, it was, itwas perfect the way it was.
But yeah, it was, it was not.
It could have been better.
I could have done better.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
No, no, it was in the moment.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
you can't take that and also listen, you've done
better than me or Brad have doneso for sure for sure.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
So jump in for us.
So the engagement happened.
And then, how long were youengaged for until you got
married?
Speaker 3 (24:44):
Well, so we planned like a big engagement party
because my sister lives inAustralia.
So we sort of like we decidedwe'll do a big engagement party
and my sister comes over.
But while we were doing all theplanning, we were both like I
don't know, we just neither ofus really wanted this massive
wedding, like neither of us werekeen to have like this big sort
(25:06):
of lavish day kind of thing.
We just wanted it to be likespecial and meaningful.
So what we ended up doing, weinvited 12 guests to the actual
wedding, which was obviouslyreally hard to have, only to
have people there and theneveryone else.
We posted on the day likesurprise, this is actually our
(25:29):
wedding day, don't change any ofyour plans.
Like just come to what youthought was our engagement party
and we'll celebrate our weddinginstead.
Right, yeah, nice.
So it was a surprise wedding.
And then we're still thinkinglike we'll do something big for
like the 10 years we've beenlike married, because obviously
a lot of people have been a bitlike, oh, kind of missed out on
(25:51):
your wedding this month.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
It was perfect, it was.
It was how we wanted it to be.
It was good.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Did you get married in London?
Speaker 3 (25:58):
Yeah, we did yeah in Islington, nice, yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
Oh well, David, you are just living proof that we
can find our soulmates, and wecan all get married and live
happily ever after AbsolutelyApart from Benji.
He's currently scrollingthrough Grindr now looking for
the next hookup.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
I think you're far still single.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
And into CBT.
So I'm here for it.
No, but on a serious note,david, it's so nice to see
someone doing so well, obviouslyin this competition, but not
only being a lovely person, butsomebody who's representing the
sort of I was going to say theright way to live sort of their
gay lifestyle.
But you are so likeauthentically yourself and
(26:39):
someone who is sort of marriedand living in the same gendered
couple Like that is so importantfor so many people around the
world who can only dream ofbeing able to live that life.
So you flying that flag forthem and also sort of doing this
competition to spread theawareness even further around
the world, is it's reallyimportant and it's so we're so
lucky to have somebody like youwithin our community.
(27:00):
Oh, thank you, that's got me alittle bit.
No, I'm not genuinely.
I mean, I see so many peoplewho say that they are sort of
out there doing their good forour community and I often wonder
if they're doing it for theright reasons and if they're
really the right person to do it.
But I think everything thatyou've said today Shagmyra Ghost
(27:20):
aside is is, I know that whateven me right now, but
definitely my younger self,would have absolutely loved to
listen to someone talk abouttheir life with such positivity
and like hope.
So, yeah, I think, yeah, thankyou for what you're doing.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Oh, thank you, I appreciate it and I do really.
I just I think positivity is soimportant in everything that
you do, and I actually just sortof reminded me with things like
social media as well, because Iknow a lot of people struggle
with that or they have quite anegative viewpoint on social
media.
I think like a general rule isjust, if you put out positivity,
(27:57):
then that's what you get back.
Yeah, so when you're online,don't look, don't even look for
negative things, don't look forbitchy things or nasty things.
Look for the positive, becauseit's it's as much out there as
it is the negative, if you knowwhat I mean.
Even on things like X, yeah,and all that kind of stuff, yeah
and yeah.
So I'm a firm believer in likepositivity breeds more
(28:19):
positivity.
So, yeah, my thoughts of theday.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
I couldn't agree with you more.
You know I've really shared thesame sentiment and thank you so
much for coming on to ourpodcast season five finale.
So great to have you with usand best of luck for the
competition.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
I mean, you've got our votes.
You certainly have.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Thank you so much, fingers crossed.
If any of our listeners want tosort of follow your journey for
the rest of the leg of thiscompetition, where can they go
and find your personal Instagramaccount?
Speaker 3 (28:48):
So my personal Instagram is at David underscore
all wood.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
Got it Well.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
I already follow you, but I would very much recommend
it.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
Out there to follow as well, and I'm really excited.
And will you let us know howyou get on?
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Absolutely.
Yeah, for sure.
27th is the final 27th ofOctober, so we'll see.
And there is a public vote.
So if anyone wants to throw mea few votes, please, please feel
three.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
I love that Absolutely You've got my vote
yeah.
Let us know when the publicvote is open and we will
absolutely push that out a fewhundred percent.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (29:17):
Appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
Well, thank you so much, David.
See you soon Bye.
Bye you, David.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
From 7am on the UK's LGBTQ plus station.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
Wow, I mean speaking to David.
Not only is he superinspirational, but he has
actually inspired me for seasonsix.
I'm going to found myself aboyfriend and I'm going to get
married because I want to livemy big gay wedding life.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
You know, season six isn't actually that long away
and you are trying to findyourself as successful
relationship and get engaged andalso have marriage on the cards
.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
I know, but he's sold it so nicely that wedding day
sounds amazing.
I really want to get marriednow.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
I know I want to get myself a Peter.
I don't know why that's funny,I actually do.
But serious note, if you getmarried, can I sing at your
wedding, do you know?
Speaker 1 (30:32):
what.
I actually would love that,because, of course, you're going
to be massively involved.
Anyway, it's one of my bestdays.
So, yeah, definitely All right,well.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
I do have a couple of songs in mind.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
Okay, great.
What have you got?
Speaker 2 (30:41):
So I'll paint the scene for you.
Imagine we're in the church,Everyone's arrived, they're
sitting down staring at thefront and the person taking the
ceremony says would you all beupstanding for the grooms?
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Oh my God, I've got goosebumps thinking about this
moment.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
I then take to the stage with my guitar and start
singing.
What's that coming over thehill?
Is it a monster?
Speaker 1 (31:06):
I can't believe you just ruined that moment for me.
I actually had goosebumps for asecond.
They're thinking of that.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
No, to be honest with you, I think in the church I'd
be too much of a mess to singfor you.
I will be the one crying at theback with nobody to comfort me,
because I'm still lonely andbitch on single, but I think
what I probably could do is,once I've had a couple of drinks
, sing for your first dance.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
Oh cute, okay done.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
What I was thinking was everyone's ready for your
arrival.
You come in, I stand up there'sa single spotlight, I've got
the microphone and wearing thisbeautiful Vivian Westwood
inspired suit, and I sing U G LY.
You ain't got no other way.
Hey, hey, hey, back in.
Dance has come out.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
U.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
G L Y.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Well, I would say I'll just sing at your wedding,
but there ain't going to be awedding with you because you're
always going to be single.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
That's not even a funny, that is just.
That is just a preach.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
That is a fact.
That is a true penny.
But on a positive note, benji,at least we got through part two
of this episode about you doinga terrible rap again, like you
did in part one.
So thank goodness for that.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (32:13):
Listen, it wasn't terrible, let's be honest.
But do you know what?
The next thing I'll be rappingprobably is Christmas presents.
Speaker 1 (32:20):
Oh yes, christmas round the corner.
You ho, ho, hoes.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
I know I love that you accepted that and just
completely ignored the fact thatactually it's your birthday
before then.
Oh my god it is.
I know you're 40th.
I can't wait.
But, brad, I can't believe I'mabout to say this.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Oh, don't say it, I'm actually gonna miss this.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
I can't wait to say it.
No, I'm really gonna miss ittoo, and I'm gonna try and get
through this without gettingemotional.
But podcasters, that is all wehave time for for the end of
season five of my big gaypodcast.
If you have enjoyed it, please,please, please, share our
podcast with your friends,family, colleagues, anyone who
(32:59):
you think may get some educationor a laugh or a smile or needs
some company.
Please share us with them.
We would absolutely love, love,love to reach more people, and
thank you so much for tuning infor season five.
This has been our biggestseason yet and we've just had
the most, the most fun doing itliterally every week.
For the last, what 20?
Well, we took a little break.
(33:19):
So what?
Speaker 1 (33:19):
27 weeks, 28 weeks, yeah, yeah, long time, yeah,
yeah, yeah, most of the year,basically yeah doing this.
Yeah, it's been great, but ofcourse, as Benjy said, you can
follow us on our socials.
We post quite regularly on theinstagram and that is at big gay
podcast, so if you want to keepup to date with us and tune in
and check in, then we'll bealive and active on there
absolutely.
Speaker 2 (33:38):
We're going to keep as active as we can on social
media, so we still want to hearfrom you, your stories,
everything like that.
But podcasters, that is all wehave time for on this season of
my big gay podcast, until nexttime, see you next season, benjy
.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
Why is the music fading out?
No, no, I'm not.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
No, don't do this so thank you, dear podcasters, for
being our crew.
Inclusivity in love.
We owe it all to you.
Stay, you, stay proud, keep thehope in sight.
My big gay podcast season fivesigning off for the night.
It's Alt ก Ό's you.
Hello and welcome to my big game podcast, season 5,
finale, part 2, with me, benji.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Me, brat, giving you the life, the loves and loaves
of living in London.
I don't know what came out ofmy voice just there.
It's the champagne.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Two gays, one city.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
What could possibly go?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
wrong.
I feel more and more like oneof those presenters in like a
stadium.
Yes, when I do this.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Oh, my goodness, think big, dream big.
Yes, live that stadium lifehoney.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
I don't know if our duo podcast would do well in a
football stadium but I mean it'sstrange that things have
happened.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
I mean right now.
I'm very happy drinking thechampagne, enjoying our season 5
finale party.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
That's true, although what I will say is from what
I've heard of.
Like English football TV shows,I much prefer the American ones
.
You know they're like so muchmore fun.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I'm here for it.
Yeah, me too, me too.
But anyway, we are joined inthe studio with the wonderful,
the brilliant, the very handsome, david Arwood, who is Mr Gay,
great Britain 2022, and is afinalist representing Great
Britain in Mr Gay.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
World.
That's right.
So if you are just tuning inyou haven't heard part one, make
sure you go have a listen topart one before listening to us
this episode because, quitehonestly, it won't really make
sense.
But if you did listen to lastweek's episode, here is where we
got up to with our wonderfulinterview with Mr Gay, great
Britain.
This episode is sponsored byrainbowlotterycouk.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Play now and support LGBTQ plus dreams.
Okay, podcasters, raise yourglasses to our special guest who
is joining us today for ourseason 5 finale party.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
That's right.
Podcasters for the end ofseason 5 we thought we would
have some actual royalty on tomy big gay podcast.
So without further ado, pleasewelcome to the podcast Mr Gay,
great Britain.
And a finalist for Mr Gay World.
It is the one, the only theincredibly good, lurking David
Arwood.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Hello David, how are you?
Speaker 3 (02:29):
I'm really good.
Thank you, so nice to chat toyou both.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Oh, it's so great to have you on.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
We do actually have some questions for you which
your fans have written in with.
We put a couple of posts out onour Instagram and on last
week's episode, and I must admitsome of these questions were
wild to put it bluntly so we'vepicked sort of like a good chunk
(02:55):
of them which sort of give youthe idea of what people may have
been actually wanting to ask,answer them how you wish.
Just think delicate here, don'tbe scared.
So it's just.
It was so funny.
We literally had something likewhat's your favorite color to
insert very dirty question here.
Yeah, okay, okay, the brand.
I'll let you start.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Okay, so we'll go straight in with one question
from our listeners what sizefeet are you, david?
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Oh, wow okay, so read between the lines where they're
going with this, but yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Yeah, okay.
Well, I'm a size 10.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Great, I mean, if that person is listening and
that's done that for you.
Hopefully you can sleep easytonight knowing that information
.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I'm sure they were only asking because they really
would like to buy you a pair ofshoes.
Absolutely, I'm fabulous, I'minto that.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Size 10 in the house.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Okay, next question Since being crowned, what's the
weirdest DM situation you've had?
So I guess, what's thestrangest thing somebody's asked
you for in your DMs on socialmedia or you know weirdest thing
?
Speaker 3 (03:56):
I've had a lot of requests for money, like loads
of requests for money.
I guess that's not the weirdest, but I don't know if people
think that with a title yousuddenly become rich.
Sadly it's not the case.
But yeah, I've had so manypeople just say like, even from
like the simplest like oh, wouldyou mind lending me some money
(04:16):
so I can pay my rent or whateverthis month?
Oh gosh, yeah.
So I guess money is theweirdest one and it strangely
happened quite a lot straightafter I won.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Yeah, it was very odd , wow and they're from like
people in the LGBTQ pluscommunity.
They're looking to you as afigure that could help them.
Is that?
Speaker 3 (04:35):
what it is, or Um, potentially, yeah, I mean yeah.
Obviously it's quite adifficult thing to like say no
to someone I don't know, I can'tlend you money, but it's kind
of like a new form of begging.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Oh gosh, yeah, yeah.
Listen, I can't give you anymoney, but if you would like, I
can teach you the originalchoreography to rain on me.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
I mean that I can do, ready to go.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Well, that's just money in your pocket, if you ask
me to do that.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Okay, another question if you could open up
any shop in the world, what shopwould it be?
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Oh, wow, that's cool.
Okay, it's a bit boring, thoughI think my answer is a bit
boring.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Look, go for it.
Do you know what?
Me and Benji are trying to livea bit more of a wholesome life
lately, so actually we're onboard with the wholesomeness.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
I think, yeah, I think it would be some kind of
like vegan health food shopslash cafe.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Do you know what I'm here for it?
I'm vegetarian.
I don't know if you know that.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Benji's rolling his eyes.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
So I'm all about the healthy eating.
Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
Yeah, I mean I'm a bit of a fraud because I call
myself vegan, because I actuallyeat eggs now.
So I'm like vegan with a feweggs Sorry, chickens.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Do you know what?
I was a vegan for four yearsand eggs was my demise.
And now I've just I've fullyoff that boat and back into the
meat eating world.
But yeah, yeah, eggs are otherwith a downfall for me.
Next question sorry to go froma wholesome question into this
one.
It says David, are you into anyfetishes?
If so, would you care todivulge?
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Oh no, I'm gonna sound boring again.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
It's okay, brad, it's the most boring.
I always call Brad vanilla.
He's like we're not together,by the way, but he's like lights
off, shower first.
Keep your socks on Only on aSunday after 6pm, before he's
done.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
I'm trying to think so I do like sportswear, sports
kit yeah, kind of into that.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Yeah, I'm into that too, actually yeah that might
come in handy for our game lateron.
Oh wow, but I'll leave that fornow.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
All right, this is a good question.
What is your favorite type ofnight out?
Speaker 3 (06:51):
Oh, okay well, okay, so this has changed quite a lot
fairly recently.
But I mean I used to be amassive techno head, did you?
Yeah, I used to go on trips toBurgheim in Germany and like
have wild weekends and all ofthe rest of it, but I've kind of
mellowed quite considerably.
(07:13):
I'm like sober now and yeah, Imean I love a night out with my
friends basically, yeah, yeah.
So we would love a night at theBrewers or going out like
clubbing still.
But yeah, I think a good nightout always starts with a nice
meal get a bit drunk withfriends, all that kind of thing,
(07:33):
and then take the rest of itfrom there.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
really, yeah, I mean I feel like this is sort of
showing our age a bit.
In my 20s I like hit the clubstraight away big night, but now
I really enjoy, like thepre-drink session with the
friends, because you actuallycatch up and talk and then go
for a dance bit later on.
Yeah, but yeah, I feel like I'mwith you on that, on that
journey there.
David Love it, yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
OK, next question of all the parody dancers that
you've done, which would youlike to perform for real with
the original artist?
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Oh, my god.
Ok, well, I'm the biggest LadyGaga fan.
I'm just obsessed with her andI guess it's going to have to be
rain on me, because I love thechoreography so much and love
the song still.
I mean, when that song came out, I lost my mind completely.
Yeah, yeah.
(08:22):
So it's got to be Lady Gagarain on me after lockdown.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
I believe that was the first song that heaven
played right after they wereallowed to dance again.
It was the first song and I'veseen a video of it, and it was
chaos that everyone just wentfor it.
I love it.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
That song does remind me of the lockdown life,
because when it came out inlockdown didn't I would just had
it repeat all the time.
It was just minds with thattime.
Yeah, so good so good.
All right.
Another question, oh, this isactually quite relevant to what
we're talking about.
If you were Prime Minister forthe day, what laws would you put
in place?
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Oh, wow, ok, well, I would instantly ban all forms of
conversion therapy in the UK.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Yes, and actually do it this time.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
Yeah, right don't just promise it Literally after
five years of promises.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Disgusting.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
Yeah, I would scrap all this talk about scrapping
gender neutral toilets.
Make sure there were safespaces for all of our community,
and that would be the two mainones that I would absolutely
enforce straight away.
I'm totally with you on thatone, and I would make a law that
every single day needs to bepride.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Well, sign me up.
Where do I vote for you to bePrime?
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Minister.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
I love it.
Ok, and the last question foryou is if you win Mr Gay World,
what is the first thing you willdo with your title?
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Oh, that's such a good question.
I would launch my campaign, Iwould really hit the ground
running with poweringtogetherness and I want to set
up workshops.
Like powering togethernesswould be about setting up
workshops and going to differentcountries and sort of no holds
bar with that, like going toevery country or at least
(10:08):
reaching out to all of them andyeah, and start sort of meeting
people from different countriesand trying to get this campaign
off the off the ground.
So, yeah, I'd be superproactive straight away.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
basically, Well, david, you've just got so much
going on.
I absolutely love it.
We're gonna take a little shortbreak there, but don't go away,
listeners, because we've gotmore David fun with you coming
your way.
Speaker 3 (10:33):
Oh diva.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Hey Brad, oh hi, Benji Brad, what's on your mind?
Oh nothing, benji, justdaydreaming, I guess.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
What are you daydreaming about this time?
A thicker hairline?
Not today.
Oh then what is it?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
I just wish I could do more to support the community
without breaking the bank.
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Oh, and dreaming of true love's kiss Well you're in
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Not included David Olwood.
Welcome back from the shortbreak.
We're still with David Olwood,who is Mr Gay, great Britain,
(12:00):
who is representing GreatBritain in Mr Gay World.
David, as we normally do, wehave a little game that we'd
like to play with you on thepodcast if you are up for this.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Absolutely.
I love a game.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Well, we love a game too, but this game has a bit
more of a twist.
So do you know the, the classicI mean people do as a drinking
game, I guess, um shag marry andavoid.
Speaker 3 (12:21):
Oh my god, I love it yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Well, we've done a slight different one called shag
marry ghost, because I feellike in the gay community People
ghost each other all the time.
So I thought it was slightlynice and saying avoid Absolutely
, and it's spooky season afterall.
Well, that's actually the realreason why we called it Because
it is Halloween season, notbecause I'm a serial ghost, so
(12:44):
Shag marry ghost.
But what we've done is we'regoing to give you three
different categories, okay, andthen in these categories, we
have a set sort of group ofwell-known names.
Right, we'll leave it at thatwithin it.
So would you like to know whatyour categories are?
Yes, go for it.
So for shag marry ghost, thecategories are sports, disney or
(13:07):
pop stars.
Okay, I'm gonna have to go withpop stars first.
Okay, so for pop stars, shagmarry ghost.
They are Peter Andre age fromsteps and Roland Kesey.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
So we thought we'd like do a bit of a throw back to
when we were younger and maybelooking up to these Hudson men.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
Yeah, okay um, I can't ghost any of them.
They've all given me so muchjoy but I feel like, oh my god,
I can't shag hate, right, let mejust go.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
That could be the way in to be his backup dancer.
Oh my god, think about thiscarefully.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
We've crushed it.
We do know that age is a reallybig fan of the podcast, so do
you be careful.
What he said about hate.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
Okay, okay.
So I think I think I'm gonnahave to marry H for sure.
So I will.
I love an Irish man.
I'll shag Ronan Keating, I will, um, I'll marry age from steps
and I'm gonna ghost Peter Andre.
Sorry, peter, oh, there's onlyone Peter in my life.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Oh, and that is your, your husband, right?
Speaker 3 (14:20):
My husband yes.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Yes, we'll come back to a bit later because I
definitely want to hear allabout that.
But do you remember that PeterAndre video the mysterious girl
who was like coming out of thewater and oh my goodness, I know
, but I feel like that's theobvious choice.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
It was the obvious choice.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
But also I feel like in your, your house right now.
You've just said out loud I'mgonna ghost Peter.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
They're thinking okay , what are they talking about?
Oh my god, the end.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Thank you for tuning in.
We'll see you next week, yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
All right.
So, david, what's next?
Do you want Disney or sports?
Um, let's go sports.
All right, why not?
So shag marry ghost between TomDaly, david Beckham or Lewis
Hamilton.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
Oh, that's really hard, literally.
Okay, I would Shag LewisHamilton, and then I I mean, if
it's good enough for Posh, it'sgood enough for me.
I would marry David Beckham.
(15:31):
And then I was really sorry,Tom Daley, but I'd ghost Tom
Daley, which I never thought I'dsay.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Well, benjy, we freel about that, because then that
means Tom Daley is available forhim instead, sort of yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
I would.
I would shag Tom Daley, marryTom Daley.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
And everybody else in the world would happily on a
desert island, just me and TomDone.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Tom, I'm still waiting for you to message me
back.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
You can have him, take him.
There is something about.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
David Beckham, though , isn't there.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
He like as he gets older, he still looks handsome.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Yeah, yeah.
Have you seen his newdocumentary on Netflix?
Speaker 3 (16:07):
No, pete has actually watched it and I haven't
started it yet, but I'm, I'mjust good.
Yeah, it's all about bigbrother for me at the minute and
all the reality shows that havecome back, so I haven't got
round to it, yeah yeah, yeah, Imean I'm still a bit angry about
David Beckham and the wholeguitar football thing.
So you know he's still not inmy good books, I know, I know.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
David was still waiting for you to stand up and
being a true ally again, likeyou used to be.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Absolutely.
Yeah, very true.
Agreed.
Well, david, that means youwere left with Disney, so are
you a big Disney fan?
Speaker 3 (16:36):
Yeah, I, honestly I used to love Disney as a kid, I
used to.
But the thing is I used towatch like the same ones, like
on repeat.
I just finish it and thenrewind it and start it again.
That I'm showing my age becauseit was a VHS.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
VHS.
Oh yeah, I know, I love thatyou said rewind.
Speaker 3 (16:54):
But I always get I panic with Disney because,
because I only know so many, Ipanic that I'm not going to know
them.
Ok, well, which were which?
Were the ones that used towatch a lot of the ones I used
to love were so Beauty and theBeast.
Lion King, aladdin were like mytop three for sure, ok are we
the same person?
Speaker 1 (17:12):
I feel like we live the same childhood.
Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
I imagine we're probably at asimilar age.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
I'm 35.
I don't know if you want to outyour age on that.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
I'm about to be 35 in a couple of months actually.
So yeah, yeah, yeah, there wego.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
He is married and happily living in Clapham Brad,
which you leave him alone.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
Stop making this about you.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Anyway, so, disney, here we go.
Shag, Marighost with the Beast,captain Hook and Jafar.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
Oh, ok, I would.
Ok, I would shag, captain Hook.
Ok, could be painful Into toys.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Back to the bond, the fetish question.
Speaker 3 (18:01):
Apparently, is one of them.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
Exactly, I'm into hooks.
It's a niche market.
I feel like, yeah, I definitelymarry the Beast yeah just to be
clear, it is the Beast in Beastform, not Prince form.
Speaker 3 (18:16):
Oh right, yeah, but I still feel like there's, like I
don't know, something quitecute you want to shag him now,
don't you?
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Great for winter.
Can you think of that as acuddle buddy?
I mean that is cozy.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
Yeah, that would cost it for sure, yeah, and then,
yeah, jafar can get gone by, hun, oh wow.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
So why, captain Hook?
What was your reasoning behindthat?
I'm very intrigued.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
I don't know.
I was just choosing betweenJafar and Captain Hook for a
shag which is quite surreal.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Well, I learned a new phrase today.
Benji actually told me this.
It's called CBT.
Have you heard of CBT?
Speaker 3 (18:54):
before, as in cognitive behavioural therapy.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
No, but that's what Benji said.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
It was at first Originally yeah, I said you
don't want to get these twoconfused.
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
Because on Grindr someone said that they were into
CBT and I was like what is CBT?
I?
Speaker 3 (19:09):
felt like so many acronyms for everything.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Yeah, add to Google, didn't I?
And it means cock and bulltorture.
Oh my God, that is Jafar.
Yeah, yeah, but Captain Hook, Ithink, can also help you out
with that one, if that's whatyou're into.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:26):
That is a risky threesome, isn't it?
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Jafar with that staff .
Speaker 3 (19:35):
I know, are you putting that staff Jafar?
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Could be a wild night .
You know never say never.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Oh, david, thanks so much for playing along, but
before we let you go, I reallywant to hear all about your
wedding and your marriage.
So tell me everything.
How long have you been marriedfor?
What was the wedding like?
Who proposed to who?
There's so many questions.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
Yeah, so I've been married to my husband, peter for
seven years over seven yearsnow, wow.
And yeah, we were together forlike two years before that.
So I guess not really that longfor a lot of people.
But we just as soon as we metwe kind of knew.
Well, I just knew he was theone for sure.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
And how did you meet?
Just asking for a friend onthat one.
How did you find a soulmate inlife?
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I was like I've never felt more single in my life.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
It's a bit of a juicy one actually because, yeah, I
was doing a musical, I was inlike final rehearsals for
Starlight Express before I flewoff to we were doing an Asia
tour and Peter came to watch thefinal rehearsal in London
before we flew out and as soonas he arrived I said to my
(20:52):
friend Shippy, I was like who isthat?
And it was Peter and myfriendship.
He was like, but that's Tim'sboyfriend and Tim was my musical
director.
Oh my God, yes, yeah.
So basically Peter came out tojoin Tim on the tour and they
(21:13):
were like on the rocks, theirrelationship wasn't going so
well and all that kind of thing.
And Peter came out and theybasically broke up.
And Tim then told me that he hadfeelings for me.
Oh my gosh, and I was like Ikind of I didn't feel the same.
(21:33):
I really liked Tim but I didn'tfeel the same.
But I also sort of had to behonest and say like I kind of
got a bit of a spark and aconnection with Peter and I
think he knew and he did sort ofsay like I know, I know.
So yeah, it was reallychallenging at the start.
I mean it was kind of ablessing in a way, because we
still had more of the tour to goand I then went to visit my
(21:56):
sister in Australia.
So I had like breathing spacetime away.
But I just wanted to get backand sort of date Peter properly
and so I cut my trip short inAustralia, moved back to London
and we moved in together veryquickly and he's never moved out
.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
Oh well, that is lovely that you found your soul
mate and you've been togetherfor so long as well.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
I know, yeah, and it's amazing.
We just like he's so supportiveand it just works like we like
best friends.
And he's an actor he's doingreally well.
He's on Hollyoaks at the moment, which is really cool.
He's just got a job inHollyoaks.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
Wow, amazing.
Speaker 3 (22:37):
Yeah, and his storylines on conversion therapy
, so it's really important.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah so yeah, that's so great
that they are airing that storyand making that aware to sort of
the general public.
Yeah, I feel like conversiontherapy is only really we know
that as our community and peoplethat are going through it.
But the sort of wider, widersort of population of the UK I
don't think really know whatconversion therapy is.
Yeah so yeah, big up Hollyoaksfor, for covering that storyline
(23:03):
for sure.
Speaker 3 (23:03):
Absolutely.
Yeah, it's really good.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
So you, you dated for two years.
You then got married.
Who proposed to?
Speaker 3 (23:10):
who I proposed to Peter in Paris In Disneyland,
right?
No, not in Disneyland.
No, captain, who got you farover watching Game, jealous no
we actually did go to Disneyland, but not that was a different
trip.
But yeah, I told him that wewere going to spend a weekend
with my family and then I waslike surprised, we got on the
(23:32):
Euro star and we went to Parisand had a lovely weekend, yeah,
so that's, that's how we gotengaged.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
And where did you actually propose?
Was it outside, like the EiffelTower, or in a restaurant?
Or where was the set in?
Speaker 3 (23:43):
It was in a restaurant and you know what I
was so nervous like, yeah, yeah,but we were walking along the.
Is it the Sen?
I think it's the Sen in thepast.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Yeah, yeah, the river , right, the river, the river.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
I'm so sorry about his dick chair.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
Sorry, so we were walking on the Sen and there was
this cellist playing this likebeautiful song and I was so
nervous, like in my head, I waslike this is the perfect time.
You should do it now, youshould do it now.
But I planned everything atthis restaurant so we kept on
walking and it was still, it wasstill lovely.
But I was like wedged betweentwo tables, like down on one
(24:19):
knee, like, but yeah, it was, itwas perfect the way it was.
But yeah, it was, it was not.
It could have been better.
I could have done better.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
No, no, it was in the moment.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
you can't take that and also listen, you've done
better than me or Brad have doneso for sure for sure.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
So jump in for us.
So the engagement happened.
And then, how long were youengaged for until you got
married?
Speaker 3 (24:44):
Well, so we planned like a big engagement party
because my sister lives inAustralia.
So we sort of like we decidedwe'll do a big engagement party
and my sister comes over.
But while we were doing all theplanning, we were both like I
don't know, we just neither ofus really wanted this massive
wedding, like neither of us werekeen to have like this big sort
(25:06):
of lavish day kind of thing.
We just wanted it to be likespecial and meaningful.
So what we ended up doing, weinvited 12 guests to the actual
wedding, which was obviouslyreally hard to have, only to
have people there and theneveryone else.
We posted on the day likesurprise, this is actually our
(25:29):
wedding day, don't change any ofyour plans.
Like just come to what youthought was our engagement party
and we'll celebrate our weddinginstead.
Right, yeah, nice.
So it was a surprise wedding.
And then we're still thinkinglike we'll do something big for
like the 10 years we've beenlike married, because obviously
a lot of people have been a bitlike, oh, kind of missed out on
(25:51):
your wedding this month.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
It was perfect, it was.
It was how we wanted it to be.
It was good.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Did you get married in London?
Speaker 3 (25:58):
Yeah, we did yeah in Islington, nice, yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
Oh well, David, you are just living proof that we
can find our soulmates, and wecan all get married and live
happily ever after AbsolutelyApart from Benji.
He's currently scrollingthrough Grindr now looking for
the next hookup.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
I think you're far still single.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
And into CBT.
So I'm here for it.
No, but on a serious note,david, it's so nice to see
someone doing so well, obviouslyin this competition, but not
only being a lovely person, butsomebody who's representing the
sort of I was going to say theright way to live sort of their
gay lifestyle.
But you are so likeauthentically yourself and
(26:39):
someone who is sort of marriedand living in the same gendered
couple Like that is so importantfor so many people around the
world who can only dream ofbeing able to live that life.
So you flying that flag forthem and also sort of doing this
competition to spread theawareness even further around
the world, is it's reallyimportant and it's so we're so
lucky to have somebody like youwithin our community.
(27:00):
Oh, thank you, that's got me alittle bit.
No, I'm not genuinely.
I mean, I see so many peoplewho say that they are sort of
out there doing their good forour community and I often wonder
if they're doing it for theright reasons and if they're
really the right person to do it.
But I think everything thatyou've said today Shagmyra Ghost
(27:20):
aside is is, I know that whateven me right now, but
definitely my younger self,would have absolutely loved to
listen to someone talk abouttheir life with such positivity
and like hope.
So, yeah, I think, yeah, thankyou for what you're doing.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Oh, thank you, I appreciate it and I do really.
I just I think positivity is soimportant in everything that
you do, and I actually just sortof reminded me with things like
social media as well, because Iknow a lot of people struggle
with that or they have quite anegative viewpoint on social
media.
I think like a general rule isjust, if you put out positivity,
(27:57):
then that's what you get back.
Yeah, so when you're online,don't look, don't even look for
negative things, don't look forbitchy things or nasty things.
Look for the positive, becauseit's it's as much out there as
it is the negative, if you knowwhat I mean.
Even on things like X, yeah,and all that kind of stuff, yeah
and yeah.
So I'm a firm believer in likepositivity breeds more
(28:19):
positivity.
So, yeah, my thoughts of theday.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
I couldn't agree with you more.
You know I've really shared thesame sentiment and thank you so
much for coming on to ourpodcast season five finale.
So great to have you with usand best of luck for the
competition.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
I mean, you've got our votes.
You certainly have.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Thank you so much, fingers crossed.
If any of our listeners want tosort of follow your journey for
the rest of the leg of thiscompetition, where can they go
and find your personal Instagramaccount?
Speaker 3 (28:48):
So my personal Instagram is at David underscore
all wood.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
Got it Well.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
I already follow you, but I would very much recommend
it.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
Out there to follow as well, and I'm really excited.
And will you let us know howyou get on?
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Absolutely.
Yeah, for sure.
27th is the final 27th ofOctober, so we'll see.
And there is a public vote.
So if anyone wants to throw mea few votes, please, please feel
three.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
I love that Absolutely You've got my vote
yeah.
Let us know when the publicvote is open and we will
absolutely push that out a fewhundred percent.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (29:17):
Appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
Well, thank you so much, David.
See you soon Bye.
Bye you, David.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
From 7am on the UK's LGBTQ plus station.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
Wow, I mean speaking to David.
Not only is he superinspirational, but he has
actually inspired me for seasonsix.
I'm going to found myself aboyfriend and I'm going to get
married because I want to livemy big gay wedding life.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
You know, season six isn't actually that long away
and you are trying to findyourself as successful
relationship and get engaged andalso have marriage on the cards
.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
I know, but he's sold it so nicely that wedding day
sounds amazing.
I really want to get marriednow.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
I know I want to get myself a Peter.
I don't know why that's funny,I actually do.
But serious note, if you getmarried, can I sing at your
wedding, do you know?
Speaker 1 (30:32):
what.
I actually would love that,because, of course, you're going
to be massively involved.
Anyway, it's one of my bestdays.
So, yeah, definitely All right,well.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
I do have a couple of songs in mind.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
Okay, great.
What have you got?
Speaker 2 (30:41):
So I'll paint the scene for you.
Imagine we're in the church,Everyone's arrived, they're
sitting down staring at thefront and the person taking the
ceremony says would you all beupstanding for the grooms?
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Oh my God, I've got goosebumps thinking about this
moment.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
I then take to the stage with my guitar and start
singing.
What's that coming over thehill?
Is it a monster?
Speaker 1 (31:06):
I can't believe you just ruined that moment for me.
I actually had goosebumps for asecond.
They're thinking of that.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
No, to be honest with you, I think in the church I'd
be too much of a mess to singfor you.
I will be the one crying at theback with nobody to comfort me,
because I'm still lonely andbitch on single, but I think
what I probably could do is,once I've had a couple of drinks
, sing for your first dance.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
Oh cute, okay done.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
What I was thinking was everyone's ready for your
arrival.
You come in, I stand up there'sa single spotlight, I've got
the microphone and wearing thisbeautiful Vivian Westwood
inspired suit, and I sing U G LY.
You ain't got no other way.
Hey, hey, hey, back in.
Dance has come out.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
U.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
G L Y.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Well, I would say I'll just sing at your wedding,
but there ain't going to be awedding with you because you're
always going to be single.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
That's not even a funny, that is just.
That is just a preach.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
That is a fact.
That is a true penny.
But on a positive note, benji,at least we got through part two
of this episode about you doinga terrible rap again, like you
did in part one.
So thank goodness for that.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (32:13):
Listen, it wasn't terrible, let's be honest.
But do you know what?
The next thing I'll be rappingprobably is Christmas presents.
Speaker 1 (32:20):
Oh yes, christmas round the corner.
You ho, ho, hoes.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
I know I love that you accepted that and just
completely ignored the fact thatactually it's your birthday
before then.
Oh my god it is.
I know you're 40th.
I can't wait.
But, brad, I can't believe I'mabout to say this.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Oh, don't say it, I'm actually gonna miss this.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
I can't wait to say it.
No, I'm really gonna miss ittoo, and I'm gonna try and get
through this without gettingemotional.
But podcasters, that is all wehave time for for the end of
season five of my big gaypodcast.
If you have enjoyed it, please,please, please, share our
podcast with your friends,family, colleagues, anyone who
(32:59):
you think may get some educationor a laugh or a smile or needs
some company.
Please share us with them.
We would absolutely love, love,love to reach more people, and
thank you so much for tuning infor season five.
This has been our biggestseason yet and we've just had
the most, the most fun doing itliterally every week.
For the last, what 20?
Well, we took a little break.
(33:19):
So what?
Speaker 1 (33:19):
27 weeks, 28 weeks, yeah, yeah, long time, yeah,
yeah, yeah, most of the year,basically yeah doing this.
Yeah, it's been great, but ofcourse, as Benjy said, you can
follow us on our socials.
We post quite regularly on theinstagram and that is at big gay
podcast, so if you want to keepup to date with us and tune in
and check in, then we'll bealive and active on there
absolutely.
Speaker 2 (33:38):
We're going to keep as active as we can on social
media, so we still want to hearfrom you, your stories,
everything like that.
But podcasters, that is all wehave time for on this season of
my big gay podcast, until nexttime, see you next season, benjy
.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
Why is the music fading out?
No, no, I'm not.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
No, don't do this so thank you, dear podcasters, for
being our crew.
Inclusivity in love.
We owe it all to you.
Stay, you, stay proud, keep thehope in sight.
My big gay podcast season fivesigning off for the night.
It's Alt ก Ό's you.
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