July 30, 2025 • 36 mins
Ever found yourself tangled in a web of little white lies you’ve told your partner? Wish you could navigate the tricky waters of honesty with more ease? Sunaree, my wife, and I, are with you today to break down the importance of open, truthful communication in relationships. Drawing from Sunaree's unique Thai perspective, we share our thoughts on being upfront about everything - from party budgets to personal shortcomings. We dive into the negative ripple effects that even the tiniest of lies can have on your relationship, and the trust-building power of honesty.
Have you ever wondered how to balance emotional and cultural respect in your partnership? We tackle this head-on, discussing the role of emotional support and cultural appreciation as the cornerstones of a sturdy relationship. Sunaree introduces us to the Thai concept of 'Sabai Sabai', a relaxed and harmonious approach to life. We also touch upon the often-underestimated importance of emotional intelligence over academic intelligence for understanding life better. Get ready to unravel the secrets of effective communication in relationships, whether you're engaged in a cross-cultural affair or seeking to understand your partner better.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello everyone and welcome to the third episode of
my Thai wife podcast.
I am Mike and this is my wife,Sonari.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Hello, I am Sonari.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Everyone know you, Sonari.
They listen to you every weekalready.
Just say hello.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Yes, hello.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
How was your week, sonari?
Everything good, everythingokay.
Yeah, because last week youwere very, very, very tired.
You said you're not sleepingenough, and everything.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Are you better?
Now a little bit better.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Good and about work not too hard, Everything regular
.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Before years, but now a little bit hard, but it's
okay.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Okay, you sure.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Okay, and today in this episode, we thought about
giving some relationship tips,right?
We spoke about this before,maybe help some people that are
in relationship with a Thaigirlfriend or Thai wife, or
maybe have Thai.
We can help some Thai ladiesthat are in relationship with a
foreign man.
Right Without reading what wewrote, I want you to tell me,
(01:10):
without reading, what is themost important thing in a
relationship between Thai andforeign.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Number one for me is Honest.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Honest, honest, honest.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Honesty Okay, honesty Okay.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Everything.
Number one, my sh Number one,is Honest.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Yeah, but what do you mean by that?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Everything for this.
When you tell everything need,to say from hard and don't do
this, don't say just okay, okay,okay and you good about Can you
give me example.
This is not easy to actuallybecause, just Honest, you know
this, susa.
You know everything, susa.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Okay.
But let's say, let's say I giveyou an example about beer.
We always have big problemabout this, right?
Let's say, you take your moneyand you have some limit for beer
for every day.
Right, let's say, one day youlie to me.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
No, it's not nice If I do this, so you don't trust me
anymore, right?
One time, it's okay, two times,three times.
If I spread, you start one timefirst, you're gonna have two,
three, four times it's not nice.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
I see you do this more than 100 times.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Shut up.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Really no shut up.
So you think the most importantthing is just to be true with
each other, right, uh-huh?
And what about if, like, maybeyou do something?
Oh, I know, maybe you breaksomething, right.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
What do you mean?
Break Feeling?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
No, no.
Let's say you go to my car andbreak something in my car, you
will tell me, or you just dolike nothing.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Of course I call you, I tell you I break this.
I break one, two, three.
Yes, I need to tell you.
And about?
Speaker 1 (03:02):
money Also?
You sure yes, Because I see notmany times, but you know have
some people lie about money.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
No, I don't lie, but it's not nice.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
I don't say you, I didn't say that you lie.
I just mean that some people,let's say, say oh, oh, even when
they not say together, oh, Ifeel not good, I need some money
to go doctor, but they use thismoney for something else.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Maybe, but not me.
I normally I'm not asking, Ihave, I have work, I have job.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
I have money.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Why did you ask so if , if one of If I need it, really
really important, serious thisI ask.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
So I ask If we have someone that listen to us and
his wife is die right and hefind, find out she lied to him,
she ask money for I don't knowsick buffalo, her mama, buffalo
sick, but mama, not have buffalo, mama live in Bangkok, have
condo.
What do you think he need to do?
Wow, wow, wow this, wow this.
(04:06):
I don't know.
You think he need to finishwith her or maybe have to
understand what happened.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
No, First, if you ask me, you need to talk, do you
sure?
But what she lie.
If you have sick, buffalo sick,why Need to tell True, my need
to tell everything.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
So just better.
Just hey, hey hey.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
If you need.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
No, if you need money , tell Money for party.
Hey Tiras, I want to go party.
Can you send me 3000 baht?
Yes, this better yes.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Why Don't lie.
If you lie.
First time you lie, okay, oneday.
Him don't know.
Two day, no, no, one day.
He know how.
Everything you lie Need to tellhim true.
Like me, no, I don't think I'mgood, but I'd say I need money
for this this.
I go for party.
He say I need to explain whyneed money for party.
(05:00):
But if for this, this, this,why need this?
Need to explain.
Don't lie.
If you lie, they don't know.
One day.
They know, him know.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Okay.
So let's say he know, after onetime he find out, you think he
need to?
Okay, okay, baby, I don't thinkwe are together anymore, or
better just try to explain andfigure out.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
If for me, I think, need to free and also tell lady,
why, when, also you know whylady don't tell this.
Because if I tell him because Ineed money, maybe lady, our
friend, if I tell why, no, no,why he say my mom sick, my dad
(05:43):
sick, this, this, this.
Because if tell everything,true, frank, not keep money and
up to relationship, up to howlong you stay and how long you
learn, that right and but for meI should tell everything, for
you, for my boyfriend, myhusband know everything, I like
(06:07):
this, I drink, I this, this,this, for I can do everything,
not mama sick, papa sick, no, Ithis, I don't like a.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
I think also it's bad luck for papa mama if talk like
this.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Yes, yes, it's just why I don't want to.
When you need money, you canask.
Please, darling.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Darling.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
T-Rac.
I need some money for one, two,three, no, but can lie a little
bit.
But have, you sure can lie alittle bit.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
If I lie to you a little bit, no, not me.
Me let's say have.
Not lie, but just say okay youmean not say 100%, maybe say 90%
okay, but 90%, and the first ityou, you show, you talk
everything 100%.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Now, you, you feel you know nothing tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
You know you're not like.
Yes, not only yes because youdon't like.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
But if you lie, everything I'm not and the smoke
I'm not drink my, then one day,when do be together, you hit,
you hit it because you have tohide everything.
Yes, you go wow, what can you?
If he asked, this is, what canI do?
But for me better.
(07:26):
People stay together need tolearn each other right okay.
Okay, I'm like this, my familylike this, you like this, your
family like this for talk.
We're talking.
Okay, then we tune the okay.
Connect connect, yes, okay okay,then we talk, but don't lie
please.
I don't like, like, no but you?
Speaker 1 (07:50):
I remember when I first meet you I lied to you a
little bit about my work,because I was shy, my work
wasn't that good back then, andI lied to you.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Yes, first time you let me and then you say no, yes,
then this you think if thishappened to some lady?
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Let's say, lady find out Boyfriend lie about work or
about house or something sheneed to finish with him, or up
to I.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Don't know.
But for me, yes, just say blah,blah, blah, blah, but need to
learn, then one day, if you, youknow everyone, can see all I be
One, two, three, four, five, Ibecome John.
I I really, really smart Evanjust show yes, but it One day
(08:38):
you have feeling, then you feelsad.
Wow, I like to her this, I liketo him this Well, if you know,
what can I do?
Right?
This you're thinking, not Right.
So how can I tell I'm you also?
You free too much?
Yes, you're not happy.
Oh, but like me, I Tell youeverything.
(08:59):
I like this, this, this, this.
Then just fine, I can doeverything.
Also, I have my friend also.
When they they meet, they lieeverything you mean about
another couple, right Okay?
Like one, two, three and buy.
Sorry, not tell well, no, noneed to tell, don't say any
names and Then you know now, nowstart the be couple chicken up
(09:25):
to one tooth.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
I know them.
I know them, don't tell me okayyou know just why?
Speaker 2 (09:31):
because For me, for me, I think this my side, okay,
this my side, mm-hmm, if I wantto be with someone, I want them
to know what I am like this,this, this, but I'm not good.
Yeah, I'm bringing, and smallsquare.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Just this, everything else you very good, I think, in
my opinion.
Yeah, but I tell yes, my mamahate you, but everything else is
perfect.
It's not okay.
I'm joking, I'm joking.
I'm joking.
Okay, okay, okay, I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
He long towel Okay okay, stop,stop, stop, stop, stop.
(10:18):
Can we continue?
Mm-hmm, have very sensitiveequipment here.
Stop, soul things at me.
So, dan Ma, okay, okay, so goto crap.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
What's on team guinea .
Speaker 1 (10:31):
No one can see.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Neeming goosey Go to crap.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Yeah, okay.
So I understand.
Your first tip is behind us andnow it's bring us to.
Can I give one tip also?
Speaker 2 (10:45):
can.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
You know when the tip , I want to say that it's called
Her family will always benumber one, but so are you.
This mean that First, when Imet sunery, I Didn't understand.
I know you remember this.
When I met you, you always sayyour family number one, family
(11:07):
number one family number one.
And you remember, it's made mefeel like, wow, so everything
you do is nothing.
But you know, in Westernculture, in this different
culture, yes, we think that, yes, you're right, husband and wife
, poor and Mia have to be numberone.
But in Thai culture, in Easternculture, family and husband,
(11:27):
it's same level.
This, when you say your familynumber one, does not mean I'm
number two, right, yes, but thisI'm, yeah, together.
Yeah so I think my tip that Ican give people maybe you have
some question about this but mytip is that Even if she always
tell you her family number one,family number one, you have to
understand if she really loveyou, you are her family, you are
(11:51):
also number one, yes, of course.
So I Don't know how long ittake for really love someone.
First, you know just, you meetand you like and maybe in love.
And but when?
For my, for my experience, whenmy Thai wife Started to really
like me and love me?
Speaker 2 (12:10):
No, I'm not when I meet him and not love you.
I'm fucking hate him.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
So why you stay with me?
Speaker 2 (12:16):
No, man, because you sure, then I tell you everything
.
I, I told you this, I'm likethis.
This is then Wow, wow, wow.
And also, you know, thai for meno, I'm not so, just for me Wow
, wow, wow.
You really really came outeverything from me, and also my
family also.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
I can't believe yes, but Thank you, Thank you for say
that, but I just mean that Iwant people that not.
Don't worry if your girlfriendor wife tell you no, my family
is number one.
This means you number one forher also, because you are her
family, right?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Okay, so this is my tip and I think many people will
struggle that because I toldyou before, in Western culture,
right, we think that when yousay someone is number one,
nothing can be same level withit.
You know, no me, but I thinkfor you beer, family and me same
level.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
No, be a number one, you're number two, you're number
10.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Where your family number one beer.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Number two family.
You number hundred.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
I'm hundred.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
I want to know who number three and four, just this
.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah just no one.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
So number one beer, then your family, and then it's
many, many, many time beer, andthen me.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Man, man, man man be, a to get a number one man be a
you like me more than yourfamily?
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I oh no.
So me, beer and family.
I spoke right in the first timeno, like beer and mung and
family same.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
We call mung same family.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Oh, so first beer?
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Yes, okay, and mung and family same.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Understand.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Number two so.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Okay, that's good, and.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Shut up.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Okay, do you have any other tips, maybe that you want
to talk about?
I know we wrote that before.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
I don't know Check Number For me.
We need to support.
Support you mean like, let'ssay, we stand with you, you
support me, I support you, right, yes?
Speaker 1 (14:26):
But normally the the foreign men support the lady
more.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Yes, what I want to support not mean about just
money, no support.
When you feel bad, you feeldown, just you know, need to
talk and hey and ask you knownot why, why, why not just
question but need to Slowly andsupport, not just money, hey you
(14:55):
.
Okay, this is for make A couple.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Yes, for Relay can come down.
Not, don't say Fuck you fuckingstupid.
No, don't say like this let'ssay Okay, give example.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Let's say today I feel very bad, okay.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Okay, if I, if I.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
No, no, we play, we play.
Ask me what happened.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
No, first.
If I see your face, you fuckingsaid First I just what happened
and you quiet, no, I stop.
Then I have, and I do this toyou.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
No, but wait, I want to be we show.
Ask me.
You see my face.
You come to the room.
You see my face.
They said what happened.
Ask me.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Just have you know, hey, you okay.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
No, I'm not okay.
I'm very sensitive today.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Okay, okay, you need some, some hot water, you need
some food, but please don't dolike this.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
You know what happened today.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
What happened?
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Someone tell me in my work that I'm fucking fat.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Okay, don't listen to me.
Okay, please listen to me.
Okay, you, everything youforfeit, okay.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
And they say I have ugly wife also.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Yes, okay, but don't listen to me.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
They say my ugly how I can go to Thailand.
And I find ugly, ugly, ladynumber one in Thailand.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Okay, but if you listen, then you think too much.
But what do you think, how youcan?
Speaker 1 (16:24):
They say, she very stupid also.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Okay, why not listen?
Speaker 1 (16:28):
I don't know this.
What they say make me feel verysad.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Wow, wow, wow.
This you're very sensitive.
Okay, you want to kick yourmouth.
Why you?
Speaker 1 (16:35):
want to kick my mouth .
You say support.
Why kick my mouth?
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Because I try to help you but you couldn't think away
here, okay.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Okay.
So basically you mean that ifsometime you see someone down,
yeah, don't let go Try to.
In Thai I know they say Can youexplain the listeners what you
mean?
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Not just to say my number one, you know how from
her Number one is how can I sayLike it's okay, everything will
be okay Now.
Now just a head form.
But okay, we are like we arefighting together, okay.
(17:23):
Not fighting, but not fightingeach other fighting the world.
Yes, okay, everything will beokay soon.
But now you just have to calmdown.
Calm down and wait.
Everything will be for me.
I believe in the Buddha, if youthink you think you're not.
(17:46):
You're not If you're not speakback to someone you know For
sure, one day, come on, comeback.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
So I have another tip for everyone.
This is a difficult one becausefor me in the beginning it was
very, very difficult tounderstand it.
The tip is respect her culture.
This means basically that havemany things that different
between Thai culture and let'scall it Pharan culture, for
(18:18):
example.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
I remember what is Pharan?
Speaker 1 (18:21):
What is Pharan?
You want to talk about Pharan.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
No, maybe some don't know.
What does it mean?
Pharan?
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Pharan.
Normally Thai people say thisfor everyone.
That is not Thai, but I know.
Have Pharan and have Arab.
For you it's not same, butlet's say everything called
Pharan.
So I remember, for example, thefirst time I put my feet your
(18:47):
face not like kick you, justshow my feet to your face you
were fucking angry me, youremember that, yes.
In my culture it's nothing, butcan you explain what's bad
about this in your culture?
Speaker 2 (18:59):
I don't know because I don't like it?
Because in Thai no one do this.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Why?
What's wrong about it?
Speaker 2 (19:05):
It's not nice because it's very bad To do it like not
respect.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
And what about another part of body, let's say
head?
Speaker 2 (19:15):
Also, don't slap head .
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Don't touch head.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Can't touch head Old more.
And what is slap?
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Let's say my girlfriend.
I sleep together and I put myhand on her.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
Yeah, can do this, not only just girlfriend,
boyfriend, papa, my, but can dolike this slowly.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
But if this Like move your head hand slowly on her
head.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Okay, this normally just love from heart, but not
slap.
It's not nice.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
And also if you too young, it's not nice to my Thai
cause.
Many, many, many.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
I remember one time you lay down on bed, I think and
I want to pass above you, aboveyou, and you were fucking angry
.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
You start screaming Because you cannot.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Like I cannot pass above you right.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
No, yes, you have to pass like this.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
What can you make this?
No one can see what you show.
Like pass around, you mean Notabove.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
Yes, okay.
And also, you see, when I neverpass this yes, I walk, you walk
around.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Yes, okay, but I know that have many things that will
People will think are weird inThai culture.
But you have to understand thisis very different culture from
foreign culture, very different.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
But if no, if for Thai it Thai not case, okay, you
can, fran can do whatever Franwant, but for me I don't like.
And also first number one Ifyou don't like, don't do to them
.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
What do you mean?
This, I don't understand.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
I mean everything I don't like you to do.
Slap my head and.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
So if I don't like someone, slap my head, I not
slap someone's head.
Yes, you mean this?
Okay, yes, that's why.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
That's why I not do it, because I don't like people
do it to me.
That's why I respect Number oneneed to respect each other.
Culture is important, but needto talk.
No, I don't like this.
Number one not keep.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Wait.
So you are moving.
We are moving to another tipthat you have Right.
So what is the tip?
Speaker 2 (21:30):
For me, I think, everything not keep feeling what
do you need, what do you want,what do you?
Speaker 1 (21:37):
feel.
If I keep my feeling and I notshare with you this, what happen
?
What happen to me?
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Easy to someday you keep.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
And then explode.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
Yes, Easy to one day boom.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
Need to because, no, we stay together, need to talk
each other.
Okay, I don't like you do this,oh, I like this.
Maybe I need to speak, have areason, okay, because if you
speak, so you know, okay, Idon't like you do this, and you
say, sorry, I don't like you dothis, okay, can we have half for
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this?
Okay, everything, talk, talk,talk for.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Right, okay.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
If not talk.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
So let's say Okay.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
Quiet Welcome.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Not let's say, every time I sit, I pick my nose and
you don't like right?
Let's just say this yes, and ifyou just keep, keep, keep, one
day you fucking angry me.
But if you just tell me veryeasy, mike, and you stop pick
your nose, yeah that's it, keep,keep, keep.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
You do just, sometimes you do nothing fucking
.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
So, oh, I understand.
You mean, let's say, you angryfrom before, right?
Speaker 2 (22:47):
and then I do something very small.
Yes, then you're angry me evenlike, and come and buy me a
slump you.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
You think this important only in Relationship
or in life in general.
Let's say, in your work, bothyou think in work.
Let's say some Thai lady cometo work in let's say, another
country, right, and she haveboss and her boss, I don't know,
say something, or someone fromher stuff say something and she
(23:15):
don't like.
You think it's better to sayyes, so I don't like you do that
, or better to be quiet.
But see, okay.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
Can do, you can be quiet, but it's not tell,
because you know everyonedifferent, different culture,
different.
How can see different Father,mother, different style,
different background?
Yeah, okay, but I need to heyfor not yet, yet, not, yeah, but
(23:47):
hey, I think you do this notgood, need to talk this not good
.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
No good, or just say I don't like when you do that.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
No, I can say you do, I think there is not good, but
but need to sit and talk,everything to talk, okay, all
friend of work, all Husband, andwhy all skill friend, but need
to talk, sit and talk and comedown and talk and keep reason,
reason.
So I give reason.
Why, of course, have a lot ofquestions why is not good, what
(24:19):
is good but good to talk and all, but have some.
Some people Do mistake butnever say nah, I'm not missing,
but need to sometime need tolisten to something else.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
So if someone come to you, let's say in your work,
and say Soonerie, listen you.
I just give example.
This, not true?
I don't like your perfume.
This make me wow.
I don't like you always put toomuch perfume.
You need to listen to them orno, I act.
Why?
Because this make me headache.
I'm very sensitive to smell yousure, yeah but your perfume
(24:55):
also worry.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
I'm not perfume, no, you use, but on because on just
why I smell your this.
Speaker 1 (25:01):
No, I really.
When you wear too much perfume,this make me had a.
Can you put little bit less,okay?
Okay, so this normally someonetalk with you.
Uh-huh but if someone say whyyou put too much perfume, can
you stop off?
Okay, so you mean up to howpeople talk to you.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Yes, so, even though even don't like people's this is
why you this mean tell you needto do this is, but if Please,
can you put a little bit morethan before and it's okay.
This means less, you mean thismean Respect, because big, you
know speak.
But why you this?
(25:39):
This mean you have to do I needto do One, two, three, same day
, like I said, fuck off.
But it's ask me, nice, okay.
So now real, can I have thisguy?
Can you?
Yes, this mean you know up toone.
Yes, but Snaree, why you puttoo much perfume, what I do,
(26:01):
fuck off, go away.
But Sonaria, because you put alot of perfume.
Man, I'm here, they can, youare a little bit less, I'm sorry
, because Different, you knowdifferent.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
Oh, yes, I have a question what about the opposite
?
What happened if someone be,let's say, not keep, but not
talk back?
Let's say someone in your walk,or even your husband, let's say
always I a yucky, yucky, yucky,mm-hmm.
Okay, okay, okay, okay, this isalso not good right?
Yes, have to say stop, stop,yeah, I mean right.
(26:35):
Let's say you now, I stayedtrue story, you a me too much
everything.
If you not have something toyou, yeah, I think you headache.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
Yes, up to me because I like Maff.
I have fun when I give you.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Even you don't mean I want to get you, I know but can
I be honest and sometime tellyou hey, sunari, I think you,
yeah, you're too much.
Can you little bit come down?
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Can.
Can but sleep outside.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
So for you, me and you, everything different all
your.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Your tip is not for me, just for me.
You know, if you, if you sayyou want I stop, yeah, you stop,
okay, I think I can do, but yousleep outside, you can sleep
with dog.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
Okay, I thought I get you.
I sleep with dog.
Yes, perfect.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
I know so bad, you know so bad from it.
Not, I know they get youbecause it's well.
Oh yeah, you go sleep with dogoutside.
I know Chongqing, I say nothing, okay, but if you stay inside
room, yes, I cannot stop Until Isleep.
(27:47):
If I sleep, I stop, I wake up,I see even and come, I buy you
my.
So If you want I stop, you getsleep outside with dog as cap.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
I have just two options yeah, yeah, or sleep
with dog.
Yes, will you choose?
You want, I choose now.
Yes, let me think maybe three,four more episodes than I decide
.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
Okay.
Okay, and then I will let youknow if I now start to sleep
outside but I think, better yousleep outside, because you, you
know, when you know you don'tlike I wake up, I chong chong
chong, chong, chong chong, youdon't like.
Better you sleep outside.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
No, also when I outside I can sleep because not
have tractor near my ear.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
Okay, when I sleep.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
Have tractor near my ear Yesterday I tried to sleep.
You know what I do, you don'tknow.
I put pillow on your face, nothard, just put pillow like this,
so little bit quiet.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
Oh, my, you also.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
But I have reason, I'm fat.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
It's not important, fat skinny.
No, not important.
You need to listen.
Need to listen this.
You know you snore, right, youneed to stay a can stay in the
floor, have a mattress.
You want a long mattress infall.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
You want a sleep on floor and you sleep sub by sub
by on bed.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
Yes, so also Because cool also snow, you are snow,
but you better, you sleepbecause have mattress and also
very soft.
Yes, have pillow, have ablanket, have everything so when
I snow, you can go sleep onfloor now, because I don't you
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to how you call this.
Fall down, no, when you pass me.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Oh, understand, go above you same.
We spoke before.
Ah, before I say something, Iwant you can you explain to a
listener in Thai, have somethingthat call sub by sub by right,
sub by sub by yes.
Can you explain what mean?
Because this, not only the wordsub by sub by, by the way, mean
comfortable, but not only thisCan mean many, many.
(30:13):
But I know sub by sub by meanto do everything slowly, chacha
right also can mean this andalso so.
Speaker 2 (30:22):
But I mean Everything is from you not thinking too
much, and you, you feel happy,sub by sub by mean.
Even you do, you still workwith this is but a case.
But you're not serious.
But if not think Not a boom,boom, boom on your head.
This means everything flow,flow like flow.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
Yes, no, so you mean sub by sub?
By mean not have too much onyour head.
Yeah so you can be comfortable,you can relax.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Yes, yes, okay, and I know, okay, so by sub, by, even
you drink coffee as a by sub,by this can you think this just
from Thai culture?
Speaker 1 (31:02):
Or you see this also in another countries, like in in
my country, in Israel, you seethat happen also.
People not have this mindset ofsabai sabai.
You think here people moretense.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
I think also here, sub by sub by, like If you have
good feeling, this cause sub by,let's say, a good feeling and
nothing is even need need to do.
Let's say, bossy, you need todo this right now, but Even you
need to send one camp one hour,but if you have good feeling,
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you have this.
You're not okay Just one hour,just one, okay send, but because
you have this from here, fromher.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
So you understand that okay.
So this, what means?
Speaker 2 (31:54):
but if you don't have sub by, sub by Even, how are
you?
Speaker 1 (32:02):
Okay, so you so my stomach in same quiet mind,
right, okay, I understand before, before, before I thought it
where my name so.
Wait about your name some soonwe finish the show, I promise
you.
I give you an arm some.
But we came to the last tip.
I have the last tip for todayand and this tip, I try to
(32:23):
explain to you that before youdidn't really understand, but
I'm sure you will understand now.
So the tip says it's I.
I wrote it like this listen toyour wife, her seat is street
smart without smart youreducation.
In many ways this mean manypeople that meet Thai lady think
(32:45):
that they are not educated orsomething like this.
Maybe they not Finish school orgo university or did it.
You know this what I say, youknow what important street smart
, right.
So basically, what I mean isthat a Steered street smart mean
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that you are educated yourself.
You know you, you, you seen howpeople Leave you.
You met many people, right.
It doesn't mean you have to beUniversity smart, quote-unquote
in order to be smart, right, andI think many people have this
mistake that they come from aforeigner country and they think
that, oh, I went to universityor I did this or I did this, and
(33:29):
they think they are smarterright.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
I think so.
But also better if you feelyou're a university, yes, but
this is not mean so many peopleknow you feel university, but
you, your brain, not work, youdon't know how to do this.
You, you just get the howcalled this degree.
You don't know how to do this,but someone not feeling
university, but they can takecare family, they can make money
(33:55):
.
Because this number one isbrain, exactly brain.
And also about your how couldyou feeling and you think, no,
you, you, you feeling about goodidea also, yeah, good, yeah,
good idea.
Not, this is not care about it,it's just what, when you wake
up, what can I do?
Today, you've just seen.
(34:16):
And also about my many people,not sweet but may have big miss.
Yes, yes, because fromexperience and brain and try,
maybe right, maybe wrong before,also about fit a university.
(34:38):
So, yes, this you just can readand write.
But if you not do this, let'ssee.
If you from a rich family,nothing, you not do this.
But if from poor family, evennothing.
In the University they thinkwhere I think, what kind of
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every day, what, how can I dofor I get Money back, hmm, yes,
different.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
You know one of our, our friends I will not say his
name here, I just say he's fromAustralia and normally he stay
in Japan.
I will not say his name.
Once he told me a very smartthing.
He told me you know Many of theladies that walk in Pataya.
They have one thing that no oneelse have, okay, they have.
(35:28):
It's called Intelligence.
How do you, how you say that?
I forget, oh, emotionalintelligence.
So basically, just don't underthe under estimate your
Girlfriend or wife intelligent,even if she didn't feel a
Finnish University or some highstudying.
Anyway, we ran really long thisepisode, so we want to thank
(35:50):
you everyone for listening to usand we hope, we hope you come
listen to us again in the myThai wife podcast.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
Thank you, bye, bye.
Speaker 1 (36:04):
Bye, bye.
Hello everyone and welcome to the third episode of
my Thai wife podcast.
I am Mike and this is my wife,Sonari.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Hello, I am Sonari.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Everyone know you, Sonari.
They listen to you every weekalready.
Just say hello.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Yes, hello.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
How was your week, sonari?
Everything good, everythingokay.
Yeah, because last week youwere very, very, very tired.
You said you're not sleepingenough, and everything.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Are you better?
Now a little bit better.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Good and about work not too hard, Everything regular
.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Before years, but now a little bit hard, but it's
okay.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Okay, you sure.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Okay, and today in this episode, we thought about
giving some relationship tips,right?
We spoke about this before,maybe help some people that are
in relationship with a Thaigirlfriend or Thai wife, or
maybe have Thai.
We can help some Thai ladiesthat are in relationship with a
foreign man.
Right Without reading what wewrote, I want you to tell me,
(01:10):
without reading, what is themost important thing in a
relationship between Thai andforeign.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Number one for me is Honest.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Honest, honest, honest.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Honesty Okay, honesty Okay.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Everything.
Number one, my sh Number one,is Honest.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Yeah, but what do you mean by that?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Everything for this.
When you tell everything need,to say from hard and don't do
this, don't say just okay, okay,okay and you good about Can you
give me example.
This is not easy to actuallybecause, just Honest, you know
this, susa.
You know everything, susa.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Okay.
But let's say, let's say I giveyou an example about beer.
We always have big problemabout this, right?
Let's say, you take your moneyand you have some limit for beer
for every day.
Right, let's say, one day youlie to me.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
No, it's not nice If I do this, so you don't trust me
anymore, right?
One time, it's okay, two times,three times.
If I spread, you start one timefirst, you're gonna have two,
three, four times it's not nice.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
I see you do this more than 100 times.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Shut up.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Really no shut up.
So you think the most importantthing is just to be true with
each other, right, uh-huh?
And what about if, like, maybeyou do something?
Oh, I know, maybe you breaksomething, right.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
What do you mean?
Break Feeling?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
No, no.
Let's say you go to my car andbreak something in my car, you
will tell me, or you just dolike nothing.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Of course I call you, I tell you I break this.
I break one, two, three.
Yes, I need to tell you.
And about?
Speaker 1 (03:02):
money Also?
You sure yes, Because I see notmany times, but you know have
some people lie about money.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
No, I don't lie, but it's not nice.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
I don't say you, I didn't say that you lie.
I just mean that some people,let's say, say oh, oh, even when
they not say together, oh, Ifeel not good, I need some money
to go doctor, but they use thismoney for something else.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Maybe, but not me.
I normally I'm not asking, Ihave, I have work, I have job.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
I have money.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Why did you ask so if , if one of If I need it, really
really important, serious thisI ask.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
So I ask If we have someone that listen to us and
his wife is die right and hefind, find out she lied to him,
she ask money for I don't knowsick buffalo, her mama, buffalo
sick, but mama, not have buffalo, mama live in Bangkok, have
condo.
What do you think he need to do?
Wow, wow, wow this, wow this.
(04:06):
I don't know.
You think he need to finishwith her or maybe have to
understand what happened.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
No, First, if you ask me, you need to talk, do you
sure?
But what she lie.
If you have sick, buffalo sick,why Need to tell True, my need
to tell everything.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
So just better.
Just hey, hey hey.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
If you need.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
No, if you need money , tell Money for party.
Hey Tiras, I want to go party.
Can you send me 3000 baht?
Yes, this better yes.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Why Don't lie.
If you lie.
First time you lie, okay, oneday.
Him don't know.
Two day, no, no, one day.
He know how.
Everything you lie Need to tellhim true.
Like me, no, I don't think I'mgood, but I'd say I need money
for this this.
I go for party.
He say I need to explain whyneed money for party.
(05:00):
But if for this, this, this,why need this?
Need to explain.
Don't lie.
If you lie, they don't know.
One day.
They know, him know.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Okay.
So let's say he know, after onetime he find out, you think he
need to?
Okay, okay, baby, I don't thinkwe are together anymore, or
better just try to explain andfigure out.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
If for me, I think, need to free and also tell lady,
why, when, also you know whylady don't tell this.
Because if I tell him because Ineed money, maybe lady, our
friend, if I tell why, no, no,why he say my mom sick, my dad
(05:43):
sick, this, this, this.
Because if tell everything,true, frank, not keep money and
up to relationship, up to howlong you stay and how long you
learn, that right and but for meI should tell everything, for
you, for my boyfriend, myhusband know everything, I like
(06:07):
this, I drink, I this, this,this, for I can do everything,
not mama sick, papa sick, no, Ithis, I don't like a.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
I think also it's bad luck for papa mama if talk like
this.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Yes, yes, it's just why I don't want to.
When you need money, you canask.
Please, darling.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Darling.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
T-Rac.
I need some money for one, two,three, no, but can lie a little
bit.
But have, you sure can lie alittle bit.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
If I lie to you a little bit, no, not me.
Me let's say have.
Not lie, but just say okay youmean not say 100%, maybe say 90%
okay, but 90%, and the first ityou, you show, you talk
everything 100%.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Now, you, you feel you know nothing tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
You know you're not like.
Yes, not only yes because youdon't like.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
But if you lie, everything I'm not and the smoke
I'm not drink my, then one day,when do be together, you hit,
you hit it because you have tohide everything.
Yes, you go wow, what can you?
If he asked, this is, what canI do?
But for me better.
(07:26):
People stay together need tolearn each other right okay.
Okay, I'm like this, my familylike this, you like this, your
family like this for talk.
We're talking.
Okay, then we tune the okay.
Connect connect, yes, okay okay,then we talk, but don't lie
please.
I don't like, like, no but you?
Speaker 1 (07:50):
I remember when I first meet you I lied to you a
little bit about my work,because I was shy, my work
wasn't that good back then, andI lied to you.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Yes, first time you let me and then you say no, yes,
then this you think if thishappened to some lady?
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Let's say, lady find out Boyfriend lie about work or
about house or something sheneed to finish with him, or up
to I.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Don't know.
But for me, yes, just say blah,blah, blah, blah, but need to
learn, then one day, if you, youknow everyone, can see all I be
One, two, three, four, five, Ibecome John.
I I really, really smart Evanjust show yes, but it One day
(08:38):
you have feeling, then you feelsad.
Wow, I like to her this, I liketo him this Well, if you know,
what can I do?
Right?
This you're thinking, not Right.
So how can I tell I'm you also?
You free too much?
Yes, you're not happy.
Oh, but like me, I Tell youeverything.
(08:59):
I like this, this, this, this.
Then just fine, I can doeverything.
Also, I have my friend also.
When they they meet, they lieeverything you mean about
another couple, right Okay?
Like one, two, three and buy.
Sorry, not tell well, no, noneed to tell, don't say any
names and Then you know now, nowstart the be couple chicken up
(09:25):
to one tooth.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
I know them.
I know them, don't tell me okayyou know just why?
Speaker 2 (09:31):
because For me, for me, I think this my side, okay,
this my side, mm-hmm, if I wantto be with someone, I want them
to know what I am like this,this, this, but I'm not good.
Yeah, I'm bringing, and smallsquare.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Just this, everything else you very good, I think, in
my opinion.
Yeah, but I tell yes, my mamahate you, but everything else is
perfect.
It's not okay.
I'm joking, I'm joking.
I'm joking.
Okay, okay, okay, I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
He long towel Okay okay, stop,stop, stop, stop, stop.
(10:18):
Can we continue?
Mm-hmm, have very sensitiveequipment here.
Stop, soul things at me.
So, dan Ma, okay, okay, so goto crap.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
What's on team guinea .
Speaker 1 (10:31):
No one can see.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Neeming goosey Go to crap.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Yeah, okay.
So I understand.
Your first tip is behind us andnow it's bring us to.
Can I give one tip also?
Speaker 2 (10:45):
can.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
You know when the tip , I want to say that it's called
Her family will always benumber one, but so are you.
This mean that First, when Imet sunery, I Didn't understand.
I know you remember this.
When I met you, you always sayyour family number one, family
(11:07):
number one family number one.
And you remember, it's made mefeel like, wow, so everything
you do is nothing.
But you know, in Westernculture, in this different
culture, yes, we think that, yes, you're right, husband and wife
, poor and Mia have to be numberone.
But in Thai culture, in Easternculture, family and husband,
(11:27):
it's same level.
This, when you say your familynumber one, does not mean I'm
number two, right, yes, but thisI'm, yeah, together.
Yeah so I think my tip that Ican give people maybe you have
some question about this but mytip is that Even if she always
tell you her family number one,family number one, you have to
understand if she really loveyou, you are her family, you are
(11:51):
also number one, yes, of course.
So I Don't know how long ittake for really love someone.
First, you know just, you meetand you like and maybe in love.
And but when?
For my, for my experience, whenmy Thai wife Started to really
like me and love me?
Speaker 2 (12:10):
No, I'm not when I meet him and not love you.
I'm fucking hate him.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
So why you stay with me?
Speaker 2 (12:16):
No, man, because you sure, then I tell you everything
.
I, I told you this, I'm likethis.
This is then Wow, wow, wow.
And also, you know, thai for meno, I'm not so, just for me Wow
, wow, wow.
You really really came outeverything from me, and also my
family also.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
I can't believe yes, but Thank you, Thank you for say
that, but I just mean that Iwant people that not.
Don't worry if your girlfriendor wife tell you no, my family
is number one.
This means you number one forher also, because you are her
family, right?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Okay, so this is my tip and I think many people will
struggle that because I toldyou before, in Western culture,
right, we think that when yousay someone is number one,
nothing can be same level withit.
You know, no me, but I thinkfor you beer, family and me same
level.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
No, be a number one, you're number two, you're number
10.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Where your family number one beer.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Number two family.
You number hundred.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
I'm hundred.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
I want to know who number three and four, just this
.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah just no one.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
So number one beer, then your family, and then it's
many, many, many time beer, andthen me.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Man, man, man man be, a to get a number one man be a
you like me more than yourfamily?
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I oh no.
So me, beer and family.
I spoke right in the first timeno, like beer and mung and
family same.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
We call mung same family.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Oh, so first beer?
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Yes, okay, and mung and family same.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Understand.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Number two so.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Okay, that's good, and.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Shut up.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Okay, do you have any other tips, maybe that you want
to talk about?
I know we wrote that before.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
I don't know Check Number For me.
We need to support.
Support you mean like, let'ssay, we stand with you, you
support me, I support you, right, yes?
Speaker 1 (14:26):
But normally the the foreign men support the lady
more.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Yes, what I want to support not mean about just
money, no support.
When you feel bad, you feeldown, just you know, need to
talk and hey and ask you knownot why, why, why not just
question but need to Slowly andsupport, not just money, hey you
(14:55):
.
Okay, this is for make A couple.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Yes, for Relay can come down.
Not, don't say Fuck you fuckingstupid.
No, don't say like this let'ssay Okay, give example.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Let's say today I feel very bad, okay.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Okay, if I, if I.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
No, no, we play, we play.
Ask me what happened.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
No, first.
If I see your face, you fuckingsaid First I just what happened
and you quiet, no, I stop.
Then I have, and I do this toyou.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
No, but wait, I want to be we show.
Ask me.
You see my face.
You come to the room.
You see my face.
They said what happened.
Ask me.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Just have you know, hey, you okay.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
No, I'm not okay.
I'm very sensitive today.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Okay, okay, you need some, some hot water, you need
some food, but please don't dolike this.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
You know what happened today.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
What happened?
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Someone tell me in my work that I'm fucking fat.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Okay, don't listen to me.
Okay, please listen to me.
Okay, you, everything youforfeit, okay.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
And they say I have ugly wife also.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Yes, okay, but don't listen to me.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
They say my ugly how I can go to Thailand.
And I find ugly, ugly, ladynumber one in Thailand.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Okay, but if you listen, then you think too much.
But what do you think, how youcan?
Speaker 1 (16:24):
They say, she very stupid also.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Okay, why not listen?
Speaker 1 (16:28):
I don't know this.
What they say make me feel verysad.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Wow, wow, wow.
This you're very sensitive.
Okay, you want to kick yourmouth.
Why you?
Speaker 1 (16:35):
want to kick my mouth .
You say support.
Why kick my mouth?
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Because I try to help you but you couldn't think away
here, okay.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Okay.
So basically you mean that ifsometime you see someone down,
yeah, don't let go Try to.
In Thai I know they say Can youexplain the listeners what you
mean?
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Not just to say my number one, you know how from
her Number one is how can I sayLike it's okay, everything will
be okay Now.
Now just a head form.
But okay, we are like we arefighting together, okay.
(17:23):
Not fighting, but not fightingeach other fighting the world.
Yes, okay, everything will beokay soon.
But now you just have to calmdown.
Calm down and wait.
Everything will be for me.
I believe in the Buddha, if youthink you think you're not.
(17:46):
You're not If you're not speakback to someone you know For
sure, one day, come on, comeback.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
So I have another tip for everyone.
This is a difficult one becausefor me in the beginning it was
very, very difficult tounderstand it.
The tip is respect her culture.
This means basically that havemany things that different
between Thai culture and let'scall it Pharan culture, for
(18:18):
example.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
I remember what is Pharan?
Speaker 1 (18:21):
What is Pharan?
You want to talk about Pharan.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
No, maybe some don't know.
What does it mean?
Pharan?
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Pharan.
Normally Thai people say thisfor everyone.
That is not Thai, but I know.
Have Pharan and have Arab.
For you it's not same, butlet's say everything called
Pharan.
So I remember, for example, thefirst time I put my feet your
(18:47):
face not like kick you, justshow my feet to your face you
were fucking angry me, youremember that, yes.
In my culture it's nothing, butcan you explain what's bad
about this in your culture?
Speaker 2 (18:59):
I don't know because I don't like it?
Because in Thai no one do this.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Why?
What's wrong about it?
Speaker 2 (19:05):
It's not nice because it's very bad To do it like not
respect.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
And what about another part of body, let's say
head?
Speaker 2 (19:15):
Also, don't slap head .
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Don't touch head.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Can't touch head Old more.
And what is slap?
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Let's say my girlfriend.
I sleep together and I put myhand on her.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
Yeah, can do this, not only just girlfriend,
boyfriend, papa, my, but can dolike this slowly.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
But if this Like move your head hand slowly on her
head.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Okay, this normally just love from heart, but not
slap.
It's not nice.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
And also if you too young, it's not nice to my Thai
cause.
Many, many, many.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
I remember one time you lay down on bed, I think and
I want to pass above you, aboveyou, and you were fucking angry
.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
You start screaming Because you cannot.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Like I cannot pass above you right.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
No, yes, you have to pass like this.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
What can you make this?
No one can see what you show.
Like pass around, you mean Notabove.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
Yes, okay.
And also, you see, when I neverpass this yes, I walk, you walk
around.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Yes, okay, but I know that have many things that will
People will think are weird inThai culture.
But you have to understand thisis very different culture from
foreign culture, very different.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
But if no, if for Thai it Thai not case, okay, you
can, fran can do whatever Franwant, but for me I don't like.
And also first number one Ifyou don't like, don't do to them
.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
What do you mean?
This, I don't understand.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
I mean everything I don't like you to do.
Slap my head and.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
So if I don't like someone, slap my head, I not
slap someone's head.
Yes, you mean this?
Okay, yes, that's why.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
That's why I not do it, because I don't like people
do it to me.
That's why I respect Number oneneed to respect each other.
Culture is important, but needto talk.
No, I don't like this.
Number one not keep.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Wait.
So you are moving.
We are moving to another tipthat you have Right.
So what is the tip?
Speaker 2 (21:30):
For me, I think, everything not keep feeling what
do you need, what do you want,what do you?
Speaker 1 (21:37):
feel.
If I keep my feeling and I notshare with you this, what happen
?
What happen to me?
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Easy to someday you keep.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
And then explode.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
Yes, Easy to one day boom.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
Need to because, no, we stay together, need to talk
each other.
Okay, I don't like you do this,oh, I like this.
Maybe I need to speak, have areason, okay, because if you
speak, so you know, okay, Idon't like you do this, and you
say, sorry, I don't like you dothis, okay, can we have half for
(22:13):
this?
Okay, everything, talk, talk,talk for.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Right, okay.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
If not talk.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
So let's say Okay.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
Quiet Welcome.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Not let's say, every time I sit, I pick my nose and
you don't like right?
Let's just say this yes, and ifyou just keep, keep, keep, one
day you fucking angry me.
But if you just tell me veryeasy, mike, and you stop pick
your nose, yeah that's it, keep,keep, keep.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
You do just, sometimes you do nothing fucking
.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
So, oh, I understand.
You mean, let's say, you angryfrom before, right?
Speaker 2 (22:47):
and then I do something very small.
Yes, then you're angry me evenlike, and come and buy me a
slump you.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
You think this important only in Relationship
or in life in general.
Let's say, in your work, bothyou think in work.
Let's say some Thai lady cometo work in let's say, another
country, right, and she haveboss and her boss, I don't know,
say something, or someone fromher stuff say something and she
(23:15):
don't like.
You think it's better to sayyes, so I don't like you do that
, or better to be quiet.
But see, okay.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
Can do, you can be quiet, but it's not tell,
because you know everyonedifferent, different culture,
different.
How can see different Father,mother, different style,
different background?
Yeah, okay, but I need to heyfor not yet, yet, not, yeah, but
(23:47):
hey, I think you do this notgood, need to talk this not good
.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
No good, or just say I don't like when you do that.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
No, I can say you do, I think there is not good, but
but need to sit and talk,everything to talk, okay, all
friend of work, all Husband, andwhy all skill friend, but need
to talk, sit and talk and comedown and talk and keep reason,
reason.
So I give reason.
Why, of course, have a lot ofquestions why is not good, what
(24:19):
is good but good to talk and all, but have some.
Some people Do mistake butnever say nah, I'm not missing,
but need to sometime need tolisten to something else.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
So if someone come to you, let's say in your work,
and say Soonerie, listen you.
I just give example.
This, not true?
I don't like your perfume.
This make me wow.
I don't like you always put toomuch perfume.
You need to listen to them orno, I act.
Why?
Because this make me headache.
I'm very sensitive to smell yousure, yeah but your perfume
(24:55):
also worry.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
I'm not perfume, no, you use, but on because on just
why I smell your this.
Speaker 1 (25:01):
No, I really.
When you wear too much perfume,this make me had a.
Can you put little bit less,okay?
Okay, so this normally someonetalk with you.
Uh-huh but if someone say whyyou put too much perfume, can
you stop off?
Okay, so you mean up to howpeople talk to you.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Yes, so, even though even don't like people's this is
why you this mean tell you needto do this is, but if Please,
can you put a little bit morethan before and it's okay.
This means less, you mean thismean Respect, because big, you
know speak.
But why you this?
(25:39):
This mean you have to do I needto do One, two, three, same day
, like I said, fuck off.
But it's ask me, nice, okay.
So now real, can I have thisguy?
Can you?
Yes, this mean you know up toone.
Yes, but Snaree, why you puttoo much perfume, what I do,
(26:01):
fuck off, go away.
But Sonaria, because you put alot of perfume.
Man, I'm here, they can, youare a little bit less, I'm sorry
, because Different, you knowdifferent.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
Oh, yes, I have a question what about the opposite
?
What happened if someone be,let's say, not keep, but not
talk back?
Let's say someone in your walk,or even your husband, let's say
always I a yucky, yucky, yucky,mm-hmm.
Okay, okay, okay, okay, this isalso not good right?
Yes, have to say stop, stop,yeah, I mean right.
(26:35):
Let's say you now, I stayedtrue story, you a me too much
everything.
If you not have something toyou, yeah, I think you headache.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
Yes, up to me because I like Maff.
I have fun when I give you.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Even you don't mean I want to get you, I know but can
I be honest and sometime tellyou hey, sunari, I think you,
yeah, you're too much.
Can you little bit come down?
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Can.
Can but sleep outside.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
So for you, me and you, everything different all
your.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Your tip is not for me, just for me.
You know, if you, if you sayyou want I stop, yeah, you stop,
okay, I think I can do, but yousleep outside, you can sleep
with dog.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
Okay, I thought I get you.
I sleep with dog.
Yes, perfect.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
I know so bad, you know so bad from it.
Not, I know they get youbecause it's well.
Oh yeah, you go sleep with dogoutside.
I know Chongqing, I say nothing, okay, but if you stay inside
room, yes, I cannot stop Until Isleep.
(27:47):
If I sleep, I stop, I wake up,I see even and come, I buy you
my.
So If you want I stop, you getsleep outside with dog as cap.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
I have just two options yeah, yeah, or sleep
with dog.
Yes, will you choose?
You want, I choose now.
Yes, let me think maybe three,four more episodes than I decide
.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
Okay.
Okay, and then I will let youknow if I now start to sleep
outside but I think, better yousleep outside, because you, you
know, when you know you don'tlike I wake up, I chong chong
chong, chong, chong chong, youdon't like.
Better you sleep outside.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
No, also when I outside I can sleep because not
have tractor near my ear.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
Okay, when I sleep.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
Have tractor near my ear Yesterday I tried to sleep.
You know what I do, you don'tknow.
I put pillow on your face, nothard, just put pillow like this,
so little bit quiet.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
Oh, my, you also.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
But I have reason, I'm fat.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
It's not important, fat skinny.
No, not important.
You need to listen.
Need to listen this.
You know you snore, right, youneed to stay a can stay in the
floor, have a mattress.
You want a long mattress infall.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
You want a sleep on floor and you sleep sub by sub
by on bed.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
Yes, so also Because cool also snow, you are snow,
but you better, you sleepbecause have mattress and also
very soft.
Yes, have pillow, have ablanket, have everything so when
I snow, you can go sleep onfloor now, because I don't you
(29:45):
to how you call this.
Fall down, no, when you pass me.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Oh, understand, go above you same.
We spoke before.
Ah, before I say something, Iwant you can you explain to a
listener in Thai, have somethingthat call sub by sub by right,
sub by sub by yes.
Can you explain what mean?
Because this, not only the wordsub by sub by, by the way, mean
comfortable, but not only thisCan mean many, many.
(30:13):
But I know sub by sub by meanto do everything slowly, chacha
right also can mean this andalso so.
Speaker 2 (30:22):
But I mean Everything is from you not thinking too
much, and you, you feel happy,sub by sub by mean.
Even you do, you still workwith this is but a case.
But you're not serious.
But if not think Not a boom,boom, boom on your head.
This means everything flow,flow like flow.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
Yes, no, so you mean sub by sub?
By mean not have too much onyour head.
Yeah so you can be comfortable,you can relax.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Yes, yes, okay, and I know, okay, so by sub, by, even
you drink coffee as a by sub,by this can you think this just
from Thai culture?
Speaker 1 (31:02):
Or you see this also in another countries, like in in
my country, in Israel, you seethat happen also.
People not have this mindset ofsabai sabai.
You think here people moretense.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
I think also here, sub by sub by, like If you have
good feeling, this cause sub by,let's say, a good feeling and
nothing is even need need to do.
Let's say, bossy, you need todo this right now, but Even you
need to send one camp one hour,but if you have good feeling,
(31:41):
you have this.
You're not okay Just one hour,just one, okay send, but because
you have this from here, fromher.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
So you understand that okay.
So this, what means?
Speaker 2 (31:54):
but if you don't have sub by, sub by Even, how are
you?
Speaker 1 (32:02):
Okay, so you so my stomach in same quiet mind,
right, okay, I understand before, before, before I thought it
where my name so.
Wait about your name some soonwe finish the show, I promise
you.
I give you an arm some.
But we came to the last tip.
I have the last tip for todayand and this tip, I try to
(32:23):
explain to you that before youdidn't really understand, but
I'm sure you will understand now.
So the tip says it's I.
I wrote it like this listen toyour wife, her seat is street
smart without smart youreducation.
In many ways this mean manypeople that meet Thai lady think
(32:45):
that they are not educated orsomething like this.
Maybe they not Finish school orgo university or did it.
You know this what I say, youknow what important street smart
, right.
So basically, what I mean isthat a Steered street smart mean
(33:05):
that you are educated yourself.
You know you, you, you seen howpeople Leave you.
You met many people, right.
It doesn't mean you have to beUniversity smart, quote-unquote
in order to be smart, right, andI think many people have this
mistake that they come from aforeigner country and they think
that, oh, I went to universityor I did this or I did this, and
(33:29):
they think they are smarterright.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
I think so.
But also better if you feelyou're a university, yes, but
this is not mean so many peopleknow you feel university, but
you, your brain, not work, youdon't know how to do this.
You, you just get the howcalled this degree.
You don't know how to do this,but someone not feeling
university, but they can takecare family, they can make money
(33:55):
.
Because this number one isbrain, exactly brain.
And also about your how couldyou feeling and you think, no,
you, you, you feeling about goodidea also, yeah, good, yeah,
good idea.
Not, this is not care about it,it's just what, when you wake
up, what can I do?
Today, you've just seen.
(34:16):
And also about my many people,not sweet but may have big miss.
Yes, yes, because fromexperience and brain and try,
maybe right, maybe wrong before,also about fit a university.
(34:38):
So, yes, this you just can readand write.
But if you not do this, let'ssee.
If you from a rich family,nothing, you not do this.
But if from poor family, evennothing.
In the University they thinkwhere I think, what kind of
(34:58):
every day, what, how can I dofor I get Money back, hmm, yes,
different.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
You know one of our, our friends I will not say his
name here, I just say he's fromAustralia and normally he stay
in Japan.
I will not say his name.
Once he told me a very smartthing.
He told me you know Many of theladies that walk in Pataya.
They have one thing that no oneelse have, okay, they have.
(35:28):
It's called Intelligence.
How do you, how you say that?
I forget, oh, emotionalintelligence.
So basically, just don't underthe under estimate your
Girlfriend or wife intelligent,even if she didn't feel a
Finnish University or some highstudying.
Anyway, we ran really long thisepisode, so we want to thank
(35:50):
you everyone for listening to usand we hope, we hope you come
listen to us again in the myThai wife podcast.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
Thank you, bye, bye.
Speaker 1 (36:04):
Bye, bye.
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