July 30, 2025 • 27 mins
"we had some issue with the recording, i figured out that Sunaree's microphone was faulty and now we replaced it. I tried my best to fix the audio and i think i got it to a point that i'm happy with it, sorry guys we are still new to padcasting so please bare with us - Mike"
Ever had a heated disagreement with your partner that spiraled out of control? Sunaree and I, Mike, found ourselves in such a situation recently. What spun from it was a deeper understanding of how to deal with fights in relationships, and we're here to share our discoveries with you. We'll guide you on why it's crucial to take a breather before trying to resolve issues when tempers are flaring, and how to resist the temptation of exchanging hurtful words. We'll also discuss our thoughts on accepting fault, regardless of who's right, and an unspoken rule - stay away from sharp objects during angry moments.
Now, imagine tossing alcohol into the mix of an already heated argument. Not a pleasant image, right? In the second part of our discussion, we dig into the dangers hidden in arguments under the influence. You'll learn why it's vital to sidestep any form of conflict when tipsy, as regrettable words or actions could follow. We underscore the significance of respect in relationships, including understanding and honoring each other's boundaries and families. Moreover, we'll unveil the destructive effects of deliberately using painful words. So, join us as we journey through the intricacies of handling relationship conflicts with effective communication, love, and respect.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello everyone and welcome to the fourth episode of
my Thai wife.
I am Mike and this is my lovelywife, sonarie, and also we want
to say sorry for our listenersabout uploading this episode
late.
The reason is that we had anargument yesterday like a fight
(00:22):
Not big fight, but a fight andit's not the first time that it
happened.
We stayed together for aboutfive or six years already and we
had a lot of fight.
So this means we have a lot offighting experience and after
our fight yesterday we thoughtabout maybe sharing our advice
(00:43):
how to fix fight Right.
So we wrote some things downand would you like to start,
sonarie?
Can you give the first adviceyou have?
Speaker 2 (00:55):
When have fight need to come down and don't talk when
hot.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
What do you mean?
Not talk when hot?
Speaker 2 (01:06):
No one listen.
I know you listen when hot.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
No, what do you mean?
Hot, I not understand.
I'm fucking angry.
You mean in the middle of thefight, when someone fucking
angry?
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Need first to come down before fix.
Yes, cannot fix when hot, whenangry.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
For me.
No, I don't want to fit whenhot I need to.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
I understand how long you think normally you need for
calm down or I need to calmdown.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
Up to fight.
Yes, let's say I, you find outI lie something to you, not
something big, and then youangry.
You think now maybe one weekyou not talk with me, or
normally after.
Maybe one day we can start totalk about this, maybe one day,
if not big.
No, no, not big.
If big, I kick you out.
Don't worry, I buy ticket.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I'm not care.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
I know you happy if I buy ticket.
I think you dream about thisday many times, maybe today this
fight.
He say okay, finish then.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
I don't even have science in it.
It's not mine.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
You know this, my tip also.
I have one tip there that Iwrote.
So, in the middle of a bigfight, we sometimes say stuff we
don't want to say or sometimeswe feel very full you know what
I mean full about.
You keep your feelings longtime, long time, long time, and
then you say bomb, you explode,we talk about this last episode
(02:32):
and sometimes, when this happen,maybe I say something very bad
or maybe you say something verybad.
Sometimes we talk about okay,so we not stay together, we
separate, right.
Okay, you do what you want, Ido what I want, and we not do
this relationship anymore.
And I think it's very good fora very bad for fight to say that
(02:54):
, because when this happen, thismake us angry more and hurt
more, right.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
So stop make me angry .
Speaker 1 (03:04):
You're right.
Everything is my fault.
Everyone that listen in theworld, please know it's Mike's
fault.
Always when something happenbad in your life, this is Mike's
fault.
Yes, if some you go down thestreet and you step on shit,
this is my fault.
Yes.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Probably my shit.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yes, I shit everywhere.
Yes, so everything in the worldis my fault.
You not have fault in this.
No, never, ever.
So you know what?
I have a special extra tip foryou.
Sometimes people need to takefault, even if they think they
fucking right.
Sometimes you have to acceptyou not do 100% good.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
I do 1 million percent, not 100%.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You sure Everything?
Yes, you want I give example?
No, why not?
Up to me.
So my tip, as I said, is, whenyou have fight, please don't
tell your partner.
Okay, I want to finish with you.
I don't want to stay with youanymore.
(04:06):
No one said you sure before Isee, but, nice, stop.
But I mean, you know, in thebeginning of the relationship it
was much easier to say that,right, you talk about you with
me or some other first, I talkabout you and me.
But I think this can apply,this can help for other people
that listen to us, right, and Ithink in the beginning of our
(04:30):
relationship correct me if I'mwrong it was much easier to say,
okay, we finish, we finish, wefinish, we finish every time we
have fight.
Okay, finish.
I even bought ticket one or twotimes for you, you remember.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
One time.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
One time and have another time.
I think very hard when you tryto kill me.
You remember.
You try to kill me one time.
Wait, I remember.
I never forget this place, oh.
I gave you how you play.
This is not good.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
I play.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Also another extra tip I can give when have fight
with your Thai wife some Thaiwives are crazy Stay away from
sharp objects.
If have knife, have glassbottle, have something.
Go away from this.
It can be very dangerous foryou.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Not even like this man.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
I don't say everyone, but I say my Thai wife is
fucking crazy sometimes.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Stop making me angry.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
How can I stop making you angry if you are angry
about pussy of mosquito?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Let me do whatever I want.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
What do you want to do?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Everything.
Don't say no one is not good.
Actually, let me do whatever Iwant.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
I want to know I do only bad things to you or
sometimes I do good things also.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Good thing, I'm not proud.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Why not?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
That's how this bad thing After me.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You don't think it's good idea to count everything.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
No, I'm okay.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
I don't believe you.
Now you are angry aboutyesterday, but I don't believe
you.
I know deep inside you are verysweet and lovely lady.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I'm not lovely lady.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Satan.
You're not Satan.
Don't say that.
And do you have maybe anothertip you want to let our
listeners hear?
Speaker 2 (06:26):
When inside try to remember why you love each other
.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Okay.
So that's very easy tounderstand, right?
When, in a middle of fight,even if you just remember the
bad thing that Sunari do to meshe do many bad things then I
think why she, sunari, do bad,why she do this, why she do this
?
But I also have to remember whyI love Sunari, why I choose to
stay with her, because it's mucheasier to see the bad things
(06:52):
when you are inside the fight.
Right, what about what?
Can you give an example?
Thing, let's say we have fight,and then you think just I make
you angry, I'm not.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
For me when I don't know this man's side, when I
have fight.
I don't want to see you.
I don't want to talk with you.
I want to see you.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
But I mean about think about the good things also
.
I mean this Good thing.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I don't care, man, but I don't want to see even you
face, even you.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
We have this tip there.
Can you find it?
I think it's in my tips.
Have one tip, give me, I showyou.
One of the tips that we wroteis sometime less talk is better
than long talk.
I understand.
(07:49):
Sometime, let's say, we havesome fight, I can come and I can
talk with you 2-3 hours.
That make you even angry, moreso.
This way I say sometimes I justsay, sunari, I angry because
you do this, and walk away andlet you understand why I'm angry
(08:12):
.
For me, I think better I dolike this, and then I go party
with someone.
You stay home alone, you said,and then you think I miss my
husband, where is my husband?
I'm so sorry.
I do this to him, him verylovely husband.
You have to clean this.
After you throw up on the flooryou have to clean.
(08:34):
But, as we say this in yourtips also, sometime fight can go
away.
If we not talk about fight, noteverything that we angry have
to talk about.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Even though never go.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Really, if something small like, let's say, I forget
to open the window in themorning, just say, and this make
you angry?
Sometime you can just say mightyou forget?
Do this, then stop talk aboutthis Inside.
I can understand why thisimportant for her.
Maybe even I don't think thisimportant.
(09:13):
She want I do this, I have todo this.
So this why I mean sometime nothave to talk about everything
and just have to say what youdon't like.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
But I don't like to say it Because I think she's a
liar, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
number one, everyone knows this not good, not good
Thing.
Yes, but you know you likenumber one Tuyayak right.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Because you do everything not good.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Even if I do everything good, you try to find
the reason.
Tuyayak, of course, becausethis is fun for you.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Yes, I like Tuyayak.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
So you say what is it now?
So have to say something.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
No, if you do nothing wrong, I say nothing wrong.
But I say that I see 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
So everything, as we said before, is my problem.
Okay, that's good to know.
Can I move on to the next tip Ihave?
Speaker 2 (10:15):
What.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
I think this tip you are not going to like.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
What.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
Don't fight when you drunk.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Don't fight.
No one needs to fight, no onewants to fight me.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
But when you drunk.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Because you need to shut up.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
when I drunk, I always need to shut up.
No.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
When I drunk, you try to talk blah, blah, blah, blah,
blah, blah Headache.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I know headache, but when you drunk, you know,
sometimes you speak bad things.
No More than normally, no, Ispeak very nice.
Okay, in your dream.
Yes, when you sleep you speakvery nice.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
But in reality.
No, I speak bad, I don't speakbad.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
I can give you one million examples.
I don't want to do this, but Ijust say in reality, yes, when
you dream, wow, you're very goodlady, you never speak bad.
But in reality, sometimes, whenyou drunk, you speak not nice.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
No, I never speak bad .
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Also, you talk my head many times.
I don't like.
So, Soon my head will be flatbecause you top, top, top top.
So now I have head like this.
It's not good.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Why you don't move.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Why you do.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Do you know when I sleep?
Speaker 1 (11:29):
So don't, sleep.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
I cannot control.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
You need to control.
This is very important.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
You can see my face Eat by angry, so move, go away.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
So every time I see you angry, I have to go away?
Yes, and I see you just onetime every year, just in your
birthday.
You're not angry.
Yes, it's good idea.
I think I think we find goodidea.
Yes, and do you have any othertip Maybe you want to give to
the listeners?
Speaker 2 (11:59):
No.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
You wrote many things here.
Actually, some of them verygood.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
No, not today.
Today I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Why you tired.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Today I'm very tired.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
What happened?
Speaker 2 (12:10):
I lost my job.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
You lost your job.
Sorry, but today the weather isnot very good for walk right
Because it has a lot of wind.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
No, no, no, Very, very, very busy.
Even this, yes, also, this isnot here.
This is not here.
You need to do everything tocut this, this, this.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
And I want to know in your restaurant, let's say, you
have rain or I don't have thisone.
Okay, let me rephrase that Inthe restaurant that you walk at,
let's say, you have very rainyday, a lot of rain and wind,
empty, right.
So no.
What do you mean?
People still come to therestaurant.
Yes, why?
Speaker 2 (12:53):
How can I know?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Why they not stay home?
Speaker 2 (12:57):
I don't know, I also have a job.
Maybe they don't have food.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Maybe, and the only place they can find is the most
expensive Thai restaurant in mycountry.
Right, this is the best way tobuy food when you don't have
food.
So, as I said before, I thinkyou wrote some very good tips.
I think the person that wrotethis tip is very smart.
Let me just say that.
So I will read some of yourother tips and we can talk about
(13:28):
this.
Okay, you wrote even when youhave fights, you have to respect
each other, right?
This is very interesting,because even when you don't have
fights, you don't respect.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I don't respect.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
When you respect.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I always respect you when, many times, every day.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
What means respect for you?
I want to know Differentdefinition for the word respect.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
I tell you to do something.
You do this I respect.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
And if you tell me something I don't do, so let's
say I want to do something, whatyou want to do something you
can do.
But you don't want, I do.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
What I don't want you to do.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Oh, Sonari, today I go play a game with my friends
16 hours 16 hours.
Yes, no, I want to come home.
No, sweet today he come myhouse Can play 16 hours.
No, why you not respect me?
Speaker 2 (14:37):
16 hours.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
This normal.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Ten beer every day is normal.
Yes, no.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Sure.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Okay so, but in the middle of fight it's much more
important to respect right.
Let's say not speak bad about Inever do and you never do.
But I just give example whenyou stay with Thai lady, never
speak about her family.
It's not good.
Don't speak bad about them.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
When I don't speak about family, your family, also
my family.
So no, not not good to talkabout.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
I know, but some people, especially in my
language, when angry, many ofthe bad words are about mama or
papa right, and I think it'svery bad because this make a
person think someone not onlynot respect them, not respect
their family also because you'relike this, even very smart you
(15:40):
know some words in my language,some bad words.
Can you say to give to notowards.
I don't like to see this.
Why this bed?
Maybe in the next episode wetalk about languages.
So we have another tips thatyou wrote you out.
(16:01):
This is, I think, the mostimportant one, don't you?
You wrote this.
Don't say something just forhurt me.
I like you what is is I like tohurt you why?
Speaker 2 (16:18):
if, if I, not her, do you never stop?
But because you try to make mespeak bad and hurt you, this
from your stuff, because this ismy fault.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
We speak before.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Everything is my fault when I speak nice to you,
I speak no.
You never listen.
When I start scream, I speakbad.
Is you listen?
Speaker 1 (16:40):
so you say the opposite, that it's bad, good to
think, to speak, bad just tohurt someone.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
Not good, but just now we talk about just you and
me.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
We talk about not only you and me, because we talk
about also.
I want people that listen to usnow.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
It's not good for her someone, but for you.
I want to.
I don't want to hurt you, butyou made me hurt you.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
I remember one time we have big fight and I speak
very bad to you.
I say some bad words not onetime no, no, no, no, no.
I speak very bad words.
You know, and it was.
I remember immediately, you,you were fucking angry and you
start crying.
Remember that my many time butI think this is the reason that
(17:28):
you are, that that better notsay those things when angry.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
I tell you many time when I angry, stop, go away so
this is your best tip just goaway when angry yes separate
different room no same room.
But don't start to talk blah,blah, blah, blah, blah.
When I come now I talk.
You know, you know before, yes,you don't know, but now you
(17:54):
know when you see my face.
So she ain't bitch, don't wantto talk.
Okay, you go.
You can go see play game.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
You go somewhere to you but don't you think that
maybe sometime you not come down, maybe sometime take for you
maybe one week to come down?
Speaker 2 (18:15):
I just not see you one, I come down why you love me
so much no, I don't know.
Here also, I don't want to seeyour face but after one hour yes
, maybe.
I think she loved me sometimeof course I love you if you're
not love your wife stay with youbecause I'm very rich and
(18:37):
handsome.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
So I will give my next tips and I think soon we
finish this episode.
Oh, this, this, we not followthis.
But I think this good tip forother people even when have
fucking big fight, try in thenight to sleep in the same bed.
Don't say, okay, we have bigfight, now I sleep on the floor
(19:05):
and she sleep on bed, or I sleepon couch and she sleep on bed.
Try to sleep together in samebed.
For what?
Because no, not what you thinkyou have dirty mind.
I not mean about this.
I Mean also good idea, but thiswe talk like next episode.
I mean something else.
(19:30):
When here fight, you sleep infloor better, I when you sleep
so can I give you reason why Ithink it's better we stay saying
that?
Because sometimes nighttime weforget about fighting.
Then just hug little bit orJust do this or even touch
little bit and this makeeveryone come down.
No, let me.
Yes, you also now.
You totally, because peoplelisten to us.
(19:51):
But in the real, the real, thereal soon, a re fucking love
when people hug her and Touchand say something nice.
No so why, when we have fightand we sleep same bed, you come
hug me forget.
Exactly this way say sometimewe forget.
So you, you.
(20:13):
You just say that I'm right,you forget, that you angry.
Then you come back, you hug meand then oh, but then you
already still hug, so you're notlet go, right.
This true, this happened manytime because I forget mine and
this is my last tip.
(20:33):
I think this tip I learnedbecause of sunari, because First
I try to do something else it'snot work, and then I see this
very good idea.
So this tip is if you can doit's not always, not everyone
have this possibility but gofight somewhere else, don't stay
home, go.
(20:53):
You can go some forest or thebeach or something like this
change the environment.
You remember one time we havevery big fight and then I take
you near to the beach and we seeit and we talk, even still
angry each other.
But when go out from house, goout from room, I think the
feeling is changing.
(21:14):
You know, yes, I know noteveryone can do that, but I
think and of course, don't gowhere have people, try to find
somewhere you can be alone.
But I know for you it's veryimportant sometimes to how you
say I want some air.
Sometimes I think we feel alittle bit stuck in our routine
(21:35):
of Walk home, walk home, walkhome, walk home, walk home and
sometimes need to change that.
Right, and you don't like to goto restaurant or movies.
This is your style, this isokay.
Yeah, so I think for you isvery good just to go, maybe even
drive car.
Also, this if this option foryou, for you Just take your wife
(21:57):
in the car, drive somewhere,can talk in the way you know if
you smoke cigarette, smokecigarette Whatever you want to
do, but change the air, changethe environment.
I think it helped us many times, right, but I don't know.
Yesterday you not want to dothat.
I want, but you don't want younot talking about let's go
(22:18):
somewhere yesterday.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
You know me when I'm angry.
I want to go out.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
No, you want something else, but I yesterday
too angry, I cannot give you.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
What cannot keep.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
I cannot say this on microphone.
This is very bad.
What are you crazy?
Why?
Who you talked?
I just say that sometimes this,but you need for calm down.
No, everyone need this sometimefor calm down.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
No, no, my this not nice to say this.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
People want to listen .
No, I'm not allowed to say this.
Okay, I want to know.
From now we change the subjectbecause soon, very soon, we
finish this episode.
We do this already, for this isour fourth time we do this
episode, this podcast.
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I want to know you think it ithelped us as a couple?
What she just shaking her head?
You have microphone in front ofyou.
You have to say yes, no.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
I really don't know.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
I know you don't really think it's good idea to
do this podcast, but I want tothank you, for you try to help
me do this and I know manythings.
It's take a lot of power fromyou, so this is a good
opportunity for me to tell youthat I really appreciate that
(23:50):
and I thank you for that and Ilove you very much.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
I hate you very much, I know.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
But I love you and for our listeners, I want you to
try to reach out to us.
You can find us everywhere onall the social medias and also
you can send us emails by justsend emails to mytaiwifepod at
(24:17):
gmailcom.
As I said again, mytaiwifepodat gmailcom.
If you have some questions oranything you want to discuss or
you need, you want us to do anepisode on a specific subject or
something like this, please,please, reach out for us.
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We will do our best to answeryou as quickly as we can and we
will try to follow your advicesor whatever you give us, and we
want to thank you for youlistening to us.
It's a journey that we are gladto do with you guys and I think
it's it can become somethingreally, really nice and good for
(25:00):
the community of Farang andThai couples.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
What do you mean?
Speaker 1 (25:07):
Farang.
Farang, I'm Thai, or I need toask you what do you mean, farang
?
Speaker 2 (25:11):
No, maybe someone don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
Farang means foreigner, someone that is not
Thai, just that.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
But you're not Thai, you're Thuy.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
What You're you?
What do you mean you, you, whatdo you mean you?
Four people not speak.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
I don't know Thai, call you.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
What do you mean?
Can you explain you people?
You people, you mean Jewishpeople, right, you mean Jewish,
but Jewish people come fromEurope, jewish people come from
Arab countries.
Jewish people come from Russia,from everywhere.
So are they Russians or Farangor Jewish?
(25:53):
Even Jewish come from Africa.
You, it's not important, okay?
And Jewish people are okay,okay, you think Some?
No, I mean, before you meetJewish people, what they talk
about.
Jewish people in Thailand.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
I never meet.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Before you meet in school.
When they teach you aboutJewish people, they teach you
something.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Nothing.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Nothing.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
I never even heard.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
Oh for sure they teach something, no war.
No, not about war.
I want to know, like, what Thaipeople think about Muslim
people and about people fromIndia, or about Chinese people.
So I want to know what theythink about Jewish people also.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
You know I just checked that yesterday.
You know that 50% of ourlisteners are from Israel.
Many people from Israel listento us.
Can you say shalom to them?
Speaker 2 (27:01):
Shalom.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
Manishma.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
I call Bezedah.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
She can speak a little bit Hebrew, anyway, guys.
So, as I said before, reach outto us.
We will be thrilled to get someemails from you guys, and thank
you for listening.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
And see you next week .
Bye, bye.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
Bye, bye.
Hello everyone and welcome to the fourth episode of
my Thai wife.
I am Mike and this is my lovelywife, sonarie, and also we want
to say sorry for our listenersabout uploading this episode
late.
The reason is that we had anargument yesterday like a fight
(00:22):
Not big fight, but a fight andit's not the first time that it
happened.
We stayed together for aboutfive or six years already and we
had a lot of fight.
So this means we have a lot offighting experience and after
our fight yesterday we thoughtabout maybe sharing our advice
(00:43):
how to fix fight Right.
So we wrote some things downand would you like to start,
sonarie?
Can you give the first adviceyou have?
Speaker 2 (00:55):
When have fight need to come down and don't talk when
hot.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
What do you mean?
Not talk when hot?
Speaker 2 (01:06):
No one listen.
I know you listen when hot.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
No, what do you mean?
Hot, I not understand.
I'm fucking angry.
You mean in the middle of thefight, when someone fucking
angry?
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Need first to come down before fix.
Yes, cannot fix when hot, whenangry.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
For me.
No, I don't want to fit whenhot I need to.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
I understand how long you think normally you need for
calm down or I need to calmdown.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
Up to fight.
Yes, let's say I, you find outI lie something to you, not
something big, and then youangry.
You think now maybe one weekyou not talk with me, or
normally after.
Maybe one day we can start totalk about this, maybe one day,
if not big.
No, no, not big.
If big, I kick you out.
Don't worry, I buy ticket.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I'm not care.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
I know you happy if I buy ticket.
I think you dream about thisday many times, maybe today this
fight.
He say okay, finish then.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
I don't even have science in it.
It's not mine.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
You know this, my tip also.
I have one tip there that Iwrote.
So, in the middle of a bigfight, we sometimes say stuff we
don't want to say or sometimeswe feel very full you know what
I mean full about.
You keep your feelings longtime, long time, long time, and
then you say bomb, you explode,we talk about this last episode
(02:32):
and sometimes, when this happen,maybe I say something very bad
or maybe you say something verybad.
Sometimes we talk about okay,so we not stay together, we
separate, right.
Okay, you do what you want, Ido what I want, and we not do
this relationship anymore.
And I think it's very good fora very bad for fight to say that
(02:54):
, because when this happen, thismake us angry more and hurt
more, right.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
So stop make me angry .
Speaker 1 (03:04):
You're right.
Everything is my fault.
Everyone that listen in theworld, please know it's Mike's
fault.
Always when something happenbad in your life, this is Mike's
fault.
Yes, if some you go down thestreet and you step on shit,
this is my fault.
Yes.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Probably my shit.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yes, I shit everywhere.
Yes, so everything in the worldis my fault.
You not have fault in this.
No, never, ever.
So you know what?
I have a special extra tip foryou.
Sometimes people need to takefault, even if they think they
fucking right.
Sometimes you have to acceptyou not do 100% good.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
I do 1 million percent, not 100%.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You sure Everything?
Yes, you want I give example?
No, why not?
Up to me.
So my tip, as I said, is, whenyou have fight, please don't
tell your partner.
Okay, I want to finish with you.
I don't want to stay with youanymore.
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No one said you sure before Isee, but, nice, stop.
But I mean, you know, in thebeginning of the relationship it
was much easier to say that,right, you talk about you with
me or some other first, I talkabout you and me.
But I think this can apply,this can help for other people
that listen to us, right, and Ithink in the beginning of our
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relationship correct me if I'mwrong it was much easier to say,
okay, we finish, we finish, wefinish, we finish every time we
have fight.
Okay, finish.
I even bought ticket one or twotimes for you, you remember.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
One time.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
One time and have another time.
I think very hard when you tryto kill me.
You remember.
You try to kill me one time.
Wait, I remember.
I never forget this place, oh.
I gave you how you play.
This is not good.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
I play.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Also another extra tip I can give when have fight
with your Thai wife some Thaiwives are crazy Stay away from
sharp objects.
If have knife, have glassbottle, have something.
Go away from this.
It can be very dangerous foryou.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Not even like this man.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
I don't say everyone, but I say my Thai wife is
fucking crazy sometimes.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Stop making me angry.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
How can I stop making you angry if you are angry
about pussy of mosquito?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Let me do whatever I want.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
What do you want to do?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Everything.
Don't say no one is not good.
Actually, let me do whatever Iwant.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
I want to know I do only bad things to you or
sometimes I do good things also.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Good thing, I'm not proud.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Why not?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
That's how this bad thing After me.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You don't think it's good idea to count everything.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
No, I'm okay.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
I don't believe you.
Now you are angry aboutyesterday, but I don't believe
you.
I know deep inside you are verysweet and lovely lady.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I'm not lovely lady.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Satan.
You're not Satan.
Don't say that.
And do you have maybe anothertip you want to let our
listeners hear?
Speaker 2 (06:26):
When inside try to remember why you love each other
.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Okay.
So that's very easy tounderstand, right?
When, in a middle of fight,even if you just remember the
bad thing that Sunari do to meshe do many bad things then I
think why she, sunari, do bad,why she do this, why she do this
?
But I also have to remember whyI love Sunari, why I choose to
stay with her, because it's mucheasier to see the bad things
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when you are inside the fight.
Right, what about what?
Can you give an example?
Thing, let's say we have fight,and then you think just I make
you angry, I'm not.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
For me when I don't know this man's side, when I
have fight.
I don't want to see you.
I don't want to talk with you.
I want to see you.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
But I mean about think about the good things also
.
I mean this Good thing.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I don't care, man, but I don't want to see even you
face, even you.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
We have this tip there.
Can you find it?
I think it's in my tips.
Have one tip, give me, I showyou.
One of the tips that we wroteis sometime less talk is better
than long talk.
I understand.
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Sometime, let's say, we havesome fight, I can come and I can
talk with you 2-3 hours.
That make you even angry, moreso.
This way I say sometimes I justsay, sunari, I angry because
you do this, and walk away andlet you understand why I'm angry
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.
For me, I think better I dolike this, and then I go party
with someone.
You stay home alone, you said,and then you think I miss my
husband, where is my husband?
I'm so sorry.
I do this to him, him verylovely husband.
You have to clean this.
After you throw up on the flooryou have to clean.
(08:34):
But, as we say this in yourtips also, sometime fight can go
away.
If we not talk about fight, noteverything that we angry have
to talk about.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Even though never go.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Really, if something small like, let's say, I forget
to open the window in themorning, just say, and this make
you angry?
Sometime you can just say mightyou forget?
Do this, then stop talk aboutthis Inside.
I can understand why thisimportant for her.
Maybe even I don't think thisimportant.
(09:13):
She want I do this, I have todo this.
So this why I mean sometime nothave to talk about everything
and just have to say what youdon't like.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
But I don't like to say it Because I think she's a
liar, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
number one, everyone knows this not good, not good
Thing.
Yes, but you know you likenumber one Tuyayak right.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Because you do everything not good.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Even if I do everything good, you try to find
the reason.
Tuyayak, of course, becausethis is fun for you.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Yes, I like Tuyayak.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
So you say what is it now?
So have to say something.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
No, if you do nothing wrong, I say nothing wrong.
But I say that I see 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
So everything, as we said before, is my problem.
Okay, that's good to know.
Can I move on to the next tip Ihave?
Speaker 2 (10:15):
What.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
I think this tip you are not going to like.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
What.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
Don't fight when you drunk.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Don't fight.
No one needs to fight, no onewants to fight me.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
But when you drunk.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Because you need to shut up.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
when I drunk, I always need to shut up.
No.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
When I drunk, you try to talk blah, blah, blah, blah,
blah, blah Headache.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I know headache, but when you drunk, you know,
sometimes you speak bad things.
No More than normally, no, Ispeak very nice.
Okay, in your dream.
Yes, when you sleep you speakvery nice.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
But in reality.
No, I speak bad, I don't speakbad.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
I can give you one million examples.
I don't want to do this, but Ijust say in reality, yes, when
you dream, wow, you're very goodlady, you never speak bad.
But in reality, sometimes, whenyou drunk, you speak not nice.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
No, I never speak bad .
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Also, you talk my head many times.
I don't like.
So, Soon my head will be flatbecause you top, top, top top.
So now I have head like this.
It's not good.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Why you don't move.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Why you do.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Do you know when I sleep?
Speaker 1 (11:29):
So don't, sleep.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
I cannot control.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
You need to control.
This is very important.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
You can see my face Eat by angry, so move, go away.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
So every time I see you angry, I have to go away?
Yes, and I see you just onetime every year, just in your
birthday.
You're not angry.
Yes, it's good idea.
I think I think we find goodidea.
Yes, and do you have any othertip Maybe you want to give to
the listeners?
Speaker 2 (11:59):
No.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
You wrote many things here.
Actually, some of them verygood.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
No, not today.
Today I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Why you tired.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Today I'm very tired.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
What happened?
Speaker 2 (12:10):
I lost my job.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
You lost your job.
Sorry, but today the weather isnot very good for walk right
Because it has a lot of wind.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
No, no, no, Very, very, very busy.
Even this, yes, also, this isnot here.
This is not here.
You need to do everything tocut this, this, this.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
And I want to know in your restaurant, let's say, you
have rain or I don't have thisone.
Okay, let me rephrase that Inthe restaurant that you walk at,
let's say, you have very rainyday, a lot of rain and wind,
empty, right.
So no.
What do you mean?
People still come to therestaurant.
Yes, why?
Speaker 2 (12:53):
How can I know?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Why they not stay home?
Speaker 2 (12:57):
I don't know, I also have a job.
Maybe they don't have food.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Maybe, and the only place they can find is the most
expensive Thai restaurant in mycountry.
Right, this is the best way tobuy food when you don't have
food.
So, as I said before, I thinkyou wrote some very good tips.
I think the person that wrotethis tip is very smart.
Let me just say that.
So I will read some of yourother tips and we can talk about
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this.
Okay, you wrote even when youhave fights, you have to respect
each other, right?
This is very interesting,because even when you don't have
fights, you don't respect.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I don't respect.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
When you respect.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I always respect you when, many times, every day.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
What means respect for you?
I want to know Differentdefinition for the word respect.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
I tell you to do something.
You do this I respect.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
And if you tell me something I don't do, so let's
say I want to do something, whatyou want to do something you
can do.
But you don't want, I do.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
What I don't want you to do.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Oh, Sonari, today I go play a game with my friends
16 hours 16 hours.
Yes, no, I want to come home.
No, sweet today he come myhouse Can play 16 hours.
No, why you not respect me?
Speaker 2 (14:37):
16 hours.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
This normal.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Ten beer every day is normal.
Yes, no.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Sure.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Okay so, but in the middle of fight it's much more
important to respect right.
Let's say not speak bad about Inever do and you never do.
But I just give example whenyou stay with Thai lady, never
speak about her family.
It's not good.
Don't speak bad about them.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
When I don't speak about family, your family, also
my family.
So no, not not good to talkabout.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
I know, but some people, especially in my
language, when angry, many ofthe bad words are about mama or
papa right, and I think it'svery bad because this make a
person think someone not onlynot respect them, not respect
their family also because you'relike this, even very smart you
(15:40):
know some words in my language,some bad words.
Can you say to give to notowards.
I don't like to see this.
Why this bed?
Maybe in the next episode wetalk about languages.
So we have another tips thatyou wrote you out.
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This is, I think, the mostimportant one, don't you?
You wrote this.
Don't say something just forhurt me.
I like you what is is I like tohurt you why?
Speaker 2 (16:18):
if, if I, not her, do you never stop?
But because you try to make mespeak bad and hurt you, this
from your stuff, because this ismy fault.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
We speak before.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Everything is my fault when I speak nice to you,
I speak no.
You never listen.
When I start scream, I speakbad.
Is you listen?
Speaker 1 (16:40):
so you say the opposite, that it's bad, good to
think, to speak, bad just tohurt someone.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
Not good, but just now we talk about just you and
me.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
We talk about not only you and me, because we talk
about also.
I want people that listen to usnow.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
It's not good for her someone, but for you.
I want to.
I don't want to hurt you, butyou made me hurt you.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
I remember one time we have big fight and I speak
very bad to you.
I say some bad words not onetime no, no, no, no, no.
I speak very bad words.
You know, and it was.
I remember immediately, you,you were fucking angry and you
start crying.
Remember that my many time butI think this is the reason that
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you are, that that better notsay those things when angry.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
I tell you many time when I angry, stop, go away so
this is your best tip just goaway when angry yes separate
different room no same room.
But don't start to talk blah,blah, blah, blah, blah.
When I come now I talk.
You know, you know before, yes,you don't know, but now you
(17:54):
know when you see my face.
So she ain't bitch, don't wantto talk.
Okay, you go.
You can go see play game.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
You go somewhere to you but don't you think that
maybe sometime you not come down, maybe sometime take for you
maybe one week to come down?
Speaker 2 (18:15):
I just not see you one, I come down why you love me
so much no, I don't know.
Here also, I don't want to seeyour face but after one hour yes
, maybe.
I think she loved me sometimeof course I love you if you're
not love your wife stay with youbecause I'm very rich and
(18:37):
handsome.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
So I will give my next tips and I think soon we
finish this episode.
Oh, this, this, we not followthis.
But I think this good tip forother people even when have
fucking big fight, try in thenight to sleep in the same bed.
Don't say, okay, we have bigfight, now I sleep on the floor
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and she sleep on bed, or I sleepon couch and she sleep on bed.
Try to sleep together in samebed.
For what?
Because no, not what you thinkyou have dirty mind.
I not mean about this.
I Mean also good idea, but thiswe talk like next episode.
I mean something else.
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When here fight, you sleep infloor better, I when you sleep
so can I give you reason why Ithink it's better we stay saying
that?
Because sometimes nighttime weforget about fighting.
Then just hug little bit orJust do this or even touch
little bit and this makeeveryone come down.
No, let me.
Yes, you also now.
You totally, because peoplelisten to us.
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But in the real, the real, thereal soon, a re fucking love
when people hug her and Touchand say something nice.
No so why, when we have fightand we sleep same bed, you come
hug me forget.
Exactly this way say sometimewe forget.
So you, you.
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You just say that I'm right,you forget, that you angry.
Then you come back, you hug meand then oh, but then you
already still hug, so you're notlet go, right.
This true, this happened manytime because I forget mine and
this is my last tip.
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I think this tip I learnedbecause of sunari, because First
I try to do something else it'snot work, and then I see this
very good idea.
So this tip is if you can doit's not always, not everyone
have this possibility but gofight somewhere else, don't stay
home, go.
(20:53):
You can go some forest or thebeach or something like this
change the environment.
You remember one time we havevery big fight and then I take
you near to the beach and we seeit and we talk, even still
angry each other.
But when go out from house, goout from room, I think the
feeling is changing.
(21:14):
You know, yes, I know noteveryone can do that, but I
think and of course, don't gowhere have people, try to find
somewhere you can be alone.
But I know for you it's veryimportant sometimes to how you
say I want some air.
Sometimes I think we feel alittle bit stuck in our routine
(21:35):
of Walk home, walk home, walkhome, walk home, walk home and
sometimes need to change that.
Right, and you don't like to goto restaurant or movies.
This is your style, this isokay.
Yeah, so I think for you isvery good just to go, maybe even
drive car.
Also, this if this option foryou, for you Just take your wife
(21:57):
in the car, drive somewhere,can talk in the way you know if
you smoke cigarette, smokecigarette Whatever you want to
do, but change the air, changethe environment.
I think it helped us many times, right, but I don't know.
Yesterday you not want to dothat.
I want, but you don't want younot talking about let's go
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somewhere yesterday.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
You know me when I'm angry.
I want to go out.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
No, you want something else, but I yesterday
too angry, I cannot give you.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
What cannot keep.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
I cannot say this on microphone.
This is very bad.
What are you crazy?
Why?
Who you talked?
I just say that sometimes this,but you need for calm down.
No, everyone need this sometimefor calm down.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
No, no, my this not nice to say this.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
People want to listen .
No, I'm not allowed to say this.
Okay, I want to know.
From now we change the subjectbecause soon, very soon, we
finish this episode.
We do this already, for this isour fourth time we do this
episode, this podcast.
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I want to know you think it ithelped us as a couple?
What she just shaking her head?
You have microphone in front ofyou.
You have to say yes, no.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
I really don't know.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
I know you don't really think it's good idea to
do this podcast, but I want tothank you, for you try to help
me do this and I know manythings.
It's take a lot of power fromyou, so this is a good
opportunity for me to tell youthat I really appreciate that
(23:50):
and I thank you for that and Ilove you very much.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
I hate you very much, I know.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
But I love you and for our listeners, I want you to
try to reach out to us.
You can find us everywhere onall the social medias and also
you can send us emails by justsend emails to mytaiwifepod at
(24:17):
gmailcom.
As I said again, mytaiwifepodat gmailcom.
If you have some questions oranything you want to discuss or
you need, you want us to do anepisode on a specific subject or
something like this, please,please, reach out for us.
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We will do our best to answeryou as quickly as we can and we
will try to follow your advicesor whatever you give us, and we
want to thank you for youlistening to us.
It's a journey that we are gladto do with you guys and I think
it's it can become somethingreally, really nice and good for
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the community of Farang andThai couples.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
What do you mean?
Speaker 1 (25:07):
Farang.
Farang, I'm Thai, or I need toask you what do you mean, farang
?
Speaker 2 (25:11):
No, maybe someone don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
Farang means foreigner, someone that is not
Thai, just that.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
But you're not Thai, you're Thuy.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
What You're you?
What do you mean you, you, whatdo you mean you?
Four people not speak.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
I don't know Thai, call you.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
What do you mean?
Can you explain you people?
You people, you mean Jewishpeople, right, you mean Jewish,
but Jewish people come fromEurope, jewish people come from
Arab countries.
Jewish people come from Russia,from everywhere.
So are they Russians or Farangor Jewish?
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Even Jewish come from Africa.
You, it's not important, okay?
And Jewish people are okay,okay, you think Some?
No, I mean, before you meetJewish people, what they talk
about.
Jewish people in Thailand.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
I never meet.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Before you meet in school.
When they teach you aboutJewish people, they teach you
something.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Nothing.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Nothing.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
I never even heard.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
Oh for sure they teach something, no war.
No, not about war.
I want to know, like, what Thaipeople think about Muslim
people and about people fromIndia, or about Chinese people.
So I want to know what theythink about Jewish people also.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
You know I just checked that yesterday.
You know that 50% of ourlisteners are from Israel.
Many people from Israel listento us.
Can you say shalom to them?
Speaker 2 (27:01):
Shalom.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
Manishma.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
I call Bezedah.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
She can speak a little bit Hebrew, anyway, guys.
So, as I said before, reach outto us.
We will be thrilled to get someemails from you guys, and thank
you for listening.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
And see you next week .
Bye, bye.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
Bye, bye.
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