January 1, 2024 • 44 mins
Sick of feeling shackled by the annual promise to overhaul your life every January 1st? So am I. Welcome to a refreshing take on why New Year's resolutions might be setting you up for failure instead of success. This episode isn't your typical pep talk—it's a candid discussion that questions the tradition of resolutions and offers an alternative outlook on personal growth. As I recount my own health journey that kicked off in October, not January, I share how breaking free from the calendar can lead to more meaningful and sustainable self-improvement. Get ready to challenge the status quo and find empowerment in crafting goals that genuinely fit your life.
Ever felt like the weight of a tradition is crushing you, rather than lifting you up? We've all been there, nodding along as we commit to lofty goals, only to feel the sting of abandoned resolutions. This episode explores the hidden burdens of self-imposed obligations and the societal pressures that come with announcing our intentions to the world. With humor and a touch of tough love, we dissect how a lack of clear planning can leave us in the dark—literally, if we forget to pay that light bill. Tune in for an episode that promises not just laughter, but also liberating insights into making choices that add joy and fulfillment to our lives without the extra stress.
What was discussed:
00:01 No Resolutions
04:39 Traditions Are Not For Me
16:41 The Burden of Resolutions
17:24 Unrealistic
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
What's going on everyone?
Welcome to 2024 and welcomeback to Mz O In The Mix.
Join us today for a topic of noResolutions for me.
Get your pen and pad ready.
You have some homework to do.
If this is your first timetuning in, I welcome you with
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open arms to a not so judgmentalzone.
Just a little tough love.
You be I.
If you're driving, keep bothhands on the wheel and eyes on
the road, even while laughing.
If there are small childrenaround, wear earbuds, because I
cuss Shit.
We never know when it's goingto happen.
(00:42):
Just like then.
I wasn't playing, it's just howit is.
Hey, don't forget to listen tothis episode again.
You may have missed somethingbecause you just kept laughing
and if you're returning, welcomeback.
Oh, how I missed you.
You just don't understand.
It's been a minute and I'mgrateful to be back.
(01:04):
If you follow me on social media, you see that there is a post
that says this is the year ofmind your business and partial
plans, we at Mizzone and makesour continuing our healthy
journey this year, focusing onour mental, physical and
spiritual side.
No politics here.
So if you're new, understand wedon't do politics.
(01:26):
You can talk about thatsomewhere else.
You can hear about thatsomewhere else.
So don't ask, I get ahead Justthinking about it.
It overwhelms me.
You wouldn't understand.
You may understand.
Hell, let's look at it that way.
You may understand, because youalways get someone who's very
difficult when it comes topolitics and it's just a lot of
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headbutting and I don't havetime for that.
So here we go with what ourstrengths are and we rock with
that.
If you have a topic you'd likeus to consider, email Mizz, oh,
in the mix at gmailcom and tokeep us on the air, hey guys,
don't forget this.
Three ways to show some love.
But that's the laundry list.
Can we get into the topic now?
(02:10):
All right, no resolutions forme.
So no resolutions for me is atopic that I figured would be a
good discussion, of course,because it is the first week of
the new year and it's alwayssome drama going on and people.
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It seems like at the end of theyear, people get into this big
rush of oh, oh, something'scoming up.
I need to prepare for mywedding, I need to prepare for a
wedding, I need to prepare forvacation.
Oh, my birthday is coming up,and I'm saying this because I
even said this.
I'm like, oh, by my birthday Iwant to be a certain weight.
This year.
I want to.
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You know, I had health issuesfor those who listened to me
before I had health issues, butI am doing so much better.
It's just.
It's been really beautiful, abeautiful journey, even though
I've been away from you all.
But I started finding myselffeeling like I was creating some
type of resolution when Iwasn't, because I started this
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back in October, this new partof a health journey, and I'm
just like, oh no, I'm not gonnasit up here and get no damn new
year's resolution and get myselfall twisted up trying to make
this come true, but I'm stillgoing to do what I need to do.
So I don't believe in resolution, not for me, not for me, but
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what you do.
Maybe you won't after we talkabout this, but to me, with
resolutions there are.
There are good things and thereare bad things, and as humans
into D society, I feel thatthere are so many pressures and
there wasn't many pressures backin a day, but now it just seems
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like it's a lot going on, a lotmore than there was back in the
day, because we have events somuch as us, as a human race.
We've come far, so we've addedmore pressure on us, and so who
the hell needs a resolution?
No offense, I understand somepeople are for them.
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Me, you know what I'm learning.
Not so much I pick and choosewhat I want as far as traditions
put a spin on it, wrap it up ina pretty bow and do it my way.
And then I tell my kids dowhatever the hell you want,
because traditions to me are forthe people who are gone, like
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I'm.
You know, I understand youculturally.
You might want to do somethingcool, I don't care, but I'm just
.
I'm just not for what traditionstands for today, and to me
it's like we're not evenremembering those who came
before us in our families orthose that you know introduced
those traditions to us.
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I just feel like everything issuch a gimmick and is stressful
and is putting you in a placewhere you don't really want to
be, and some people don't evenwant to say it because they feel
bad.
They feel like, if I tell youknow, my mother or my father or
my aunt, uncle or whomever havebeen doing this for years and
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for generations, that I don'twant to do it, but you feel so
much pressure and you feel likea bad person for not doing it.
Man, listen, I say fuck that.
If you don't want to do it,don't do it.
Life is too short.
I'm not here to live for mymother.
I'm not here to live with mybrother.
I'm not here to live with mygrandparents.
You know, I can tell my kidsabout the traditional things
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that used to happen.
And if my kids were like, well,mommy, we want to do that too,
hell, we'll try it for a year.
But I don't expect me to bedoing this every single year,
all the time.
You know I'm not.
I'm not giving my kids adisadvantage, I'm just not
giving them any bullshit,because they tie it and I'm
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tired too.
And then, if I'm around heretrying to follow up with
traditions, oh, come on, theball's dropping for us here, the
ball's dropping apple, whateveryou want to call it, is
dropping.
Let's stay up to one o'clock inthe morning talking with people
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we don't want to talk to, youknow, because you can't really
leave once 12 o'clock comes andyou go happy new year.
And you don't ate everybody upall the food, and then you ready
to leave because you don't sayhappy new year.
You packed your go-containerwhen you first got here, so it's
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like you don't want to leave.
So now you got to stay there atone o'clock and don't live 30,
45 minutes away.
Then you got to get on a rolland hopefully miss all the drunk
drivers Like these traditions.
They too much for me.
I'm tired, and that reason Ifeel like I don't deal with
traditions which causes me notto even embark on the resolution
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thing anymore is because myparents said screw your
tradition.
A while ago.
They don't even realize theydid it, but when I had my son I
remember them saying oh, you gotanother family now you can go
have you know, you can go overthere and have your turkey and
whatever for this holiday, youknow, and they did another
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holiday so I had to go thereLike it was just too much.
I'm trying to run from yourhouse to your house, to your
house to eat some dry ass turkeyor to to schmooze with some
people, but I don't like a good87% of the people that are in
the room.
But I want to show you love.
I can show you love throughoutthe rest of the year.
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I can do that throughout therest of the year.
And my rant for the lastprobably five minutes about
tradition is bringing me to thatresolution.
I don't have to make a newyear's resolution.
I could just start whenever thehell I want and do it whenever
I want.
But if I'm going to make aso-called resolution, understand
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that's instantaneous.
That hasn't been really thoughtout.
A resolution Not in my opinion.
It's something that you justpulled off.
You know, when you pulled outof a hat like what are you going
to do for yourself this year?
And you know you, you feelforced to tell somebody
something like pull somethingout, like what do you want to do
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?
Or I want to lose weight andI'm going to join the gym in
January.
Don't get me wrong.
Go ahead and join the gym inJanuary, do what you got to do.
You're going to waste most ofthat membership, but it's cool.
It's cool because I don't wantto mess with the personal
trainer and the gym money.
So you go ahead and join thegym.
But just remember, you did iton a resolution and you didn't
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do it on a verge of, like,accomplishing a goal.
So you cannot beat yourself upfor that later.
And that brings me into anotherpart.
When you don't have a plan, planto not achieve.
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When you don't have a plan, youmust plan to not achieve.
I will say it again when you donot have a plan, you must plan
to not achieve.
Planning to this resolutionthing and being spontaneous with
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it.
It is to me, remember, this ismy opinion, people, so your
opinion may differ from mine,and that is a okay.
But since you're not here and Ican't hear you, you can't see
you, we can't go back and forthabout it.
But if you would like to meetme over at MsMZ underscore
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originator on Instagram, we cantalk about it.
So, going back to my, whenthere's no plan, plan not to
achieve is I kind of forgot abit of it because this is not
scripted, y'all.
This is me just spewing like ifwe having a conversation.
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So, if you know, pause for asecond.
If you are new, understand, Ido not script out.
I write a few things out tokind of make sure that I'm
hitting the exact points.
Other than that, it's just alltalk.
I'm a Gemini, so I could talkfor days.
I could talk for hours.
I don't have to have anybodyelse in the room.
It's like 18 people in my headand we have a great conversation
(11:34):
.
So, anyway, going back.
So this plan is important andnot having a plan, understand
you're not going to achieve thegoal and that your resolution is
not a true planned out goal,just like when you create a
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vision board.
I'm over here punching my hand,y'all my hand going to hurt
later, seriously, when you donot have a vision board, or when
you do have a vision board, youdon't have a plan to go with
that vision board.
What are you thinking?
You just put a bunch of prettypictures on a poster board with
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no realistic goals and, well, norealistic plan in place to
achieve that goal.
So there's no realistic plan inplace to achieve that goal.
And when that happening, youtend to fail because you don't
have anything written out ofwhat do you do after you do step
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one, or even when it is stepone, because sometimes we don't
from knowing what it is to step15 and got to come back to step
one and then forgot about stepfive because we went ahead with
the step 23.
No, no, you're not going toachieve the goal that you're
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setting out.
You definitely not going toachieve the resolution, because
you don't even have anythingwritten out.
So understand when you say myresolution for 2024 is to make
sure you put a clause in thatstatement saying I will not hold
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myself accountable for thefailure that will come to be if
I don't plan accordingly.
Now.
We can all plan and plan tofail things like that, but if
you're serious about this newresolution that just populated
in your brain at midnightbecause it was 2024 and everyone
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else going to run away Well,what's your new year's
resolution and what's your newyear's resolution?
Just sit down and shut up.
That's how I feel.
It might be wrong, but I don'tgive a damn, because why don't
you walk away from thisconversation?
You think about what I'mtelling you.
You're going to thinkdifferently about those damn new
year's resolutions and you'regoing to want to take yourself a
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little bit more serious thanthat, and I hope you phone a
friend and send them my podcastso they can kind of like wake up
a little bit and really achievethe goals that they're looking
to achieve and understand thatwe not just you, but I I have
fallen victim to this over andover again and it had this
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periodically throughout the year.
We don't just try to set thesefake resolutions or go.
We should call them goals on awhim.
We don't try to set those justin the beginning of the year,
just that everybody in the worldpretty much is trying to set
those.
If you do that in the beginningof the year, we set fake goals
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for ourselves quite often, or Ishouldn't say fake goals, the
goals on a whim quite often andthey never come to fruition
because we don't take the timeto plan them.
And coming to my second, well,actually I want to say my third
thing, because the first one istradition is not for me.
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You need to check to see iftradition is really for you in
this manner of any tradition andany of the things that you do.
But if you choose not to gowith it understand is not on me.
You need don't be like oh, miss, o say F tradition.
We ain't got to put up no damnChristmas tree.
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We don't got to light a menorah.
We don't like the quasi can't.
Don't play with me, don't comefrom me.
I tell you to do it.
You have got to make yourdecision.
Oh, we're not going to have, inlights of one friend,
thanksgiving, because it's likea massacre holiday, like you
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know.
Don't cover my head Like.
This is what I've heard frompeople.
This is what I'm saying forcertain things, of how I feel.
You know, we're not doingValentine's Day.
We're not doing this.
You should let me every day,which is true, which is so true,
but anyway, I'm just going tokeep going or rinse, but it's
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going to be all right.
So we talked about tradition isnot for me.
That's why it's not for me.
Your homework is to figure outwhy.
What tradition is not for you?
You might say you some money,but anyway, you need to really
think about that.
Or it doesn't have to be aholiday, it just could be a
tradition, something that you've, you know, taken from a parent
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or someone that you look up to,that they've done all the time
that you've taken on to do.
But it's becoming a burden inyour life.
Whether it's the resolution ornot.
The no plan means noachievement.
That was the second one.
No plan means no, noachievement.
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So the third thing I want totell you is resolutions become
very demanding and they festerlike a sore.
You know it's because you'veyou've voiced this thing, you've
given it life, but yet youhaven't done anything with it.
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It's like, um, it's, it's likeknowing how can I say this?
It's like knowing that you have.
Okay, let's be real.
Knowing you got to light, builda day, you have got to pay this
light bill.
You're not going to have anylights and it's there.
It's there.
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You don't acquired it.
You know.
Spoken into existence.
You don't sign for them, forthe lights.
Now you got to pay it.
So it becomes a burden.
And now you wish you would havejust bought a couple more
candles.
See where I'm going with this.
Somebody out there I'm anintuitive reader.
Somebody out there.
Lights is off.
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You better get some candles andstop playing.
They like bill.
People pay the light bill.
Anyway, it becomes, they'vebecome too demanding.
Resolutions become way toodemanding because they're made
on a whim, without any thought.
And now you're trying to figureout how to help lock this into
my life.
I told this person you've notonly told yourself this, you've
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told other people, this oranother individual that this was
a goal of yours.
So understand or not?
Even?
Well, yeah, because we take itas a goal.
So understand.
Every time that person sees you, they want to know how you're
doing with your goal.
How's that new year'sresolution working for you?
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Are you achieving it or not?
You let it go, you know.
So.
They're so demanding that.
We don't.
We don't realize it when we sayit.
It takes over our lives.
It consumes us.
It's like you know it becomes adarkness, it becomes something
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so heavy that we don't want tocarry it anymore.
But we don't know how to let itgo.
But then we get angry at theperson who's asking us about it.
Who really did this care?
They just want to make surethat we're achieving what.
They just calling on us,calling us out on our bullshit.
That's pretty much what some ofus do, but you know.
So this is what I'm saying toyou Be careful what you speak
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into existence, as far as yourresolutions and the goals you
want to achieve, because you'reputting it out and putting that
out, and some of you might notwant to listen to me anymore.
Some of you might hold on tightto me and listen to it, but I'm
very intuitive.
I'm an intuitive reader,fortunate to do that, and I do
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believe in manifestation.
But manifestation doesn't comejust by you thinking about it.
You know it's got to besomething on your mind.
It's got to be something thatyou actually are activating.
So the fact that you have takenthis on and you now it sits in
your subconscious mind, ifyou've got this damn resolution
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you need to achieve, it doesmore harm than good.
So it was nice that you kind ofwant to achieve something.
So that's the problem.
The con is you had no plan forit.
So now it's just sitting therein the back of your mind and it
kind of creeped up on you everytime you encountered that person
, asked you about it.
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Or you have this low moment inlife and when I'm saying low
night is not low depression, low, it's the low moment of things
are just quiet, and you're likeTim, what can I do?
What should I do?
Right now you should do yourdamn resolution, that's what you
should do.
But you'll do something elseand you'll do something else
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another time and you'll be likeoh, I'll get to that later, it's
because it's not that importantto you, but you've said it and
you said it to someone.
So now they want to know howfar you've gotten with it and
become a hot topic of theconversation.
So it becomes so demanding andit becomes like Tim, well, do I
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do this, do I do that?
And then when you don't achieveit, at the end you know it is
all just because you didn't havea plan for it.
You just spit something out.
So be intentional about whatyou say.
So we got a couple of hold up.
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Be intentional about what yousay.
This is a couple of shows andone little conversation.
I just want you all to knowthat.
But be intentional about whatyou say and what plans you put
on yourself, because even whenyou think you just set it and
it's out and it's going, youjust said something to someone
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to get rid of them.
It comes right back around toyou because you put that out in
the elements, whether youbelieve in God or it's just your
universe or creator, or youdon't believe in anybody but
yourself.
Best believe that resolution ishaunting your ass somewhere
down the line.
It's pointing you and it'seating at you and it becomes.
Well, tim, I said I was goingto do that.
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Why did I say I shouldn't havesaid that?
Now what do I do?
Like no, it's too demanding.
So be careful what you say.
If there's something that youreally don't want to, you know,
have a plan for and really thinkyou're going to be able to
achieve, don't say it, don't.
You know?
I'm not saying don't do it, butjust don't say it.
Or be careful what you tellpeople so they become demanding
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like a screaming child in themiddle of the night, hungry.
Think about that.
Anyway, let's move forward.
This is the fourth one.
So this is a serious one, guys,and I feel like we do this to
ourselves quite often.
So I know I do it, I do it on aregular route things and I'm
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trying to change that.
But particularly since we'retalking about resolutions this
is the one I don't do anymore ismost of the time they're
unrealistic.
It's not going to happen in thetimeframe that you think it's
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going to happen.
I'm a person who is trying toget away from it, understand
patients and not get away frompatients back it up Totally.
I am trying to get away frominstant gratification and focus
more on patients and I wouldlike to say it is not an easy
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task but it is a task worthtrying to achieve.
See how I made that statement.
You can make a statement likethat for your resolution.
That's my everyday statementTrying to analyze my patients
and not worry about so much aninstant gratification, because
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it's quality over quantity typethought.
But any who?
Most of the time theseresolutions are unrealistic If
you're trying to trim downreally quick just to get into a
dress, think to yourself is itworth it?
Yeah, you might look sexy in apicture.
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If you're a guy, hey, you canget in a dress too.
Hey, today, anybody can wear adress.
Anyway, if you're a guy, you'retrying to look good and you
jump short.
So, whatever you're trying todo, you know, or you just want
to cut the weight for aparticular Party or event.
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Some of you are professionals.
This is what you do.
Don't listen to this.
Do what the heck you got to do.
I'm trying to walk my UFCfighters and I need you to make
weight.
Okay, anyway, you got to dowhat you got to do, but if this
is just something that you'relooking to do, think about it.
Am I harming my body in any way?
It's, especially if you'retrying to lose the weight.
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So and I'm going to point outladies, because I'm a lady
Ladies, seek out a personaltrainer.
It costs you money, right, itdoes cost you money.
However, you want to becautious.
You want to do it the right way, especially if you want to
maintain it.
So a new personal trainer witha nutrition is recommended.
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I am not a doctor, I am not alawyer, I am not a financial
advisor.
So please understand this isonly coming out of my experience
.
I do not take responsibilityfor any of the decisions that
are made based off of theinformation that I am providing
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on my show.
I need to put that clause atthe end or at the beginning
somewhere.
Anywho, make it realistic,don't make it unrealistic,
because that's what we tend todo, and when things are
unrealistic then we don'tachieve them or, yeah, we don't
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achieve them.
Then we begin to not trustourselves and not trusting
ourselves spills into nottrusting others and just kind of
like it just keeps going andgoing.
So when we make these on thespot type resolutions, we set
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ourselves up for failure becausewe don't have a plan to achieve
them.
And we set ourselves up becausewe're putting forth, usually
some unrealistic type of goalbecause we're going back, we
didn't plan for it, we didn't doour homework on it, and doing
that can make us feel like afailure, which leads us into
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self sabotage.
So you want to be mindful ofthe goals you're putting forth
that you're saying you're tryingto achieve, because to me
they're all goals, no matterwhat resolutions, whatever you
tag on to it.
But you need to make sure thatyou're being intentional through
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every step of it and you'regiving yourself a little bit of
slack when things just don't gothe way they're planned to go.
Giving yourself a little bit ofslack, that's important.
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We don't do it enough.
We beat ourselves up.
We accomplish one goal, we tryto go to another goal, we fail
at this goal and then we forgetabout the goal we just
accomplished because we failedthis one, and then that one
failure becomes our whole world.
Don't do that.
Refrain from doing that toyourself, from beating yourself
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up, because I think that comesout of it.
You know, you push yourselfback even further.
It's like you fall down, pickyourself back up.
You fall down, you pickyourself back up.
I know you heard that over andover again.
You wouldn't know how to walk.
I heard this somewhere.
You wouldn't know how to walk.
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If you gave up.
Every time you fell down, whenyou were an infant and it was
time to stand on those twolittle weak, little gummy legs,
you decided I'm going to walk.
Whether you was walking to adonut or a toy, I don't know
what your parents did orguardians.
However, you walked, you got up, you walked.
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Best believe.
You fell, you got back up andyou walked and you did it again,
but you did it every day.
You did it when people weren'tlooking, you did it when people
weren't looking, but you did itand you kept doing it and you
made sure you got it right soyou could stand on your own two
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feet.
I need you to think the sameway about these resolutions or
these goals that you're tryingto achieve.
I need you to have that samethought process, empower and
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empowerment that you can give toyourself.
When we start walking, we gotpeople clapping yay, yay.
For us when we're babies, whenwe're little, that gives us.
There are cheerleaders becausewe're like, okay, we're doing
something, or either we criedand we realized we're doing
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something.
I need you, out of all thethings that you learned, to be
your biggest cheerleader.
No one else should be a biggercheerleader for you than you are
for yourself.
You don't need anybody, becauseif you're your biggest, I can't
say you don't need anyone.
I will say because if you'reyour biggest cheerleader, then
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everybody else that just comesby as a fan and it's great to
have the fans, but you need tobe your number one cheerleader,
pushing you forward, getting youthrough the muck, getting you
through the bullshit resolutionthat you made this morning, last
night, yesterday, last week,getting you through those
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moments.
So be mindful of what you say.
I understand that most of thetime, those quick resolutions
are unrealistic, so don't do it.
Go with something.
You know, I'm just trying toeat healthy.
This year.
It's 365 days in a year, Ibelieve unless they're going to
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change that too.
I don't know.
But you can eat a carrot.
You've eaten healthy.
You can figure out what youwant to eat, but I'm pretty sure
some of that's going to behealthy.
You can even just tell peopleI'm just trying to stay alive
and be happy, and that's whatyou can do if you find yourself
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being jammed into a corner withsomeone saying well, what's your
new year's resolution?
I hated that.
I come right off the bat beforenew years come.
I don't make new year'sresolutions.
So people stop asking me Idon't do it.
I make goals.
I write down goals.
I have a lot of goals, but Ihave plans to go with them.
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I didn't just create a prettyvision board without creating a
physical plan, writing it down.
Well, I've granted enough.
I've given you some tips ofwhat to do.
My thing now is to ask you whatrealistic goals are you looking
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To achieve for yourself?
What realistic goals are youlooking To achieve for yourself?
What realistic goals are youlooking To achieve for yourself?
That's the question.
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And with that question, Hold on, I'm gonna continue.
I just got a pause for a second.
I'm gonna tell my twins to cutthe oven off.
See, I told y'all this is, butthis is not scripted.
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Even begin to To explain how Ihate different things.
I mean, I'll do it if I have to, but For my stuff I like to
just kind of go with the flow.
So that is the question foryour homework is what realistic
goals are you looking to achievefor yourself?
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I want you to think in bucketsof no more than 12 weeks or 90
days and make things realistic.
Okay, I want you to do that Ifyou choose to follow me on
social media, which is at Msunderscore, originator on yes,
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on Instagram.
Okay, we can discuss this alittle bit more.
I'm trying to put you in a prep, or in preparation, to come in
and Join my vision board classthat I'm going to have, and even
if you don't want to join, likethe group, I'm talking about
your vision board and making aplan for your vision, and this
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is a step by.
You know.
Step it away your vision.
You might not have anothervision until April and you might
want to come and talk to meabout it then and develop a plan
.
If you want to do it on yourown, I'm going to have up a work
, a workbook that's going tocome out soon so you'll be able
to Download that from my store.
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I'm going to make that happenshortly.
It may be the time you wouldlisten to this.
It may be up, if not expected,by the second week of January,
but make sure you follow me forthat, to get that information
and the release on that.
Listen, because we've beentalking for a hot minute now.
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I want you to understand thatwhen you meet these things, it's
okay to set long-term goals,but right now we want to focus
on building the trust back Withyourself, because, guaranteed,
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you don't trust yourself.
Some of you I know I don't, andI'm building a trust within
myself as well.
So some things I trust myself,on some things definitely not,
and I have to build that trust.
And you start building thattrust by making things realistic
in your world and not holdingback speaking truth and the
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truth you start to speak is withyourself.
First, speak the truth toyourself.
You know when you wantsomething and you know when you
don't.
You know how you feel.
Don't be a people, please, butdon't be an asshole all in the
same breath.
You don't have to be a jerkabout things.
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If you don't like something oryou know you don't want to do
something or you're not aboutsomething, you can stand up for
yourself and still do it withhumility.
You don't have to be soarrogant and some people will
all.
Some people will always takeyou Wrong.
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That's just how it is, it'slife.
But don't take yourself wrong.
Don't beat yourself up.
Be kind to yourself.
Find a way.
Find a way to start buildingthat trust and I believe I'm
making small, obtainable goals.
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Okay, small obtainable gold inrealistic gold, in time, in a
time frame that is Applicable tothe goal, that it can actually,
you know, say, okay, if I canlose five pounds in 90 days, I'm
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good, and I keep going to theweight because that's something
that I'm focusing on right now.
But you can fly for yourself.
If I just take 15 minutes a dayand clean my house, I Know, and
I do it for 90 days.
It becomes the habit, itbecomes something that I know.
Then I can make it 30 minutes,you know, and then my big
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cleanups won't be so hard and Ihave time for myself and I trust
myself to do this.
I Trust myself.
So make obtainable goals,realistic goals, and give them
Just enough.
Give them that time.
Give them time to show up.
Give yourself time actually toshow up for that goal, for
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obtaining that goal.
All right, guys, listen, Ithank you for coming back and
listening to me.
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to you.
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homework, because doing thehomework and doing the work is
Important.
Listening to me is great.
I'm grateful for that, but I'mso invested in you all actually
doing the work for yourself.
That has got to be one of themost, I Guess, the the the most
(42:03):
promising things and why I keepdoing this.
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I love you guys.
I wish you the best for this2024.
If you stuck with me to the end, you know you are a friend, so
go mind your business and potyour plants.
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We got things to do.
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Bye.
What's going on everyone?
Welcome to 2024 and welcomeback to Mz O In The Mix.
Join us today for a topic of noResolutions for me.
Get your pen and pad ready.
You have some homework to do.
If this is your first timetuning in, I welcome you with
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open arms to a not so judgmentalzone.
Just a little tough love.
You be I.
If you're driving, keep bothhands on the wheel and eyes on
the road, even while laughing.
If there are small childrenaround, wear earbuds, because I
cuss Shit.
We never know when it's goingto happen.
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Just like then.
I wasn't playing, it's just howit is.
Hey, don't forget to listen tothis episode again.
You may have missed somethingbecause you just kept laughing
and if you're returning, welcomeback.
Oh, how I missed you.
You just don't understand.
It's been a minute and I'mgrateful to be back.
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If you follow me on social media, you see that there is a post
that says this is the year ofmind your business and partial
plans, we at Mizzone and makesour continuing our healthy
journey this year, focusing onour mental, physical and
spiritual side.
No politics here.
So if you're new, understand wedon't do politics.
(01:26):
You can talk about thatsomewhere else.
You can hear about thatsomewhere else.
So don't ask, I get ahead Justthinking about it.
It overwhelms me.
You wouldn't understand.
You may understand.
Hell, let's look at it that way.
You may understand, because youalways get someone who's very
difficult when it comes topolitics and it's just a lot of
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headbutting and I don't havetime for that.
So here we go with what ourstrengths are and we rock with
that.
If you have a topic you'd likeus to consider, email Mizz, oh,
in the mix at gmailcom and tokeep us on the air, hey guys,
don't forget this.
Three ways to show some love.
But that's the laundry list.
Can we get into the topic now?
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All right, no resolutions forme.
So no resolutions for me is atopic that I figured would be a
good discussion, of course,because it is the first week of
the new year and it's alwayssome drama going on and people.
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It seems like at the end of theyear, people get into this big
rush of oh, oh, something'scoming up.
I need to prepare for mywedding, I need to prepare for a
wedding, I need to prepare forvacation.
Oh, my birthday is coming up,and I'm saying this because I
even said this.
I'm like, oh, by my birthday Iwant to be a certain weight.
This year.
I want to.
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You know, I had health issuesfor those who listened to me
before I had health issues, butI am doing so much better.
It's just.
It's been really beautiful, abeautiful journey, even though
I've been away from you all.
But I started finding myselffeeling like I was creating some
type of resolution when Iwasn't, because I started this
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back in October, this new partof a health journey, and I'm
just like, oh no, I'm not gonnasit up here and get no damn new
year's resolution and get myselfall twisted up trying to make
this come true, but I'm stillgoing to do what I need to do.
So I don't believe in resolution, not for me, not for me, but
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what you do.
Maybe you won't after we talkabout this, but to me, with
resolutions there are.
There are good things and thereare bad things, and as humans
into D society, I feel thatthere are so many pressures and
there wasn't many pressures backin a day, but now it just seems
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like it's a lot going on, a lotmore than there was back in the
day, because we have events somuch as us, as a human race.
We've come far, so we've addedmore pressure on us, and so who
the hell needs a resolution?
No offense, I understand somepeople are for them.
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Me, you know what I'm learning.
Not so much I pick and choosewhat I want as far as traditions
put a spin on it, wrap it up ina pretty bow and do it my way.
And then I tell my kids dowhatever the hell you want,
because traditions to me are forthe people who are gone, like
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I'm.
You know, I understand youculturally.
You might want to do somethingcool, I don't care, but I'm just
.
I'm just not for what traditionstands for today, and to me
it's like we're not evenremembering those who came
before us in our families orthose that you know introduced
those traditions to us.
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I just feel like everything issuch a gimmick and is stressful
and is putting you in a placewhere you don't really want to
be, and some people don't evenwant to say it because they feel
bad.
They feel like, if I tell youknow, my mother or my father or
my aunt, uncle or whomever havebeen doing this for years and
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for generations, that I don'twant to do it, but you feel so
much pressure and you feel likea bad person for not doing it.
Man, listen, I say fuck that.
If you don't want to do it,don't do it.
Life is too short.
I'm not here to live for mymother.
I'm not here to live with mybrother.
I'm not here to live with mygrandparents.
You know, I can tell my kidsabout the traditional things
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that used to happen.
And if my kids were like, well,mommy, we want to do that too,
hell, we'll try it for a year.
But I don't expect me to bedoing this every single year,
all the time.
You know I'm not.
I'm not giving my kids adisadvantage, I'm just not
giving them any bullshit,because they tie it and I'm
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tired too.
And then, if I'm around heretrying to follow up with
traditions, oh, come on, theball's dropping for us here, the
ball's dropping apple, whateveryou want to call it, is
dropping.
Let's stay up to one o'clock inthe morning talking with people
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we don't want to talk to, youknow, because you can't really
leave once 12 o'clock comes andyou go happy new year.
And you don't ate everybody upall the food, and then you ready
to leave because you don't sayhappy new year.
You packed your go-containerwhen you first got here, so it's
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like you don't want to leave.
So now you got to stay there atone o'clock and don't live 30,
45 minutes away.
Then you got to get on a rolland hopefully miss all the drunk
drivers Like these traditions.
They too much for me.
I'm tired, and that reason Ifeel like I don't deal with
traditions which causes me notto even embark on the resolution
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thing anymore is because myparents said screw your
tradition.
A while ago.
They don't even realize theydid it, but when I had my son I
remember them saying oh, you gotanother family now you can go
have you know, you can go overthere and have your turkey and
whatever for this holiday, youknow, and they did another
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holiday so I had to go thereLike it was just too much.
I'm trying to run from yourhouse to your house, to your
house to eat some dry ass turkeyor to to schmooze with some
people, but I don't like a good87% of the people that are in
the room.
But I want to show you love.
I can show you love throughoutthe rest of the year.
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I can do that throughout therest of the year.
And my rant for the lastprobably five minutes about
tradition is bringing me to thatresolution.
I don't have to make a newyear's resolution.
I could just start whenever thehell I want and do it whenever
I want.
But if I'm going to make aso-called resolution, understand
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that's instantaneous.
That hasn't been really thoughtout.
A resolution Not in my opinion.
It's something that you justpulled off.
You know, when you pulled outof a hat like what are you going
to do for yourself this year?
And you know you, you feelforced to tell somebody
something like pull somethingout, like what do you want to do
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?
Or I want to lose weight andI'm going to join the gym in
January.
Don't get me wrong.
Go ahead and join the gym inJanuary, do what you got to do.
You're going to waste most ofthat membership, but it's cool.
It's cool because I don't wantto mess with the personal
trainer and the gym money.
So you go ahead and join thegym.
But just remember, you did iton a resolution and you didn't
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do it on a verge of, like,accomplishing a goal.
So you cannot beat yourself upfor that later.
And that brings me into anotherpart.
When you don't have a plan, planto not achieve.
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When you don't have a plan, youmust plan to not achieve.
I will say it again when you donot have a plan, you must plan
to not achieve.
Planning to this resolutionthing and being spontaneous with
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it.
It is to me, remember, this ismy opinion, people, so your
opinion may differ from mine,and that is a okay.
But since you're not here and Ican't hear you, you can't see
you, we can't go back and forthabout it.
But if you would like to meetme over at MsMZ underscore
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originator on Instagram, we cantalk about it.
So, going back to my, whenthere's no plan, plan not to
achieve is I kind of forgot abit of it because this is not
scripted, y'all.
This is me just spewing like ifwe having a conversation.
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So, if you know, pause for asecond.
If you are new, understand, Ido not script out.
I write a few things out tokind of make sure that I'm
hitting the exact points.
Other than that, it's just alltalk.
I'm a Gemini, so I could talkfor days.
I could talk for hours.
I don't have to have anybodyelse in the room.
It's like 18 people in my headand we have a great conversation
(11:34):
.
So, anyway, going back.
So this plan is important andnot having a plan, understand
you're not going to achieve thegoal and that your resolution is
not a true planned out goal,just like when you create a
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vision board.
I'm over here punching my hand,y'all my hand going to hurt
later, seriously, when you donot have a vision board, or when
you do have a vision board, youdon't have a plan to go with
that vision board.
What are you thinking?
You just put a bunch of prettypictures on a poster board with
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no realistic goals and, well, norealistic plan in place to
achieve that goal.
So there's no realistic plan inplace to achieve that goal.
And when that happening, youtend to fail because you don't
have anything written out ofwhat do you do after you do step
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one, or even when it is stepone, because sometimes we don't
from knowing what it is to step15 and got to come back to step
one and then forgot about stepfive because we went ahead with
the step 23.
No, no, you're not going toachieve the goal that you're
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setting out.
You definitely not going toachieve the resolution, because
you don't even have anythingwritten out.
So understand when you say myresolution for 2024 is to make
sure you put a clause in thatstatement saying I will not hold
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myself accountable for thefailure that will come to be if
I don't plan accordingly.
Now.
We can all plan and plan tofail things like that, but if
you're serious about this newresolution that just populated
in your brain at midnightbecause it was 2024 and everyone
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else going to run away Well,what's your new year's
resolution and what's your newyear's resolution?
Just sit down and shut up.
That's how I feel.
It might be wrong, but I don'tgive a damn, because why don't
you walk away from thisconversation?
You think about what I'mtelling you.
You're going to thinkdifferently about those damn new
year's resolutions and you'regoing to want to take yourself a
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little bit more serious thanthat, and I hope you phone a
friend and send them my podcastso they can kind of like wake up
a little bit and really achievethe goals that they're looking
to achieve and understand thatwe not just you, but I I have
fallen victim to this over andover again and it had this
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periodically throughout the year.
We don't just try to set thesefake resolutions or go.
We should call them goals on awhim.
We don't try to set those justin the beginning of the year,
just that everybody in the worldpretty much is trying to set
those.
If you do that in the beginningof the year, we set fake goals
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for ourselves quite often, or Ishouldn't say fake goals, the
goals on a whim quite often andthey never come to fruition
because we don't take the timeto plan them.
And coming to my second, well,actually I want to say my third
thing, because the first one istradition is not for me.
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You need to check to see iftradition is really for you in
this manner of any tradition andany of the things that you do.
But if you choose not to gowith it understand is not on me.
You need don't be like oh, miss, o say F tradition.
We ain't got to put up no damnChristmas tree.
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We don't got to light a menorah.
We don't like the quasi can't.
Don't play with me, don't comefrom me.
I tell you to do it.
You have got to make yourdecision.
Oh, we're not going to have, inlights of one friend,
thanksgiving, because it's likea massacre holiday, like you
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know.
Don't cover my head Like.
This is what I've heard frompeople.
This is what I'm saying forcertain things, of how I feel.
You know, we're not doingValentine's Day.
We're not doing this.
You should let me every day,which is true, which is so true,
but anyway, I'm just going tokeep going or rinse, but it's
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going to be all right.
So we talked about tradition isnot for me.
That's why it's not for me.
Your homework is to figure outwhy.
What tradition is not for you?
You might say you some money,but anyway, you need to really
think about that.
Or it doesn't have to be aholiday, it just could be a
tradition, something that you've, you know, taken from a parent
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or someone that you look up to,that they've done all the time
that you've taken on to do.
But it's becoming a burden inyour life.
Whether it's the resolution ornot.
The no plan means noachievement.
That was the second one.
No plan means no, noachievement.
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So the third thing I want totell you is resolutions become
very demanding and they festerlike a sore.
You know it's because you'veyou've voiced this thing, you've
given it life, but yet youhaven't done anything with it.
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It's like, um, it's, it's likeknowing how can I say this?
It's like knowing that you have.
Okay, let's be real.
Knowing you got to light, builda day, you have got to pay this
light bill.
You're not going to have anylights and it's there.
It's there.
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You don't acquired it.
You know.
Spoken into existence.
You don't sign for them, forthe lights.
Now you got to pay it.
So it becomes a burden.
And now you wish you would havejust bought a couple more
candles.
See where I'm going with this.
Somebody out there I'm anintuitive reader.
Somebody out there.
Lights is off.
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You better get some candles andstop playing.
They like bill.
People pay the light bill.
Anyway, it becomes, they'vebecome too demanding.
Resolutions become way toodemanding because they're made
on a whim, without any thought.
And now you're trying to figureout how to help lock this into
my life.
I told this person you've notonly told yourself this, you've
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told other people, this oranother individual that this was
a goal of yours.
So understand or not?
Even?
Well, yeah, because we take itas a goal.
So understand.
Every time that person sees you, they want to know how you're
doing with your goal.
How's that new year'sresolution working for you?
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Are you achieving it or not?
You let it go, you know.
So.
They're so demanding that.
We don't.
We don't realize it when we sayit.
It takes over our lives.
It consumes us.
It's like you know it becomes adarkness, it becomes something
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so heavy that we don't want tocarry it anymore.
But we don't know how to let itgo.
But then we get angry at theperson who's asking us about it.
Who really did this care?
They just want to make surethat we're achieving what.
They just calling on us,calling us out on our bullshit.
That's pretty much what some ofus do, but you know.
So this is what I'm saying toyou Be careful what you speak
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into existence, as far as yourresolutions and the goals you
want to achieve, because you'reputting it out and putting that
out, and some of you might notwant to listen to me anymore.
Some of you might hold on tightto me and listen to it, but I'm
very intuitive.
I'm an intuitive reader,fortunate to do that, and I do
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believe in manifestation.
But manifestation doesn't comejust by you thinking about it.
You know it's got to besomething on your mind.
It's got to be something thatyou actually are activating.
So the fact that you have takenthis on and you now it sits in
your subconscious mind, ifyou've got this damn resolution
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you need to achieve, it doesmore harm than good.
So it was nice that you kind ofwant to achieve something.
So that's the problem.
The con is you had no plan forit.
So now it's just sitting therein the back of your mind and it
kind of creeped up on you everytime you encountered that person
, asked you about it.
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Or you have this low moment inlife and when I'm saying low
night is not low depression, low, it's the low moment of things
are just quiet, and you're likeTim, what can I do?
What should I do?
Right now you should do yourdamn resolution, that's what you
should do.
But you'll do something elseand you'll do something else
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another time and you'll be likeoh, I'll get to that later, it's
because it's not that importantto you, but you've said it and
you said it to someone.
So now they want to know howfar you've gotten with it and
become a hot topic of theconversation.
So it becomes so demanding andit becomes like Tim, well, do I
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do this, do I do that?
And then when you don't achieveit, at the end you know it is
all just because you didn't havea plan for it.
You just spit something out.
So be intentional about whatyou say.
So we got a couple of hold up.
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Be intentional about what yousay.
This is a couple of shows andone little conversation.
I just want you all to knowthat.
But be intentional about whatyou say and what plans you put
on yourself, because even whenyou think you just set it and
it's out and it's going, youjust said something to someone
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to get rid of them.
It comes right back around toyou because you put that out in
the elements, whether youbelieve in God or it's just your
universe or creator, or youdon't believe in anybody but
yourself.
Best believe that resolution ishaunting your ass somewhere
down the line.
It's pointing you and it'seating at you and it becomes.
Well, tim, I said I was goingto do that.
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Why did I say I shouldn't havesaid that?
Now what do I do?
Like no, it's too demanding.
So be careful what you say.
If there's something that youreally don't want to, you know,
have a plan for and really thinkyou're going to be able to
achieve, don't say it, don't.
You know?
I'm not saying don't do it, butjust don't say it.
Or be careful what you tellpeople so they become demanding
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like a screaming child in themiddle of the night, hungry.
Think about that.
Anyway, let's move forward.
This is the fourth one.
So this is a serious one, guys,and I feel like we do this to
ourselves quite often.
So I know I do it, I do it on aregular route things and I'm
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trying to change that.
But particularly since we'retalking about resolutions this
is the one I don't do anymore ismost of the time they're
unrealistic.
It's not going to happen in thetimeframe that you think it's
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going to happen.
I'm a person who is trying toget away from it, understand
patients and not get away frompatients back it up Totally.
I am trying to get away frominstant gratification and focus
more on patients and I wouldlike to say it is not an easy
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task but it is a task worthtrying to achieve.
See how I made that statement.
You can make a statement likethat for your resolution.
That's my everyday statementTrying to analyze my patients
and not worry about so much aninstant gratification, because
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it's quality over quantity typethought.
But any who?
Most of the time theseresolutions are unrealistic If
you're trying to trim downreally quick just to get into a
dress, think to yourself is itworth it?
Yeah, you might look sexy in apicture.
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If you're a guy, hey, you canget in a dress too.
Hey, today, anybody can wear adress.
Anyway, if you're a guy, you'retrying to look good and you
jump short.
So, whatever you're trying todo, you know, or you just want
to cut the weight for aparticular Party or event.
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Some of you are professionals.
This is what you do.
Don't listen to this.
Do what the heck you got to do.
I'm trying to walk my UFCfighters and I need you to make
weight.
Okay, anyway, you got to dowhat you got to do, but if this
is just something that you'relooking to do, think about it.
Am I harming my body in any way?
It's, especially if you'retrying to lose the weight.
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So and I'm going to point outladies, because I'm a lady
Ladies, seek out a personaltrainer.
It costs you money, right, itdoes cost you money.
However, you want to becautious.
You want to do it the right way, especially if you want to
maintain it.
So a new personal trainer witha nutrition is recommended.
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I am not a doctor, I am not alawyer, I am not a financial
advisor.
So please understand this isonly coming out of my experience
.
I do not take responsibilityfor any of the decisions that
are made based off of theinformation that I am providing
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on my show.
I need to put that clause atthe end or at the beginning
somewhere.
Anywho, make it realistic,don't make it unrealistic,
because that's what we tend todo, and when things are
unrealistic then we don'tachieve them or, yeah, we don't
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achieve them.
Then we begin to not trustourselves and not trusting
ourselves spills into nottrusting others and just kind of
like it just keeps going andgoing.
So when we make these on thespot type resolutions, we set
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ourselves up for failure becausewe don't have a plan to achieve
them.
And we set ourselves up becausewe're putting forth, usually
some unrealistic type of goalbecause we're going back, we
didn't plan for it, we didn't doour homework on it, and doing
that can make us feel like afailure, which leads us into
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self sabotage.
So you want to be mindful ofthe goals you're putting forth
that you're saying you're tryingto achieve, because to me
they're all goals, no matterwhat resolutions, whatever you
tag on to it.
But you need to make sure thatyou're being intentional through
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every step of it and you'regiving yourself a little bit of
slack when things just don't gothe way they're planned to go.
Giving yourself a little bit ofslack, that's important.
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We don't do it enough.
We beat ourselves up.
We accomplish one goal, we tryto go to another goal, we fail
at this goal and then we forgetabout the goal we just
accomplished because we failedthis one, and then that one
failure becomes our whole world.
Don't do that.
Refrain from doing that toyourself, from beating yourself
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up, because I think that comesout of it.
You know, you push yourselfback even further.
It's like you fall down, pickyourself back up.
You fall down, you pickyourself back up.
I know you heard that over andover again.
You wouldn't know how to walk.
I heard this somewhere.
You wouldn't know how to walk.
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If you gave up.
Every time you fell down, whenyou were an infant and it was
time to stand on those twolittle weak, little gummy legs,
you decided I'm going to walk.
Whether you was walking to adonut or a toy, I don't know
what your parents did orguardians.
However, you walked, you got up, you walked.
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Best believe.
You fell, you got back up andyou walked and you did it again,
but you did it every day.
You did it when people weren'tlooking, you did it when people
weren't looking, but you did itand you kept doing it and you
made sure you got it right soyou could stand on your own two
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feet.
I need you to think the sameway about these resolutions or
these goals that you're tryingto achieve.
I need you to have that samethought process, empower and
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empowerment that you can give toyourself.
When we start walking, we gotpeople clapping yay, yay.
For us when we're babies, whenwe're little, that gives us.
There are cheerleaders becausewe're like, okay, we're doing
something, or either we criedand we realized we're doing
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something.
I need you, out of all thethings that you learned, to be
your biggest cheerleader.
No one else should be a biggercheerleader for you than you are
for yourself.
You don't need anybody, becauseif you're your biggest, I can't
say you don't need anyone.
I will say because if you'reyour biggest cheerleader, then
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everybody else that just comesby as a fan and it's great to
have the fans, but you need tobe your number one cheerleader,
pushing you forward, getting youthrough the muck, getting you
through the bullshit resolutionthat you made this morning, last
night, yesterday, last week,getting you through those
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moments.
So be mindful of what you say.
I understand that most of thetime, those quick resolutions
are unrealistic, so don't do it.
Go with something.
You know, I'm just trying toeat healthy.
This year.
It's 365 days in a year, Ibelieve unless they're going to
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change that too.
I don't know.
But you can eat a carrot.
You've eaten healthy.
You can figure out what youwant to eat, but I'm pretty sure
some of that's going to behealthy.
You can even just tell peopleI'm just trying to stay alive
and be happy, and that's whatyou can do if you find yourself
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being jammed into a corner withsomeone saying well, what's your
new year's resolution?
I hated that.
I come right off the bat beforenew years come.
I don't make new year'sresolutions.
So people stop asking me Idon't do it.
I make goals.
I write down goals.
I have a lot of goals, but Ihave plans to go with them.
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I didn't just create a prettyvision board without creating a
physical plan, writing it down.
Well, I've granted enough.
I've given you some tips ofwhat to do.
My thing now is to ask you whatrealistic goals are you looking
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To achieve for yourself?
What realistic goals are youlooking To achieve for yourself?
What realistic goals are youlooking To achieve for yourself?
That's the question.
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And with that question, Hold on, I'm gonna continue.
I just got a pause for a second.
I'm gonna tell my twins to cutthe oven off.
See, I told y'all this is, butthis is not scripted.
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Even begin to To explain how Ihate different things.
I mean, I'll do it if I have to, but For my stuff I like to
just kind of go with the flow.
So that is the question foryour homework is what realistic
goals are you looking to achievefor yourself?
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I want you to think in bucketsof no more than 12 weeks or 90
days and make things realistic.
Okay, I want you to do that Ifyou choose to follow me on
social media, which is at Msunderscore, originator on yes,
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on Instagram.
Okay, we can discuss this alittle bit more.
I'm trying to put you in a prep, or in preparation, to come in
and Join my vision board classthat I'm going to have, and even
if you don't want to join, likethe group, I'm talking about
your vision board and making aplan for your vision, and this
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is a step by.
You know.
Step it away your vision.
You might not have anothervision until April and you might
want to come and talk to meabout it then and develop a plan
.
If you want to do it on yourown, I'm going to have up a work
, a workbook that's going tocome out soon so you'll be able
to Download that from my store.
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I'm going to make that happenshortly.
It may be the time you wouldlisten to this.
It may be up, if not expected,by the second week of January,
but make sure you follow me forthat, to get that information
and the release on that.
Listen, because we've beentalking for a hot minute now.
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I want you to understand thatwhen you meet these things, it's
okay to set long-term goals,but right now we want to focus
on building the trust back Withyourself, because, guaranteed,
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you don't trust yourself.
Some of you I know I don't, andI'm building a trust within
myself as well.
So some things I trust myself,on some things definitely not,
and I have to build that trust.
And you start building thattrust by making things realistic
in your world and not holdingback speaking truth and the
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truth you start to speak is withyourself.
First, speak the truth toyourself.
You know when you wantsomething and you know when you
don't.
You know how you feel.
Don't be a people, please, butdon't be an asshole all in the
same breath.
You don't have to be a jerkabout things.
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If you don't like something oryou know you don't want to do
something or you're not aboutsomething, you can stand up for
yourself and still do it withhumility.
You don't have to be soarrogant and some people will
all.
Some people will always takeyou Wrong.
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That's just how it is, it'slife.
But don't take yourself wrong.
Don't beat yourself up.
Be kind to yourself.
Find a way.
Find a way to start buildingthat trust and I believe I'm
making small, obtainable goals.
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Okay, small obtainable gold inrealistic gold, in time, in a
time frame that is Applicable tothe goal, that it can actually,
you know, say, okay, if I canlose five pounds in 90 days, I'm
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good, and I keep going to theweight because that's something
that I'm focusing on right now.
But you can fly for yourself.
If I just take 15 minutes a dayand clean my house, I Know, and
I do it for 90 days.
It becomes the habit, itbecomes something that I know.
Then I can make it 30 minutes,you know, and then my big
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cleanups won't be so hard and Ihave time for myself and I trust
myself to do this.
I Trust myself.
So make obtainable goals,realistic goals, and give them
Just enough.
Give them that time.
Give them time to show up.
Give yourself time actually toshow up for that goal, for
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obtaining that goal.
All right, guys, listen, Ithank you for coming back and
listening to me.
I would like for you To supportthe show, if you can.
Thank you so you can supportthe show by subscribing.
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Okay, subscribe, or you can goover and shop.
Dawn should read calm wheneverI put the rest of it up.
But at least go Over there,shop, sign up for our newsletter
there.
Go over to Mizzow in the mix onYouTube.
Guys, I know some people can'tlisten to me on Podcasts, they
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rather just go into YouTube.
So I'm using one of my oldchannels so that I've never
really promoted.
So go ahead up there.
Go subscribe to Mizzow in themix.
I'm gonna try to upload all theprevious shows to this YouTube
so I can reach out and talk topeople like expand and then you
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all can go and comment, actuallytell me about your Fake New
Year's resolutions that you madeand maybe we can talk about how
to fix that and how to reallymake that into an obtainable
goal.
Or you can actually justsupport right here.
Click on the support link.
It takes you to a cash out ortake your Wherever I don't know.
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Do that, but come back.
I want you to come back.
It's gonna be a great year.
I think you all are so worth it.
You know I've been podcastingfor maybe five years Not
consistently, and I had otherpodcasts but Mizzow in the mix
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now, even though I switch IDon't know what to how to say
that, but I went from oneproducing my podcast in one
place to producing on anotherplace.
But I've been with this currentbuzz sprout for a couple years
now and I'm really, reallyappreciate knowing that so many
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people are listening and gettingdownloads.
Please share the podcast withother people.
I believe that Sometimes, ifthe message isn't for you, it
doesn't mean that the messageisn't for someone that's close
to you.
All right, you all are super,and I do want you to do your
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homework, because doing thehomework and doing the work is
Important.
Listening to me is great.
I'm grateful for that, but I'mso invested in you all actually
doing the work for yourself.
That has got to be one of themost, I Guess, the the the most
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promising things and why I keepdoing this.
And if you're on a spiritualnote, don't forget to check out
MsO Tarot.
Miss O Tarot, I'm gonna becoming back.
I actually do intuitivemessages.
I do readings on there, socheck out Miss O Tarot.
Listen, I'm out of here.
I've been talking to you guysfor a minute and I gotta go to
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my other place of business, home, home.
You know that's work.
I gotta go there and take outmy girls, have some dinner and I
will speak to you all later.
I love you guys.
I wish you the best for this2024.
If you stuck with me to the end, you know you are a friend, so
go mind your business and potyour plants.
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We got things to do.
I thought to you later.
Bye.
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