Ep. 91 Why So Many Women Are Emotionally Drained by “Good Men”

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You thought it was just about him. His pullbacks. His silence. The way your needs felt like pressure and your presence felt like too much. But deep down, you knew it wasn’t personal. It was patterned.

In this powerful episode, we expose the quiet architecture of patriarchy and how it silently scripts our most intimate relationships. If you’ve ever been the one holding the emotional gravity while he hovered just out of reach, this conversation will validate what you’ve sensed all along: you weren’t just loving a man—you were carrying a system.

We’ll explore:

• The emotional load men offload without realizing it—and how women absorb it
• Why he wants your softness but resists your boundaries, truth, and anger
• How patriarchal conditioning rewards women for being “the bigger person”
• The trap of emotional dependence without accountability
• Why “the good guy” can still leave you empty
• How women become fluent in a language men are never required to learn
• What it means to finally name the weight and put it down

This episode is not about blaming men—it’s about recognizing the invisible system that shaped them, and the cost women keep paying in the name of love.

If you’ve ever wondered why relationships feel so exhausting, why emotional labor falls on you, or why your truth keeps getting softened, this is your wake-up call. Not because you failed to love well—but because you were never meant to carry what he refused to hold.

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