June 13, 2025 • 48 mins
Barbara Magro Berg is a distinguished relationship coach and author who's found success in helping ambitious women over 40 attract their soulmates. After experiencing a personal journey of two decades between her divorce and finding her soulmate at 57, Barbara has channeled her insights into hosting the "Magnetize Your Match" summit. Her expertise involves guiding women through spiritual principles and practical exercises, and she's recently published the book "The Science of Attracting Your Soulmate: Four Steps to Love and Happiness with Ease."
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Key Takeaways:
- Finding a soulmate involves understanding and staying true to yourself. Personal growth and inner work are essential components of attracting the right partner.
- Barbara emphasizes the importance of vibrational alignment in relationships, illustrating that soulmates can manifest as friends, family, or lovers.
- The "Magnetize Your Match" summit offers a wealth of knowledge, bringing together 22 experts to offer a multitude of perspectives on building meaningful relationships.
- Barbara's book, "The Science of Attracting Your Soulmate," provides steps for harnessing spiritual principles and practical exercises to create the space for love.
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Todd McLaughlin (00:33):
Welcome to Native Yoga Toddcast. So happy
you are here. My goal with thischannel is to bring
inspirational speakers to themic in the field of yoga,
massage, body work and beyond.
Follow us at @nativeyoga andcheck us out at
nativeyogacenter.com. All right,let's begin.
(01:04):
Today, my special guest isBarbara Magro Berg, and she is
hosting a magnetize your matchsummit to help coach those that
are looking to find love andtheir soulmate. She is a yoga
practitioner. She practices hereat Native Yoga Center, and the
(01:25):
link is in the description foryou to join. You can find her
website, you can find the linkto sign up for the free Summit,
and you can find all her socialmedia handles and reach out. And
I'd say, just go ahead and join.
And you can access and get someinformation to help improve your
ability to meet people that aremeaningful in your life, and
those of us that have reallystrong love relationships, we
(01:47):
can always learn how to be alittle more attentive and listen
better. So with that being said,let's go ahead and begin. I'm so
happy to have Barbara Magro Berghere today, Barbara, how are you
doing? Great. All right. Oh,well, thank you. I'm I'm really
excited because you have, I'vemet you here practicing yoga.
(02:09):
You're currently up in Vermont,but I'm really excited for an
event that you're holding that Iwas able to be a part of, called
the magnetize your match? Canyou tell me, how did this event
come to be, and what is yourintention and goal for holding
this event?
Barbara Magro Berg (02:30):
Right? So the summit is called, magnetize
your match. Top secrets everyambitious woman, 40 plus needs
to know to attract her soulmate, because that was me. And
you know, I really struggled inmy soulmate journey in between
my divorce from my Australianhusband at the age of 35 until I
(02:54):
met my soulmate at the age of 57so dated a lot, but honestly,
was very lost and bewildered asto why love was so elusive for
me. Considering I was raised ina family where my parents were
married for 61 years, mygrandparents were both married
(03:16):
for over 50 years, there was nodivorce in my family.
Todd McLaughlin (03:21):
Yeah, it's a high, high bar to try to live up
to, yeah,
Unknown (03:26):
I suppose, yeah, yeah.
And just being from a differentmindset than than their
generation. You know, lookingback, they probably compromised
a lot more than ever I would,than I would ever be willing to
but did have good marriages, youknow, all of them, all three of
them, my grandparents and myparents anyway. So over the 20
(03:46):
years in between my divorce,like, you know, I did a lot of
workshops. There was no lifecoaches, though, there was no
relationship coaches duringthose days, there was weekend
workshops. I did yoga a lot. Youknow, I've studied yoga since
I'm 17. I even became acertified yoga instructor, um
Iyengar, the Center for yoga inLA, Oh, wow. And so always met
(04:10):
interesting people, always, youknow, had a boyfriend. But in my
work that I do. My subtitle, Isay, you know, I teach you how
to not compromise, compromiseyourself in order to be loved.
And when I finally had thatawareness on how much I
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compromised myself in order tobe loved, it was such an
awakening. And wow, and so Ifinally did work with a
relationship coach, and we didtapping EFT to remove
subconscious limiting beliefs.
(04:53):
And I worked with her for 18months. And during that during
that time, Kevin came into mylife, and within three months,
we were engaged, and within ayear, we were. Married, and from
the outside, people thought, Oh,that was so quick. But like you
with your podcast for years, youknow, maybe on the seventh year,
(05:13):
all of a sudden, huge success,but it didn't happen quick. It's
just that when it becomes publicquickly, it looks quick, but
what you don't realize is somuch work that goes on behind
the scenes. There's so much workthat comes to the mat, right? We
bring ourselves to the mat, andthat's where the work really
begins. When
Todd McLaughlin (05:34):
did you first hear the word soulmate?
Unknown (05:37):
When did that sort of understand years and years and
years ago, and yeah, I guess Iwas, I've been, always been the
kind of person, even though Ihad a very successful career,
traveled a lot, veryindependent, I always had this
imaginary desire that there wasa soul mate for me, that there
was going to be that, you know,fairy tale, love story, and how
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it was going to look, but moreimportantly, how it was going to
feel. I mean, I remember when Iwas a little girl imagining that
my soulmate was coming andasking me to marry him, like
real fantasy stuff. And my firstmarriage, I think I tried to fit
a square peg into a round holewith that fantasy. And it was a
(06:24):
nightmare of a relationship, andI left it after nine months,
luckily, um, but it took me 20years to shift, and obviously
that was my path. Yeah, I wassupposed to have that time on my
own, working on me and and andgrowing me, you know, yeah,
(06:47):
developing all the things thatwere, you know, I that I was
supposed to learn and that Iwanted to learn.
Todd McLaughlin (06:53):
How would you define a soul mate in
relationship to a great partner.
Unknown (07:01):
So I would say, first of all, I do think that people
can have more than one soulmate.
Todd McLaughlin (07:07):
That's I wanted to ask you that question, yeah,
yeah, because I Yeah. Maybe, insome cases, someone saying I
really want to meet my soulmate. Maybe someone would have
an alternate problem. I have somany soul mates. How do I pick
which one, right? But I knowthat's not usually the problem.
And the
Unknown (07:25):
thing is, you know, like, maybe people have multiple
soul mates, hopefully not at thesame time, but throughout their
lifetime. And I know that theydo, yeah, so I do believe that a
soul mate is truly someone thatis a fantastic vibrational match
with you. It can be a woman, agirlfriend, it could be a
sister, it could be a brother,and it could be a lover. So for
(07:48):
me, I was looking for thatintimate loving relationship
with my soulmate. And when I doa comparison of husband number
one and husband number two, Icould see how I would think that
number one initially was mysoulmate, because on paper, on
the outside, it looked like wehad so much in common, but what
(08:09):
I discovered was that on theinside we were diametrically
opposed, whereas my husbandKevin, on the outside, we have,
you know, a Great compatibility,but on the inside, we are just
so in alignment in so many ways.
I mean, I forget what we werejust talking about this morning,
(08:29):
and he goes, You know, I reallydon't like that. I said, Neither
do I. And it was something Ican't remember what it was, but
it was just, you know, sometimesthe smallest things. So I just
think you're really in sync.
Yeah, so, yeah, good answer.
Todd McLaughlin (08:46):
Well, that's cool. And then, what is your
intention with holding thisonline Summit? What like, if
you, you know the big dream,what is your you know, if you
have a vision for the outcome ofthis event. What are you
envisioning? I mean,
Unknown (09:02):
I really want to have big impact and show women,
single women, maybe even singlemen. But my target really is
single women, because that's whoI was, ambitious, single women
over 40 who have struggled tomeet the right partner, but
they're successful in theircareer and they're successful in
other areas of their life. Ijust want to teach them what I
learned like no one taught me,and so I made so many mistakes,
(09:27):
and there is a science to it,and there is also spiritual
principles and and There's alsopractical exercises that one
needs to do to create the spaceto receive the right partner and
be at that vibration. And I wasnever taught that. You know, I
(09:49):
was raised Catholic. Don't havesex before you get married.
That's all I learned. Theydidn't tell me why. Well, guess
what? In my Summit, I'm going totell you why not to not have sex
before marriage. But why? Whysex? You need to be very careful
with who you bring into yourbedroom, and the reason why. So
(10:09):
we know we weren't taught wewere taught how to drive cars.
We were taught how to dogeometry and trigonometry, and I
don't know about you, but theonly thing between those three
things that I was taught thathas really helped me is driving
a car, the trigonometry and thegeometry has I've never used it
since I took the regions in highschool. Yeah.
Todd McLaughlin (10:29):
Good point.
Good point. No, me neither.
Absolutely not. Well, that'strue. I think if I look back on
my own life, and I think aboutlike, where did the lessons come
in to teach me how to create andor practice healthy
relationship. I feel like I havea similar experience to what you
mentioned of having long termmarried parents. You know, I met
(10:52):
a lot of people along the waythat were, like, shocked that my
parents were still together fora long period of time. A lot of
people had have grown up ineither, you know, broken
families or divorced homes orwhatever. The terminology would
like to use separation for thebetter or whatever, but I'm
Unknown (11:09):
raised in blended families. That's a whole other
new term, right? So the parentremarries, and now they got to
get used to new siblings who arehalf siblings or something,
right? Yeah, good
Todd McLaughlin (11:17):
point, yeah.
And that's about it. Like I justfeel like, okay, here's an
example. So I do, I do feel likeI learned a lot from watching
example, but at the same time, Idon't know that it's that
simple.
Unknown (11:32):
No, what would you say?
Oh, well, you know to thy ownself be true, right? That as
night shall follow day,according to Shakespeare, you
know you need to know who youare, and that's why yoga is such
a fabulous practice and way oflife, right? I mean, I'm not
religious, I'm spiritual, I'm ayogi, right? Because it's like
you have to know who you are andwhat really matters to you and
(11:57):
what values you hold to beprecious, and just like you're
inside, you know your soul, andby having a practice like yoga,
just as part of your lifestyle,truly enables you to grow so
much so that you can embrace newinformation around relationships
(12:21):
that may have an impact on you,like, what are your patterns?
You know? Why do you keepattracting the same people? And
you know, some of those thingsthat would not be so evident in
your relationship as you witnessyour parents relationship, but
yet it's what you manifest intoyour relationship. And you know,
(12:44):
one of the things that I didlearn along the way, I don't
know if you remember, Geraldjamposki wrote the book making
peace with your parents. Thatwas one of the first books that
I read. And I also read lovingrelationships by Sandra Ray. And
Sandra actually is a lifetimefriend of mine. And both of
those just was like, whoa. Sowhat I started again, all self
(13:07):
coaching, is that thisrelationship, oh, I have
difficulty with my mother, andguess what? This person has a
lot of the same qualities of myas my mother, or I have this
kind of difficulty with myfather. My father was a great
man. He was a great provider,but he never was verbally
expressive of His love andaffection towards me. And so
(13:29):
guess what? I find men. Iattract men who, yeah, I know
they like me, but they're notexpressive. And as a woman, that
dries me out, you know, yougotta water the plant with you.
Know I love you. I'm glad I'mwith you. Whatever verbal for
me. Then I discovered the fivelanguages of love that book so
you know to know yourself andlike what is so important to you
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is, I think 75% of it. And thengetting to a place where you
know you deserve, yourworthiness and your
deservingness to have thatrelationship that is quality and
supportive. And I always used toput when I would write my list
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that he always has my back, likeno matter what, my partner
always has my back. And theseare all things that you just
learn through life. So my, my,my Summit is really about
expediting that process, becauseI've gathered 22 experts on
various topics of love andhealing. And, you know, offering
(14:38):
so much great wisdom and maybenew ideas for people to embark
on in terms of practices thatthey could do. So that's all I
wish I had it when I was I feellike if I had had this
information, I would not havehad 20 years in between
relationships.
Todd McLaughlin (14:58):
Yeah, yeah. Can you remind me the name of your
book that you just published?
Unknown (15:02):
It's called The Science of attracting your soulmate.
Very cool, four steps to loveand happiness with ease. So
yeah, so it just came out onAmazon, and I thought doing a
summit would be a great way tobring these thought leaders
together within this field andutilize it as a book launch for
(15:23):
my book, because part of my VIPpackage is that you would get a
digital copy of the first stepin my book. So my book is all
about what I did over the yearsto attract my soulmate all the
different things, from the innerwork to the healing work to the
writing and the journaling, aswell as the woo, woo stuff, like
(15:44):
vision boards, Feng Shui, Moonrituals, all of that. So on the
summit, I have somebody whotalks about Feng Shui, five
things to not put in yourbedroom. I was blown away, blown
away by what she said. I
Todd McLaughlin (16:01):
know you can't share that here. We'll need to
sign up to get the information,but that's pretty classic. What
normal things that you wouldjust have in your bedroom? So
did you have to clean some stuff
Unknown (16:11):
up corner? Of course, you know, and you know, I would
always put two of everything tocrystals. I put my my actual
vision board that I made for myrelationship in the corner, I
wrote a soulmate prayer that Iwould say every night. I put a
picture of two lovebirds and allof that. And that's all fine,
but what she tells you is, wouldblow, will blow your mind of
(16:31):
what not to put in there. Sovery cool. My point is that
that's kind of like the outsidestuff that you could do, yeah,
while you're doing your innerwork. So my book actually, is
actually fun. That's why I saidfour steps to attracting love
and happiness with ease. Ishould have put and fun
exclamation point, because itdoesn't have to be hard. The
(16:54):
path of self discovery can bereally fun, interesting and
like, Wow, I love that. Yeah,that's what I want. I want
someone who's also into art or,you know, going to nice museums
or doing yoga or whatever. So,
Todd McLaughlin (17:12):
yeah, very cool. Well, when you met your
husband, did you right away havea thought, could this be? Was it
a couple weeks later that itbecame apparent what was the
timeline? Weird
Unknown (17:30):
situation of how it all happened. But yeah, we met
online, and he was living hisprofile said, Florida. So when
we when we connected, I waslike, Oh, good, Florida, because
I had made a rule no more longdistance relationships. I want
to meet someone in theneighborhood. So his profile
said Florida. But when I got onthe phone with him, he said he
was living in Utah. I'm like,what? I was like, no Utah,
(17:53):
Florida anyway, chat, chat,chat. There was definitely a
connection. Um, we talked a lot,we wrote a lot of emails, and
before I even met him, like itwas in January that we met
online. And I know this soundsweird, but by February, he was
like, professing his love for meon the phone. We hadn't even met
(18:15):
yet, which can be a littlecreepy when you're doing online
dating. But I definitely, yeah,like there was so many things,
you know. Anyway, we wound upmeeting in person in May, and
spent a week at Sundance Resortin Utah, you know, Robert
Redford's place. And my motherhad just passed away April 1. So
(18:36):
I was on my way back from atrade show in Vancouver, and I
thought, You know what? I thinkI'm going to go book a cabin in
the woods. It would be a goodway for him to come and visit
me, because I was setting it up.
So it wasn't like, oh, I had togo and stay at his house. No,
no. Anyway, he did. He pickedyou up at the airport. We went
grocery shopping right away,something we still do together a
(18:57):
lot. Was pretty funny, because Ihad a cabin in the kitchen. We
made dinner, and every night hewould come up and visit us,
visit me, talking, greatconnection. But as the week went
on, I could feel him pullingaway all this closeness on the
phone, which is very common. Idon't know if anyone ever read
the book Johnny gray. Men arefrom Mars. Women are from Venus.
(19:19):
Yeah. Men are like, rubberbands. They get close, and then
they pull away. Well, I couldsee the rubber band pulling
away, and thank God I read thebook. I knew what was going on
in my past. I would have chasedbut I didn't. I was like, You
know what? I'm just going to domy thing and go my separate way.
I wound up believing was nice,meeting you, that was it. Didn't
(19:41):
talk for three years. Oh, wow. Iwas so disappointed. My mother
had just died, and I haddefinitely had strong feelings,
but, you know, it just wasn'thappening. So I went away sad.
I'm never going back to you.
Utah ever again. Went back toFlorida. He healed myself, got
(20:05):
on with my life. Three yearslater, I'm in Vermont with
girlfriends at a reunion fromhigh school. There's like 10 of
us, and I get these emails fromKevin Berg, three different
email addresses. I've neverstopped thinking about you. I've
been through a personaltransformation in my life. Can
we talk? Wow. And I was in areally good place in my life,
(20:26):
really good. And I was like,what? Anyway, we wound up
talking. And he told me that hehad had lashes in front of his
eye that week, and he thought hehad a brain tumor, and he didn't
want to drag me into his healthproblems. Wow. It turned out he
had a carotid artery and he hadto have emergency surgery, and
they told him, if you live pasttwo maybe three years, you'll be
(20:49):
doing good. After three years,great health records. He
contacted me,
Todd McLaughlin (20:57):
Wow, that's cool. What a cool story. I
didn't realize there was thatthree year period of getting to
know so when you said,initially, we didn't
Unknown (21:05):
talk those three years, but when he did come back, at
this point, I was working withmy tapping coach, removing my
limiting beliefs and and atfirst I was like, with her. I
was like, There's no way. Man,he freaking heard me. There's no
way. And she said to me, andthis is why coaches, oh, they,
I'm serious, can make all thedifference. She said to me, I
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think you should give him achance. Life is not a straight
line. He had to go through hisown personal transformation to
be ready for you. Your motherhad just died. You had to go
through your own grievingperiod. It was the time to meet,
but not the time to cometogether. She said, give him a
chance. He had everything thatyou were looking for. So I did,
and here we are celebratingeight years this October of
(21:50):
being married, and it's been thebest decision I ever made in my
Todd McLaughlin (21:54):
life. Oh, that's amazing. Barbara,
congratulations. I mean, I Ireally love hearing the aspect
to that he consciously did whathe did because he wanted to be
kind to you, and then in yourmind, building up all the stuff
that we all build up about I washurt, how dare he or she, or
(22:14):
whatever the situation is, and
Unknown (22:16):
old self, old mindset, yeah, that's really fixed
mindset. She forced me to gointo a growth mindset. Yeah,
yeah, very and also, I want topoint out to women listening to
this is that, you know, thatwhole dating experience can be
really bewildering, but I thinkthat there are still nice men
(22:37):
out there. They are gentlemen. Imean, if you ever saw Kevin
walked down the street. He'svery low key. You know, he
doesn't have 20 million friends.
He's not the life of the party,but he is. He is a good guy. You
know, he's respectful. He wasraised really well. He respects
women, versus the first husbandAustralian. You think they
respect women. I know we got ourshared Australia story, but like
(22:59):
he the antithesis of that,compared to my first husband. My
first husband hated his mother.
Kevin had a respectful, lovingrelationship with his mother,
you know, only spoke highly ofher, but he you know, it's not
like she had two older brothers.
So he was a manly man. Grew upon a farm in Michigan, and he's
(23:21):
somebody that truly 2030, yearsago, when I was younger, I never
would have even imagined beinginterested in a man like Kevin,
way too quiet, not cool. He'scool. He's very cool, actually,
but he's like, he's aMidwesterner, yeah,
Todd McLaughlin (23:44):
yeah, I'm from New York. Yeah, understood. And
I
Unknown (23:47):
lived in California 11 years, you know, like, beautiful
people. So, yeah,
Todd McLaughlin (23:53):
what do you think is the top one or two
things you hear from people thatyou're coaching, that is what
they're bumping up with thebiggest challenge. Is it that
the majority of men that theymeet aren't gentlemen? Is it
that people aren't wanting tocommit to long term happiness?
(24:19):
Is it what are the main painpoints that you keep hearing the
Unknown (24:24):
Yeah, the number one thing is that finding the
quality men, the quality of themen that they want. Like there
are a lot of single men outthere, but you know, I have one
woman who went through myprogram, and I'm really proud of
her, because although she hasn'tmet her soul mate, she has
dated, and after two or threedates, has said, No, thank you.
You're not for me. Whereas, inthe past, she would have stayed
(24:47):
because she didn't want to bealone. But like her, I would
say, like she's like the qualityof people that she is attracting
at the vibration that she is at,right? So that's another thing
that you have to get reallyclose. Here on if you're
attracting people that you sayare not high quality, then you
need to up your quality, becauseit's all about the law of
(25:09):
attraction. Mirror, mirror onthe wall. There's nobody out
there, but you so whatever youcomplain about that you're not
getting, you must become right.
And so that's number one. Theother thing is, a lot of people
will say, Oh, men just want tohave sex. And, you know, look, I
think women want to have sextoo. So it's asking the right
(25:30):
questions and siphoning peopleout. And it's not that you don't
want to have sex. You just don'twant to have sex right away. You
want to just make sure that thisis somebody that you are safe
with, emotionally andphysically, and that they're on
the same page as you. So there'salways that. And then the other
(25:50):
thing is, you'll find a lot oftimes that, oh, men just don't
want to commit. They just don'twant to commit and that was one
of my big things. But again, Ihad to ask myself, Where am I
not committed to myself? Wheream I not committed to my own
(26:11):
truth, like I should be sayingwithin a first couple of dates
with these people, that I amlooking for a long term
committed relationship, ratherthan being so afraid of
rejection that I say nothing andthen I've I'm wind up being with
someone who doesn't want a longterm commitment. Yeah, good
point. I have to be able tostand up for myself and really
ask for what I want or not fromyou, but to share, in general, I
(26:35):
am looking for someone to sharemy life with a long term
committed relationship, and nothave any embarrassment about
that. And I used to be soembarrassed to say that, like,
awful
Todd McLaughlin (26:51):
do, yeah, that's, that's a really good
point. I hear you. Do you feellike you need to just practice
saying this out loud in front ofthe mirror. What was your What
was your stumble? What was yourgrowth? Point to being able to
come out to Kevin and say, I'mgonna vocalize this, you know,
you didn't have to. So that wassomething that you kind of wear,
(27:14):
that you need to work on, but itwasn't a major Yeah.
Unknown (27:16):
Okay, so here's another thing. You know, I lived in
California for 11 years, likepeople are single, people are
not married for 20 years, right,for the most part. And there's a
lot of women who are beautifuland so, you know, there's a lot
of men who want to experiencethe banquet of life. But I never
(27:36):
dated anyone, and I this was aninteresting thing. Kevin's the
first person that I dated mywhole entire life whose parents
were married for over 50 years.
Everybody else parents weredivorced. Amazing, right? Yeah,
so, uh, right. There he wascoming from that stable
background, and he was marriedfor 20 years. So I immediately
(27:59):
attracted somebody who was usedto being married, whereas in
California they're used to beingsingle.
Todd McLaughlin (28:12):
But I shifted.
I shifted, yeah, I hear ya doyou obviously both of us, you
and I, remember the time beforethe internet, before online
dating? Where do you standcurrently in relationship to
coaching your clients on the useof online dating versus you just
got to get out there and meetsomebody. What are your
(28:33):
thoughts? Oh,
Unknown (28:35):
no, my whole program is all about igniting the law of
attraction and applying the twomost important spiritual
principles of the universe. So Ireally started core. This is my
book. Is not a dating book. Mybook is about personal
transformation and to reallyunderstand the law of attraction
and how it works. So one of thebiggest turning points was
(28:58):
understanding, did you ever readthe book Science of Getting
Rich? By Wallace D wattles,well, my book is named after of
getting attracting yoursoulmate, because there's two
scientific principles that rulelife, and then these are the law
of attraction, but they're justset in a different way, and they
come from his book. There's onedivine intelligence, Formless
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Substance or thinking stuff fromwhich all things are made. This
invisible one divineintelligence, also called Higher
Power, invisible energy, orwhatever word feels, right, is
the ultimate stuff on which allthings are creating. Everything
starts from Divine invisibleenergy. This is a scientific
principle. Okay, let's juststart with that. The reason why
(29:45):
this is important a thought inthis Formless Substance Produces
the thing that is imagined bythe thought. In other words,
your thought is. The invisibleenergy becomes physical form.
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Thoughts become things. Thereare no good men out there.
You're right. We're going tosend you some shitty men just to
prove you're right. Men justwant to have sex. You're right.
We're going to send you men whojust want to have sex. So the
thing is, this is where the workbegins. Yes, great point this.
We are taught geometrytrigonometry, but we are not
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taught the basic laws of theuniverse when we're in grade
school, and that's where itbegins. So by doing that, it
doesn't matter if you likeonline dating or you don't like
online dating, if you don't, Ihave clients who do not want to
do online dating, and then Ihave others who are totally into
it. It is the law of attraction.
It is a spiritual principle thatif you want to attract your
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soulmate and you do this innerwork, and the things that I say
because you do have to do dailystuff like daily gratitude, the
more grateful we are for what wehave, the more grateful things
that we want, that we can begrateful for, will come to us.
So again, complaining that thereis no one in your life just
creates more no one in yourlife.
Todd McLaughlin (31:17):
It's so basic.
It's amazing, isn't it? Yeah,
Unknown (31:20):
you know what, if you don't want to do online dating,
no problem. I have a friend inNew Zealand who wanted to meet
her soulmate, and this wasbefore internet dating, but it's
a great example. And she, youknow, Paramahansa, Yogananda.
Yeah, he wrote Autobiography ofa Yogi. She was a big devotee of
(31:41):
his. And you know, he has awhole area where you can
actually join and become a nunwith them. Yeah, so she filled
out her application and put iton her altar, and she said,
Okay, I really want to meet mysoulmate and I want to have a
family, but if that is notwhat's right for me, I will go
and join the nun. Hurry of thissect, but I'm going to give it
(32:02):
two weeks. During that two weekperiod, she was walking down a
street in Auckland, and a mancomes running up to her, ma'am,
ma'am, you dropped your scarf.
She turns around. There's thiscute guy. Chat, chat, chat,
around the same age. Turns outhe's a musician. So is she? He
invites you to go have coffee.
Turns out he's a ParamahansaYogananda devotee also. And this
(32:27):
was 2025, years ago. Um, anyway,he asks her out, yes. So like
Sunday, he comes to her house topick her up. Where were they
going to go? And she had justbeen to a flea market and had
bought the top of a sweatpantoutfit that was Ty died. So, you
know, this was a long time ago,yeah, well, he comes knocking on
her door to pick her up wearingthe bottom
Todd McLaughlin (32:48):
of the same outfit. Oh, my gosh, that's
holding. They got married. They
Unknown (32:52):
two kids. They live in Auckland. Oh, that's cool. So
the point is that the law ofattraction is immutable. It
doesn't matter whether it'sthrough match.com or walking
down the street. Agree. Andthing that I always want to
share over and over, especiallymy evidence of my story, is that
your soulmate cannot pass youby. Your soulmate will find you.
(33:14):
Steven found Kristen. Kevinfound me. Great point. Yeah,
yeah. Trust that. You have tohave a lot of faith. Yeah, it's
interesting
Todd McLaughlin (33:24):
too, because right, when you said, she says,
I'm giving it two weeks, I hadthis thought of, like, Oh,
that's not a very long time.
Like, like, all right, twoweeks, I'm laying it down. But
only takes a minute. Girl, thatclarity, yeah, that clarity of
intent, like, Oh no, I'm I'msaying two weeks. Like, clear,
yeah, she had been
Unknown (33:42):
doing her inner work.
She was in that place, ready toreceive, and she was really
clear and what, and she was verycommitted to
Todd McLaughlin (33:51):
that's cool.
Barbara, how would you relateyour experience with yoga
practice in relation to the workthat you're speaking of, and
that you coach on how, howimportant is yoga to your
journey and or, do you believeyoga would be a good way or
something that somebody couldengage with to help the
relationship building process orthe Soulmate Attraction process?
(34:14):
Yeah,
Unknown (34:16):
well, you know, the yoga journey is a journey from
inside out and so often in oursociety, we think, Oh, if I was
prettier, or my hair was done,or I, you know, had, you know,
Botox, or the right nails oreyelashes, or maybe I had fuller
lips. It has nothing to do withthat real quality, deep,
(34:37):
connected relationships. So yogais really working who you are
from that inside soul level, andit is a great way to manage your
stress, because, let's face it,there is a lot of anxiety that
goes on when you're dating, andso by having a strong yoga
(34:57):
practice, you know, andcontinuously bringing. It, your
problem, your situation, yourangst, to the mat and working
through it in your by the end ofyour class, you can actually
feel a somatic shift in terms ofbeing bothered by it. You know
that guy that you liked didn'tcall you or just letting it go.
(35:19):
So I think it helps in so manyways. It's an inner journey.
It's also a great stressreliever, and it's a great way
to deeply relax. You know, atthe end of shavasana, that's so
many times I've had visions ofthings that I want to manifest.
I mean, I remember I was in yourclass, and I was doing
shavasana, and he came to me socasually and easily, ask Todd to
(35:43):
be on your podcast. So whenyou're Yes, after you've done an
hour, you know, a good yogaclass, hour and a half, and
you're in that deep relaxation,you could say, so, you know,
show me where, where is mysoulmate? Or how do I be my show
me the way. Or one of the thingsthat my one of my prayers was,
send me my soulmate and make itso obvious that I don't miss the
(36:05):
clues, because I would be onefor like, missing clues. Yeah, I
hear, yeah, that's a good so, Imean, yoga is a life long path
every stage of life. I've beendoing yoga since I was 17, and
it totally has changed my life.
I hear
Todd McLaughlin (36:23):
ya got me on my spiritual path? Yeah, I agree.
It's so amazing. Well, Barbara,I love being a Yogini. There we
go. I know it's funny, Irecently heard the pronunciation
of a yogini, and I was like,yogini, yeah, I like both Yogini
and Yogini. Barbara, I'mcurious, can you tell me the
(36:44):
details of this free onlineevent that thank you for
inviting me and to be a part of.
And I'm excited. I This podcastis coming out on Friday 13th,
and the whole magnetize yourmats match Summit is running
from June 9 through the 19th, soat the time, so right in the
middle. So that's good, right inthe middle. And people can still
(37:06):
sign up. I have a link in thedescription where they just
click and it'll take you, takethem right to it, and it is
free. All you have to do. Isigned in there as well and put
my email in so I could get allyour promotional material to
just to see, because I am reallyimpressed with how you've put
this together. It's a lot ofwork what you're doing.
Unknown (37:24):
So you're like producing a Broadway play,
Todd McLaughlin (37:27):
yeah, and you have a background, what remind
me what your career back I wasin
Unknown (37:31):
media for 40 years. I sold advertising for travel
magazines, websites, digitalprograms. Even created e
learning programs for clients.
So, yeah, I've always been onthe media sales side, whoa, but
it was print up until, you know,1015, years ago, and then got
into the digital and within thetravel industry, though. So I'm
a big traveler.
Todd McLaughlin (37:52):
Very cool.
Well, you're doing an amazingjob. It's definitely coming
together. Can you talk a littleabout how it all goes down and
explain the details. Yeah.
Unknown (38:01):
So it's really, really easy. I mean, first of all, it
starts the morning of June 9, soat 9am two interviews will be
delivered to your inbox. If yousign up, it is free. Each
interview is 30 minutes, so weknow that everyone's busy and
we're bombarded with so manydifferent distractions. It's
available for 24 hours, so youcan listen to it while you're
(38:23):
driving. You can listen to itwhile you're going for your
daily walk. And then the nextmorning, the next set of
interviews will be deliveredinto your inbox, so there will
be different topics each day,from the law of attraction, like
we were just talking about, to,you know, conquering self doubt,
(38:44):
the magic of getting aligned anddecluttering your life, getting
into soul alignment, using EFTand tapping to release grief and
to, you know, heal any kind ofloss in your life. Because one
of the things that we reallyhave discovered, and as the
(39:04):
example of the story that I gaveyou when I first met Kevin and
my mother had passed, is thatgrief can really be a blockage
to receiving love, right? And sohow to walk through the grief
and release it so that you stillare open to attracting love,
whether it's the loss of apartner or the loss of a child,
(39:26):
the loss of a job, right? Youknow, grief shows up in
different ways. So I also have awoman who is a shamanic Soul
Retrieval coach, and so shetalks about shamanic soul
retrieval and extraction, whichI didn't know much about at all.
And as a yogini, I found itextremely fascinating, cool. And
(39:51):
I also have my last twospeakers. Well, the first one is
on the last day, is a couple whojust got married, and they're
in. Their 60s, and they're bothcoaches, transformational
coaches, authors, speakers. Andmet two years ago, three years
ago, during COVID. Yeah, end of20 they met, and he's Australian
(40:13):
from Victoria, so a real goodvariety. And it's just great to
hear from men. So I'm glad Todd,that you've joined us. You're
speaking about secrets from aman's point of view, which I'm
sure a lot of women are going towant to hear. And then my very
last speaker is also Australian,and she's an astrologer, tarot
card reader, feminine power,intuitive, and she's 20 the 22nd
(40:37):
speaker. And I kept saying, Ihave 21 speakers, but when she
came on, she said, Guess what?
20 222, that's the numerology,numerology number for soul
mates. Nice.
Todd McLaughlin (40:50):
Yeah, fit together. So you're like, Well,
clearly, I'm adding you to theroster.
Unknown (40:55):
So she I said, you're in, you're in. But no, she
didn't realize it until the endof our interview. Oh, that's
cool. That's quite I was justlike, talk about being in
alignment. And here's the otherthing that's pretty crazy about
all this, is that we're goinginto a new moon pretty soon,
which is a Gemini New Moon, andthe summit is during the Gemini
time period. And then our fullmoon in June is going to be in
(41:17):
Sagittarius. Well, I am aSagittarius sun sign, Gemini
rising, and I'm doing the summitduring this new moon of Gemini,
which is all about communicationand reaching out, and, you know,
global impact and all of that.
Like, she's telling me all thisduring our interview, and I'm
like, I'm so in alignment. Like,I just picked these dates.
Todd McLaughlin (41:38):
That's amazing.
I noticed June. I think it'sJune 11. Is the full moon? Are
we on the same day? I'm prettysure. I don't know exactly. The
reason I bring it up is becausemy mom, it's my mom's birthday,
so I was really excited to see,oh, it's full moon. And okay,
anytime a full moon lands, my
Unknown (41:56):
birthday, New Moon stepped out. I mean, the new
moon that we're in right now isit Gemini, new moon, gotcha,
gotcha. Yeah, so prettyexciting. And
Todd McLaughlin (42:04):
then if people are like, Well, I just know
there's no way I'm gonna havetime to watch 230 minute videos
every day. Isn't there, like, arelatively inexpensive way for
them,
Unknown (42:16):
VIP package that I'm offering? So if you want to
upgrade, you have lifetimeaccess to all 22 interviews, and
you can really take your timeand listen. I do tell people,
you know when you do listen, ifyou can have a notebook with you
and take notes, because there'sa lot of valuable information.
But if you do want lifetimeaccess, it's $47 for the VIP
upgrade. And you also get a twohour attract your soulmate
(42:38):
vision board workshop that I'llbe leading probably two weeks
after the summit, you'll alsoget a copy of step one, a
digital copy of step one of mybook, The Science of attracting
your soulmate. And I will alsosend you a attract your soulmate
quiz to fill out, and once youfill it out, then we can have a
complimentary call to discusswhat we have noticed about where
(43:00):
you may be stuck in your lovelife, and how we can help you
shift that, and
Todd McLaughlin (43:05):
maybe $47 and if I've already found my
soulmate, maybe I want to listento all the interviews, because I
have friends that are seeking,and I'll actually have some good
advice for them, versus just metelling them, Come on, just get
out there. Right? Meet somepeople. I mean, as you were
explaining some of the details,I was I kind of had that
(43:26):
thought, like, I want to hearall this. I want to hear what
everyone has to say. I
Unknown (43:30):
mean, it doesn't matter if you're married, you should
listen to it too. Because, youknow what, in the last few like
the ones I did with the coupleNancy and Barry, we talk about
how to keep your happily everafter. And I have, in my book
and in that interview, throughthese this communication
exercises, the three things toask your partner every night. So
(43:51):
there are ways, like, attractingyour soulmate is one thing, but
keeping a happy, flourishingmarriage is another, yes. But I
can assure you, Todd, and I knowthat you would vouch for this if
you do your inner work and youtruly marry a partner who is so
aligned with you and complimentsyou, values, long term goals,
(44:13):
lifestyle that is 90% of thework, so that the communication
and the years together areactually easier, and maybe you
just need to learn some goodcommunication skills and
exercises and then practice thisone exercise that I tell you to
stay connected. Because even ifyou did this communication
(44:36):
exercise, like with my firsthusband, like, first of all,
he'd be like, I don't want to dostuff like that. It's ridiculous
as an example. But even if youdid do it, it wouldn't really
repair the in the the theunderlining incompatibilities
(44:58):
that you cannot change. Yes,that are core core we're talking
core level stuff, impossible tochange
Todd McLaughlin (45:07):
or shift. I hear you well said,
Unknown (45:09):
but you just gotta Yeah, that's why, oh, I want I.
One of my taglines is, I saveyou years of unhappiness and
struggling. I save you years. Alittle
Todd McLaughlin (45:22):
bit of coaching goes a long way. You know,
getting some ideas and havingsome insight from outside our
own little perspective, it canhelp big time, right?
Unknown (45:31):
Like my coach, if she hadn't told me what she did, I I
probably would have told Kevin.
Now you heard me,
Todd McLaughlin (45:39):
good point, and you and I would not be here now,
rather
Unknown (45:44):
than me taking responsibility and saying, You
know what? I guess if he'stelling me, it's this isn't the
right time for him, maybe it'snot the right time for me
either. You know? Yeah, so whichis what happened. So I'm
grateful I had that coach.
Todd McLaughlin (45:58):
Oh man. Well, I'm so excited for you, Barbara,
and thank you so much forjoining me. I really appreciate
you taking time out of your day.
It's been great meeting you andhaving you be part of my
community. Thank you forincluding me, and I'm honored.
And thanks again. I really lookforward to seeing the evolution
of what comes out of thissummit. And thank you so much,
and
Unknown (46:19):
you can follow me on Facebook. Barbara magroberg and
I also have a private Facebookgroup if anyone's interested in
joining, called The Science ofattracting your soulmate.
Todd McLaughlin (46:29):
Cool, Barbara, I'll put those links there.
Well, it's really easy forpeople to find you on all your
social media website,
Unknown (46:35):
science of attracting love on Instagram, awesome.
Todd McLaughlin (46:39):
Thank you, Barbara. All right, thanks Todd.
Have a wonderful day. You too.
Thank you.
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Unknown (47:35):
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Welcome to Native Yoga Toddcast. So happy
you are here. My goal with thischannel is to bring
inspirational speakers to themic in the field of yoga,
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Follow us at @nativeyoga andcheck us out at
nativeyogacenter.com. All right,let's begin.
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Today, my special guest isBarbara Magro Berg, and she is
hosting a magnetize your matchsummit to help coach those that
are looking to find love andtheir soulmate. She is a yoga
practitioner. She practices hereat Native Yoga Center, and the
(01:25):
link is in the description foryou to join. You can find her
website, you can find the linkto sign up for the free Summit,
and you can find all her socialmedia handles and reach out. And
I'd say, just go ahead and join.
And you can access and get someinformation to help improve your
ability to meet people that aremeaningful in your life, and
those of us that have reallystrong love relationships, we
(01:47):
can always learn how to be alittle more attentive and listen
better. So with that being said,let's go ahead and begin. I'm so
happy to have Barbara Magro Berghere today, Barbara, how are you
doing? Great. All right. Oh,well, thank you. I'm I'm really
excited because you have, I'vemet you here practicing yoga.
(02:09):
You're currently up in Vermont,but I'm really excited for an
event that you're holding that Iwas able to be a part of, called
the magnetize your match? Canyou tell me, how did this event
come to be, and what is yourintention and goal for holding
this event?
Barbara Magro Berg (02:30):
Right? So the summit is called, magnetize
your match. Top secrets everyambitious woman, 40 plus needs
to know to attract her soulmate, because that was me. And
you know, I really struggled inmy soulmate journey in between
my divorce from my Australianhusband at the age of 35 until I
(02:54):
met my soulmate at the age of 57so dated a lot, but honestly,
was very lost and bewildered asto why love was so elusive for
me. Considering I was raised ina family where my parents were
married for 61 years, mygrandparents were both married
(03:16):
for over 50 years, there was nodivorce in my family.
Todd McLaughlin (03:21):
Yeah, it's a high, high bar to try to live up
to, yeah,
Unknown (03:26):
I suppose, yeah, yeah.
And just being from a differentmindset than than their
generation. You know, lookingback, they probably compromised
a lot more than ever I would,than I would ever be willing to
but did have good marriages, youknow, all of them, all three of
them, my grandparents and myparents anyway. So over the 20
(03:46):
years in between my divorce,like, you know, I did a lot of
workshops. There was no lifecoaches, though, there was no
relationship coaches duringthose days, there was weekend
workshops. I did yoga a lot. Youknow, I've studied yoga since
I'm 17. I even became acertified yoga instructor, um
Iyengar, the Center for yoga inLA, Oh, wow. And so always met
(04:10):
interesting people, always, youknow, had a boyfriend. But in my
work that I do. My subtitle, Isay, you know, I teach you how
to not compromise, compromiseyourself in order to be loved.
And when I finally had thatawareness on how much I
(04:32):
compromised myself in order tobe loved, it was such an
awakening. And wow, and so Ifinally did work with a
relationship coach, and we didtapping EFT to remove
subconscious limiting beliefs.
(04:53):
And I worked with her for 18months. And during that during
that time, Kevin came into mylife, and within three months,
we were engaged, and within ayear, we were. Married, and from
the outside, people thought, Oh,that was so quick. But like you
with your podcast for years, youknow, maybe on the seventh year,
(05:13):
all of a sudden, huge success,but it didn't happen quick. It's
just that when it becomes publicquickly, it looks quick, but
what you don't realize is somuch work that goes on behind
the scenes. There's so much workthat comes to the mat, right? We
bring ourselves to the mat, andthat's where the work really
begins. When
Todd McLaughlin (05:34):
did you first hear the word soulmate?
Unknown (05:37):
When did that sort of understand years and years and
years ago, and yeah, I guess Iwas, I've been, always been the
kind of person, even though Ihad a very successful career,
traveled a lot, veryindependent, I always had this
imaginary desire that there wasa soul mate for me, that there
was going to be that, you know,fairy tale, love story, and how
(06:00):
it was going to look, but moreimportantly, how it was going to
feel. I mean, I remember when Iwas a little girl imagining that
my soulmate was coming andasking me to marry him, like
real fantasy stuff. And my firstmarriage, I think I tried to fit
a square peg into a round holewith that fantasy. And it was a
(06:24):
nightmare of a relationship, andI left it after nine months,
luckily, um, but it took me 20years to shift, and obviously
that was my path. Yeah, I wassupposed to have that time on my
own, working on me and and andgrowing me, you know, yeah,
(06:47):
developing all the things thatwere, you know, I that I was
supposed to learn and that Iwanted to learn.
Todd McLaughlin (06:53):
How would you define a soul mate in
relationship to a great partner.
Unknown (07:01):
So I would say, first of all, I do think that people
can have more than one soulmate.
Todd McLaughlin (07:07):
That's I wanted to ask you that question, yeah,
yeah, because I Yeah. Maybe, insome cases, someone saying I
really want to meet my soulmate. Maybe someone would have
an alternate problem. I have somany soul mates. How do I pick
which one, right? But I knowthat's not usually the problem.
And the
Unknown (07:25):
thing is, you know, like, maybe people have multiple
soul mates, hopefully not at thesame time, but throughout their
lifetime. And I know that theydo, yeah, so I do believe that a
soul mate is truly someone thatis a fantastic vibrational match
with you. It can be a woman, agirlfriend, it could be a
sister, it could be a brother,and it could be a lover. So for
(07:48):
me, I was looking for thatintimate loving relationship
with my soulmate. And when I doa comparison of husband number
one and husband number two, Icould see how I would think that
number one initially was mysoulmate, because on paper, on
the outside, it looked like wehad so much in common, but what
(08:09):
I discovered was that on theinside we were diametrically
opposed, whereas my husbandKevin, on the outside, we have,
you know, a Great compatibility,but on the inside, we are just
so in alignment in so many ways.
I mean, I forget what we werejust talking about this morning,
(08:29):
and he goes, You know, I reallydon't like that. I said, Neither
do I. And it was something Ican't remember what it was, but
it was just, you know, sometimesthe smallest things. So I just
think you're really in sync.
Yeah, so, yeah, good answer.
Todd McLaughlin (08:46):
Well, that's cool. And then, what is your
intention with holding thisonline Summit? What like, if
you, you know the big dream,what is your you know, if you
have a vision for the outcome ofthis event. What are you
envisioning? I mean,
Unknown (09:02):
I really want to have big impact and show women,
single women, maybe even singlemen. But my target really is
single women, because that's whoI was, ambitious, single women
over 40 who have struggled tomeet the right partner, but
they're successful in theircareer and they're successful in
other areas of their life. Ijust want to teach them what I
learned like no one taught me,and so I made so many mistakes,
(09:27):
and there is a science to it,and there is also spiritual
principles and and There's alsopractical exercises that one
needs to do to create the spaceto receive the right partner and
be at that vibration. And I wasnever taught that. You know, I
(09:49):
was raised Catholic. Don't havesex before you get married.
That's all I learned. Theydidn't tell me why. Well, guess
what? In my Summit, I'm going totell you why not to not have sex
before marriage. But why? Whysex? You need to be very careful
with who you bring into yourbedroom, and the reason why. So
(10:09):
we know we weren't taught wewere taught how to drive cars.
We were taught how to dogeometry and trigonometry, and I
don't know about you, but theonly thing between those three
things that I was taught thathas really helped me is driving
a car, the trigonometry and thegeometry has I've never used it
since I took the regions in highschool. Yeah.
Todd McLaughlin (10:29):
Good point.
Good point. No, me neither.
Absolutely not. Well, that'strue. I think if I look back on
my own life, and I think aboutlike, where did the lessons come
in to teach me how to create andor practice healthy
relationship. I feel like I havea similar experience to what you
mentioned of having long termmarried parents. You know, I met
(10:52):
a lot of people along the waythat were, like, shocked that my
parents were still together fora long period of time. A lot of
people had have grown up ineither, you know, broken
families or divorced homes orwhatever. The terminology would
like to use separation for thebetter or whatever, but I'm
Unknown (11:09):
raised in blended families. That's a whole other
new term, right? So the parentremarries, and now they got to
get used to new siblings who arehalf siblings or something,
right? Yeah, good
Todd McLaughlin (11:17):
point, yeah.
And that's about it. Like I justfeel like, okay, here's an
example. So I do, I do feel likeI learned a lot from watching
example, but at the same time, Idon't know that it's that
simple.
Unknown (11:32):
No, what would you say?
Oh, well, you know to thy ownself be true, right? That as
night shall follow day,according to Shakespeare, you
know you need to know who youare, and that's why yoga is such
a fabulous practice and way oflife, right? I mean, I'm not
religious, I'm spiritual, I'm ayogi, right? Because it's like
you have to know who you are andwhat really matters to you and
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what values you hold to beprecious, and just like you're
inside, you know your soul, andby having a practice like yoga,
just as part of your lifestyle,truly enables you to grow so
much so that you can embrace newinformation around relationships
(12:21):
that may have an impact on you,like, what are your patterns?
You know? Why do you keepattracting the same people? And
you know, some of those thingsthat would not be so evident in
your relationship as you witnessyour parents relationship, but
yet it's what you manifest intoyour relationship. And you know,
(12:44):
one of the things that I didlearn along the way, I don't
know if you remember, Geraldjamposki wrote the book making
peace with your parents. Thatwas one of the first books that
I read. And I also read lovingrelationships by Sandra Ray. And
Sandra actually is a lifetimefriend of mine. And both of
those just was like, whoa. Sowhat I started again, all self
(13:07):
coaching, is that thisrelationship, oh, I have
difficulty with my mother, andguess what? This person has a
lot of the same qualities of myas my mother, or I have this
kind of difficulty with myfather. My father was a great
man. He was a great provider,but he never was verbally
expressive of His love andaffection towards me. And so
(13:29):
guess what? I find men. Iattract men who, yeah, I know
they like me, but they're notexpressive. And as a woman, that
dries me out, you know, yougotta water the plant with you.
Know I love you. I'm glad I'mwith you. Whatever verbal for
me. Then I discovered the fivelanguages of love that book so
you know to know yourself andlike what is so important to you
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is, I think 75% of it. And thengetting to a place where you
know you deserve, yourworthiness and your
deservingness to have thatrelationship that is quality and
supportive. And I always used toput when I would write my list
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that he always has my back, likeno matter what, my partner
always has my back. And theseare all things that you just
learn through life. So my, my,my Summit is really about
expediting that process, becauseI've gathered 22 experts on
various topics of love andhealing. And, you know, offering
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so much great wisdom and maybenew ideas for people to embark
on in terms of practices thatthey could do. So that's all I
wish I had it when I was I feellike if I had had this
information, I would not havehad 20 years in between
relationships.
Todd McLaughlin (14:58):
Yeah, yeah. Can you remind me the name of your
book that you just published?
Unknown (15:02):
It's called The Science of attracting your soulmate.
Very cool, four steps to loveand happiness with ease. So
yeah, so it just came out onAmazon, and I thought doing a
summit would be a great way tobring these thought leaders
together within this field andutilize it as a book launch for
(15:23):
my book, because part of my VIPpackage is that you would get a
digital copy of the first stepin my book. So my book is all
about what I did over the yearsto attract my soulmate all the
different things, from the innerwork to the healing work to the
writing and the journaling, aswell as the woo, woo stuff, like
(15:44):
vision boards, Feng Shui, Moonrituals, all of that. So on the
summit, I have somebody whotalks about Feng Shui, five
things to not put in yourbedroom. I was blown away, blown
away by what she said. I
Todd McLaughlin (16:01):
know you can't share that here. We'll need to
sign up to get the information,but that's pretty classic. What
normal things that you wouldjust have in your bedroom? So
did you have to clean some stuff
Unknown (16:11):
up corner? Of course, you know, and you know, I would
always put two of everything tocrystals. I put my my actual
vision board that I made for myrelationship in the corner, I
wrote a soulmate prayer that Iwould say every night. I put a
picture of two lovebirds and allof that. And that's all fine,
but what she tells you is, wouldblow, will blow your mind of
(16:31):
what not to put in there. Sovery cool. My point is that
that's kind of like the outsidestuff that you could do, yeah,
while you're doing your innerwork. So my book actually, is
actually fun. That's why I saidfour steps to attracting love
and happiness with ease. Ishould have put and fun
exclamation point, because itdoesn't have to be hard. The
(16:54):
path of self discovery can bereally fun, interesting and
like, Wow, I love that. Yeah,that's what I want. I want
someone who's also into art or,you know, going to nice museums
or doing yoga or whatever. So,
Todd McLaughlin (17:12):
yeah, very cool. Well, when you met your
husband, did you right away havea thought, could this be? Was it
a couple weeks later that itbecame apparent what was the
timeline? Weird
Unknown (17:30):
situation of how it all happened. But yeah, we met
online, and he was living hisprofile said, Florida. So when
we when we connected, I waslike, Oh, good, Florida, because
I had made a rule no more longdistance relationships. I want
to meet someone in theneighborhood. So his profile
said Florida. But when I got onthe phone with him, he said he
was living in Utah. I'm like,what? I was like, no Utah,
(17:53):
Florida anyway, chat, chat,chat. There was definitely a
connection. Um, we talked a lot,we wrote a lot of emails, and
before I even met him, like itwas in January that we met
online. And I know this soundsweird, but by February, he was
like, professing his love for meon the phone. We hadn't even met
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yet, which can be a littlecreepy when you're doing online
dating. But I definitely, yeah,like there was so many things,
you know. Anyway, we wound upmeeting in person in May, and
spent a week at Sundance Resortin Utah, you know, Robert
Redford's place. And my motherhad just passed away April 1. So
(18:36):
I was on my way back from atrade show in Vancouver, and I
thought, You know what? I thinkI'm going to go book a cabin in
the woods. It would be a goodway for him to come and visit
me, because I was setting it up.
So it wasn't like, oh, I had togo and stay at his house. No,
no. Anyway, he did. He pickedyou up at the airport. We went
grocery shopping right away,something we still do together a
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lot. Was pretty funny, because Ihad a cabin in the kitchen. We
made dinner, and every night hewould come up and visit us,
visit me, talking, greatconnection. But as the week went
on, I could feel him pullingaway all this closeness on the
phone, which is very common. Idon't know if anyone ever read
the book Johnny gray. Men arefrom Mars. Women are from Venus.
(19:19):
Yeah. Men are like, rubberbands. They get close, and then
they pull away. Well, I couldsee the rubber band pulling
away, and thank God I read thebook. I knew what was going on
in my past. I would have chasedbut I didn't. I was like, You
know what? I'm just going to domy thing and go my separate way.
I wound up believing was nice,meeting you, that was it. Didn't
(19:41):
talk for three years. Oh, wow. Iwas so disappointed. My mother
had just died, and I haddefinitely had strong feelings,
but, you know, it just wasn'thappening. So I went away sad.
I'm never going back to you.
Utah ever again. Went back toFlorida. He healed myself, got
(20:05):
on with my life. Three yearslater, I'm in Vermont with
girlfriends at a reunion fromhigh school. There's like 10 of
us, and I get these emails fromKevin Berg, three different
email addresses. I've neverstopped thinking about you. I've
been through a personaltransformation in my life. Can
we talk? Wow. And I was in areally good place in my life,
(20:26):
really good. And I was like,what? Anyway, we wound up
talking. And he told me that hehad had lashes in front of his
eye that week, and he thought hehad a brain tumor, and he didn't
want to drag me into his healthproblems. Wow. It turned out he
had a carotid artery and he hadto have emergency surgery, and
they told him, if you live pasttwo maybe three years, you'll be
(20:49):
doing good. After three years,great health records. He
contacted me,
Todd McLaughlin (20:57):
Wow, that's cool. What a cool story. I
didn't realize there was thatthree year period of getting to
know so when you said,initially, we didn't
Unknown (21:05):
talk those three years, but when he did come back, at
this point, I was working withmy tapping coach, removing my
limiting beliefs and and atfirst I was like, with her. I
was like, There's no way. Man,he freaking heard me. There's no
way. And she said to me, andthis is why coaches, oh, they,
I'm serious, can make all thedifference. She said to me, I
(21:28):
think you should give him achance. Life is not a straight
line. He had to go through hisown personal transformation to
be ready for you. Your motherhad just died. You had to go
through your own grievingperiod. It was the time to meet,
but not the time to cometogether. She said, give him a
chance. He had everything thatyou were looking for. So I did,
and here we are celebratingeight years this October of
(21:50):
being married, and it's been thebest decision I ever made in my
Todd McLaughlin (21:54):
life. Oh, that's amazing. Barbara,
congratulations. I mean, I Ireally love hearing the aspect
to that he consciously did whathe did because he wanted to be
kind to you, and then in yourmind, building up all the stuff
that we all build up about I washurt, how dare he or she, or
(22:14):
whatever the situation is, and
Unknown (22:16):
old self, old mindset, yeah, that's really fixed
mindset. She forced me to gointo a growth mindset. Yeah,
yeah, very and also, I want topoint out to women listening to
this is that, you know, thatwhole dating experience can be
really bewildering, but I thinkthat there are still nice men
(22:37):
out there. They are gentlemen. Imean, if you ever saw Kevin
walked down the street. He'svery low key. You know, he
doesn't have 20 million friends.
He's not the life of the party,but he is. He is a good guy. You
know, he's respectful. He wasraised really well. He respects
women, versus the first husbandAustralian. You think they
respect women. I know we got ourshared Australia story, but like
(22:59):
he the antithesis of that,compared to my first husband. My
first husband hated his mother.
Kevin had a respectful, lovingrelationship with his mother,
you know, only spoke highly ofher, but he you know, it's not
like she had two older brothers.
So he was a manly man. Grew upon a farm in Michigan, and he's
(23:21):
somebody that truly 2030, yearsago, when I was younger, I never
would have even imagined beinginterested in a man like Kevin,
way too quiet, not cool. He'scool. He's very cool, actually,
but he's like, he's aMidwesterner, yeah,
Todd McLaughlin (23:44):
yeah, I'm from New York. Yeah, understood. And
I
Unknown (23:47):
lived in California 11 years, you know, like, beautiful
people. So, yeah,
Todd McLaughlin (23:53):
what do you think is the top one or two
things you hear from people thatyou're coaching, that is what
they're bumping up with thebiggest challenge. Is it that
the majority of men that theymeet aren't gentlemen? Is it
that people aren't wanting tocommit to long term happiness?
(24:19):
Is it what are the main painpoints that you keep hearing the
Unknown (24:24):
Yeah, the number one thing is that finding the
quality men, the quality of themen that they want. Like there
are a lot of single men outthere, but you know, I have one
woman who went through myprogram, and I'm really proud of
her, because although she hasn'tmet her soul mate, she has
dated, and after two or threedates, has said, No, thank you.
You're not for me. Whereas, inthe past, she would have stayed
(24:47):
because she didn't want to bealone. But like her, I would
say, like she's like the qualityof people that she is attracting
at the vibration that she is at,right? So that's another thing
that you have to get reallyclose. Here on if you're
attracting people that you sayare not high quality, then you
need to up your quality, becauseit's all about the law of
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attraction. Mirror, mirror onthe wall. There's nobody out
there, but you so whatever youcomplain about that you're not
getting, you must become right.
And so that's number one. Theother thing is, a lot of people
will say, Oh, men just want tohave sex. And, you know, look, I
think women want to have sextoo. So it's asking the right
(25:30):
questions and siphoning peopleout. And it's not that you don't
want to have sex. You just don'twant to have sex right away. You
want to just make sure that thisis somebody that you are safe
with, emotionally andphysically, and that they're on
the same page as you. So there'salways that. And then the other
(25:50):
thing is, you'll find a lot oftimes that, oh, men just don't
want to commit. They just don'twant to commit and that was one
of my big things. But again, Ihad to ask myself, Where am I
not committed to myself? Wheream I not committed to my own
(26:11):
truth, like I should be sayingwithin a first couple of dates
with these people, that I amlooking for a long term
committed relationship, ratherthan being so afraid of
rejection that I say nothing andthen I've I'm wind up being with
someone who doesn't want a longterm commitment. Yeah, good
point. I have to be able tostand up for myself and really
ask for what I want or not fromyou, but to share, in general, I
(26:35):
am looking for someone to sharemy life with a long term
committed relationship, and nothave any embarrassment about
that. And I used to be soembarrassed to say that, like,
awful
Todd McLaughlin (26:51):
do, yeah, that's, that's a really good
point. I hear you. Do you feellike you need to just practice
saying this out loud in front ofthe mirror. What was your What
was your stumble? What was yourgrowth? Point to being able to
come out to Kevin and say, I'mgonna vocalize this, you know,
you didn't have to. So that wassomething that you kind of wear,
(27:14):
that you need to work on, but itwasn't a major Yeah.
Unknown (27:16):
Okay, so here's another thing. You know, I lived in
California for 11 years, likepeople are single, people are
not married for 20 years, right,for the most part. And there's a
lot of women who are beautifuland so, you know, there's a lot
of men who want to experiencethe banquet of life. But I never
(27:36):
dated anyone, and I this was aninteresting thing. Kevin's the
first person that I dated mywhole entire life whose parents
were married for over 50 years.
Everybody else parents weredivorced. Amazing, right? Yeah,
so, uh, right. There he wascoming from that stable
background, and he was marriedfor 20 years. So I immediately
(27:59):
attracted somebody who was usedto being married, whereas in
California they're used to beingsingle.
Todd McLaughlin (28:12):
But I shifted.
I shifted, yeah, I hear ya doyou obviously both of us, you
and I, remember the time beforethe internet, before online
dating? Where do you standcurrently in relationship to
coaching your clients on the useof online dating versus you just
got to get out there and meetsomebody. What are your
(28:33):
thoughts? Oh,
Unknown (28:35):
no, my whole program is all about igniting the law of
attraction and applying the twomost important spiritual
principles of the universe. So Ireally started core. This is my
book. Is not a dating book. Mybook is about personal
transformation and to reallyunderstand the law of attraction
and how it works. So one of thebiggest turning points was
(28:58):
understanding, did you ever readthe book Science of Getting
Rich? By Wallace D wattles,well, my book is named after of
getting attracting yoursoulmate, because there's two
scientific principles that rulelife, and then these are the law
of attraction, but they're justset in a different way, and they
come from his book. There's onedivine intelligence, Formless
(29:21):
Substance or thinking stuff fromwhich all things are made. This
invisible one divineintelligence, also called Higher
Power, invisible energy, orwhatever word feels, right, is
the ultimate stuff on which allthings are creating. Everything
starts from Divine invisibleenergy. This is a scientific
principle. Okay, let's juststart with that. The reason why
(29:45):
this is important a thought inthis Formless Substance Produces
the thing that is imagined bythe thought. In other words,
your thought is. The invisibleenergy becomes physical form.
(30:06):
Thoughts become things. Thereare no good men out there.
You're right. We're going tosend you some shitty men just to
prove you're right. Men justwant to have sex. You're right.
We're going to send you men whojust want to have sex. So the
thing is, this is where the workbegins. Yes, great point this.
We are taught geometrytrigonometry, but we are not
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taught the basic laws of theuniverse when we're in grade
school, and that's where itbegins. So by doing that, it
doesn't matter if you likeonline dating or you don't like
online dating, if you don't, Ihave clients who do not want to
do online dating, and then Ihave others who are totally into
it. It is the law of attraction.
It is a spiritual principle thatif you want to attract your
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soulmate and you do this innerwork, and the things that I say
because you do have to do dailystuff like daily gratitude, the
more grateful we are for what wehave, the more grateful things
that we want, that we can begrateful for, will come to us.
So again, complaining that thereis no one in your life just
creates more no one in yourlife.
Todd McLaughlin (31:17):
It's so basic.
It's amazing, isn't it? Yeah,
Unknown (31:20):
you know what, if you don't want to do online dating,
no problem. I have a friend inNew Zealand who wanted to meet
her soulmate, and this wasbefore internet dating, but it's
a great example. And she, youknow, Paramahansa, Yogananda.
Yeah, he wrote Autobiography ofa Yogi. She was a big devotee of
(31:41):
his. And you know, he has awhole area where you can
actually join and become a nunwith them. Yeah, so she filled
out her application and put iton her altar, and she said,
Okay, I really want to meet mysoulmate and I want to have a
family, but if that is notwhat's right for me, I will go
and join the nun. Hurry of thissect, but I'm going to give it
(32:02):
two weeks. During that two weekperiod, she was walking down a
street in Auckland, and a mancomes running up to her, ma'am,
ma'am, you dropped your scarf.
She turns around. There's thiscute guy. Chat, chat, chat,
around the same age. Turns outhe's a musician. So is she? He
invites you to go have coffee.
Turns out he's a ParamahansaYogananda devotee also. And this
(32:27):
was 2025, years ago. Um, anyway,he asks her out, yes. So like
Sunday, he comes to her house topick her up. Where were they
going to go? And she had justbeen to a flea market and had
bought the top of a sweatpantoutfit that was Ty died. So, you
know, this was a long time ago,yeah, well, he comes knocking on
her door to pick her up wearingthe bottom
Todd McLaughlin (32:48):
of the same outfit. Oh, my gosh, that's
holding. They got married. They
Unknown (32:52):
two kids. They live in Auckland. Oh, that's cool. So
the point is that the law ofattraction is immutable. It
doesn't matter whether it'sthrough match.com or walking
down the street. Agree. Andthing that I always want to
share over and over, especiallymy evidence of my story, is that
your soulmate cannot pass youby. Your soulmate will find you.
(33:14):
Steven found Kristen. Kevinfound me. Great point. Yeah,
yeah. Trust that. You have tohave a lot of faith. Yeah, it's
interesting
Todd McLaughlin (33:24):
too, because right, when you said, she says,
I'm giving it two weeks, I hadthis thought of, like, Oh,
that's not a very long time.
Like, like, all right, twoweeks, I'm laying it down. But
only takes a minute. Girl, thatclarity, yeah, that clarity of
intent, like, Oh no, I'm I'msaying two weeks. Like, clear,
yeah, she had been
Unknown (33:42):
doing her inner work.
She was in that place, ready toreceive, and she was really
clear and what, and she was verycommitted to
Todd McLaughlin (33:51):
that's cool.
Barbara, how would you relateyour experience with yoga
practice in relation to the workthat you're speaking of, and
that you coach on how, howimportant is yoga to your
journey and or, do you believeyoga would be a good way or
something that somebody couldengage with to help the
relationship building process orthe Soulmate Attraction process?
(34:14):
Yeah,
Unknown (34:16):
well, you know, the yoga journey is a journey from
inside out and so often in oursociety, we think, Oh, if I was
prettier, or my hair was done,or I, you know, had, you know,
Botox, or the right nails oreyelashes, or maybe I had fuller
lips. It has nothing to do withthat real quality, deep,
(34:37):
connected relationships. So yogais really working who you are
from that inside soul level, andit is a great way to manage your
stress, because, let's face it,there is a lot of anxiety that
goes on when you're dating, andso by having a strong yoga
(34:57):
practice, you know, andcontinuously bringing. It, your
problem, your situation, yourangst, to the mat and working
through it in your by the end ofyour class, you can actually
feel a somatic shift in terms ofbeing bothered by it. You know
that guy that you liked didn'tcall you or just letting it go.
(35:19):
So I think it helps in so manyways. It's an inner journey.
It's also a great stressreliever, and it's a great way
to deeply relax. You know, atthe end of shavasana, that's so
many times I've had visions ofthings that I want to manifest.
I mean, I remember I was in yourclass, and I was doing
shavasana, and he came to me socasually and easily, ask Todd to
(35:43):
be on your podcast. So whenyou're Yes, after you've done an
hour, you know, a good yogaclass, hour and a half, and
you're in that deep relaxation,you could say, so, you know,
show me where, where is mysoulmate? Or how do I be my show
me the way. Or one of the thingsthat my one of my prayers was,
send me my soulmate and make itso obvious that I don't miss the
(36:05):
clues, because I would be onefor like, missing clues. Yeah, I
hear, yeah, that's a good so, Imean, yoga is a life long path
every stage of life. I've beendoing yoga since I was 17, and
it totally has changed my life.
I hear
Todd McLaughlin (36:23):
ya got me on my spiritual path? Yeah, I agree.
It's so amazing. Well, Barbara,I love being a Yogini. There we
go. I know it's funny, Irecently heard the pronunciation
of a yogini, and I was like,yogini, yeah, I like both Yogini
and Yogini. Barbara, I'mcurious, can you tell me the
(36:44):
details of this free onlineevent that thank you for
inviting me and to be a part of.
And I'm excited. I This podcastis coming out on Friday 13th,
and the whole magnetize yourmats match Summit is running
from June 9 through the 19th, soat the time, so right in the
middle. So that's good, right inthe middle. And people can still
(37:06):
sign up. I have a link in thedescription where they just
click and it'll take you, takethem right to it, and it is
free. All you have to do. Isigned in there as well and put
my email in so I could get allyour promotional material to
just to see, because I am reallyimpressed with how you've put
this together. It's a lot ofwork what you're doing.
Unknown (37:24):
So you're like producing a Broadway play,
Todd McLaughlin (37:27):
yeah, and you have a background, what remind
me what your career back I wasin
Unknown (37:31):
media for 40 years. I sold advertising for travel
magazines, websites, digitalprograms. Even created e
learning programs for clients.
So, yeah, I've always been onthe media sales side, whoa, but
it was print up until, you know,1015, years ago, and then got
into the digital and within thetravel industry, though. So I'm
a big traveler.
Todd McLaughlin (37:52):
Very cool.
Well, you're doing an amazingjob. It's definitely coming
together. Can you talk a littleabout how it all goes down and
explain the details. Yeah.
Unknown (38:01):
So it's really, really easy. I mean, first of all, it
starts the morning of June 9, soat 9am two interviews will be
delivered to your inbox. If yousign up, it is free. Each
interview is 30 minutes, so weknow that everyone's busy and
we're bombarded with so manydifferent distractions. It's
available for 24 hours, so youcan listen to it while you're
(38:23):
driving. You can listen to itwhile you're going for your
daily walk. And then the nextmorning, the next set of
interviews will be deliveredinto your inbox, so there will
be different topics each day,from the law of attraction, like
we were just talking about, to,you know, conquering self doubt,
(38:44):
the magic of getting aligned anddecluttering your life, getting
into soul alignment, using EFTand tapping to release grief and
to, you know, heal any kind ofloss in your life. Because one
of the things that we reallyhave discovered, and as the
(39:04):
example of the story that I gaveyou when I first met Kevin and
my mother had passed, is thatgrief can really be a blockage
to receiving love, right? And sohow to walk through the grief
and release it so that you stillare open to attracting love,
whether it's the loss of apartner or the loss of a child,
(39:26):
the loss of a job, right? Youknow, grief shows up in
different ways. So I also have awoman who is a shamanic Soul
Retrieval coach, and so shetalks about shamanic soul
retrieval and extraction, whichI didn't know much about at all.
And as a yogini, I found itextremely fascinating, cool. And
(39:51):
I also have my last twospeakers. Well, the first one is
on the last day, is a couple whojust got married, and they're
in. Their 60s, and they're bothcoaches, transformational
coaches, authors, speakers. Andmet two years ago, three years
ago, during COVID. Yeah, end of20 they met, and he's Australian
(40:13):
from Victoria, so a real goodvariety. And it's just great to
hear from men. So I'm glad Todd,that you've joined us. You're
speaking about secrets from aman's point of view, which I'm
sure a lot of women are going towant to hear. And then my very
last speaker is also Australian,and she's an astrologer, tarot
card reader, feminine power,intuitive, and she's 20 the 22nd
(40:37):
speaker. And I kept saying, Ihave 21 speakers, but when she
came on, she said, Guess what?
20 222, that's the numerology,numerology number for soul
mates. Nice.
Todd McLaughlin (40:50):
Yeah, fit together. So you're like, Well,
clearly, I'm adding you to theroster.
Unknown (40:55):
So she I said, you're in, you're in. But no, she
didn't realize it until the endof our interview. Oh, that's
cool. That's quite I was justlike, talk about being in
alignment. And here's the otherthing that's pretty crazy about
all this, is that we're goinginto a new moon pretty soon,
which is a Gemini New Moon, andthe summit is during the Gemini
time period. And then our fullmoon in June is going to be in
(41:17):
Sagittarius. Well, I am aSagittarius sun sign, Gemini
rising, and I'm doing the summitduring this new moon of Gemini,
which is all about communicationand reaching out, and, you know,
global impact and all of that.
Like, she's telling me all thisduring our interview, and I'm
like, I'm so in alignment. Like,I just picked these dates.
Todd McLaughlin (41:38):
That's amazing.
I noticed June. I think it'sJune 11. Is the full moon? Are
we on the same day? I'm prettysure. I don't know exactly. The
reason I bring it up is becausemy mom, it's my mom's birthday,
so I was really excited to see,oh, it's full moon. And okay,
anytime a full moon lands, my
Unknown (41:56):
birthday, New Moon stepped out. I mean, the new
moon that we're in right now isit Gemini, new moon, gotcha,
gotcha. Yeah, so prettyexciting. And
Todd McLaughlin (42:04):
then if people are like, Well, I just know
there's no way I'm gonna havetime to watch 230 minute videos
every day. Isn't there, like, arelatively inexpensive way for
them,
Unknown (42:16):
VIP package that I'm offering? So if you want to
upgrade, you have lifetimeaccess to all 22 interviews, and
you can really take your timeand listen. I do tell people,
you know when you do listen, ifyou can have a notebook with you
and take notes, because there'sa lot of valuable information.
But if you do want lifetimeaccess, it's $47 for the VIP
upgrade. And you also get a twohour attract your soulmate
(42:38):
vision board workshop that I'llbe leading probably two weeks
after the summit, you'll alsoget a copy of step one, a
digital copy of step one of mybook, The Science of attracting
your soulmate. And I will alsosend you a attract your soulmate
quiz to fill out, and once youfill it out, then we can have a
complimentary call to discusswhat we have noticed about where
(43:00):
you may be stuck in your lovelife, and how we can help you
shift that, and
Todd McLaughlin (43:05):
maybe $47 and if I've already found my
soulmate, maybe I want to listento all the interviews, because I
have friends that are seeking,and I'll actually have some good
advice for them, versus just metelling them, Come on, just get
out there. Right? Meet somepeople. I mean, as you were
explaining some of the details,I was I kind of had that
(43:26):
thought, like, I want to hearall this. I want to hear what
everyone has to say. I
Unknown (43:30):
mean, it doesn't matter if you're married, you should
listen to it too. Because, youknow what, in the last few like
the ones I did with the coupleNancy and Barry, we talk about
how to keep your happily everafter. And I have, in my book
and in that interview, throughthese this communication
exercises, the three things toask your partner every night. So
(43:51):
there are ways, like, attractingyour soulmate is one thing, but
keeping a happy, flourishingmarriage is another, yes. But I
can assure you, Todd, and I knowthat you would vouch for this if
you do your inner work and youtruly marry a partner who is so
aligned with you and complimentsyou, values, long term goals,
(44:13):
lifestyle that is 90% of thework, so that the communication
and the years together areactually easier, and maybe you
just need to learn some goodcommunication skills and
exercises and then practice thisone exercise that I tell you to
stay connected. Because even ifyou did this communication
(44:36):
exercise, like with my firsthusband, like, first of all,
he'd be like, I don't want to dostuff like that. It's ridiculous
as an example. But even if youdid do it, it wouldn't really
repair the in the the theunderlining incompatibilities
(44:58):
that you cannot change. Yes,that are core core we're talking
core level stuff, impossible tochange
Todd McLaughlin (45:07):
or shift. I hear you well said,
Unknown (45:09):
but you just gotta Yeah, that's why, oh, I want I.
One of my taglines is, I saveyou years of unhappiness and
struggling. I save you years. Alittle
Todd McLaughlin (45:22):
bit of coaching goes a long way. You know,
getting some ideas and havingsome insight from outside our
own little perspective, it canhelp big time, right?
Unknown (45:31):
Like my coach, if she hadn't told me what she did, I I
probably would have told Kevin.
Now you heard me,
Todd McLaughlin (45:39):
good point, and you and I would not be here now,
rather
Unknown (45:44):
than me taking responsibility and saying, You
know what? I guess if he'stelling me, it's this isn't the
right time for him, maybe it'snot the right time for me
either. You know? Yeah, so whichis what happened. So I'm
grateful I had that coach.
Todd McLaughlin (45:58):
Oh man. Well, I'm so excited for you, Barbara,
and thank you so much forjoining me. I really appreciate
you taking time out of your day.
It's been great meeting you andhaving you be part of my
community. Thank you forincluding me, and I'm honored.
And thanks again. I really lookforward to seeing the evolution
of what comes out of thissummit. And thank you so much,
and
Unknown (46:19):
you can follow me on Facebook. Barbara magroberg and
I also have a private Facebookgroup if anyone's interested in
joining, called The Science ofattracting your soulmate.
Todd McLaughlin (46:29):
Cool, Barbara, I'll put those links there.
Well, it's really easy forpeople to find you on all your
social media website,
Unknown (46:35):
science of attracting love on Instagram, awesome.
Todd McLaughlin (46:39):
Thank you, Barbara. All right, thanks Todd.
Have a wonderful day. You too.
Thank you.
Native yoga, Todd, cast isproduced by myself. The theme
music is dreamed up by BryceAllen. If you like this show,
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let me know if there's room forimprovement. I want to hear that
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Unknown (47:35):
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