On Handling Haters

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In today’s episode of Navigate the Day, I’m reflecting on one of Marcus Aurelius’ reminders—that while others may hate or despise us, their hatred is theirs to carry, not ours. My responsibility isn’t to win their approval or fight fire with fire, but to remain true to my own character: kind, good-natured, and willing to respond with integrity rather than retaliation.

The truth is, I haven’t always lived that way. When I first started journaling about Stoicism, I was loud about it—maybe even arrogant at times. I thought I was embodying the philosophy, but really I was still just learning. Looking back, I see how much immaturity and impulsiveness colored my behavior. That’s been humbling, because the gap between what I know and what I practice is still very real.

I’ve realized it’s easy for me to let frustration turn into hate—whether toward others or even myself. Meeting anger with anger doesn’t just hurt them, it hurts me. Marcus challenges me to do something harder: to be patient, to respond with sincerity, and to let kindness—not bitterness—set the tone.

I’m far from perfect at this. I still stumble, and often. But each time I resist the pull of resentment, I feel just a little more free. Hatred enslaves the hater, while kindness strengthens the one who chooses it. That’s the work I’m trying to do—slowly, imperfectly, but sincerely.

If you’ve ever struggled with criticism, rejection, or even your own harsh self-judgment, I hope this episode encourages you as it has me: don’t let hate dictate who you are. Choose to be kind anyway.

Thank you for listening and joining me on my journey of self-discovery!

Mediations and Prompts influenced from The Daily Stoic Books

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