December 3, 2023 • 16 mins
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Woody and I are back in our winter home in Puerto Rico!😎🏝🇵🇷 I'm choosing this particular episode as my next 🔁 BEST OF S2E1 - Gaining More Patience, as a reminder for all of us to keep our patience in check! ✅
Ever found yourself on the brink of losing your cool? 😤 Let's face it, we've all been there, but my experiences navigating island life in Puerto Rico and combating language barriers might just reveal the secret to a happier, healthier well being. ☮️
Especially with more holidays heading our way, patience needs to be on top of the list! 🔖Take a breath 😮💨 and choose the realization that uncontrollable forces 🌩⚡️will always be in front of us. Finding grace along with gratitude 🙏 , will keep your positive perspective in check! 🥰
Links!
- https://betterup.com/blog/importance-of-patience-in-life ( the importance of patience in life: 8 benefits )
- https://visit1000islands.com/experiences/first-time-visitors/ ( ✅ out this website to see why I love my NY home! ❤️ )
- julierogers@nearestanddearestpodcast.com ( send me an email with any suggestions, comments or share how YOU handle patience in YOUR life! ☮️ )
- www.nearestanddearestpodcast.com ( ✅ out my website for more episodes & show notes/links! 📝 )
- https://www.speakpipe.com/NearestAndDearestPodcast ( please leave me a recorded message! 🗣 I'll send you one back! 🎤 )
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Julie Rogers (00:05):
No one ever said life is easy, but I believe by
giving yourself permission, youwill find you have more control
over your life than you realize.
I'm Julie, I hope you will joinme by taking responsibility for
yourself, by only controllingthe things you can and letting
go of the things that you can't.
By doing this, you will havediscovered the secret to having
(00:30):
happy, healthy and morefulfilling relationships.
This is Nearest and DearestPodcast.
I'm Julie Rogers and you arelistening to Season 2, Episode 1
, Gaining More Patience.
Welcome back, I've missed you.
It's been over three monthssince I moved down to Puerto
(00:53):
Rico for the winters with Woodyand let me tell you it has been
a roller coaster ride.
You know the old saying patienceis a virtue, but there is more
to it than that.
Alasderr McIntyre, aphilosopher, once said patience
is the virtue of waitingattentively, without complaint.
(01:16):
There is a difference that canhelp you whenever you find
yourself feeling mad or beinggrumpy about mostly dealing with
normal everyday lifeexperiences that you have
limited control over.
The difference is firstaccepting that you only have
(01:37):
limited control and thenrealizing that you decide how
you will manage your ownreactions to those interactions
life throws at you, no matterhow you deal with these
nuisances or inconveniences.
It's your temperament that willcause you to feel miserable and
(01:59):
unpleasantness, if you allow itto.
Remember being a kid inelementary school and the
teacher would tell everyone toline up at the door, one at a
time, in an orderly fashion, andwait until the teacher tells
you to walk, not run, to recess.
You had to learn patience.
(02:20):
When you reached outside, youfinally got the freedom to run
around until it was time to comeback inside.
Somewhere along the way,as adults, trying to keep
patience can be a struggle.
You can explain your lack ofpatience with many valid points.
(02:41):
However, figuring out whatpushes your buttons to the
extreme, that causes you to takethe offending situation, and
letting it consume your ownpatience, will definitely help
you gain new found knowledge.
Of course, kids show signs ofnot being patient they're kids
(03:05):
after all but usually theirparents, teachers or coaches are
reminding them to keep patiencein check.
Adults don't always havereminders and it's easier to
complain, justify and rant abouthow unfair whatever is
happening at any given time.
(03:26):
For myself, when I take thatbreath and I acknowledge the
uncontrollable circumstancesthat I'm dealing with while they
are happening, it helps me feelso much better.
I can't control long lines, fullparking lots, crappy customer
(03:46):
service, aggressive drivers,canceled flights, when my
favorite ice cream can't befound in any grocery store
freezers.
Here's my disclosure about that.
It's Friendly's Fudge Swirl oranything else that happens when
(04:07):
I interact with everydaysituations.
Life has its own pace.
It doesn't always line up withyours.
The alternative getting mad,defensive, being rude to others,
not only shows an unflatteringside of your personality.
(04:28):
It also isn't good for your ownwell-being.
No one benefits from being mad,angry or annoyed.
It can escalate to ruining yourwhole day.
It takes practice to accomplishthe ability to step back and
(04:48):
specifically make that choice,to not let their circumstances
alter your mood, ego or yourdemeanor.
It's amazing how much better Ifeel when I can do that.
So why not give yourself a passby not letting it consume you
(05:13):
with negative vibes?
The end result will be a moretolerable experience.
Don't let it fester.
Realize that moment offrustration is just that, a
moment.
It doesn't define your nextmoment or how the rest of your
(05:35):
day or night is going to go.
I know it isn't always an easyskill set, but the more you
become aware of how you perceiveyour own everyday occurrences
and accept the reality that theworld doesn't evolve around just
you, you will be able to viewthose same everyday activities
(06:00):
with a more positive, acceptingand gracious mindset.
I learned quickly that islandtime is a real thing, not just
the phrase used to describe aneasy going, live in the moment
attitude with hammocks, flipflops, cocktails and hitting the
(06:21):
beach kind of vibes.
It also means some things movea little more slowly down here
in paradise.
Puerto Rico is 100 miles longand 35 miles wide.
It packs a lot of scenery,culture and amazing people.
Our home is in Ceiba, which ison the northeast coast of the
(06:45):
island, bordering the AtlanticOcean.
When I bought appliances forour condo, we went through
Costco.
Back in the States, you don'treally think too much about
buying what you need.
As long as it's in stock, youshould be able to get it either
shipped directly to your home oran option of picking it up at
(07:05):
the store.
It's not that simple in PuertoRico.
You are more limited to thestocked items that can be
shipped to Puerto Rico.
So for our appliances, thelogistics were challenging.
We were fortunate that ourshipping costs were pretty
(07:26):
reasonable, which includedbringing in the items, setting
them up and hauling away the oldones.
The downside was a much morelimited selection to choose from
.
You can use a third party toorder something that doesn't
ship directly to Puerto Rico,but that cost can sometimes be
(07:50):
even more than what the cost ofthe purchase is.
So we worked with the bestoptions we had and focused on a
reasonable budget.
When it was time to shop forfurniture, we probably checked
out almost every local store,from Fajardo to San Juan.
We decided on Rooms To Go andBerrios, which is part of Ashley
(08:14):
Furniture.
We chose items that werestocked, not special ordered.
Between figuring out how toorder online for our appliances
at Costco and shopping atBerrios and Rooms To Go, we had
to keep our patience in check.
(08:37):
The challenge was getting thedelivery instructions to be
communicated properly.
Because we live in a gated,secured complex, there are rules
for delivery times.
The language barrier was thestruggle.
I remember telling Woody andmyself we have to have more
(08:59):
patience.
I talked to many customerservice people, not only in
Puerto Rico, but someone inCalifornia who was finally able
to understand exactly what wewere trying to convey.
The issue was getting atimeline that would work with
the rules of the condo complex.
(09:20):
Deliveries are only from 8 to 4Monday through Friday and 8 to
noon on Saturdays.
Finally, it all came together.
Once we learned how deliveriesworked, it got a lot easier for
us to navigate through it.
It was a learning curve.
(09:44):
Puerto Rico doesn't have thebest electric grid.
In 2017, hurricane Mariadevastated it.
It took almost an entire yearfor the island to restore power
to all of the customers who lostit during that hurricane, which
marked it the longest blackoutin US history.
(10:06):
Our friends advised us to get agenerator, so we did.
We knew this going into ourdecision making when considering
to buy in Puerto Rico.
We decided the positives withliving in a tropical environment
was worth the risk.
Even in the southern stateslike the Carolinas and Florida,
(10:31):
hurricane season is a realthreat.
We have learned to go with theflow.
We have moved into our condoafter working hard to make it
our second home.
Along the way, we have madesome new friends and we are
truly grateful for them.
We took some downtime and gotto sail with Kim and Dick for
(10:55):
Christmas in St Thomas.
We enjoyed Old San Juan withnew friends Kathryn and Trey for
New Year's Eve, a young couplewho are living on their sailboat
.
We visited another couple whowe met, LuAnne and Rusty.
They have been living here forover 20 years in a rainforest.
(11:19):
We got to know a real pirate,Wayne, well, he has the pirate
spirit, who loves adventures andsailing, and was gracious to
sell us some bedroom furniture.
We are hoping to connect againwith Paige and Steve, another
sailing couple, and we just metLu and Allen.
(11:42):
They're a couple who aresailing as Captain and First
Mate taking charters around theBVIs.
Living in Puerto Rico for thelast three months has taught me
how to be more patient, bywaiting attentively, paying
attention to those things Ican't control or change, knowing
(12:05):
the wait will pay off when it'sready to, and by not
complaining.
If I find myself starting to benegative, I am trying to be
aware that my complaints willreally only hurt myself and
those around me and no goodcomes from that misery.
(12:26):
For this realization, I havefound I am contributing to
living an even more balancedisland-themed life.
I told you in my last episode,before taking a break between
(12:47):
season one and two, that I willbe creating a bonus series in
addition to my regular episodes.
This bonus series is so veryclose to my heart.
It will be called CarletonIsland's Past and Present.
It will be under Nearest andDearest Podcast, with that title
(13:10):
and subtitle for what thatspecific episode is about.
I have started my research onthe history of Carleton Island.
I read the book The Old FortCarleton Island in the
Revolution by James H Durham,published in 1889.
(13:33):
I also was able to purchase anoriginal, second edition,
revised and corrected bookcalled A Souvenir of the
Thousand Islands of the StLawrence River, from Kingston
and Cape Vincent to Mooristownand Brockville, edited and
(13:55):
published by JNO Haddock ofWatertown, New York, in the year
1896.
I will be reading this one next.
I want to share with you anexcerpt of a poem that I saw,
that's in that second book.
It's written by George CBragdon, called The Happy
(14:20):
Islands.
Ah, here they are, the riverhere, swift, slow, tumultuous,
crystal clear, lapping theislands which up rear their
rocky heads with crests of trees, has sure enchantments to
(14:40):
release the heart and change itspain to peace.
I'm not quite sure when hewrote that poem, but from what I
have found by googling his nameis that his family helped the
Underground Railroad.
He was born April 29, 1832 atChestnut Hill, a well-known
(15:05):
station on the UndergroundRailroad near Lake Ontario in
Richland, New York.
He was a newspaper man andedited a succession of
newspapers across upstate NewYork before he and his family
settled in Rochester in 1884.
If you ever get a chance tovisit the Thousand Islands,
(15:30):
which are a group of more than1,800 islands in the St Lawrence
River, located along thepeaceful border between Northern
New York State and SoutheasternOntario, Canada, you will begin
to understand how special thisregion is.
(15:53):
In my humble opinion, the besttime to visit is the summer,
which, specifically for me, isthe nearest and dearest to my
heart.
The views and opinionsexpressed by Nearest And Dearest
(16:17):
Podcast are those of theauthors and do not necessarily
reflect the official policy orposition of Nearest And Dearest
Podcast.
Any content provided by JulieRogers or any other authors are
of their opinion.
They are not intended to malignany religion, ethnic group,
(16:38):
club, organization, company,individual or anyone or anything
.
Thank you.
No one ever said life is easy, but I believe by
giving yourself permission, youwill find you have more control
over your life than you realize.
I'm Julie, I hope you will joinme by taking responsibility for
yourself, by only controllingthe things you can and letting
go of the things that you can't.
By doing this, you will havediscovered the secret to having
(00:30):
happy, healthy and morefulfilling relationships.
This is Nearest and DearestPodcast.
I'm Julie Rogers and you arelistening to Season 2, Episode 1
, Gaining More Patience.
Welcome back, I've missed you.
It's been over three monthssince I moved down to Puerto
(00:53):
Rico for the winters with Woodyand let me tell you it has been
a roller coaster ride.
You know the old saying patienceis a virtue, but there is more
to it than that.
Alasderr McIntyre, aphilosopher, once said patience
is the virtue of waitingattentively, without complaint.
(01:16):
There is a difference that canhelp you whenever you find
yourself feeling mad or beinggrumpy about mostly dealing with
normal everyday lifeexperiences that you have
limited control over.
The difference is firstaccepting that you only have
(01:37):
limited control and thenrealizing that you decide how
you will manage your ownreactions to those interactions
life throws at you, no matterhow you deal with these
nuisances or inconveniences.
It's your temperament that willcause you to feel miserable and
(01:59):
unpleasantness, if you allow itto.
Remember being a kid inelementary school and the
teacher would tell everyone toline up at the door, one at a
time, in an orderly fashion, andwait until the teacher tells
you to walk, not run, to recess.
You had to learn patience.
(02:20):
When you reached outside, youfinally got the freedom to run
around until it was time to comeback inside.
Somewhere along the way,as adults, trying to keep
patience can be a struggle.
You can explain your lack ofpatience with many valid points.
(02:41):
However, figuring out whatpushes your buttons to the
extreme, that causes you to takethe offending situation, and
letting it consume your ownpatience, will definitely help
you gain new found knowledge.
Of course, kids show signs ofnot being patient they're kids
(03:05):
after all but usually theirparents, teachers or coaches are
reminding them to keep patiencein check.
Adults don't always havereminders and it's easier to
complain, justify and rant abouthow unfair whatever is
happening at any given time.
(03:26):
For myself, when I take thatbreath and I acknowledge the
uncontrollable circumstancesthat I'm dealing with while they
are happening, it helps me feelso much better.
I can't control long lines, fullparking lots, crappy customer
(03:46):
service, aggressive drivers,canceled flights, when my
favorite ice cream can't befound in any grocery store
freezers.
Here's my disclosure about that.
It's Friendly's Fudge Swirl oranything else that happens when
(04:07):
I interact with everydaysituations.
Life has its own pace.
It doesn't always line up withyours.
The alternative getting mad,defensive, being rude to others,
not only shows an unflatteringside of your personality.
(04:28):
It also isn't good for your ownwell-being.
No one benefits from being mad,angry or annoyed.
It can escalate to ruining yourwhole day.
It takes practice to accomplishthe ability to step back and
(04:48):
specifically make that choice,to not let their circumstances
alter your mood, ego or yourdemeanor.
It's amazing how much better Ifeel when I can do that.
So why not give yourself a passby not letting it consume you
(05:13):
with negative vibes?
The end result will be a moretolerable experience.
Don't let it fester.
Realize that moment offrustration is just that, a
moment.
It doesn't define your nextmoment or how the rest of your
(05:35):
day or night is going to go.
I know it isn't always an easyskill set, but the more you
become aware of how you perceiveyour own everyday occurrences
and accept the reality that theworld doesn't evolve around just
you, you will be able to viewthose same everyday activities
(06:00):
with a more positive, acceptingand gracious mindset.
I learned quickly that islandtime is a real thing, not just
the phrase used to describe aneasy going, live in the moment
attitude with hammocks, flipflops, cocktails and hitting the
(06:21):
beach kind of vibes.
It also means some things movea little more slowly down here
in paradise.
Puerto Rico is 100 miles longand 35 miles wide.
It packs a lot of scenery,culture and amazing people.
Our home is in Ceiba, which ison the northeast coast of the
(06:45):
island, bordering the AtlanticOcean.
When I bought appliances forour condo, we went through
Costco.
Back in the States, you don'treally think too much about
buying what you need.
As long as it's in stock, youshould be able to get it either
shipped directly to your home oran option of picking it up at
(07:05):
the store.
It's not that simple in PuertoRico.
You are more limited to thestocked items that can be
shipped to Puerto Rico.
So for our appliances, thelogistics were challenging.
We were fortunate that ourshipping costs were pretty
(07:26):
reasonable, which includedbringing in the items, setting
them up and hauling away the oldones.
The downside was a much morelimited selection to choose from
.
You can use a third party toorder something that doesn't
ship directly to Puerto Rico,but that cost can sometimes be
(07:50):
even more than what the cost ofthe purchase is.
So we worked with the bestoptions we had and focused on a
reasonable budget.
When it was time to shop forfurniture, we probably checked
out almost every local store,from Fajardo to San Juan.
We decided on Rooms To Go andBerrios, which is part of Ashley
(08:14):
Furniture.
We chose items that werestocked, not special ordered.
Between figuring out how toorder online for our appliances
at Costco and shopping atBerrios and Rooms To Go, we had
to keep our patience in check.
(08:37):
The challenge was getting thedelivery instructions to be
communicated properly.
Because we live in a gated,secured complex, there are rules
for delivery times.
The language barrier was thestruggle.
I remember telling Woody andmyself we have to have more
(08:59):
patience.
I talked to many customerservice people, not only in
Puerto Rico, but someone inCalifornia who was finally able
to understand exactly what wewere trying to convey.
The issue was getting atimeline that would work with
the rules of the condo complex.
(09:20):
Deliveries are only from 8 to 4Monday through Friday and 8 to
noon on Saturdays.
Finally, it all came together.
Once we learned how deliveriesworked, it got a lot easier for
us to navigate through it.
It was a learning curve.
(09:44):
Puerto Rico doesn't have thebest electric grid.
In 2017, hurricane Mariadevastated it.
It took almost an entire yearfor the island to restore power
to all of the customers who lostit during that hurricane, which
marked it the longest blackoutin US history.
(10:06):
Our friends advised us to get agenerator, so we did.
We knew this going into ourdecision making when considering
to buy in Puerto Rico.
We decided the positives withliving in a tropical environment
was worth the risk.
Even in the southern stateslike the Carolinas and Florida,
(10:31):
hurricane season is a realthreat.
We have learned to go with theflow.
We have moved into our condoafter working hard to make it
our second home.
Along the way, we have madesome new friends and we are
truly grateful for them.
We took some downtime and gotto sail with Kim and Dick for
(10:55):
Christmas in St Thomas.
We enjoyed Old San Juan withnew friends Kathryn and Trey for
New Year's Eve, a young couplewho are living on their sailboat
.
We visited another couple whowe met, LuAnne and Rusty.
They have been living here forover 20 years in a rainforest.
(11:19):
We got to know a real pirate,Wayne, well, he has the pirate
spirit, who loves adventures andsailing, and was gracious to
sell us some bedroom furniture.
We are hoping to connect againwith Paige and Steve, another
sailing couple, and we just metLu and Allen.
(11:42):
They're a couple who aresailing as Captain and First
Mate taking charters around theBVIs.
Living in Puerto Rico for thelast three months has taught me
how to be more patient, bywaiting attentively, paying
attention to those things Ican't control or change, knowing
(12:05):
the wait will pay off when it'sready to, and by not
complaining.
If I find myself starting to benegative, I am trying to be
aware that my complaints willreally only hurt myself and
those around me and no goodcomes from that misery.
(12:26):
For this realization, I havefound I am contributing to
living an even more balancedisland-themed life.
I told you in my last episode,before taking a break between
(12:47):
season one and two, that I willbe creating a bonus series in
addition to my regular episodes.
This bonus series is so veryclose to my heart.
It will be called CarletonIsland's Past and Present.
It will be under Nearest andDearest Podcast, with that title
(13:10):
and subtitle for what thatspecific episode is about.
I have started my research onthe history of Carleton Island.
I read the book The Old FortCarleton Island in the
Revolution by James H Durham,published in 1889.
(13:33):
I also was able to purchase anoriginal, second edition,
revised and corrected bookcalled A Souvenir of the
Thousand Islands of the StLawrence River, from Kingston
and Cape Vincent to Mooristownand Brockville, edited and
(13:55):
published by JNO Haddock ofWatertown, New York, in the year
1896.
I will be reading this one next.
I want to share with you anexcerpt of a poem that I saw,
that's in that second book.
It's written by George CBragdon, called The Happy
(14:20):
Islands.
Ah, here they are, the riverhere, swift, slow, tumultuous,
crystal clear, lapping theislands which up rear their
rocky heads with crests of trees, has sure enchantments to
(14:40):
release the heart and change itspain to peace.
I'm not quite sure when hewrote that poem, but from what I
have found by googling his nameis that his family helped the
Underground Railroad.
He was born April 29, 1832 atChestnut Hill, a well-known
(15:05):
station on the UndergroundRailroad near Lake Ontario in
Richland, New York.
He was a newspaper man andedited a succession of
newspapers across upstate NewYork before he and his family
settled in Rochester in 1884.
If you ever get a chance tovisit the Thousand Islands,
(15:30):
which are a group of more than1,800 islands in the St Lawrence
River, located along thepeaceful border between Northern
New York State and SoutheasternOntario, Canada, you will begin
to understand how special thisregion is.
(15:53):
In my humble opinion, the besttime to visit is the summer,
which, specifically for me, isthe nearest and dearest to my
heart.
The views and opinionsexpressed by Nearest And Dearest
(16:17):
Podcast are those of theauthors and do not necessarily
reflect the official policy orposition of Nearest And Dearest
Podcast.
Any content provided by JulieRogers or any other authors are
of their opinion.
They are not intended to malignany religion, ethnic group,
(16:38):
club, organization, company,individual or anyone or anything
.
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