Needy No More

In honor of the release of her new book Safe, I sit down with licensed therapist and author of Anxiously Attached, Jessica Baum, for a powerful conversation about what it truly means to heal anxious attachment. We explore how safety shapes every aspect of our relationships, how old abandonment wounds resurface in adulthood, and why somatic awareness and co-regulation are at the heart of real transformation. Jessica brings both clin...

If setting boundaries makes you anxious, guilty, or afraid they’ll walk away—you’re exactly who this episode was made for.

In this powerful solo episode, I unpack the complicated relationship anxious attachers have with boundaries—and why setting them can feel so triggering. We explore the real reasons guilt shows up, the role of nervous system dysregulation, and why some boundaries feel more like walls (and what to do about it).

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In honor of Pride Month, I’m sitting down with therapist and author Tom Bruett to unpack how gay relationships differ from straight ones—and why so many of us in the LGBTQ+ community struggle with intimacy, identity, and emotional safety in dating. Whether you're queer or an ally, this conversation is packed with insights that go far beyond sexuality—because at the end of the day, we’re all trying to love and be loved in health...

Is your relationship stuck in the anxious-avoidant "trap" or a cycle of pushing and pulling, ups and downs? In this powerful episode, I sit down with relationship writer Rikki Cloos (@anxiousheartsguide on Instagram and TikTok) to talk about why anxious-avoidant relationships feel so hard—and how to make the dynamic more secure. Here's what we discuss:

• 🔁 How Rikki broke up with her now-husband eight times early on...

In this week's episode of the Needy No More podcast, I dive deep into the final two steps of the cycle of anxious attachment, stress and addiction, answering the following questions:

• What is stress and how does it relate to addiction?
• What is love addiction?
• How does stress factor into the experience of anxious attachment?
• How does stress relate to safety and why is that important?
• What is cortisol and what are some ways you can...

In this episode of the Needy No More podcast, I interview my very first guest, Jessica Da Silva.

Jessica Da Silva is a Licensed Mental Health Therapist and Attachment Coach who empowers individuals to free themselves from attachment patterns that sabotage their relationships by teaching them actionable skills to relate to themselves and others more authentically and effectively. Not only does she talk the talk, but she also devotes ...

In this week's episode, we unpack everything pertaining to nervous system dysregulation, including:

• What is nervous system dysregulation? How is it connected to being triggered?

• What are the causes of nervous system dysregulation in the past and present?

• How has nervous system dysregulation shown up in my own life?

• How is nervous system dysregulation connected to anxious attachment?

• What can I do to regulate my nervous system?

In this episode of the Needy No More podcast, I answer the top five most common questions I get from folks when it comes to the anxious attachment style:

1. Where does the anxious attachment style come from?
2. Why do I feel this way?
3. How can I "fix" it?
4. Will I always feel this way?
5. How long does it take to heal?

From there, I answer 25 questions from my audience, which are as follows:

1. Currently enmeshed and I can’t e...

In the fourth episode of the Needy No More podcast, we unpack everything related to a fear of abandonment, including:

• What is abandonment? How do we define it? What about a fear of abandonment?

• What are various types of abandonment? How has it shown up in my own life?

• What is the worst form of abandonment you can experience?

• How does abandonment relate to the other steps in the cycle of anxious attachmen...

In the third episode of the Needy No More podcast, I cover the following:

• What is codependency?
• How does codependency relate to anxious attachment?
• How is codependency similar to and different from addiction?
• What are some early warning signs that you might be slipping into a codependent dynamic?
• How can you address and interrupt your codependent tendencies?

Healing resources for anyone struggling with anxious attachme...

In the second episode of the Needy No More podcast, I cover the following:

• How is trauma defined?
• What are some different frameworks for understanding the nature of trauma?
• How does trauma relate to the experience of anxious attachment?
• What are some avenues to explore when it comes to healing trauma?
• How can forgiveness help and how can I practice it?

Healing resources for anyone struggling with anxious attachment:

In this inaugural episode of the Needy No More podcast, I cover the following:

• Who is this Chris Rackliffe guy, and why did I get into being a coach for people with an anxious attachment style?
• Why did I name the podcast Needy No More?
• Why you should never, ever call anyone needy—most of all yourself!
• What is attachment theory and what are the four attachment styles?
• What is the cycle of anxious attachment and how do you break it an...