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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/overcoming-destructive-anger/202209/why-the-silent-treatment-is-such-destructive-form-passive
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/silent-treatment#is-it-abuse
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/silent-treatment/
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/silent-treatment
https://www.healthline.com/health/silent-treatment#stand-up-for-yourself
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This show is titled
‘’Silent Treatment”
Sources:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/overcoming-destructive-anger/202209/why-the-silent-treatment-is-such-destructive-form-passive
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/silent-treatment#is-it-abuse
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/silent-treatment/
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/silent-treatment
https://www.healthline.com/health/silent-treatment#stand-up-for-yourself
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Speaker 1 (00:45):
Everyone, Welcome to the new Height Show on education.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
My name is Malia Shipla and you are an episode.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
To podcast. Everyone.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
This podcast is the way of sharing insights on building
a more effective and efficient workforce while also focusing.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
On your personal worth.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
If you tune into our previous episode, thank you so
much for your support. We talked about the successful examples
of precius management in the corporate world. If you missed it,
be sure to check it out. My dear listeners. To day,
we are going to talk.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
About silent treatment.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I'm sure everyone erh like everyone has experienced it at
some point of their life, but for those who may
not be familiar, let me explain. Silent treatment is a
form of passive aggressive behavior where a loved one stops
communicating with you. You may want to have a conversation,
(01:56):
but instead they ignore you or respond with short, point
to point replies that carry no warmth or emotion. In
this episode, we will explore the impact of silent treatment,
how it affects relationship and individual emotionally. We'll also discuss
(02:17):
whether it can be considered a form of emotional abuse,
what you can do if you are on the receiving
end of it, and what steps you can take if
you realize you are the one who is giving the
science treatment. And before we start the episode, let me
(02:39):
tell you that I have listed down the sources the
websites in the description. So let's see what are the
impact of silent treatment. According to psychology today, silent treatment
creates an environment of anxiety and relationship. It doesn't help
(03:03):
in conflict resolution. It doesn't help in any sort of
conflict resolution.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Instead, it triggers the.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Feeling of ostracized and and it reduced self esteem to
the one who is on the receiving end. And sudden
treatment is not helpful in any contact resolution. Uh it is.
It just creates a feeling of self doubt and to
(03:30):
the targeted person it can create it can also create
a feeling of a loss and rejection. Now there there
might be There might be a variety of reasons like
why people use silent treatment.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Number one is lack of awareness.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
So like some people they are just confused or they
don't know how to how to express their feelings. Uh,
and they just wanted to show that they are upset,
so they just become silent.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
The other one is the conflict avoidance. This is this
is very.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Common among This is very common in couples like just
just not to not to create a very tense environment
at home, or if they don't want to escalate any issue,
especially in front of their kids or something uh.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Or like especially in front of their kids or anyone.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
They they just tend to tend tend to become silent
just because of they might be having any uh any
fear like I earlier stated, maybe the environment, maybe the
mental health of their of their children, or maybe any
the mental health of their loved ones.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
So they they might be having.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
A fear of like if they if they voice their feelings,
things may things may turn worse.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
The third one is a lack.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Of communication skills. Some people they they they just lack
to express themselves. The next one is punishment. Now, when
you use silent treatment as a punishment, as when you
when you use it as an emotional tool, it becomes
uh an emotional abuse. We will discuss about this later
(05:30):
in this episode. And some people use silent treatment to
make other people feel bad to some people use silent
treatment to not to create any scene in front of others.
So yes, these are the variety of reasons why these
are some some very common reasons why people use silent treatment.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
So the next topic.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
We have here is like, can we say that silent
treatment is an emotional abuse? So yes, According to Monday
News Today, silent treatment can be a form of emotional abuse.
This can be a case if a person intends to
hurt or punish another person with their silence, If a
(06:16):
person seeks alliance from others encouraging them to ignore the
person to if a person uses silence to manipulate or
pressure someone into changing their behavior, if a person uses
silence to make others feel unsure of themselves, if a
(06:38):
person uses the silence treatment towards children or dependence, or
if a person is silence for an extended period of time.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
So if if any of.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
These points are implementing in your relationship or in your
matter word of confronting your conflicts, you to the other
person or to your loved.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Ones, that means you are.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
That means it is a case of emotional abuse. So
in romantic relationship, the silent treatment often functions as a
method of emotional abuse. UH.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
An abuser may use this tactic to.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
Exert power over their partner, reinforcing their dominance in their relationship.
When one partner withdraws communication, it can create an imbalance
that leaves the other feeling isolated and desperate for connection.
This is especially harmful in relationships characterized by ongoing conflict
(07:49):
or tension, where one partner may already feel vulnerable, and
this is also one of the biggest predictions of divorce
when used in romantic relationships. Within families, the silent treatment
can be harmful form of abuse used by parents as
(08:10):
a way to control or enforce complains. This creates a
fear of This creates fear and uncertainty in the child
who learns to associate their behavior with emotional withdrawal from
their parents. In short, they internalize this abuse into self pain.
Children who experience this form of abuse neglect who experienced
(08:36):
this form of emotional neglect struggle with the feelings of unworthiness,
leading to mental health symptoms such as anxiety and depression.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Now, before we move forward, let's take a quick break.
We will look back soon.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
Are you enjoying the New Hid Show on Education? If
you love our show, please consider liking and following us
on your favorite podcast player. To learn more, visit Radio
dot New Heights Education dot org, or email us at
info at New Heights Education dot org. Listen in on
Wednesdays for Education in the News with host Pamela Clark
(09:20):
at six pm and Fridays for our Empowering HR and
the Workforce with host Manya Shukla at seven pm. And
don't forget to check out our organization's website for the
latest updates on courses, reading programs, comic books, magazines, informational
services and happenings, or even to learn how you can
(09:43):
become a volunteer. Consider donating to our calls at www
dot New Heights education dot org.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
We discussed about the impact and the reasons of silent
treatment and whether the silent treatment, whether in what circumstances
silent treatment can be seen as an emotional abuse. Now
let's see how to deal with the situation when you
are experiencing the silent treatment.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
So number one is just to confront the person and
let them know that.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
The other person is using a silent treatment like using
the silent treatment and you are not comfortable with it.
Let them know if they want to talk about the conflict,
you are always.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Welcome to have a conversation.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Number two is acknowledge their feelings, make them feel that
they are heard and you are emotionally with them, you
understand them.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
And the third one.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Is asking questions like if the person is giving the
celeent treatment. If a person who is giving the sellent
treatment does not respond trying asking questions, that shows a
willingness to listen and work things out. Let them know
that they are important to you. Let them know the
worth of the relationship. And the next one is apologize
(11:28):
for the words or action. Now Here, I want to
make it clear that I'm not saying that if you
are right still you apologize. No, you just apologize if
you unintentionally heard them by using any by using any
word or anything that is unintentionally that you feel that
(11:53):
you might have heard them by this. So just just
just apologize for them for those things. Just be clear
and and uh, just be just be clear with your
words the.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Next days, avoid unhelpful resources.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
So there's no need to provoke the person who is
giving us silent treatment. This will make things more worse.
So give them their own time. Let them know that
you are always open to talk. Let them know that
you value their relationship, You value them, and.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Uh yes, uh. The next one I have is set
healthy boundaries so you shouldn't.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
You should tell the other person that silent treatment is
not going to is not going to make things better,
and you should you should tell them that this kind
of treatment is not like will not make the relationship
any better, and it's it's it's good if they just
(13:05):
they just start, you know, talking and just discussing the
conflict in a in a good manner.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
And create create a structured conversation.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Like even in the moment of festation, when you feel
like yelling or lashing out at a person who is
giving you a silent treatment, there are better approach to
handle this situation. Number one is use eye statements like
express your feelings without blaming right, don't react angrily and acknowledged,
(13:38):
acknowledge and address the issue like clearly name the behavior
and and and seek the and seek resolution. The next
day is practice self care. So when you are receiving
a silent treatment with a person, it can be it
can be emotionally difficult. So just take care of yourself.
(14:02):
Just read uh, read any help book, talk to a friend,
or just take calm. So just take care of yourself
and you're receiving a silent treatment. And the most important
one is don't take it personally.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
It won't help you. It will just make things worse,
and it will make you uh like if you, if you,
if you, if you'll take that.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Silent treatment personally, you won't be able to think like
what is the core issue of the conflict?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Now?
Speaker 2 (14:43):
Lastly, uh, let's discuss what if you are the one
who is giving the silent treatment. So first and first,
don't be like, don't beat yourself up. You are if
you if you realized it that you are the one
who gives the silent treatment, and this is totally wrong,
(15:05):
you should not do it.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
That's the that's the first sign of progress.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
So you can just start by accepting that yes, you
have harmed others and being able to admit it is
a It is a huge is a huge thing, is
a huge correction.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
So admit your shortcomings.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
And just just in respect yourself and identify, like where
from where this passive aggressive behavior is coming from? Maybe
maybe from your something happened in your childhood some like,
just identify like where where it is coming from, and
(15:49):
try to join some support group. If this is a
repetitive thing, if you always tend to do, if you
always tend to give you give us silent treatment, or
if you always reflect your feeling in a passive aggressive.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Manner, take take some take help, try.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Joining some support group and like those groups are really
really they can be very helpful. And be patient with yourself.
Change takes time, and once you have realized that you
are the one who is giving the silent treatment, it
(16:30):
will and if you will work on it, if you
will work to improve it, to improve your this like,
to improve this thing about your personality, it will take
a little bit of time. I will not select a
little bit of time. It will take time as far
as your like, how your life goes on, how you
how are you working on self improvement? So just be
(16:53):
patient with with yourself. The next day is setting aside time.
If a person wants to avoid talking about something when
they are upset, they can set aside time to discuss
the problem later when the stronger feelings have passed.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
So this is I think in my.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Other episode I have mentioned that if you are don't
react to when you when you're when you are angry,
just stay calm and let the strong feelings.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Vanish away and then then talk.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
So in that point of like, in that it might
be it could be a very short amount of time
and if you want to take a long break, you
can take that too, But in that period of time,
you know like how to how.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
To response effectively.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
The next thing you can try is a plan what
to say, like if ather person is uh is telling
you something and if you do not agree with it,
and like if you know, like how.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Like what are we going to? What are we going
to talk about?
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Just plan the things that Okay, I will say this,
if the other person is taking out this point, I
will say this. This will help you. This is helpful
in making a structured conversation like this will.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Improve your conversation with skills also, and it will make
you help It will make you feel.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Like I feel good also about the entire like whatever
you are communicating, because you're already already planned, you're already prepared.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
So this this strategy will also help.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Again setting boundaries as the person who is at the
receiving end sets the boundaries. Here, you also just let
the other person know, like like what are the things
that that you don't like? What are the things that
are not acceptable in the relationships?
Speaker 1 (19:08):
So uh. The last one I have is like time outs.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
So if a person feels too upset to talk, they
can ask for a time out. UH. This inverlves asking
the other person if they can take a break, uh,
with the assurance that they will return to the issue later.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
So these are the strategies.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
That can uh that can help you if you are
the one that can help you to recover uh your
your I mean, these are the things that can help
you to to realize or to help you to take
your take this silent treatment, of the habit of giving
(19:51):
silent treatment out.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Of your out of your personality. Again.
Speaker 2 (19:57):
At last, I just wanted to say that silent treatment
is not a solution for anything. Uh. If you are
thinking that if I'll get if I'll be silent, things
will go right or things will go in my way.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
No, down the line, h.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
It will like it is not going to be good.
It is going it is it could be worse. So
don't don't give silent treatment to your loved ones, to
anyone actually, and.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Be open for the for the communication, and.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Yeah, make make your relationship worthy and take care of
of your loved ones and do value their thoughts, do
value their feelings, and but yes, silent silent treatment, it
just creates uh, an emotional ball where not the receiving
one is suffering, but somewhere you are also suffering because
(20:58):
somewhere deep inside the heart, you miss that person. You know,
you miss talking to them, miss spending time with them.
So don't don't do silent. Silent, it is not it
is not so with this, I just wanted to end this, uh,
(21:20):
this episode. Thank you so much for turning in, and
thank you
Everyone, Welcome to the new Height Show on education.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
My name is Malia Shipla and you are an episode.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
To podcast. Everyone.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
This podcast is the way of sharing insights on building
a more effective and efficient workforce while also focusing.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
On your personal worth.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
If you tune into our previous episode, thank you so
much for your support. We talked about the successful examples
of precius management in the corporate world. If you missed it,
be sure to check it out. My dear listeners. To day,
we are going to talk.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
About silent treatment.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I'm sure everyone erh like everyone has experienced it at
some point of their life, but for those who may
not be familiar, let me explain. Silent treatment is a
form of passive aggressive behavior where a loved one stops
communicating with you. You may want to have a conversation,
(01:56):
but instead they ignore you or respond with short, point
to point replies that carry no warmth or emotion. In
this episode, we will explore the impact of silent treatment,
how it affects relationship and individual emotionally. We'll also discuss
(02:17):
whether it can be considered a form of emotional abuse,
what you can do if you are on the receiving
end of it, and what steps you can take if
you realize you are the one who is giving the
science treatment. And before we start the episode, let me
(02:39):
tell you that I have listed down the sources the
websites in the description. So let's see what are the
impact of silent treatment. According to psychology today, silent treatment
creates an environment of anxiety and relationship. It doesn't help
(03:03):
in conflict resolution. It doesn't help in any sort of
conflict resolution.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Instead, it triggers the.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Feeling of ostracized and and it reduced self esteem to
the one who is on the receiving end. And sudden
treatment is not helpful in any contact resolution. Uh it is.
It just creates a feeling of self doubt and to
(03:30):
the targeted person it can create it can also create
a feeling of a loss and rejection. Now there there
might be There might be a variety of reasons like
why people use silent treatment.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Number one is lack of awareness.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
So like some people they are just confused or they
don't know how to how to express their feelings. Uh,
and they just wanted to show that they are upset,
so they just become silent.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
The other one is the conflict avoidance. This is this
is very.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Common among This is very common in couples like just
just not to not to create a very tense environment
at home, or if they don't want to escalate any issue,
especially in front of their kids or something uh.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Or like especially in front of their kids or anyone.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
They they just tend to tend tend to become silent
just because of they might be having any uh any
fear like I earlier stated, maybe the environment, maybe the
mental health of their of their children, or maybe any
the mental health of their loved ones.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
So they they might be having.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
A fear of like if they if they voice their feelings,
things may things may turn worse.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
The third one is a lack.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Of communication skills. Some people they they they just lack
to express themselves. The next one is punishment. Now, when
you use silent treatment as a punishment, as when you
when you use it as an emotional tool, it becomes
uh an emotional abuse. We will discuss about this later
(05:30):
in this episode. And some people use silent treatment to
make other people feel bad to some people use silent
treatment to not to create any scene in front of others.
So yes, these are the variety of reasons why these
are some some very common reasons why people use silent treatment.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
So the next topic.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
We have here is like, can we say that silent
treatment is an emotional abuse? So yes, According to Monday
News Today, silent treatment can be a form of emotional abuse.
This can be a case if a person intends to
hurt or punish another person with their silence, If a
(06:16):
person seeks alliance from others encouraging them to ignore the
person to if a person uses silence to manipulate or
pressure someone into changing their behavior, if a person uses
silence to make others feel unsure of themselves, if a
(06:38):
person uses the silence treatment towards children or dependence, or
if a person is silence for an extended period of time.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
So if if any of.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
These points are implementing in your relationship or in your
matter word of confronting your conflicts, you to the other
person or to your loved.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Ones, that means you are.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
That means it is a case of emotional abuse. So
in romantic relationship, the silent treatment often functions as a
method of emotional abuse. UH.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
An abuser may use this tactic to.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
Exert power over their partner, reinforcing their dominance in their relationship.
When one partner withdraws communication, it can create an imbalance
that leaves the other feeling isolated and desperate for connection.
This is especially harmful in relationships characterized by ongoing conflict
(07:49):
or tension, where one partner may already feel vulnerable, and
this is also one of the biggest predictions of divorce
when used in romantic relationships. Within families, the silent treatment
can be harmful form of abuse used by parents as
(08:10):
a way to control or enforce complains. This creates a
fear of This creates fear and uncertainty in the child
who learns to associate their behavior with emotional withdrawal from
their parents. In short, they internalize this abuse into self pain.
Children who experience this form of abuse neglect who experienced
(08:36):
this form of emotional neglect struggle with the feelings of unworthiness,
leading to mental health symptoms such as anxiety and depression.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Now, before we move forward, let's take a quick break.
We will look back soon.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
Are you enjoying the New Hid Show on Education? If
you love our show, please consider liking and following us
on your favorite podcast player. To learn more, visit Radio
dot New Heights Education dot org, or email us at
info at New Heights Education dot org. Listen in on
Wednesdays for Education in the News with host Pamela Clark
(09:20):
at six pm and Fridays for our Empowering HR and
the Workforce with host Manya Shukla at seven pm. And
don't forget to check out our organization's website for the
latest updates on courses, reading programs, comic books, magazines, informational
services and happenings, or even to learn how you can
(09:43):
become a volunteer. Consider donating to our calls at www
dot New Heights education dot org.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
We discussed about the impact and the reasons of silent
treatment and whether the silent treatment, whether in what circumstances
silent treatment can be seen as an emotional abuse. Now
let's see how to deal with the situation when you
are experiencing the silent treatment.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
So number one is just to confront the person and
let them know that.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
The other person is using a silent treatment like using
the silent treatment and you are not comfortable with it.
Let them know if they want to talk about the conflict,
you are always.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Welcome to have a conversation.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Number two is acknowledge their feelings, make them feel that
they are heard and you are emotionally with them, you
understand them.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
And the third one.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Is asking questions like if the person is giving the
celeent treatment. If a person who is giving the sellent
treatment does not respond trying asking questions, that shows a
willingness to listen and work things out. Let them know
that they are important to you. Let them know the
worth of the relationship. And the next one is apologize
(11:28):
for the words or action. Now Here, I want to
make it clear that I'm not saying that if you
are right still you apologize. No, you just apologize if
you unintentionally heard them by using any by using any
word or anything that is unintentionally that you feel that
(11:53):
you might have heard them by this. So just just
just apologize for them for those things. Just be clear
and and uh, just be just be clear with your
words the.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Next days, avoid unhelpful resources.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
So there's no need to provoke the person who is
giving us silent treatment. This will make things more worse.
So give them their own time. Let them know that
you are always open to talk. Let them know that
you value their relationship, You value them, and.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Uh yes, uh. The next one I have is set
healthy boundaries so you shouldn't.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
You should tell the other person that silent treatment is
not going to is not going to make things better,
and you should you should tell them that this kind
of treatment is not like will not make the relationship
any better, and it's it's it's good if they just
(13:05):
they just start, you know, talking and just discussing the
conflict in a in a good manner.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
And create create a structured conversation.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Like even in the moment of festation, when you feel
like yelling or lashing out at a person who is
giving you a silent treatment, there are better approach to
handle this situation. Number one is use eye statements like
express your feelings without blaming right, don't react angrily and acknowledged,
(13:38):
acknowledge and address the issue like clearly name the behavior
and and and seek the and seek resolution. The next
day is practice self care. So when you are receiving
a silent treatment with a person, it can be it
can be emotionally difficult. So just take care of yourself.
(14:02):
Just read uh, read any help book, talk to a friend,
or just take calm. So just take care of yourself
and you're receiving a silent treatment. And the most important
one is don't take it personally.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
It won't help you. It will just make things worse,
and it will make you uh like if you, if you,
if you, if you'll take that.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Silent treatment personally, you won't be able to think like
what is the core issue of the conflict?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Now?
Speaker 2 (14:43):
Lastly, uh, let's discuss what if you are the one
who is giving the silent treatment. So first and first,
don't be like, don't beat yourself up. You are if
you if you realized it that you are the one
who gives the silent treatment, and this is totally wrong,
(15:05):
you should not do it.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
That's the that's the first sign of progress.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
So you can just start by accepting that yes, you
have harmed others and being able to admit it is
a It is a huge is a huge thing, is
a huge correction.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
So admit your shortcomings.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
And just just in respect yourself and identify, like where
from where this passive aggressive behavior is coming from? Maybe
maybe from your something happened in your childhood some like,
just identify like where where it is coming from, and
(15:49):
try to join some support group. If this is a
repetitive thing, if you always tend to do, if you
always tend to give you give us silent treatment, or
if you always reflect your feeling in a passive aggressive.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Manner, take take some take help, try.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Joining some support group and like those groups are really
really they can be very helpful. And be patient with yourself.
Change takes time, and once you have realized that you
are the one who is giving the silent treatment, it
(16:30):
will and if you will work on it, if you
will work to improve it, to improve your this like,
to improve this thing about your personality, it will take
a little bit of time. I will not select a
little bit of time. It will take time as far
as your like, how your life goes on, how you
how are you working on self improvement? So just be
(16:53):
patient with with yourself. The next day is setting aside time.
If a person wants to avoid talking about something when
they are upset, they can set aside time to discuss
the problem later when the stronger feelings have passed.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
So this is I think in my.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Other episode I have mentioned that if you are don't
react to when you when you're when you are angry,
just stay calm and let the strong feelings.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Vanish away and then then talk.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
So in that point of like, in that it might
be it could be a very short amount of time
and if you want to take a long break, you
can take that too, But in that period of time,
you know like how to how.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
To response effectively.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
The next thing you can try is a plan what
to say, like if ather person is uh is telling
you something and if you do not agree with it,
and like if you know, like how.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Like what are we going to? What are we going
to talk about?
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Just plan the things that Okay, I will say this,
if the other person is taking out this point, I
will say this. This will help you. This is helpful
in making a structured conversation like this will.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Improve your conversation with skills also, and it will make
you help It will make you feel.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Like I feel good also about the entire like whatever
you are communicating, because you're already already planned, you're already prepared.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
So this this strategy will also help.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Again setting boundaries as the person who is at the
receiving end sets the boundaries. Here, you also just let
the other person know, like like what are the things
that that you don't like? What are the things that
are not acceptable in the relationships?
Speaker 1 (19:08):
So uh. The last one I have is like time outs.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
So if a person feels too upset to talk, they
can ask for a time out. UH. This inverlves asking
the other person if they can take a break, uh,
with the assurance that they will return to the issue later.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
So these are the strategies.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
That can uh that can help you if you are
the one that can help you to recover uh your
your I mean, these are the things that can help
you to to realize or to help you to take
your take this silent treatment, of the habit of giving
(19:51):
silent treatment out.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Of your out of your personality. Again.
Speaker 2 (19:57):
At last, I just wanted to say that silent treatment
is not a solution for anything. Uh. If you are
thinking that if I'll get if I'll be silent, things
will go right or things will go in my way.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
No, down the line, h.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
It will like it is not going to be good.
It is going it is it could be worse. So
don't don't give silent treatment to your loved ones, to
anyone actually, and.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Be open for the for the communication, and.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Yeah, make make your relationship worthy and take care of
of your loved ones and do value their thoughts, do
value their feelings, and but yes, silent silent treatment, it
just creates uh, an emotional ball where not the receiving
one is suffering, but somewhere you are also suffering because
(20:58):
somewhere deep inside the heart, you miss that person. You know,
you miss talking to them, miss spending time with them.
So don't don't do silent. Silent, it is not it
is not so with this, I just wanted to end this, uh,
(21:20):
this episode. Thank you so much for turning in, and
thank you
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