November 17, 2023 • 33 mins
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Ever want to rant about your Instacart experiences? You're not alone! In this episode, we vent, laugh, and discuss in detail the ups and downs of using Instacart. We've all been there, facing substitute nightmares, star rating woes, and the unpredictability of the quality of our shoppers. However, the convenience that it offers is undeniably a game-changer.
Now, let's talk about timing and trust in life. Remember when we were teenagers, struggling to navigate adult relationships and sometimes making rushed decisions? Mr. & Mrs.KillerB reflect on these experiences, sharing personal stories about the pressure to "make things happen" and the regret of hasty decisions. We delve into the wisdom of being mindful and the importance of timing in our life.
The world around us is moving fast, and the pressure to keep up with it can often rob us of the joy of experiences. We share profound lessons on waiting for the right time, trusting in God's timing, and not rushing through life. Plus, we draw a neat analogy with ripe fruits to emphasize the importance of patience. So, tune in for an episode filled with laughter, honesty, wisdom, and some food for thought.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
But welcome to today's podcast replay from the
Killer B Studios.
Let's go ahead and dive on in.
Well, let's start off with ourstory how this all came up.
How did this topic come up?
So, how many of you here haveused Instacart?
Anybody here Instacart fans?
Okay, I see some thumbs up.
Okay, yeah, all right.
Yeah, yeah, see.
Okay, the girls over there.
(00:21):
All right, how many of you loveInstacart?
Let me ask you that Do youactually love Instacart?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Okay, yeah, okay, yeah, I actually love it, yes.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Well, instacart has.
What do you say?
Would you say it's changed ourlife?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Yeah, it has changed our life.
But Met Olivia is making likewhat do you call that face?
She's making like disgustedface about Instacart.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
I have a love hate relationship with it.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Oh, explain why I'm pleased to tell.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Well, sometimes it honestly all depends on the
person.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
That you get.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Yeah, the shopper yeah sometimes they go out of
their way to make sure that youget what you want Other times.
I'm like, excuse me, that was asubstitution.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Yeah, you're like you didn't even try Substitutions.
Yes, yes.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
An onion and an apple are not the same, oh my gosh,
so that reminds me, that'spretty good.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Two times now.
Oh, I just tried to make two,but you can't make two with oh,
so this is kind of two.
Two times I have ordered Beatsand I got Radishes instead,
which are very different.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
I mean they look similar but they are very
different.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Yes for sure I don't blame them.
I think they tried, theythought it was a bean bud.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
See, this is where it gets a little can get a little
touchy on the conversation here,because Mrs Killer always
thinks that they tried and shestill tips them very well and
I'm like now wait a minute, likethey didn't.
They obviously didn't try.
You don't tip them all the timelike that.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
I don't know, that's just me how else I learn I know,
I really want to agree with you, med Olivia.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
But the thing is like the tipping is one thing, but
then, like the rating, I cannotgive someone less than five
stars.
I just can't do it.
Even if they've gotten a wholebag of my groceries, I still
rate them five stars and I addthem as a favorite.
I'm just like well.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Mrs Killer B, I know.
Oh, my goodness See, look ateverybody, would you?
How many times?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
do I have?
Speaker 3 (02:19):
to tell you.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
How many people here would always give a five star
rating if somebody didn't bringyour groceries with me?
Everybody's shaking their head.
No, mrs Killer B.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Oh guys, you're so much stronger than me.
Okay, so let me just say thistoo I asked for the favorite
option.
Literally, I was like, pleasegive us a favorite option.
I have favorites, I'm going tochoose them, I want them, and we
have tons and tons of shoppersaround here because we're close
to a lot of stores.
Yeah, so they gave us thefavorite option I'm sure not
(02:52):
because I asked.
But then I like found that Icould not pick someone as my
favorite.
So every shopper I've ever hadis picked as a favorite.
So now I still don't get myfavorite.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
I was like you don't understand how these apps work.
You don't understand.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
I do understand it, but I just thought what?
What if these people see that Idid not pick them as a favorite
?
Then they're going to feel badabout themselves.
Not all right with that.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
I just mean they need to improve.
How are they supposed to getbetter if they're like?
Well, you know what Mrs KillerV says.
I'm perfect.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
So actually our Instacart app is under his name,
so they don't know, it's meWait a minute, that's even more
like yeah, no, I just can't.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
That's why people look at me and point and laugh.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yeah, there's plenty of other people around here who
are going to give them the truth.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Now we're going to have another conversation and,
like you, know you can encouragethem, say I mean thank you for
doing that, but you did itreally not correctly.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
So I encourage you, if you would like to get a five
star rating or a tip, Iencourage you to do better next
time.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Exactly Now.
You guys can do that.
I got my thing and I'm stickingwith it.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
You need to get your own account set up, then I'm
learning a lot here.
I did not even realize this iswhere we're going down in this
conversation.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Actually, she's probably saving you, mr Killer P
.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Right, I'm saving his life In public.
Yeah, in assassinated.
Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I've got that mean, but I will like I know.
I'm just kidding.
That is Wow, that's a shocker.
I didn't know that.
Well, yeah, so Instacartrelationships can be a good and
bad experience, I guess, goingthrough that process with.
I just want to say one morething.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
I meant to look on my app before I got on the show
and I forgot about it, but Ithink my app says I've saved 600
hours since I have gottenInstacart.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Wow, that's kind of crazy right.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Let's not think about what I've done instead with 600
hours, but I mean there'ssometimes.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Sometimes we'll order special stuff, like I can't
have milk, so we'll order an oatmilk creamer and order.
I'm like, man, I need that andnobody, nope, there wasn't
nothing there and they nevereven reached out to see if they
had a substitute.
And I'm like I bet if we drivedown there it's right there.
And sure enough we did.
And there was like two left.
I'm like, just fine, both, butit's yeah, you know, but that's
(05:20):
part of like you know, we weretalking about this Me and Mrs
Killer Bee were talking aboutthis before we came on tonight.
As we were talking about whatwe're going to talk about
tonight, the show and I said youknow, there's going to come a
time in our kids' lives, ortheir kids' kids' lives, where
they're going to say grandma andgrandpa, you guys used to have
to go to the store and push thatcart thing around Because it's
(05:44):
like nobody does it anymoreanymore.
You know it's.
We just sit at home and havepeople bring us stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
So I mean if you actually went to a Walmart
anytime.
There are tons of people there.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
They're all Instacart , people, aren't they?
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Well, there is a lot more than there used to be.
I mean, oh gosh, that justreminded me.
Guys, this is funny.
I went to Walmart the other dayand you know there are a lot
more of the shoppers there nowthan there used to be and they
push around these big metalcarts and one literally hit me
because she was going so fastout of the aisle she didn't see
me and she hit me and she waslike I am so sorry.
(06:21):
And I was like it's fine, I'mgood, and she's like she just
like spat on along, like they'relike really on a mission now,
you know.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
She's probably our Instacart and she probably gave
her a five star rating.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
No listen, instacart can't go to Walmart because
Walmart has their own shoppers.
So, instacart, you're notallowed to order from Walmart.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I know nothing about this stuff I know gosh.
Well, okay, let's get going onthe topic here, because it was
from our Instacart order wherethis conversation came up.
They actually brought this isone of the bad sides of
Instacart, to not go actually gointo the store.
You know, they brought all thisfruit and we grabbed it and I'm
(07:01):
like that fruit doesn't tastegood.
It just doesn't taste good.
And Mrs Killer B was like whatdo you mean Tastes?
Fine.
Last time I was like it's noteven ripe, like it's not ripe at
all, it's like there's no tasteto it.
And through that conversation,like I don't know, has anybody
here ever had fruit before thatjust wasn't ripe yet?
Or maybe fruit that maybe was alittle too ripe?
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Yeah, I just recently bought a bag of Mandarin,
oranges and flavorless.
You can't really tell whatthose.
That's not really anyone'sfault because they all look the
same on the outside.
It's hard to tell unlessthey're green.
But yeah, they're terrible,aren't they?
They're not good at all?
There's no taste.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Yeah, that was one of the things.
I mean, there's no flavor tothis thing at all.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
So there are a lot of things.
So there's a lot of things thatyour shopper should be able to
tell if it's ripe or not.
But oranges that's not anyone'sfault you can't really tell.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Hit, and blaze, hit and blaze.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Come on up, come on down.
Speaker 4 (07:56):
I wanted to say a sort of side with Mrs Killer B.
I don't leave reviews unlessthey're a five star or more.
I usually don't try to do that,so yes.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Thank you, I sort of think.
If it's not a five star, do younot leave a review?
Speaker 4 (08:09):
Usually, yeah, I don't like to leave bad reviews.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
See, she just always gives a good review, no matter
what.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Listen, it doesn't matter.
He's on my side and we're justleaving it at that.
Speaker 4 (08:19):
But as far as fruit, I always drive you crazy out by
bananas.
One day they're green, they'regreen, and then the next day
they're over ripe.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I'm like yeah, I miss the sweet spot.
I know that's a really hard onethese days.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Yeah, this is a tough one.
That is a tough one.
Thanks for sharing that.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Speaking of bananas, I bought bananas from Aldi and
they never ripened.
They never did.
They stayed green the wholetime until I opened one.
They're still green on theoutside, but they're black on
the inside, so I don't know howthat is even possible, but that
is what happened.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Good soldiers coming down.
Go ahead, good soldier.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
I bet he has an answer for us.
Hey, good soldier.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
I bought a bag of apples and to this day I can't
tell you what happened or why,but they taste it just like
chalk.
Oh, remember the old days whenyou used to clear the chalk yeah
yeah right.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
Just together.
Speaker 5 (09:11):
Yeah they taste it like chalk.
They had like no Moisture inthe middle.
All Wow, I have no idea.
I actually Do.
We just threw the whole bag inthe garbage.
We couldn't figure anything outand everybody started cutting
them open.
Have no idea what happened.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
That is we're.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Hmm, I hope that never happens to you again.
Good soldier.
Speaker 5 (09:35):
Well, I hope it never happens to you.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Maybe, some of those people I didn't deserve a
five-star.
It could happen to Let me justshake it her head.
No, there she's like no.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
Killer B gave me a two Wow, wow limit.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
So she's being very careful.
Speaker 4 (10:01):
Love like looking over there and Dean?
Speaker 2 (10:03):
or am that Olivia shaking her head, like you know,
like so much judgment comingfrom that corner.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Well, what's interesting is, as we were, as
this happened, like this reallyis something that did happen
here Recently and we weretalking about it, about the
fruit not being ripe.
I'm like man, they could likeit's hard to even get fruit in
season anymore.
It's like they pick everythingso early and then we get in it's
not even close to being ripeand it's just not the same.
And through that conversation,they kind of led to us talking
(10:32):
about how, like, how often do wedo that in life, like not just
in picking groceries, but evenin life when it comes to Things
that we want, and we push like Iknow I've pushed for things,
things.
I'm like I want this to happen,I want this to happen, and I
push and push, push until itfinally happens.
And then it happens.
And then I regret that ithappens because I'm like this
isn't what I thought it wasgonna be like, and then I'm
(10:53):
complaining.
But really what it come down tois I pushed for something and
it wasn't season for yet, itwasn't time for that to happen,
but I made it happen and then Iregretted it and we were talking
about that like what.
This might be a good thing totalk about it.
We'll trick everybody in withour insta cart talk and then
we'll transition.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
So We'll get serious.
We'll get serious.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Yeah.
I didn't mean to, I don't know,I did that so that's the
transition into the serious sideof this conversation.
So with that, I would love toask Mrs Killer B and meta Olivia
I want to get your guys asthoughts on something I want to
ask you guys.
Both this question and MrsKiller B will go first with you
and then you can hand it over tometa Olivia Is there a time
that you would like to share?
(11:38):
Actually, I'm not Share a time.
I'm gonna ask you if you wantto share.
No, is there time?
Is there a time in your life nochoice when you, when you've
rushed into something that ledto regret?
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Because I don't know the ages of everyone here.
I'm gonna be discreet in what Isay here.
What I regret rushing into iswhen I was a teenager and I
thought I was ready for adultrelationships.
And you know, when I was 16, 17, I thought I was done.
Growing up I was like, wow, I'man adult, like I know exactly
(12:15):
what's going on in life.
You know, no one could tell meanything.
This is why you know, this iswhat happens to you.
When you're a know-it-all as ateenager, you get a know-it-all
as a child.
It's just the truth, that'swhat happens and you know.
So now I have to Learn how todeal with that.
But that's what happened islike no one could tell me
(12:35):
anything, because I already knewexactly what I was gonna do
with my life.
So when I was ready to move onto adult relationships, I did,
and I regret that because I hadno idea what I was doing.
I had no idea what impact itwould make on me Emotionally,
you know, and so I would justsay, if there's anyone here who
(12:56):
finds themselves in thatsituation, it doesn't hurt to
wait, it doesn't hurt to waitlonger and make sure that you're
ready and you're in the rightplace before you Grow up too
fast, you know.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
I still have a hard time.
I think that at 44 that I cango sit in with adult
conversations and I still getkicked out.
So it's still not made it there.
But yeah, that's, that's areally good, that's a really
good thought.
Well, thanks for sharing that,mrs Klaiby.
How about you Meadow Olivia?
Speaker 3 (13:27):
I can't think of anything like in particular that
actually happened, but there'sbeen so many times where I was
like mad at God that Something Iwanted to happen didn't but, I
was able to see if it did happen, but I would have really
regretted that it did happen ofjust like you know, wanting a
(13:51):
certain job At a particular time, or wanting to marry someone
that I thought was the person Iwas supposed to marry and wasn't
, and being mad that it didn'twork out, and like now I'm like,
oh my gosh, that would havebeen horrendous.
So, yeah, I just have you knowtons and tons of those, but none
(14:15):
that I can think of that Iactually did, where I was like,
oh man, I regret doing that.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
So yeah, so really you were saved from a lot of
regrets because you know thingslike happened or whatever.
But then you got to see youknow a different perspective
once it was passed and you'relike, oh, if that would have
happened.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Yeah yeah, and while it was happening, I was, you
know, not happy, like I was madand I'm like this isn't fair,
this is ridiculous.
Why can't I have what I want,like that kind of thing?
So, even you know, if itdoesn't happen, I still learned
a lot.
But, yeah, without actuallydoing it, if that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Yeah, yeah, that's good.
That sounds like a lot of likeGod's provision for you, like
saving you from Regrets, reallyyeah.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
I could think of one regret I'm out of love you for
you what?
Speaker 3 (15:13):
I find the one one.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
It was that it was that pirate hack, because you
asked me how do I get it off?
I can't get it off, and you putit on real quickly.
You made a decision and youcame in and you couldn't get rid
of it.
So nobody listening to thepodcast can see it.
But yeah, she's got to take apicture and make sure we post it
with it.
Well, okay, I would love to askeverybody here how many of you
have ever felt the pressure tomake something happen quickly?
(15:37):
Has anybody here ever felt thatpressure before?
Would anybody care to come downhere and just share it?
Give us like, share yourexperience with us as well.
It's easy to kind of fall intothat mindset of jumping into
feeling rushed because of thereally in the fast paced world
that we're in.
Yeah, sure.
There's a lot of pressure there.
(15:58):
So I would love to know fromyou, mrs Killer Bee, is there
anything that you felt like thepressure, like that from the
pressure of just life, that youfeel like you find yourself
jumping and doing some thingstoo soon when really you could
step back and really processthat, and what are some ways
that maybe you might, or you'relearning how you can make room
(16:19):
to be a little bit more patient,If that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
So I would say that one way I felt pressured so like
right now I'm doing kind oflike a side business of cooking
and cleaning for people in theirhomes and I have felt the
pressure occasionally to take onmore clients than I really
actually want to handle, andpart of that, I think, comes
(16:45):
from like, part of it comes fromlike oh well, if I take one
more client, then that's thismuch more money which will help
us.
So that's part of it.
But another part, and evenbigger part, is I don't want to
say no to people.
So you know, through my life,through different times, I've
had to learn this lesson againand again.
(17:08):
Where you know, I think probablywhen, when Ashton was a little
kid, so probably 15 years ago Ihad to learn to say no and I got
really good at it and I didmuch better at managing my time
and just balancing better.
And then it just seems like youknow, every five years I fall
back into it again, where I haveto learn the lesson again and
(17:30):
that's where I am right now islike I'm not saying no as often
as I should and I'm not puttingthe most important things first
so that you know the otherthings kind of fall in line.
So that's where I feel temptedto kind of like, make things
happen is I'm like I'm not goingto stop and take the time to
(17:51):
think through this and make theright decision.
I'm just going to do it, get itdone and be done, and then I'll
think about that later.
So that's kind of where I feelthe pressure right now is that
you know, I need to stop andthink about things before I give
people answers.
And I'll just think I'll handlethis later.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
I think that's the thing, like even feeling the
pressure to not say no.
It's always.
It's something I've learned totry to help remind myself, like
if I'm saying yes to everybody,I'm saying no to somebody yeah,
I'm the one that taught you thatactually I know and but it's
really.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
I need to apply it again.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
I love you.
Just once I hit that button.
So bad, but it is.
It's so true, like, because Imean, if we are saying yes to
everybody, you're saying no tosomebody.
So it's, you can say, I don'twant to say no to somebody, you
don't like saying no, but youyou're going to have to say no
to somebody, and it might besomebody that really matters
more in your life as well.
Exactly, let me ask you thiswhat are some ways that you've
(18:48):
started to maybe make room, tobe patient and think about
things?
a little bit more before makinga decision.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Yeah, and that sounds like what, exactly what I was
thinking?
I'm like, oh, I could have saidlike things I rushed into that.
You know I do regret, which I'mtrying to do better at, is I
want to know things.
So, for example, if someone'slike we have to have a
conversation like you know, evenyou and I, Mr Killer B and work
(19:15):
, if something's going on like Iwant to have the conversation
now and talk it out, but it'sprobably better to process and
think about things beforespeaking, or you know that, but
I'm like I need to get this doneright now.
And then a lot of times, I saythings that I regret saying.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Yeah, yeah, that makes sense, that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
I can see that definitely in relationships,
Like sometimes things happen andyou're like we need to talk
about this right, this minute.
But then if you were to reallyprocess it you know I really
appreciate what you're sayingthere, because I feel like I do
that a lot, Like I need to tellyou right now, like why that
bothered me, when if I wouldhave waited like even you know
15 minutes, I would have felt alittle, you know, more calm
(20:04):
about it.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
You're really.
This is something that's veryinteresting about.
Mrs Killer B is actually one ofthe other questions that I had
was has anyone here maybe youguys can let us know by throwing
some confetti too has anyonehere ever experienced a strain
in a relationship due to rushinginto decisions or actions?
Has anybody experienced thatbefore?
Yeah, sue's, and you know.
(20:26):
What's interesting, mrs KillerB, is you're sharing that about
how, like you know, you kind ofwant to rush in sometimes and
get that answer, but she's verypatient with our son, which
should be like he needs time andshe's always been with that
with him Like he needs timealone, he needs time to process
it.
And I'm like, no, we need tohandle this now.
And she's like, no, you need tolet him process it.
And I'm like, oh, okay, but hedoes.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
We've learned that he does need that time.
He does need that time.
Yeah, and I don't know ifanybody else feels like this.
If you have children, like, doyou find sometimes that you're
more patient with your childrenthan you are with your spouse,
or vice versa maybe?
Speaker 1 (21:05):
People has thrown her hands up.
She's throwing some confetti.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
I know I don't know Total double standard, but I'm
definitely guilty of it.
Speaker 5 (21:12):
We have Dolo hey, Dolo how y'all doing.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
How are you doing?
Speaker 1 (21:16):
I love the sweater too.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
Yeah, I just wanted to say I rush to work every day
and I rush home I get the rushgame hard part.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
I do get the rush game hard part.
This never feels like you'requite getting there on time.
Speaker 4 (21:32):
We're rushing to get there and the place is going
nowhere.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Oh man, that's pretty deep.
That's, yeah, I haven't reallythink about that.
Thank you, dolo.
There's a lot of things that,wow.
That's a good question to beasking ourselves.
A lot, too, I think we'rerushing in in life and is it
taking us where we are wantingto go?
So, mrs Clareed, do you have,mrs Clareed or Mettalivie, do
(21:58):
you guys have anything to addabout this topic of rushing into
things?
Speaker 3 (22:04):
Oh, I was just going to ask you guys a question back.
Good for you, Since you bothsaid you've rushed into things
and have had some regrets.
Have you learned things throughthose regrets though?
Speaker 2 (22:17):
Oh, absolutely, yes, yeah, I can't think of a single
thing in my life that I regretthat I didn't learn a lesson
from definitely.
What about you?
Speaker 1 (22:26):
I would say that you know something that and I know
some of you here if some of youhere are Christians, I would say
, probably this might besomething that you might be able
to relate to.
But for myself, one of thethings that I was raised and
heard a lot was God told me todo this.
God told me to do that.
God said, god said and I wasraised up hearing that a lot.
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So then what I didn't realizeis to later, through maturing in
my own life and my own walk,that I realized that there's a
scripture in the Bible about nottaking the Lord's name in vain.
And what God started to show mewas, if you say I said that
you're supposed to do this,you're kind of basically trying
to put a seal on somethingsaying I don't want you to say
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no, I don't want you to disagreewith it, because God said, and
you put a stamp on it, thoughyou really ask yourself did God
really tell you that, or is itsomething that you're just this
is something you really want todo, because putting God's name
on it almost like a seal isusing his name in vain as well,
and that was something I had tolearn, and now it's like a lot.
(23:36):
I'm really careful.
When I say, well, god told methis, or God said this for me to
do, and because it really putseverybody in place, it's like,
well, don't argue with it, mrsKelly.
What are you going to say if Isay, well, god told me to do
this, well, okay.
Yeah exactly I'm going to goover here because I ain't going
to mess with that.
That's what it kind of does, sothat's one thing that I've
learned for sure.
I'd like to ask does anyonehere have a story where timing
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was crucial and that thatrushing in could have been a
huge mistake, like it could havereally affected your life?
Speaker 2 (24:08):
Does anybody have an example about that?
And I did not even think aboutthat till just now.
So some of you might have heardus tell our story before where
Mr Killer Bee andI actually wentto the same high school, but I
only remember meeting him likeonce early on in high school and
he was two years older than me,but we talk about all the time.
(24:32):
Well, okay, I should also saythat we didn't start dating
until after my sophomore year ofcollege, so that was, you know,
several years after wegraduated, obviously, and so
that's when we, like, really metand started talking and dating
and all that.
So we talk about it a lot how,if we would have actually
started dating in high school,we definitely would not have
(24:55):
made it because of just thedifferent ways that we were in
high school and the differentthings that were going on, and
you know, we just had differentvalues and things at that time,
and so we talk about that allthe time.
So it's it's really a beautifulthought, if you think about it,
that something can be right foryou, but not the right time.
So you have to wait for theright thing and the right time.
(25:17):
You know God's timing.
If you're a Christian, you knowthat's the way we look at it,
and so it's just.
I just thought of that when yousaid that timing was crucial
for us, because had we dated inhigh school, we would not know
each other now.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
How many people here, if you want to throw a confetti
, would say that you've at somepoint.
Maybe that's something thatyou've done in written.
It comes to a relationship LikeI think relationships is one of
the things that was easy for meto rush because I wanted to
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have a relationship with someonethat you know cared about me
and stuff Like that wassomething I desired.
So anybody else here can relateto that in some way.
Yeah, definitely you.
Okay, well, this is aninteresting story and I know
we'll get ready to wrap it uphere too, but there was a.
There's a show that we'rewatching.
What's that show called?
Do you remember?
Speaker 2 (26:10):
It's called Special Forces World's Hardest Test, or
something like that.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
It's like the world's longest TV show title too.
I didn't realize that, and ifyou guys haven't seen this, go
it's on, it's on a, it's on Hulu, hulu.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
So just look up Special Forces, it's like a
reality show.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
Yeah, so it's celebrities are going through
what's basically like a specialforces boot camp type thing.
Yeah, to see you know how toughthey are, how you know how they
can, if they could actuallymake it in special forces
training, that's so interesting.
It is such a good show, yeah,which is very interesting
because I cry every single time.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
Yeah, mrs Killer Bee is not one of those people that
usually, when I put it on, Ithought she's gonna watch one
episode.
I'm gonna get to watch thisshow by myself and she's like
cooking or something, no problem.
Yeah, she's like every nightshe's like let's watch that show
, let's watch that show and I'mlike, are you serious, Can we
watch something else?
Like I want to watch that show.
I'm like, all right, wow, she'sreally, she's all in on it.
But what is interesting in theshow is there's a very wide
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range of celebrities, peoplethat you would think like this
person is gonna go really far,and people are like they're not
gonna last long and you will besurprised of you know what
happens.
I don't want to give away a lot, in case you watch it?
Speaker 2 (27:23):
No, don't give away anything.
I was like we can just givethem a sampling.
There's NFL players, there's abasketball players.
Just try.
What is the basketball?
I cannot think right now whatit's called.
What is the basketball league?
Nba?
Speaker 3 (27:36):
NBA, nba I was thinking NBC.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
I was like I know that's not right NBC.
There's Olympians, there's abeauty queen, there's a
professional soccer players,there's a Bachelorettes.
Speaker 4 (27:48):
Bachelorettes yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:49):
There's actors and all kinds.
I mean just baseball players.
Oh yeah, baseball players,that's great.
Speaker 1 (27:58):
So they have this wide range of, again, like
they're athletic, like they'reathletic.
Some of them are athletes, someof them are not.
But there's one part in theshow where they all had to stand
on this boat and those boats goin full speed and basically
they have to jump out of theboat and grab this little
floating like buoy thing andwhen they grab that there's a
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chopper, it's a black copchopper flying in which,
ladyhawk, you'd love that.
This black cop chopper comesflying in and they drop a rope
and this person has to grab thatrope and try to climb up into
the chopper.
And it's crazy because thewater is going nuts In the ocean
, yeah, in the ocean.
Yeah, and all this, you knowthe helicopter and all that
(28:42):
stuff.
It's insane to see what happens.
But here comes the NBA person.
You're like this NBA person isgoing to knock this out of the
ballpark, right?
I mean, even though he playsbasketball Out of the basketball
park.
Yeah, he's going to slam, dunkthis.
That's what you're thinking.
Well, what happened was, youknow, they're training them
because in a real life situationthey said this could be like a
(29:03):
rescue mission, where you needto get out and if you don't make
it up that rope, your life'sover, like you're not going to
live.
So they get one shot.
So this guy jumps out, grabsthe buoy and he is so much in a
rush, the helicopters come in,they drop the rope, but he
doesn't wait for the rope to getclose to him, he just let's go
and start swimming over to it.
And as soon as he did that,they said he's not going to make
(29:24):
it.
Did you see what he just did?
He left, he went, he's swimmingtowards the rope, he's going to
use all his energy to get tothat rope and he's not even
going to make it up.
And that's exactly what happened.
I mean, he barely made it up alittle bit, and they actually
was.
It got to a pretty scary state.
It got to a pretty scarysituation because he went under
and he wasn't coming back up.
So they had to send divergefrom the helicopter down to go
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check him out.
But you know, I'm like man.
I can totally relate to thatand you know, not all the ways
are like life threatening.
But how many times have I spentso much energy trying to get to
something and I've wasted allthat energy.
If I would have just waitedtill it was the right time to
you know that God had brought itinto my life instead of wasting
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all that energy.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
So it's so hard because, you know, I think I
don't think social media hasdone us any favors when it comes
to seeing the stages that otherpeople are in, and then we're
like, well, I'm ready for thatstage too, let's make it happen.
And you know, not everybody'sstage is right for us at this
point and you know you can rushyourself in the lots of places.
(30:28):
I mean, I know someone inparticular who was ready to have
a baby and she knew that herboys, her boyfriend, was not the
person that she should havebeen having children with.
But she did some things and shemade it happen and then they
ended up breaking up and, youknow, then she raised her baby
on her own.
So it's like, you know, you cansay I want this and I'm going
(30:50):
to make it happen, but thatdoesn't mean it's the right
thing to do.
You know it's not going to bethe best situation if it's not
the right time for you toactually have that, even if it's
a blessing, like a baby.
You know it's timing iseverything.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
Timing.
Well, I mean, it is like.
I mean, we know fruit is goodfor us, right?
We know fruit is good for us ifwe're going to eat healthy, but
if we pick it too early, it'sjust not going to taste the same
.
It's not going to taste same.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
I guess it's really not bad for you, though, so
actually, well, I wouldn't sayit's bad for you, but it's not
as good for you because theripening.
The final ripening stage offruit is when all of the very
best like antioxidants areformed.
You know there's all sorts ofthings in perfectly ripe fruit
that are cancer fighting andgood for your blood sugar like
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good for a lot of things.
But if you don't let it get tothat final ripen stage and
really they say it should ripenon the tree, so of course it's
very hard to get fruit like thatfrom a grocery store.
They have to pick it early soit's not at its full nutritional
potential because it was pickedtoo early.
So yeah, I'm glad you broughtthat up, because I forgot that.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
Yeah, I learned about that.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
It's not as good for you.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
And, as we get ready to wrap up, one of the things I
would encourage people to bethinking about, too, is if you
are a Christian, if that'ssomething that you're going
through and you're trusting inGod, that's something that I
feel like.
For me, I've had to startlearning more and more through,
like, my time of reflection, oflike do I really trust him to go
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at his speed?
Do I really trust him knowingthat I don't know his speed in
this situation, but I'm going tobe listening to him, talking to
him and waiting for him to helpme know this is the right time,
instead of trying to makethings happen on my own.
But welcome to today's podcast replay from the
Killer B Studios.
Let's go ahead and dive on in.
Well, let's start off with ourstory how this all came up.
How did this topic come up?
So, how many of you here haveused Instacart?
Anybody here Instacart fans?
Okay, I see some thumbs up.
Okay, yeah, all right.
Yeah, yeah, see.
Okay, the girls over there.
(00:21):
All right, how many of you loveInstacart?
Let me ask you that Do youactually love Instacart?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Okay, yeah, okay, yeah, I actually love it, yes.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Well, instacart has.
What do you say?
Would you say it's changed ourlife?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Yeah, it has changed our life.
But Met Olivia is making likewhat do you call that face?
She's making like disgustedface about Instacart.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
I have a love hate relationship with it.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Oh, explain why I'm pleased to tell.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Well, sometimes it honestly all depends on the
person.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
That you get.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Yeah, the shopper yeah sometimes they go out of
their way to make sure that youget what you want Other times.
I'm like, excuse me, that was asubstitution.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Yeah, you're like you didn't even try Substitutions.
Yes, yes.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
An onion and an apple are not the same, oh my gosh,
so that reminds me, that'spretty good.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Two times now.
Oh, I just tried to make two,but you can't make two with oh,
so this is kind of two.
Two times I have ordered Beatsand I got Radishes instead,
which are very different.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
I mean they look similar but they are very
different.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Yes for sure I don't blame them.
I think they tried, theythought it was a bean bud.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
See, this is where it gets a little can get a little
touchy on the conversation here,because Mrs Killer always
thinks that they tried and shestill tips them very well and
I'm like now wait a minute, likethey didn't.
They obviously didn't try.
You don't tip them all the timelike that.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
I don't know, that's just me how else I learn I know,
I really want to agree with you, med Olivia.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
But the thing is like the tipping is one thing, but
then, like the rating, I cannotgive someone less than five
stars.
I just can't do it.
Even if they've gotten a wholebag of my groceries, I still
rate them five stars and I addthem as a favorite.
I'm just like well.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Mrs Killer B, I know.
Oh, my goodness See, look ateverybody, would you?
How many times?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
do I have?
Speaker 3 (02:19):
to tell you.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
How many people here would always give a five star
rating if somebody didn't bringyour groceries with me?
Everybody's shaking their head.
No, mrs Killer B.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Oh guys, you're so much stronger than me.
Okay, so let me just say thistoo I asked for the favorite
option.
Literally, I was like, pleasegive us a favorite option.
I have favorites, I'm going tochoose them, I want them, and we
have tons and tons of shoppersaround here because we're close
to a lot of stores.
Yeah, so they gave us thefavorite option I'm sure not
(02:52):
because I asked.
But then I like found that Icould not pick someone as my
favorite.
So every shopper I've ever hadis picked as a favorite.
So now I still don't get myfavorite.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
I was like you don't understand how these apps work.
You don't understand.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
I do understand it, but I just thought what?
What if these people see that Idid not pick them as a favorite
?
Then they're going to feel badabout themselves.
Not all right with that.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
I just mean they need to improve.
How are they supposed to getbetter if they're like?
Well, you know what Mrs KillerV says.
I'm perfect.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
So actually our Instacart app is under his name,
so they don't know, it's meWait a minute, that's even more
like yeah, no, I just can't.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
That's why people look at me and point and laugh.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yeah, there's plenty of other people around here who
are going to give them the truth.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Now we're going to have another conversation and,
like you, know you can encouragethem, say I mean thank you for
doing that, but you did itreally not correctly.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
So I encourage you, if you would like to get a five
star rating or a tip, Iencourage you to do better next
time.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Exactly Now.
You guys can do that.
I got my thing and I'm stickingwith it.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
You need to get your own account set up, then I'm
learning a lot here.
I did not even realize this iswhere we're going down in this
conversation.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Actually, she's probably saving you, mr Killer P
.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Right, I'm saving his life In public.
Yeah, in assassinated.
Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I've got that mean, but I will like I know.
I'm just kidding.
That is Wow, that's a shocker.
I didn't know that.
Well, yeah, so Instacartrelationships can be a good and
bad experience, I guess, goingthrough that process with.
I just want to say one morething.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
I meant to look on my app before I got on the show
and I forgot about it, but Ithink my app says I've saved 600
hours since I have gottenInstacart.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Wow, that's kind of crazy right.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Let's not think about what I've done instead with 600
hours, but I mean there'ssometimes.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Sometimes we'll order special stuff, like I can't
have milk, so we'll order an oatmilk creamer and order.
I'm like, man, I need that andnobody, nope, there wasn't
nothing there and they nevereven reached out to see if they
had a substitute.
And I'm like I bet if we drivedown there it's right there.
And sure enough we did.
And there was like two left.
I'm like, just fine, both, butit's yeah, you know, but that's
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part of like you know, we weretalking about this Me and Mrs
Killer Bee were talking aboutthis before we came on tonight.
As we were talking about whatwe're going to talk about
tonight, the show and I said youknow, there's going to come a
time in our kids' lives, ortheir kids' kids' lives, where
they're going to say grandma andgrandpa, you guys used to have
to go to the store and push thatcart thing around Because it's
(05:44):
like nobody does it anymoreanymore.
You know it's.
We just sit at home and havepeople bring us stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
So I mean if you actually went to a Walmart
anytime.
There are tons of people there.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
They're all Instacart , people, aren't they?
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Well, there is a lot more than there used to be.
I mean, oh gosh, that justreminded me.
Guys, this is funny.
I went to Walmart the other dayand you know there are a lot
more of the shoppers there nowthan there used to be and they
push around these big metalcarts and one literally hit me
because she was going so fastout of the aisle she didn't see
me and she hit me and she waslike I am so sorry.
(06:21):
And I was like it's fine, I'mgood, and she's like she just
like spat on along, like they'relike really on a mission now,
you know.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
She's probably our Instacart and she probably gave
her a five star rating.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
No listen, instacart can't go to Walmart because
Walmart has their own shoppers.
So, instacart, you're notallowed to order from Walmart.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I know nothing about this stuff I know gosh.
Well, okay, let's get going onthe topic here, because it was
from our Instacart order wherethis conversation came up.
They actually brought this isone of the bad sides of
Instacart, to not go actually gointo the store.
You know, they brought all thisfruit and we grabbed it and I'm
(07:01):
like that fruit doesn't tastegood.
It just doesn't taste good.
And Mrs Killer B was like whatdo you mean Tastes?
Fine.
Last time I was like it's noteven ripe, like it's not ripe at
all, it's like there's no tasteto it.
And through that conversation,like I don't know, has anybody
here ever had fruit before thatjust wasn't ripe yet?
Or maybe fruit that maybe was alittle too ripe?
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Yeah, I just recently bought a bag of Mandarin,
oranges and flavorless.
You can't really tell whatthose.
That's not really anyone'sfault because they all look the
same on the outside.
It's hard to tell unlessthey're green.
But yeah, they're terrible,aren't they?
They're not good at all?
There's no taste.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Yeah, that was one of the things.
I mean, there's no flavor tothis thing at all.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
So there are a lot of things.
So there's a lot of things thatyour shopper should be able to
tell if it's ripe or not.
But oranges that's not anyone'sfault you can't really tell.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Hit, and blaze, hit and blaze.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Come on up, come on down.
Speaker 4 (07:56):
I wanted to say a sort of side with Mrs Killer B.
I don't leave reviews unlessthey're a five star or more.
I usually don't try to do that,so yes.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Thank you, I sort of think.
If it's not a five star, do younot leave a review?
Speaker 4 (08:09):
Usually, yeah, I don't like to leave bad reviews.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
See, she just always gives a good review, no matter
what.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Listen, it doesn't matter.
He's on my side and we're justleaving it at that.
Speaker 4 (08:19):
But as far as fruit, I always drive you crazy out by
bananas.
One day they're green, they'regreen, and then the next day
they're over ripe.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I'm like yeah, I miss the sweet spot.
I know that's a really hard onethese days.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Yeah, this is a tough one.
That is a tough one.
Thanks for sharing that.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Speaking of bananas, I bought bananas from Aldi and
they never ripened.
They never did.
They stayed green the wholetime until I opened one.
They're still green on theoutside, but they're black on
the inside, so I don't know howthat is even possible, but that
is what happened.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Good soldiers coming down.
Go ahead, good soldier.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
I bet he has an answer for us.
Hey, good soldier.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
I bought a bag of apples and to this day I can't
tell you what happened or why,but they taste it just like
chalk.
Oh, remember the old days whenyou used to clear the chalk yeah
yeah right.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
Just together.
Speaker 5 (09:11):
Yeah they taste it like chalk.
They had like no Moisture inthe middle.
All Wow, I have no idea.
I actually Do.
We just threw the whole bag inthe garbage.
We couldn't figure anything outand everybody started cutting
them open.
Have no idea what happened.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
That is we're.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Hmm, I hope that never happens to you again.
Good soldier.
Speaker 5 (09:35):
Well, I hope it never happens to you.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Maybe, some of those people I didn't deserve a
five-star.
It could happen to Let me justshake it her head.
No, there she's like no.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
Killer B gave me a two Wow, wow limit.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
So she's being very careful.
Speaker 4 (10:01):
Love like looking over there and Dean?
Speaker 2 (10:03):
or am that Olivia shaking her head, like you know,
like so much judgment comingfrom that corner.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Well, what's interesting is, as we were, as
this happened, like this reallyis something that did happen
here Recently and we weretalking about it, about the
fruit not being ripe.
I'm like man, they could likeit's hard to even get fruit in
season anymore.
It's like they pick everythingso early and then we get in it's
not even close to being ripeand it's just not the same.
And through that conversation,they kind of led to us talking
(10:32):
about how, like, how often do wedo that in life, like not just
in picking groceries, but evenin life when it comes to Things
that we want, and we push like Iknow I've pushed for things,
things.
I'm like I want this to happen,I want this to happen, and I
push and push, push until itfinally happens.
And then it happens.
And then I regret that ithappens because I'm like this
isn't what I thought it wasgonna be like, and then I'm
(10:53):
complaining.
But really what it come down tois I pushed for something and
it wasn't season for yet, itwasn't time for that to happen,
but I made it happen and then Iregretted it and we were talking
about that like what.
This might be a good thing totalk about it.
We'll trick everybody in withour insta cart talk and then
we'll transition.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
So We'll get serious.
We'll get serious.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Yeah.
I didn't mean to, I don't know,I did that so that's the
transition into the serious sideof this conversation.
So with that, I would love toask Mrs Killer B and meta Olivia
I want to get your guys asthoughts on something I want to
ask you guys.
Both this question and MrsKiller B will go first with you
and then you can hand it over tometa Olivia Is there a time
that you would like to share?
(11:38):
Actually, I'm not Share a time.
I'm gonna ask you if you wantto share.
No, is there time?
Is there a time in your life nochoice when you, when you've
rushed into something that ledto regret?
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Because I don't know the ages of everyone here.
I'm gonna be discreet in what Isay here.
What I regret rushing into iswhen I was a teenager and I
thought I was ready for adultrelationships.
And you know, when I was 16, 17, I thought I was done.
Growing up I was like, wow, I'man adult, like I know exactly
(12:15):
what's going on in life.
You know, no one could tell meanything.
This is why you know, this iswhat happens to you.
When you're a know-it-all as ateenager, you get a know-it-all
as a child.
It's just the truth, that'swhat happens and you know.
So now I have to Learn how todeal with that.
But that's what happened islike no one could tell me
(12:35):
anything, because I already knewexactly what I was gonna do
with my life.
So when I was ready to move onto adult relationships, I did,
and I regret that because I hadno idea what I was doing.
I had no idea what impact itwould make on me Emotionally,
you know, and so I would justsay, if there's anyone here who
(12:56):
finds themselves in thatsituation, it doesn't hurt to
wait, it doesn't hurt to waitlonger and make sure that you're
ready and you're in the rightplace before you Grow up too
fast, you know.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
I still have a hard time.
I think that at 44 that I cango sit in with adult
conversations and I still getkicked out.
So it's still not made it there.
But yeah, that's, that's areally good, that's a really
good thought.
Well, thanks for sharing that,mrs Klaiby.
How about you Meadow Olivia?
Speaker 3 (13:27):
I can't think of anything like in particular that
actually happened, but there'sbeen so many times where I was
like mad at God that Something Iwanted to happen didn't but, I
was able to see if it did happen, but I would have really
regretted that it did happen ofjust like you know, wanting a
(13:51):
certain job At a particular time, or wanting to marry someone
that I thought was the person Iwas supposed to marry and wasn't
, and being mad that it didn'twork out, and like now I'm like,
oh my gosh, that would havebeen horrendous.
So, yeah, I just have you knowtons and tons of those, but none
(14:15):
that I can think of that Iactually did, where I was like,
oh man, I regret doing that.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
So yeah, so really you were saved from a lot of
regrets because you know thingslike happened or whatever.
But then you got to see youknow a different perspective
once it was passed and you'relike, oh, if that would have
happened.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Yeah yeah, and while it was happening, I was, you
know, not happy, like I was madand I'm like this isn't fair,
this is ridiculous.
Why can't I have what I want,like that kind of thing?
So, even you know, if itdoesn't happen, I still learned
a lot.
But, yeah, without actuallydoing it, if that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Yeah, yeah, that's good.
That sounds like a lot of likeGod's provision for you, like
saving you from Regrets, reallyyeah.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
I could think of one regret I'm out of love you for
you what?
Speaker 3 (15:13):
I find the one one.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
It was that it was that pirate hack, because you
asked me how do I get it off?
I can't get it off, and you putit on real quickly.
You made a decision and youcame in and you couldn't get rid
of it.
So nobody listening to thepodcast can see it.
But yeah, she's got to take apicture and make sure we post it
with it.
Well, okay, I would love to askeverybody here how many of you
have ever felt the pressure tomake something happen quickly?
(15:37):
Has anybody here ever felt thatpressure before?
Would anybody care to come downhere and just share it?
Give us like, share yourexperience with us as well.
It's easy to kind of fall intothat mindset of jumping into
feeling rushed because of thereally in the fast paced world
that we're in.
Yeah, sure.
There's a lot of pressure there.
(15:58):
So I would love to know fromyou, mrs Killer Bee, is there
anything that you felt like thepressure, like that from the
pressure of just life, that youfeel like you find yourself
jumping and doing some thingstoo soon when really you could
step back and really processthat, and what are some ways
that maybe you might, or you'relearning how you can make room
(16:19):
to be a little bit more patient,If that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
So I would say that one way I felt pressured so like
right now I'm doing kind oflike a side business of cooking
and cleaning for people in theirhomes and I have felt the
pressure occasionally to take onmore clients than I really
actually want to handle, andpart of that, I think, comes
(16:45):
from like, part of it comes fromlike oh well, if I take one
more client, then that's thismuch more money which will help
us.
So that's part of it.
But another part, and evenbigger part, is I don't want to
say no to people.
So you know, through my life,through different times, I've
had to learn this lesson againand again.
(17:08):
Where you know, I think probablywhen, when Ashton was a little
kid, so probably 15 years ago Ihad to learn to say no and I got
really good at it and I didmuch better at managing my time
and just balancing better.
And then it just seems like youknow, every five years I fall
back into it again, where I haveto learn the lesson again and
(17:30):
that's where I am right now islike I'm not saying no as often
as I should and I'm not puttingthe most important things first
so that you know the otherthings kind of fall in line.
So that's where I feel temptedto kind of like, make things
happen is I'm like I'm not goingto stop and take the time to
(17:51):
think through this and make theright decision.
I'm just going to do it, get itdone and be done, and then I'll
think about that later.
So that's kind of where I feelthe pressure right now is that
you know, I need to stop andthink about things before I give
people answers.
And I'll just think I'll handlethis later.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
I think that's the thing, like even feeling the
pressure to not say no.
It's always.
It's something I've learned totry to help remind myself, like
if I'm saying yes to everybody,I'm saying no to somebody yeah,
I'm the one that taught you thatactually I know and but it's
really.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
I need to apply it again.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
I love you.
Just once I hit that button.
So bad, but it is.
It's so true, like, because Imean, if we are saying yes to
everybody, you're saying no tosomebody.
So it's, you can say, I don'twant to say no to somebody, you
don't like saying no, but youyou're going to have to say no
to somebody, and it might besomebody that really matters
more in your life as well.
Exactly, let me ask you thiswhat are some ways that you've
(18:48):
started to maybe make room, tobe patient and think about
things?
a little bit more before makinga decision.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Yeah, and that sounds like what, exactly what I was
thinking?
I'm like, oh, I could have saidlike things I rushed into that.
You know I do regret, which I'mtrying to do better at, is I
want to know things.
So, for example, if someone'slike we have to have a
conversation like you know, evenyou and I, Mr Killer B and work
(19:15):
, if something's going on like Iwant to have the conversation
now and talk it out, but it'sprobably better to process and
think about things beforespeaking, or you know that, but
I'm like I need to get this doneright now.
And then a lot of times, I saythings that I regret saying.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Yeah, yeah, that makes sense, that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
I can see that definitely in relationships,
Like sometimes things happen andyou're like we need to talk
about this right, this minute.
But then if you were to reallyprocess it you know I really
appreciate what you're sayingthere, because I feel like I do
that a lot, Like I need to tellyou right now, like why that
bothered me, when if I wouldhave waited like even you know
15 minutes, I would have felt alittle, you know, more calm
(20:04):
about it.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
You're really.
This is something that's veryinteresting about.
Mrs Killer B is actually one ofthe other questions that I had
was has anyone here maybe youguys can let us know by throwing
some confetti too has anyonehere ever experienced a strain
in a relationship due to rushinginto decisions or actions?
Has anybody experienced thatbefore?
Yeah, sue's, and you know.
(20:26):
What's interesting, mrs KillerB, is you're sharing that about
how, like you know, you kind ofwant to rush in sometimes and
get that answer, but she's verypatient with our son, which
should be like he needs time andshe's always been with that
with him Like he needs timealone, he needs time to process
it.
And I'm like, no, we need tohandle this now.
And she's like, no, you need tolet him process it.
And I'm like, oh, okay, but hedoes.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
We've learned that he does need that time.
He does need that time.
Yeah, and I don't know ifanybody else feels like this.
If you have children, like, doyou find sometimes that you're
more patient with your childrenthan you are with your spouse,
or vice versa maybe?
Speaker 1 (21:05):
People has thrown her hands up.
She's throwing some confetti.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
I know I don't know Total double standard, but I'm
definitely guilty of it.
Speaker 5 (21:12):
We have Dolo hey, Dolo how y'all doing.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
How are you doing?
Speaker 1 (21:16):
I love the sweater too.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
Yeah, I just wanted to say I rush to work every day
and I rush home I get the rushgame hard part.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
I do get the rush game hard part.
This never feels like you'requite getting there on time.
Speaker 4 (21:32):
We're rushing to get there and the place is going
nowhere.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Oh man, that's pretty deep.
That's, yeah, I haven't reallythink about that.
Thank you, dolo.
There's a lot of things that,wow.
That's a good question to beasking ourselves.
A lot, too, I think we'rerushing in in life and is it
taking us where we are wantingto go?
So, mrs Clareed, do you have,mrs Clareed or Mettalivie, do
(21:58):
you guys have anything to addabout this topic of rushing into
things?
Speaker 3 (22:04):
Oh, I was just going to ask you guys a question back.
Good for you, Since you bothsaid you've rushed into things
and have had some regrets.
Have you learned things throughthose regrets though?
Speaker 2 (22:17):
Oh, absolutely, yes, yeah, I can't think of a single
thing in my life that I regretthat I didn't learn a lesson
from definitely.
What about you?
Speaker 1 (22:26):
I would say that you know something that and I know
some of you here if some of youhere are Christians, I would say
, probably this might besomething that you might be able
to relate to.
But for myself, one of thethings that I was raised and
heard a lot was God told me todo this.
God told me to do that.
God said, god said and I wasraised up hearing that a lot.
(22:51):
So then what I didn't realizeis to later, through maturing in
my own life and my own walk,that I realized that there's a
scripture in the Bible about nottaking the Lord's name in vain.
And what God started to show mewas, if you say I said that
you're supposed to do this,you're kind of basically trying
to put a seal on somethingsaying I don't want you to say
(23:14):
no, I don't want you to disagreewith it, because God said, and
you put a stamp on it, thoughyou really ask yourself did God
really tell you that, or is itsomething that you're just this
is something you really want todo, because putting God's name
on it almost like a seal isusing his name in vain as well,
and that was something I had tolearn, and now it's like a lot.
(23:36):
I'm really careful.
When I say, well, god told methis, or God said this for me to
do, and because it really putseverybody in place, it's like,
well, don't argue with it, mrsKelly.
What are you going to say if Isay, well, god told me to do
this, well, okay.
Yeah exactly I'm going to goover here because I ain't going
to mess with that.
That's what it kind of does, sothat's one thing that I've
learned for sure.
I'd like to ask does anyonehere have a story where timing
(24:00):
was crucial and that thatrushing in could have been a
huge mistake, like it could havereally affected your life?
Speaker 2 (24:08):
Does anybody have an example about that?
And I did not even think aboutthat till just now.
So some of you might have heardus tell our story before where
Mr Killer Bee andI actually wentto the same high school, but I
only remember meeting him likeonce early on in high school and
he was two years older than me,but we talk about all the time.
(24:32):
Well, okay, I should also saythat we didn't start dating
until after my sophomore year ofcollege, so that was, you know,
several years after wegraduated, obviously, and so
that's when we, like, really metand started talking and dating
and all that.
So we talk about it a lot how,if we would have actually
started dating in high school,we definitely would not have
(24:55):
made it because of just thedifferent ways that we were in
high school and the differentthings that were going on, and
you know, we just had differentvalues and things at that time,
and so we talk about that allthe time.
So it's it's really a beautifulthought, if you think about it,
that something can be right foryou, but not the right time.
So you have to wait for theright thing and the right time.
(25:17):
You know God's timing.
If you're a Christian, you knowthat's the way we look at it,
and so it's just.
I just thought of that when yousaid that timing was crucial
for us, because had we dated inhigh school, we would not know
each other now.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
How many people here, if you want to throw a confetti
, would say that you've at somepoint.
Maybe that's something thatyou've done in written.
It comes to a relationship LikeI think relationships is one of
the things that was easy for meto rush because I wanted to
(25:52):
have a relationship with someonethat you know cared about me
and stuff Like that wassomething I desired.
So anybody else here can relateto that in some way.
Yeah, definitely you.
Okay, well, this is aninteresting story and I know
we'll get ready to wrap it uphere too, but there was a.
There's a show that we'rewatching.
What's that show called?
Do you remember?
Speaker 2 (26:10):
It's called Special Forces World's Hardest Test, or
something like that.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
It's like the world's longest TV show title too.
I didn't realize that, and ifyou guys haven't seen this, go
it's on, it's on a, it's on Hulu, hulu.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
So just look up Special Forces, it's like a
reality show.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
Yeah, so it's celebrities are going through
what's basically like a specialforces boot camp type thing.
Yeah, to see you know how toughthey are, how you know how they
can, if they could actuallymake it in special forces
training, that's so interesting.
It is such a good show, yeah,which is very interesting
because I cry every single time.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
Yeah, mrs Killer Bee is not one of those people that
usually, when I put it on, Ithought she's gonna watch one
episode.
I'm gonna get to watch thisshow by myself and she's like
cooking or something, no problem.
Yeah, she's like every nightshe's like let's watch that show
, let's watch that show and I'mlike, are you serious, Can we
watch something else?
Like I want to watch that show.
I'm like, all right, wow, she'sreally, she's all in on it.
But what is interesting in theshow is there's a very wide
(27:12):
range of celebrities, peoplethat you would think like this
person is gonna go really far,and people are like they're not
gonna last long and you will besurprised of you know what
happens.
I don't want to give away a lot, in case you watch it?
Speaker 2 (27:23):
No, don't give away anything.
I was like we can just givethem a sampling.
There's NFL players, there's abasketball players.
Just try.
What is the basketball?
I cannot think right now whatit's called.
What is the basketball league?
Nba?
Speaker 3 (27:36):
NBA, nba I was thinking NBC.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
I was like I know that's not right NBC.
There's Olympians, there's abeauty queen, there's a
professional soccer players,there's a Bachelorettes.
Speaker 4 (27:48):
Bachelorettes yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:49):
There's actors and all kinds.
I mean just baseball players.
Oh yeah, baseball players,that's great.
Speaker 1 (27:58):
So they have this wide range of, again, like
they're athletic, like they'reathletic.
Some of them are athletes, someof them are not.
But there's one part in theshow where they all had to stand
on this boat and those boats goin full speed and basically
they have to jump out of theboat and grab this little
floating like buoy thing andwhen they grab that there's a
(28:22):
chopper, it's a black copchopper flying in which,
ladyhawk, you'd love that.
This black cop chopper comesflying in and they drop a rope
and this person has to grab thatrope and try to climb up into
the chopper.
And it's crazy because thewater is going nuts In the ocean
, yeah, in the ocean.
Yeah, and all this, you knowthe helicopter and all that
(28:42):
stuff.
It's insane to see what happens.
But here comes the NBA person.
You're like this NBA person isgoing to knock this out of the
ballpark, right?
I mean, even though he playsbasketball Out of the basketball
park.
Yeah, he's going to slam, dunkthis.
That's what you're thinking.
Well, what happened was, youknow, they're training them
because in a real life situationthey said this could be like a
(29:03):
rescue mission, where you needto get out and if you don't make
it up that rope, your life'sover, like you're not going to
live.
So they get one shot.
So this guy jumps out, grabsthe buoy and he is so much in a
rush, the helicopters come in,they drop the rope, but he
doesn't wait for the rope to getclose to him, he just let's go
and start swimming over to it.
And as soon as he did that,they said he's not going to make
(29:24):
it.
Did you see what he just did?
He left, he went, he's swimmingtowards the rope, he's going to
use all his energy to get tothat rope and he's not even
going to make it up.
And that's exactly what happened.
I mean, he barely made it up alittle bit, and they actually
was.
It got to a pretty scary state.
It got to a pretty scarysituation because he went under
and he wasn't coming back up.
So they had to send divergefrom the helicopter down to go
(29:45):
check him out.
But you know, I'm like man.
I can totally relate to thatand you know, not all the ways
are like life threatening.
But how many times have I spentso much energy trying to get to
something and I've wasted allthat energy.
If I would have just waitedtill it was the right time to
you know that God had brought itinto my life instead of wasting
(30:05):
all that energy.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
So it's so hard because, you know, I think I
don't think social media hasdone us any favors when it comes
to seeing the stages that otherpeople are in, and then we're
like, well, I'm ready for thatstage too, let's make it happen.
And you know, not everybody'sstage is right for us at this
point and you know you can rushyourself in the lots of places.
(30:28):
I mean, I know someone inparticular who was ready to have
a baby and she knew that herboys, her boyfriend, was not the
person that she should havebeen having children with.
But she did some things and shemade it happen and then they
ended up breaking up and, youknow, then she raised her baby
on her own.
So it's like, you know, you cansay I want this and I'm going
(30:50):
to make it happen, but thatdoesn't mean it's the right
thing to do.
You know it's not going to bethe best situation if it's not
the right time for you toactually have that, even if it's
a blessing, like a baby.
You know it's timing iseverything.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
Timing.
Well, I mean, it is like.
I mean, we know fruit is goodfor us, right?
We know fruit is good for us ifwe're going to eat healthy, but
if we pick it too early, it'sjust not going to taste the same
.
It's not going to taste same.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
I guess it's really not bad for you, though, so
actually, well, I wouldn't sayit's bad for you, but it's not
as good for you because theripening.
The final ripening stage offruit is when all of the very
best like antioxidants areformed.
You know there's all sorts ofthings in perfectly ripe fruit
that are cancer fighting andgood for your blood sugar like
(31:36):
good for a lot of things.
But if you don't let it get tothat final ripen stage and
really they say it should ripenon the tree, so of course it's
very hard to get fruit like thatfrom a grocery store.
They have to pick it early soit's not at its full nutritional
potential because it was pickedtoo early.
So yeah, I'm glad you broughtthat up, because I forgot that.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
Yeah, I learned about that.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
It's not as good for you.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
And, as we get ready to wrap up, one of the things I
would encourage people to bethinking about, too, is if you
are a Christian, if that'ssomething that you're going
through and you're trusting inGod, that's something that I
feel like.
For me, I've had to startlearning more and more through,
like, my time of reflection, oflike do I really trust him to go
(32:22):
at his speed?
Do I really trust him knowingthat I don't know his speed in
this situation, but I'm going tobe listening to him, talking to
him and waiting for him to helpme know this is the right time,
instead of trying to makethings happen on my own.
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