NIGERIAN DYKE REALNESS
Unfiltered, candid thoughts on pop culture, music, love, spirituality, healing, depression, grief + whatever else comes up. The voice? Multilingual maven of the mic, your favourite dyke's favourite dyke, Yvonne Onakeme Etaghene. Ijaw Urhobo Nigerian dyke poet, author of For Sizakele, performer, dancer, visual artist, bad gyal, fashion designer and creative director of OyinT. Designs, cook, goddess and a real one.
Episodes
In this episode I talk about how sometimes a desire to perfect our art projects masks our fear of judgment or criticism. I also celebrate the 10 year anniversary edition of my African Queer novel, For Sizakele (!!!) which you can learn more about on nigeriandykerealness.com or myloveisaverb.com. Our art is meant to be created and shared. Don't hide your brilliance from the world, darling ones.
A little abuse once in awhile? Or no abuse at all? Which do you prefer? When you tolerate a little disrespect, a little shade, a rude comment here or there, you are accepting a little poison. A little poison is still poison. All that little adds up over time. Choose wisely.
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You. Yes, You. You are someone's favorite artist. Favorite nail tech. Favorite painter. Favorite writer. Favorite dancer. What you are working on right now will change someone's life--starting with you. Something you wrote, painted or created is something that someone goes to again and again and loves in new ways. You are someone's favorite. Also: be your own favorite. P/S: Shout out to kind strangers. Love you forev...
What if as a writer you were considered an athlete and your writing was your sport--how would you approach your art differently? Would your writing practice change? Do you wait for inspiration? Or do you create regardless of whether you are inspired? These are some question this podcast episode explores.
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When you try to force yourself to be happy all the time, you stifle the valleys, the peaks, the flatlands, the mountains, the diverse emotional topography of the land that is you. Allow yourself to be who you are and feel how you feel. Allow yourself to breathe. You don't owe anyone your happiness, you owe yourself to be yourself.
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filter out of your life people who don't deserve you, trust me, you your & peace increases. seeking answers from someone who hurt you is pointless, in my opinion, because even if they tell you the precise genesis of why they harmed you--you were still harmed and still have to heal from your pain. a huge part of your power is not in chasing the people who harmed you to answer the WHY/HOW COULD YOU, but rather in choosing wh...
When people are being nosy, leave their questions unanswered. Especially when living an unconventional life, taking a unique path in life or choosing to be child-free--you will be questioned by the nosy and the presumptuous. Don't entertain them. You don't have to answer, explain or justify your choices. It's YOUR life, baby. Live it YOUR way.
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Make time for the things you care about. Hobbies are important. Not every moment you spend in your life should be spent making money. Do your best to make some time for art that is purely for your own pleasure, enjoyment, release and/or self-expression.
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Some questions to ask yourself when evaluating your work, your process, your practice, your journey as an artist.
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A more efficient use of your energy? Believe, truly believe, it works out perfectly for you.
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Just as you plan for every aspect of your life, so too must you plan for retirement. Children are a blessing, not a retirement plan or financial investment you should be expecting a return on. Feeling entitled to your children taking care of you in your old age is selfish. You chose to be a parent, be a parent. Allow your children to grow up without worrying about providing for you. Allow any financial gifts from your child be fro...
What does it mean to say no to abuse in an abusive family? Being the one to change a family dynamic or break toxic emotional patterns takes a lot of strength and courage. Sometimes the person with that courage becomes the black sheep, exiled from the family because of a refusal to go along with the toxicity. There can be a high price to pay for standing up for what you believe in, including losing people who embrace their dysfuncti...
Do we make room for artists to change and explore who they are and what they most desire to create? Do we allow artists to create their own vibe/sound/aesthetic before calling them tired, over or overrated? Do artistic eras exist anymore? How has social media impacted the shelf life of work and our patience with artists' process? From discussing the pandemic's impact on the arts to talking about what it means to change/gr...
Heartbreak comes in many forms. Whether from a romantic breakup, friendship breakup or as a result of trauma, grief or other life experiences. Heartbreak can come into our lives for a million reasons. How do you heal from it? How do we deal with it? Let's talk. Chat me up @NDRpodcast or @myloveisaverb on twitter.
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Do you feel self-conscious about what you truly desire? Whose standards are you living your life by? Your own? Or your friends? Your parents? What's allowed in your space and what's not? Are you chasing your dreams? Or someone else's idea(l) of what your life "should" be? Take a listen, babes.
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Is forgiveness necessary for your soul's growth and healing? Some things are unforgivable. You deserve healing regardless of whether you choose to forgive.
Energy is food, is power. You feed and empower what you give energy to. Especially as you heal: why bother to expend energy towards those who hurt you by feeding them with your energy? This episode explores pathways to freedom past pain and into a deep recogniti...
Not everyone deserves your prayers. If they don't deserve that prayer, put an expiration date on it and direct that loving energy to someone who deserves it--YOU!
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Legendary singer, actress, dancer, Eartha Kitt said: "It's about falling in love with yourself and sharing that with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit." This episode explores this quote and what it means to be a WHOLE human being without needing or relying on another to complete you.
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Protests have been ongoing for six days in Nigeria and throughout the world against SARS (the Special Anti-Robbery Squad), a section of the Nigerian police that murder, steal, commit violence against and extort money from Nigerian citizens. #SARSMustEndNow protests have been led by Nigerian youth throughout the country, who are incredibly passionate because, simply put, they have had ENOUGH. In today's episode, I talk about th...
The idea of "being likable" has been used to suppress women, African women in particular. In this episode, I discuss the invisible impact of colourism, the ways it's often ignored and dismissed. Also: I talk a bit about never taking your own beliefs for granted. Ask yourself what you believe now. Goals change. Don't let yourself get stuck in your vision of who you used to be. Take a listen.
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