Our New Years Resolutions + Goals!

For the first episode of the year, Katie + Lauryn chat about their goals for 2023 + mindsets going into the new year!

Episode Transcript

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We love a second take.
We love a second take.
Welcome back.
Cry Babies.
Happy New Year.
Happy New Year.
It is finally January, theenergy for 2023.
Mm-hmm.
I've never felt more excited fora new year.
I think, um, the way that I'mfeeling.
is good compared to how I'vetypically felt because Greg is

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really going at his new, uh,treat.
Matt, he's so cute.
That's hidden treats.
Aw.
He loves it.
But yeah, like I'm, I'm ready,but I'm not super excited and
like, I'm gonna hit all thesegoals and I'm gonna do this
whenever, which is really goodfor me personally because I get
overstimulated.
So I think as I'm getting older,I'm kind of understanding how I

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work.
Mm.
So love the way that I'm settingmy intentions or whatever you
wanna call them Yeah.
Is very different than I've everdone it and I really hope it
works.
That's beautiful friend.
Do you have any life updates forus?
No.
No life updates at all?
Not really.
How was your Christmas?
Oh yeah, my Christmas was good.
I'm like, uh, friend.

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How My Christmas was good.
Um, it was really chill, whichmade me so happy cuz I got what
I wanted Yeah.
Out of it.
it was just nice to be with myfam and chill out and, um, not
do anything I love that.
I love that so much, so much.
Basketball.
I did watch a lot of basketballthat day and read all day.
Oh my gosh.
What book?
Um, what was it?

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It was, I think it's calledthings I wanted to say.
So what I finished, oh, it wasgood.
Guess what I did yesterday?
I don't know.
I went and saw a movie bymyself.
Oh.
That's awesome.
Thank you, Fred.
I saw Avatar, literally a threehour movie.
Yeah.
And do you know what crazy me?
How crazy you were too?
So first off, the family stayednext to me.
If they ever hear this, you werethe nicest people ever.

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Oh, I do think their son wasnamed the same name as my ex
Really?
So that was like very ironic.
Awkward, um, awkward.
Um, but literally, The mom waslike, are you here by yourself?
And I was like, yeah.
I sat myself in the corner.
The right corner.
Yeah.
Cause I was like, uh, it'sprobably best.
And then the seat next to themwasn't taken.
So I was like, can I sit next toy'all?

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Because I like, could not see, Iwas in a horrible seats.
And she was like, are you byyourself?
And I was like, yeah.
And she was like, how awesome.
And so I told her, I was like,yeah, you know, newly divorced.
I wanted to do this for myself.
And I think she ended uptelling, Her mom, which was next
to her, so like the grandma ofthe family.
Mm-hmm.
And the grandma came up to meafter the movie and was like, my

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husband passed away a coupleyears ago.
Like, I'm so proud of you.
Oh.
My dad was like, not you makingfriends at a place where you
should keep silent, like, right.
You know what I mean?
Like, normally people don't makefriends at movies.
Well, and you were so nervousabout going, I'm so nervous by
yourself.
Mm.
So anyway, I went and saw amovie by myself and I had a very

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chill Christmas as well.
Yeah.
And I have never been moreexcited for.
the new year.
Oh, what I was gonna tell youbeforehand, Uhhuh was, I think
we talked about this last yearor last week.
Mm-hmm.
how, you know when you get somany presents and you're kind of
like, that's it.
Like this was Christmas.

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I realized.
that it's because gifts is mylowest love language.
Mm.
And quality time is one of myhighest like words of
affirmation and quality time.
Yeah.
And I had so much quality timewith my brother, sister-in-law
and my nephew.
And then on my dad's side aswell, I got to hang out with my
dad and my nana a lot.
Your heart was full.
It was so full Christmas, likethe night of Christmas.
Even though like my plans didn'tgo to plan.

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Mm-hmm.
like I didn't get to spend itwith my mom cuz she had the flu.
I still was.
My heart is so full and I nevergot the feeling of like, that's
it.
Yeah.
And I mean, it was actually likea 180 Christmas this year.
Like good.
I loved it so much.
Yeah, it was good.
It was really chill.
But I mean, like we've saidmm-hmm.

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just very much ready to just.
get into new season like I do,I'm ready for kind of like, I'm
ready spring, I'm ready for, I,I told my therapist today, I'm
like, ready almost for like themundane of like January and
February.
Like those are normally my leastfavorite months.
That's when I kind of, I knowI'm gonna really try and make
January better than it has been.

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Me too.
January is very difficult forme.
Mm-hmm.
it's long months.
Um, but I'm trying to take.
that time to really hibernate,but like in a way where I'm
hibernating and working onmyself.
Yeah.
Like it feels productive almost.
Yeah.
And when it's spring, I reallyjust like, you bloom, pop out,
you know?

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Yeah.
No, that's how I feel.
I feel like I've always been sonegative January and February.
I think having a vacation inFebruary will help.
Yeah.
Because I have something to lookforward to.
Yeah.
And kind of breaks up like thesuper cold months.
Mm.
but January, yeah, I'm almostready just for like, okay.
You know, like October twoDecember is so busy, I'm kind of

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just ready to like have themundane life tasks.
Mm-hmm.
in January and February.
Mm-hmm.
you know?
Yep, exactly.
Uh, it's exactly how I feel.
Pretty much.
I love that friend.
Okay, so tell us how you'regoing about intentions this
year.
Resolutions, whatever it may be.
So, yeah, so if.
you know, been able to tellalready just from the few

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episodes that we have out.
you and I are very different,you know?
Yep.
and the way we go about things.
And so like Katie, like kind of,she didn't tell me exactly what
some of her stuff, I know whatsome of her stuff is, but Uhhuh,
she literally has a whole listin her notes.
She show made a mood board.
I have like moodboard, likenumerical goals, I want that
kind of stuff.
Mm-hmm.

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and me.
Um, so when I've taken theapproach that you have right now
mm-hmm.
where I'm just like, I'm gonnahit it super hard.
like this big list.
Yeah.
And just like getting reallyexcited.
I, it's almost like when youhave a sugar rush mm-hmm.
or like when you crash orwhatever, that's what happens to
me and then I end up falling offand I don't ever get back on

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the, the train.
Yeah.
Um, so this year, the way that Iam doing my goal setting and
intentions, whatever, is on likea quarter.
basis pretty much.
I love that.
So I, January to March.
Mm-hmm.
is my focus right now.
I have bigger goals, like, Iguess things I want to go by.

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So like what I like put down wasbe better than yesterday.
And me versus me I love.
So those are like your two mytiny things for the.
For the year.
Yeah.
I love that.
So I love that you have kind oflike a theme.
Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
so like that, those two things,um, better than yesterday, me
versus me and just discipline,you know?

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Yeah.
Is, is the three big things.
Um, but as far as January toMarch, it's more about like
solidifying a budget, setting adaily routine, moving my body.
and I wanna start crocheting.
I love, I really wanted to startdoing that.
Mm-hmm.
and just, um, writing more on a,like a, you need to regular

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basis.
So I need that book from you.
Yes.
You do need that book from me.
I need you to write a book so Ican be your number on, you know,
I'd be your number on face.
I know, I know.
She's gonna be my publisher.
I literally what I would be yourmarketing agent.
Like I would do something.
Yeah.
So that's like, that's prettymuch January to March and for me
mm-hmm.
like obviously.

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Solidifying a budget.
Like there's some detail there.
Yeah.
My daily routine, there's detailthere.
Yeah.
Which, and I have that, likeI'll have like all that mapped
out.
Mm-hmm.
moving my body daily.
Like I decided to word it likethat instead of, cause I've seen
some people word it like thatand I love that.
Yeah.
Um, it's cuz it's low pressure.
Like if you just want toliterally stretch for 10 minutes

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Yeah.
You just moved your body.
Yeah.
You know what I mean?
Yeah.
Like there's, it's so much lesspressure than people who.
doing 75 hard right now.
Yeah.
Where it's like 2 45 minutes.
Yeah.
And I thought about, cause Idid, I was doing 75 soft mm-hmm.
for a little bit right beforethe temperature dropped.
Yeah.
Um, and it got cold outsidebecause I really enjoyed going
on like the daily walks.

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Mm-hmm.
um, walks are actuallylife-changing.
It's so cold.
Like it's, I know I really wouldstill like to do it, especially
outside.
Yeah, but it's just, Ooh, it'sbeen cold.
that's my excuse.
So whatever I'm sticking by it.
Don't worry.
In spring and summer I'll getyou out there.
God, we're doing it.
When you live together.
I will literally be knocking onyour door every day, like in the
morning or later, cuz I can't, Ilove a good evening walk.

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We can do evening walks.
We can't do evening.
We'll talk about our day.
Exactly.
I love that.
But yeah, I have so many ideasof You have any other, um, like,
do you have any.
Theme for like the rest of theyear or are you gonna do that?
Like, so say like in Marchyou're gonna start planning for
April, may and June or, yeah.
Or honestly, probably inFebruary.
Okay.

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Yeah.
Cool.
I really like that approach.
I just got a journal.
Mm-hmm.
that's kind of like that.
Mm-hmm.
it's like a quarterly.
Yeah.
Um, I don't actually have it.
Yeah, but I ordered it but Iwanted to like actually journal
and start writing down Yeah.
Like my themes and goals as welltoo.
But she, that's what like, shedesigned it to have that where
it's like a theme for your Yeah.

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You know, quarterly and I wannahit, like, I really need to get
an Apple watch.
I don't know why I always, it'sso like, it's so at the back of
my, like my, but it's gamechanging.
I need one because I reallywanna, like with my moving my
body daily thing, Hitting 10 Ksteps a day.
It's a lot.
It is a lot.

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But I feel like you can do it ifI'm moving my body, you know?
Yeah.
You can definitely do it.
You know, and if you're walkingat your job or anything kind of
up and down, which unfortunatelyit's not a ton of walking, but
um, I can probably figure outsome ways to Yeah.
Or even like seven, eight ksteps and work your way up to
That's true.
10 K.
You know what I mean?
Yeah.
But that's how I'm gonna besetting my goals.

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I love that.
Um, I am, I think I know by now.
I can't do just like looking atthe year.
Yeah.
It, it's a lot.
Yeah.
And I like somebody, somebodypointed out, um, like, I've
never done this before, but Ithink it's super smart people
working their way backwards.
Like, I've done that for somegoals, but I feel like,

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especially with big goals, okay,I wanna hit X amount of
listeners for our podcast.
Mm-hmm.
Okay.
But how do you do that?
You know what I mean?
Like, how are Yeah.
How are you gonna get there?
Don't just have a.
Right.
Have like an actual plan.
Exactly.
So that's what I want to focuson now that I have my goals,
writing out a plan for each one,like how are we going to achieve
this?
Yes, yes.

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Writing down a plan for each onethat's like, I need to post this
amount of times.
Mm-hmm.
this many times a week toachieve this goal or however,
whatever it is.
So yeah, that is my goal, Ithink for the rest of this week,
is to really take time.
to and map out your goals?
Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
Cause I kind of have minealready, but that's pretty much
what I've been like trying todo.

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Are you trying to have like amorning and night routine?
Um, more so a morning, yeah.
Routine is really what I need todo.
Like I saw this thing talkingabout, you know, having a 5:00
AM like, like start to the dayand I'm like, I know I just
can't do it.
My boss does that.
Oh, I absolutely cannot.
I really think it would bebeneficial.

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Um, but I do too.
I just, I don't know.
That can be part of it, maybe.
Mm-hmm.
I also, I feel like I'm more ofa workout after work kind of
person, but I don't wanna bethat person.
I don't wanna do it in themorning.
You wanna do it in the mor getoutta the way.
Yes.
Mm-hmm.
Um, I used to be morning orearly afternoon, but now that I

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box boxing is at evening, sothat's just, yeah.
So I'm like, now what do you do?
I now work out evenings becauseI just kind of switched, like I
was like a 10:00 AM or like a2:00 PM girl.
Yeah.
You would count on me.
I was at the gym at 10:00 AM ortwo.
Yeah.
And now I love working out atlike seven or eight.
Yeah.
Like a night, kind of a nighttime worked out.
And I think too, like at leastonce I have a solidified routine

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down, I can like move it aroundor whatever.
Mm-hmm.
because then discipline will,you know, regardless of when I
get it in.
Well, and I think you'llprobably have to give yourself
some grace.
Yeah.
Because when you do move, youknow your routine's gonna get
switched up.
Yeah.
So you have to kind of like,Readjust.
Yeah, readjust the routine andkind of figure out, well,
luckily that's a quarter twoEssent and luckily that's

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quarter two.
That's a, that's a quarter twoproblem.
Yeah, no, that's what I'msaying.
Like start your, start thatroutine now and then just that
way you don't have to start awhole new routine.
Just adjust it.
Exactly.
Which I think is super, whichI'm really excited to be moving
into this place because.
There's a gym here.
It's so nice.
I, I think that's really goingto help me out a lot.
Except I'm about to get a gymmembership.

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Well, I just need to switch mineover.
Mm-hmm.
because the one closest to ushas a sauna.
Mm-hmm.
And I wanna go sauna.
That's what like, you'll catchme read in sauna for 30 minutes.
Like I just wanna go in a saunaand sweat.
Yeah.
I like that too.
I love saunas.
I do too.
I'm gonna be one of my goals,this was not written on my thing
at all, but one of my goals isjust to be outside more and to.

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disconnect more.
Mm-hmm.
you know what I mean?
Yeah.
Like I want to just be sittingat that pool all like, yeah.
Every day.
Yeah.
At least for 30 minutes a daygetting sun.
Mm-hmm.
because I looked at photos ofmyself from June of last year,
and I looked really pasty, and Iwas like, did I just not go
outside?
Like, what was I doing?
Yeah.
I will be outside every day.

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Every day when it starts warmingup.
Sunkissed, well, just thevitamin D, you know?
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
It's literally life changing.
That's good for.
amazing.
I'm pretty sure I have adeficiency, so you need to start
taking Vitamin D.
Absolutely sucks.
I'd love to have a episode aboutsupplements, cuz Oh yeah, I've
started taking some that Ireally, really like.
Yeah, you can go into that a lotmore cuz you know me.

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I'm always asking you randomlike times of the day texting
you about fitness stuff orsupplements.
Just random.
Um, like, Hey, you know anythingabout this No.
Literally.
And I'm like, yes ma'am.
Um, should I go into some of myYeah, go ahead.
Ahead and get started.
Mine, I'm already done with myspiel.
I literally, no, because I can'tHyper fixates.

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Yeah.
On thi I, I'm not doing that.
I think though I've never donethat in the past, like I've
wrote goals and I've neverlooked back at them, but I think
I'm so focused on growth thisyear and I.
I, I mean, I talk about mydivorce literally every episode.
Sorry guys.
That's, but it was pivotal forme, you know what I mean?
Yeah.
Pivotal life changing.
So I think I almost need these,like not rigid mm-hmm.

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because I think that eachquarter I'll focus on something
different, probably.
Mm-hmm.
but I think at least having.
S some kind of numerical, I cansee the progress goals.
Yeah.
I think will help me.
Yeah.
So one of the things, and I'vealready told my boss this, but I
wanna go through a successfulcut.
So right now we're inmaintenance.

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She's reverse dieting me andwe're close to like my
maintenance calories.
And next year I would love forher to put me through a success.
Successful cut.
So being in like a caloricdeficit and just really.
Hopefully it like sh Looksshredded.
Yeah.
To be honest.
So that's one of my goals.
Another one is just to get thepodcast to a thousand monthly

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listeners.
So tell all your friends.
Yes.
Another goal is to get ourpodcast, Instagram and TikTok to
a thousand followers.
So my goal for everything forthe podcast is just a thousand.
Yeah, I'd love to hit a thousandmonthly listeners.
Or just like a thousand.
I know we're gonna hit athousand downloads cuz we're
already halfway there, whichThank you guys so much.

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Yeah.
Which so cool.
565 I believe.
Downloads.
Yes.
I love that.
So that's amazing.
Mm-hmm.
Um, we appreciate y'all forlistening.
Big time.
All love.
All love.
Yes, all love.
Um, I would love to grow mydivorce TikTok to more, which I
call it my divorce TikTok.
It's pretty much just like mylife.

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Like it's my vlog now.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I would love to grow that more.
I have like a specific numericalgoal, so if y'all wanna follow
me, it's keeping fit with Katie2.0.
Um, especially for those thathave gone through a divorce or
like a long-term breakup, Ithink it could be helpful.
Mm-hmm.
Um, just to see my progress.

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I know a lot of people messageme that are like, This has
helped me.
Like so many people when Italked about going to the movies
by myself, were like, oh, youinspired me to do this.
So I thought that was reallycool and special.
Yeah.
Um, I wanna be at like a, asuper, um, or not super.
I wanna be at a specific clientgoal for my job.

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Mm-hmm.
So I'd love to get more clients.
Um, I want to read 50 books.
which I'm at 38 for this year,but I want to be at 50 next
year.
Mm-hmm.
I wanna go see a motivationalspeaker alive, so I think I'm
gonna go see Jay Shetty.
He's my guy.
Yeah.
Um, and then I wanna travel tothree new places.
Yes.
So I really wanna go to, Cancun,and then I'll most likely be

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going to Florida and then,Wherever we go.
Yeah.
For our inclusive, yeah.
Um, I wanna put money into mysavings.
I have like a specific numericalgoal for that.
I would love to solo tripsomewhere.
Um, and I wanna do some kind ofcharity related work one time a
quarter, so four times a year.
And then I would love to like,try out new churches on my own

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and get involved with a church,whether that is through like the
worship team mm-hmm.
or maybe doing like a smallgroup for.
Middle school high schoolers.
Oh, I think that could be reallyfun.
Yeah.
I used to do a small group, uh,for middle schoolers when I was
like 18.
Really?
I was not qualified to do that,but I did not feel like I had
very much life advice.

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But yeah.
Um, I think that that could bereally fun.
That would be cool.
So maybe even college girlslike, yeah.
People that I feel like I canhelp relate to.
Yeah.
That you can more actually like,more so like relate to Yeah.
Relate to and, mm-hmm.
that kind of thing.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So those are my goals.
Those, those are pretty good.
Thank you friend.

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I feel like this is the firstyear that's way more specific
than just like, um, you know,get closer to God like, you know
what I mean?
Yeah.
Like these are like actual likeYeah.
Goals that I can be like, okay.
Like yeah, I feel like my.
my vision is pretty clear as faras what I want.

(18:37):
Um, so I'm really, I'm reallyhoping that this different
approach to how I'm taking it isdifferent.
I think it will be, which I'msurprised I didn't say anything
about books cuz I do like, havegoals.
Yeah.
What's your goal goals?
Um, so I'm still, I'm gonna do100 Okay.
Hundred books.
Um, I'm here for it.
That's about eight.

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Ish.
The book Club books book that wewant to do.
I, it's one of her favoritebooks for the whole year, which
is crazy.
We need to go get it.
if y'all don't know, we'retalking about Kenzie,
Elizabeth's book club, if youknow who she is.
Yeah.
She does it in Dallas.
And we're gonna drive Yeah.
And go to book club.
I'm really excited about it.
Oh, this month.

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I'm really excited too cuz I'venever done something like that.
Me neither.
Um, and I think it'll be reallyfun.
It'll be really fun.
Yeah.
It'll be like different and newand mm-hmm.
just getting us out of ourcomfort zone.
It's an easy trip Yeah.
To make too.
So I don't like, I'm totallydown.
Yeah, me too.
Um, but yeah, so.
that my book goal is 100 books.

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Um, you'll never get it.
Probably gonna book journal,which I'm excited about.
Wait, what's that?
Um, like journaling about each.
Oh, are you pretty much, yougonna like annotate, like how
people like do the little, that,that too.
That's separate than likejournaling, but like, as far as
book journaling goes, is medocumenting kind of like my
thought process.
Mm-hmm.
as I'm like reading.

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All these books.
Why do you look that?
So cuz the thing that I hate iswhenever I reflect on the year
and I'm like, gosh, like I'veread so many.
Yeah.
And I've done a poor job ofdocumenting it.
I started off really well.
Um, are you gonna book journalin in Good Reads or like in an
actual journal?
It's gonna be an actual journal.
I love that.
Just like about the book, howyou felt.

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It's pretty much gonna be like areview except it's more like a,
um, like a journey I guess.
Like what?
So you do it after my thoughtprocess.
The time that you.
Probably, probably after eachtime or like as I'm reading, if
like mm-hmm.
I'm loving it or whatever.
He's so cute.
The cats are being so precioustoday.

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Yeah, I really wanna bookjournal and um, I would love to
get more into annotating, exceptI'm such a Kindle reader.
Yeah.
Too.
So honestly, I'm gonna say itKindle's Elite.
It is elite.
Ooh, you know what?
I do have a life update.
So you've really got methinking, oh, about this spicy

(21:03):
marg like situation.
It's a life.
Yeah.
Okay.
Like so I got there to therestaurant.
and I asked, it's gonna be mynew drink for 2023.
Then I asked the waiter, I waslike, mm-hmm.
I really want a spicy mark.
Like, can you guys do that?
And he was like, well, what wehave equivalent to that is a
hotel, California.
I was like, okay.
So I drink.

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I had that.
Mm-hmm.
and I loved the way it tastedwith my food.
Mm mm-hmm.
because I typically like sweetdrinks.
And something about it thoughthat doesn't, having a savory
Mm.
More experience versus when I'mlike eating my dinner, like my
actual entree, my appetizer, allthat.
If y'all didn't know, I'm a hugedinner girl.

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I love a good dinner date.
I love it so much.
I love that.
I've come to realize mostly I dotoo.
It's a whole experience ofdinners, Okay.
Me too.
I do, I do.
I love it.
Um, if it's a good place, likeI'm so.
To try a cocktail, like reallyjust to do it.
Which is another reason why I'mlike, I need to solidify a
budget cuz if I'm gonna be likethat.

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Do you know what app I just got?
What?
Not sponsored, but I just gotthe every dollar app.
I think Dave Ramsey made itEvery Dollar Love that app.
You like it?
Mm-hmm.
I love it.
Show like a couple years ago Itried it, but at that time I
wasn't making.
I didn't really have a lot goingon to where I needed to really
budget.
Like yeah, that's my goal too.
I think December always gets alittle out of hand because

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there's like extra gifts youhave to buy for people or like
things are more expensive orwhatever.
So activities and stuff.
Yes, yes.
So that's something that I'mreally focusing in on in January
is like sticking to my budget.
I make a budget every month.
I'll stick to it every month.
Mm-hmm.
So that's my goal is to really,really stick to my budget this
month.
The thing I realized about thesticking to a budget thing for

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me is that even with.
me liking to go to nice dinnersand spend a lot of money on like
my hair, my nails, whatever.
Mm-hmm.
I still spend a lot of money onfood.
No, same.
And every time that I do go outto a nice place, I'm like, this
is literally so much betterthan.

(23:11):
All the fast food and like theStarbucks runs and all that,
that I do, like, I almost wish Iwould save like two experiences.
Mm-hmm.
instead of mm-hmm.
So many.
Yeah.
And I also wanted to say too,um, I, especially with all the
traveling and stuff that we'relike planning on doing mm-hmm.

(23:34):
um, and like me wanting to gosomewhere at least once.
Mm-hmm.
like every quarter.
I'm really trying to be moreintentional about planning that
stuff ahead.
I am not trying to do that stufflast minute.
No, me neither.
Because like, you know how onsocial media there's like, and
this is nothing against thesepeople cuz I love watching it,
but people that are kind oflike, oh, you can make that

(23:57):
money tomorrow.
Like, go on that trip today andlike yeah, seize the moment and
like whatever.
I get what they're saying.
Mm-hmm.
I think it's good, but also it'sreally, it's kind of like
irresponsible in a sense.
Yeah.
And I've done that too much.
Not with trips even mm-hmm.
but just like I've done that toomuch in my past where I'm like,

(24:19):
even like three or four yearsago, like I'm so broke.
Ends up going out to eat.
Yeah.
It's like, And I'm like, oh,I'll get this money tomorrow.
But I stressed, I used to stressout so much about money.
Yeah.
And now I feel like with havinga budget, I'm a little better.
Yeah.
I think this month kind ofstressed me out, but there was
just so much going on.
Yeah.
Um, but I'm the same way.
I really, really want to planout Yes.

(24:42):
Okay.
What does this look like?
Yeah.
How much do I need to put backeach month?
Yeah.
Before I even go is, isn't itkinda weird how that mindset.
and kind of leaning towardsbeing more spontaneous with
those things makes you almostfeel guilty if you're not being
that way.
Yeah.
Because you are like, oh, likewe're so young, like we should

(25:02):
be this way.
When really like, first of all,you don't know people's
situations.
Yeah.
People that are out here like,oh, I'll show you how to travel
for this long at 20 something.
money doesn't just flow backlike you do have to work for
that.
Yeah.
You know, these people that aresaying that they probably have
money.
I do believe money like ebbs andflows like anything else, I

(25:24):
think absolutely ebbs and flows,but yeah, it's something where
you have to work for it.
So you, you have to, so, and,and I know my situation and I'm
not loaded with money, so I'mlike, I'm gonna have to be
intentional about that.
I think that's the biggest wordis just intentional.
Yeah.
Intentionality.
That's a big word.
I want to just take into 2023 ofme.
Yeah.
Like everything I'm doing, let'smake it intentional.

(25:45):
Exactly.
Like, let's not do things thatare half-assed or like we're
gonna do it.
I wanna make sure that we'remm-hmm.
we're sitting down and, youknow, okay, yeah.
This is how we're gonna try andit's okay if things change.
Yeah.
You can adjust that process.
Mm-hmm.
But I just, I've kind of grownout of that mindset of like, I
should be living like superspontaneous and whatever, and

(26:07):
I'm like, no girl.
I'm trying to have.
Yeah, in my bank, so I can go dolike, yeah.
The things I really wanna do.
That's something too that Ilike.
I've always, I don't know, Ialways get nervous about dipping
into my savings or whatever itis.
Yeah.
But it's like, isn't that what asavings is for?
Yeah.
I mean, for things like, I don'tknow, I have to go get like, A

(26:28):
dental cleaning.
Mm-hmm.
like one of like the deepcleanings though.
Yeah.
This upcoming month it's like Idon't wanna dip into my savings,
but I was like, isn't thatliterally what a savings it's
for?
You know what I mean?
Think like that's kinda Yeah.
Have like an emergency fund thatyou don't touch ever Unless for
like actual emergencies.
I mean that's kind of how it wasfor me when I got my car.
Yeah.
Cause cuz like I, that's prettymuch what I did for my birthday.

(26:48):
Mm-hmm.
was I bought myself a car.
Yeah.
My down payment.
I've had so much guilt aboutusing that money for my down
payment, but I'm like, is thatnot what I'm supposed to use it
for?
No.
Literally.
It's like, isn't that what asavings is for?
Like they didn't go to wastelike, I need.
I needed a new car.
Yeah, got a new car.
I'm gonna have that for.

(27:09):
Yeah, I think I definitely likeinvest some of your money.
Yeah.
Which, speaking of that, haveyou heard the Acorns app?
I have, yeah.
I just recently started.
dive into it and I love it.
It's so easy.
I set up like a recurring Yeah.
Um, like recurring weekly, like$5.
Yeah.
And it's like a slow investment.

(27:30):
Nice.
Which I love.
So I've been doing that and Idon't feel as guilty about, I
don't know, I feel like when Iinvest my money, it's like,
okay, I feel better aboutdipping into my savings or
whatever it may be, because I dohave that money too.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's like if your money's insavings, it's literally not
doing anything for you.
It's just sitting there.

(27:50):
So it's just sitting there.
Yeah.
If you need to use it for,obviously not things like, I
want a new bag or I want a new,but like car house.
I feel like I saw a video,whatever about that, about this
lady saying like, that's, it's,it's good to uhhuh you know?
Yeah.
Save your money, but, if allyou're doing is living to just
stack this money and you're notdoing anything with it, like

(28:11):
what are you really doing?
Yeah.
It's not making you money.
Yeah, it's just sitting there.
So I know there was more to whatyou had to say, but that was
like the gist of it.
I love this.
Become finance.
I know finance talk I know.
I literally don't know a damnthing about.
No, it's same.
Yeah.
Don't take what we're saying.
Seriously.
This is just our experience andhow we're choosing to go about
yeah.

(28:32):
Things.
So I think though, being moreintentional is definitely a good
thing.
I like what you said abouttraveling too, because.
You gotta be smart on here.
It is expensive.
Yeah.
And if I don't plan ahead, Iwon't take the trip cuz I'm not
someone to do it spontaneously.
And I'm tired of doing that whenI was mm-hmm.
21 and whatever.
I would be like, oh whatever.

(28:52):
Like I can go and then come backand I'm literally broke for like
two, three months just because Idecided to go on this.
Yep.
Spontaneous trip.
Like that's crazy.
Yeah.
I've never.
I've done that more with likebuying myself something.
Mm-hmm.
or like eating out, never withlike a trip.
Mm-hmm.
I wish I would've done that witha trip cuz that would be a way
better experience.
I mean, that was even like smallstuff.

(29:13):
Like even literally going toDallas.
Yeah.
Like, would be a problem.
Yeah.
But I was in school likefull-time.
Like that was my, like foranyone that's 21 is, that's a
problem.
Like traveling even to smallerplaces, it's like it'll break
your bank.
Yeah.
So I'm just like, I'm trying tomm-hmm.
I'm trying to level.
Yeah, I wanna be able to go onthe vacation it be paid for

(29:35):
Pretty much.
Yeah.
And come back and life goes on.
I'm excited.
Never good's for all inclusivesbecause you paid for it before
and you don't have to worryabout a single thing when you
get there.
Yeah.
Besides like tipping.
I'm excited about that too.
You know, gratuity.
But other than that, it's likeyou pay for the whole thing
before and when you actually onvacation, you can literally just
sit back and relax.
You can enjoy it.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Like you don't have to worrylike, oh, I spent money for my

(29:56):
plane and like my mm.
you know, hotel, and now I haveto also pay for all my food.
It's like, nope.
Yeah, exactly.
So that's something I'm soexcited about.
Yeah, I agree.
Mm-hmm.
So, I mean, I'm, I'm justexcited about 2023.
I, um, we'll both be 25.
I know.
Isn't that crazy?
I think 25 and 2023.
That, to me, it just makes me, Idon't know why it makes me so

(30:20):
excited.
Does it, like both of those makeme, like, I just feel really
good things for 2023.
I, I just feel like it's gonnabe really transformational.
Mm-hmm.
for me.
Yeah.
Um, in a good way.
And I'm just, I don't know.
I'm at a point where now it'slike things change.
Yeah.
And that's okay.

(30:41):
Like, I already know I haveanxiety, so I'm at a point now
where I can't, I have to do whatI can to not worry Yeah.
So much.
Which is part of why, like eventhe goal setting the way I am.
Mm.
and being just really chill andkinda like, yeah, hey, like, I'm
excited, like I'm ready.
Mm-hmm.
but I'm not like, just, youknow.

(31:01):
Yeah.
Really like jittery and kind ofall over the place about it.
Um, I think that's good for me.
Yeah.
Because that's just how I haveto move.
Mm-hmm.
from now on, because I can'tlive with like, crippling
anxiety the way that I have.
Yeah.
Like this year really tested my,yeah.
Yeah.
Building how bad it can getanxiety wise.

(31:23):
Yeah.
So, and I think that, you know,a lot of the time when people
have, when people have likeintentions or goals or
resolutions, it can be reallyeasy to fall off and then kind
of like you said, like not wannaget back into it.
Yeah.
Because it feels sooverwhelming.
Like, how do I even start again?
Cause you had motivation.

(31:43):
I also myself really bad too.
So like even with my.
Goal this year.
Yeah.
That actually absolutely killedme.
I was so on track Yeah.
To like hit my goal like early.
Mm-hmm.
And then just because your goalthis year was a hundred, right?
Mm-hmm.
and the job you have just didnot align with, didn't align

(32:04):
with, with my, that goal, buthonestly your life.
With my life at all.
Yeah.
Within how I wanna live it.
Yeah.
And so it really just threw meoff and you know, I had to
almost.
detox from that situation beforeI could even really get back
into books.
And I mean, I'm okay with itnow, kind of, but Yeah.

(32:26):
But, um, I really was like nothappy with that and I was really
hard on myself.
Yeah.
Cause reading for me is a bigdeal.
Like it's not, it's a, I don'tknow.
I can't, I don't really think Ican say it's a casual thing for
me.
Yeah.
It's a big part of my life.
It's a big hobby.
Yeah.
It's like who I, and that kindof thing.
So, Um, no, I agree.
I was so mad that I'm literally12 off.

(32:48):
Cool.
I was just like, I just totallybombed, but it's okay cuz I kind
of already have mapped out howI'm gonna start the year Ooh,
okay.
With like what books and stuffI'm gonna get into.
So I think that might help.
Yeah, I think that will.
Um, so I don't know.
I have a lot books I want toread for 2023.
I have quite well and also I'mlike halfway done.

(33:11):
Six books.
So I think I'll hit the first ofthe year with a bang.
I'm kind of like that too.
I'm trying to finish up some.
And then, um, I'm gonna restartthe second book in the Magnolia
Parks.
Oh, okay.
Uh, series.
Cuz I had started reading it,but um, I just got like a
sample.
Mm-hmm.
cuz it wasn't on KindleUnlimited.
And then the other day, like Isaw a post and it was on Kindle

(33:35):
Unlimited, so I got it.
But then I got the Amazon giftcard and I was like, you know, I
know it can be kind of hard toget these paperbacks, so I just
went ahead and ordered all ofthem.
How many, so many are three.
Um, there's four.
Oh, amazing.
First, you've already read thefirst, first one and the second,
and a little bit of the second,a little bit of the second, but
I'm gonna restart the second onewhen you get the paper back.

(33:55):
Mm-hmm.
Amazing.
So I'm really excited.
So this is the first one onKindle Unlimited too?
I think so, yeah.
I'm gonna read it.
Yeah, go ahead and get it, yeah.
Okay.
That'll be really, really good.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I have a few that I'm finishingup.
I'll probably finish the DavidGoggin's book by the end of the
year.
Mm-hmm.
I definitely will.
And then I'll probably finish,um, my Christmas book cause I

(34:16):
really don't wanna go into thenew year still reading a
Christmas book.
Yeah.
That just doesn't feel right.
Yeah.
I wanna.
over it.
Love Christmas.
Yeah.
Love Jesus' birth.
But I'm ready for January soI'll probably, you know, finish
those two.
Yeah.
And then just try and finish myother books once the new year

(34:38):
starts.
But absolutely.
I kind of, so excited.
I kind of think I'm gonna getmore into fantasy next year.
Okay.
I think.
Mm-hmm.
Um, I would love to read a Courtof Thorn and.
Oh yeah.
But just to see, just toliterally see what people, we
could a buddy read that and seewhat the hype is about.
We should.
Because I think if I read it bymyself, I'll get bored and I'll

(35:00):
quit.
Probably because I don't likeslow, prolonged things, you
know?
Exactly.
So I want like quick, fastpaced.
Yeah.
Unless it's a thriller and Iknow some kind of twist is
happening, um, you're just likewaiting for it to hit.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I wanna read just really.
I don't know.

(35:21):
I want it to take me on ajourney.
I feel like I love that.
I started the year, um, lastyear with, I mean, some really
good books.
Really.
So I, I'm just excited.
I want a series.
I want a really good series.
Yeah.
That like I can get wrapped upinto mm-hmm.
and.
Yeah.
Take me on a journey.
Yeah.
And like not the charactersdon't just end the first bur

(35:42):
book, but the first Burke, thefirst Burke You know what I
mean?
Like you go on a journey withthem.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Because I'm gonna read, um, solike the Magnolia Parks series
is what I'm definitely going to,um, I haven't decided if I wanna
start there or with Legend Born.
Cause there's only two books inthat series right now.
No.
I don't know if the second oneleads to a third one, but I just

(36:05):
know there's a second one.
Mm-hmm.
and now I'm like, okay, maybe Ishould read that first.
Yeah.
And then get into MagnoliaParks.
But it's, I'm probably not gonnado that because Magnolia Parks
is gonna be here like tomorrow.
I love that for you.
Yeah.
So amazing.
I'm definitely gonna do that.
But, I don't know.
I'm, I'm, I'm more excited aboutthe reading thing.

(36:27):
I feel like that's the mostexciting Yeah.
That's your like, big thing for2023.
Yes.
Yes.
Absolutely.
I feel big things coming for2023.
Mm-hmm.
I don't know why I do, I just,I've never, again, I've never
felt this more, this excited fora new year, I think because it's
genuinely, it's, it's gonna belike a new start for you,
especially with.

(36:48):
getting divorced, like mm-hmm.
That's probably one That's likethe biggest thing that's ever
happened to you?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Personally, and it's like mylife.
Mm-hmm.
like, okay, this next year's mylife.
Mm-hmm.
not that it wasn't before, butwhen you're married mm-hmm.
things get, you know what Imean?
Your life, you'll be moresettled next year.
Yeah.
I'll be more settled on top ofthat.
I'll just feel like I'm reallycreating the life, like kind of

(37:08):
what you said earlier, which Ilove.
You can see the vision.
Mm-hmm.
and that's how I feel too.
I feel like I can see the visionof who I want to be, the woman I
want to become.
It's just now about the daily,like grind and hustle and, and
what I'm gonna do about it to,yeah.
The small, mundane, like almostboring tasks and the discipline

(37:30):
that requires to get there.
Mm-hmm.
you know, so that's how I feel.
I feel like I'm almost veryexcited for the everyday.
daily tasks.
Like I'm just excited for, Idon't know, especially like I
talked about, I think before westarted, but just having
something to look forward to inFebruary for like, like just

(37:54):
having a goal kind of in mind.
Mm-hmm.
like, okay, how my, like, that'skind of a checkup for me.
Like, okay, how have I beendoing all my health and fitness?
Like that can kind of be a goodmotivational start.
Yeah.
You know, for January for.
Yep.
But honestly, I've been loving,I've been loving working out
recently.
Good.
So I don't think, I don't know,I just, me and fitness are still

(38:20):
trying to figure out, but likethe nature of that relationship.
Yeah.
Like, I'm still trying to figurethat out.
But it's just a matter of like,I like your goal.
Just move your body.
Yeah.
Just move it.
And that's, that's really gonnabe it.
I can't, I'm, I'm not going to.
get too detailed about it eitherbecause I don't wanna get
overwhelmed, like I said.
Mm-hmm.
I definitely will have certainthings that I wanna do.

(38:42):
Yeah.
To contribute to that for acertain amount of time every
day.
Yeah.
But at the moment I am not gonnado, just hit it super hard cuz I
just feel like that is not theway that I need to go about it.
Yeah.
And I think that's where a lotof people mess up.
Yeah, they go like completelycold Turkey on like all these
foods that they've been eating,whatever.

(39:04):
Mm-hmm.
and then you have a bad day.
You can't helping anything out,anything.
I just feel like still allowyourself to have the fun foods.
Yeah.
You know what I mean?
Still allow yourself to haveYeah.
Food.
And you have helped me realizethat like even, like even though
I haven't totally like fixed mydiet necessarily, I definitely

(39:25):
have a different approach tothat.
Like as far as how I would.
while I'm like working out anddoing all that.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's not as crazy as it oncewas.
Yeah.
I love that.
And I think just those smallsustainable changes.
Mm-hmm.
I think that's gonna be key forboth of us in mm-hmm.
like our just journey, I feellike just with everything, you

(39:46):
know, not just health andfitness, but our goals that we
have.
Yeah.
I'm excited to check up, uh,check back up with you.
February or March about yourtheme for Yeah.
Like we can kind of check up andboth of us talk about where
we're at in our goals.
Yeah.
But then also talk about likewhat your theme is for the
second quarter.
Yeah.
I know I like breaking things upinto quarters.

(40:07):
That's actually very smart.
Yeah.
I'm excited about what, howthat's gonna look for me.
Yeah.
So, Hmm.
I love it.
Stay tuned.
Stay tuned.
Well, we hope you guys had avery happy and safe New Year.
Mm-hmm.
and we cannot believe it'sJanuary.
Yeah.
And we will talk to you guysnext week.
Bye.
Love you guys.
Bye.
Love y'all.