January 30, 2024 • 32 mins
This week, we peel back the layers of resilience—an entrepreneur's armour—and reveal how the stories we narrate in our minds can either anchor us or set us adrift.
It's a peak inside our personal beliefs and their transformative impact on our professional lives. This isn't just about bouncing back; it's about reconstructing the narrative of your experiences to chart a course toward lasting success.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Let me tell you something, Alana Banks you got
to be tough if you're going tomake it in this world.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
You do.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
You got to be resilient.
You know what I'm saying?
I do, I totally know whatyou're saying.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
If you're an entrepreneur or you're running
your own business and you'rejust getting up every day and
get going and make it happen anddo all the things that you want
to do, you do have to havetoughness, you have to have
resilience.
You've got to have a North Star, which we can talk more about
in a bit.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Yeah, I think a lot of coaches, a lot of
entrepreneurs see a little bitof success and then get
overwhelmed and give up, ordon't see success quickly enough
and feel bad and give up.
Yeah, listeners, we want you tonot do that.
We want to talk today about therole that resilience plays in
your business and in your life.
(01:01):
We want to share some of ourimportant beliefs or secrets,
you might say, related to howAlana and I individually embody
resilience.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Yeah, it's the name of a game.
When you're an entrepreneur,when you're running your own
business and having to holdyourself accountable more times
than not.
I guess I'm actually justlooking at the definition of
resilience.
It says the capacity towithstand or to recover quickly
(01:37):
from difficulties and toughness,the ability of a substance or
object to spring back into shape, elasticity.
I like that.
It's true.
Sometimes you feel like you'rejust going through the ringer
and then, yeah, you have tobounce out of it, bounce back.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Bounce back.
Yeah, stuff comes up, even whenthings.
I'll give you the example frommy life business is going really
well for me right now.
Really well.
Things have been steadilygrowing in the weeks of months,
as they have been for a while.
But at the same time with rapidgrowth comes sometimes
(02:23):
overwhelm or increased pressureor increased stress or shorter
deadlines or whatever.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Or more responsibility too.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
More responsibility.
I've been celebrating a lot ofgood success lately, but I've
also been at a significantlyincreased stress lately because
of it, and it's okay to be inthat situation, especially when
it's temporary, if you embody anadequate amount of resilience
you will get through.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Yeah, I'm with you on that and that's why it's so
important.
I don't know if we've talkedabout this on the podcast before
, but it's so important,especially as a coach, because
you're not just a business owner, but you're also a coach most
likely if you're listening tothis podcast and so you not only
have to have resiliency as acoach.
(03:18):
When you're working with peopleand giving a lot of your energy
and yourself to someone, youneed to be resilient in that
you're taking care of yourself,because that can take a toll,
but on top of it, you're also anentrepreneur, so it's just the
resiliency within just yourbusiness.
So it's like a double whammysometimes.
(03:40):
I find right, Like if businessis going really well and you are
seeing a lot of clients, likeyou can keep up maybe with the
self care, but you've also got abusiness to run, and that can
take its toll too if you don'thave certain beliefs or systems
(04:02):
in place in your mind to beresilient and keep going.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Okay, let's get into specifics.
We got three, the three keybeliefs that Atlanta banks
embodies in order to have highresiliency.
Three key beliefs or secretsthat yours truly, ryan Montes,
has put down on paper to sharewith you today about resilience.
(04:31):
Number one from Ryan, I choosethe meaning of the events that
happen in my life.
So here's what this means folks, beans, folks, human beings are
meaning-making machines.
I think I've heard a lot ofbanks say that specifically
before, but it's an importantunderstanding.
There are events that happen inour life that we become aware
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of and then our mind attaches ameaning to that event.
Whether you realize it or not,it tends to happen automatically
.
Often it happens outside of ourconscious awareness, and taking
control of what meaning yourmind and your heart attaches to
(05:16):
the events that are happening inyour life is absolutely
life-changing.
It means the difference betweenbeing upset about something or
not caring.
It means the difference betweenfinding something funny,
finding something highlyoffensive, the meaning that we
choose to attach to the eventsthat are happening.
(05:37):
It literally changes ourneurology.
It changes our destiny, itchanges our quality of life.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
I always try to be very intentful, especially with
the more tricky or the moredifficult or the more unpleasant
events that happen in life.
I try to be really carefulabout what meaning I attach to
it.
If somebody is mad at me forsomething that's happened in
business, am I going to attachto the meaning that that means
I've had a business and I shouldquit?
(06:09):
Or am I going to attach to themeaning that maybe they just had
some personal thing going on intheir life and my product or my
service wasn't compatible withthem at that time and it's okay
and I can carry on and be happyBecause the rest of my clients
are all thrilled with theproduct and service that I'm
giving them.
What meaning we're attaching toevents very important in?
Speaker 2 (06:30):
taking control.
So important, so important.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
That's the first one on my list.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
I mean, that's just going to give you resiliency in
your entire life, not justbusiness.
If you adopt that Becausethere's so many things out there
and people love to attachmeaning to people in your life
will attach meaning to whatyou're going through as well.
So if you adopt this belief ofI choose the meaning of a given
(06:59):
event, then it's difficult forpeople in your life to persuade
you away from whatever it is youmight be doing too.
You know what I mean.
Yeah, because that's a reallyeasy road to go down, especially
when people close to you, whocare about you a lot, are
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sharing their meanings of thingsthat are going on for you.
But you're like I got my ownmeaning.
I'm good, that's yours, I'llkeep mine, thank you.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Yeah, yeah.
I think maybe a couple ofexamples would be helpful for
this one just to really drivehome.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
And I gave that one example.
Let's say you have a client andall of a sudden they go from
being nice and happy andsatisfied to hating you and
demanding a refund.
And whatever you could attach,you could assume that means you
suck and you've done somethinghorrible.
Or you could assume that means,well, something's gone on in
their life, potentially and it'snot about me necessarily, right
(08:02):
, yeah?
Which meaning that we're goingto attach to the event.
And again, you may want to seekevidence to support one or the
other or disprove one or theother, but if we just always
assume the worst meaning out ofevery event, well, we're not
going to stick around inbusiness too long, probably.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Yeah, it's true.
Yeah, or if you don't have any,this is actually going to take
me into my point.
But if you don't have anyclients this month, right, and
you make it mean that you're afailure and you shouldn't be a
coach anymore or something likethat, then that's not true, is
it?
There are other things that youcould be doing.
(08:43):
It could just mean you haven'tbeen putting yourself out there
as much.
It could mean so many differentthings, but it doesn't
necessarily mean that you're abad coach and shouldn't be in
business anymore, which kind ofleads nicely into one belief
that I have.
I feel like this is kind ofsimilar to yours, but it's just
that I am not my results, so Idon't attach meaning about my
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self-worth to what might begoing on in my business.
So if a client is mad at me or Imess something up or I'm not
hitting my targets or peoplearen't liking my content, I
don't make it mean that I'mworthless and undervalued and I
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shouldn't be in this business.
I just recognize that it's maybesome external factor, it has
something to do with them, ithas something else to do, but
it's not about me.
And this is a tricky one to getbehind and this took me a while
(09:51):
to really think clearly on,because I remember feeling like
when I had my fabric store, itwas so easy to just sell my
fabric and when people weren'tbuying it I just was like, oh,
they just don't like that designor that color or whatever.
I never attach meaning aboutmyself.
(10:11):
But then as soon as I got itand I know that this is true for
some other people because I'vehad some conversations with
other coaches this week on thistopic when you go into business
for yourself and you're sellingyou, you are the brand and
people are buying your service.
As a coach, it's easy to godown the road of attaching
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meaning and attaching yourresults, meaning something about
you and your worth becauseyou're the product.
So this mindset, or thisempowering belief, is crucial to
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adopt when you're a coach, whenyou're selling your own service
, because once you adopt this,you will have resilience.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Yeah, yeah, so it was .
I am not my results.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Very good, I am not my results.
Yeah, I am not my results.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Connected to, but not exactly the same as I get to
choose the meaning of the eventsthat occur around me.
Definitely related.
Okay, cool, cool, love it Shallwe.
Okay, you wanted to go back andforth?
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Okay, yeah, I like going back and forth.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Cool, that works for me, easy peasy yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
It helps with my resiliency, yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
I mean, ladies and gentlemen, it's great.
You know you should be flexibleabout things until it's time to
not be flexible.
Right, you don't want to beinflexible all the time.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
You don't be flexible all the time.
I like to be easy going.
Yeah, when possible, you know,and then, and then I'd stand my
ground when I need to Right yeah, which is kind of like a
multiple box, which also leadsto being resilient.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Right Like, sometimes , you do need to know when to
stay in your ground and when tobe flexible.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Yeah yeah, sometimes you got to chill.
Yeah yeah, sometimes you got tobe not chill.
Anyways, all right.
Number next Um, my secondbelief that I've adopted, which
I think helps me be veryresilient, is the understanding
that it's going to be hardsometimes, and that's okay.
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Life is going to be hardsometimes, and that's okay.
Business is going to be hardsometimes, and that's okay.
Everything's going to be hardsometimes, and it's okay.
And just being able to be in ahard part and recognize this is
a hard part, it is temporary, itis okay.
What do I need to do?
To just carry on and getthrough this?
(12:46):
Just having that understandingthat you know the challenges are
going to come.
That's okay, it's normal.
Face them, do your best, Keepgoing.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
I think that's life too.
Like you know, when I think ofthat, it's kind of like that's
what keeps things interesting,because would you want
everything to be just likeamazingly okay all the time?
I mean maybe that would be nice, but then I think it would get
boring.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Right and you need to go through difficult times or
maybe, like I feel like, whenyou're in that sort of difficult
time or that tough time whereyou're having to, like, juggle a
lot of things or managedifferent responsibilities,
you're in a period of expansion.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
And it's like a recalibration and so, like
you're you know you're in thislike expansion, you, when you
have this mindset of it's, I'mjust going through something
difficult right now and I'mgoing to be okay because you're
going to figure it out, and thenthis is going to become your
new normal, right, it's justlike recalibrating the, the
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energy like around you, and thenyou're going to like go through
another hard time and thenyou're just going to like
recalibrate to that level.
And then you'll look back onyou know these other tough times
and you're like, oh, that'snothing compared to like what's
happening right now.
Right, and that's resilience,because you recognize in that
moment, like, how strong you are, how resilient you are.
(14:24):
You know what your capacity is,right, yeah, because what's the
?
Isn't there like a quote around, like that we're only working
within like 10% of our liketotal capacity, or something
like that?
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Oh yeah, something like that.
It's like we don't, you know,humans only use.
There's a couple of variationsout of one which is not true.
It's that we only use 10% ofour brain.
That's not true.
We use 100% of our brain, right.
But I think the more accurateone is that, like we only use
10% of our potential at anygiven time, or our potential
exertion or our potential, likefull capacity, something like
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that.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Yeah, and I think it's true because you don't?
I mean, I remember when Ibecame a mom, right, like things
that used to make me tired,things that used to just like
totally exhaust me, or when Iactually thought I was tired
when I became a mom and like mycapacity for like exhaustion and
(15:27):
like the amount of things Icould do in one day went from
like 10 to like 100.
Like it was just, and I wasjust like, oh wow, I had no idea
, I had all this in me.
Right, you know, I'm just usingthat as an example because,
like, people can relate to that.
But, like you know, we have somuch capacity and we don't know
what we're capable of until youpush yourself right and you go
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through the tough stuff.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Or maybe you're having to deal with like other
things.
It doesn't have to just be kids, but it could be like other
family obligations, elderlyparents on top of your work, and
all the other things that youhave to be doing.
Yeah, I like the hard times,you know.
I think they're good.
They're good for you.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
There you go.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Lana Banks loves the hard times.
Mm-hmm, did we get to yoursecond point?
Yeah, I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
No, I'll add mine in.
So my second point is knows ourprotection.
So what I mean by that in termsof resiliency is sometimes
you're going to fail, sometimesyou're going to like want
something and you don't get it.
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Sometimes you're going to wantto I don't know have a specific
client and it doesn't work out.
And I always look at thesesetbacks or these knows or these
failures as the universeprotecting me, and I know that
kind of sounds a little bit likeout there, but you know, I do
really believe that there is aplan for you.
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And that's not to say that youcan just like let everything go
to you know the universe and letit's just going to work out
Like you have to take the actionsteps to get to these places.
But you know, if you look backand connect the dots and you see
the things that didn't work outor that failed or you know you
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weren't able to do in thatmoment, you'll see that it was a
stepping stone to somethingthat was actually in favor of
your best interest.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
And sometimes you don't see that in the moment,
but in hindsight you're likeokay, that's why that didn't
work out, because it opened upspace for me to do this thing,
which led to that thing right.
So, adopting this belief that Imean it's similar to like
there's no failure, there's onlyfeedback, or something like
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that.
It's like similar to that interms of just like don't look at
it as a no or a fail or you didsomething wrong.
Look at it as like expansion,it's leading you to something
better.
Yeah, and it probably wasn'tgoing to work out anyway.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Yeah, I really like that.
Actually, I might try to workthat into my belief structure a
little more.
This, like you know, it's forthe greater good, right?
Yeah, something doesn't workout the way we planned.
It's like I know there's a lotof different variations on this
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belief.
You know, this is also like avery like religious belief too.
It's like, well, you know, whensomething doesn't go the way we
hoped, you might hear a veryreligious person say, well,
that's God's plan, right?
Which I think is really similar.
It's another way of saying it'sokay, let's just assume this
was for the best, right, or youknow, or, as you say, it knows
our protection, or you know,there's so many different like
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nice ways to term it Totally.
But yeah, let's just, why notjust again?
We can attach the meaning thatwe want something.
We didn't get the result wewere hoping for, expecting.
Rather than attaching themeaning this is a reason to be
sad or upset, let's attach themeaning I want.
I'm going to assume that thisis not happening and because
this is not happening, thatmeans something even better is
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going to happen.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Yeah, let's operate on that assumption.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Yeah, yeah, that one has been extremely helpful for
me, because I having this beliefhas also allowed me to almost
never feel let down.
You, know, like and I shouldn'tsay that I don't ever I mean
obviously, like I getdisappointed and human, but it's
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an easier turnaround for me, solike I'll be disappointed and
then I'll be like, well, itwasn't meant to be, it's not
part of the plan.
And if this is going to lead meto something else, that is part
of the plan.
And the other thing, too, thatI would attach to this is that,
you know, a fail and no,something not working out
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doesn't have to be a forevereither.
It can just be a not right now.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Two, that's another kind of like belief, like that's
a sidebar to this one Just be aknock right now.
Yeah, I like that too.
That's another good.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
Like quick on the fly reframe.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
And then it allows you to be resilient and just
keep moving because you're justlike.
You don't need to dwell on thedisappointment of it, like, just
keep going, it's fine.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Like, even with like a setback like if you feel like
you're almost at something.
And then there's a step back ora setback.
That's a good reframe.
Right there it's like okay,this is just a setback and I'll
carry on and I'll get thereRight.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
Like, yeah, there, maybe there was a few more
lessons I need to learn.
You know what I mean.
Like that's what I think of too, and there's a setback is just
like I wasn't quite ready yet orI needed to.
I need to learn one more thingor have one more experience, or
whatever it is.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Yeah, all right, let's get into these last couple
.
Here's my last one.
And my last one is negative.
Emotions are suggestions, notcommands, and they're temporary.
And so, again, this is onethat's been in my mind recently
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because there's a lot going on.
Like I said, in my businesslately I'm under a little bit of
pressure, you know, onboardinga lot of new clients and
introducing a new program, andso attached to that is
discomfort and stress, and theand for me, you know, obviously
discomfort and the physicalsymptoms of stress are
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unpleasant.
Right, you might term negative,even though they're not really
negative.
But you know, for me, workingthrough this is the understand.
You know, being able to workthrough this is about having the
understanding that you know,just because I feel discomfort
or just because I feel aso-called negative emotion, that
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doesn't necessarily mean thatI'm on the right path.
I'm doing the wrong thing, Ineed to stop what I'm doing, I
need to retreat or withdrawalright.
And negative emotions as TadJames used to say about anxiety
are telling you to pay attentionto what's going on, to what you
are doing, to what needs to bepaid attention to right.
And there are strongsuggestions, but they're not
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commands, right?
Fear is not a command to runaway.
It's a suggestion to payattention and make a decision
about what you should really donext right.
And so I think thatunderstanding about these
negative emotions and we'reemotion-driven beings, human
beings, whether you want toadmit it or not, everybody you
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are but having thisunderstanding in many cases will
be one of the things that willhelp you get through the
challenging times.
In my experience and my opinion, yeah, I love that too.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
I've definitely adopted that.
Also, when it comes to pain,when you said it's time to pay
attention when you have anegative emotion, if you have
chronic pain as well, thatstands for pay attention inside
now right, Because sometimes ifyou don't pay attention to the
negative emotions, then whathappens is they start to
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manifest in your body.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
And then the last place really for them to show up
is pain in your body.
And then you're like okay, Igot to pay attention to this, I
got to address whatever it isthat.
So if you're not payingattention to your fear or your
anxiety or whatever is coming upfor you, then it's going to
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start to manifest in your bodyLike tension, headaches, stiff
neck, stomach aches, all thatstuff.
We don't want to get there,because then you've kind of gone
too far.
The other side.
So if you can pay attention tothose negative emotions, then
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that's going to give you theresiliency to keep going,
because this is a command toyour mind or to yourself that
it's like okay, I got to payattention to this feeling that's
coming up for me.
Speaker 3 (24:41):
Yeah, yeah, agreed.
There you go.
I think we got that one.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Yeah, we got that, the one on the cover.
Well, anna Banks, why don't youtake it home with this last?
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Yeah, this last one.
So this last one.
I mean I don't know if this isjust like a thing that I do or
what, but I just decided thatI'm an entrepreneur and that's
the belief that I adopted.
I think it's really important.
I think self-image work isreally important and if you're
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going to take on the persona ofan entrepreneur, you have to
decide that that's what you areand there's no turning back,
sort of like your missionmindset.
It's just like I'm on a mission.
I decided this is what I'm doingand I'm doing it and that's the
type of person that I am.
That's served me very well andgiven me a lot of resilience in
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my business, because, I mean,I'm at 10 years as an
entrepreneur at this point.
So it's just like I'm not goingback.
And I remember having thisconversation actually with my
10-year-old son.
He's only known me to be anentrepreneur and I was having a
moment, I feel like last spring,and he was like Mom, you're not
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the type of person that wouldhave a job, you're not that type
of person.
And hearing that from him, Iwas just like, okay, yeah,
you're right.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
You're right.
Yeah, my persona to him isentrepreneur, working for myself
, and that is my persona.
That's the self-image that I'veadopted.
So I mean, easier said thandone, I think, and I was saying
this before we recorded it'seasy for me to say I'm just an
entrepreneur and that's whatI've decided.
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But having that as part of yourneurology is pretty strong.
It's a pretty strong belief,and then to go against that it's
almost like you're giving up onyourself.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
Yeah, yeah, don't do that.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
That's how I would feel at this point if I was just
like oh, I'm going to pack itin.
No, I'm not going to give up onme.
My self-image that I've createdand I mean I'm not going to lie
it's been fueled by a littlebit of fire in my belly around,
just like past experiences inthe corporate world, and it just
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didn't really work out for mein that realm.
So you know, there's part of methat really wants to prove that
I can do this.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
And I think that you know a lot of entrepreneurs
probably have that similar fire.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Yeah, I do know what you mean.
I think I'm due to kind ofpolish up my self image a little
bit.
I definitely have always hadthat kind of self image of being
an entrepreneur, which is why Isuffered so much when I was an
employee.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
But you know, a self image is more nuanced than that
right, and so I think it'ssomething we all should be
revisiting regularly, right?
Yes, and perhaps, like you know, you're more into the self
image scene than your old palRyan here, but maybe it's like
something that people should beformally revisiting once a year
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or every six months.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Oh, 100%.
Yeah, Well, I'm running aworkshop February 2nd at noon
Eastern time.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Holy jumbun.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
That's called the confident coach had to create a
self image that screams leadervibes.
If self image work is somethingthat you're interested in, come
to my workshop.
But because I knew we weregoing to be talking about these
beliefs today, I, just for fun,like opened up an old journal
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that I had and and it's February15th so it would have been last
year February 15th and likeI've got a journal where I write
my self image and I was readingthrough some of these I am
statements and I'm doing it likeit's it's all happening, you
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know, and like this was my ownvisualization.
This is what I was creating.
So you can also create an imageof resiliency.
I think is you know, I agree,important to mention like
especially in this resiliencyepisode.
You can just like we weretalking about lead leader vibes
(29:20):
last week.
You can cultivate a person likeleadership personality, but you
can also cultivate a leadershippersonality that is very
resilient.
Speaker 3 (29:28):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
So, yeah, you certainly can and should 100%,
yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (29:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
I'm busy on that on February 2nd and 2pm.
So the second to the fourth.
I'm running a three day part ofhypnotherapy certification.
So everybody you know you gottwo choices on February 2nd you
can go to Atlanta banks is selfimage leader vibes workshop or
(30:00):
you can come to the first day ofmy three day Hypno
certification.
Like I said, it's an Americanboard of hypnotherapy
certification.
Just make sure you don't do iteither.
Make sure you come to one orthe other.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
Yeah, gotta do one or the other.
I mean mine will be recorded.
It's just a two hour workshop,12 till two.
Speaker 1 (30:21):
Yeah, oh, you know what I thought you said?
It started at 2pm, it starts atnoon, that's right.
Yeah, my training, I think,starts at 130.
So yeah, I mean I'm not sure ifthat's what I'm talking about.
Yeah, potentially a personcould do both.
If somebody tells me thatthey're going to your workshop
and they need to be 30 minuteslate for my class because they
want to do both.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
I'll give them permission to be 30 minutes.
Give them a pass.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
Yeah, I will.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
I will.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
Yeah, yeah, although it might be something to do
after the training, but I expectI'll run the workshop again,
but you know, if you areavailable, definitely I highly
recommend, highly recommend,working on your self image Did
(31:07):
you mention the investment forthe workshop oh, $197.
$197.
Speaker 3 (31:13):
Canadian or US, us, us dollars.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
Yeah, yeah, that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (31:17):
Cool yeah, cool, well worth it Well worth it.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
Yes, well worth it Okay.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
Cool, so yeah I guess that's it for today.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
Yeah, that's it.
Stay resilient.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
I still have a couple of spots in that hypnosis
training.
If anybody hears this in timeand yeah, they should they could
potentially hear this on Monday, so they'd still have.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Yeah, they'll hear it Monday.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
Days to enroll.
So, as of recording time, Istill have a couple of spots in
that, in that training, ifanyone wants to hop in, and if,
and any of you who passedgraduates of my three day
hypnosis training if you'relistening, remember you're
allowed to come back and redothe training as a refresher at
no cost, right, if you'vepreviously graduated from my
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hypno training.
So come on back if you want tohang out.
Speaker 3 (32:03):
Yeah, I'm a grad right, yeah, and the banks?
Speaker 2 (32:07):
Be like 100 banks.
Take the training.
Cool, okay, awesome.
Speaker 1 (32:11):
Thank you, bye everyone.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Bye everyone.
Let me tell you something, Alana Banks you got
to be tough if you're going tomake it in this world.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
You do.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
You got to be resilient.
You know what I'm saying?
I do, I totally know whatyou're saying.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
If you're an entrepreneur or you're running
your own business and you'rejust getting up every day and
get going and make it happen anddo all the things that you want
to do, you do have to havetoughness, you have to have
resilience.
You've got to have a North Star, which we can talk more about
in a bit.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Yeah, I think a lot of coaches, a lot of
entrepreneurs see a little bitof success and then get
overwhelmed and give up, ordon't see success quickly enough
and feel bad and give up.
Yeah, listeners, we want you tonot do that.
We want to talk today about therole that resilience plays in
your business and in your life.
(01:01):
We want to share some of ourimportant beliefs or secrets,
you might say, related to howAlana and I individually embody
resilience.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Yeah, it's the name of a game.
When you're an entrepreneur,when you're running your own
business and having to holdyourself accountable more times
than not.
I guess I'm actually justlooking at the definition of
resilience.
It says the capacity towithstand or to recover quickly
(01:37):
from difficulties and toughness,the ability of a substance or
object to spring back into shape, elasticity.
I like that.
It's true.
Sometimes you feel like you'rejust going through the ringer
and then, yeah, you have tobounce out of it, bounce back.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Bounce back.
Yeah, stuff comes up, even whenthings.
I'll give you the example frommy life business is going really
well for me right now.
Really well.
Things have been steadilygrowing in the weeks of months,
as they have been for a while.
But at the same time with rapidgrowth comes sometimes
(02:23):
overwhelm or increased pressureor increased stress or shorter
deadlines or whatever.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Or more responsibility too.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
More responsibility.
I've been celebrating a lot ofgood success lately, but I've
also been at a significantlyincreased stress lately because
of it, and it's okay to be inthat situation, especially when
it's temporary, if you embody anadequate amount of resilience
you will get through.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Yeah, I'm with you on that and that's why it's so
important.
I don't know if we've talkedabout this on the podcast before
, but it's so important,especially as a coach, because
you're not just a business owner, but you're also a coach most
likely if you're listening tothis podcast and so you not only
have to have resiliency as acoach.
(03:18):
When you're working with peopleand giving a lot of your energy
and yourself to someone, youneed to be resilient in that
you're taking care of yourself,because that can take a toll,
but on top of it, you're also anentrepreneur, so it's just the
resiliency within just yourbusiness.
So it's like a double whammysometimes.
(03:40):
I find right, Like if businessis going really well and you are
seeing a lot of clients, likeyou can keep up maybe with the
self care, but you've also got abusiness to run, and that can
take its toll too if you don'thave certain beliefs or systems
(04:02):
in place in your mind to beresilient and keep going.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Okay, let's get into specifics.
We got three, the three keybeliefs that Atlanta banks
embodies in order to have highresiliency.
Three key beliefs or secretsthat yours truly, ryan Montes,
has put down on paper to sharewith you today about resilience.
(04:31):
Number one from Ryan, I choosethe meaning of the events that
happen in my life.
So here's what this means folks, beans, folks, human beings are
meaning-making machines.
I think I've heard a lot ofbanks say that specifically
before, but it's an importantunderstanding.
There are events that happen inour life that we become aware
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of and then our mind attaches ameaning to that event.
Whether you realize it or not,it tends to happen automatically
.
Often it happens outside of ourconscious awareness, and taking
control of what meaning yourmind and your heart attaches to
(05:16):
the events that are happening inyour life is absolutely
life-changing.
It means the difference betweenbeing upset about something or
not caring.
It means the difference betweenfinding something funny,
finding something highlyoffensive, the meaning that we
choose to attach to the eventsthat are happening.
(05:37):
It literally changes ourneurology.
It changes our destiny, itchanges our quality of life.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
I always try to be very intentful, especially with
the more tricky or the moredifficult or the more unpleasant
events that happen in life.
I try to be really carefulabout what meaning I attach to
it.
If somebody is mad at me forsomething that's happened in
business, am I going to attachto the meaning that that means
I've had a business and I shouldquit?
(06:09):
Or am I going to attach to themeaning that maybe they just had
some personal thing going on intheir life and my product or my
service wasn't compatible withthem at that time and it's okay
and I can carry on and be happyBecause the rest of my clients
are all thrilled with theproduct and service that I'm
giving them.
What meaning we're attaching toevents very important in?
Speaker 2 (06:30):
taking control.
So important, so important.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
That's the first one on my list.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
I mean, that's just going to give you resiliency in
your entire life, not justbusiness.
If you adopt that Becausethere's so many things out there
and people love to attachmeaning to people in your life
will attach meaning to whatyou're going through as well.
So if you adopt this belief ofI choose the meaning of a given
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event, then it's difficult forpeople in your life to persuade
you away from whatever it is youmight be doing too.
You know what I mean.
Yeah, because that's a reallyeasy road to go down, especially
when people close to you, whocare about you a lot, are
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sharing their meanings of thingsthat are going on for you.
But you're like I got my ownmeaning.
I'm good, that's yours, I'llkeep mine, thank you.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Yeah, yeah.
I think maybe a couple ofexamples would be helpful for
this one just to really drivehome.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
And I gave that one example.
Let's say you have a client andall of a sudden they go from
being nice and happy andsatisfied to hating you and
demanding a refund.
And whatever you could attach,you could assume that means you
suck and you've done somethinghorrible.
Or you could assume that means,well, something's gone on in
their life, potentially and it'snot about me necessarily, right
(08:02):
, yeah?
Which meaning that we're goingto attach to the event.
And again, you may want to seekevidence to support one or the
other or disprove one or theother, but if we just always
assume the worst meaning out ofevery event, well, we're not
going to stick around inbusiness too long, probably.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Yeah, it's true.
Yeah, or if you don't have any,this is actually going to take
me into my point.
But if you don't have anyclients this month, right, and
you make it mean that you're afailure and you shouldn't be a
coach anymore or something likethat, then that's not true, is
it?
There are other things that youcould be doing.
(08:43):
It could just mean you haven'tbeen putting yourself out there
as much.
It could mean so many differentthings, but it doesn't
necessarily mean that you're abad coach and shouldn't be in
business anymore, which kind ofleads nicely into one belief
that I have.
I feel like this is kind ofsimilar to yours, but it's just
that I am not my results, so Idon't attach meaning about my
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self-worth to what might begoing on in my business.
So if a client is mad at me or Imess something up or I'm not
hitting my targets or peoplearen't liking my content, I
don't make it mean that I'mworthless and undervalued and I
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shouldn't be in this business.
I just recognize that it's maybesome external factor, it has
something to do with them, ithas something else to do, but
it's not about me.
And this is a tricky one to getbehind and this took me a while
(09:51):
to really think clearly on,because I remember feeling like
when I had my fabric store, itwas so easy to just sell my
fabric and when people weren'tbuying it I just was like, oh,
they just don't like that designor that color or whatever.
I never attach meaning aboutmyself.
(10:11):
But then as soon as I got itand I know that this is true for
some other people because I'vehad some conversations with
other coaches this week on thistopic when you go into business
for yourself and you're sellingyou, you are the brand and
people are buying your service.
As a coach, it's easy to godown the road of attaching
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meaning and attaching yourresults, meaning something about
you and your worth becauseyou're the product.
So this mindset, or thisempowering belief, is crucial to
(10:54):
adopt when you're a coach, whenyou're selling your own service
, because once you adopt this,you will have resilience.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Yeah, yeah, so it was .
I am not my results.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Very good, I am not my results.
Yeah, I am not my results.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Connected to, but not exactly the same as I get to
choose the meaning of the eventsthat occur around me.
Definitely related.
Okay, cool, cool, love it Shallwe.
Okay, you wanted to go back andforth?
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Okay, yeah, I like going back and forth.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Cool, that works for me, easy peasy yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
It helps with my resiliency, yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
I mean, ladies and gentlemen, it's great.
You know you should be flexibleabout things until it's time to
not be flexible.
Right, you don't want to beinflexible all the time.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
You don't be flexible all the time.
I like to be easy going.
Yeah, when possible, you know,and then, and then I'd stand my
ground when I need to Right yeah, which is kind of like a
multiple box, which also leadsto being resilient.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Right Like, sometimes , you do need to know when to
stay in your ground and when tobe flexible.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Yeah yeah, sometimes you got to chill.
Yeah yeah, sometimes you got tobe not chill.
Anyways, all right.
Number next Um, my secondbelief that I've adopted, which
I think helps me be veryresilient, is the understanding
that it's going to be hardsometimes, and that's okay.
(12:25):
Life is going to be hardsometimes, and that's okay.
Business is going to be hardsometimes, and that's okay.
Everything's going to be hardsometimes, and it's okay.
And just being able to be in ahard part and recognize this is
a hard part, it is temporary, itis okay.
What do I need to do?
To just carry on and getthrough this?
(12:46):
Just having that understandingthat you know the challenges are
going to come.
That's okay, it's normal.
Face them, do your best, Keepgoing.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
I think that's life too.
Like you know, when I think ofthat, it's kind of like that's
what keeps things interesting,because would you want
everything to be just likeamazingly okay all the time?
I mean maybe that would be nice, but then I think it would get
boring.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Right and you need to go through difficult times or
maybe, like I feel like, whenyou're in that sort of difficult
time or that tough time whereyou're having to, like, juggle a
lot of things or managedifferent responsibilities,
you're in a period of expansion.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
And it's like a recalibration and so, like
you're you know you're in thislike expansion, you, when you
have this mindset of it's, I'mjust going through something
difficult right now and I'mgoing to be okay because you're
going to figure it out, and thenthis is going to become your
new normal, right, it's justlike recalibrating the, the
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energy like around you, and thenyou're going to like go through
another hard time and thenyou're just going to like
recalibrate to that level.
And then you'll look back onyou know these other tough times
and you're like, oh, that'snothing compared to like what's
happening right now.
Right, and that's resilience,because you recognize in that
moment, like, how strong you are, how resilient you are.
(14:24):
You know what your capacity is,right, yeah, because what's the
?
Isn't there like a quote around, like that we're only working
within like 10% of our liketotal capacity, or something
like that?
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Oh yeah, something like that.
It's like we don't, you know,humans only use.
There's a couple of variationsout of one which is not true.
It's that we only use 10% ofour brain.
That's not true.
We use 100% of our brain, right.
But I think the more accurateone is that, like we only use
10% of our potential at anygiven time, or our potential
exertion or our potential, likefull capacity, something like
(15:01):
that.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Yeah, and I think it's true because you don't?
I mean, I remember when Ibecame a mom, right, like things
that used to make me tired,things that used to just like
totally exhaust me, or when Iactually thought I was tired
when I became a mom and like mycapacity for like exhaustion and
(15:27):
like the amount of things Icould do in one day went from
like 10 to like 100.
Like it was just, and I wasjust like, oh wow, I had no idea
, I had all this in me.
Right, you know, I'm just usingthat as an example because,
like, people can relate to that.
But, like you know, we have somuch capacity and we don't know
what we're capable of until youpush yourself right and you go
(15:50):
through the tough stuff.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Or maybe you're having to deal with like other
things.
It doesn't have to just be kids, but it could be like other
family obligations, elderlyparents on top of your work, and
all the other things that youhave to be doing.
Yeah, I like the hard times,you know.
I think they're good.
They're good for you.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
There you go.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Lana Banks loves the hard times.
Mm-hmm, did we get to yoursecond point?
Yeah, I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
No, I'll add mine in.
So my second point is knows ourprotection.
So what I mean by that in termsof resiliency is sometimes
you're going to fail, sometimesyou're going to like want
something and you don't get it.
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Sometimes you're going to wantto I don't know have a specific
client and it doesn't work out.
And I always look at thesesetbacks or these knows or these
failures as the universeprotecting me, and I know that
kind of sounds a little bit likeout there, but you know, I do
really believe that there is aplan for you.
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And that's not to say that youcan just like let everything go
to you know the universe and letit's just going to work out
Like you have to take the actionsteps to get to these places.
But you know, if you look backand connect the dots and you see
the things that didn't work outor that failed or you know you
(17:24):
weren't able to do in thatmoment, you'll see that it was a
stepping stone to somethingthat was actually in favor of
your best interest.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
And sometimes you don't see that in the moment,
but in hindsight you're likeokay, that's why that didn't
work out, because it opened upspace for me to do this thing,
which led to that thing right.
So, adopting this belief that Imean it's similar to like
there's no failure, there's onlyfeedback, or something like
(17:57):
that.
It's like similar to that interms of just like don't look at
it as a no or a fail or you didsomething wrong.
Look at it as like expansion,it's leading you to something
better.
Yeah, and it probably wasn'tgoing to work out anyway.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Yeah, I really like that.
Actually, I might try to workthat into my belief structure a
little more.
This, like you know, it's forthe greater good, right?
Yeah, something doesn't workout the way we planned.
It's like I know there's a lotof different variations on this
(18:36):
belief.
You know, this is also like avery like religious belief too.
It's like, well, you know, whensomething doesn't go the way we
hoped, you might hear a veryreligious person say, well,
that's God's plan, right?
Which I think is really similar.
It's another way of saying it'sokay, let's just assume this
was for the best, right, or youknow, or, as you say, it knows
our protection, or you know,there's so many different like
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nice ways to term it Totally.
But yeah, let's just, why notjust again?
We can attach the meaning thatwe want something.
We didn't get the result wewere hoping for, expecting.
Rather than attaching themeaning this is a reason to be
sad or upset, let's attach themeaning I want.
I'm going to assume that thisis not happening and because
this is not happening, thatmeans something even better is
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going to happen.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Yeah, let's operate on that assumption.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Yeah, yeah, that one has been extremely helpful for
me, because I having this beliefhas also allowed me to almost
never feel let down.
You, know, like and I shouldn'tsay that I don't ever I mean
obviously, like I getdisappointed and human, but it's
(19:44):
an easier turnaround for me, solike I'll be disappointed and
then I'll be like, well, itwasn't meant to be, it's not
part of the plan.
And if this is going to lead meto something else, that is part
of the plan.
And the other thing, too, thatI would attach to this is that,
you know, a fail and no,something not working out
(20:07):
doesn't have to be a forevereither.
It can just be a not right now.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Two, that's another kind of like belief, like that's
a sidebar to this one Just be aknock right now.
Yeah, I like that too.
That's another good.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
Like quick on the fly reframe.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
And then it allows you to be resilient and just
keep moving because you're justlike.
You don't need to dwell on thedisappointment of it, like, just
keep going, it's fine.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Like, even with like a setback like if you feel like
you're almost at something.
And then there's a step back ora setback.
That's a good reframe.
Right there it's like okay,this is just a setback and I'll
carry on and I'll get thereRight.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
Like, yeah, there, maybe there was a few more
lessons I need to learn.
You know what I mean.
Like that's what I think of too, and there's a setback is just
like I wasn't quite ready yet orI needed to.
I need to learn one more thingor have one more experience, or
whatever it is.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Yeah, all right, let's get into these last couple
.
Here's my last one.
And my last one is negative.
Emotions are suggestions, notcommands, and they're temporary.
And so, again, this is onethat's been in my mind recently
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because there's a lot going on.
Like I said, in my businesslately I'm under a little bit of
pressure, you know, onboardinga lot of new clients and
introducing a new program, andso attached to that is
discomfort and stress, and theand for me, you know, obviously
discomfort and the physicalsymptoms of stress are
(22:00):
unpleasant.
Right, you might term negative,even though they're not really
negative.
But you know, for me, workingthrough this is the understand.
You know, being able to workthrough this is about having the
understanding that you know,just because I feel discomfort
or just because I feel aso-called negative emotion, that
(22:20):
doesn't necessarily mean thatI'm on the right path.
I'm doing the wrong thing, Ineed to stop what I'm doing, I
need to retreat or withdrawalright.
And negative emotions as TadJames used to say about anxiety
are telling you to pay attentionto what's going on, to what you
are doing, to what needs to bepaid attention to right.
And there are strongsuggestions, but they're not
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commands, right?
Fear is not a command to runaway.
It's a suggestion to payattention and make a decision
about what you should really donext right.
And so I think thatunderstanding about these
negative emotions and we'reemotion-driven beings, human
beings, whether you want toadmit it or not, everybody you
(23:03):
are but having thisunderstanding in many cases will
be one of the things that willhelp you get through the
challenging times.
In my experience and my opinion, yeah, I love that too.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
I've definitely adopted that.
Also, when it comes to pain,when you said it's time to pay
attention when you have anegative emotion, if you have
chronic pain as well, thatstands for pay attention inside
now right, Because sometimes ifyou don't pay attention to the
negative emotions, then whathappens is they start to
(23:41):
manifest in your body.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
And then the last place really for them to show up
is pain in your body.
And then you're like okay, Igot to pay attention to this, I
got to address whatever it isthat.
So if you're not payingattention to your fear or your
anxiety or whatever is coming upfor you, then it's going to
(24:06):
start to manifest in your bodyLike tension, headaches, stiff
neck, stomach aches, all thatstuff.
We don't want to get there,because then you've kind of gone
too far.
The other side.
So if you can pay attention tothose negative emotions, then
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that's going to give you theresiliency to keep going,
because this is a command toyour mind or to yourself that
it's like okay, I got to payattention to this feeling that's
coming up for me.
Speaker 3 (24:41):
Yeah, yeah, agreed.
There you go.
I think we got that one.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Yeah, we got that, the one on the cover.
Well, anna Banks, why don't youtake it home with this last?
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Yeah, this last one.
So this last one.
I mean I don't know if this isjust like a thing that I do or
what, but I just decided thatI'm an entrepreneur and that's
the belief that I adopted.
I think it's really important.
I think self-image work isreally important and if you're
(25:12):
going to take on the persona ofan entrepreneur, you have to
decide that that's what you areand there's no turning back,
sort of like your missionmindset.
It's just like I'm on a mission.
I decided this is what I'm doingand I'm doing it and that's the
type of person that I am.
That's served me very well andgiven me a lot of resilience in
(25:35):
my business, because, I mean,I'm at 10 years as an
entrepreneur at this point.
So it's just like I'm not goingback.
And I remember having thisconversation actually with my
10-year-old son.
He's only known me to be anentrepreneur and I was having a
moment, I feel like last spring,and he was like Mom, you're not
(25:57):
the type of person that wouldhave a job, you're not that type
of person.
And hearing that from him, Iwas just like, okay, yeah,
you're right.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
You're right.
Yeah, my persona to him isentrepreneur, working for myself
, and that is my persona.
That's the self-image that I'veadopted.
So I mean, easier said thandone, I think, and I was saying
this before we recorded it'seasy for me to say I'm just an
entrepreneur and that's whatI've decided.
(26:28):
But having that as part of yourneurology is pretty strong.
It's a pretty strong belief,and then to go against that it's
almost like you're giving up onyourself.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
Yeah, yeah, don't do that.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
That's how I would feel at this point if I was just
like oh, I'm going to pack itin.
No, I'm not going to give up onme.
My self-image that I've createdand I mean I'm not going to lie
it's been fueled by a littlebit of fire in my belly around,
just like past experiences inthe corporate world, and it just
(27:03):
didn't really work out for mein that realm.
So you know, there's part of methat really wants to prove that
I can do this.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
And I think that you know a lot of entrepreneurs
probably have that similar fire.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Yeah, I do know what you mean.
I think I'm due to kind ofpolish up my self image a little
bit.
I definitely have always hadthat kind of self image of being
an entrepreneur, which is why Isuffered so much when I was an
employee.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
But you know, a self image is more nuanced than that
right, and so I think it'ssomething we all should be
revisiting regularly, right?
Yes, and perhaps, like you know, you're more into the self
image scene than your old palRyan here, but maybe it's like
something that people should beformally revisiting once a year
(28:07):
or every six months.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Oh, 100%.
Yeah, Well, I'm running aworkshop February 2nd at noon
Eastern time.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Holy jumbun.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
That's called the confident coach had to create a
self image that screams leadervibes.
If self image work is somethingthat you're interested in, come
to my workshop.
But because I knew we weregoing to be talking about these
beliefs today, I, just for fun,like opened up an old journal
(28:38):
that I had and and it's February15th so it would have been last
year February 15th and likeI've got a journal where I write
my self image and I was readingthrough some of these I am
statements and I'm doing it likeit's it's all happening, you
(28:59):
know, and like this was my ownvisualization.
This is what I was creating.
So you can also create an imageof resiliency.
I think is you know, I agree,important to mention like
especially in this resiliencyepisode.
You can just like we weretalking about lead leader vibes
(29:20):
last week.
You can cultivate a person likeleadership personality, but you
can also cultivate a leadershippersonality that is very
resilient.
Speaker 3 (29:28):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
So, yeah, you certainly can and should 100%,
yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (29:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
I'm busy on that on February 2nd and 2pm.
So the second to the fourth.
I'm running a three day part ofhypnotherapy certification.
So everybody you know you gottwo choices on February 2nd you
can go to Atlanta banks is selfimage leader vibes workshop or
(30:00):
you can come to the first day ofmy three day Hypno
certification.
Like I said, it's an Americanboard of hypnotherapy
certification.
Just make sure you don't do iteither.
Make sure you come to one orthe other.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
Yeah, gotta do one or the other.
I mean mine will be recorded.
It's just a two hour workshop,12 till two.
Speaker 1 (30:21):
Yeah, oh, you know what I thought you said?
It started at 2pm, it starts atnoon, that's right.
Yeah, my training, I think,starts at 130.
So yeah, I mean I'm not sure ifthat's what I'm talking about.
Yeah, potentially a personcould do both.
If somebody tells me thatthey're going to your workshop
and they need to be 30 minuteslate for my class because they
want to do both.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
I'll give them permission to be 30 minutes.
Give them a pass.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
Yeah, I will.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
I will.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
Yeah, yeah, although it might be something to do
after the training, but I expectI'll run the workshop again,
but you know, if you areavailable, definitely I highly
recommend, highly recommend,working on your self image Did
(31:07):
you mention the investment forthe workshop oh, $197.
$197.
Speaker 3 (31:13):
Canadian or US, us, us dollars.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
Yeah, yeah, that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (31:17):
Cool yeah, cool, well worth it Well worth it.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
Yes, well worth it Okay.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
Cool, so yeah I guess that's it for today.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
Yeah, that's it.
Stay resilient.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
I still have a couple of spots in that hypnosis
training.
If anybody hears this in timeand yeah, they should they could
potentially hear this on Monday, so they'd still have.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Yeah, they'll hear it Monday.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
Days to enroll.
So, as of recording time, Istill have a couple of spots in
that, in that training, ifanyone wants to hop in, and if,
and any of you who passedgraduates of my three day
hypnosis training if you'relistening, remember you're
allowed to come back and redothe training as a refresher at
no cost, right, if you'vepreviously graduated from my
(32:00):
hypno training.
So come on back if you want tohang out.
Speaker 3 (32:03):
Yeah, I'm a grad right, yeah, and the banks?
Speaker 2 (32:07):
Be like 100 banks.
Take the training.
Cool, okay, awesome.
Speaker 1 (32:11):
Thank you, bye everyone.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Bye everyone.
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