January 14, 2024 • 32 mins
A candid discussion about activities we do that make us successful in business and life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey Ryan.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Hey, what's happening .
Speaker 1 (00:03):
I wanted to have kind of like a more personal episode
today.
Do you have marshmallows inthat coffee?
Oh no, ok, I do not.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
No, there are no marshmallows in my coffee,
unfortunately.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I thought you were drinking hot chocolate with
marshmallows for a second.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
No, it's a latte with espresso in.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
It Sounds lovely, yeah, anyway, as I was saying, I
thought it would be fun becausewe've been doing a lot of
episodes with lists andeverything and we're going to
have a list today.
But I wanted to get kind ofmore behind the scenes or have
more of a personal conversationaround the activities that you
(00:50):
and I do individually to uplevel our life and our business
and how we approach our ownentrepreneurial endeavors and
life, because it's all the same,really the end of the day.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Cool, that sounded very vague and abstract, so
we're going to talk about stuffwe do that makes us successful.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Yes, cool, exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
All right, I liked the way that you said it.
It was just there's a lot ofwords.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
I know, and that's just me, that's me.
I'm a very chunked up personand you're more chunked down,
which is why it's like a perfectmatch.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Now we have all the bases covered, like the
listeners who want that deepphilosophical understanding of
what we're talking about.
Got it, yeah.
And then the people who arelike what?
What is Atlanta talking aboutnow?
Stuff we do, that is good.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Yeah, stuff we do.
That makes us successful Goodstuff or that we think makes us
successful.
I don't know, maybe it doesn't,but it's stuff we like.
Yeah, stuff we like to do Cool.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
All right.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
So we've got six items, because I have three and
you have three.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
And so we're just going to go through those six
items randomly as we go.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Let's do it OK.
So let's start with AtlantaBanks.
What's one of the things you dothat has made you or you
believe makes you successful orthrive, or whatever?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Yeah Well, for me, my first one on the list, or the
very first thing I thought of,was an NLP breakthrough, and I
put this on my list, not becausethis is something that I do on
a regular basis, but in 2017, Iwas introduced to NLP and
hypnosis, and all because I hadput this article.
(02:53):
I was featured in this articlein Shadalane Magazine, where I
exposed my phobia of throwing up, which has a word which is
called a metaphobia, actuallyand I was at this kind of point
of desperation and the totalstranger reached out to me and
told me that I should go have anNLP breakthrough.
He didn't use those specificwords, but he was like go see
(03:15):
this person.
So I didn't really know what Iwas getting into.
And I had this almost four hoursession with an NLP
practitioner and it was likethere was life before that day
and then there's been life afterthat day and it totally changed
(03:38):
a lot of things for me, notnecessarily from a business
perspective, but just my life ingeneral completely changed.
It just opened my mind to somany new possibilities.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
And that was a huge up level.
And then that kind of led medown more of a path to changing
my career, because at that timeI had my online fabric store and
I kind of like changed it.
I don't know what it did, butit shook me out of wanting to
(04:12):
just do that and then wanting tohelp people the way I had been
helped.
So then I went further and Istudied NLP with you.
So I had another breakthroughthere and that's when I decided
I'm going to sell my fabricstore and I'm just going to do
this full time.
And then recently I had anotherNLP breakthrough and that's
when I went viral on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Boom yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
So for me the breakthrough is huge and I think
honestly everybody in the worldshould have at least experience
at once.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Because you don't have to have something wrong
with you.
You don't have to havesomething like I went
specifically because of mymetaphobia.
But even if I didn't have ametaphobia I would have
benefited from going.
That, for me, was just theinstigator.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Yeah, yeah, the breakthrough process definitely
huge, definitely something thatI have benefited from myself as
well and something I've taughtto people.
So, yeah, powerful, powerfulstuff.
I'll agree with you there.
It's like man how would youdescribe it in lay person's
(05:24):
terms, I don't know like adecade worth of therapy packed
into four hours.
Hours, five hours and differentbreakthroughs will be different
lengths, sort of the.
Some people do them in a 10hour process, some it's a single
longer session.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, yeah, I think the way I would describe it is
it really it takes kind of likehow you see the world and like
turns it on, turns it on itshead that's how I would describe
it Like it helps you look atwhat you're believing and what
you've always believed to betrue from a whole different
(06:04):
perspective.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Yeah, yeah, one of those things you really got to
experience it to trulyunderstand.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Yeah, it's so true, but I think that you know if
there's something that's notworking in your life or you're
feeling you have like a lot offeelings, or you know what I
mean that are maybe notappropriate, like anger or a lot
of sadness or a lot of fearwhich was my thing, I had a ton
(06:36):
of fear and anxiety like you,will 100% benefit from going
through the break throughprocess, because it really kind
of like pulls apart thosefeelings and the beliefs that
are associated with thosefeelings to the point where
you're like, oh well, it doesn'treally matter that much.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Yeah, yeah, beautiful , all right.
Yeah, that's a good one, that'skind of a good explanation.
Been a game changer for you.
It's been a game changer for me.
I know a lot of people who havehad NLP breakthroughs.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Yeah, Game changer yeah same yeah Cool.
All right, all right.
So what's your number one?
The?
Speaker 2 (07:21):
mine is a totally different vibe.
Over here.
I call it routine iteration.
One thing that I do that I havefound has really helped me to
be consistent in beingsuccessful, and just consistent
in being consistent is what Icall routine iteration, and what
(07:45):
that means is I try to alwayshave a daily list of things to
do.
That I know if I do these fouror five things or six or seven
things, whatever it is, howevermany on my list each day,
particularly in business, butsome of them are not business
related.
Sometimes I know if I do all ofthese things every day, then
(08:08):
I'm doing good work and I'mgrowing my business or I'm
excelling or I'm moving forwardin life.
And the reason I say iterationis because this list is very
much a dynamic list that I'mconstantly evaluating and
reevaluating and eliminatingthings and or adding new things
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or reordering it or addinglittle caveats.
And it's a simple list.
But just having that as sort of, as one of my coaches said,
having this as like a North Star, like you wake up, you don't
have to think too hard off thebat because you know you've got
this little list and each lineis only two or three words and
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worst case scenario.
If all you do is most of thestuff on that list, even not
even all of it, you've had agood productive day, and so it's
easier said than done.
This is one of the things thatI share with my clients and my
coaching program, but it canmake a world of difference.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
How productive a person is.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Yeah, and it gives you a lot of clarity in terms of
like it's not like you're everwaking up and wondering, like,
what am I going to do today?
Yeah, and some days it might bedifferent than others, but like
, that's just sort of like howyou operate.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
It's like your manual .
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Yeah, your daily manual, I call it routine
iteration, because it really islike if you're listening to this
and you're thinking, oh, Ishould do that, you really got
to remember to continuallyreevaluate this list to make
sure it's reflecting your needsand where you are and where
you're going.
You can't just like, make itand forget it and expect to do
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the same six things every dayfor the rest of your life.
It really needs to grow withyou.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Yeah, so like, just so the listeners can like
visualize this, like for likeone or two things that are on
your list, like what would thoselook like?
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Let me pull up my list and I have it in my Apple
Notes as an actual.
Like checklist and Apple Notesyou can make it have a list of
Little bubbles yeah.
Bubbles you can check anduncheck.
So the first thing on my listis to update my business
tracking spreadsheet.
So I have a little spreadsheetin Google Sheets where I track
(10:27):
how many members I have in mytwo memberships, how many
contacts I have on my newsletterlist, how many people are in my
Facebook group, how manyfollowers I have on Instagram.
You know a bunch of like reallysimple to track metrics, right.
So I try to do that every day,yeah, in the morning.
And then you know anothersimple one is just to clear my
(10:51):
social media inboxes To makesure, go through any messages
that's unread, to either give ita response, delete it if it
doesn't require a response, orwhatever leave it or action it
or whatever.
Right, those are a couple andit's just.
It's just simple stuff.
(11:12):
Yeah, I like that.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Cool.
I like, it All right and feelfree everyone to adopt these,
these activities.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
No, they're just hours.
They're hours.
They can't have them.
Don't take my activities.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
All right, so my, so this is number three.
I guess my number two is for me, self-image work has been like
a total game changer and this islike this is like my medium
level.
I want to say Like this isn'tsomething that I'm like focused
on necessarily every day, butwhen I decided to go full time
(11:53):
with coaching, I signed up forlike a pretty high ticket
coaching program.
That seemed a bit out of reachfor me.
Like being part of this groupmade me nervous because I
thought all the women that werein this group were like way
better than me and were makingmore money than me and all this
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stuff.
And I learned in this group, oh, that self-image work, and I
also learned that these womenwere dealing with the exact same
problems that I was dealingwith and that really was helpful
to me to recognize that, like,even though I was really looking
up to these people and thoughtthat I shouldn't even be in this
group, it was very confidenceboosting to know that, like we
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were all dealing with the exactsame problems, just different,
right.
And so self-image work for mewas just like deciding what type
of person I want to be, whattype of coach I want to be, what
type of mom I want to be, whattype of like partner I want to
be, what type of friend I wantto be and I do this with my
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clients as well, and it just itkind of.
It's kind of like your list,right.
It gives you clarity in termsof like, who am I being in this
world?
How am I showing up?
How am I showing up online?
How am I showing up with work?
How am I showing up with mypersonal life?
So that's been a big gamechanger for me and that's kind
of also how this podcast started, cause I decided I was going to
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be the person who followedthrough on intuitive nudges.
That was like part of myself-image sort of list.
And then I got the intuitivenudge to start this podcast and
ask you to do it together.
And I just did it Cause that'swho I was, that's who I decided
I was going to be, you know.
So it just makes likenavigating life so much easier.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
Yeah, yeah Cool.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Yeah, so self-image work.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
How's the image work?
Is that, is the recording ofyour self-image workshop still
available anywhere?
Speaker 1 (14:00):
It's in, I think, one of your program.
It's in your elite coachingprogram.
Oh yeah, I believe so.
Henquity is in that I've beenthrough the role right now.
But yeah, I do have itsomewhere.
I have it.
I can like send it.
If somebody wants it, they canjust ask me for it.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
It's kind of a little town.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
I'm actually.
You know what that's.
I'm not going to send it outbecause I'm going to be running
a workshop in the next, at leastthe next three months.
That will be self-image work,but it's going to be mostly
focused around like becoming theCEO of your business.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Cool.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Yeah, so look out for that, cause that will be coming
.
I'm doing a big planningsession tomorrow, so I don't
know when anything's happeningyet but I will tomorrow, but
coming nonetheless, okay Cool.
Love it.
Had to step into your CEO image.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
All right yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Yeah, I'm excited for that.
It's going to be cool.
There will be like hypnosisinvolved and like visualizations
and LP stuff.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Plus just the good old self-image.
How to?
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Yeah, cool, love it All.
Right, let's go.
We're good with that one.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Yeah, I think we're good with that one, unless you
have questions.
That, yeah, I do.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
I don't ask my question, okay, okay, so next on
my side is what I would callmission mindset.
So talk about this a lot in mymission and movement Facebook
group, which is a free group youcan join, by the way but the
mission mindset, which issomething I adopted when I was
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in the military, and it is thismindset that, like when you have
a mission, there are very fewthings that would or should
cause you to deviate from yourmission.
The mission becomes veryimportant.
You fixate your attention on itand it is your goal to
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accomplish a mission, basicallyat any expense.
And so this is something thatand I talk about with my clients
and with my students why Ithink former soldiers tend to do
better than average asentrepreneurs and business
owners.
In my opinion, and I think thisis one of the big reasons
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because of that mission mindset,adopting that mission mindset.
So it's definitely somethingI've adopted in my life and
basically it just allows me tosay stay focused and stay on
track and face challenges inbusiness and continue to
persevere and move forward,which is vital if you wanna be
successful as an entrepreneur,as a coach, as a hypnotherapist,
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whatever.
You need to be able topersevere and fixate your
attention on your goal and notbe easily taken off track or off
route by every little bump inthe road.
Right yeah, you think about asoldier.
The mission is to get to theobjective, to the target.
Doesn't matter if the bridge isout, doesn't matter if mom and
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dad says your little coachingbusiness is silly.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
Doesn't matter, none of this stuff matters.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
I got a mission.
That's all that matters.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Yeah, I like that.
It's interesting because Iwatched something the other day
that was kind of talking aboutthis and it was talking about
the entrepreneurial mindset andanyone can become an
entrepreneur, but thisparticular person was talking
about how, if you have,typically entrepreneurs have
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come from a childhood orbackground who is maybe a little
bit more volatile and wherethey not necessarily had to be
in survival mode but maybe theymoved around a lot or maybe they
didn't have a typicalupbringing where they had to
become more resourceful or theyhad to be really focused on just
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getting through the next thing,those tend to be people who
become entrepreneurs becausethat actually feels really
comfortable and safe for them.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
So that's like I think when you're an
entrepreneur, that missionmindset is just sort of like
this.
It's almost like an obsessivedirection towards a goal,
because I definitely have that.
It's not that I like movedaround a lot or anything as a
kid, but like I've always beenand I noticed this in one of my
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kids as well Like he just getsan idea and he's like a dog with
a bone, like he won't stopuntil he's like figured it out.
And I can be like that too, andI think a lot of entrepreneurs
have that sort of missionmindset and if you don't have it
, it's like a good thing to knowabout.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
It's like a good thing to know that you're
focused and it keeps you awayfrom all the negative nullies
who are out there.
Being like this is never goingto work.
You should go and get a regularjob, or?
Why are you still doing that?
Well, it's because you want tolike.
It's like a drug, almost.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Oh, it's like a drug Wow.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Yeah, like the mission mindset is almost like a
drug, yeah, like I had myfabric store.
Like every time I got a sale itwas like a hit, like I was like
, yes, and then get another one,and another one, and it's just
like I want more right.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Yeah, that the dopamine fix or whatever it is,
yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Cool, so so yeah, so that is some mindset.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
That's obviously served us well.
I hope that it will serve youwell if you choose to adopt it
Also.
Listeners yeah, okay, cool, allright.
So the last one, from AlanaBanks.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
Last one.
For me so this is somethingthat I just this is sort of like
my number one.
I would say it's just likesomething that I do every day to
keep my mind clear, to keepmyself focused, to keep myself
like in the game is hypnosis, orthe tools that I use and teach
to my clients.
So for me that's hypnosis.
(20:32):
Like I listen to hypnosisalmost every single day, either
right first thing in the morning, like as soon as I wake up, I
literally grab my phone and putmy earbuds in and I listen to a
hypnosis.
That's my favorite time,because I find at the end of the
day I'm too tired and I fallasleep.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Yeah Cool.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
So I'll listen depending on like what I'm
focusing on in the moment, orlike how I'm feeling or where my
mindset is at.
I have like a few that I liketo choose from.
Right now, for example, I'mlistening to a prosperity
hypnosis.
That is really great and I justshared it, actually, with all
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of the people in the AscensionCircle.
So, you want that?
Join the Ascension Circle.
You get little free things likethis and, honestly, every time
I listen to this hypnosis I geta new client.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Wow, yeah, wow.
Can you send that over to me?
Speaker 1 (21:27):
Yes, thank you, thank you, thank you.
What is it called?
I'm calling it a prosperityhypnosis.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
How long is it?
Speaker 1 (21:39):
It's 16 minutes 16.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Oh, it's time to welcome prosperity in their life
.
It's going to take 16 minutes,jeez.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Yeah, send that to me Okay.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Yeah, that's a good one, right Like visualization,
self-hypnosis.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Yeah, everybody should do that.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
Yeah, right.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
It's.
So it is honestly the mostpowerful thing you could do,
yeah, every day, is just listento hypnosis.
I had one for a while that Iwas listening to.
That was just around just beingme and being my authentic self
I hate that term, but justreally stepping into my own
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uniqueness and that reallyhelped up level me and my
messaging and just showing upthe way I wanted to show up and
being confident about who I amand not trying to be like other
coaches out there.
Yeah, and you can make theseyourself.
Some of the ones I listen to, Ijust go into cracked open and
I'll listen to.
(22:48):
I think I have one in therearound getting calm or if I'm
feeling very stressed out orsomething like I'll listen to
that one.
I listen to my own recordedhypnosis.
Is that weird?
No, it's not yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
That can be very effective.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
Yeah, I mean, your subconscious mind loves the
sound of your own voice.
So I mean, obviously it doesn'thave to be you, you don't have
to record them, and sometimes Ijust go on YouTube or I'll go on
Spotify and type in like whatI'm looking for specifically.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Yeah, cool yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Use your tools.
If you're a hypnotherapist,hypnotize yourself every day.
It works yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
It really is.
It's good for you.
I have a hypnosis circ weekendcoming up, oh good.
I'm doing one in Feb.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Oh, you are yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
February 2 to 4.
So it's a hypnotherapycertification, but it's also the
best way to learn self-hypnosistoo.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
That's actually another workshop that I'm going
to be doing this year.
Hypnosis yeah Cool.
I don't know when or like howmuch it's going to be or
anything yet, but it's coming.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah, it'll after tomorrow, after planning day.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
After tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
All those details, yeah Cool, all right, that's
another one we agree on,obviously.
Okay, are we ready for the lastone?
Speaker 1 (24:16):
Yeah, the finale.
What is it?
Speaker 2 (24:19):
It's what I call forcing logic.
One thing, that one practicethat I'll have for myself to
move myself forward is calledforcing logic, and what this is
is when I notice that I'mletting sort of the way I feel
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or my emotions, or even justlike sometimes it's my intuition
I'm letting it take too muchcontrol, letting these things
take too much control.
Where there's something likeit's like you know, where
there's something like it's likeI'm feeling stuckness or I'm
feeling resistance and it's likeI know I need to be taking
action, I'm not.
I'll like, literally like pickup control of myself and just
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hand it to like the logical partof my mind and be like just do
what you know you must be doingright now, regardless of how you
feel and I actually had to dothat today, or something I had
to do, this particular task inmy business.
I was feeling all thisresistance around it because
it's something I haven't done ina while and like and I just had
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to be like okay, let's just,but everything else on hold,
what do I logically know I mustdo?
Can I do it right now?
Yes, okay, it's happening.
I call it forcing logic when Ineed to guide myself through
that process and when I learnedthis, I actually learned this
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back way before I had the levelof emotional regularity that I
have now, way before I learnedNLP and had my first NLP
breakthrough.
And I still younger me wasstill like I have problems with
anxiety and a lot of emotionsthat really were not serving me,
and it became a matter ofnecessity to ignore those
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emotions and just let my logicalmind take control every now and
then, because the emotions werejust wrong.
Right, the emotions were sayingstay in bed all day and don't
talk to anybody and like give up.
Right, so clearly that was notgoing to be helpful, right, so I
had to force the logical partof my mind to be like, no, maybe
you should like go to work andeat and seek help for these
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challenges you're having.
And so even now that I'm verygrateful to say I've learned
about, like I said, emotionalregularity and clearing out
unresolved problems in theunconscious mind and challenges,
still like I'm human.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Of course, every now and then.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
I have these feelings , these resistances that are not
serving me.
It's a really cool ability tobe able to be like okay, let me
put that on hold for a minuteand just like do the job, do the
task.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Yeah, super important .
I think we can all like abenefit from forcing logic
sometimes because, like you gotto get stuff done.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
Right and sometimes you don't want to do the stuff
that you got to do, but you gotto do it.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
Yeah, and then it takes a lot of strength.
Yeah, it takes.
Yeah, it's like easier saidthan done, forcing logic.
It's like a lot of times it'soutside of our conscious
awareness that our emotions aredriving our behavior.
So right, like we just we'rejust going with the flow and our
emotions are driving us to staystill.
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You know, in a lot of cases youkind of have to have that
ability to like snap out of it,dissociate from what's happening
and be like wait a minute, likeI got stuff to do.
I know what I need to do.
Why am I not doing it Right?
Speaker 1 (28:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Um, that's another skill, that's another fun life
skill to have.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Yeah, yeah Nice, and especially for this time of year
too, because like I heardrecently that like I think this
time of January is wheneverybody is sort of give has,
like kind of given up, oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
It's like blue, blue January or blue yeah, it's like
blue Monday, I think.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Blue Monday 2024.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Yeah, I think that's coming.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
I think actually it'll be the day this releases.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
Uh-oh, is it yeah, blue Monday 2024.
So blue Monday is typicallyobserved on the third Monday in
January.
So in 2024, it's January 15th,so yeah, which will be Monday,
the day this comes out.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
So, according to this random website, that I just
discovered blue.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
Monday is a day to acknowledge and address feelings
of sadness that someindividuals may experience,
especially during winter months.
It serves as a reminder toprioritize mental health.
Okay, so people have kind ofreframed that Blue Monday to be
a mental health awareness day,which I think is a great idea.
The concept of blue Monday wasfirst introduced in 2005 as part
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of a marketing campaign for atravel company.
What the formula used tocalculate the date takes into
account various factors such asweather, debt, time since
Christmas, et cetera.
The scientific validity of blueMonday has been questioned, but
I think a lot of people kind ofhave that experience Like the
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holidays are over, we're in themiddle of winter, the weather
sucks.
Yeah, you've probably droppedthe ball on your worst year Just
giving up on your New Year'sresolution, right, yeah, or
whatever, yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
So if that's the case , then focus on this forcing
logic and just be like you know.
Okay, so what?
I didn't make it to the gymthis week, but I can go today.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
Right, cool, cool.
I think this was a great littleinside scoop into how we live
our lives, yeah.
How we stay motivated how we'vecontinued to keep it up and up
level.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
Really good tidbits in there, for sure, yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
So I hope everyone enjoyed that.
If you did, let us know byreviewing the podcast on Spotify
or on Apple Podcasts or evenjust rating it, just giving us
the like five stars.
You don't even have to writeanything.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
No.
Speaker 1 (30:50):
I want them to write something.
That's extra work for somepeople.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
I mean, if you're not going to rate us at all because
we're not going to rate youbecause I want you to write
something, then, yeah, justleave five stars and don't write
anything.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:05):
If it's all the same audience and you rate five stars
and you get that little commentbox there put like Ryan's hair
or like Alana's vibe or whatever.
Nice.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
I like it and this is , I think, where are we at?
I just wanted to check herebecause, like I'm like gunning
for 100 episodes, like I'm superexcited but I don't know where
are they right now.
Here we go.
Okay, so this is episode 88.
So 12 more episodes and we'reat 100.
Cool yeah Wow we're gettingclose, I know Real close.
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And then we also have to decidetoo is this the end of season
four, and are we starting a newseason?
Speaker 2 (31:52):
Yeah, yeah, we got a start, all right, yeah, we'll
figure that out.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
Yeah, all right.
Well, that's it.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
Bye everyone.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
Bye.
Hey Ryan.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Hey, what's happening .
Speaker 1 (00:03):
I wanted to have kind of like a more personal episode
today.
Do you have marshmallows inthat coffee?
Oh no, ok, I do not.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
No, there are no marshmallows in my coffee,
unfortunately.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I thought you were drinking hot chocolate with
marshmallows for a second.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
No, it's a latte with espresso in.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
It Sounds lovely, yeah, anyway, as I was saying, I
thought it would be fun becausewe've been doing a lot of
episodes with lists andeverything and we're going to
have a list today.
But I wanted to get kind ofmore behind the scenes or have
more of a personal conversationaround the activities that you
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and I do individually to uplevel our life and our business
and how we approach our ownentrepreneurial endeavors and
life, because it's all the same,really the end of the day.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Cool, that sounded very vague and abstract, so
we're going to talk about stuffwe do that makes us successful.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Yes, cool, exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
All right, I liked the way that you said it.
It was just there's a lot ofwords.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
I know, and that's just me, that's me.
I'm a very chunked up personand you're more chunked down,
which is why it's like a perfectmatch.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Now we have all the bases covered, like the
listeners who want that deepphilosophical understanding of
what we're talking about.
Got it, yeah.
And then the people who arelike what?
What is Atlanta talking aboutnow?
Stuff we do, that is good.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Yeah, stuff we do.
That makes us successful Goodstuff or that we think makes us
successful.
I don't know, maybe it doesn't,but it's stuff we like.
Yeah, stuff we like to do Cool.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
All right.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
So we've got six items, because I have three and
you have three.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
And so we're just going to go through those six
items randomly as we go.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Let's do it OK.
So let's start with AtlantaBanks.
What's one of the things you dothat has made you or you
believe makes you successful orthrive, or whatever?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Yeah Well, for me, my first one on the list, or the
very first thing I thought of,was an NLP breakthrough, and I
put this on my list, not becausethis is something that I do on
a regular basis, but in 2017, Iwas introduced to NLP and
hypnosis, and all because I hadput this article.
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I was featured in this articlein Shadalane Magazine, where I
exposed my phobia of throwing up, which has a word which is
called a metaphobia, actuallyand I was at this kind of point
of desperation and the totalstranger reached out to me and
told me that I should go have anNLP breakthrough.
He didn't use those specificwords, but he was like go see
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this person.
So I didn't really know what Iwas getting into.
And I had this almost four hoursession with an NLP
practitioner and it was likethere was life before that day
and then there's been life afterthat day and it totally changed
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a lot of things for me, notnecessarily from a business
perspective, but just my life ingeneral completely changed.
It just opened my mind to somany new possibilities.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
And that was a huge up level.
And then that kind of led medown more of a path to changing
my career, because at that timeI had my online fabric store and
I kind of like changed it.
I don't know what it did, butit shook me out of wanting to
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just do that and then wanting tohelp people the way I had been
helped.
So then I went further and Istudied NLP with you.
So I had another breakthroughthere and that's when I decided
I'm going to sell my fabricstore and I'm just going to do
this full time.
And then recently I had anotherNLP breakthrough and that's
when I went viral on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Boom yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
So for me the breakthrough is huge and I think
honestly everybody in the worldshould have at least experience
at once.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Because you don't have to have something wrong
with you.
You don't have to havesomething like I went
specifically because of mymetaphobia.
But even if I didn't have ametaphobia I would have
benefited from going.
That, for me, was just theinstigator.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Yeah, yeah, the breakthrough process definitely
huge, definitely something thatI have benefited from myself as
well and something I've taughtto people.
So, yeah, powerful, powerfulstuff.
I'll agree with you there.
It's like man how would youdescribe it in lay person's
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terms, I don't know like adecade worth of therapy packed
into four hours.
Hours, five hours and differentbreakthroughs will be different
lengths, sort of the.
Some people do them in a 10hour process, some it's a single
longer session.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, yeah, I think the way I would describe it is
it really it takes kind of likehow you see the world and like
turns it on, turns it on itshead that's how I would describe
it Like it helps you look atwhat you're believing and what
you've always believed to betrue from a whole different
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perspective.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Yeah, yeah, one of those things you really got to
experience it to trulyunderstand.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Yeah, it's so true, but I think that you know if
there's something that's notworking in your life or you're
feeling you have like a lot offeelings, or you know what I
mean that are maybe notappropriate, like anger or a lot
of sadness or a lot of fearwhich was my thing, I had a ton
(06:36):
of fear and anxiety like you,will 100% benefit from going
through the break throughprocess, because it really kind
of like pulls apart thosefeelings and the beliefs that
are associated with thosefeelings to the point where
you're like, oh well, it doesn'treally matter that much.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Yeah, yeah, beautiful , all right.
Yeah, that's a good one, that'skind of a good explanation.
Been a game changer for you.
It's been a game changer for me.
I know a lot of people who havehad NLP breakthroughs.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Yeah, Game changer yeah same yeah Cool.
All right, all right.
So what's your number one?
The?
Speaker 2 (07:21):
mine is a totally different vibe.
Over here.
I call it routine iteration.
One thing that I do that I havefound has really helped me to
be consistent in beingsuccessful, and just consistent
in being consistent is what Icall routine iteration, and what
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that means is I try to alwayshave a daily list of things to
do.
That I know if I do these fouror five things or six or seven
things, whatever it is, howevermany on my list each day,
particularly in business, butsome of them are not business
related.
Sometimes I know if I do all ofthese things every day, then
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I'm doing good work and I'mgrowing my business or I'm
excelling or I'm moving forwardin life.
And the reason I say iterationis because this list is very
much a dynamic list that I'mconstantly evaluating and
reevaluating and eliminatingthings and or adding new things
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or reordering it or addinglittle caveats.
And it's a simple list.
But just having that as sort of, as one of my coaches said,
having this as like a North Star, like you wake up, you don't
have to think too hard off thebat because you know you've got
this little list and each lineis only two or three words and
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worst case scenario.
If all you do is most of thestuff on that list, even not
even all of it, you've had agood productive day, and so it's
easier said than done.
This is one of the things thatI share with my clients and my
coaching program, but it canmake a world of difference.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
How productive a person is.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Yeah, and it gives you a lot of clarity in terms of
like it's not like you're everwaking up and wondering, like,
what am I going to do today?
Yeah, and some days it might bedifferent than others, but like
, that's just sort of like howyou operate.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
It's like your manual .
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Yeah, your daily manual, I call it routine
iteration, because it really islike if you're listening to this
and you're thinking, oh, Ishould do that, you really got
to remember to continuallyreevaluate this list to make
sure it's reflecting your needsand where you are and where
you're going.
You can't just like, make itand forget it and expect to do
(09:55):
the same six things every dayfor the rest of your life.
It really needs to grow withyou.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Yeah, so like, just so the listeners can like
visualize this, like for likeone or two things that are on
your list, like what would thoselook like?
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Let me pull up my list and I have it in my Apple
Notes as an actual.
Like checklist and Apple Notesyou can make it have a list of
Little bubbles yeah.
Bubbles you can check anduncheck.
So the first thing on my listis to update my business
tracking spreadsheet.
So I have a little spreadsheetin Google Sheets where I track
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how many members I have in mytwo memberships, how many
contacts I have on my newsletterlist, how many people are in my
Facebook group, how manyfollowers I have on Instagram.
You know a bunch of like reallysimple to track metrics, right.
So I try to do that every day,yeah, in the morning.
And then you know anothersimple one is just to clear my
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social media inboxes To makesure, go through any messages
that's unread, to either give ita response, delete it if it
doesn't require a response, orwhatever leave it or action it
or whatever.
Right, those are a couple andit's just.
It's just simple stuff.
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Yeah, I like that.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Cool.
I like, it All right and feelfree everyone to adopt these,
these activities.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
No, they're just hours.
They're hours.
They can't have them.
Don't take my activities.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
All right, so my, so this is number three.
I guess my number two is for me, self-image work has been like
a total game changer and this islike this is like my medium
level.
I want to say Like this isn'tsomething that I'm like focused
on necessarily every day, butwhen I decided to go full time
(11:53):
with coaching, I signed up forlike a pretty high ticket
coaching program.
That seemed a bit out of reachfor me.
Like being part of this groupmade me nervous because I
thought all the women that werein this group were like way
better than me and were makingmore money than me and all this
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stuff.
And I learned in this group, oh, that self-image work, and I
also learned that these womenwere dealing with the exact same
problems that I was dealingwith and that really was helpful
to me to recognize that, like,even though I was really looking
up to these people and thoughtthat I shouldn't even be in this
group, it was very confidenceboosting to know that, like we
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were all dealing with the exactsame problems, just different,
right.
And so self-image work for mewas just like deciding what type
of person I want to be, whattype of coach I want to be, what
type of mom I want to be, whattype of like partner I want to
be, what type of friend I wantto be and I do this with my
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clients as well, and it just itkind of.
It's kind of like your list,right.
It gives you clarity in termsof like, who am I being in this
world?
How am I showing up?
How am I showing up online?
How am I showing up with work?
How am I showing up with mypersonal life?
So that's been a big gamechanger for me and that's kind
of also how this podcast started, cause I decided I was going to
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be the person who followedthrough on intuitive nudges.
That was like part of myself-image sort of list.
And then I got the intuitivenudge to start this podcast and
ask you to do it together.
And I just did it Cause that'swho I was, that's who I decided
I was going to be, you know.
So it just makes likenavigating life so much easier.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
Yeah, yeah Cool.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Yeah, so self-image work.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
How's the image work?
Is that, is the recording ofyour self-image workshop still
available anywhere?
Speaker 1 (14:00):
It's in, I think, one of your program.
It's in your elite coachingprogram.
Oh yeah, I believe so.
Henquity is in that I've beenthrough the role right now.
But yeah, I do have itsomewhere.
I have it.
I can like send it.
If somebody wants it, they canjust ask me for it.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
It's kind of a little town.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
I'm actually.
You know what that's.
I'm not going to send it outbecause I'm going to be running
a workshop in the next, at leastthe next three months.
That will be self-image work,but it's going to be mostly
focused around like becoming theCEO of your business.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Cool.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Yeah, so look out for that, cause that will be coming
.
I'm doing a big planningsession tomorrow, so I don't
know when anything's happeningyet but I will tomorrow, but
coming nonetheless, okay Cool.
Love it.
Had to step into your CEO image.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
All right yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Yeah, I'm excited for that.
It's going to be cool.
There will be like hypnosisinvolved and like visualizations
and LP stuff.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Plus just the good old self-image.
How to?
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Yeah, cool, love it All.
Right, let's go.
We're good with that one.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Yeah, I think we're good with that one, unless you
have questions.
That, yeah, I do.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
I don't ask my question, okay, okay, so next on
my side is what I would callmission mindset.
So talk about this a lot in mymission and movement Facebook
group, which is a free group youcan join, by the way but the
mission mindset, which issomething I adopted when I was
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in the military, and it is thismindset that, like when you have
a mission, there are very fewthings that would or should
cause you to deviate from yourmission.
The mission becomes veryimportant.
You fixate your attention on itand it is your goal to
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accomplish a mission, basicallyat any expense.
And so this is something thatand I talk about with my clients
and with my students why Ithink former soldiers tend to do
better than average asentrepreneurs and business
owners.
In my opinion, and I think thisis one of the big reasons
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because of that mission mindset,adopting that mission mindset.
So it's definitely somethingI've adopted in my life and
basically it just allows me tosay stay focused and stay on
track and face challenges inbusiness and continue to
persevere and move forward,which is vital if you wanna be
successful as an entrepreneur,as a coach, as a hypnotherapist,
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whatever.
You need to be able topersevere and fixate your
attention on your goal and notbe easily taken off track or off
route by every little bump inthe road.
Right yeah, you think about asoldier.
The mission is to get to theobjective, to the target.
Doesn't matter if the bridge isout, doesn't matter if mom and
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dad says your little coachingbusiness is silly.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
Doesn't matter, none of this stuff matters.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
I got a mission.
That's all that matters.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Yeah, I like that.
It's interesting because Iwatched something the other day
that was kind of talking aboutthis and it was talking about
the entrepreneurial mindset andanyone can become an
entrepreneur, but thisparticular person was talking
about how, if you have,typically entrepreneurs have
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come from a childhood orbackground who is maybe a little
bit more volatile and wherethey not necessarily had to be
in survival mode but maybe theymoved around a lot or maybe they
didn't have a typicalupbringing where they had to
become more resourceful or theyhad to be really focused on just
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getting through the next thing,those tend to be people who
become entrepreneurs becausethat actually feels really
comfortable and safe for them.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
So that's like I think when you're an
entrepreneur, that missionmindset is just sort of like
this.
It's almost like an obsessivedirection towards a goal,
because I definitely have that.
It's not that I like movedaround a lot or anything as a
kid, but like I've always beenand I noticed this in one of my
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kids as well Like he just getsan idea and he's like a dog with
a bone, like he won't stopuntil he's like figured it out.
And I can be like that too, andI think a lot of entrepreneurs
have that sort of missionmindset and if you don't have it
, it's like a good thing to knowabout.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
It's like a good thing to know that you're
focused and it keeps you awayfrom all the negative nullies
who are out there.
Being like this is never goingto work.
You should go and get a regularjob, or?
Why are you still doing that?
Well, it's because you want tolike.
It's like a drug, almost.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Oh, it's like a drug Wow.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Yeah, like the mission mindset is almost like a
drug, yeah, like I had myfabric store.
Like every time I got a sale itwas like a hit, like I was like
, yes, and then get another one,and another one, and it's just
like I want more right.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Yeah, that the dopamine fix or whatever it is,
yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Cool, so so yeah, so that is some mindset.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
That's obviously served us well.
I hope that it will serve youwell if you choose to adopt it
Also.
Listeners yeah, okay, cool, allright.
So the last one, from AlanaBanks.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
Last one.
For me so this is somethingthat I just this is sort of like
my number one.
I would say it's just likesomething that I do every day to
keep my mind clear, to keepmyself focused, to keep myself
like in the game is hypnosis, orthe tools that I use and teach
to my clients.
So for me that's hypnosis.
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Like I listen to hypnosisalmost every single day, either
right first thing in the morning, like as soon as I wake up, I
literally grab my phone and putmy earbuds in and I listen to a
hypnosis.
That's my favorite time,because I find at the end of the
day I'm too tired and I fallasleep.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Yeah Cool.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
So I'll listen depending on like what I'm
focusing on in the moment, orlike how I'm feeling or where my
mindset is at.
I have like a few that I liketo choose from.
Right now, for example, I'mlistening to a prosperity
hypnosis.
That is really great and I justshared it, actually, with all
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of the people in the AscensionCircle.
So, you want that?
Join the Ascension Circle.
You get little free things likethis and, honestly, every time
I listen to this hypnosis I geta new client.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Wow, yeah, wow.
Can you send that over to me?
Speaker 1 (21:27):
Yes, thank you, thank you, thank you.
What is it called?
I'm calling it a prosperityhypnosis.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
How long is it?
Speaker 1 (21:39):
It's 16 minutes 16.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Oh, it's time to welcome prosperity in their life
.
It's going to take 16 minutes,jeez.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Yeah, send that to me Okay.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Yeah, that's a good one, right Like visualization,
self-hypnosis.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Yeah, everybody should do that.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
Yeah, right.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
It's.
So it is honestly the mostpowerful thing you could do,
yeah, every day, is just listento hypnosis.
I had one for a while that Iwas listening to.
That was just around just beingme and being my authentic self
I hate that term, but justreally stepping into my own
(22:27):
uniqueness and that reallyhelped up level me and my
messaging and just showing upthe way I wanted to show up and
being confident about who I amand not trying to be like other
coaches out there.
Yeah, and you can make theseyourself.
Some of the ones I listen to, Ijust go into cracked open and
I'll listen to.
(22:48):
I think I have one in therearound getting calm or if I'm
feeling very stressed out orsomething like I'll listen to
that one.
I listen to my own recordedhypnosis.
Is that weird?
No, it's not yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
That can be very effective.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
Yeah, I mean, your subconscious mind loves the
sound of your own voice.
So I mean, obviously it doesn'thave to be you, you don't have
to record them, and sometimes Ijust go on YouTube or I'll go on
Spotify and type in like whatI'm looking for specifically.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Yeah, cool yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Use your tools.
If you're a hypnotherapist,hypnotize yourself every day.
It works yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
It really is.
It's good for you.
I have a hypnosis circ weekendcoming up, oh good.
I'm doing one in Feb.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Oh, you are yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
February 2 to 4.
So it's a hypnotherapycertification, but it's also the
best way to learn self-hypnosistoo.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
That's actually another workshop that I'm going
to be doing this year.
Hypnosis yeah Cool.
I don't know when or like howmuch it's going to be or
anything yet, but it's coming.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah, it'll after tomorrow, after planning day.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
After tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
All those details, yeah Cool, all right, that's
another one we agree on,obviously.
Okay, are we ready for the lastone?
Speaker 1 (24:16):
Yeah, the finale.
What is it?
Speaker 2 (24:19):
It's what I call forcing logic.
One thing, that one practicethat I'll have for myself to
move myself forward is calledforcing logic, and what this is
is when I notice that I'mletting sort of the way I feel
(24:41):
or my emotions, or even justlike sometimes it's my intuition
I'm letting it take too muchcontrol, letting these things
take too much control.
Where there's something likeit's like you know, where
there's something like it's likeI'm feeling stuckness or I'm
feeling resistance and it's likeI know I need to be taking
action, I'm not.
I'll like, literally like pickup control of myself and just
(25:05):
hand it to like the logical partof my mind and be like just do
what you know you must be doingright now, regardless of how you
feel and I actually had to dothat today, or something I had
to do, this particular task inmy business.
I was feeling all thisresistance around it because
it's something I haven't done ina while and like and I just had
(25:27):
to be like okay, let's just,but everything else on hold,
what do I logically know I mustdo?
Can I do it right now?
Yes, okay, it's happening.
I call it forcing logic when Ineed to guide myself through
that process and when I learnedthis, I actually learned this
(25:51):
back way before I had the levelof emotional regularity that I
have now, way before I learnedNLP and had my first NLP
breakthrough.
And I still younger me wasstill like I have problems with
anxiety and a lot of emotionsthat really were not serving me,
and it became a matter ofnecessity to ignore those
(26:17):
emotions and just let my logicalmind take control every now and
then, because the emotions werejust wrong.
Right, the emotions were sayingstay in bed all day and don't
talk to anybody and like give up.
Right, so clearly that was notgoing to be helpful, right, so I
had to force the logical partof my mind to be like, no, maybe
you should like go to work andeat and seek help for these
(26:40):
challenges you're having.
And so even now that I'm verygrateful to say I've learned
about, like I said, emotionalregularity and clearing out
unresolved problems in theunconscious mind and challenges,
still like I'm human.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Of course, every now and then.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
I have these feelings , these resistances that are not
serving me.
It's a really cool ability tobe able to be like okay, let me
put that on hold for a minuteand just like do the job, do the
task.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Yeah, super important .
I think we can all like abenefit from forcing logic
sometimes because, like you gotto get stuff done.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
Right and sometimes you don't want to do the stuff
that you got to do, but you gotto do it.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
Yeah, and then it takes a lot of strength.
Yeah, it takes.
Yeah, it's like easier saidthan done, forcing logic.
It's like a lot of times it'soutside of our conscious
awareness that our emotions aredriving our behavior.
So right, like we just we'rejust going with the flow and our
emotions are driving us to staystill.
(27:47):
You know, in a lot of cases youkind of have to have that
ability to like snap out of it,dissociate from what's happening
and be like wait a minute, likeI got stuff to do.
I know what I need to do.
Why am I not doing it Right?
Speaker 1 (28:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Um, that's another skill, that's another fun life
skill to have.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Yeah, yeah Nice, and especially for this time of year
too, because like I heardrecently that like I think this
time of January is wheneverybody is sort of give has,
like kind of given up, oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
It's like blue, blue January or blue yeah, it's like
blue Monday, I think.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Blue Monday 2024.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Yeah, I think that's coming.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
I think actually it'll be the day this releases.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
Uh-oh, is it yeah, blue Monday 2024.
So blue Monday is typicallyobserved on the third Monday in
January.
So in 2024, it's January 15th,so yeah, which will be Monday,
the day this comes out.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
So, according to this random website, that I just
discovered blue.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
Monday is a day to acknowledge and address feelings
of sadness that someindividuals may experience,
especially during winter months.
It serves as a reminder toprioritize mental health.
Okay, so people have kind ofreframed that Blue Monday to be
a mental health awareness day,which I think is a great idea.
The concept of blue Monday wasfirst introduced in 2005 as part
(29:17):
of a marketing campaign for atravel company.
What the formula used tocalculate the date takes into
account various factors such asweather, debt, time since
Christmas, et cetera.
The scientific validity of blueMonday has been questioned, but
I think a lot of people kind ofhave that experience Like the
(29:42):
holidays are over, we're in themiddle of winter, the weather
sucks.
Yeah, you've probably droppedthe ball on your worst year Just
giving up on your New Year'sresolution, right, yeah, or
whatever, yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
So if that's the case , then focus on this forcing
logic and just be like you know.
Okay, so what?
I didn't make it to the gymthis week, but I can go today.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
Right, cool, cool.
I think this was a great littleinside scoop into how we live
our lives, yeah.
How we stay motivated how we'vecontinued to keep it up and up
level.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
Really good tidbits in there, for sure, yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
So I hope everyone enjoyed that.
If you did, let us know byreviewing the podcast on Spotify
or on Apple Podcasts or evenjust rating it, just giving us
the like five stars.
You don't even have to writeanything.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
No.
Speaker 1 (30:50):
I want them to write something.
That's extra work for somepeople.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
I mean, if you're not going to rate us at all because
we're not going to rate youbecause I want you to write
something, then, yeah, justleave five stars and don't write
anything.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:05):
If it's all the same audience and you rate five stars
and you get that little commentbox there put like Ryan's hair
or like Alana's vibe or whatever.
Nice.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
I like it and this is , I think, where are we at?
I just wanted to check herebecause, like I'm like gunning
for 100 episodes, like I'm superexcited but I don't know where
are they right now.
Here we go.
Okay, so this is episode 88.
So 12 more episodes and we'reat 100.
Cool yeah Wow we're gettingclose, I know Real close.
(31:45):
And then we also have to decidetoo is this the end of season
four, and are we starting a newseason?
Speaker 2 (31:52):
Yeah, yeah, we got a start, all right, yeah, we'll
figure that out.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
Yeah, all right.
Well, that's it.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
Bye everyone.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
Bye.
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