February 26, 2024 • 31 mins
Welcome to Season 5!
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Our fifth season premiere isn't just another milestone; it's a commitment to challenge you with our tough love series—tips that aren't just meant to inspire but also to instigate a deep dive into radical self-accountability.
Through our usual fun banter and earnest conversation, we'll equip you with the wisdom of patience, the lessons from failure, and the strength in internal validation. Imagine the satisfaction of reaching your goals not because you sought applause at every turn but because you cultivated a profound inner compass.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to season five of the no Excuses coaching
podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Thank you, I'm excited to be here.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Can you believe?
Season five already.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
I mean, yeah, because we did seasons one through four
, Now season, like what did youthink?
What did you think?
It was going to be season nine?
Speaker 1 (00:19):
next.
No, I'm just like, I feel like,we're just like going through
the seasons.
It's really happening.
This is episode 94 too, by theway, like on serious countdown
mode to 100 episodes.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
It's happening.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I think it's cool.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
We're official, we have a podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Just episodes coming out seasons.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
It's happening.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Living that podcast life.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Yeah, totally living it Like we're podcasters.
We actually are podcasters now.
Yeah, crazy to think yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Kind of.
You know I joined a new onlineportal for this program that I'm
in now and, like you know, whenyou join a new online portal,
it's like put in your name,upload a picture of you and the
picture of me.
Like I just like went to myhard drive and picked, like the
most recent selfie I had, whichhappened to be like me holding
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my microphone, and like in thepicture the microphone is like
the same size as my face andlike it's like that little image
is like that's a podcaster,even though I'm not.
You know there's a lot more wedo than podcasting, but you know
it's there in the identity itis.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Yeah.
I mean, everybody knows me nowwith my mic and my setup.
You know, when I get on zoomcalls with you, they're like
you're so professional and I'mlike, well, I have a podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
That's right.
That's right.
I have a brick wall which ishistorically like radio DJ kind
of background.
Anyway, season five this seasonis good.
This is the like, the F?
You season.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Yeah, like yeah, we've had enough.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Yeah to put it, to put an immediately negative spin
on it.
Now, this is the we're going todo the tough love season, mm.
Hmm, because late in the lastseason we kind of got into this.
Like there's a lot of peopleout there that want to have
success and they're not reachingsuccess, and I think it's just,
you know, we think it's justbecause, like, they're not being
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honest with themselves and theworld isn't being honest with
them.
So let's have some like starkhonesty for a season.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeah, and I like that because I think the other
feedback that we get to is likethe conversations that we have
are just like honestconversations about being a
coach in the coaching industrytoo and like what we've had to
go through to get to you knowwhat we're doing now.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
So it's just like another layer right of those
just blunt conversations aboutbeing a coach and like what you
need to do to be successful, andsometimes that needs to come
with a little bit of tough love.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
So that's going to be season five.
We're just going to be talkingabout tough love, still sharing
lists, probably because I feellike that's like the easiest way
to communicate information.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Yeah, I love a good list.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Yeah, me too.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
A good list, and you know we'll talk about other
things too, probably.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Good list.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
And we'll continue to talk about his food cravings.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Good conversation, good snacks, you know, whatever.
Yeah, all that good stuff.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Yeah, all right, so let's jump into season one.
No, season five.
Episode one.
Episode one of the tough loveseason is the top five tough
love tips.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Yes, these are our top five tough love tips for you
folks in the audience Thingsthat I don't think there's going
to be any like huge, like new,like oh my God, shock, but like.
These are things that like, ifyou're, if you're not doing them
, which nobody's doing theseperfectly, it's important to
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have like the tough lovereminder every now and then.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Yeah, and here it is, and today five of them.
That's what we're here for.
Yeah, we're here for that, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Yeah, because you need to hear these things,
ladies and gentlemen and peoplein the audience.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Yeah, and you know Ryan and I were just talking
about.
You know we're worrying is thetough love season going to be
too negative?
Because we don't want to bedowners with this season, like.
We want it to be empowering anduplifting and inspiring for
everyone.
But sometimes there's likesomething that you need to hear
in order to like take that nextstep forward.
(04:49):
Yeah, you don't want to hear it, but you got to hear it.
You know that feeling.
Yeah, so let's just set thatintention, that like moving
forward with all of theseepisodes.
It's not that we're trying tobe, you know, demotivating or
disempowering.
We want success for everybody.
I mean that's my dream foreveryone is that everyone's
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successful.
Everyone can be successful.
Yeah, yeah, and sometimes youjust got to have a push.
You know you got to hearsomething you don't want to hear
.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
The loving push.
Yeah, yeah.
That's what the tough love isabout.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Yeah, exactly that's why the word love is in there.
Right, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Let's get into it.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Number one.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Five tips tough love tips.
Number one, and this is a goodone, ladies and gentlemen and
people, it's time to embraceaccountability, which means take
full responsibility for actionsand decisions.
Stop blaming others or externalcircumstances for your results
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and learn from mistakes and growfrom them.
It's personal accountabilityand that is definitely a
characteristic of the successfulentrepreneur or coach.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
I love that and super important.
It's funny because I did myhuman design reading.
Last night I had a human designreading and that's one of my
designs is that I'm a provokerand I provoke people to take
radical responsibility forthemselves and their lives.
That's just part of who I am.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
How about that?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
So in the reading I was like oh cool.
So basically when I walk into aroom, my energy is provoking, I
annoy people.
Not annoy people in a bad way,but it's just.
My presence is like takeresponsibility for yourself.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
To me, provoke and annoy are not the same.
To me, you can provoke peoplewithout annoying them.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Exactly, but I think most people when they hear the
word provoke, it has a negativeconnotation.
In this example, you want tolook at provoke as a positive
thing.
You're helping people takeresponsibility, radical
responsibility for their life,their business, whatever they're
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doing.
Yeah, and we all should bereally doing that, Not just if
you're a coach, but just ingeneral in your life.
Take responsibility.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, yeah, good, good, that's a good one.
Embrace the accountability.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Yeah, it's a good reminder.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Cool.
Easier said than done, perhaps,but you got to do it.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Have a good time.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Got to do it, yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
So that, I guess, is a good thing to think about.
How do you know when you're nottaking responsibility or
embracing that accountability?
Speaker 2 (07:59):
I think a good way to know is if you catch yourself
saying to yourself I can't besuccessful at this because of
that, right, yeah, if you'reputting the blame for why you
can't get what you want in lifeon circumstances that are
outside of yourself, you may notbe at a full level of personal
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accountability.
Right, yeah, again, yeah, ofcourse there's stuff for
everybody that's outside of ourcontrol, but for everything
that's outside of our control,there's something else that's
within our control.
And so, looking at what iswithin orienting ourselves, what
is within our control that canimpact whether or not we're
getting what we want in life,and orienting to that, yeah,
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right.
And then I'm thinking to myselfam I doing that Right?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Because if not, let's reorient right, yeah, then
you're probably blaming.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Yeah, okay, good.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Number two is set realistic goals and be
persistent when you're pursuingthose goals.
I mean, we've talked about thistons on the podcast.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Yeah, I think the you know it sounds like simple and
straightforward set realisticgoals and persist.
But as realistic and simple asthat is, that's not what most
people do.
Most people set realistic goals, face a challenge and change
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their goal repeatedly andpredictably, rather than setting
a realistic goal and, when thechallenges arise, saying, okay,
how can I overcome thischallenge and stick to that
original goal?
Right.
And so it's like every time youdo that, you're resetting.
You know, whatever progress youhad made back to zero every
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time you change the goal.
I heard this really nicemetaphor on a mindset coaching
call I was on recently for partof the program that I'm in and
the metaphor was like you know,reaching your goals is like
putting a pot of water on thestove to boil.
You know, you put the water on,you turn on the heat to maximum,
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and it doesn't matter how goodyour stove is.
There's going to be a timewhere there's heat going into
the water and the water is notboiling, and that's like.
You know, setting the pot onthe stove is like setting the
goal.
Boiling on the heat is likecreating effort towards your
goal but then getting mad whenthe water is not boiling yet
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kind of doesn't make sense.
And, worse yet, what somepeople will do is take that pot
of water and say, well, thiswater is not boiling, dump it in
the sink and fill a differentpot with different water and put
it on a different burner andstart the process from the
beginning.
And if they'd just beenpersistent with the original pot
, it eventually would haveboiled Right.
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And so you know.
We can put the question to theaudience where have you, like,
had water that was 90% of theway to boiling and dumped it
because you were impatient andstarted with a new pot on a new
burner.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
That's what being persistent with your goals is,
is recognizing that there's thattime where the water's sitting
there, the heat is going in andit hasn't boiled yet, but
knowing it will.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Yeah, and once it does, it's a rapid boil, isn't
it?
Like it's just bubbling away.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Maybe, I don't know, depends on the altitude you know
, feet above sea level, I don'tknow.
Anyways, cool.
Number three is a very goodtough love tip.
It tells us you should acceptand learn from failure.
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Accept and learn from failure.
Come to view failure as a partof the journey to success, which
is a great tip.
The opposite of this is, whenthings don't go right, we get
overly frustrated.
We take it as evidence thatnothing's ever going to work.
We tend to catastrophize.
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It's like okay, well, I didn'tmake that one sale, therefore
business is impossible.
We attach these meanings thatlogically don't make sense but
make us almost feel a sense ofrelief Because it's like well,
it's not that I didn't make thesale because I could get better
at sales.
I didn't make the sale becauselife is not fair.
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Therefore it's not myresponsibility.
But we want to come to seefailure as data, as feedback.
As we say in NLP land, there isno failure, only feedback, the
information.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Yeah, and at the end of the day, it's really just a
setback.
We talked about this a bunch acouple of weeks ago, but it's
like that was one of the beliefsthat I created when I became an
entrepreneur.
That's the episode we weretalking about that where it's
like I see it all as a setback.
It's just like I wasn't readyyet to go to that next level.
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I needed to learn one morething or I need to experience
something else.
And it's a good mindset to have, because then you never are
feeling disappointed.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Yeah, yeah, agreed.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
And the other thing too, is some people don't even
get to the failure, like they'reafraid of failing.
So they're not even reallytrying a lot of different things
because they don't want to beembarrassed, they don't want to
look silly, they don't want tomake a mistake, but then you
don't experience either thesuccess or the failure of that.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
So recognizing, if you're doing that too, that's
you want to stop doing that.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Because what's?
Speaker 1 (13:56):
the worst thing that's gonna happen if you make
a mistake or you get embarrassedor you mess up Nothing.
Probably you might feel sillyfor like five minutes or a day
and then you may not.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Yeah, One time I went live on social media and my
delivery wasn't as smooth as itcould be, and just the entire
economy of Canada just collapsed.
And millions of people wereplunged into the depths of
poverty.
But sometimes it feels likethat, like that's the pressure
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on an entrepreneur, like if Idon't get this thing perfectly,
like everything is gonna gohorrible, and really it's not.
Like, really that didn't happen, folks, the Canadian economy is
and always has been and alwayswill be strong or whatever.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
Anyways, but yeah, yeah, so many times, so many
times.
Or you want to host a class orsomething or a master class and
no one shows up, or one personshows up, like I remember once
doing a group hypnosis pass late, regression and I had one
person show up.
And I could have taken that asa fail, but I was like, well, I
guess this was what it wassupposed to be and it ended up
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being great.
So you learn and you move on.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
So yeah, you learn and you move on.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Yeah cool, okay, tough, love there.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
Tough love Number four on our list of tough love
tips 2024, is stop seekingconstant approval.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
Ooh this is a good one yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
Stop seeking constant approval, that rush of dopamine
from some type of validation.
Right yeah, of course you wantto value people's opinions and
decisions, but don't requirethem.
Right yeah, we talk about thedifference between internal and
external reference, for knowingwhether we're doing a good job
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or not, and we kind of want tohave a balance of both.
We want to pay attention to thefeedback that we're getting out
in the external world, but youalso want to know whether you've
given a good effort or not,because sometimes you'll give a
good effort and get zerofeedback, and other times you'll
give a poor effort and getfalse positive feedback because
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people like you, so they'retelling you you're doing well,
even though your work wasn't asgood as it could have been.
Right yeah, you know, we wantto move away from this
dependence on externalvalidation, right, and see it
more as data.
Right?
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Yeah, and I think with that comes more confidence.
Right Like this is.
I see this a lot, especially inmy breakthroughs.
This is like a big piece ofwhat a lot of people need help
with is just trusting themselvesand having confidence, and
often that is a result of alimiting belief from when you
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were a kid, something happenedbetween mom and dad, or you and
mom, or you and dad, and youdon't trust yourself.
And the only way you're goingto build your confidence is
actually by trusting yourselfand your own judgment and, you
know, speaking up and sharingyour opinions and recognizing
that you matter and that you'reworthy and you're valuable in
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this world.
So, you know, this one is like abig piece of tough love,
because this also requires youto do a work and really get real
and honest with yourself and belike okay, where am I?
You know, why am I not trustingmyself?
Like, what is this stemmingfrom?
And maybe having to go a littlebit deeper, because that
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seeking for constant approvalcan also be like a trauma
response.
Yeah, you know this is a.
This is a really, really hugetopic and this could actually be
like a whole episode.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
Cool.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Yeah, press yourself.
There, you go and do do smallthings you know what I mean Like
just little things, becausethis was a big thing that I had
to work through and just evendoing this podcast like if I
looked at episode four versuslike episode 54, I've come a
long way in terms of just likemy own confidence, in terms of
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giving my own opinion in thistype of an environment and
conversation mode.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Yeah, it's, it's good .
Yeah, cool, I like it.
And do you know, in business,do some things because you like
them and you want to do themRight.
Yeah, especially like socialmedia.
Even this morning I was thinkingabout like because I got to get
back into posting on Instagram,where I've been kind of
focusing a ton of my energy onsome client stuff I have going
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on and some programs I'm runningbehind the scenes.
I was thinking, like you know,I was in a good rhythm, posting
a reel almost every day onInstagram and I realized today I
kind of feel like just postinglike normal value posts, which
is like a selfie with a caption,more often, and I caught myself
being like yeah, but what hasthe wider reach?
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And I was like you know what,sometimes it's okay to just post
content that I feel likeposting and totally get how many
likes or comments it's going toget and just know that the
people that need to see it willsee it.
Right, and that is connected toseeking external validation.
Right, there's a differencebetween like recognizing the
data, that is, vanity metricsonline, and depending on vanity
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metrics for validation.
Right, there's a big difference.
Yeah, anyways.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Yeah, I think that's a really good indicator of that.
Yeah, like, how do you feelwhen you put a post out there
and it doesn't perform the wayyou expect it to?
Yeah, and then how do you feelwhen a post performed and does
that have an impact on your dayor you know, like your afternoon
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or your energy for the week?
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
That's something like you really want to tune into.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
Yeah, yeah, cool, all right.
Last one on the list,definitely the most exciting tip
of them all and the most.
You know what's the word I'mlooking for here, you know.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Fun.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Exotic, I don't know.
Fun.
Yeah, like people are going tohear this one and be like oh man
, dropped a bombshell on ustoday.
Atlanta and Ryan, anyways.
So here it is.
Hope I built it up enough.
This one's going to blow you.
Hold on to your groceries,ladies and gentlemen.
Prioritize number five tip isprioritize self care and setting
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boundaries.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Hot tip.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Hot tip, right there, hot tip.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
I mean so, yeah, like not the most exciting tip in
the world, but this is hugePrioritizing.
Get your sleep be hydrated.
Don't let people walk all overyou.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Right yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
A lot of people get like, just like sidebar again.
Your audience accepting yourfree value is not people walking
all over you, ladies andgentlemen, right Like when you
give away free value and likepeople are willing and happy to
like you know, watch your reelsand read your captions and
accept your lead magnets, butthey don't always become paying
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clients.
That is not people walking allover you, just so we can put
that line in the in the sand.
That's people giving you thegift of their attention, which
is something to be grateful for,in my opinion.
Anyways, small sidebar but still, yeah, unrelated to that
Setting boundaries right andself care.
What's your favorite self carething these days, alana?
Speaker 1 (21:45):
I mean anything related to water.
So like going to like bodyblitz or doing like anything
like that, like going to like asoak sauna, hot tub, pooled
plunge steam warm pool, yeah,that's like my ultimate.
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Obviously, I'm not doing thatall the time, but I don't know.
I find every week, especiallywhen I'm busy with clients, I
have I do one thing for me LikeI would go I'll go get a facial
or I'll get my nails done orI'll get a massage.
Those are my like.
I need to do that.
But then also just going for awalk every day, going to my
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favorite coffee shop, that'sself care for me.
Going to bed early, yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
Those are my big ones .
Speaker 2 (22:37):
Those are good ones yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
One thing that I've been exploring a lot with lately
, because I've just been feelinga little bit, I don't know,
maybe overwhelmed or elevated insome way.
I've just been asking myselfevery morning what do you need?
And it's been such an amazingquestion because, like, how
often do you ask yourself thatquestion, what do I need?
In like today, right now, andit's so interesting what your
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subconscious produces when youask yourself that question.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Hmm, what was the last thing you needed?
Speaker 1 (23:17):
I needed to do so.
I've really been wanting to dothis somatic class that I
purchased, but I knew I wasn'tgonna be able to be there alive,
and so that's what it told me Ineeded and I didn't do it,
which is like making me and itkeeps telling me you need to do
this class, but I keep ignoringit because I've just been busy
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and it's like two hours, like Ineed to kind of carve out two
hours to do it, so that'sweighing on me.
So I'm going to make the time todo that, but on the weekend I
asked myself and it was like youneed to have a nap.
So I had a nap.
Oh, I actually did a hypnosis.
I laid on the couch and did ahypnosis, but for me that's kind
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of like napping, yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
It's funny when I asked myself that question
because I was listening to whatyou were saying.
What was the questioning of?
What do I need right now?
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Yeah, what do you need in this moment, or what do
you need today?
Speaker 2 (24:13):
Yeah, I pictured one of those giant Toblerone bars
that they have at Costco thatare like $100, and it's like
three kilograms of Toblerone.
That's what I vividly picked.
I've never even had one ofthose.
Never seen them there.
It's a seasonal thing.
I have it at Costco in December.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
I used to get one every year for Christmas.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
This is the best, one of those giant ones, those huge
.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
Well, not maybe that big, but it was probably this
big yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Because there's the normal giant ones that you can
get at the grocery store thatare like $20 or $30 or $40, and
they're like a one pound.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
Yeah, okay, that's probably the one.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
That's the one Like a one pound Toblerone, but this
one it's like at Costco.
Speaker 1 (24:57):
Like king size.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
It's like you could bring it to a family gathering
of 20 people and it stillwouldn't be finished, like it's
that big.
So when I asked myself, what doI need right now, in this
moment, that is what mysubconscious mind presented to
me vividly.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
Go to Costco.
What are you waiting for?
Speaker 2 (25:17):
But I can't even get it because it's February and
it's a seasonal thing.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Mm.
A follow up question to thatone which I just found out last
night was also very good, but itwas so good.
It was like a question you askyourself at the end of the day,
which is like what wisdom didyou receive from that need?
Or something like that.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
What was it Like?
Speaker 1 (25:44):
what wisdom did you receive from providing yourself
with that need?
So it's like at the beginningof the day, it's like what do I
need right now or in this moment?
If you're feeling reallyoverwhelmed, you could be like
what do I need in this moment?
But then, once you fulfill thatneed, then what wisdom did you
receive from fulfilling thatneed?
Oh, hmm, which is something youcould like ask yourself before
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you go to bed.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
Yeah.
So after I eat the giant of theRono, I'll ask myself what
wisdom did I fulfill fromgorging myself on delicious
Scandinavian chocolate?
I think it's, is it?
Speaker 1 (26:24):
Scandinavian.
Where does Toblerone come from?
I think Switzerland.
Isn't it Swiss?
Speaker 2 (26:28):
chocolate, yeah, so was I right.
Toblerone Swiss?
It's Swiss.
Is Switzerland Scandinavia?
I don't think it is.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Is it?
I feel like people think it is,but it isn't.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
Scandinavia no, it's not Sweden.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Sweden is.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Sweden, but not Switzerland.
Sweden, norway, denmark yeah,they got Scandinavia, but not
Switzerland.
Well, you're gonna have to editthat part of the podcast out,
because now I just soundignorant of Northern European
geography, which is not what Iwant.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
I'll edit that out, don't worry.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
And then I'll just put it on.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Instagram.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
Leave it in.
People need to know I'mlearning everybody.
I'm not perfect.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Hey, I'm terrible when it comes to geography, so,
yeah, I'm gonna do a few piecesof hot here, so maybe should we
just do a whole season on food.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
And like European geography.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
Well, that's a niche.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
That's a niche.
I had a really nice dinner andI had two really nice dinners in
Austria when I was there andone of them was like a
traditional Austrian dinner andit was like goose and like.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Yeah, what is Austrian food exactly?
Speaker 2 (27:55):
Yeah, I couldn't tell you I've eaten it, but it was
like what I had was like similarto like an American
Thanksgiving dinner, but it waslike Austrian.
It was around the same time ofyear, okay, so it was like goose
instead of turkey or I don'tknow, something they refer to as
goose and like instead ofmashed potatoes.
It was like mashed somethingelse.
I don't remember now it wasreally really good.
(28:18):
And then same visit to Vienna,a different night, some of the
best Chinese food I ever had ata Chinese restaurant in Vienna
so good, and we have goodChinese food in Canada.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
Yeah, we do, but it's more Canadian Chinese, don't
you think Well?
Speaker 2 (28:38):
I mean, I had a Canadian, a five.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
Chinese food.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Yeah, there's like, yeah, there's like outside of
China Chinese food, and thenthere's, I'm sure, inside of
China Chinese food.
I'm you know, obviously, weknow it's a different thing.
So I'm talking about, likeoutside of China, Chinese food.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
Vienna, in Canada, in Vienna, yeah, nice.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Phenomenal, yeah, in this one particular place that I
went to that I don't rememberwhat it was called, anyways, so
that was number five tipprioritize self-care and
boundaries.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
Learn to say no.
That's a big one.
You gotta say no.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
Gotta say no, you gotta say you got to.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
Yeah, gotta, yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
Yeah, cool, All right , I think we did it.
I think we got it.
If you could put my office orno, my PO box address in the
show notes, in case anybodywants to ship me a giant
Toblerone bar, I will acceptthose.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Yeah, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Got that, that's gonna be it.
Oh, we're hosting a workshop.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Oh yes, I was just gonna say we have one more thing
to talk about real quick.
After popular demand, we'vedecided to host a workshop where
we teach you everything we knowabout starting a podcast and
(30:02):
giving you the step-by-step onthat.
So that is coming up in March.
Have we decided on the date forsure?
Speaker 2 (30:12):
Have we.
I'm good with that date.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Okay, so Thursday, march 21st, we're gonna host a
workshop called Just Hit.
Record Everything you Need ToKnow to Start your Podcast
Tomorrow, yeah, and we'll beteaching everything that we've
learned creating this podcast.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Yeah, having a podcast great way to establish
your credibility, great way toconvert followers into paying
clients.
It's just a great asset to havein your business.
It can be easy and fun if youknow how to let it be easy and
fun, which is gonna be a bigpart of what we're sharing.
Yeah, and it's an incredibleself-development tool, like
(30:56):
being a podcast host, having ashow.
So there's so many greatreasons.
We're gonna get into all ofthem at the training.
We're gonna give all of ourinside secrets on how we've been
able to do almost 100 episodeswith honestly, without
frustration, without pain.
It's been easy, it's been fun,it's been successful and we're
gonna pull back the curtain.
(31:17):
All that being said, this isnot a free workshop, by the way.
This is gonna be a paidworkshop, but the value that's
gonna be included is gonna beimmensely more than what anybody
is paying in price.
So you've got the date, savethe date, more details to come
on how to register and, yeah,anything else.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
No, I think that's it Cool.
Speaker 2 (31:38):
I think that's it All right, so there we go All right
, that's it from us.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Follow us on Instagram at it's the no Excuses
podcast.
Follow Ryan, follow me.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
Follow everybody, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
All right and we'll see you next time or talk to you
next time.
Yeah, ciao.
Bye.
Welcome to season five of the no Excuses coaching
podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Thank you, I'm excited to be here.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Can you believe?
Season five already.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
I mean, yeah, because we did seasons one through four
, Now season, like what did youthink?
What did you think?
It was going to be season nine?
Speaker 1 (00:19):
next.
No, I'm just like, I feel like,we're just like going through
the seasons.
It's really happening.
This is episode 94 too, by theway, like on serious countdown
mode to 100 episodes.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
It's happening.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I think it's cool.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
We're official, we have a podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Just episodes coming out seasons.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
It's happening.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Living that podcast life.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Yeah, totally living it Like we're podcasters.
We actually are podcasters now.
Yeah, crazy to think yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Kind of.
You know I joined a new onlineportal for this program that I'm
in now and, like you know, whenyou join a new online portal,
it's like put in your name,upload a picture of you and the
picture of me.
Like I just like went to myhard drive and picked, like the
most recent selfie I had, whichhappened to be like me holding
(01:14):
my microphone, and like in thepicture the microphone is like
the same size as my face andlike it's like that little image
is like that's a podcaster,even though I'm not.
You know there's a lot more wedo than podcasting, but you know
it's there in the identity itis.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Yeah.
I mean, everybody knows me nowwith my mic and my setup.
You know, when I get on zoomcalls with you, they're like
you're so professional and I'mlike, well, I have a podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
That's right.
That's right.
I have a brick wall which ishistorically like radio DJ kind
of background.
Anyway, season five this seasonis good.
This is the like, the F?
You season.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Yeah, like yeah, we've had enough.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Yeah to put it, to put an immediately negative spin
on it.
Now, this is the we're going todo the tough love season, mm.
Hmm, because late in the lastseason we kind of got into this.
Like there's a lot of peopleout there that want to have
success and they're not reachingsuccess, and I think it's just,
you know, we think it's justbecause, like, they're not being
(02:23):
honest with themselves and theworld isn't being honest with
them.
So let's have some like starkhonesty for a season.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeah, and I like that because I think the other
feedback that we get to is likethe conversations that we have
are just like honestconversations about being a
coach in the coaching industrytoo and like what we've had to
go through to get to you knowwhat we're doing now.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
So it's just like another layer right of those
just blunt conversations aboutbeing a coach and like what you
need to do to be successful, andsometimes that needs to come
with a little bit of tough love.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
So that's going to be season five.
We're just going to be talkingabout tough love, still sharing
lists, probably because I feellike that's like the easiest way
to communicate information.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Yeah, I love a good list.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Yeah, me too.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
A good list, and you know we'll talk about other
things too, probably.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Good list.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
And we'll continue to talk about his food cravings.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Good conversation, good snacks, you know, whatever.
Yeah, all that good stuff.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Yeah, all right, so let's jump into season one.
No, season five.
Episode one.
Episode one of the tough loveseason is the top five tough
love tips.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Yes, these are our top five tough love tips for you
folks in the audience Thingsthat I don't think there's going
to be any like huge, like new,like oh my God, shock, but like.
These are things that like, ifyou're, if you're not doing them
, which nobody's doing theseperfectly, it's important to
(04:13):
have like the tough lovereminder every now and then.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Yeah, and here it is, and today five of them.
That's what we're here for.
Yeah, we're here for that, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Yeah, because you need to hear these things,
ladies and gentlemen and peoplein the audience.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Yeah, and you know Ryan and I were just talking
about.
You know we're worrying is thetough love season going to be
too negative?
Because we don't want to bedowners with this season, like.
We want it to be empowering anduplifting and inspiring for
everyone.
But sometimes there's likesomething that you need to hear
in order to like take that nextstep forward.
(04:49):
Yeah, you don't want to hear it, but you got to hear it.
You know that feeling.
Yeah, so let's just set thatintention, that like moving
forward with all of theseepisodes.
It's not that we're trying tobe, you know, demotivating or
disempowering.
We want success for everybody.
I mean that's my dream foreveryone is that everyone's
(05:11):
successful.
Everyone can be successful.
Yeah, yeah, and sometimes youjust got to have a push.
You know you got to hearsomething you don't want to hear
.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
The loving push.
Yeah, yeah.
That's what the tough love isabout.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Yeah, exactly that's why the word love is in there.
Right, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Let's get into it.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Number one.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Five tips tough love tips.
Number one, and this is a goodone, ladies and gentlemen and
people, it's time to embraceaccountability, which means take
full responsibility for actionsand decisions.
Stop blaming others or externalcircumstances for your results
(05:53):
and learn from mistakes and growfrom them.
It's personal accountabilityand that is definitely a
characteristic of the successfulentrepreneur or coach.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
I love that and super important.
It's funny because I did myhuman design reading.
Last night I had a human designreading and that's one of my
designs is that I'm a provokerand I provoke people to take
radical responsibility forthemselves and their lives.
That's just part of who I am.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
How about that?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
So in the reading I was like oh cool.
So basically when I walk into aroom, my energy is provoking, I
annoy people.
Not annoy people in a bad way,but it's just.
My presence is like takeresponsibility for yourself.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
To me, provoke and annoy are not the same.
To me, you can provoke peoplewithout annoying them.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Exactly, but I think most people when they hear the
word provoke, it has a negativeconnotation.
In this example, you want tolook at provoke as a positive
thing.
You're helping people takeresponsibility, radical
responsibility for their life,their business, whatever they're
(07:17):
doing.
Yeah, and we all should bereally doing that, Not just if
you're a coach, but just ingeneral in your life.
Take responsibility.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, yeah, good, good, that's a good one.
Embrace the accountability.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Yeah, it's a good reminder.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Cool.
Easier said than done, perhaps,but you got to do it.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Have a good time.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Got to do it, yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
So that, I guess, is a good thing to think about.
How do you know when you're nottaking responsibility or
embracing that accountability?
Speaker 2 (07:59):
I think a good way to know is if you catch yourself
saying to yourself I can't besuccessful at this because of
that, right, yeah, if you'reputting the blame for why you
can't get what you want in lifeon circumstances that are
outside of yourself, you may notbe at a full level of personal
(08:21):
accountability.
Right, yeah, again, yeah, ofcourse there's stuff for
everybody that's outside of ourcontrol, but for everything
that's outside of our control,there's something else that's
within our control.
And so, looking at what iswithin orienting ourselves, what
is within our control that canimpact whether or not we're
getting what we want in life,and orienting to that, yeah,
(08:41):
right.
And then I'm thinking to myselfam I doing that Right?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Because if not, let's reorient right, yeah, then
you're probably blaming.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Yeah, okay, good.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Number two is set realistic goals and be
persistent when you're pursuingthose goals.
I mean, we've talked about thistons on the podcast.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Yeah, I think the you know it sounds like simple and
straightforward set realisticgoals and persist.
But as realistic and simple asthat is, that's not what most
people do.
Most people set realistic goals, face a challenge and change
(09:30):
their goal repeatedly andpredictably, rather than setting
a realistic goal and, when thechallenges arise, saying, okay,
how can I overcome thischallenge and stick to that
original goal?
Right.
And so it's like every time youdo that, you're resetting.
You know, whatever progress youhad made back to zero every
(09:51):
time you change the goal.
I heard this really nicemetaphor on a mindset coaching
call I was on recently for partof the program that I'm in and
the metaphor was like you know,reaching your goals is like
putting a pot of water on thestove to boil.
You know, you put the water on,you turn on the heat to maximum,
(10:14):
and it doesn't matter how goodyour stove is.
There's going to be a timewhere there's heat going into
the water and the water is notboiling, and that's like.
You know, setting the pot onthe stove is like setting the
goal.
Boiling on the heat is likecreating effort towards your
goal but then getting mad whenthe water is not boiling yet
(10:35):
kind of doesn't make sense.
And, worse yet, what somepeople will do is take that pot
of water and say, well, thiswater is not boiling, dump it in
the sink and fill a differentpot with different water and put
it on a different burner andstart the process from the
beginning.
And if they'd just beenpersistent with the original pot
, it eventually would haveboiled Right.
(10:58):
And so you know.
We can put the question to theaudience where have you, like,
had water that was 90% of theway to boiling and dumped it
because you were impatient andstarted with a new pot on a new
burner.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
That's what being persistent with your goals is,
is recognizing that there's thattime where the water's sitting
there, the heat is going in andit hasn't boiled yet, but
knowing it will.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Yeah, and once it does, it's a rapid boil, isn't
it?
Like it's just bubbling away.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Maybe, I don't know, depends on the altitude you know
, feet above sea level, I don'tknow.
Anyways, cool.
Number three is a very goodtough love tip.
It tells us you should acceptand learn from failure.
(11:51):
Accept and learn from failure.
Come to view failure as a partof the journey to success, which
is a great tip.
The opposite of this is, whenthings don't go right, we get
overly frustrated.
We take it as evidence thatnothing's ever going to work.
We tend to catastrophize.
(12:11):
It's like okay, well, I didn'tmake that one sale, therefore
business is impossible.
We attach these meanings thatlogically don't make sense but
make us almost feel a sense ofrelief Because it's like well,
it's not that I didn't make thesale because I could get better
at sales.
I didn't make the sale becauselife is not fair.
(12:32):
Therefore it's not myresponsibility.
But we want to come to seefailure as data, as feedback.
As we say in NLP land, there isno failure, only feedback, the
information.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Yeah, and at the end of the day, it's really just a
setback.
We talked about this a bunch acouple of weeks ago, but it's
like that was one of the beliefsthat I created when I became an
entrepreneur.
That's the episode we weretalking about that where it's
like I see it all as a setback.
It's just like I wasn't readyyet to go to that next level.
(13:10):
I needed to learn one morething or I need to experience
something else.
And it's a good mindset to have, because then you never are
feeling disappointed.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Yeah, yeah, agreed.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
And the other thing too, is some people don't even
get to the failure, like they'reafraid of failing.
So they're not even reallytrying a lot of different things
because they don't want to beembarrassed, they don't want to
look silly, they don't want tomake a mistake, but then you
don't experience either thesuccess or the failure of that.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
So recognizing, if you're doing that too, that's
you want to stop doing that.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Because what's?
Speaker 1 (13:56):
the worst thing that's gonna happen if you make
a mistake or you get embarrassedor you mess up Nothing.
Probably you might feel sillyfor like five minutes or a day
and then you may not.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Yeah, One time I went live on social media and my
delivery wasn't as smooth as itcould be, and just the entire
economy of Canada just collapsed.
And millions of people wereplunged into the depths of
poverty.
But sometimes it feels likethat, like that's the pressure
(14:32):
on an entrepreneur, like if Idon't get this thing perfectly,
like everything is gonna gohorrible, and really it's not.
Like, really that didn't happen, folks, the Canadian economy is
and always has been and alwayswill be strong or whatever.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
Anyways, but yeah, yeah, so many times, so many
times.
Or you want to host a class orsomething or a master class and
no one shows up, or one personshows up, like I remember once
doing a group hypnosis pass late, regression and I had one
person show up.
And I could have taken that asa fail, but I was like, well, I
guess this was what it wassupposed to be and it ended up
(15:08):
being great.
So you learn and you move on.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
So yeah, you learn and you move on.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Yeah cool, okay, tough, love there.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
Tough love Number four on our list of tough love
tips 2024, is stop seekingconstant approval.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
Ooh this is a good one yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
Stop seeking constant approval, that rush of dopamine
from some type of validation.
Right yeah, of course you wantto value people's opinions and
decisions, but don't requirethem.
Right yeah, we talk about thedifference between internal and
external reference, for knowingwhether we're doing a good job
(15:53):
or not, and we kind of want tohave a balance of both.
We want to pay attention to thefeedback that we're getting out
in the external world, but youalso want to know whether you've
given a good effort or not,because sometimes you'll give a
good effort and get zerofeedback, and other times you'll
give a poor effort and getfalse positive feedback because
(16:14):
people like you, so they'retelling you you're doing well,
even though your work wasn't asgood as it could have been.
Right yeah, you know, we wantto move away from this
dependence on externalvalidation, right, and see it
more as data.
Right?
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Yeah, and I think with that comes more confidence.
Right Like this is.
I see this a lot, especially inmy breakthroughs.
This is like a big piece ofwhat a lot of people need help
with is just trusting themselvesand having confidence, and
often that is a result of alimiting belief from when you
(16:52):
were a kid, something happenedbetween mom and dad, or you and
mom, or you and dad, and youdon't trust yourself.
And the only way you're goingto build your confidence is
actually by trusting yourselfand your own judgment and, you
know, speaking up and sharingyour opinions and recognizing
that you matter and that you'reworthy and you're valuable in
(17:15):
this world.
So, you know, this one is like abig piece of tough love,
because this also requires youto do a work and really get real
and honest with yourself and belike okay, where am I?
You know, why am I not trustingmyself?
Like, what is this stemmingfrom?
And maybe having to go a littlebit deeper, because that
(17:38):
seeking for constant approvalcan also be like a trauma
response.
Yeah, you know this is a.
This is a really, really hugetopic and this could actually be
like a whole episode.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
Cool.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Yeah, press yourself.
There, you go and do do smallthings you know what I mean Like
just little things, becausethis was a big thing that I had
to work through and just evendoing this podcast like if I
looked at episode four versuslike episode 54, I've come a
long way in terms of just likemy own confidence, in terms of
(18:17):
giving my own opinion in thistype of an environment and
conversation mode.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Yeah, it's, it's good .
Yeah, cool, I like it.
And do you know, in business,do some things because you like
them and you want to do themRight.
Yeah, especially like socialmedia.
Even this morning I was thinkingabout like because I got to get
back into posting on Instagram,where I've been kind of
focusing a ton of my energy onsome client stuff I have going
(18:44):
on and some programs I'm runningbehind the scenes.
I was thinking, like you know,I was in a good rhythm, posting
a reel almost every day onInstagram and I realized today I
kind of feel like just postinglike normal value posts, which
is like a selfie with a caption,more often, and I caught myself
being like yeah, but what hasthe wider reach?
(19:04):
And I was like you know what,sometimes it's okay to just post
content that I feel likeposting and totally get how many
likes or comments it's going toget and just know that the
people that need to see it willsee it.
Right, and that is connected toseeking external validation.
Right, there's a differencebetween like recognizing the
data, that is, vanity metricsonline, and depending on vanity
(19:27):
metrics for validation.
Right, there's a big difference.
Yeah, anyways.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Yeah, I think that's a really good indicator of that.
Yeah, like, how do you feelwhen you put a post out there
and it doesn't perform the wayyou expect it to?
Yeah, and then how do you feelwhen a post performed and does
that have an impact on your dayor you know, like your afternoon
(19:51):
or your energy for the week?
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
That's something like you really want to tune into.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
Yeah, yeah, cool, all right.
Last one on the list,definitely the most exciting tip
of them all and the most.
You know what's the word I'mlooking for here, you know.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Fun.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Exotic, I don't know.
Fun.
Yeah, like people are going tohear this one and be like oh man
, dropped a bombshell on ustoday.
Atlanta and Ryan, anyways.
So here it is.
Hope I built it up enough.
This one's going to blow you.
Hold on to your groceries,ladies and gentlemen.
Prioritize number five tip isprioritize self care and setting
(20:40):
boundaries.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Hot tip.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Hot tip, right there, hot tip.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
I mean so, yeah, like not the most exciting tip in
the world, but this is hugePrioritizing.
Get your sleep be hydrated.
Don't let people walk all overyou.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Right yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
A lot of people get like, just like sidebar again.
Your audience accepting yourfree value is not people walking
all over you, ladies andgentlemen, right Like when you
give away free value and likepeople are willing and happy to
like you know, watch your reelsand read your captions and
accept your lead magnets, butthey don't always become paying
(21:22):
clients.
That is not people walking allover you, just so we can put
that line in the in the sand.
That's people giving you thegift of their attention, which
is something to be grateful for,in my opinion.
Anyways, small sidebar but still, yeah, unrelated to that
Setting boundaries right andself care.
What's your favorite self carething these days, alana?
Speaker 1 (21:45):
I mean anything related to water.
So like going to like bodyblitz or doing like anything
like that, like going to like asoak sauna, hot tub, pooled
plunge steam warm pool, yeah,that's like my ultimate.
(22:06):
Obviously, I'm not doing thatall the time, but I don't know.
I find every week, especiallywhen I'm busy with clients, I
have I do one thing for me LikeI would go I'll go get a facial
or I'll get my nails done orI'll get a massage.
Those are my like.
I need to do that.
But then also just going for awalk every day, going to my
(22:27):
favorite coffee shop, that'sself care for me.
Going to bed early, yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
Those are my big ones .
Speaker 2 (22:37):
Those are good ones yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
One thing that I've been exploring a lot with lately
, because I've just been feelinga little bit, I don't know,
maybe overwhelmed or elevated insome way.
I've just been asking myselfevery morning what do you need?
And it's been such an amazingquestion because, like, how
often do you ask yourself thatquestion, what do I need?
In like today, right now, andit's so interesting what your
(23:04):
subconscious produces when youask yourself that question.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Hmm, what was the last thing you needed?
Speaker 1 (23:17):
I needed to do so.
I've really been wanting to dothis somatic class that I
purchased, but I knew I wasn'tgonna be able to be there alive,
and so that's what it told me Ineeded and I didn't do it,
which is like making me and itkeeps telling me you need to do
this class, but I keep ignoringit because I've just been busy
(23:38):
and it's like two hours, like Ineed to kind of carve out two
hours to do it, so that'sweighing on me.
So I'm going to make the time todo that, but on the weekend I
asked myself and it was like youneed to have a nap.
So I had a nap.
Oh, I actually did a hypnosis.
I laid on the couch and did ahypnosis, but for me that's kind
(23:58):
of like napping, yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
It's funny when I asked myself that question
because I was listening to whatyou were saying.
What was the questioning of?
What do I need right now?
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Yeah, what do you need in this moment, or what do
you need today?
Speaker 2 (24:13):
Yeah, I pictured one of those giant Toblerone bars
that they have at Costco thatare like $100, and it's like
three kilograms of Toblerone.
That's what I vividly picked.
I've never even had one ofthose.
Never seen them there.
It's a seasonal thing.
I have it at Costco in December.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
I used to get one every year for Christmas.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
This is the best, one of those giant ones, those huge
.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
Well, not maybe that big, but it was probably this
big yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Because there's the normal giant ones that you can
get at the grocery store thatare like $20 or $30 or $40, and
they're like a one pound.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
Yeah, okay, that's probably the one.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
That's the one Like a one pound Toblerone, but this
one it's like at Costco.
Speaker 1 (24:57):
Like king size.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
It's like you could bring it to a family gathering
of 20 people and it stillwouldn't be finished, like it's
that big.
So when I asked myself, what doI need right now, in this
moment, that is what mysubconscious mind presented to
me vividly.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
Go to Costco.
What are you waiting for?
Speaker 2 (25:17):
But I can't even get it because it's February and
it's a seasonal thing.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Mm.
A follow up question to thatone which I just found out last
night was also very good, but itwas so good.
It was like a question you askyourself at the end of the day,
which is like what wisdom didyou receive from that need?
Or something like that.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
What was it Like?
Speaker 1 (25:44):
what wisdom did you receive from providing yourself
with that need?
So it's like at the beginningof the day, it's like what do I
need right now or in this moment?
If you're feeling reallyoverwhelmed, you could be like
what do I need in this moment?
But then, once you fulfill thatneed, then what wisdom did you
receive from fulfilling thatneed?
Oh, hmm, which is something youcould like ask yourself before
(26:10):
you go to bed.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
Yeah.
So after I eat the giant of theRono, I'll ask myself what
wisdom did I fulfill fromgorging myself on delicious
Scandinavian chocolate?
I think it's, is it?
Speaker 1 (26:24):
Scandinavian.
Where does Toblerone come from?
I think Switzerland.
Isn't it Swiss?
Speaker 2 (26:28):
chocolate, yeah, so was I right.
Toblerone Swiss?
It's Swiss.
Is Switzerland Scandinavia?
I don't think it is.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Is it?
I feel like people think it is,but it isn't.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
Scandinavia no, it's not Sweden.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Sweden is.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Sweden, but not Switzerland.
Sweden, norway, denmark yeah,they got Scandinavia, but not
Switzerland.
Well, you're gonna have to editthat part of the podcast out,
because now I just soundignorant of Northern European
geography, which is not what Iwant.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
I'll edit that out, don't worry.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
And then I'll just put it on.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Instagram.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
Leave it in.
People need to know I'mlearning everybody.
I'm not perfect.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Hey, I'm terrible when it comes to geography, so,
yeah, I'm gonna do a few piecesof hot here, so maybe should we
just do a whole season on food.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
And like European geography.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
Well, that's a niche.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
That's a niche.
I had a really nice dinner andI had two really nice dinners in
Austria when I was there andone of them was like a
traditional Austrian dinner andit was like goose and like.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Yeah, what is Austrian food exactly?
Speaker 2 (27:55):
Yeah, I couldn't tell you I've eaten it, but it was
like what I had was like similarto like an American
Thanksgiving dinner, but it waslike Austrian.
It was around the same time ofyear, okay, so it was like goose
instead of turkey or I don'tknow, something they refer to as
goose and like instead ofmashed potatoes.
It was like mashed somethingelse.
I don't remember now it wasreally really good.
(28:18):
And then same visit to Vienna,a different night, some of the
best Chinese food I ever had ata Chinese restaurant in Vienna
so good, and we have goodChinese food in Canada.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
Yeah, we do, but it's more Canadian Chinese, don't
you think Well?
Speaker 2 (28:38):
I mean, I had a Canadian, a five.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
Chinese food.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Yeah, there's like, yeah, there's like outside of
China Chinese food, and thenthere's, I'm sure, inside of
China Chinese food.
I'm you know, obviously, weknow it's a different thing.
So I'm talking about, likeoutside of China, Chinese food.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
Vienna, in Canada, in Vienna, yeah, nice.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Phenomenal, yeah, in this one particular place that I
went to that I don't rememberwhat it was called, anyways, so
that was number five tipprioritize self-care and
boundaries.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
Learn to say no.
That's a big one.
You gotta say no.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
Gotta say no, you gotta say you got to.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
Yeah, gotta, yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
Yeah, cool, All right , I think we did it.
I think we got it.
If you could put my office orno, my PO box address in the
show notes, in case anybodywants to ship me a giant
Toblerone bar, I will acceptthose.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Yeah, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Got that, that's gonna be it.
Oh, we're hosting a workshop.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Oh yes, I was just gonna say we have one more thing
to talk about real quick.
After popular demand, we'vedecided to host a workshop where
we teach you everything we knowabout starting a podcast and
(30:02):
giving you the step-by-step onthat.
So that is coming up in March.
Have we decided on the date forsure?
Speaker 2 (30:12):
Have we.
I'm good with that date.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Okay, so Thursday, march 21st, we're gonna host a
workshop called Just Hit.
Record Everything you Need ToKnow to Start your Podcast
Tomorrow, yeah, and we'll beteaching everything that we've
learned creating this podcast.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Yeah, having a podcast great way to establish
your credibility, great way toconvert followers into paying
clients.
It's just a great asset to havein your business.
It can be easy and fun if youknow how to let it be easy and
fun, which is gonna be a bigpart of what we're sharing.
Yeah, and it's an incredibleself-development tool, like
(30:56):
being a podcast host, having ashow.
So there's so many greatreasons.
We're gonna get into all ofthem at the training.
We're gonna give all of ourinside secrets on how we've been
able to do almost 100 episodeswith honestly, without
frustration, without pain.
It's been easy, it's been fun,it's been successful and we're
gonna pull back the curtain.
(31:17):
All that being said, this isnot a free workshop, by the way.
This is gonna be a paidworkshop, but the value that's
gonna be included is gonna beimmensely more than what anybody
is paying in price.
So you've got the date, savethe date, more details to come
on how to register and, yeah,anything else.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
No, I think that's it Cool.
Speaker 2 (31:38):
I think that's it All right, so there we go All right
, that's it from us.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Follow us on Instagram at it's the no Excuses
podcast.
Follow Ryan, follow me.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
Follow everybody, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
All right and we'll see you next time or talk to you
next time.
Yeah, ciao.
Bye.
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