Beyond the Situationships: Finding Peace in Your 30s

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 3 (00:23):
Welcome back to another episode.
I'm your host Jessica, I'm yourhost Carmen and this is Girl
Please, the podcast I swear I'mbreaking bad.

Speaker 4 (00:33):
Oh yeah, Best believe you gon' come for red oh yeah,
yeah, just to let you know.
You can't take my soul, but youdid it to me.
I swear I'm breaking bad allright, y'all.

Speaker 1 (00:47):
Per usual, we start our segment on down um.

Speaker 3 (00:51):
Today, we do have a guest I would like jessica y'all
.
This is my best friend.
Best friend, do you hear me all?
So we've been friends for about20 years, more than 20 years
actually.

Speaker 4 (01:07):
For real.

Speaker 3 (01:07):
Because yeah, Forever .

Speaker 4 (01:09):
Forever.

Speaker 3 (01:10):
Really, I seen her at school one day, and we was like
can you be my bitch?
Are you my bitch now?
For sure, Forever.
So yeah, we've been friends fora mighty, mighty long time, but
no, we've been friends for amighty, mighty long time, but no
, we've been friends for areally long time and she has
helped me through so much, andon this episode y'all will see

(01:32):
just how much we have beenhelping each other.
So at this time we're going topour some wine so we can really
wind down.
Let's do it and give y'all whaty'all been waiting for, okay.

Speaker 1 (01:42):
What's my name so?

Speaker 3 (01:43):
this wine I waiting for, okay, so this one, this.

Speaker 4 (01:49):
I'm sorry her name is shannon shannon b back in the
day her name used to be paris,but we will talk about that no
more.
We'll talk about bruno.

Speaker 1 (01:52):
We'll talk about all right, so we're gonna start with
, um, our wine down segment.
Um, today we have yet anotherbarefoot wine.
It is a red mosc.
This also says deliciouslysweet.
This is room temperature,actually, how I prefer my wine,
so hopefully y'all are okay withthat.

Speaker 3 (02:12):
I'm a cold bitch.
No, for real.
It looks good.
We're going to pour it up andsee what you think, ladies, all
right, let's see what that redwine's talking about.
Bloop, bloop, bloop.
I've actually had this winebefore, so I already know what
it tastes like.
And I love it naturally.

Speaker 1 (02:29):
Red wine is really good with steak.
It pairs well.

Speaker 3 (02:31):
Take me to dinner, baby.

Speaker 4 (02:35):
I need a steak or something.
Let me go ahead.
We're pairing the wine Too muchfor me.
I could go for a steak.

Speaker 3 (02:42):
I can go for a steak too.
You SDA baby.

Speaker 1 (02:47):
Y'all speaking with your eyes over here.
I can't help it.
I feel like I know yourlanguage.

Speaker 4 (02:51):
She needs to know she keep messing with me and shit
Get out of my head.

Speaker 1 (02:55):
Please, please, let's toast.
Jessica's a little prematureover there, I'm sorry.
Then sip the damn wine, okay,because one thing about me, I'm
going to drink it.
Okay, so let's toast tofriendship.
Let's toast to growth,prosperity, positivity, all of
those things.

Speaker 3 (03:12):
What you think.
All of the things, all of thethings I'm on that, let's go we
ain't going to buck it y'all,Even though I want to.
I want a bucket, but I'm goingto be conservative.

Speaker 1 (03:24):
It probably would be better cold I like that, that
little fizz to it.

Speaker 3 (03:29):
It's good, yes, it's yummy.
So y'all, we're going to goright into the dynamic of our
friendship and I'm going to letShannon talk about that a little
bit.

Speaker 4 (03:38):
So we've been friends for a long time and I feel like
for us it's just all in, likewe can talk to each other about
whatever no judgment herebecause I got a lot of skeletons
, baby, and she going to takethem with her to the grave and
if the bitch don't, she dead.

Speaker 3 (03:52):
Oh wow, wow.
We going to get canceled by themall.
Oh boy, don't kill me, bitch,kill yourself.

Speaker 4 (03:59):
Good friendship is based off communication and I
feel like we can communicatewhether it's serious.
She's my multi-purposefulfriend, like we can go to church
, we can go to the party, we cango to the bar and we can be at
work and we're gonna be litevery time in every situation
we're gonna be adaptable, okay,and at the party at 12 and at
work at 7, hello, so today inthe morning, it's me and I'm

(04:23):
here, you're gonna get me as Iam, I do love that.

Speaker 3 (04:27):
It's crazy.
My mom would always tell meabout this story.
When we went on a field tripand Shannon was a part of her
group of kids, that was that shehad to chaperone.
It is so funny to see your babylook just like you.

Speaker 4 (04:43):
It's crazy, shannon probably gave your mama a run
for her money on that field tripand to see your baby look just
like you is crazy.

Speaker 1 (04:45):
I don't remember.
It's crazy.
Shannon probably gave your mamaa run for her money on that
field trip.
I remember us going to James'town.

Speaker 4 (04:49):
Oh, now you remember, but I don't remember the trip.
We didn't have so many trips.
I bet your mom remembers yeah,she do, literally, she talk
about it all the time.

Speaker 3 (04:56):
We had a good time, but, yeah, back to the
friendship.
It's been crazy y'all.
We have had amazing times.
I don't really think we had alot of bad times.

Speaker 4 (05:08):
Not a lot of falling outs.
I feel like a few here andthere, based off of other people
tearing us apart when we wereyounger.
As older we have been able tobe like let's talk about it,
let's be rational.
Is it worth 20 years offriendship over some, he say,
she say when we can talk aboutwhat happened?

Speaker 3 (05:24):
I agree with that.
Carmen came into doing Shannonthrough me, which was really
really good.
Carmen, you can explain your mylove for Shannon.

Speaker 1 (05:36):
Because I love y'all.
I don't get to see Shannon asmuch as I would like to, but the
first time I met her I was likeI love her, I love At your
house, probably at my housewould like to but the first time
I met her I was like I love her, I love, I don't ain't no
telling at your house.

Speaker 4 (05:46):
It might have been at my house, um or out somewhere
probably the bar.

Speaker 1 (05:50):
We love the bar first of all, when it comes to my
friends, um, I'm not that friendwho has an issue with you
having a best friend or an issuewith you having like this
longer, deeper connection withsomebody.
I actually really appreciatethat because I want nothing more
for the people that.
I love my friends to have otherfriends who are as supportive,

(06:13):
and I think it's such abeautiful thing to go through so
many phases in life where youcan go from, like you said,
elementary- high school, goingthrough the bullshit, growing,
figuring out who you are.
And then sometimes you figureout who you are and you go
through things and then there'sa whole nother person unveiled
after that.
So I also have friendships thatare, you know, 20 years plus,

(06:34):
that I value so much.
So I really love seeing that iny'all.

Speaker 2 (06:40):
But when I met.

Speaker 1 (06:40):
Shannon, she was just one of those people who was
unapologetically herself,literally Every time you don't
get it.
She says exactly how she feelsshe will tell you a story and
have you cracking up and it bethe truth, it be the truth.
She has the most witty answersimmediately to everything.
So I just appreciate getting toknow you through Jessica.

(07:01):
I appreciate you and alsoknowing that my friend has
someone who's such an amazingfriend to her.
I love that about you.

Speaker 4 (07:09):
I ain't doing no crying bitch, because I'm
telling you Don't cry, please.

Speaker 1 (07:13):
Why put your hands away?

Speaker 4 (07:15):
bitch we good.

Speaker 3 (07:16):
We good Definitely good, it's just been outstanding
.
I'm not even going to lie, evenfor us coming together as three
we've always had a good time.
Yes, literally the bar what?

Speaker 4 (07:31):
we used to host at the bar.
Literally, I remember carmencoming in at my birthday party.

Speaker 2 (07:35):
I'm like thank you for coming friend, I don't know
you that well, but thank you youcame to my birthday party

Speaker 4 (07:40):
and whatever I do too is shannon coming completely
intoxicated?

Speaker 1 (07:43):
I'm just thank you for being here.

Speaker 3 (07:44):
I can't even open my eyes.
Thank you, I'm so happy Everysingle time.
So, with that being said, we tokind of get into deeper
conversation.
I've seen different, I guess,moments with you.
I've seen different timeperiods with you.

(08:06):
Definitely, what has been yourbiggest struggle with growing as
a person?

Speaker 4 (08:19):
My biggest struggle is always second-guessing myself
when I want to do something,needing that reassurance that we
talked about with anothercoworker.

Speaker 3 (08:27):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (08:28):
That's been my biggest struggle yet and I'm
still struggling, but you keepme motivated to like if you're
going to do it, do it, Do it.
Don't think back and I think Ibe doing the wrong things when I
say I'm going to do it, BecauseI do it for real.

Speaker 3 (08:39):
You be thinking about the wrong shit that you're
doing and I'm going to do itevery time.
We got to learn from myexperience and I got a lot of
them.
This is my year of learning andgrowing.
I'm telling you, I'm tellingyou, and.

Speaker 4 (08:50):
I'm appreciative, and Carmen will always give good
advice, not even knowing thesituation.
She'll well, as an adult, youshould.

Speaker 3 (08:57):
This is the logical, but the Shannon thing.

Speaker 4 (08:59):
Shannon going to do Shannon, shannon, shannon's
going to be Shannon.
I'm doing better, y'all forreal.

Speaker 3 (09:03):
It's okay.
It's okay Because we all gotthose different aspects to us
and we all got to, you know,accept people, we do, we do.
Like you said in the beginning,like you be on bullshit
sometimes and I'm not alwayswilling to be with your
bullshit- Not at all I mean, atthe end of the day, you're a
good person, and You're a goodperson and.

Speaker 4 (09:21):
I know that you're a good person.

Speaker 3 (09:22):
And I know that you really don't want nothing bad
for me, never and I don't wantnothing bad for you Never.
That's the good thing.

Speaker 1 (09:30):
That's rare.

Speaker 4 (09:31):
It really is, because I want my friends to succeed.
It's enough money for all of usto eat in this world, and I
feel like we're going to all doit, and this might be her moment
.
She's going to do the same Ahundred percent and you know
that.
That's why we're friends.

Speaker 3 (09:44):
You know that.
So, moving up with the, whenyou grew up, we grew up together
For real.
We had kids at a young age.
Yes, how did you feel about?

Speaker 4 (09:58):
that I'm still.
I still don't really know how Ifelt about it.
I was young and I felt like wehad good support systems.
Our support systems weresimilar, so having a good family
really helped me because Icould still be a teenager and
people hated me for that, hatedme for that that I could still
be outside and the baby was okay.
But I was 17, 17, 18 when wehad our kids.

(10:21):
We graduated and everything Wentto college.
That didn't work, but still Imade it.
So I feel like being a youngmother was.
It was a struggle and it stillis, because I kept having kids.
I didn't stop After one.
I had four of them kids andit's still a struggle, but I'm
growing and I feel like with theright people in my corner, I
have really molded into a goodmother for real.

(10:42):
With the drinking, the partyingand the mama shit, I balance it
all.

Speaker 3 (10:46):
Balance it out, and that was something that we
wanted to bring up today, likehow do you balance it out, how
do you find a way to balance out?
I'm still me.

Speaker 4 (10:55):
It's so hard, I haven't figured it out and I
have kids.

Speaker 1 (10:57):
Yeah, how do you deal with that, Like, how do you
balance?
You know wanting to be outside,as you said, or just wanting to
have fun.
Let your hair down a little bit, get away from the kids,
because I can relate.

Speaker 4 (11:08):
How do?

Speaker 1 (11:08):
you balance that.
And then the mom aspect ofthings all the responsibility
and obligations that you have.

Speaker 4 (11:16):
I feel like it's a struggle and I don't have a lot
of help from the fathers.
So for me it's me, my mom andmy grandma we thugging together
and that's really how I balancemine.
I go to work, work, both jobsand I got somebody at home to be
like all right, I got kids.
Just make sure when you gethere you get them situated and
you can go to your next job.
I got you and if I want to goout?
It's pretty much the samescenario that's good, but for

(11:38):
you with the kids, with the agegaps.
I've always wondered how do youdo that?
Because now I have a little kidand I got teenager.
How does that work?

Speaker 1 (11:45):
because they really don't like each other that much
it's tough honestly, because Ihave 16, 13 16 is crazy and just
turned six, so it's almost likeI have the set of big kids is
what I call them.

Speaker 2 (11:58):
I say right, the big kids and I call them the little
kids and the age gaps are likethree to four years for each kid
.

Speaker 1 (12:05):
But it's hard because teenagers are in a different
phase in life where my daughtercould be listening to something
that I don't want the littleboys to hear.
You know she's 16.
Like at her age, it's it's.
I trust that she isn't asimpressionable as someone who's
you know, six years old, nineyears old, just saying whatever

(12:27):
they hear.
Right, she understands a littlebit she understands, Like she
knows what she can and can't door can and can't say.

Speaker 4 (12:33):
Right.

Speaker 1 (12:33):
But it's tough sometimes because me and my
older kids may be joking aboutsomething or having a discussion
and then I have to rememberlike the little boys don't need
to hear this type of dark humoror they don't even understand,
you know.
And then it's hard too because,like my daughter, is 16.

Speaker 2 (12:50):
Right, but she doesn't drive yet.

Speaker 1 (12:52):
So every time I turn around it's I want to go here, I
want to go there.

Speaker 2 (12:56):
Can you?

Speaker 1 (12:56):
cash at me.

Speaker 4 (12:58):
And then I got the little boys.

Speaker 1 (13:00):
She's trying to drive .

Speaker 4 (13:01):
That's good.

Speaker 1 (13:02):
I may or may not be slowing the process down by not
caring about when I take her toget her license.

Speaker 2 (13:08):
Because I'm terrified .
No, for real though.

Speaker 3 (13:11):
No, for real.
One thing about me when I gotmy license, baby, I was gone.

Speaker 1 (13:16):
How much are you going to go with a car and no
money?
She's going to get your car.

Speaker 4 (13:20):
Well luckily for me, I had a car.
Yes, that's nice.

Speaker 3 (13:23):
You know, I was able to get a car and when I got my
car my mom was like where you at?
I said I'm in Richmond.
She said you where?

Speaker 4 (13:29):
Baby Ruby.

Speaker 3 (13:30):
Richmond.
Okay, get down.
Okay, I'm riding around and getit.
I'm riding around and get it.

Speaker 1 (13:35):
She better not ride around and get nothing.
I was shopping, no, but forreal.

Speaker 3 (13:38):
I really was shopping .
When I went out to Richmond mymama just didn't think I was
going to take that route.
She thought I was just going tobe around the area.
No, baby once you gave me themkeys, it's up, that's it.

Speaker 2 (14:05):
Well, I got something it's called the Life 360 app
and you can watch whereverthey're going and you can also
see their average speed.
So, even if she rides withsomebody else, I'm trying to
tell you.

Speaker 1 (14:07):
Not back then at your age.
I'm the one that's a back thenperson I was telling my daughter
when I was out and about youknow, with friends or whatever
whether I was driving or withsomebody like I had a pager.

Speaker 4 (14:19):
Not a pager.
Oh my God, Y'all didn't havepagers, did you Jesus?
What is a pager?

Speaker 1 (14:24):
Okay, I'm old.

Speaker 4 (14:26):
What is that shit?

Speaker 1 (14:27):
I'm aging myself.
But I told her I said I had apager, so if my mom wanted to
get in contact with me she wouldpage me, and then I had to go
to a pay phone.

Speaker 3 (14:35):
What?
The pay phone is even morediabolical than even having to
use a fucking payphone.

Speaker 1 (14:41):
She's like where are payphones at?

Speaker 4 (14:44):
I want to know what they did with them In the jail.
Is that where they at?

Speaker 1 (14:53):
Yes, they are in the jail.

Speaker 4 (14:54):
I mean, that's what I see when I see a payphone, I
just can't.

Speaker 1 (14:58):
They got video calls and everything now, tablets and
shit they done got real fancyfor the jail folks I might need
to go to jail.

Speaker 4 (15:04):
I done got blocked off of there.
Don't do nothing crazy or saynothing crazy on there.
You're pissing me off.
I just need some time, yourphone call.

Speaker 1 (15:09):
Is that what you're talking about?
I don't have to cook or clean.
Let me just go to jail you staythere for free, Tucker's jail,
either one's fine.

Speaker 3 (15:19):
I don't fuck to do.

Speaker 4 (15:21):
They do booty juice.
What Tuckers do booty juice?
If your ass get out of control,they're going to give you
something In your booty, yeah.

Speaker 1 (15:29):
It's a shot.
What's in the juice?
Something to make your ass slowdown?
Yeah, quick.

Speaker 3 (15:34):
Real quick Okay.

Speaker 1 (15:36):
We need that.
So what do you mean by?
They put it in your booty, theygive you a shot in your butt In
the butt.

Speaker 3 (15:44):
I don't think in your .

Speaker 1 (15:45):
Cheek.

Speaker 4 (15:45):
Oh, okay.

Speaker 1 (15:47):
Okay, so butt is not the right term when you say in
your booty I'm thinking moreabout.

Speaker 3 (15:52):
I don't want to think like that.
You never know.

Speaker 4 (15:55):
Ouch, get out of there.
I don't want it.
Why are you there?
Exit only.

Speaker 3 (16:01):
No, I don't even know why the conversation went there
.
No, we are trying.

Speaker 1 (16:05):
Because it's us.

Speaker 3 (16:06):
Exactly.
All right, yeah, we're going todo better, we're going to be
better, we're going to becomebetter people and we're not
going to say the things that wejust said about the butts,
unless you need booty juice.

Speaker 1 (16:23):
All right, enough about the booty juice.
All right enough about thejuice.
So, shannon, um, whatchallenges have you had?
We were talking earlier aboutum.
Jessica said that y'all wereboth young moms how do you think
that gets in the way of yourpersonal growth when you have
kids to take care of and thenyou're trying to figure out who
you are dating aside, what aboutjust your personal mental

(16:44):
health when it comes to beingyoung and figuring out who you
are trying to get through lifeand maintain and provide for
your kids?
Like how does?
What are your challenges whenit comes to that?

Speaker 4 (16:54):
I felt like it was a struggle because you got to
worry about school.
You're trying to everybody.
All your friends at that ageare going to college.
They living their best lives.
You got to figure out howyou're gonna work, come home,
take care of baby and still goto school, because everybody
puts a time gap on everything.
Okay, you gotta be done withcollege by 23 24.
You gotta be married.
You're supposed to be the idealperson.
Is that's just happening for meat 30.

(17:16):
Like it's no way I could havedone all of that successfully
back then and I felt like Itried to do it all and that's
why I I failed.
I failed horribly at first.
Like school, I was trying towork two jobs, go to school,
have two little babies, like Iwas pregnant, 18 and 21.
So I really did my big one withthat.
So I felt like that was a bigchallenge, so like, and then I'm
locked in in a you know, arelationship I've been in for 10

(17:38):
years.
That was toxic half of it.
So all of that played a part onmy mental and I felt like I was
so busy doing wife stuff thenand trying to go to school and
do the right thing that now whenpeople see me out, they get the
misconception of she wants tobe a hot girl.
Well, I've been in the housefor all the years that I was
supposed to be a hot girl.
So now I'm enjoying late 20s,early 30s and be in anything

(18:01):
serious.
I think that's, healthy thoughit is.

Speaker 1 (18:04):
You have to figure out who you are without somebody
over top of you trying to tellyou who they want you to be or
who they expect you to be,because if that's not who you
are it is okay to not be in thatrelationship with that person
and still figure out who you areLiterally.
I'm okay with being alone I'mdoing fine alone.

Speaker 4 (18:21):
about to get my degree.
I got four classes left.
Oh yes, about to get anotherlittle certificate for my
nursing.

Speaker 1 (18:27):
Not a little certificate.

Speaker 4 (18:28):
Wait a minute.
Well, it's a medicationcertificate to go with it, so I
can do something a littledifferent.
But yeah, and that's by myself,I don't.
I mean, I have companionshipbut I'm not in nothing that's
committed.
And yeah, that's on my back, onmy neck.
Oh no, I'm sleeping when I wantto sleep, baby, it's no.

Speaker 3 (18:44):
Okay, no stipulations .
Yeah, because for me, like Ihad my daughter two days after
high school graduation Literallyyou could imagine, big as hell
at graduation.

Speaker 4 (18:56):
Now why you look like a whale.
You better not have that baby.
That's all I'm thinking Like yoif graduation get canceled.
I'm like mom, can I get the carIf Jessica has her baby tonight
?
She's like no, yes, girl, I'mgone.

Speaker 1 (19:09):
Yes, period.

Speaker 3 (19:10):
So what was?

Speaker 1 (19:10):
the time difference between you having your first
and you having your first.

Speaker 3 (19:13):
I had um, I made 28th .

Speaker 4 (19:16):
Yes, and I had my baby in.
September.
So I had some.
I was only like six months whenwe graduated, but I graduated
but I was terrible.
I didn't make it half of theschool year cussed out.
The principal got suspended.

Speaker 3 (19:25):
I'm like I'm pregnant as a bitch and you, you're
really doing a lot on me rightnow you're stressing me out even
further, don't you think it'senough stress that I'm pregnant
already here?

Speaker 1 (19:34):
still on the honor roll still there.
Yeah, like a lot of peopledon't do that, my best friend
had a had my god son in um.
We were in the 12th grade, Ithink.

Speaker 2 (19:43):
That was at graduation, literally Like
almost two years older.

Speaker 1 (19:47):
I think I'd have to look back on that.
But yeah it's crazy how peoplecan push through and still do.

Speaker 3 (19:54):
okay, I think people cancel out people when they are
pregnant in high school.
Like you look at them from adifferent light.

Speaker 2 (20:03):
But nine times out of ten.

Speaker 3 (20:07):
Somebody else is doing it too.

Speaker 1 (20:09):
You know what I'm saying?
Well, I mean, it could be anyof us.
Yeah, it could be any of us.

Speaker 4 (20:12):
All my friends was sneaking and geeking.
We got caught up, yeah.
Really and by choice for me,like it was not, like I knew
what I was doing.
Mm fully aware, thought I couldbe a super mama.
That shit.
Huh, what it's hard.
What mom?
Please get this baby.

Speaker 3 (20:29):
I can't do it.
Please help me.
Everything that I was like atthat age.
It's just not appropriate it'sreally not.

Speaker 4 (20:35):
It's not and um.

Speaker 3 (20:37):
If I could say anything to the young ladies out
there like, save yourself forreal you're worth waiting for do
it, you're definitely worthwaiting for live your life, do
the things that you're supposedto do, have success.
You know I'm saying enjoy yourexperiences without kids, and
I'm not saying this to say thatI regret having my kids early.

(20:58):
I'm not saying that but whatI'm saying is you have a
different outlook on life andyou have different opportunities
when you give yourself thespace to grow and you know kind
of mature.
Because if we being honest, um,what is it technically?
You, your mind, your braindoesn't mature until you're like

(21:19):
25 26 years old.
Definitely.
So, what you doing at 17 and 18, you're you five years ahead.
You know what I'm saying Five,six, seven years ahead.
You got to do better than that,because it's not.
It's not conducive to what youwant to be or conducive to what
you can be Exactly.

Speaker 4 (21:39):
So I'm not saying that it's impossible, but I'm
saying that it is extremely hardto be a mother at 18 definitely
and don't have no baby and youdon't have any support because
you're really going to strugglelike it's not just the baby,
something cute for pictures.
You got to live with that baby,go to school with that baby
work around it.
You trying to sleep in the twoyo is on your head throwing your

(22:01):
phone at you.
That was just the other day forme.
Like, please, I just want tosleep.

Speaker 3 (22:05):
What are you doing to me?
Okay, going to do whatever shewant to do.

Speaker 1 (22:09):
Exactly.
It's just whatever she wants todo.

Speaker 3 (22:11):
Okay, it's not easy.
Sometimes I want to just go inthe room and cry.

Speaker 4 (22:16):
I just want to experience college Like the
college college.

Speaker 3 (22:21):
I don't know if I and that's another thing like I
don't know if I really wanted toexperience.
I think I was saved from that,because I feel like if I was in
college I would have beenwilding out what.
I was and I went to collegeevery party did you have a time
I'm out of time and the time.

Speaker 2 (22:37):
I had a great time.
Honestly, I love that.

Speaker 1 (22:39):
I'm glad I had a great time, I mean I, I had my
daughter younger um but I was.
I was married at the time forthree years before she came
along, and I thought that I wasdoing everything right.

Speaker 4 (22:52):
I got married at 21.
How's marriage.

Speaker 1 (22:56):
I've learned a lot.
Actually, I think marriage is abeautiful thing.
I will say, in regards totiming with kids, I think that
people should wait until they'relike 30 plus.
I agree.
Just because there is so muchthat you have to establish
financially.
Kids are so expensive.
And you really want to be ableto give them so much opportunity

(23:17):
, not have them have to dealwith you having crazy schedules
and being stressed about moneyand relationships.
Even, too, you know your kidsum feed off of all of these
phases that you go through whenyou're young, and they just have
to be a witness to it andexperience it with you while
you're trying to figure it outand I think that's hard yeah.

(23:37):
I gotta apologize to themsometimes like I'm sorry, I um I
picked wrong or I'm sorry Iexposed you to this.
I've had that conversationparticularly with my older two
kids just to try to explain tothem my intentions when I
entered into a relationship andthen, also that I realized my

(23:59):
wrongs and what they should andshouldn't be exposed to Right,
that's true.
So if you can wait and you canhave things lined up, as hard as
that is to do, I think thatthat's better.
That's the best advice to give.
Figure yourself out, I'm goingto be completely honest.
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (24:15):
I think about how much your like for us, our
firstborns, have really grewwith us, Literally.

Speaker 4 (24:24):
Because we were so young.
A kid raising a kid, yeah.
And if I didn't?

Speaker 3 (24:29):
have my mom, my dad, my supportive sisters, like I
really don't know where I wouldbe.
To be honest, and don't get mewrong, their dads are super dads
, so I might have picked rightthere.
You know what I'm saying.
We're not together but, howeveryou know, they do what they're
supposed to do for their kids.
So, regardless of what you know, I'm always going to you know,

(24:52):
say that they're doing a goodjob, because that is necessary.
I feel like a relationship witha father is so important.
So for me a lot of people when Iwas younger and I was seeing
other people go through theirrelationships and how they
interacted with their kid'sfather or whatever.

(25:13):
It was like you really actinglike that to them?
Like why are you acting likethat to them?
You know, I'm saying but I canunderstand why.
But I also I take me out of thesituation and I've been doing
that since I was younger.
It's never about me, it's aboutthem, kids, that's true.
So, with that being said, likeyou can't, you can't harbor

(25:36):
bitterness about whateversituation that other individual
put you through.
You gotta sit right here andsit in it and understand that
this kid still has to flourish.
This kid still needs to havesome type of success, some type
of you know great foundation tosay you know, I'm a good person
and I'm gonna succeed in life,that's true.
But when you be bitter and yougo back and forth with your baby

(26:00):
daddy and you're not doing thethings that you're supposed to
do, it really, it really affectsthe child and that's a that's a
message that really need to goout there like stop stop, stop,
stop, please stop, because it'sserious it is.

Speaker 4 (26:15):
I ain't even gonna lie to you, I'm still struggling
with it when I sit right hereand I feel how much a child
needs their father.

Speaker 3 (26:23):
I'm never gonna be the person that's gonna say
don't let that child go, needstheir father.
I'm never going to be theperson that's going to say don't
let that child go with theirfather.
You know what I'm saying?
Because she needs that.
It's a different sternness withthe father than it is with the
mother.

Speaker 2 (26:37):
And.

Speaker 3 (26:37):
I'm starting to learn like now with mother and my 12
year old.
Now it's like just taking thetime to sit down and talk with
her, rather than holler at heror say certain things to her,
like she's still a teenager,when she's going into being a
teenager and she needs that timeto really sit with what being

(26:58):
said to her, because sometimes Isee that kids will kind of like
hold on to stuff and they don'treally talk about it, they
don't they don't know how to?

Speaker 1 (27:10):
I think, so Right.
I feel like like what you weresaying about me having older
kids and then smaller kids.

Speaker 4 (27:15):
Right.

Speaker 1 (27:15):
I have to try to attack not attack but I have to
try to navigate different levelsof emotional intelligence with
my kids.
Me too, so with the older ones,it's like continuing to
encourage them to communicate,continuing to tell them that I'm
not judging them.
To tell them that I'm notjudging them, you can talk to me
about anything, but then, whenI have a nine and a six-year-old

(27:37):
, it's like trying to teach themthe foundational part of
communication the foundationalpart of emotional intelligence,
where it's like well, you cantalk to me, and then I think it
has a lot to do with yourreaction to what they say.
Because you can sit and tell akid any day.
You can talk to me aboutanything, but you tell me that

(28:01):
and you say you can talk to meabout anything and then I I tell
you something and you go off.

Speaker 2 (28:04):
Yeah, or you go and tell another person.
You know they're not going tobe comfortable, so it's really
about meaning what you say, andjust completely um showing that
in your actions.

Speaker 1 (28:14):
yeah, yeah, because, like my daughter, like I said,
she's 16.
She's my only daughter.
It is like so important to meto not lose her to social media,
not lose her to some boy thattells her she's pretty and smart
.
She's already heard that she'snot impressed.
She's not impressed by yousaying oh, can I take you to

(28:34):
wherever?

Speaker 3 (28:35):
No she's already been here there and wherever.

Speaker 1 (28:39):
But it's so important to me for her to know that she
can really talk to me aboutanything.
And that's easy to say, but Iwill tell y'all, and you know,
ari is approaching that agewhere you have to have these
hard conversations your son aswell, right.

Speaker 4 (28:53):
Yes but I have three girls, your you have to have
these hard conversations.
I'm not ready.
Your son as well, right he's?

Speaker 1 (28:56):
talking to me.
Yes, but I got three girls yourson is the oldest.

Speaker 4 (28:57):
Son is the oldest.
He going to be a teenager.

Speaker 1 (28:59):
So it's easy to say you can talk to me about
anything.
But when they sit there andtalk to you about anything,
Literally.
You have to watch your face.

Speaker 4 (29:09):
You have to watch your reaction.

Speaker 1 (29:16):
You have to not get too aggressive.
You have to make sure that youdon't necessarily share that
with somebody else so that theyget the wrong feedback.
It is so delicate, it is um inthe beginning to establish that
comfortability with yourteenager and then I have another
child, who's you know?
Nine and six and thesix-year-old is like well, he
doesn't talk so much about hisfeelings yet, but how do I show
him from such a early age?

(29:37):
because I've already learnedfrom my daughter okay if I talk
to her about anything.
As she gets older she'scomfortable having those hard
conversations, but then I haveboys under her so it's like my
oldest son is like ew, I don'twant to talk to you about that,
you know.
And I'm like, no, let's talkabout penises, let's talk about
it.

Speaker 4 (29:54):
Let's talk about it.
My son asked me and I was justlike oh shit.
Why do I feel like this in themorning when I wake up.
Mom, why is it like this?

Speaker 1 (30:04):
I just make light of it.

Speaker 3 (30:06):
Just give me a second , I'm not ready.
Just one second.

Speaker 4 (30:09):
You have to take a deep breath.

Speaker 1 (30:17):
You have to take a deep breath.
I did, I was like and just notreact.
You have to seem unbothered bythe questions.
I can't I know, for me, likewith my son, he's super, he's
super shy he is so embarrassedmine too so I try to just make
it like it's no big deal, likewe talked about the feeling in
the morning pitching a tent,basically and I was like well,

(30:37):
it's a circus.

Speaker 4 (30:40):
I just try to make it like it's nothing, I just make
it.

Speaker 1 (30:42):
you know, it doesn't need to be taboo.
Anything that happens naturallywith your body.
It does not need to be taboo.

Speaker 4 (30:48):
That's true.

Speaker 1 (30:49):
Then they're uncomfortable about things they
can't even control, that's true.

Speaker 3 (30:54):
Y'all see my glass and y'all glass, okay, sipping
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Speaker 1 (32:35):
All right, y'all, we're back.
We're going to talk to Shannona little bit about relationships
, situationships, wherever she'sat, because we all take
different journeys when it comesto that, no matter the age, no
matter if you have kids or not.
So, Shannon, where are you atin the relationship space?
What's going on with you, girl?

Speaker 4 (32:54):
Love life is fucked up, all right?
Nah, just kidding y'all.
I'm single and dating.
So you know, if you isinterested, please shoot your
shot at me, not if you isinterested.
I didn't see it at first.
I didn't see it, but shoot yourshot.
I currently I really I'm justchilling Like I had a
situationship and it didn'treally work, maybe on my end.

(33:16):
So I'm just chilling Like Ihave a person that I'm
interested in, but I'm not goingto say it's a serious situation
yet because I'm still figuringeverything out what's best for
me, what's best for my kids,what's healthy for me and what's
toxic, healthy for the kids?
Yeah, because I tend to attractto a certain type of

(33:36):
individuals and maybe that's notmy soulmate.
That's why I'm still out hereat my big grown age single.

Speaker 1 (33:43):
It's okay to be single.

Speaker 4 (33:44):
It is, and I'm promiscuous and that is an issue
with a lot of men and I'mdominant and I'm independent.

Speaker 2 (33:51):
Men cannot handle women, that got their own
everything.

Speaker 4 (33:53):
I got my own everything why?

Speaker 1 (33:55):
does it make you do that?
Because that's the songPussycat doll.
So what do you mean bypromiscuous?
I feel like people are going tojudge you.

Speaker 4 (34:05):
I've been judged already.
I don't care about it.
One thing about my friend shedon't give a damn.
If I shoot my shot and I see abetter homeboy, I'm sorry I shot
at both of y'all, I'm sorry ifyou're mad.
Please take this as an apology.

Speaker 3 (34:19):
Okay.
So when you say, when you see abetter homeboy, what do you
mean by see a better?

Speaker 4 (34:21):
homeboy.
I think I just mean look better, because I really don't even
really haven't been into thedepths that I need to be into
Girl get your shit together Forreal.
I'm doing better.
You know, look good ain't goodand it ain't good for you.

Speaker 3 (34:35):
I have learned that.

Speaker 4 (34:37):
That's why I have cut everybody off.
I'm currently dealing with oneperson Period and I'm just
trying to figure it out why, why, are you dealing with only one
person?
Because there's no need to keepgiving yourself to people and
you don't see anything in it.
You're wasting these peopletime and I really need to stop
wasting people time, becauselove is serious and love will
get you killed and it's notsomething I'm willing to die for

(34:59):
it's not something I'm willingto die for.
So I'm gonna stop playing withpeople and think, making them
thinking we're gonna dosomething and we not, like I
know it's fun, but it's notforever, so why am I wasting
your time?

Speaker 3 (35:09):
I mean that's true, though.

Speaker 1 (35:10):
That's true though.
So what made you focus on thisperson?

Speaker 3 (35:14):
that you're currently focusing on.

Speaker 4 (35:17):
He applied pressure.
He applied pressure and he'sconsistent.
Ain't nothing better than someconsistency and he validates me
and everything around me,including my kids, and he
understands that this is whatcome with it.
I can't have all her time.
I know she got kids and she gottwo jobs.
She trying to fix her house andgo to school and work two jobs,

(35:38):
like I understand.
I get in where I fit in, butI'ma still check on her during
the day.
I might work at 12, but I'macall on her every 15.
Make sure she alright, makesure her well being when your
mental at today.
It's those little things thatother people don't ask, that
he's gonna ask and he gonna keepcalling you okay.
Well, you sounded off.

Speaker 3 (35:54):
I'm just trying to let y'all know something y'all
heard it, y'all heard it applythat pressure baby, because I'm
telling you when thatconsistency just goes down the
drain like just get the fuck outof my face don't, don't what
you doing to me every fuckingday.
Because what are you doing?

Speaker 4 (36:10):
bitch, come pick me up, get ready and be ready at
eight.

Speaker 3 (36:14):
Clearly you're not doing shit, and when you not
doing shit, that means you ain'tdoing shit.
Exactly so that means you'renot making money, you're not
doing anything to betteryourself.
You asking me every day whatthe fuck am I doing?

Speaker 4 (36:26):
Knee pad on.
What are you doing?
Knee to rag.
I'm done with niggas, that kneerag.

Speaker 2 (36:30):
I'm sorry.

Speaker 4 (36:33):
This man got his own car.
I'm not doing that.
Okay, I understand I have a car, like it's just not at our big
grown ages.
But I tend to attract a youngercrowd.
I guess that's because that'swhat I put off, that's the
energy I'm giving, so that'swhat I'm attracting.
So I'm still putting myself indifferent situations to see,
like if I'm going to attract adifferent population because, I
mean, I am a big grown age butthat.

Speaker 3 (36:54):
But to me I feel like that's good too.
It is.
It's not singling nobody out,but at the same time it's like
you're enjoying your life.
You're experiencing things thatother people may not experience
.
So for you once you get to thepoint bitch, you might be 35,
and we at the wedding hey mightbe your wedding before mine, but

(37:15):
we gonna be there and I'm gonnabe dancing mad as hell.

Speaker 4 (37:18):
Mad as hell because you done married somebody you
called your best friend and itwant me.
Mad as a bitch, but I'm gonnadance.
Don't eat this little weddingfood and shit that I'm here for.
I love a wedding.
I love a good wedding If it'snot in the cards for me cool Now
when I say I want all myfriends to get married.

Speaker 3 (37:36):
I want you to get married and be happy.

Speaker 4 (37:38):
Right.

Speaker 3 (37:42):
I don't want you to be married and you just being
married because your dude gotmoney or you're married because
somehow, some way he's just orfor the kids.
I'm not doing shit, Furnessingyou, making you think that he's
just gold Like I want you to besincerely happy because, at the
end of the day, we are all herefor a little bit of time.

Speaker 1 (38:00):
We don't know how long we're here.

Speaker 3 (38:02):
We don't know when we're going to perish.
You have to do everything thatyou have to do for you.
Don't sit here and waste yourlife messing with somebody that
don't really want you.
That ain't really for you,that's true.
You, that's just trying to youknow what they trying to do.

Speaker 4 (38:19):
Stop playing with yourself Trying to get your good
stuff.
I'm done giving that shit outy'all no more.
Good, good.

Speaker 3 (38:26):
Absolutely not, but for real, like really sit there
and think about what you want,because sometimes we waste a lot
of our years worrying aboutsome dead shit.

Speaker 4 (38:36):
Yeah, worrying about the fact that Giving life to a
dead situation Stop giving lifeto it.
I'm done with it.
Let that bitch die.

Speaker 3 (38:42):
The CPR has been over , bitch Let it die Two years ago
.

Speaker 4 (38:46):
Let it die Cold blue.
I'm okay with saying I'm 30 andsingle, because you know what,
fuck it.
And okay with it and I'mdefinitely okay with it.

Speaker 3 (38:58):
When I was single, I was okay with it.
Literally, you know what I'msaying Because, at the end of
the day, I'm just going.
I'm going to do what I have todo for me and my kids, exactly.
I'm not sitting here.
That's not something that Iworry about.

Speaker 4 (39:15):
We can't take that shit with us.
You cannot.
That shit is going to be hereand your family, whoever got it,
going to get rid of that shit.
Now what I?

Speaker 3 (39:21):
will encourage you to do is make sure you got a life
insurance policy.

Speaker 4 (39:24):
No that's for real.

Speaker 3 (39:25):
Make sure you got some type of medical insurance.
Just in case, make sure yourkid is straight the day when you
leave, you're leaving them tofigure shit out for themselves.
Literally, yes, they're gonnahave somebody that's gonna be
over top of them and andwatching over them and stuff
like that, but it's never gonnabe that mother to daughter or

(39:45):
mother to son relationshipanymore.
That's true, so you have tomake sure that your kids are set
up for success period or justset up for dealing with turmoil
right, that's true.

Speaker 1 (39:58):
A lot of times when people, people pass, and I can
say this from experience um thatI've seen anyway is that people
pass away or get really sickand um.
Their family is overcome by thefinancial aspect of things when
it comes to um whatever carethey receive.
Uh, you know, before they passwhen it comes to whatever care
they receive.
Before they pass when it comesto debt follows you.

Speaker 4 (40:21):
That's true.
Does it just go away?

Speaker 3 (40:22):
Absolutely no, baby, when you die and you still got
to pay on that car.
That car's still trying to findyou, whether you're dead or not
.
You ain't dead.

Speaker 1 (40:31):
To them, the debt is still there, the debt is there?

Speaker 3 (40:32):
People die and leave.

Speaker 4 (40:33):
And more.
The debt is still there.
People die and leave Morecommonly in the black community,
which sucks for us because wedon't set safety nets up.
We don't think about shit thatwe should, mostly because we're
undereducated by our own parents, because I wish you would have
told me not to fuck up my creditwhen I was 18.
I don't blame them but I wish Iwould have known it was other

(40:54):
routes.

Speaker 1 (40:55):
Financial education is really.

Speaker 4 (40:57):
Teaching my kids now.
Yeah, no, baby.

Speaker 1 (41:00):
Really important.
I see all the time in the fieldthat I work in.
I'm a business office managerbut I work in hospice.
Oh, hospice I see all the timethat families.
I see that they set up theirfamilies for success so that,
when the inevitable happens,that you know what's happening.
Basically, yeah, I mean, in someterms, people expect death

(41:25):
sooner than later based ondiagnosis or whatever.
And you do have to set yourpeople up so that they're not
only just grieving, excuse me,but also don't have to deal with
the financial burden of what'sgoing on.
But we're not going to get tooheavy.
Let's get back tosituationships, shannon.

Speaker 4 (41:47):
Do you stay in a situationship because the sex is
good?
Yes, you do.
I did, didn't care about whathe had going on.
Yeah, just if that's good, I'mokay with that.
Like I'm taking trips in mybonnet in the weather, don't
care, do not care.

Speaker 1 (42:03):
I think it depends on you said do you stay in
situations because of?

Speaker 4 (42:08):
Yeah, even when you know it's bad, it's a bad
situation and you know,ultimately, this situation,
that's what it is, it's nothingbut that.
Do you stay, because I have.

Speaker 1 (42:20):
I think I have stayed in a situation where I knew it
was just that I think, as longas you have communicated
effectively, you let that personknow that this is what it's
going to be and this is all thatit's going to be.
There's nothing wrong with it.
Sometimes you can have your fun.
As long as you're single,you're not lying to people or
being deceptive.

Speaker 4 (42:40):
I'm transparent.
Yeah, if you're transparent,I'm very transparent.

Speaker 1 (42:43):
You know, I think you should, as long as you are
fully aware of what you'regetting yourself into on both
ends for that person and thatother you, then that's okay.
It starts to get a littletricky if somebody catches
feelings Me then that's okay.
It starts to get a littletricky if somebody catches
feelings Me.

Speaker 4 (42:56):
It starts to get a little tricky In 30 minutes.
30 minutes, it only takes me.
30 minutes, it takes me 30years.
It takes me 30 minutes.

Speaker 2 (43:01):
I love you.

Speaker 4 (43:02):
Why did you leave?
I love you.
No, I don't love anybody.
You're right though.
No, logically speaking no, butlike me speaking with I love you
in 30 minutes, I don't love you.

Speaker 1 (43:15):
In 30 minutes, as a matter of fact, I'm gonna tell
you are you here?

Speaker 4 (43:19):
get on my nerves, I don't care, you get on my nerves
, yeah.

Speaker 1 (43:23):
I'm not in that place anymore.
But you know, everybody has apast, everybody has that's true.

Speaker 4 (43:27):
I'm growing, y'all I'm growing.

Speaker 1 (43:30):
I definitely spent since 2020.
I've been single up until abouta little less than a year ago
that's exciting.
I unapologetically lived amokay with having a situationship
.
It was fun while it lasted butat the same time, you know, like
I said, I think as long asyou're transparent, as long as

(43:52):
you make it clear what yourintentions are and what they're
not, that's all you can do.
Besides that, if they gooutside of those boundaries,
then it's time to yeah, it'stime to just go ahead and move
on.
I've ended my situationships,I'll still let y'all know, but
that was fun as fuck it is fun,but then you know when you get

(44:13):
to a place where you want truecompanionship, somebody that
makes your energy, feelcomfortable and vulnerable and
safe.
I think that that's when youknow to kind of focus on one
individual.

Speaker 4 (44:26):
Yeah, so how do you feel, friend, about
situationships?
You know I had a million ofthem, not a million.
You know, now I'm doingdifferently.

Speaker 3 (44:34):
Yes, I've had situationships.

Speaker 4 (44:38):
Do you stay because the sex is good, even if they
broke, because you know I'mgoing to give you a ride and I'm
going to do whatever.
But like, what are we doing?
Like we're old now we can'tkeep doing that shit.

Speaker 1 (44:49):
But that's the thing, though, about situationships
they do not get the best versionof you.

Speaker 2 (44:52):
They don't, honestly, they don't.
You say something about.

Speaker 1 (44:54):
I'm gonna give you a ride and you be giving them a
ride, but mad as hell about itMad as fuck with my body and I'm
like, bro, why do you need aride?

Speaker 4 (45:01):
Why do I have to get up and drop you off?
This shit is stupid.
Can you drive to?

Speaker 3 (45:04):
my house Right Situationships for me.
It's crazy that I have to saythis, but every person that I
have encountered like they maynot I may realize, like they're
not for me, but they're stillgood people- yeah, me too Like
good people, just young, youngminded young, like it's no beef

(45:26):
with the people that.
I used to have situations withit's no beef like anything, like
it's just.
I'm not gonna talk bad aboutyou.

Speaker 4 (45:34):
I love y'all.

Speaker 3 (45:34):
It was so fun y'all know it was fun, but, baby, I
can't do it this year, pleasedon't be in me, please, pretty
much different place in my life,y'all because I mean in all
honesty, some people, when theyget in situations they just
don't.
They're not ready for the typeof companionship that you're
looking for and that's okayquick, like I'm not mad at that,

(45:55):
because you're probably not myperson anyway no, I'm just
having fun stop wasting thatman's time at this age I'm proud
.
I'm pretty much in a phase ofI'm not trying to waste nobody
else's time because I'm nottrying to waste no more of mine
period.
So yeah, with me, not with metaking more control over my time
.
Yeah, it's more so like I don'twant that, like the word

(46:15):
control is important morecontrol over my time is more so.

Speaker 1 (46:16):
like I don't want that, I think the word control
is important.

Speaker 3 (46:19):
More control is important.

Speaker 1 (46:20):
Yeah, Because I think when you're super young you
kind of go with whatever vibe,they're on.

Speaker 3 (46:26):
You're going with the flow.
That's me still, well notanymore, y'all.

Speaker 2 (46:30):
This year is different.

Speaker 4 (46:31):
You have to set your boundaries.
I do, I do, I do got to set astandard.
I do, I do gotta set a standard.

Speaker 1 (46:35):
I ain't have one and that doesn't necessarily mean
that everybody is marriagematerial or that that's where
you're gonna go with everyperson but I think that once you
realize that somebody is worthspending your time with,
somebody is worth opening up to,being vulnerable or whatever,
and if they show you thatthey're a good partner, they're
supportive or whatever, it'sokay to be like.
You know what?

(46:55):
I think I'm gonna give you alittle, a little bit of me that
they're a good partner, they'resupportive or whatever.
It's okay to be like you knowwhat I think.

Speaker 3 (47:00):
I'm going to give you a little bit of me Not in what
you were saying What'd you sayFat mom, fat mom, is that her
name.
Big mama, big, what they callit.

Speaker 4 (47:07):
It's a moose knuckle Like you would glow, say, yeah,
I don't fucking rain.
Yes, friend, it is verified.
But beyond that, let's, let'swhen I stand up, you gonna see
it.
Let's move on, though.

(47:28):
Y'all cause for real.

Speaker 1 (47:29):
I really wanna be serious this year.

Speaker 4 (47:31):
I wanna be no ain't much back there, but I wanna be
serious this year.
Make sure you see it from theback, back, back, back back.

Speaker 3 (47:35):
I want to be serious no Ain't much back there, but I
want to be serious this year,make sure you see it from the
back.
You got a real moose knuckle ifyou can see that bitch from the
back.

Speaker 4 (47:42):
Nah, because what I'm lacking in the back I'm packing
in the cat You're packing it inthe front.
I'm packing it in the cat.
Okay, you better believe it.
Don't fuck around with thesepeople.
Oh my God, I am weak.
Do you hear me?

Speaker 1 (47:56):
I knew I was going to have a moment like this with
you.
I'm doing better, y'all I swear, though that was all that's all
old.

Speaker 4 (48:01):
They wanted to talk about it, so I talked about it,
because I really don't careabout the shit I've been through
, because I done been throughwith some embarrassing ass.
Niggas got me, you got me bitch, you got me bitch, but you
won't get me again.
You won't get me a second time.
You got me out here wildin',but I'm not doing that this year
because I feel like if somebodyfuck with you, they gonna show
you that.
They gonna show you who theyare immediately.

(48:23):
And then them red flags, baby,I put them in my pocket and keep
going.
That's the problem.

Speaker 3 (48:30):
And since you brought that up so diligently, you did
that so diligently.

Speaker 1 (48:35):
Thank you.
What are your red flags?
I don't have none, because I'mgoing to put them in my pocket
and keep going.

Speaker 4 (48:39):
I don't care about them.
Look at them, bitches.
If they look good, the red flagdon't matter, but I'm telling
you, the red flags really do,y'all the red flags matter
whether you look good or youdon't, Nigga look good.
I ain't got nothing going on,nothing I don't of a damn how
good you look if you ain't got.
Fuck it, fuck it I'ma slap thatface, cause his mama probably
bored dumb and I'ma slap her too, and I'm not fucking with you

(48:59):
if your mama buying your shitperiod.

Speaker 3 (49:02):
You know what?
I'm saying now don't get mewrong birthdays and shit like
that.
You know your mama wanna buyyou something that's cute.

Speaker 4 (49:07):
No, if your mama if your mama, yes, if she's fully
involved.
Baby, do not DM me.
I don't want no man that hisbest friend's with his goddamn
mama.
I got it.

Speaker 1 (49:19):
I got the titty tape.
Please Right here.

Speaker 4 (49:22):
Please, Because I done dealt with that firsthand
and I'm saying y'all better slapthe mama.
Oh, but you know it is what itis Moving on.
Don't slap her Red flags,though is for real y'all.
Communication is a red flag.
A nigga that's gonna text youcrazy.
I knew from the jump you wantedone for me, baby.
You can't even send a sentence.
What are we talking?

Speaker 3 (49:40):
about, oh my god, what's up?

Speaker 4 (49:41):
beautiful lady Bitch, you better go head, first of
all, the people that can't textcorrectly is so and so, so and
so and so yeah.
Got a nigga going crazy.
What the fuck is nikkaN-I-K-K-A Nuka's?
Crazy as hell that Nuka goingcrazy over that.
Nuka.

Speaker 1 (49:58):
I can't say that word guys, you're blocked.

Speaker 4 (50:02):
You did that, thank you for being illiterate.

Speaker 1 (50:04):
Listen, I will not utter those words just so y'all
know for the record.

Speaker 4 (50:09):
She can say what she want y'all.
She can say what she want y'all.
I will not utter the N-word.
She's been verified.

Speaker 1 (50:14):
Verified.
Verified.
I will not play around with theN-word Do it.

Speaker 4 (50:17):
if you want, I dare you.
No, I will not.
I dare you.

Speaker 3 (50:20):
You said knuckle.
She said knuckle With a K-K-A.
He said N-I-K-K-A.

Speaker 4 (50:24):
And I said don't worry about it.

Speaker 1 (50:29):
Don't you worry about it baby.

Speaker 3 (50:31):
What's crazy.

Speaker 4 (50:33):
I love that she look like a Spanish with that hair.

Speaker 3 (50:36):
I look Puerto Rican.

Speaker 4 (50:39):
When you deal with somebody that can't spell.
And you was an English teacher.
Baby, you have to go, you haveto go.

Speaker 3 (50:50):
How do you look at yourself in the mirror when you
realize that?

Speaker 4 (50:54):
you was fucking with somebody that could not really
spell.

Speaker 3 (50:57):
Now listen.
I understand Sometimes, youknow, people just can't spell.
That's a thing.
It is a thing.
I'm out for someone else.

Speaker 1 (51:04):
They all need you to be a spelling bee winner.

Speaker 4 (51:07):
Spade.

Speaker 3 (51:08):
Win the spelling bee before you talk to me.

Speaker 4 (51:12):
Yo, simple ass, Don't come texting me with that
bullshit, no more, ain't.
No, nigga you beautiful, linkup you gonna do.
I'm not doing none of that,absolutely not.
Fuck that message.

Speaker 3 (51:20):
So is that the red flag.

Speaker 4 (51:21):
That's definitely a red flag.
If you can't text baby andnothing else, we can talk about
it.
What are we talking aboutexactly?
What do you mean?
What are we talking about?

Speaker 3 (51:29):
No, I was just saying at that point, because you
killed the conversation when youcouldn't spell bitch, it's not
that hard.

Speaker 4 (51:35):
Autocorrect is there for a reason.
Use it.

Speaker 1 (51:38):
It's there.
Some people go out of their wayto ignore it.
Push the button and ignoreautocorrect.
Stop ignoring them.

Speaker 3 (51:42):
So I know you wrote N-I-G-G-A and you're going to
put K-K-A.

Speaker 4 (51:51):
Listen Over here.
Don't send it.
I don't want it.
Keep that shit.
Let me see, stupid ass boy.
I'm going to send you, I'mgoing to send you somewhere.
I realized I was too old.
When he sent me that, I said ohyeah, not for me baby, have a
good day.

Speaker 1 (52:02):
Have a good day.
I have to ask you what the whatthat mean.

Speaker 4 (52:05):
What is that abbreviation?
I don't know what it is bitch.

Speaker 2 (52:11):
I don't care, I'm not interested anymore.

Speaker 3 (52:15):
once, I don't know, there's a lot of abbreviations
that I don't know.
None of them.
I'm going to be completelyhonest.
It was one I can't remember.
I really wish I, when Iremember what it is, I'm going
to tell y'all on the nextepisode.
I'm asking my kids because whatmy abbreviation in my head?
Not go with the sentence.

Speaker 1 (52:32):
I'm like what are you calling me?
I'm offended, I'm not gonna lie.

Speaker 3 (52:36):
Oh, okay, it must be the old age, or something.

Speaker 4 (52:39):
Another red flag y'all is not a good job Like not
even a job and you ain't got ajob at all, and you in between
houses with your fucking babymama oh hell no, and you ain't
had a job in.
Say that again.
In between houses with yourbaby mama, y'all roommates, you
are involved with her do not hitme up.
Oh you, fucking her, fucking thedamn socks off that bitch and

(53:01):
she pregnant next year.
I'm not doing it, don't hit meup.
If you live with her, do notcause that man don't live with
me and you won't live with hercause I'm not doing it no in
between, when you figure it outcome to me here, bitch.
I didn't hurt you.
That's didn't hurt you.
That's a red flag, becauseyou're talking about I'm hurt,
what?

Speaker 1 (53:18):
What?
Y'all weren't supposed to bequiet.
You said very specific.
I just don't catch it.

Speaker 4 (53:24):
It is specific.
But don't come to me hurtbecause I didn't hurt you.
Come to me healed because I'mtrying to make you better.

Speaker 1 (53:30):
But to convince me that you are healed that you
living with your baby mama isnot a thing.

Speaker 4 (53:35):
It is, though.
It's a real thing.
A lot of people are doing it,she walking around in her bonnet
and her muumuu.
That is a certain level andy'all are having sex.

Speaker 3 (53:42):
There is a certain level of intimacy there Sex how
they do it on YouTube andFacebook.

Speaker 4 (53:51):
Freaky ass shit.
I'm telling you, come to mehealed, because hurt people,
hurt people and that's myfavorite saying, I'm going to
stress it all the time hurtpeople hurt people.

Speaker 3 (54:00):
Okay, drop that gem.
Hurt people, hurt people, hurtpeople.

Speaker 4 (54:02):
I done, did it, I done, done it and I'm done with
it.
And you don't come to me hurtbecause I'm not coming to you
hurt.

Speaker 3 (54:08):
I'm coming to you healed, run away, fuck yeah if
you ain't right right run away.

Speaker 1 (54:12):
Being healed is really important too.

Speaker 4 (54:14):
It is, and it's hard, it's hard but it's.

Speaker 1 (54:16):
I think that healing is a process like an ongoing
process.
It is Because I would neverlook at somebody and say, oh,
I'm healed from this situation.

Speaker 4 (54:24):
Right, I'm delivered.
It's ongoing.
It is.
I'm still healing, but I'mbetter.
It's an ongoing struggle, Ithink Better.

Speaker 1 (54:31):
Because no matter what you're always going to, no
matter what you are always goingto, no matter what situation
you're in or if you get into asuper healthy relationship,
you're still going to havethings that happen that kind of
bring things back to theforefront.
I've had moments, I know, in mycurrent relationship where In
the back of my head I'm likenormally I would react this way,

(54:52):
or my brain goes straight to acertain place and I have to use
discipline to make sure I'm likethis does not apply to this
person.

Speaker 3 (55:01):
No, for real, this person has not given me any of
these.

Speaker 1 (55:05):
Literally, you have to talk to yourself.

Speaker 3 (55:08):
What's that lady named that be on podcasts doing
all types of crazy stuff?
Which one?
The auntie Rick Ross' baby mama?

Speaker 1 (55:15):
She literally Tia Kemp.

Speaker 3 (55:16):
Literally.

Speaker 4 (55:17):
I do love her.
She's great For real.
She's very blonde.
Get to it.

Speaker 3 (55:21):
I've had that situation happen recently and
I'm just like I had to take thetime to just step away from the
situation.
Yeah, hold on, wait a.
To just step away from thesituation.
Yeah, like, hold on, wait aminute.

Speaker 1 (55:32):
And it can be something simple.
Like you just go somewhere andlike any other time.
Yeah, any other time.

Speaker 4 (55:40):
I'm going to do it.
I'm going to Kirk out Probablyslap your ass but I'm doing
better I do.
And one thing about it I'mdoing better, though y'all, I'm
not going to slap your butt.

Speaker 3 (55:48):
I'm healing, not healed Healing.

Speaker 4 (55:50):
That's good, though Not healed, and I can't accept
that though I'm not going toaccept the bullshit I was
dealing with, but I mean I willslap your ass because I'm still
on that, it's still in me.

Speaker 3 (56:02):
The crash out is still in me.

Speaker 4 (56:03):
As you can see, we still got a crash out.
I'm just doing better, yeahhealing not healed.

Speaker 1 (56:08):
We're trying to get better.

Speaker 4 (56:10):
Not healed, but I'm healing.
What is healed though I don'tknow if that's a thing I don't
know.
I guess healed is like healthyLoving in a relationship that is
not Appeared to be toxicBecause everything can be toxic
and bringing out the toxic stuffin you, because I would
honestly say, the relationshipthat I'm in currently Doesn't
bring out that toxic stuff.

(56:30):
It doesn't trigger you, youknow what I'm saying Not to say
that my last relationship washorrible.

Speaker 3 (56:33):
Doesn't bring out that toxic stuff in me.
Don't make you want to be hisass.
Yeah, not to say that like mylast relationship was horrible.
I'm not saying that but to saylike I'm just at peace with all
decisions that I make.

Speaker 2 (56:43):
I love that and that just feels, so much better.

Speaker 3 (56:44):
Like when I go to sleep at night, I don't give a
damn.

Speaker 4 (56:46):
You know what I'm saying I keep snoring with my
bonnet on.

Speaker 3 (56:49):
I mean even when I was I need to start wearing a
bonnet.

Speaker 4 (56:53):
I wear it sometimes.
Sometimes I don't give a fuck.
I wear it sometimes Go to sleep.

Speaker 1 (56:58):
But do you think that's because you worked on
yourself and you're just not asbothered?
Or do you think it's acombination of that and the
person that you're dealing with?

Speaker 3 (57:06):
Can I bring up something?
Yeah, that kind of like might,you know, create some diversity
in the conversation, shocked youin a relationship.

Speaker 4 (57:15):
I'm shocked you in a relationship.

Speaker 3 (57:16):
I'm going to be the first one to fucking say it.
I'm glad you said it, friend.
You beat me, tell it.

Speaker 4 (57:20):
Tell it because you know I don't fuck with people
Very nonchalant, very going tocarry a nigga how they carry her
.
She is the nigga, okay.
I'm not Okay relationship.
I was knocked off my feetliterally on the flow play with
somebody trying to figure someshit out with me, but no, happy
for you though.
Oh, thank you, happy for you.

Speaker 1 (57:37):
I love that um stages baby literally.

Speaker 4 (57:40):
So I'm not there yet.

Speaker 3 (57:42):
I hate that I'm saying this on camera, but at
the end of the day, it needs tobe said because somebody else
might feel the same way I feeland we need to talk about it.
So for me, I I feel as though Idon't trust people.
I don't, and I feel like thatgives me the avenue to take the
route where I'm not going tocrash out about you because I'm

(58:02):
not putting 100% trust in you.
So if I don't put 100% trust inyou, then if you do some fuck
shit, I'm not going to crash outabout you because at the end of
the day, in the back of my mind, I'm already like you know it
could happen.
I feel like every woman needsto do that.

Speaker 4 (58:20):
I want to be like that.

Speaker 3 (58:21):
For one to me, I feel like why would you trust
another human being with yoursafety and security and the fact
that they won't do something toyou when in all actuality they
can, but you don't trust Godenough to?

Speaker 1 (58:40):
Shit.
You know what I had to learnand I think we had this
conversation it was like a lightbulb that went off for me
because I think we put a lot oftrust in real estate and people,
and what I had to learn isother people do not dictate my
life At all.
What I had to learn is otherpeople do not dictate my life.

Speaker 4 (58:56):
At all.
I had to learn it.

Speaker 1 (58:57):
For example, if a man you know, however, my
interaction is with him, orwhatever his expectation of me,
I'm not going to dictate my lifeor my love life.
Based on that, what I had tolearn, and I think I told you
this, is I had to learn to trustme.

Speaker 2 (59:12):
Because I think that told you

Speaker 1 (59:13):
this I had to learn to trust me, because I think
that people are going to comeand go, people are going to be
who they are.
But, like I had to learn that Ihave to trust my discernment
and.
I think for a while, while Iwas single since 2020.
Is that me?

Speaker 3 (59:28):
too, we're going to put that on timestamp, just so
we know 2020 been single since2020.

Speaker 4 (59:33):
Me too 2025.
Me too.
In case there's any questions,shit gets better.
Okay, I don't win.
I need a date Like now For theculture and for the community
2020 is where it was at.

Speaker 1 (59:44):
However, what I was going to say is I had to learn
that I think, actually where thetrust issue was was in myself.
I agree.
Yeah, because I chose.
Like people are going to comeand go and they're going to
present themselves.
However they're going topresent themselves, I'm a dog.
Sometimes it's genuine,sometimes it's with a motive.
She's stressing me out everyday.

Speaker 3 (01:00:06):
Doing better.
I'm a dog.
I'm a dog.

Speaker 1 (01:00:08):
So Shannon, what I can say to you is and Jessica,
we had this conversation already.
I said that I had to learn totrust myself, literally, with my
choices, with truly knowingwhat I want, also knowing what I
have to offer for anotherperson.
Because let's be real here Sex,a pretty face, being able to

(01:00:30):
cook, those are like.

Speaker 4 (01:00:32):
That's easy, easy.
Everybody should be good atthat.

Speaker 1 (01:00:35):
If you're not, bitch, you fired how do I make you
feel when you're going throughfamily issues?

Speaker 2 (01:00:39):
how do I make?

Speaker 1 (01:00:40):
you feel, because I think a lot of times we focus on
what the other person has tooffer us.
But I think that what do I haveto offer you?
And also, once I show what Ihave to offer you, I have to
just trust that.
Either, also once I show what Ihave to offer you, I have to
just trust that, either you'regoing to receive that and
embrace it and feel like you arefortunate.

Speaker 3 (01:00:58):
That's true.

Speaker 1 (01:01:00):
Or you're not going to show me certain
characteristics that make youdeserving of that.

Speaker 3 (01:01:07):
I can't wait until we get a man on this show so we
can ask them like Please bringme back when the man come
because I'm going to ask himeverything, why y'all act like
y'all act, stupid-ass boys, what?
Makes you cheat, you know even.

Speaker 4 (01:01:20):
What is the excitement when you have?

Speaker 3 (01:01:21):
everything at home when you're with somebody.

Speaker 4 (01:01:23):
That's true.

Speaker 3 (01:01:24):
When you're with somebody.

Speaker 4 (01:01:25):
I didn't do it and you're planning.

Speaker 3 (01:01:28):
What makes you say this bitch,getting on my nerves so
motherfucking much, I want tocheat and then it be with a dog.
Hoe, like, please don't piss melike somebody didn't know, with
a big ass.

Speaker 4 (01:01:43):
That's it right there .
They don't look for apersonality job or nothing.
The bitch got 85 kids andeverything else going on just
doing what she want to fuckingdo.
When we cheat, we cheat.
When we cheat, we cheat withintent.
We cheat because we ready topiss our nigga off.
This man got a car, two jobs, abusiness, llc.
He doing his own thing.
Why he going to cheat?
Bitch, you made me mad becauseyou done cheated with a nigga

(01:02:07):
that got way more going on hepaying your bills.
I mean I'm just, it's justnobody forever.
But I mean you might findsomebody If you do.
Put them on to me too.
Not put them on to me too, thismotherfucker but honestly, y'all
, if you find somebody that'sdoing that, you better keep them
, because I'm going to get themif not.
But we really we cheat withintent.

(01:02:28):
I feel like that and I'venoticed that because when I
cheat, I'm not going to cheatwith a nigga that's doing worse.
I'm going to cheat with a niggathat's going to be like boom,
he got a job, bitch, he got twocars, a house.

Speaker 3 (01:02:36):
He doing something with his life.

Speaker 4 (01:02:37):
What is your punk ass doing Nothing over here Pissing
me off?
Men don't put a lot into it.

Speaker 1 (01:02:46):
If you don't cheat.
I think they compare themselvesto they doing.
Do they have money?

Speaker 4 (01:02:49):
You want to cheat with this and that he a lame.
I don't care he doing betterthan you, baby, it's lame if
he's doing better, but when?
Exactly.

Speaker 1 (01:02:56):
What are you when it comes to the women that men
cheat with?

Speaker 4 (01:02:57):
it does not matter, it don't, they can just be
willing.
It's like a fuck, it's a social, it's a relief, it's a vent.

Speaker 1 (01:03:11):
He don't have automatically follow the line.

Speaker 4 (01:03:12):
I'm trying to do better, though it's no nagging.

Speaker 1 (01:03:14):
Right, If I have to nag, that means I'm teaching you
how to be and I'm not teachingnobody Can't raise a man.

Speaker 3 (01:03:24):
With how you said that you approach men or
whatever.

Speaker 4 (01:03:26):
When you try to cheat or whatever, you know what I'm
saying Trying to cheat I.
I'm trying to cheat, I ain'tgoing to baby, I now understand
why men say the things.

Speaker 3 (01:03:30):
They say like, oh well, we just cheat just off the
, you know.

Speaker 4 (01:03:34):
Off the GP.

Speaker 3 (01:03:35):
No.

Speaker 4 (01:03:35):
I'm cheating because, baby, what you got going on,
because maybe it's somethingbetter, like it's an alternative
motive.
Like I'm not just cheating withyou and you as broke as the man
I'm with.
So then do you in turn go andtell her, the man that you
cheated?

Speaker 3 (01:03:54):
on Damn right.
That's why this nigga got a car.
He got a good night's at hishouse.

Speaker 1 (01:03:56):
He living in the hills?
When I tell you that yes, doyou have to ask?

Speaker 4 (01:03:57):
Look, at my face.

Speaker 3 (01:03:58):
I'm telling you she don't give a fuck.

Speaker 4 (01:04:00):
I don't, but y'all, I'm doing better America, Please
, america, don't judge me and Iwon't judge y'all if y'all don't
judge me, cause I didn't.
We're not judging.
I really have been through alot of situationships and the
shit is crazy.
All my stories, everything iscrazy.
But I really am a genuineperson.
But, like I just been, I haveran through some crazy ass men

(01:04:21):
and it just is what it is.
It's all experiences, alllessons.

Speaker 3 (01:04:25):
I don't have nothing bad to say a few of y'all
motherfuckers won't write, Won'tworthy Was not worthy, but you
know.

Speaker 4 (01:04:35):
I gave y'all the wife treatment, gave y'all the
everything.

Speaker 1 (01:04:38):
Let's talk about that .
Hold on Wife treatment let'stalk about that.

Speaker 4 (01:04:42):
Meals, coochie, fuck, fed and financed.
Big mama, big mama, ain't nolittle cat, fat cat, big mama,
ain't no little cat, fat cat.
I do, I'm telling you.
It's just the truth, though,carmen, and bald, because I'm
going to wax that baby.
But back to what you weresaying.
How did you get off the mic?

(01:05:03):
Cut the mic, dj D-Man.

Speaker 3 (01:05:11):
No, for real.

Speaker 4 (01:05:19):
For real.
All I'm hearing is shannon'scoochie.
I'm sorry if you ain't justcoochie, it's coochie, coochie,
big mama, big when you think ofthat, that's my lotto did it.

Speaker 3 (01:05:24):
She was thinking about you when she said that's
good, let me stop talking shity'all.

Speaker 4 (01:05:27):
I'm really I promise, if you know, you know, if you
know, you know, if you know youknow, I don't even know anymore.

Speaker 1 (01:05:35):
It's crazy hey look y'all oh, I was gonna ask,
shannon, what would make you,you know, lock it down.

Speaker 4 (01:05:43):
What would make?

Speaker 3 (01:05:44):
you focus on one individual.

Speaker 4 (01:05:47):
I think it would be.
It gotta be the persistence itgotta be.
You gotta be able to holdaccountability, baby, cause we
grown as hell, don't?
You can't just be doing shitand not having no real reason
for doing it.
We not 21, 22, we are late 20s,30s.
You have to be accountable, youhave to have a plan and I'm not
saying you gotta be the richest, but you have to be working
towards something.

(01:06:07):
You can't just be comfortableunless you already rich, living
your dream life like I.
I feel like you have to havesomething going on.
I'm not in it for the money,because I got my own.
I work two jobs, I'm in school,I'm doing my own thing.
I don't need your money.
So when?

Speaker 3 (01:06:19):
I get with somebody.

Speaker 4 (01:06:20):
It's going to be with somebody I want.

Speaker 3 (01:06:21):
And can I just say for the record, my girl been
working two jobs for some years,over 10 years.
Okay, I.

Speaker 4 (01:06:28):
I'm not asking you for nothing.
I can't reciprocate.
So if you say no to my bag, I'mgoing to get the bag anyway,
because I just wanted to seewhere your heart was at.
Baby, I can buy it myself.
Honestly, kids don't need adaddy.
I do that part, that part.
Daddy, daddy, daddy, daddydaddy.

Speaker 1 (01:06:43):
Big mama, but that's what's on my mind right there,
because.

Speaker 4 (01:06:46):
I'm super independent as well.

Speaker 1 (01:06:48):
Whether a man is in my house or not, the bills will
be paid.

Speaker 4 (01:06:51):
Literally, there will be groceries, nice clothes,
iphones.

Speaker 1 (01:06:55):
All of the things are taken care of regardless.
But I have found that being anindependent woman and saying you
don't need a man, Scared forniggas Is a little emasculating.
So there's a fine line betweenallowing a man to be a man,
accepting help, accepting thathe just wants to do something to

(01:07:17):
contribute, and then also beingindependent, because me
personally, I have never asked aman for a dollar.

Speaker 4 (01:07:23):
Literally.
I don't feel like this, I don'tdo the whole.

Speaker 1 (01:07:27):
can you get my nails done, or can I borrow?

Speaker 4 (01:07:29):
I'm going to shoot the shot.
You want a picture of me?
You're going to send me themoney for the nails.
You want a picture of me?
You gonna send me the money forthe nails and the toes.
You wanna see everything?
You bitch, send it.
Yeah, what do you mean?
But even if you don't send it,i'ma get it done.
That's on you.
I mean like yeah, when niggassay you got your nails, them

(01:07:51):
toes, you didn't pay for them,did you pay for them?
You?

Speaker 3 (01:07:53):
didn't pay for them, but did you pay for them?

Speaker 4 (01:07:54):
I had a man come back and say, but I'm gonna Put them
in my mouth.
Oh, he got a picture For sure.

Speaker 3 (01:07:58):
He got a picture I ain't gonna lie.
My free ass, freaky ass girl.
I'm doing better y'all what yougonna say.

Speaker 4 (01:08:06):
The other word what?

Speaker 3 (01:08:09):
was you?
What was you saying, carmen?
I don't even know, I'm sorryy'all.

Speaker 4 (01:08:14):
I'm sorry, I'm doing better, shannon, it has been
real.
Thank you Y'all.
Tap in with my bitches Causethis show is lit.
It's nice.
I'm gonna come back one dayLike subscribe and get with them
.
Press that damn bell and dowhat you do.
Get with us, shannon, we loveyou.
Fuck with them, don't fuckwithout them, okay period.

Speaker 3 (01:08:30):
You heard what I said .
Sometimes y'all can fuckwithout us.

Speaker 4 (01:08:34):
Y'all get what I'm saying, though, no matter my
moment.

Speaker 1 (01:08:38):
Shannon, thank you for coming.
It's always a pleasure, it'salways a ride.
We absolutely love you.
Yes, we love you, love you,love you.

Speaker 4 (01:08:44):
Can I have that?
Because you ain't drinking?
It really was.
Thank my friends couple.
Yes, thank you, but it's notreally up.
It ain't to the rim, baby, it'sjust like a quarter cause she
don't need no more but listeny'all.

Speaker 3 (01:08:57):
Last thing I wanna say this is my best friend.
I love her to death.

Speaker 4 (01:09:00):
I love her so much we have been through a lot
together.

Speaker 3 (01:09:03):
She has been there through all of my good times, my
bad times, all of it.
Vice versa.

Speaker 4 (01:09:09):
When I tell you that she's literally I'm gonna get
bailed out by her, and if shedon't, y'all say something.

Speaker 3 (01:09:16):
Literally, she's a genuine gem and to be honest, I
mean it's nothing else to say.

Speaker 4 (01:09:24):
I love y'all, Thank y'all for having me and thank
y'all because Carmen came intomy life and she's great.
And for real, though, when theyget rich, I'm going with them.
Yes, you are I mean, there's noquestion, even as a hype man
bitch, I'm going to be on thestage jumping whatever I need to
do.

Speaker 3 (01:09:38):
And she can do anything.
She do massages.
What else you do?

Speaker 4 (01:09:42):
Them freaky ones too.
No, I'm just kidding.
I'm just kidding.
Tell them about your OnlyFansthat don't have nothing on it.

Speaker 1 (01:09:50):
OnlyFans subscribe, please.
Thank you, she got pretty feetapparently.

Speaker 4 (01:09:55):
They paying for them toes baby.

Speaker 3 (01:09:57):
They paying for them and they like for somebody to
say nasty, okay, all right.

Speaker 4 (01:10:01):
That's it.

Speaker 3 (01:10:02):
That's it y'all.
Thank you y'all.
We love y'all.
Have a good night.

Speaker 4 (01:10:11):
We love y'all.
Thank Please come again.

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