No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery

If you’ve ever felt like your porn addiction makes no sense—like you’re a good man, doing your best, yet you keep falling into the same cycle—this episode will hit home.

In today’s conversation, I sit down with Chandler Rogers, founder of the Relay app, to unpack why it’s not actually pleasure that keeps you stuck in the addiction cycle… it’s pain. Specifically, it’s the pain you haven’t been taught how to face.

We talk about the hid...

This is Part 3 of this series—and today, we’re getting into the best part:

How to actually heal and transform sex in marriage from a painful trigger for porn cravings into a sacred, joyful connection.

If you’ve listened to Parts 1 and 2, you know we’ve covered:

• Why sex in marriage can sometimes feel like a relapse
• How porn rewires your brain’s sexual pathways
• The neuroscience and psychology behind emotional ...

Today we’re heading into the deep end of a conversation most men never get to have—but desperately need.

Why does sex with your wife sometimes feel like a porn relapse instead of the healing, intimate connection you long for?

If you’ve ever felt:

• Triggered by sex with your spouse
• Overwhelmed by cravings for porn after marital intimacy
• Disconnected and guilty about sex even though you’re married
• Spiritually as...

Today, we’re diving into a topic that might just feel like the elephant in the room for countless men trying to stay free from porn:

Why does sex in marriage sometimes trigger porn cravings… instead of satisfying them?

If you’ve ever thought:

• “Shouldn’t sex with my wife help me fight porn cravings—not make them worse?”
• “Why do I feel guilty, disconnected, or even triggered after marital sex?”
• “Am I broken—or...

A raw, redemptive conversation with Tina Huggins about healing religious sexual shame, restoring trust in marriage, and breaking the real roots of porn addiction. 

What if your deepest struggle with porn addiction isn’t about lust—but about unhealed shame?

In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Tina Huggins, a restorative family mediator and certified divorce coach who shares insig...

We often think of a rock bottom story as the moment someone relapses, destroys their marriage, or hits crisis during active addiction. But what if rock bottom doesn’t come at the start of recovery? What if it shows up years after sobriety, long after you’ve quit porn?

In this raw and deeply personal episode, I share the story of my real rock bottom—a collapse that came after I had overcome porn, but before I had truly healed.

This is...

Do you feel sexually broken from years of porn addiction and compulsive masturbation? Like you've damaged your body, your mind, and your marriage—and there’s no way back?

In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, Jake Kastleman explores the reality of self-inflicted sexual trauma and what it truly takes to overcome porn addiction. You’ll learn how to stop watching porn, confront your shame, and begin the process ...

Is your gaming habit quietly fueling your porn addiction? In this episode of No More Desire, Jake Kastleman explores the surprising neurological and psychological overlap between video games and porn use. 

Drawing from real neuroscience, addiction psychology, and philosophical insight, this solo episode breaks down why so many men stuck in compulsive porn cycles also spend hours gaming—and how both behaviors reinforce the same addic...

If your wife seems pissed off and turned off—constantly irritated, emotionally distant, and disinterested in sex—you’re not alone. For many men, this emotional tension fuels the desire to escape into porn. But what if the real issue isn’t her moods... but your missing leadership?

In this episode, Jake Kastleman is joined by men’s coach and author GS Youngblood to help you fix your relationship, overcome porn addiction, and become th...

Why do you keep relapsing with porn—even when you want to quit?

In this episode of the No More Desire addiction recovery podcast, I uncover the hidden mental traps and false beliefs that sabotage your efforts to quit porn and stay sober for good. We’ll dig into the inner critic and inner escapist—two misunderstood parts of your psyche that actually think they’re helping you, but are keeping you stuck in the shame cycle.

You’ll learn ...

In today’s powerful conversation, I welcome psychotherapist and Infinite Recovery Project founder Jason Shiers. Jason shares his deeply personal story of addiction, trauma, and his 20+ year journey through recovery — before a radical spiritual awakening changed everything.

Together, Jason and I dive into:

• Why trauma is often the hidden root of addiction.
• How traditional recovery models pathologize normal human responses.
• What it re...

Can a marriage truly heal after porn addiction and betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode of The No More Desire Podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith—coaches, authors, and a couple who’ve walked the road from addiction and deception to deep connection and true intimacy.

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Struggling to quit porn, control your cravings, or stay sober long-term?

In this episode, I share one of the most powerful—but often overlooked—tools for porn addiction recovery: gratitude.

Learn how daily gratitude can:

• Rewire your brain using neuroplasticity
• Reduce porn cravings by activating your prefrontal cortex
• Replace the shame cycle with emotional clarity and purpose
• Build a lasting recovery mindset based on joy, not just dis...

What happens when you're stuck at home, in pain, and totally alone? For most men recovering from porn addiction, that’s the ultimate relapse setup.

But for Steve, a client in my recovery program, this moment of isolation became the most spiritually grounded, mentally focused, and connected time of his life.

In this episode, I share the story of how Steve stayed sober after surgery while his wife and kids were out of the country—...

How can you replace porn addiction? The answer is not a mystery. Essentially, it requires you to build the skills of a porn addiction recovery mindset and lifestyle. It also requires consistency.

If recovery were a car, these recovery skills would be the engine, and consistency would be the fuel. You can rewire your brain and stop watching porn using these skills and this consistency.

You may have achieved a week or two of sobriety a...

My conversation today is with George Haymaker. We discuss the neuroscience of quitting porn and other addictions, and how to change habit patterns and rewire your brain. 

George is an inspiring man with an incredible story. He’s helped many people heal their brains and change their habits for the better. He is a certified neuroscience coach & consultant, and an impressive entrepreneur with a long history of successful business v...

It can be very hard for many men to stay sober from porn on vacations - both during and after. We are thrown out of our structure and norm, and many of us can feel far more impulsive and prone towards porn addiction. 

This can seem counterintuitive, as you'd think that vacation and travel would make it easier to stay sober. I talk about why this is not the case for many people, why post-vacation can be a time of serious relapse...

When your husband is addicted to porn, you can feel powerless to stop it. You may ask: How do I stop my husband from watching porn? Is there something I can say or do that will convince him? If only I could find the right words, maybe he would finally feel motivated and stop hurting me and our family like this.  

Anger and feeling the impulse to control him is normal. Feeling judgmental, hateful, and appalled by his behavior is norm...

There are a lot of voices out there telling you that all you need to quit porn addiction is more discipline. They say you just have to want it bad enough, fight hard enough, and exert enough self-control. But if you’ve ever tried to stop watching porn using willpower alone, you already know—it doesn’t work. In fact, relying on willpower actually fuels porn addiction. Today, I’m going to show you why, and more importantly, what work...