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November 29, 2025 41 mins

Show Notes

Welcome back to Nomadic Diaries for part two of our conversation with Ruth Van Reken, the influential voice behind "Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds." Joined by Megan Norton-Newbanks and your host Doreen Cumberford, Ruth dives deep into cross-cultural identity, belonging, and generational perspectives.

Key Topics Discussed

  • Navigating the "Where Are You From?" Question
    • Ruth shares practical ways globally mobile people can gracefully answer this challenging question.
  • The Social Dynamics of Identity
    • Examining why traditional questions about origin can feel alienating, and how curiosity and cultural sensitivity can create bridges instead.
    • The importance of focusing on connection and stories rather than details.
  • Generational Differences in Storytelling and Belonging
    • The panel reflects on how different age groups approach storytelling, sharing, and forming connections.
  • Unique Strengths of Third Culture Kids (TCKs)
    • Ruth outlines new research highlighting cultural competency and linguistic skills as hidden superpowers of TCKs.
    • Adaptability, bridge-building, curiosity, and global enthusiasm as signature traits in careers and communities.
  • Creating a Sense of Home and Belonging
    • Ruth reflects on cultivating belonging wherever she’s lived, emphasizing human connection and the joys of multicultural friendships.
  • Advice for Parents Raising TCKs
    • Ruth offers actionable guidance: nurture family traditions, recognize each child's unique gifts, and always foster a sense of agency and choice.
    • The importance of honoring both shared humanity and individual uniqueness.
  • Final Thoughts on Belonging
    • The episode closes with a focus on collective belonging, inspired by a quote from Mother Teresa.

Notable Quotes

  • “You can make it a fun question.”  Ruth Van Reken
  • “I am more interested in the connection than the details.” 
  • “Our biggest challenge is not only belonging—but belonging to ourselves.” –Ruth Van Reken



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