Not For Everyone

Not For Everyone

Not for Everyone is a podcast hosted by a hater (Caroline Winkler) and a lover (Jess DeBakey). We're just two sweet kooks getting carried away being ourselves, waxing poetic on every topic we care too much about. Come for the humor, stay for the honesty. We know we’re not for everyone, but we bet we are for you. __ Subscribe on Youtube and follow on Instagram: @not4everyonepod

Episodes

July 3, 2025 63 mins

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Remember the game Rush Hour? Ever feel like that’s just your day-to-day life? This week Jess is picking up exactly what Caroline is putting down, and if you’re anything like the two of them (i.e. anxious, people pleasers, short), you probably will too. Commiserating over their recent stressful work weeks...

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Do you feel that heat wave? We’re not bothered. It’s time for Jess and Caroline to enter the dating waters once more, to discuss listener’s burning questions about all things modern love. They start by talking through a love interest who doesn’t communicate well, weigh the pros and cons of sharing location wit...

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Kooks, do you ever find yourself overwhelmed by a missed call from a long-distance friend? Or inundated with requests for in-person hangs? Jess and Caroline talk through feeling crazy for complaining about friendship, even though the social overwhelm is STRONG right now. J offers some tips to a friend who called in to the pod about thes...

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Well babies, we’ve come full circle. Or, at least, Caroline and Jess have! In this episode, they discuss seeing an ex in a happy relationship, getting an apology from an ex years later, and trusting your feelings in ...

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Has your friend said something weird to you, and you don’t know how to deal with it? Same with Jess. This week, Jess and Caroline dive deep into when to expend energy on a friendship, and when to rein it in. They ruminate on when it’s beneficial to communicate, when it’s better to rest, and when it’s best to pause to figure out what you really want to say. It’s ...

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It’s the first ever edition of Hot Not Bothered Summer! In this series, Jess and Caroline answer listener’s burning questions about all things dating, and they start out with a bang. They discuss giving men the benefit of the doubt when you’re jaded, how to use dating apps in an intentional way, the best things to ask on a first date, and how to handle a situationship.

Plus, they dive a little deeper into the “hunt” of dating, what ...

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Babies, it’s time to get in touch with your rage. This week, Jess and Caroline talk about feeling rage for yourself and on behalf of others, why we’re actually happier in our 30s, and the freedom you feel when you don’t worry what others think about you.

Then a listener WHATADO leads them to discuss the chasm betwe...

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Turn out the lights and get comfy, because today is a total sleepover-vibe episode. Jess and Caroline discuss weird-shaped cookie cutters, baking reality tv, and the satisfaction of untangling a necklace, be...

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Good morning, sunshines! This week, Jess and Caroline talk about a new friendship hack: the couple sleepover. They ruminate on casual, frequent hangouts, talk about spontaneous outings, and consider the sunken cost fallacy when it comes to an event not working out the way you envisioned.

Plus, they chat about what they have trouble spending money on, a few thi...

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Icks. We all have one, we all are one. Jess and Caroline read listener submissions that, quite frankly, are indefensible—but that’s the point. You can’t explain an ick. They talk about anything from men’s gross feet to people drinking full glasses of milk to someone bragging about eating a bunch of exotic fruit. War...

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    Babies, let’s talk about relationships! But not just romantic relationships—Jess and Caroline are going deep on how families deal with conflict, hanging out with friends without your partner, and how siblings affect us. You heard it here first: sibling relationships, and not just birth order, are going to be...

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    It's a kooky day in the neighborhood as Jess and Caroline bounce through topics from maintaining bangs to hating at a bridal fitting to blush trends and more. But don't let the to...

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    Ever wondered if you’re in the wrong? Jess and Caroline are talking through listener submissions for a new ~segment~ called “Am I the Hater?” to get to the root of each problem. They discuss aski...

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    Hello babies! Have you ever flirted to get something you want? Jess starts the episode off talking about her trip to NYC and a flirting method she used to get her boyfriend on the flight back. This leads to a deeper conversation about seeing your partner flirt with someone else, how the cliches of “finding love” might be true, and advice for friends that actually...

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    Well, there’s no easy way to say this: the episode just does start out with a lot of bathroom horror stories. But it’s human, babies!! You get it. Jess and Caroline talk about doctor’s office shenanigans, public bathroom woes, ancient Roman ways of using the bathroom, and a few of their own experiences where they didn’t...

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    Your hater and lover are back together again! After debriefing on the past two week’s episodes featuring friends, Caroline and Jess shift into how their families wo...

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    Jess has told us the greatest stories about her best friend Kae, and now finally, Kae joins for a Love Letter episode! The two discuss maintaining their friendship over a 15-year perio...

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    It’s about time we had another Hater Hour…and in this episode, Caroline is joined by Not For Everyone Editor Prince Abi! They’ve got lots to say about listener submissions, including discussions about freelancing, working together while maintaining their friendship, building a life post-religion, making meaningful adult friend groups, and navigating romantic partnership dynamics.

    Plus, they read their first DMs to each other, answer...

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    It’s time for a new segment! Introducing Am I The Hater, a take on Reddit’s famous Am I The Asshole threads, where listeners write in about moments where they can’t tell if they’re in the wrong. Jess and Caroline talk through a submitter’s conundrum of talking too much when a partner is not in the space to h...

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