Go hard, live soft

Silver tounges, scamming, and going on trips with no plans or budget, this is how you get a soft life...

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Because ain't nothing but a cheap bang baby to low
down G.
So we crazy Death grow againstthe label that pays man
Unfatable.
So please don't try to fakethis.
But I'm back to the lecture athand.
Back to the lecture, or legend,at hand.
Today's story is going to be abit interesting because, if you

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will follow me and Yemi, we knowhow to enjoy life, and enjoy
life to the fullest.
Some of you might ask how I do,Maybe not you.
I know I enjoy life to thefullest From what you see on

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what we share on our socialmedias and if you've been able
to interact with us in real life, how's that fake life if we've
experienced it?
Instagram is fake.

Speaker 2 (01:03):
I'm not saying my Instagram is fake.
I'm just saying like.

Speaker 1 (01:05):
Instagram.
So my birthday parties fake orreal?

Speaker 2 (01:09):
I'm not saying you're Instagram, I'm just saying like
Instagram in general, why arewe talking about general, and
this is a story about me and you.
Excuse me.
How can I let you continue then?

Speaker 1 (01:22):
I'm just saying.
I'm confused when we speak ingeneralities, when this is an
antidote about me and you'rejust past.

Speaker 2 (01:28):
Yeah, sure, Sure, sure sure.

Speaker 1 (01:30):
Continue.
Sure, damn, now I lost my turn.
I thought so.
If you paid attention to ourlives, whether it's via social
media, whether you've actuallybeen there, enjoying life in all
its aspect is something that Iguess I would say we'd love to
do.
There's been so many timeswhere people have comment on a

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video that I've taken of Yemi,because I am secretly her
videographer and I just don'tget the same in return.

Speaker 2 (02:04):
I don't think that should be a secret.
If you want the job, you shouldtake the job and fully commit I
don't want the job.
Oh OK.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
It should just be something that we do for one
another, but Yemi doesn't.
She seems to be a littleself-centered.

Speaker 2 (02:18):
I don't think that's true.

Speaker 1 (02:21):
I don't know, because every time I ask for a photo,
you'd be like this is this, isthis is you.
You try to be sexist and yousay this is what this is.

Speaker 2 (02:29):
You as a boy.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
Yeah, that's and that's what I'm saying.
So, yemi makes it verydifficult for me to get a photo,
as you can see.
But back, shumbo, back to thesubject matter at Han, because I
can't get a photo.

Speaker 2 (02:41):
I just feel like there has to be a way for men to
say certain things and I don'tknow, I don't want anyone to be
like oh so can you sexist ornothing, or like that.
But, you are Hearing a man belike oh my.

Speaker 1 (02:54):
Let me get a photo.

Speaker 2 (02:54):
No, no, no, I wasn't even going to mention that, even
though that's what we'retalking about, like hearing a
man say oh, I'm about to get myhair done.

Speaker 1 (03:03):
How else would you say that?
I'm about to get my hairbraided, I'm about to get a
haircut?
Yeah, see what I'm sayingSexist.
That don't even make sense.
And you follow a whole bunch ofinfluencers who are gay.

Speaker 2 (03:18):
Oh, so what are you trying to say?
Are you trying to?

Speaker 1 (03:21):
For you to make that.

Speaker 2 (03:22):
Are you trying to smear my name?

Speaker 1 (03:24):
No, I'm not, Because I was literally just saying.

Speaker 2 (03:26):
sometimes it sounds crazy, it just sounds crazy.
But it's like Yemi, take apicture of me.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yeah, yemi take a picture of me.
You're the one.

Speaker 2 (03:34):
You shouldn't need that many pictures.
You're a man, men don't reallytake too many pictures.

Speaker 1 (03:40):
You're lying to yourself.
There's male models, so what doyou say to them?

Speaker 2 (03:43):
People take pictures of them professionally.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
Models are professional, so are you saying
that a man should just have nocatalog for their life?

Speaker 2 (03:51):
I don't know what I'm saying is when you asked me to
take pictures of you.

Speaker 1 (03:54):
Which is not often.
Well that's the point.

Speaker 2 (03:58):
That's subjective.
What are we talking about?

Speaker 1 (04:02):
today.
The story I was going to getinto is that Yemi and I have
lived a life that I would sayshows a lot of intentionality, a
lot of fruits to the labor, butalso it shows a certain aspect

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of this coined term that iscalled soft life, whether you
see us traveling the world andenjoying some of the fine dining
that we have or some of theexperiences that we have gotten
to experience.
Some might say we are scammers,some might say I've never heard

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that before.

Speaker 2 (04:48):
Some might say I've never heard a money say I'm a
scammer.

Speaker 1 (04:51):
I don't work.
Some might say how much moneydo you really make and what do
you really do?
Yes, let's talk about that.
Others might just say it'sbecause you don't pay no rent.
Some might say it's because youlive at home.
No, and do you have to havesomebody footing your life?

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Whether that's you basicallycalling us some sugar babies At
the end of the day, ain't shitsweet over here.
Ain't shit sweet over here Atthe end of the day, the subject
matter is that, in order toobtain a soft life, you didn't
have to take a very hard road.

Speaker 2 (05:31):
Yeah, yeah, I'm going to say you have to have a hard
life or you can get to a softlife.

Speaker 1 (05:35):
And that is what we are talking about today.
I like that.

Speaker 2 (05:38):
I like that, I like that.

Speaker 1 (05:39):
I like that.

Speaker 2 (05:40):
So let's address the things that you said.

Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, of course the start.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
The thing you said was people may think that we're
scammers.

Speaker 1 (05:48):
OK.

Speaker 2 (05:49):
Oh, mommy, I can't go to jail, though I cannot go to
jail, so I won't even doanything that will put me in the
position to go to jail.

Speaker 1 (05:54):
OK.

Speaker 2 (05:55):
That's me.

Speaker 1 (05:56):
OK.

Speaker 2 (05:56):
All the money I make, I make it legally.
I can go to the place andcollect my money.

Speaker 1 (06:03):
So are you saying you've never hit a jug before,
you've never finessed?

Speaker 2 (06:07):
No, I've definitely finessed, but that was like I've
definitely hit a couple licks,that's what to say, did you?

Speaker 1 (06:14):
That's a story for another day.

Speaker 2 (06:15):
I would never tell the stories of all the times I
was stealing.

Speaker 1 (06:19):
No, y'all have to pay for it.
That's what I'm saying.
Like I would have to come witha Patreon.

Speaker 2 (06:23):
With the Patreon, but also we'll have to come with
some money behind it because Ican't just be telling y'all how
I used to do for free.
That's crazy.
But yeah, I feel like now, inmy most recent adult life, I
don't have to hit no jugs nomore, because I know where my
money is coming from, I know howmuch is coming every so often

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and the times that I don't knowthat's still legal money that I
make it.

Speaker 1 (06:48):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (06:49):
It's never been scammed me on for me since I
started working for real.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (06:55):
OK, so that's the first thing, and I'm in the same
positioning of you.

Speaker 2 (07:00):
But the soft.
So how does that first?
So we said scamming is not apart of our story.
Correct, but it was, and that'swhy we have a soft life now,
because scamming was a hardship.

Speaker 1 (07:11):
Yes, bad, any jug you could think of.
Man I used to.
There's a reason why I havethis silver tongue.

Speaker 2 (07:19):
What is a silver tongue?

Speaker 1 (07:21):
You've never heard of silver tongue before.

Speaker 2 (07:23):
No, silver back Like a gorilla.
No.

Speaker 1 (07:28):
Google it.

Speaker 2 (07:28):
You going to tell us?

Speaker 1 (07:29):
No, google it, so the people know what a silver
tongue is.

Speaker 2 (07:32):
Oh, you want me to say the definition?

Speaker 1 (07:33):
Yeah, it's a commonly used phrase and I've never
heard of it.
Yeah, go ahead.

Speaker 2 (07:39):
OK, silver tongue A tendency to be eloquent and
persuasive in speaking.

Speaker 1 (07:46):
Yeah, that used to be me.
I used to get most things.

Speaker 2 (07:50):
I've never heard of that before and I feel like I
can do some talking.

Speaker 1 (07:54):
Yeah, that's what I'm trying to tell you, I
definitely used to get away withmurder and I used to get a lot
of what I needed without payingfor it.
I had to.
Privilege how is thatprivileged?

Speaker 2 (08:06):
You have, you were privileged.

Speaker 1 (08:08):
Yummy, we used to have to find rides to school,
but you were privileged.

Speaker 2 (08:12):
They were like you had privilege growing up.

Speaker 1 (08:15):
What privilege did I have?

Speaker 2 (08:16):
You were an athlete.
That gave you privilege.
You were a good athlete at that.
You're a black man.
You were privileged.
I don't want to tell you toomuch, because some people be
acting confused about things,just so you can tell them, so
they can boost their ego.
I'm not saying that's whatyou're doing At this moment, I'm
just saying.
Sometimes people have thetendency to do that.

Speaker 1 (08:38):
Unfortunately, you have not been that type of
person to me in a while.

Speaker 2 (08:44):
Yeah, so I won't continue today.
So I don't know.
I'm not confused.
You know who, you are Sure andyou know that you have privilege
.

Speaker 1 (08:51):
But the privilege you talk about at the time.
But my silver tongue used toget both of us rides to school.
At the boarder I used to sit inthe back seat of any people car
, graciously Right.
So I'm not negating it.
But this leads.
It's because of that and we'regiving you all the story.
Part of the hard road right,the trips that we had to take,

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depending on other peoplebesides our parents, just to get
to school.
Right, if you knew me back,when there wasn't a thing that
you could keep around me, thatwouldn't have been took Now I
mean people know that to thisday.
What do you talk about?

Speaker 2 (09:32):
Because I'd complain about you and your inability to
leave my stuff alone.

Speaker 1 (09:37):
That's food, yummy.
You could eat my food all youwant, I don't want to.

Speaker 2 (09:41):
I want to eat my food , but we can talk about that
another day.

Speaker 1 (09:44):
I was about to say you being a dead horse.
Have you heard that one before?

Speaker 2 (09:48):
I've heard that one before, but the only reason why
I'm being a dead horse isbecause I feel like people want
me to shift my thinking asopposed to meeting me where I'm
at.
If I'm asking you not to eat mystuff, don't eat it.
Don't say it's just food, it'smy food.

Speaker 1 (10:06):
And you laughing like it's funny.

Speaker 2 (10:07):
I'm being so serious, Like I feel like I don't ask
for too much.

Speaker 1 (10:11):
You ask for everything but the things I do
ask for.
You've been nagging me for thelast month about something I
fixed almost six weeks ago andyou didn't even pay attention.

Speaker 2 (10:21):
And then you kept nagging me, I was bringing it up
.

Speaker 1 (10:28):
I kept bringing it up after the fact because it took
me like two weeks.

Speaker 2 (10:33):
Excuse me.
Besides that fact, I've beenasking these folks since I was
old enough to say please stopeating my food.
To stop eating my food.

Speaker 1 (10:40):
And you know what?

Speaker 2 (10:42):
They're on the side of you should just be OK with it
, as opposed to honoring theirsister and just leaving her
stuff alone.

Speaker 1 (10:48):
You know all of your brothers.
You just heard me tell thewhole story, but I was putting
us rides for the last two yearsof when I was in high school,
y'all.

Speaker 2 (10:56):
So I should be indebted to you and I should let
you in my chip.
No.

Speaker 1 (11:00):
But you see how one-sided this is.
I be trying to tell people thatYemi might be a great person,
but she is one of the mostone-sided individuals in my life
.
Aren't you so fortunate to havetwo brothers that have done
everything for you?
Now I'm not saying that, hello.

Speaker 2 (11:20):
Let's continue with the hard life.
Because I feel like peoplereally don't know that our lives
, but people really don't knowthat also individually, your
life and my life have been hardand I feel like a lot of the
things that I have gone throughI necessarily don't speak about.

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Oh yeah.

Speaker 1 (11:41):
I agree.

Speaker 2 (11:42):
I think that because you don't speak about them, or
because you don't make a bigdeal about certain things,
people feel like that's not yourstory.

Speaker 1 (11:51):
So you saying no, I actually know your story very
well.
Yeah, I'm not disregarding that.

Speaker 2 (11:54):
Yeah, Because we both feel like they not saying you
specifically, but I just feellike in general, people will
take credit for a lot of thethings but also not understand
that you have lived life too.

Speaker 1 (12:06):
I don't want to take credit for anything that you've
done, but I just want to.
I want Celebration.
That's what I want.
Kindness, that's what I want.
You know those things.
That's how you can reciprocateanything that you achieve.
Just give it back to me inkindness.
I don't even need to thank youfor gratitude, I just want to

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know that we good.
You feel me.

Speaker 2 (12:30):
I feel like I'm kind.
You know, like when people talkabout like nice versus.

Speaker 1 (12:33):
To whom?

Speaker 2 (12:34):
I think I'm kind.

Speaker 1 (12:35):
To whom?

Speaker 2 (12:36):
Well, in general, if it's being nice or being kind.
I wouldn't say no, I'm not nice.
I would say that I do have somekindness in me because I think
niceness is not selective.
And, yeah, I feel like I'm kind, but is it in my nature to be
nice first?
Not always, but I feel likeanytime I actually have the

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intention, I am very kind.

Speaker 1 (13:03):
Sure yeah, broken road, let's get to that.
Back to that.

Speaker 2 (13:06):
So we said scamming.
What was the second thing thatyou said?
Do you remember?

Speaker 1 (13:09):
I said some might say we're scammers and then say
some might say what do you doand how do you actually?

Speaker 2 (13:15):
make this money Right , right, right.
So let's talk about that.
Well, because we're talkingabout how to get us off life.
It has to come from.

Speaker 1 (13:23):
Well, I bust my ass.
I'm a hustler by birth.
Our parents have a grocerystore.

Speaker 2 (13:31):
Even before that they had a restaurant.

Speaker 1 (13:33):
Mom and mom had a restaurant.
My dad had a couple jobs before.

Speaker 2 (13:39):
You know, one thing I will say is that them people
know how to make money.
Not only that, but when I thinkabout my mama came here with a
baby on her hip and a work visa,if that Like if she even had
any papers?

Speaker 1 (13:53):
Yeah right.

Speaker 2 (13:54):
And to see where I'm at now.

Speaker 1 (13:56):
Both of our parents.

Speaker 2 (13:57):
To see where they're at and to see where I'm at.
Nobody can tell me shit,because I've already succeeded
and I've already To be honest ifour children aren't
millionaires.

Speaker 1 (14:07):
I don't want to put that on.

Speaker 2 (14:08):
I don't have to be millionaires.
That can be thousandaires.
That can just make enough moneyto live comfortably.
But they're going to livecomfortably regardless, because
I'm going to live comfortably.
But I'm just saying for me I'vealready done what I needed to
do.
Everything else that I do nowis just extra.

Speaker 1 (14:28):
Yeah.
So what you're saying is thatyou've actualized on your
parents' idea of what theAmerican dream is.

Speaker 2 (14:33):
I've already done that.
I've already.
The American dream is sown andnow I'm living, Correct.

Speaker 1 (14:43):
And you did all that without a master's degree, who,
and we nine during who.
So Everyone.

Speaker 2 (14:50):
I think about going back to school just to get the
master's, just for like.
Better add an extra, not evento get the money, because I
looked at.

Speaker 1 (14:56):
No, I would do it for the money.
That's the only reason why Iwould do it.

Speaker 2 (14:58):
I looked at how much the average person makes with
the master's degree from DePaul.
But, right, and I make morethan that.

Speaker 1 (15:08):
OK, that's what I said you would.

Speaker 2 (15:11):
So it's not even worth it to me to get it.
But I was just saying more sofor like, bragging rights and
just to say like I'veaccomplished something, because
I really don't think that.

Speaker 1 (15:20):
What is the bragging rights in a master's?
I?

Speaker 2 (15:22):
mean it's just more so, not even like to brag
outside, but it's more so justfor me, like to have that
accomplishment because I don'tneed it.
Perfectly and I don't see thepoint in it, but I feel like for
me it may be something toconsider, just for to say I
actually did something, becauseI'm not really too impressed
with the accomplishments that Ihave now.

Speaker 1 (15:43):
But I feel like maybe that one would make a
difference just because we couldtouch that later, because I
know I was going to touch thatlater in this episode.
Because don't, don't, don't dothat, don't do that in the mic.
Yeah, I was about to eat a chipand she don't see, I'm the
sound man you're going to bechewing all up in my ear.

Speaker 2 (16:00):
I was going back away from the mic.

Speaker 1 (16:01):
Thank, you, but like Jimmy said, hustler by no, I
would have heard it Hustler bybirth.
We both work in corporateAmerica.

Speaker 2 (16:13):
I said, my checks come every two weeks.

Speaker 1 (16:15):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (16:16):
And I'm OK with that and corporate America.

Speaker 1 (16:19):
You can do well in corporate America.
I tell people this reallyhumbly as long as you're in a
really good industry and if youbust your butt, there's no way
you don't get upward mobility,and upward mobility don't got to
be in that company.
I feel like people got to bemore quick to move.

Speaker 2 (16:39):
These jobs want you to be loyal to them.

Speaker 1 (16:41):
They don't got to be.

Speaker 2 (16:42):
Honestly, the reason why I'm in the position that I
am now is because I left my lastjob and it was comfortable.
I mean, the job was cool, itwas comfortable.
But, I was not going to seethat number that I have now If I
stayed at my job.

Speaker 1 (16:55):
Just think about this Any job you leave, you'll
probably easily get anywherefrom 15% to 20% that was just
live.

Speaker 2 (17:03):
They don't know how much you make, just live.

Speaker 1 (17:05):
Well, no, I heard of and this is game.
So Yemi and I was talking toour old lady.
I shouldn't say that Seasonedwoman, that sounds worse.
Why does her age matter?
Because she had a lot ofexperience.

Speaker 2 (17:21):
That's why I'm saying that, oh OK, someone with
experience.

Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yes.
So a woman with a lot ofexperience in corporate America
told us that the way peoplethink about corporate America is
incorrect.
You shouldn't stay with acompany thinking that you are
entitled and due to promotionsbecause you've been there for so
long and you've done so much.
Move, Move, that's it.
Every two to three years.

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Move If they don't give you araise and I'm not talking about,
no, oh, 2%, 3% If they're notgiving you at least 15 to 20k
more in a year, which means youshould be at least getting an
extra $1,000 a month.
Believe you should at least begetting an extra Leave.

Speaker 2 (18:04):
Believe.

Speaker 1 (18:04):
Believe.

Speaker 2 (18:05):
Yeah, move and leave at the same time.

Speaker 1 (18:07):
Move and leave at the same time Believe.
And then I was talking in thisprogram that I did through my
job and somebody got some guywho was leading the workshop.
He said look, regardless ofwhat happens at this job,
whatever job you go to, just add20% to what you was getting

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paid, because you're alwaysgetting underpaid when they
first offer you money.
So say this if you was making$100,000 a year, when you ask
for your desired range, youshould be at least asking for a
120, if not more.
Whatever that's it, plain andsimple.
Put 20% onto whatever you waslast getting paid, because that

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means usually when you go for ajob that is not horizontal, you
should get paid more, butthey'll do some shit where
they'll be like oh, this is therange.
If they really want you, they'llpay For sure.

Speaker 2 (19:01):
And what was the last thing you said?
Oh, we don't, we live with, wedon't have to pay rent.

Speaker 1 (19:06):
So we hustle, we work corporate market, we hustle and
we have pretty steady income inboth those areas.
And then you said we don't payrent, we don't pay rent and with
that that's very simple I saveover half my check.
So I have a really big savingsand we give all glory to God for
that, because I don't save mycheck.

Speaker 2 (19:28):
I won't let you.

Speaker 1 (19:30):
But it's different.

Speaker 2 (19:31):
Yeah, I would say I don't really.

Speaker 1 (19:33):
I'd be wondering where my money be going for real
, like I really do, but I feellike Trying to get you right and
then you'd be like, mind you,no, dude, do that.

Speaker 2 (19:41):
Do that Because I feel like my spending habits
have not changed for real.
But are you saving money, asthe point that sounds like a no.
No, I mean I do put more moneyin my savings, Like the amount
of money that I deposit strictlyinto like one bank account that

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I don't touch for real.
That increased, sure.
But the money that goes inthere also gets taken out every
month from my car note.

Speaker 1 (20:12):
I always just put it like this.
I make it really simple.
If you look at a course of ayear and you work in a job, your
goal should be at least to save$10,000 in a year.
I know that sounds ridiculous,but that's like $400 or $500 a
month.
Well, I'm sorry, yeah, becauseyou got 26 checks in a year.
So realistically, if you'resaving 500, 500 times 25, that's

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about 555.
I think that's about 55.
Am I right?
No, that's about 11.5.
Hold on, I'm going to use mycalculator.

Speaker 2 (20:45):
Honestly, it don't matter, just like we have, you
know, and it's 12.5.

Speaker 1 (20:54):
So $500 a check, if you can foot it.

Speaker 2 (20:56):
If you can foot that, that's a lot of money.
That's about 500 a check.
That's somebody's rent.

Speaker 1 (21:00):
Yeah, no, that's what I said, if you can foot it, but
anything close, because overtime, certain months you'll be
able to save more, certainmonths you're going to save less
.
Blah, blah, blah, all thosethings.

Speaker 2 (21:09):
Anything could come up.
Because one thing I got a bumpin my tire that should cost me
like $300.

Speaker 1 (21:14):
Exactly, exactly.

Speaker 2 (21:16):
And I couldn't imagine if I had to pay bills
and this.

Speaker 1 (21:19):
But the one thing I'm going to start doing this year
is actually saving for travel.
Like I'm literally as soon aswe done with everything we're
doing, I'm actually going toopen up an account just to put
that.
So I don't even not that I everworry about travel, but because
I travel so much and I'm fixatedon making sure that I'm able to
enjoy it, I'm just going tomake sure I stack money away in

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there, and if I have a lot ofmoney, I have a lot of money in
it, and I think that's justsomething I need to do, because
some more I don't know why Isaid that.
I just think it's important tomake sure that A if you go on
travel which I always do youalways enjoy it.
But what I'm starting to learnis that I save up to, but then

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I'm spending that money on thetrip.
You know what I'm saying.
So then, when I look at mycredit card statement, it's like
, oh, I saved for this trip, butthen like, where's the dollars
that I have to do to pay backfor the credit card?
You feel me, because I paid forall the expenses beforehand and
I don't think about the actualtrip.
You know what I'm saying Right,because once you get there.

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You got food, you got ice.

Speaker 2 (22:23):
We always going to eat good when we travel.

Speaker 1 (22:24):
No, I don't do nothing else.

Speaker 2 (22:26):
We're going to drink good and that costs money.
We're going to try to immerseourselves in the experience as
much as possible.
100%.

Speaker 1 (22:34):
Yeah, but, like we said, able to do that because we
don't pay rent.

Speaker 2 (22:40):
So that's $500 to maybe $2,000 that we save every
month.

Speaker 1 (22:46):
Discretionary income.
You feel me?
Our discretionary income isvery.

Speaker 2 (22:50):
Disposable.

Speaker 1 (22:51):
Disposable.
It's bigger than most people's.

Speaker 2 (22:54):
Yeah, I don't know where I'm going to be going.
I feel like between October toJanuary I was but you have a lot
of things.

Speaker 1 (23:04):
You have holidays yes , you have Thanksgiving.
You have Halloween,thanksgiving, christmas, yeah,
and New Year's Eve and we wentto.

Speaker 2 (23:13):
We did two trips in.
October, slash November.

Speaker 1 (23:17):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (23:18):
Then, like you said, thanksgiving, christmas your
birthday.

Speaker 1 (23:23):
Yeah, my birthday.

Speaker 2 (23:24):
Christmas, new Year's , yeah, that birthday party that
I celebrated, or that birthdaythat I celebrated in January.
So I spent a lot of money.
It was just.
I'm just now getting abovewater to where my credit card
bill is paid.
Before the statement.
So, yeah, but I feel like thisone thing I was thinking about
is people would look at us andfeel like we're privileged

(23:47):
because we're in our late 20sand still live at home with our
parents.
I count it as a blessing, butpeople would count that as a.
I mean, yeah, you wouldn't bewhere you at if you didn't have
that opportunity.
And I'm like damn, I mean Ican't.

Speaker 1 (24:01):
Yeah, but I feel like people I can't.
You know we didn't pick thestraws.
But also I feel like if yourparents is making you pay rent
and you live with them, that'skind of shady.

Speaker 2 (24:10):
And let's.
I know people do that just sothey can save the money, and
then they'll give it back tothem.
But like, yeah, I mean as anadult, I wouldn't be.

Speaker 1 (24:16):
Unless your parents really need it, and I mean, you
know, if your mom needed, that'scompletely different.
But, like, if your parent wedon't, we don't make At this age
, what are we really making ourparents?
It's just the fact that theywant more money for themselves.
You feel me, because we buy ourown groceries, but they was
paying them bills when we wasn'tin the house.

Speaker 2 (24:37):
Yeah, we were gone from the house.
Both of us were gone from thehouse for three years.

Speaker 1 (24:40):
And it was just them two.
Yeah me four years.

Speaker 2 (24:43):
What was it four years?

Speaker 1 (24:44):
How long did you go to college for?

Speaker 2 (24:46):
For four years, but when I was done, you had one
year where you were in the houseby yourself, and then I came
back.

Speaker 1 (24:52):
Yeah, but I was gone for four years.

Speaker 2 (24:54):
So was I, but I was still at home when you left.
So, it was only three years ofoverlap that we were in college
at the same time.

Speaker 1 (25:02):
Oh, I forgot that you're a year behind me.
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (25:07):
I don't know what they was doing, but it couldn't
have been fun.

Speaker 1 (25:10):
But that's what I'm trying to say, like, there's a
lot of things that, when youthink about it, they love that
work here.

Speaker 2 (25:14):
They might not admit it, but they literally love it.

Speaker 1 (25:16):
It makes their life so much easier.

Speaker 2 (25:17):
Yes, like I know, that for Like them three years.
They was probably so sad Dadwas probably stressed.

Speaker 1 (25:22):
He's like I gotta take this woman everywhere.

Speaker 2 (25:24):
My mama would call me every Saturday night.

Speaker 1 (25:28):
She would call me Saturday in the morning, Every
Saturday night.
Well, actually I lied.
She called me Friday morningbecause she knew I'd be playing
football on.

Speaker 2 (25:33):
Saturday, Saturday.
My mama would call me everySaturday night like just to see
what I was doing, and sometimesI'll be drunk at the bar.
She'd be like be safe.
Oh, just go home, you don'tneed to be outside.
I'm a girl, I'm lit.

Speaker 1 (25:43):
Yeah, exactly, my mom would literally sit and talk to
me for three, four hours.
Our relationship had never beenbetter.

Speaker 2 (25:49):
That's what I'm saying.
Once we get out the house, I'msure it will be better, but like
right now, it's just she becomplaining because Ali Broccoli
in the fridge and I don't havetime for that.

Speaker 1 (25:57):
And that was so funny because I think about my
routine, because, like senioryear, I lived off campus.
So like I would literally be oncampus Monday through Thursday
and I would never show up onFridays, unless I would only
show up for our walkthroughs,like Friday.
Monday through Thursday, I'd beat campus down there to like
eight or ten and I would justbegin my work done.
But that Friday, when I wouldhave to show up, I would show up

(26:19):
like two or three hours, dowhatever homework I had left,
and then I would literally talkto mom and I'd be like I got to
go.
But it was cool, it was part ofthe routine.
I'm looking forward to thatwhen I have to come back out
here every Sunday.
What are you going to be?
To be determined.

Speaker 2 (26:37):
So To be determined, yeah so.
I think we addressed all thefour things but like, okay, so
now let's talk about.
We talked about hardship andhow we made it.

Speaker 1 (26:47):
We didn't really talk about hardship, but we don't
need to get into our lives.
It's not a show.

Speaker 2 (26:51):
No, I'm saying like, I'm saying so how do you, how
are you so soft life?
What does soft life look likeas it pertains to us and the
stuff that we have shown topeople, because some people
don't follow us on social medias?

Speaker 1 (27:02):
You're right.
I think if you look at ourlives, you see a lot of I like
to call it like the everydaysuperstar, right, like it always
seems like we are at the rightparty or at the right event, we
always got on the freshest gear,and it also seems that we also
have a energy where people feelvery drawn to us.

Speaker 2 (27:25):
I would say that, out of all the things you said,
because I don't be wearing thefreshest stuff- I'm really
trying to like figure out whatmy style is.
I mean, I always look good whenI go out, but I just it takes a
long time for me to actuallylike put outfits together,
because my style is just allover the place and I'm trying to
.

Speaker 1 (27:40):
It's because it's everything.

Speaker 2 (27:41):
I feel like sometimes people don't.

Speaker 1 (27:43):
If your style is everything, let it be everything
.
It's just whatever you feel onthat day.

Speaker 2 (27:46):
Literally whatever I feel like wearing on that day,
and it's really determined bythe space that I'm going to be
in.
And if you're in new spaces andyou're around new people.
It's whatever, but I feel like,yeah, like we just want to
create the energy and have.
If I'm leaving the house, Iwant to make sure that I'm
leaving it to have a good timefor enjoyment, because I could

(28:09):
most definitely be in the housein a bit enjoying life, because
that's what I do the best.
I'm a cancer.
We love home, so yeah, I justfeel like and even when we take
trips, I'd be soft life,everything Like if it's the
nicest hotel that I could findat the best rate, if it's Uber

(28:30):
everywhere, if it's get a car,if it's making sure we stay at a
nice resort.
I'm all about that.
You laughing because you don'tbe on that.
You be trying to save money.

Speaker 1 (28:42):
No on certain things.
I feel like it's better.
Like Uber, I don't really careabout If the city got a scooter.
I'm going to ride the scootersall throughout the year.

Speaker 2 (28:50):
That's nothing to do with the soft life.

Speaker 1 (28:52):
Being adventurous.
That's the best.
Living on the wild side,honestly, that's the best way to
travel.
A city, no cap, you don'treally have to obey traffic, you
get to go into neighborhood and, honestly, they go like 30
miles per hour so you getanywhere you need to at a pretty
decent place, as long as youstay within the city limits.
Correct the city area.
Correct.
But the hotel part, I'm withyou.

(29:14):
I just always think it's funnybecause we're like polar
opposites in that regard.
But what I'm learning now?
Because I had a great idea,because I was listening to our
last podcast, which was where wetalked about grab them, usher
tickets and you talked about howthe things I complain about

(29:35):
cost money, and I was like yousaid we could get two different
hotels and you talked about wewould have to travel back and
forth.
But I was like why won't wejust get two separate rooms in
the same hotel?

Speaker 2 (29:47):
What is this about?
What do you mean?
When did I say we was going tohave to get two different hotels
?

Speaker 1 (29:54):
In the grab them tickets episode or grab them
usher.
What were you talking about?
You were talking about redflags of a hotel.

Speaker 2 (30:01):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 1 (30:02):
Yeah, what about them ?
And then you were like I alwayshave to accommodate for dates
you, because we end up stayingin the same room.
And then I was like, well, wecould just get two separate
rooms.

Speaker 2 (30:11):
But that's oh like I mean yeah, because I like to
fall asleep with the TV on andbut you see how I just had that
idea.

Speaker 1 (30:19):
But I'm saying one.

Speaker 2 (30:21):
We save more money when we book them together.

Speaker 1 (30:23):
Correct.

Speaker 2 (30:24):
And then you know it's usually.
It usually comes down to likenot the accommodations once
we're in the actual hotel, butactually booking it because I'd
be ready to book as soon as Iknow I'm going somewhere.
And Daisy wants to wait tillthe last minute because he needs
to know about his schedule.
He needs.

Speaker 1 (30:40):
These are all very valid.

Speaker 2 (30:42):
Yeah, no, not really, because you know you know I
have somewhere to sleep you knowthat and you know as soon as we
book that we're going to need aplace to stay, yeah.
And then, the last minute, Iwill send you hotel after hotel
and then you're like, yummy,you're trying to spend too much
money on a hotel, but the hoteleven though you you don't
usually spend a lot of time atthe hotel that's like your

(31:04):
getaway.
That should be a part of thesoft life experience is making
sure that the hotel that youstand in is worth staying in.
Yeah, because when we went toNorth Carolina, that hotel that
we stayed in was busted, crushedit.

Speaker 1 (31:17):
Which one do we stand ?

Speaker 2 (31:18):
exactly, you don't even remember.

Speaker 1 (31:20):
But I never remember any of the hotels I really
stayed in.
You remember that hotel?

Speaker 2 (31:22):
we stayed in when we went to seek KTranada, because
that was a nice ass hotel.
I booked it.
The W yeah, but you use yourpoints Okay, but when you have
to pay, you'd be ready to stayat the Motel 6.

Speaker 1 (31:33):
Hey, all you need is a bed to sleep on.
Fuck, I don't feel like that.

Speaker 2 (31:38):
That's negative, that's man activity, that's man
business.
I don't feel like that Okay.
So we talked about okay so softlife for you is just sleeping
in any bed, and soft life for meis making sure that if I'm
going on a trip.
I'm making the most out of thetrip because I got a bed at home
.

Speaker 1 (31:55):
You're going to stop hitting this mic.
Don't worry about it.
I would say that a soft lifefor me when it comes to whatever
in general, right when we talkabout trips, for me it's always
been about the experience.
I spare no expense.
I'm going to pay for ithonestly, because I'm going to
be like I always do that.
When we were at Dreamville didI buy that damn whatever jacket?

(32:17):
Yeah, I bought it when we werein.
I was like that's a clothingitem.

Speaker 2 (32:20):
What are we talking about?
Experience, are you talkingabout?
That was part of the experience.

Speaker 1 (32:25):
What else did we do in North Carolina?
Think about any event.

Speaker 2 (32:27):
A motherfucking thing , that place was terrible.

Speaker 1 (32:29):
Okay, then when we were in Atlanta, yeah, anytime
we go to Atlanta we spend a lotof money.
Okay, that's it, then.
New York Spent a lot of money.
Did we spend a lot of money?
Yes, we was out every day till7 o'clock.
We were spending money.

Speaker 2 (32:45):
We was just getting started with the kids on the
corner.

Speaker 1 (32:48):
Sure, DC.
We bought a whole Hennessypunch that was for six people.
We drank it too.
I was fucked up for the rest ofthe day at Broccoli Fest and
the weather was ass.

Speaker 2 (33:02):
That was a terrible experience.
But you see, they changed thedate to Broccoli Fest.
They made it towards the summer.
That's OK.
The lineup is trash.
They got Ghana.
You know whose lineup isactually DC.

Speaker 1 (33:10):
Yeah, we've seen Ghana.

Speaker 2 (33:12):
Dreamville's lineup is actually DC.

Speaker 1 (33:13):
I don't think so, me and Alex the other day, and we
was talking about it, I was likeyou saying the other day like
it wasn't yesterday.
Yes, you were.
I went to this immersiveexperience.
That was my first immersiveexperience for a DJ.
I was very happy.

Speaker 2 (33:29):
Yeah, you can see DJ Sugijis doing that.

Speaker 1 (33:32):
We have to do that, or Sugijis Just Sugijis.
No, we have to.

Speaker 2 (33:36):
Well, make it happen, captain.
Ok, so you were saying.
You were saying what were?

Speaker 1 (33:41):
you saying I care about the experience, think
about what we went to Antica.
We'd even buy excursions aheadof time.
You were like I want to do thisthis.
I was like, ok, cool, I'm here,I'm for it.

Speaker 2 (33:50):
Yeah, so I, once we get there yeah, we fully be
getting ourselves into it, butbeforehand.
But the problem is, you don'tever plan nothing, and that's
the annoying thing about it,Because most things you don't
have to plan no no, no, that'sannoying.
That's also annoying, Like softlife for me is being prepared
and planning stuff out, Likewhen I go on a trip somewhere I
want to.
These are the food places thatI want to go to, OK that's

(34:10):
interesting.

Speaker 1 (34:11):
These are the night clubs that I want to go to.

Speaker 2 (34:12):
These are the events that I want to go to.
This is the stuff that I wantto do, and Deji's, more like,
doesn't have anything plannedand that's annoying.
That's really annoying.

Speaker 1 (34:19):
But soft life for me is that I know I will have the
money to do all of these things.

Speaker 2 (34:23):
It's not about having the money.
It's about just not goingsomewhere and free balling,
because then I'm left with theresponsibility to find something
for us to do, or else we won'tbe able to.

Speaker 1 (34:32):
But how many times do I strike up a conversation with
somebody and they'll be like ohyeah, that's where you need to
go, you do.

Speaker 2 (34:37):
I don't think you do that often.
I really be looking at thisstuff.
Well, when I be on my and whenyou talk to them people, they be
telling you oh yeah, this iswhere you need to go.

Speaker 1 (34:44):
So how do you go?
So how are you telling you thatthis is what we need to do?
So how do we go from?
I don't do that often to them.
Do these people be telling me?

Speaker 2 (34:50):
No, I'm saying like the rare times that you do talk
to the people.

Speaker 1 (34:54):
Oh, because now I rarely ever talk to people.

Speaker 2 (34:56):
The chances, the times that you do talk to people
and they actually tell youwhere you need to go.
I'd be like yeah, Deji, thatwasn't the stuff that I sent you
on Instagram, or the stuff thatI texted you, or it already be
honestly, I would be honest whenI be taking my solo trips.

Speaker 1 (35:09):
That's how I do it and it always works.

Speaker 2 (35:10):
Do that when you buy yourself, but when you with me,
you need to start playing, andthat's doing all the work and
that's how it always works out.

Speaker 1 (35:17):
Sometimes you just got to be a citizen of the world
.
You feel me, but again, that'sthe male privilege.
But yeah, that's a soft lifefor me.

Speaker 2 (35:26):
I just you know that that is your privilege showing,
but that's.

Speaker 1 (35:34):
OK, so here.

Speaker 2 (35:35):
Can you have a soft life without privilege?
Like you're not a privilegedperson.

Speaker 1 (35:40):
I think that this idea of soft life is very
confusing to me, becauseeverybody acts like conflict is
bad and I have to be very candidbecause I'm like, as we just
briefly touched, you can't get asoft life without having an

(36:02):
incredibly hard life.

Speaker 2 (36:03):
It doesn't have to be incredibly hard, but you have
to understand, struggle to havea soft life in some sort of
aspect.
You can't have a soft life ifyou've never had a hard life.

Speaker 1 (36:15):
Correct, Because then at that point you don't know
what.

Speaker 2 (36:18):
Right, that's just life for you.
Exactly, that's literally justlife.

Speaker 1 (36:21):
So if that's the point and the case where, I
guess, if that's the point we'remaking, I think this whole idea
of that everybody deserves asoft life is it's very I don't
want to say presumptuous, butit's it is Everybody deserves.

Speaker 2 (36:38):
Well, I mean, you know anybody who's living right
for sure.

Speaker 1 (36:41):
Yes, everybody does deserve, but the fact that
everybody thinks that there's asense of entitlement.
I'm like nah, because I had tobust my ass to get here and
y'all don't know the hardships.

Speaker 2 (36:51):
Really, nobody know the hardships that I had to go
through just to be to where I'mat, because, if I told you, I
got it out the mud you'd be likethey wouldn't believe us,
because they're like oh y'all,you two parent household you
know your lineage, you grew upin the suburbs, you went to
college, you have a job and I'mlike all of that didn't come

(37:13):
from nothing, like it's like youknow what I'm saying.
I just feel like some peoplehave a perception of me
Personally I'll speak for myselfthat they think that everything
was peaches and cream,sunshines and rainbows, and I'm
like, nah, that's just.
I just live the way I live nowBecause I can't dwell on all of

(37:39):
that stuff that happened to me.
I literally have to just keeppushing and keep moving forward
and realize that I'm literallyliving in all of that turmoil,
that is now a clear water.
I don't know.
I'm trying to make an analogy.
I'm literally living in theocean that was once an oil spill

(38:02):
.

Speaker 1 (38:03):
Woo, you got there.

Speaker 2 (38:06):
So that's what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (38:06):
You got there, oh shit.
Ok, Charlie says I was BP oilrig, but then we became the
Pacific Ocean.
Ok, I'm with you.
I'm with you, I'm with you.

Speaker 2 (38:17):
So I mean, I don't have to talk about it too much,
but I just feel like for me,soft life is realizing that that
shit was there.
This is now and I deserve tojust live and be, you know,
enjoy the fruits of my labor,because I was really like I
always say every episode anytimeDaddy talked about his life, he

(38:38):
was out there going to PCB andSan Antonio Spurs, and I was in
the library studying.

Speaker 1 (38:44):
Sure yeah, he was at what?

Speaker 2 (38:47):
He was in Las Vegas, california, and I was studying,
I was facing the books.
I was in the library till 12o'clock OK, they opened the gate
.
That's when I left.
I was in the booth.
I didn't take no spring breaktrips.
I didn't take no winter breaktrips.
I didn't take no fall breaktrips.

Speaker 1 (39:04):
I was working in the booths.
I only took spring break.
I didn't even do that.
I was in the booth.
So I'll say that we both haddifferent college experiences.
I deserve soft life.
But when it came to the realworld, I feel like your
experience in the post-graduateworld is, I won't never say,

(39:24):
easier, but mine has been amotherfucker, honestly, and I
wouldn't switch it.
I wouldn't switch, but I guessI would say the realities of
life.
They hit me very hard,specifically in my profession,
and that's why I said I thinkpeople don't understand.

(39:45):
They're your personal life.
Yeah, yeah, I keep tellingpeople I didn't believe in
Saturn's return, but I did not.
But Saturn got a whole lot ofrevenge and that motherfucker is
coming at me at every angle andthat's not to woe is me, but
that's my point about a softlife, the reason why people are

(40:08):
able to enjoy these experiences,because it took us so long to
get here.
It took so much effort.
If y'all understood the effortexerted and I'm not speaking for
myself, this is actually a verygeneral statement Anybody who
is able to enjoy life and have aspace for themselves that they

(40:29):
have curated and that they callhome and gives them peace of
residence.
It took a tremendous amount ofeffort Because, guess what, in
order to find peace, you've gotto know chaos, and that's the
thing you have to be able towalk through that chaos and
still know, at the end of theday, you still going to be Gucci
.
Those are things that peoplenever consider.

(40:52):
They see all this grand, theysee all the laughs.
Like I say, you was never withme shooting in the gym.
People wasn't there when I wascrying.
People wasn't there when I wasnot myself.
So, obviously, and you have afriend, she's the purest
creative I've ever met.
Shout out to Taylor, as shesaid, I don't want to celebrate

(41:14):
the same way.
I'm worn.

Speaker 2 (41:15):
Yeah, that was real.
She said that and it'sliterally been in my head.

Speaker 1 (41:20):
Yeah, yeah, and honestly I can't celebrate the
same way.
And, honestly, we need to get onthe podcast.
But I say this because this isreal, when I took a look at my
life and realized all theturmoil that we've been through.
Right, because we're not eventalking about the family dynamic
.
We have some of the things thatwe had to see growing up that

(41:40):
made us mature at a very fastage and, on top of that, just
the lack of just wear with allfor our own livelihood as
children in this new world thatour parents were coming into to
give us a better life.

Speaker 2 (41:51):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (41:54):
I said to myself, if I don't celebrate life like I
was meant to be here, I'm doingmyself a disservice and a lot of
the times I fall back on that.
But what you learn in thisprocess of life is that you move
in extremes.
I can't celebrate that hard andthen be mad when I have these
deep lows because I don't knowthe in-between and what I'm

(42:19):
realizing is the soft lives islearning how to live in that
in-between, and I think thatsays a lot of who I am, because
I don't want the highs no more.
I've been had it.
I promise you for who I am inthis lifetime I didn't seem more
than my fair share.

Speaker 2 (42:37):
You're still going to get your highs, though.

Speaker 1 (42:38):
Oh yeah, I know there's more coming for it.
Like I said, we got thingsplanned y'all and if everything
go according to plan, me and youand me are going to be having,
actually, everybody thatpartakes in nothing but a G
thing and tells their peopleabout it y'all are going to have
the time of your life.
Y'all going to make memoriesthat are going to transcend a

(42:59):
lifetime.
Y'all going to make some of thebest friends in your whole
entire life.
I'm manifesting that.

Speaker 2 (43:05):
Yeah, that's crazy that you think that nothing but
a G thing can do that for otherpeople.

Speaker 1 (43:10):
Because we already built in the team and I see the
people and I see theirintentionality, but I also see
what they really care about, andthat's people.
Whenever you have that as yourfocus, you can go a long way and
I'm also praying over that.
But that's just to say thissoft life ain't nothing to be
played with, bro.
I feel like y'all got tounderstand what y'all saying and

(43:31):
I want everybody to have a softlife.
I really do, like I reallyenjoy seeing people at their
most peaceful, happiest, joyousstate.
That's a beautiful thing,especially if you're a black
person in this country andespecially if you are a black
woman.
On top of that, obviously, I'mgoing to always advocate for our
black man, because we getshyasted, but we do also have a

(43:54):
lot of privilege and it's OK.
Shit, I know I'm desirable bythe masses, although they try to
kill me more often than not.
I have a way of schmoozingsilver tongue in my way through
things, and that's all I'm goingto say.

Speaker 2 (44:11):
Yeah, I mean, I think for me soft life is just
basking and my accomplishments.

Speaker 1 (44:22):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (44:22):
And just I feel like for me for a while, for a minute
, things were just hitting onall cylinders.

Speaker 1 (44:29):
Yeah, they was, yeah, they was.

Speaker 2 (44:30):
For a while things were just, you know.

Speaker 1 (44:33):
That season was crazy .

Speaker 2 (44:34):
Yeah, it was a good season for me and I feel like I
was fully in it and I was justlike, oh my goodness, life is
good.
I was literally just like lifeis good.
And it's not bad now, but I justfeel like I'm to the point to
where I realized that that was aseason and this is a season two
and this season is going tohave its situations that I have

(44:57):
to deal with.
But soft life for me is justbeing softer to myself and being
softer to all the things aroundme, because I'm a hard-ass
beach, like in life in general,with everything.
Everything for me is just kindof like matter of fact, just
black and white, seeing theglass half empty, and I just

(45:23):
want to be.
You know all the things thateveryone else think are
admirable things.
I want those to happen for metoo, not to say that I don't
have admirable qualities, but Ijust want to show folks that
there's another side to me thatisn't resting bitch face.

Speaker 1 (45:40):
It's just my face.

Speaker 2 (45:42):
But if that was a manifestation of someone's
character, I feel like that maybe what certain people see of me
and I don't want that to be itanymore.
I want people to know that I'ma cancer and I feel everything.
But because I had a hard life,the soft part of me is somewhere
deep inside.
Like you know, cancer is ourcrabs, the shell, the hard shell

(46:03):
, but inside it's deliciousgoodness that is soft and if you
dip us in butter we will showyou a good time, ok.
So, that's what I have to sayabout soft life.

Speaker 1 (46:15):
Soft life, chop life.
Now everybody going eatbreakfast.

Speaker 2 (46:21):
So next we'll move on to the next section, which is I
never know which one comesfirst, if it's ghetto,
intellectual or if it's things.
I send Deji on Twitter.
I feel like we can do things.
I send Deji on Twitter first.

Speaker 1 (46:40):
Honestly, I don't either, but I know, as long as
we do them, they work with me.
Things I send Deji on Twitter.

Speaker 2 (46:52):
Yeah, that's what I'm doing.
I'm looking for it.

Speaker 1 (46:54):
You forgot to do the thing.
You say things.
I send Deji on Twitter.
That's what you do.

Speaker 2 (46:59):
Oh, ok, I don't remember me ever doing that.
But did you see OK Things Isend Deji on Twitter.
I sent you a tweet.
The date was six days ago andit's a Nio, nio.

Speaker 1 (47:21):
Yeah, yeah, the mashup.
Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I sent that to you on Twitter,so it was the mashup of SZA's
latest single, saturn, andNaio's song Saturn, which I'm
not going to say which one isbetter than the other, although
you could probably tell whichone is.

Speaker 2 (47:42):
It's so crazy how like life is.
You know like people areexperiencing the same thing that
you know.

Speaker 1 (47:52):
That I'm experiencing .

Speaker 2 (47:54):
Yeah, because we're all you have a point of
reference like this is notsomething that is just.

Speaker 1 (47:59):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 2 (48:00):
But you believe in God and this is the stars.
So what do you think about that?

Speaker 1 (48:03):
This is what I do.
So if you're asking me how, Ibelieve there's a.
They're yummy.
Stop hitting the mic and thenyou're gonna eat in front of you
.
What's going on?
Damn, I wish we could recordthis because this is real crazy
folks.
But we'll be on YouTubeeventually, hopefully sooner

(48:23):
than I have a question.
That's why I put the microwave.
Okay, all right.
So if you're asking me how Ifeel about Saturn, was it a song
that I've been listening to andI relate to more and more as I
listen to it?
Yes, but to your point about mebeing a Christian, me being a
Christian, there's reference.
I don't think.
That's why I sent it to you soyou could start talking about

(48:46):
religion.
No, I wasn't gonna say.
All I was gonna say is thatrebirth is something that is
part of the Bible.
Right, we all progress, we allhave to come back from whatever
we came back from, but it'sinteresting how both of their
songs are about the same thing,but from different viewpoints.

(49:06):
But I also think, because weare the human race, we also
forget that we share a lot ofthings in common, and suffering
is one of those things, and weall go through a point of life
where it seems like everythingis beating our ass and nobody
wants to admit it.
They want to act likeeverything is perfect.

(49:27):
But I'm gonna tell you, becauseI've been telling y'all
Saturn's revenge is beating myass.

Speaker 2 (49:34):
Saturn's return.

Speaker 1 (49:35):
I know what I said Saturn's revenge is beating my
ass.

Speaker 2 (49:38):
Yeah, I mean, I also just think it was interesting
that two artists that we loveare talking about the same, or
Naio talks about it and now Cisis talking about it, but just
having that conversation or themjust speaking to something that
folks are experiencing.
It's very interesting to me inthe way that she was able to

(50:01):
just sing the song and make itfit in.

Speaker 1 (50:03):
It was pretty cool, so yeah that was things I send
Deji on Twitter.
Maybe next week we'll do thatfor R&B Doug and actually break
down the lyrics.

Speaker 2 (50:09):
Of Saturn.

Speaker 1 (50:10):
Yeah, both of them.

Speaker 2 (50:12):
Yeah, that'll be cool .
Got an intellectual questionfor you, Deji.

Speaker 1 (50:16):
What's up?

Speaker 2 (50:18):
Do you think?

Speaker 1 (50:19):
You ain't never been that hungry.

Speaker 2 (50:20):
No, I just like playing team chips.

Speaker 1 (50:26):
I know y'all, because y'all hate that when somebody's
smacking your ear.
You know what I'm saying Likethat's what you do right now
about ear is.

Speaker 2 (50:39):
Listeners are gonna hear a two-gap intellectual
question for you, Deji.

Speaker 1 (50:42):
What's up?

Speaker 2 (50:45):
After how long of dating someone is it appropriate
for you to poop at their house?

Speaker 1 (50:54):
So you're asking the wrong person.

Speaker 2 (50:55):
Yeah, I guess this doesn't really apply to Niggas,
because y'all just do yourbusiness anywhere Correct?

Speaker 1 (50:59):
Yeah, that's a wrong, that's about.

Speaker 2 (51:01):
But okay, would you judge a girl if she came over to
your house and pooped the firsttime she came over to your
house?

Speaker 1 (51:06):
No, she a human being .

Speaker 2 (51:08):
Yeah, I feel like I wouldn't judge nobody either.
Honestly I wouldn't poop atnobody's house for the first
time, just because that's justhow I am, because I don't even
really poop in public like that.
If I have to go, really, really, really bad, yes I will go, but
for the most part I like to domy business before I leave, or
I'll hold it until I get home.

Speaker 1 (51:28):
I'm not with that.

Speaker 2 (51:28):
And never on the first link up.
I won't even poop in public onthe first link up.

Speaker 1 (51:32):
Honestly, I mean I'm unashamed.
I'm very unashamed, I won'teven blink.
I'm very unashamed.

Speaker 2 (51:42):
I won't even yawn.

Speaker 1 (51:43):
Okay, anyways, I won't even breathe.
That's what you're saying,basically.
You ruined the joke Sure, no,I'm very unashamed, but that's
just how introspective I am.

Speaker 2 (51:55):
That's just how much I'd be so worried about You're
gonna let me get this out.
What other people?
Because, you're just coming outthree times.

Speaker 1 (52:03):
I'm just doing this for the last episode because we
talked about it the whole time,but all I was gonna say is I'm
unashamed, and me beingunashamed You're not too much
shame.
I just be like.
It is what it is.
I am like.

Speaker 2 (52:20):
So how long does the girl have to wait before she can
be fighting around you?

Speaker 1 (52:25):
I mean it's not a big deal, Because you know I be
farting a lot.
I don't believe in holding infarts or shits or piss, because
it's natural.
It's natural.
It's natural.
But also I heard that like, ifyou hold that and don't quote me
on this, but I hope.

Speaker 2 (52:45):
Somebody listened to what you say.
As law, this is ghettointellectual.

Speaker 1 (52:50):
But I'm saying I heard, if you hold all that
stuff in, at least the colon andprostate cancer.

Speaker 2 (52:54):
That's probably not good for you to be holding all
that stuff.

Speaker 1 (52:56):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying, so I just be letting it
go.
But don't get me wrong If we'venot built up a report.

Speaker 2 (53:04):
Yeah, you can't just.

Speaker 1 (53:05):
But I don't, I don't do blind dates.

Speaker 2 (53:08):
It's not even about a blind date.
It could be the first timeY'all met in person.
Now y'all talking offline andyou decided to go on a date.

Speaker 1 (53:15):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (53:15):
Like if she bubbleguts on a date.

Speaker 1 (53:19):
Well, I'd hope that you would just cancel and be
like Am I stomaching all right?
No, just make up and excuse,because I'm actually very, I'm
actually like Understanding.

Speaker 2 (53:26):
Yeah, I'd be like, damn, it's all right, it's good
we are.
Don't do that around me Likenever, ever Go to the bathroom.

Speaker 1 (53:31):
Bubbleguts is a part of life.

Speaker 2 (53:33):
They are.

Speaker 1 (53:33):
I asked somebody who used to struggle with bubbleguts
until I learned what I could.

Speaker 2 (53:36):
Chew his lactose.

Speaker 1 (53:37):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (53:38):
It's good to know your body.
That's the thing that I thinkit may be Like you should know
your body, but also like I justbe thinking everything is.

Speaker 1 (53:45):
Is should just be.
I thought you was about to askabout the other thing.

Speaker 2 (53:49):
No, we'll talk about that in another episode.

Speaker 1 (53:50):
Got it All right.
Well then, I think we're done,we're done.

Speaker 2 (53:54):
Thank you for listening to us.
You can catch us on social media.
It's nothing but a G-thing.
We are on Instagram, twitterand TikTok, but they're all
different.
Instagram and Twitter nothingspelled all the way out
N-O-T-H-I-N-G.
Capital B, capital A, capital G, capital T.
That's Instagram and Twitter.
Nothing but a G-thing.

(54:14):
On TikTok is nothing spelledall the way out Capital B,
capital A, capital G thingspelled all the way out.
Yes, my personal social mediais is suki G's.
That's on Instagram and Twittersuki, IG, double EZ, because I
make everything that I try Looktwice as easy.
And TikTok is DJ suki G's.
So DJ suki, ig, double EZ.

Speaker 1 (54:36):
My socials is the same Twitter IG theRMB thug
underscore D-E-J-I.
Now we're probably going to dothis at the beginning of the
episode so we can get the mostlistenership, but Yemi, what we
got going on this month.

Speaker 2 (54:55):
I don't know, did you ?
What do we have going on thismonth?

Speaker 1 (54:57):
We have this event called Dirty Damn going on this
month.
It should be March 24th, Ibelieve.

Speaker 2 (55:02):
It's a Sunday.

Speaker 1 (55:02):
March 24th, on the Sunday, dirty Damn, come through
at Engine Coffee Shop.
Engine Coffee shop Get yourdance sound from the Tamia to
the Crank that Soulja Boy.
Crank that Soulja Boy I wasgoing to do.

Speaker 2 (55:19):
No.

Speaker 1 (55:20):
Texas hold on.
But I was going to do the leftright.
Let me see you do it.

Speaker 2 (55:25):
Oh yeah, it's a line dancing class, so we're
literally getting folks togetherwho don't know dances, who want
to learn dances, who want to bein community and just want to
wear their denim on denim.
They call it a cowboy suit.
Yep, and we're just going tohave a good time.
It's going to be music, it'sgoing to be people, it's going
to be dance actual danceinstructors.

Speaker 1 (55:45):
Two dance instructors .

Speaker 2 (55:45):
Yes, so we're doing that.
So if you are in the Chicagoland area and want to pop out,
pop out, it's free.

Speaker 1 (55:51):
And we're going to have specialty cocktails too.

Speaker 2 (55:53):
I can't tell you what the name of the cocktails are,
but we do have the names.
It is really cute.

Speaker 1 (55:57):
Specialty cocktails and then it becomes like a day
party right After the linedances, because it's only a few
hours.
But, yes, it's free.
So this is our first event,okay, I wonder why.
So make sure you RSVP.
You can do that through PoshPosh.

Speaker 2 (56:15):
Eventbrite.
The link is in the bio of ourpodcast.

Speaker 1 (56:20):
Yes, link at bottom Instagram yes, Instagram.
And.

Speaker 2 (56:23):
I just want to say shout out to all the Muslims out
there Happy Ramadan.

Speaker 1 (56:26):
Happy Ramadan Also.

Speaker 2 (56:28):
Last thing, as we flesh out this team, if you are
interested in joining, pleasereach out to us at nothing but
the GD on Instagram or you can,any skill, anything that you
feel like you can contribute,even if you feel like you don't
have a skill and you just wantto be on the team because you
rock with us.
We will accept that too, and wewill help you find your way

(56:48):
with us.
We appreciate all the help.
Thank you so much.

Speaker 1 (56:50):
Thank you for listening.
Y'all keep it lovely.
How do you say what is Ramadan?
It's rock bar, or is that theend of this?
That's what it is.