My Karma Story – How the universe took care of things for me.

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podcast.
Thanks so much for tuning in.
I'm Maureen McGrath.
I'm a registered nurse, nurse,continence advisor and a sexual
health educator.
I have a clinical practice inVancouver, british Columbia.
I also do online work as well.
I see patients with all sortsof health issues, in large part
perimenopause, menopause,postmenopause, sexual health
issues.
You can email me nursetalk athotmailcom if you would ever

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like to have an onlineappointment to talk about any of
your health issues.
Because you know I'm all abouthealth, but not just physical
health, mental health as well,and I do a lot of contract work.
I don't just work in the clinic, you know.
I do a lot of presentations.
I pick up contracts here andthere and have done so for a

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number of years, worked for avariety of organizations and one
year ago today to the day Ifaced a tough situation at one
of these contract work places.
I was bullied by somebody whowent out of their way to push me
out.
I had a great run and I enjoyedevery minute of it, except for

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the last year where I wasbullied through text, phone
calls and emails.
Instead of fighting back ordwelling in negativity, I chose
to walk away with my dignity,with grace and trusting that the
universe would take care of therest.
Fast forward to today.
Well, things are so much betterand I'm so glad I no longer do

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that contract, but at the timeit felt like a loss.
But in looking back, it was thebest thing that could ever have
happened to me and I wanted toshare this story with you
Because I know many of you wholisten to this podcast have gone
through or going throughdifficult times, and I'm
somebody that believes in karmaand karma trusts in the universe

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.
That you know karma neverforgets an address, as Oprah
Winfrey once said.
You know that difficultsituation for me pushed me
towards something so much betterand in fact, I asked why didn't
I do this four years ago?
Because it is so much better Ihave.

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You know it became verystressful.
If you've ever been bullied,you you know it's something that
and I'm quite a busy person.
So it was really only the timethat I was dealing with the
bully or that the bully wastargeting me, and I was not the
only person that this personbullied.
There were a number of otherpeople this person had bullied

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and in fact, this person hadbeen investigated for workplace
bullying and racialdiscrimination and you know, at
that workplace I found that outafter I left.
But that difficult situationpushed me towards something so
much better, and I mean that andI believe that for you as well.
You know I have much lessstress around this type of work.

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That was related to that muchmore time for myself and an
aspect of my career that is notonly more fulfilling but
significantly more rewarding,and that's both personally and
financially, and it's not justabout money.
But I'm happy to say that youknow I'm kind of proud of myself

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.
I actually did something in thelast year, built something up,
and you know I've created it andI figured out a way to monetize
it and things are going well, Ihave to say, and you know I
realized it could change in aminute, but I don't have that
sort of negative attitude, I'mmuch more of an optimist, you

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know.
But I can't say I would be lyingif I said I didn't feel badly
because I at the time I feltterrible.
I mean, nobody wants to be letgo and but you know, I had some
satisfaction because I did sayto the bully you know I'm not,
you know who was expecting me tobe, you know demonstrate, you
know, negative emotion and be soupset and then was pretending

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to be empathetic toward me.
I did say to them you bulliedme for the last year.
That's why I'm, you know, onsome level I'm not upset, I'm
actually relieved, I'm actuallyquite happy.
And they bullied me right tothe bitter end.
And you know, and it wasextremely difficult, you know
that person.
I haven't really thought aboutthat person since then.

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Life goes on.
I'm very fortunate, I try tolook on the bright side of
things.
But today I found out that mybully was let go from the same
company and honestly, I don'ttake joy in someone else's
misfortune, but I do believe inkarma, as I said, and my purpose

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is not here to say to havesought revenge.
I never did.
I left without saying a word,although a lot of people did
contact me after I left tosuggest that I speak to other
people who were targets of thesame person as well, who were
targets of the same person aswell.
You know, I fully believe thatthe energy we put out into the

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world, good or bad, always findsits way back.
You know I had a patientrecently was talking about
morals and values, and you knowit's very important that you
understand your own morals andvalues and you have a good moral
compass, because you know it'sa soft pillow at night and that

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good that you do in the worldalways finds its way back to you
.
When we operate with integrity,the universe clears the path
for us, and when others act withmalice, that same universe
corrects the balance in ways wemay never expect.
So often I have said to mypatients a year from now, you

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will look back and you will beso glad this happened.
And one year later, after thatwhich happened to me and I don't
want to sound like a victim Iam so glad it happened.
There have been a number oftimes that that has happened for
me.
I had another bullyingexperience, like 10 or 12 years
ago, and you know that personbullied a lot of people in the

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company and also was sexuallyharassing the women of the
company and a few peopleactually took him, you know,
filed claims against him and gotworkplace bullying awards.
And you know, a few years later, of course you know, when the
company grew a bit, half thecompany and I think it had about

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100 employees by that time halfof the company penned a letter
saying how that person wastreating everybody in the
company and the other half, theysaid, was too afraid of the
bully who was the head of theorganization.
They were too afraid of thebully to say anything.
That bully actually got removedfrom their position as well.

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Of course.
They spun it and made it soundlike it was something that they
wanted, but it wasn't.
It was actually an ousting.
Honestly, the universe correctsthe balance in ways that we
never expect.
This experience and otherexperiences in my life has
reaffirmed something I alwayshave believed you don't need to

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seek revenge, you don't need toexpose anyone, you don't need to
carry resentment or negativity,because that makes you
unhealthy unhealthy of mind andI often say success is peace of
mind.
If you can step away withdignity, you are stepping away
with grace and with yourselfintact.

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Just keep moving forward.
I promise you trust the processand know that life has a way of
making things right.
If you're going throughsomething similar, try and hold
your head high.
What's meant for you willalways find you and what's not
will eventually fall away.
And those old sayings like whatgoes around comes around is so

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true.
Integrity wins every singletime.
It might take a year, it mighttake a decade, it might be in
the next life honestly, if youbelieve in next lives but it
will happen and you willactually be a better person for
it.
I feel like I'm so much bettertoday than I was a year ago.

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And you know what happened atthe very end was I?
I I mean I.
I hesitate to even say I made amistake, because it was a.
It wasn't a mistake.
It happened all the time atthis company.
It was routine practice, butthis person made it out to me
that it was a mistake andbecause of that, two days later

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I was ousted.
I and I believe they talked thepowers to be into letting me go
and and you know, when I wasleaving, I'd heard a story of
somebody else who was workingthere and they said whenever
they made a mistake, my bullycalled them and berated them on
the phone for 30 minutes and youknow, my only gift really to

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that workplace was to tell thatperson that's not normal.
Nobody should be treating youthat way.
You need to stand up foryourself.
But people are afraid to standup for themselves, especially
when somebody is takingadvantage of them or somebody is
bullying them or somebody isbeing nasty or mean.
I don't understand mean people.
I don't understand nastiness.
I can only think that they'remiserable and they're unhappy on

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the inside and you can onlyhave pity upon them and really
they are to be pitied and notscorned.
Pity upon them and really theyare to be pitied and not scorned
.
But one year later I'm happy tosay that the advice that I've
given to many of my patients whohave been heartbroken in
relationships or who've lost ajob or who have had another
tragedy or trauma in their life,one year from now you will be

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glad that this has happened, andI'm talking about things that
have been inflicted upon themlike job loss, or like losing a
friend, or, um, which I'veexperienced as well, losing a
friendship of friend.
You know, blamed me forsomething.
Women can be so nasty, by theway.
Um, you know, somehow I wasresponsible for some wealthy guy

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never calling her anyway,because she had her her sight
set on him, um, that he wasgoing to marry her, but, you
know, because they were drinkingtogether at a party.
Anyway, somehow it was my faultthat the guy never called her.
But anyway, I think if hewanted to call her he would have
called her.
But as a result, she had to endthe friendship with me because

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she lost it on me and wasscreaming in front of other
people and I think, really, atthe end of the day, she was just
so embarrassed at her behaviorwhile she was drunk that she
just could never really look atme again because perhaps I
reminded her of her behavior,which was common for her.
You know, she that was, and youknow, after not being her
friend, it was a relief.

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Other friends said to me she'snot your friend, she treats you
terribly and you know what?
I'm an easygoing personalityand I realized she would treat
me terribly.
She was nasty to me, she wouldbe mean, she would be sarcastic,
she would make awful jokes andlaugh at me.
And you know what?
It's such a relief not to haveher as a friend anymore because
she is such a nasty person.
And you know, again, I wasn'tthe only one.

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There's a list of women she hasdone this to and people she
actually did it to, somebodythat she worked for.
You know, during the time sheworked for them, she was
planning her divorce and she wasalso, you know, she took some
contracts from that company and,you know, set up her own
company.
You know.

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So she's, you know herintegrity was questionable and
you know I had referred her forthat.
I gave her a reference for thatjob and you know I may never
get over that guilt.
But my point is, we all facedifficult situations in life, we
all face tough times and youknow it's sometimes you have to
change yourself.
Sometimes you have to lookwithin and say what was it about

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me that I was a target for thatbully?
What was it about me?
What did I do?
How am I responsible here for,you know, carrying on with that
friendship for much longer thanit ever should have carried on
for carrying on with thatfriendship for much longer than
it ever should have carried on.
For you know, what did I do tolose that job?

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Or what did I do to lose thatrelationship?
Whatever it is, you know, takea look at it, take your
responsibility, because you knowwe all have ownership in this.
But try not to be negative andunderstand that karma never
forgets an address and theuniverse will sort this out for
you and you can have peace ofmind knowing that and just even
saying that, repeating that toyourself, because I know that

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it's traumatic at the beginning.
And you know, when you losesomething, or you know, lose a
lover or a friend, or a job, uh,or an opportunity, and you
think, oh, nothing good willever happen, we can
automatically go to thosenegative thoughts.
You know we all do it, it's socommon.
But I'm suggesting perhaps youtry a different route.

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In a year I will be better.
In a year, I will look back onthis and be glad this happened.
And whenever I've had anexperience like that, I can
certainly look back and say youknow, maybe times during that
year it was tough, you'reostracized from people or you're
unemployed or whatever.
But you know, about a yearlater you can honestly look back

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and think I'm so glad thathappened.
I've grown as a result of it,I'm a better person, I'm a
better human.
You know you can come across asa better mother or father or
sibling or parent or daughter orson, or whatever your
relationship is to other people.
But you know, maybe there aresome things that you can and I'm
not saying that you're to blameor you're, you know, bad in any

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way.
It's just that sometimes wecontribute when we really don't
realize we want to blame theother person entirely, but
sometimes you don't speak up.
You know I was busy.
I documented everything thatthis person did, but I never
reported it to anybody and thatwas my mistake and you know I'll
never do that again.
And you know I still have thedocumentation in case I ever

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need it.
You never know, but I wouldsuggest that document as well.
But you know what?
Honestly, if you can walk away,hold your head high, do not
have, try not to have thosefeelings of resentment, because
when you put out negativity, itfinds its way back to you as
well.
But when you choose to riseabove, life will reward you.

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I promise you Trust the process.
The universe always balancesthe scales.
I'm Maureen McGrath.
You're listening to NurseMaureen's Health Show Podcast.
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