July 10, 2025 • 52 mins
SUMMARY
In this conversation, Blair Armstrong and Brent Wright explore the multifaceted nature of trust, emphasizing the importance of empathy, communication, and personal accountability in building and maintaining trust in relationships. They discuss the challenges of trusting others in a world where trust seems to be eroding and the necessity of taking proactive steps to foster trust within oneself and with others. The dialogue also touches on personal growth, the impact of past experiences on current relationships, and the importance of being transparent and consistent in one's actions to rebuild trust.
TAKEAWAYS
- Building trust requires empathy and understanding.
- Trust is not given; it is earned through actions.
- There are layers and levels to trust that must be navigated.
- Communication is key to maintaining trust in relationships.
- Personal accountability is essential in rebuilding trust.
- Trusting others can be challenging due to past experiences.
- Empathy is crucial in fostering trust with others.
- Being transparent about feelings helps build stronger connections.
- Taking action is necessary to cultivate trust in relationships.
- Trust must be verified through consistent actions.
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Brent (00:00):
When you give empathy, it is not just for the other
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person. When you give trust,it's not just for the other
person. It makes you a betterhuman and a better individual
and it makes you feel something.It gives you an oxytocin bump,
if you will, or a cortisol oradrenaline hit depending upon
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where you're at in theadrenaline junkie world or life,
you know, but in essence, whenyou give trust and give empathy,
you're not just doing it forthem, you're doing it for
yourself too. No different thanwhy do people give to charities?
Because they like the feeling.It's all about the feeling.
Blair (00:58):
All right, all right, all right. Good morning, good
afternoon, good evening,wherever you may be. If this is
your first time here, I'm BlairArmstrong of Team Armstrong
Coldwell Banker. I'm a globalluxury specialist in the world
of residential real estatelocated here in the beautiful,
beautiful, not cold climate ofthe Coachella Valley. We will
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hit a nice, nice temperaturetoday, probably between one
hundred fifteen and one hundredeighteen today.
It is the yucky time of yearhere in this beautiful valley.
But again, if this is your firsttime here, this is Old Guys
Still Rock. As I said, I'm BlairArmstrong on my left, possibly
your right, depending on howthis comes out as an edit. It
seems to change every week, butwe love it. My very, very, very
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good friend for almost thirtyyears, Brent Wright of Brent
Wright Incorporated.
He is, I don't wanna ever callhim the co host because him and
I designed this podcasttogether. Without him, this
would not exist. Without him, wewould not have joined into
episode 110 today. So BrentWright of Brent Wright
Incorporated located inbeautiful Eugene, Oregon.
(02:07):
Actually, I'd rather be thereright now.
It's probably warm for them, butI'd probably be wearing a coat
where he is right now. So what'sup my dude? How are you? What is
going That on in your
Brent (02:18):
was a great intro. Thank you very much as always. It's
gonna be a balmy 80 degreestoday, so it's probably colder
than when you how you startedthis morning. So
Blair (02:28):
It is.
Brent (02:29):
Yeah. Yep. Yep. It's been, it's been a very
interesting turn of events thelast couple of weeks, and I
think we're gonna get into thata little bit today. I feel like
people are afraid to move.
Mhmm. They're afraid to takeaction. They're afraid to commit
to anything. They're afraid tojust really trust in any
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process, even the most simplestthings. And it's been very very
interesting to watch.
I'm trying to convey this in away that doesn't seem like
frustration. It is debilitatingto watch seemingly intelligent,
competent people mesmerized andpolarized to the point of
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inaction because of what? Idon't know. I really don't. And
so that's kind of where I'm attoday is just trying to
understand what the universe hasfor us going forward and try to
understand my interactions withpeople and how I can do those
better, I guess.
Blair (03:39):
It's a lot, right? I mean, everyone is at high
tension. Talked about, I justtook my blood pressure the other
day and I was feeling prettygood and I got it like, that's
not good. I looked up on mymother and I was like, Oh, that
seems pretty good. And they'relike, Yeah, you got some
hypertension rolling.
And I'm like, Shit. So I justgot done. Take TMG. TMG? I love
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it.
Brent (04:04):
MG. Google that or go on Amazon and look up TMG by NOW
Foods.
Blair (04:10):
Okay.
Brent (04:11):
That is what I take, and it's been a game changer. I got
that off of Gary Breca and testit. Right? And so, like I had I
take double the amount that itsays on the bottle because like
Gary said, you know, everybody'san individual and everybody's
different. Not everybody.
Yes, everybody's different, buteverybody is different. How they
respond to inputs and outputs.That has dropped my blood
(04:35):
pressure down considerably. I
Blair (04:38):
love it.
Brent (04:39):
And so try that out.
Blair (04:41):
I will definitely do that.
Brent (04:42):
You and anybody else, give that a shot.
Blair (04:44):
All right. I think a lot of us need that too. Know, I
just got done. I hope first andforemost, I hope everyone had a
great fourth of July. We put outan episode on the fourth and
just kind of a long weekend, alot of eating out, doing some
different things.
Long story short is on Saturdayafternoon at 02:30, he decided
to do a seventy two hour fast.
Brent (05:01):
Oh.
Blair (05:02):
Water fast with electrolytes. I had a McCumber
has done one. McCumber, if youguys don't know who that is,
he's been on our show a coupletimes. It's great, great insight
on from him. And then we wentout to dinner with another guy
named Rick Jones.
He does one once a month. And soI started reading into it and I
just heard this and these arethe guys going back to what we
will get into here in a littlebit as these guys, I trust them.
(05:24):
Their track record has proventhere's trust in these guys,
right? So anyway, I'm like,after playing golf, we had
basically three days ofleftovers and didn't have any
breakfast that morning. Cameback and I'm like, you know,
it's basically Saturday.
Nothing's going on. It's fourthof July weekend, blah, blah,
blah, blah, blah. So I had ahalf a rack of ribs, three
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pieces of pizza and an IPA. AndI'm like, oh God, that tasted so
good. And then I'm like, andabout ten minutes later, like,
that wasn't a good idea.
You know, my, I am not 21anymore and, just powering that
stuff down was not good. So longstory short is I decided right
there, just clicked in. I'mlike, you know what? I'm gonna
do this 21 I'm gonna do thisseventy two hour fast. And it
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was an experience.
I learned a lot about it. I'veread a lot about about it. I I
we will get in more into itlater, but I will say this,
kinda like doing live hardprogram.
Brent (06:21):
Mhmm.
Blair (06:21):
It'll change your life for the better. I know that
you've probably you and Aprilprobably read a lot about this
and know different things aboutfasting. I get that some of you
guys may have have heard aboutthis and do this stuff. It was
very intriguing how God has hadour body that it can redevelop
itself within seventy two hours.So not eating food, but just
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having water.
Your body starts eating deadcells, which could be cancerous
cells or could be a sexuallytransmitted disease cell that
you've been trying to conquerfor years, to the onset of
dementia. It just, the list goeson and on and on and on and on
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of things because the body'strying to survive. Any type of
energy or dead cells that canget energy from, it will eat it
dispose of it obviouslyurination or pooping, whatever
you want to call it. Yeah.Anyway, if you guys want to try
it, give me a call, text me.
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Obviously, April and Brent, theyhave an amazing wellness center
out in Eugene. They probablyhave some good insight in there,
but I strongly suggest you doit. As I said, one of my friends
that does it, he does it once amonth. I'm probably gonna do it
once a quarter. I learned a lotfrom this one.
I'm gonna go in with betternutrition. I would've helped out
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a lot of that way. I had so muchtoxin in my body. It was a
little rough at the start. Justeating bad food, dude.
It's not, wasn't like bad, badfood. Wasn't not eating at
Carl's Jr. Or anything likethat, but I was just, you know,
ribs and pizza and beer. It justwasn't the nutrients that needed
to go into that. So I learned alesson.
(08:08):
It was good. Yesterday, did justlike I had three first form
energy drinks in me. Today I'mjacked. So I'm excited. I know
that was a I'm just telling you,if you guys are looking for a
reset and you don't wanna do 75hard, which I strongly suggest
you do anyway, but a good resetfor just seventy two hours of
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your life, which is seems like along time.
Do a seventy two hour fast, andI can help you through it, and
I'll get you guys if you wantmore information that I can't
provide. So
Brent (08:39):
Well, the one thing that you said preshow was I can hear
everything. Like, you you have amental acuity that's different
than before, it seems. You'reprobably smelling things
differently. You're probablyseeing things differently. You
are, as a friend of mine says,Todd, he's like, you're probably
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the days seem shinier.
He knows when he's strugglingwhen the days don't seem shiny
anymore. That's his adjectivethat he uses. And so I do things
like that. So I do an eighteenhour fast every day.
Blair (09:14):
Okay. So so yeah.
Brent (09:16):
Yeah. Anywhere between sixteen and eighteen hours
pretty consistently. Itdefinitely helps with the
fogginess and the grogginess andthe ability to just pop up right
out of bed and all those things.So
Blair (09:27):
yep. And we'll and Brent will attest to this too is it
works for us. But if you havehealth issues, see somebody
that's a that's smarter in themedical field than
Brent (09:38):
Well, on that, my general manager for The Body Shop, his
brother started down this roadand didn't get a lot of help
with a doctor or anything likethat before he made a lot of
drastic changes in his life. Andhe started intermittent fasting,
ended up having a stroke at like40 he's at twenty four hour care
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now.
Blair (10:00):
Yeah. There's some tension in the body and some
things might come to just Justbe warned, your body is gonna
detoxify and it'll add extrastress.
Brent (10:15):
Yeah. Get some help first.
Blair (10:17):
Check into it. Check your There's great information
through I would suggest getting
Brent (10:25):
a blood test. I get a blood test every six to eight
weeks.
Blair (10:27):
So Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, dude. Let's get into it.
Strap it in, man. As I said, Igot some stuff that, you know, I
wanted to talk to you about, butI wanna get into a deep
question. And you and I haveknown each other for thirty
years, but brought up thistopic. You just you know, you
started with a say so. Do youtrust me?
(10:49):
That's my question to you,Brent.
Brent (10:50):
So in inherently, I think an arbitrary question. Okay.
Blair (10:57):
So
Brent (10:58):
the quick answer is yes. The long answer is in what
context and in what situation?Right?
Blair (11:05):
Right on.
Brent (11:06):
So for me to clarify, trust everybody until I don't.
Blair (11:13):
Right.
Brent (11:13):
Okay. And then trust is earned, of course, layers of
trust, levels of trust. I thinktrust, if I had to explain it,
is how somebody talks about youwhen you're not in the room.
That for me is a realmeasurement of trust. Do I trust
any of my male friends to spendthe night with my wife in the
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same room?
No. Human nature. K? And it'snot that I don't trust the
friend. It's not that I don'ttrust my wife.
But locks just keep honestpeople honest. K? Do I trust
anybody with my kids? No. Thattrust is earned.
I protect my kids, protect mywife with my life. A 100%. So
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again, there's layers and levelsof trust. There's situational
trust, an overarching trust. DoI trust you to be a good human?
Probably not because you're afallible human. Do I trust me to
be a good human? Probably notbecause I'm a fallible human.
Right? But do I trust that mostpeople wanna do the right thing?
(12:21):
Yeah. Do I trust that they'regonna fail? For sure. You see
where I'm getting at with this?It's like, it's just layer
layers and levels, layers andlevels.
Blair (12:31):
And I think that's even important, and I think that's
where we're at. But here's, youknow, no, I'm gonna this is
gonna be on the back end of thistoo, but we're gonna start with
it. I I'm gonna start with itnow, and you can
Brent (12:42):
Mhmm.
Blair (12:42):
Take it to where you wanna go is. What I am seeing,
what you just talked abouttoday, you know, what you said
at the beginning of the show islike, I just feel like this
weird vibe. Can't, you know,trust in everyone and no one's
doing anything. Everyone's justkind of sitting around.
Brent (12:58):
Mhmm.
Blair (12:58):
We are massively and if, again, if you haven't watched
this before, go back and watch109 episodes that we have in the
past visit, especially last weekabout building your kingdom.
Right now is that time toreally, if you haven't started
or you got halfway through andyou quit, or you thought that
your kingdom was being built,this is the time to start adding
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layers to that kingdom. And thisis going to tie into that. But
what Brent said, he's frustratedright now. It's like, he just
like everyone not doinganything.
Say that again, what you're whatyou're having a hard time with,
because I'm missing some wordsand I want to a make sure
Brent (13:35):
lack lack of action.
Blair (13:37):
A lack of action.
Brent (13:38):
Right? People are just captive and not producing any
decision making ability. I justfeel like everybody's afraid to
act for fear of making the wrongchoice.
Blair (13:53):
So here's what I'm seeing. And if you guys do, you
know, we have great listeners,super smart, lots of wisdom with
all of our listeners and ourfollowers. And Brent knows that.
I know that. I mean, that's whowatches the show.
So if you're first time here andyou wanna be surrounded by those
people, stay with us and andsubscribe to this channel and do
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that stuff. Here's what I'mseeing right now. Veils are
being unlisted. Media is drivingsomeplace, and I'm not making
this whatever, because this ison both sides. We're trying to
stay in the middle on this.
But all of a sudden it's like, Itrusted that this was the right
thing that was happening. Andnow it's shown to me that it's
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not happening. And this personthat I trusted before has
betrayed me because I think thisway. And so what Brett and I
have been trying for 109episodes is to pull, especially
men, women are better than this,but however, it's getting back
to where women are going intothis too, which is super scary
to me. Going into a silomentality or staying into a
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small circle and notcommunicating anymore.
With a lack of communication,I'm going say this and I'll go
back and say something. With alack of communication, the trust
is eroding faster and faster andfaster every single day. And
it's at a point for me that Itypically don't give an ish,
like whatever, I'm gonna getbetter with or without you, that
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it's now reaching a point thatwe've gotta do something. If it
starts with Brent and I, or ifit starts with all of our all of
our listeners and followers,great. That's where it starts
with.
We're not we're not. It's myfault. It's Brent's fault.
Everyone is guilty of this. Sothere is no like, oh, I don't do
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that.
Yeah, you do. Because what Brentjust said, we're all fallible
humans. I'm going to own my shitand it's just going to be what
it is. And so now everyone'shere to say something. Oh my
god.
I voted for Trump, some of myfriends are not like me. And oh
my god. I hate Trump, and and Ijust don't understand how
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someone could do this, and duhduh duh duh. Now some of my
friends don't like me, and Idon't wanna say anything. It's
like, so I'm not gonna I'm notgonna talk about what I'm upset
about anymore, and I'm justgonna pretend everything's rose
colored glasses and and fairytales and unicorns are gonna be
running around.
And the biggest thing is I saidto you, how are we supposed to
evolve when we get to thatstate? And to me, this is not
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this is this a dark versus lightsupernatural force is keeping us
apart. That's my belief, youguys could go ahead and just, if
you say, Blair, you're crazy,put it in comments. I don't
care, let's debate it. Thatwould be great because now we
have communication.
So where Brent is frustratedright now is like, Brent is that
guy. He's gonna go in, which isa great, great avenue, which not
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a lot of people is. He's gonnago in trusting you. He knows
that he could possibly beburned. And then there's a good
chance that it's gonna happen.
But it's better for Brent to goin trusting that Brent not going
in and trusting. Does that makesense what I just said?
Brent (17:05):
It's
Blair (17:06):
better for you to go ahead and put your ego, your
heart, your everything,everything into it. It's like,
I'm going to trust you withthis, whatever the situation is.
Brent (17:20):
Trust and verify. Trust but verify.
Blair (17:22):
Right. It's going to be a process for thirty years. Do I
have your ultimate trust?
Brent (17:27):
Well, as high as the five people in my life that I find
value in and find value in me.Yeah. Right? It's the same level
with everybody. It's not a perperson thing.
It's a, do I trust humans?
Blair (17:44):
No. But but I was just saying this, you could trust me
today, but we have to you andme, and I'm using you guys
Brent (17:50):
It's a constant validation is what you're
saying. Constant validation.
Blair (17:53):
And until we go see Jesus, we are gonna constantly
be evaluating our trust and howdo we get better? How do how am
I communicating with Brent? Howam I communicating with with my
wife? How am I communicatingwith my clients? How am I
constantly paying attention tothat word trust, which is
precisely to me the second partof building your kingdom that my
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smart part of being is, how am Ibuilding that trust with them
every single day?
And if Brett or I, and I'm gonnatake out, I'm gonna get rid of
this mic here for two seconds,but I have to get this thought
out before my things gosideways. If I stop evolving,
why should anybody continue totrust me?
Brent (18:32):
I 100% agree with that. There's been a lot of comments
lately from people that I've haddiscussions with, deep
discussions, people that are inthat five person circle,
etcetera, and beyond that fiveperson circle. So you have
layers. So you have the fivepeople that you trust the most.
Right?
And then you have the, the 15 to30 people that you trust
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implicably or implicitly, if youwill, but they they sometimes
let you down. Okay? So again,humans, fallible, all those
things, not trying to judge. Butin talking with a highly
intelligent, highly actionoriented individual this last
week, he says, I'm just gonnaquit. It's too hard.
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I'm not doing it anymore. Idon't wanna deal with it. I'm
not doing it well. It's notprofitable. It doesn't make me
feel good, so I'm just gonnawalk.
And now my version of thatperson, not that I put him on a
pedestal, not that he was ahero, not that he was any you
know, none of those things. Sojust an average human being in
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my world. My world's a littledifferent. So an average human
being is somebody thataccelerates, you know, 110, 120%
and expects nothing in return.Okay?
That's an average human being inthe world of people that I try
to surround myself with, buthe's ready to quit. And if you
really dissect the reason thathe's wanting to quit, sorry
(20:04):
about that. If you reallydissect the reason he's wanting
to quit is because he didn'tgive it a 100% in the beginning,
so he didn't get the resultsthat he expected. So now he just
wants to quit. Instead of givingthat 110, 120% and achieving a
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different result or decidingthat he's going to pivot his
actions to get that result, he'sjust gonna walk away.
And now I don't trust going intobusiness with him ever. If he's
gonna quit when it gets hard, Idon't wanna go into business
with you.
Blair (20:41):
And, God, that's just so good because it just goes back
to it. That is where we havecome because we're instantaneous
society. We've talked about thisso much, too. It's like, okay,
it's just not working out. I'mnot going to trust the process.
Now, because this one guy didn'ttrust the process because he,
somebody that he did trust, lethim down. And now it's going to
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affect the relationship thatBrent has with this guy, because
the lack of trust that you'regoing to stick when the fire
gets hot. You're not going to dothat. Your trust with April is
evolving every day. Your trustwith the kids are evolving every
day.
My trust with Chrissy, the samething, and vice versa, her trust
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in me. So those are the thingswe're seeing too. And I think
the biggest thing that we'reseeing is this, again, we have
always, and this is why Brentand I always talk about, be a
leader. Be a leader. Everyone'sequipped to be a leader in a
different way or not, but youare equipped to be a leader.
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And this is what I'm having ahard time with. And I think
Brett kind of said this indifferent words. And you can
correct me if I'm wrong when Isay this. But we have looked to
people that we haven't investedwith, unless we're watching it
on TV or a movie, blah, blah,blah, as our leaders. We trust
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them without peeling back theonion and really get to know
them.
Oh, they're on TV, so they gottabe famous. We can trust them.
Oh, it's on the news. We seethat. We trust them.
Even though there's newschannels bait each other. But
that's the point. The point ofit is, and now all of this stuff
that we grew up on, becausewe're old guys still rock, that
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stuff that we grew up on, we'reseeing the people that we put
our trust in fail or not tell usthe truth or come short on what
they say or find out they werein situations they shouldn't be
in. And it goes back, if I can'ttrust them, why should I trust
you?
Brent (22:51):
Well, I'll give you a for instance. So yesterday I was
talking with a staff member andrecalling since I am an old guy
that still rocks, RussellSimmons, deaf comedy jam. And
they had never heard of itbefore. And I was like, yeah,
he's done all kinds of stuff. Solet's look it up on Wikipedia.
So we go into Wikipedia and cometo find out he'd been accused of
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molesting underage girls 14times. Didn't know that. I'm
sitting there telling a staffmember that he had one of the
coolest shows in the February,late nineties and February,
early two thousands. And heseemed like a good dude and he
had a, he was a good businessmanand he had good, you know, he
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had supported many acts andsupported cultural diversity and
supported a lot of goodnonprofits and all those things,
very wealthy individual. Ididn't know that.
And now my trust in the factthat he was actually a good
individual just shrank. And Idon't put Russell Simmons on a
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pedestal. I just thought he hada cool show.
Blair (24:02):
Mhmm.
Brent (24:03):
And he and I'd heard good things. But then he disappeared.
Well, why did he disappear?Well, if you're accused 14
times, you'd probably disappeartoo if it was true. So it tells
me your actions after that tellme and validate your actions
before that.
And then I have a lack of trust.
Blair (24:22):
So this goes back to it. And again, guys, if you haven't
watched last week's episode,stop right now, go back and
watch episode 109 and apply itto what I'm just gonna say right
now. This goes back to, this isthe time. I understand I'm
guilty of it. And I'm constantly
Brent (24:40):
I talk trying you off the political ledge all the time.
All the time.
Blair (24:44):
Listen, I'm in a constant state of involvement, which
probably goes to my hypertensionand stuff like that. But the
point I'm trying to make isright now we are begging, and
we've done this, I feel like forthe last two months, is begging
you guys to become the leaderthat God put inside of you. And
(25:04):
if you don't know how to findthat, reach out to Brent, reach
out to me, come be in ourcircle. I'm not saying that
we're the smartest guys in theworld, but we have learned over
109 episodes how to talk thingsout, maybe apply different
things. Brent has one way of athought, I have a different way
of a thought.
And that's why we work so welltogether. I can confidently say,
(25:26):
and I know that we don't havethe viewers because Brent and I
have never bought anything. Weknow what it takes to go ahead
and build something fromscratch, and it's going to take
a little bit of time. I yes,we'd love to have a million
followers. Absolutely 100%.
But we're not gonna buy them.We're not going to have paid
sponsors go ahead and give usfictitious followers to make us
(25:49):
look cool. This is who we are.So I will say this, besides Andy
Frisella, and there's a coupleothers. I'm just gonna put him
out there because he's grown hisfrom grassroots.
Mhmm. We have one of the bestpodcasts that's out there right
now. I can promise you that. Andif you don't think so, tell us
different, tell us differently.But we're not having commercials
on here.
(26:09):
We're not paid propaganda. We'rejust jumping. We're two guys
that are sitting out here beingreal, being vulnerable, saying,
you know, there's times thatwe'll share with you, we're
getting our arses kicked. It'snot fun.
Brent (26:20):
Mhmm.
Blair (26:21):
We're spending our time to get out here because we know
that what we're going through iswhat you guys are going through
or what you ladies are goingthrough. And there has to be
better support and attainablesupport. And I think that's one
thing that is missing in thispodcast world because, oh my
gosh, it's like, I wish I coulddo that. Well, you know what?
(26:42):
You have an opportunity to dothat here.
You can write in what you youcan come on this show, share
your stuff. It helps out withanxiety. I have massive anxiety
before I come out of here everytime. Am I gonna sound really
good? Is it gonna come offgreat?
I don't know. But we're gonna doit, and we know that we're
helping people every single day.But the point of going too long
(27:02):
winded, going back to it, isbuild your kingdom right now.
And then build that, findanother kingdom that's next to
you that you trust. Okay.
I'm building my kingdom with mywife and I'm building my kingdom
with Brent. Those are my guysand there's more guys to that,
but I'm just kind of using thosethree as examples right Those
who are building my kingdomwith. Why? Is because they're
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building their kingdom andthere's trust in that. They're
going to Brent is gonna give mestuff.
McCumber is gonna give me stuff.My wife obviously is going to
give me stuff, which is allamazing wisdom that we can build
these kingdoms together. Andwhen people see these kingdoms
gone, Brent's might be fasterthan mine. McCumber's might be
more shinier than mine atdifferent times. But eventually
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I will get to that spot andthey're going to feed off me.
And that's what I'm talkingabout. And when you're doing
that, there's trust involvedwith that because there has to
be communication. There'semotion that's shared with that.
There's transparency shared withbuilding that kingdom. There's
consistency with building thatkingdom.
And yes, I'm talking about that.But all of that. So
transparency, empathy, andconsistency are the three main
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things that you need to have tobuild a trust. And so whatever
those are that you're lacking,again, transparency, this is
like, hey, how are you doing?Oh, I'm doing really good.
It's awesome. I'm getting my asskicked today. It's freaking
brutal out there. And if you'rein any type of industry right
now, it's freaking brutal outthere. Be transparent.
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Share your feelings. What areyou struggling with? How? Or I
struggle with this. This is mywin.
Brent (28:40):
One of my coaching clients this morning said in his
check-in, he's stressed out,feels out of control. He feels
like it's too much effort forthe level of detail that's
needed and wanted for most ofthe projects he's working on. He
feels insecure and angry andfrustrated about finances and
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feels like he's being attackedby all of the governing entities
in his business. And they'rejust it's just a money grab from
all the governing entities. Andwhen somebody tells you
something, what's the firstthing that comes to mind when
they tell you something likethat?
Go ahead go ahead and answer.Tell me, and then I'll tell you
what I what I did. Yeah.
Blair (29:23):
Yeah. It's just like, oh, yeah. I understand. And and and
this is what you need to do. Fixit.
It's my it what comes to mybrain.
Brent (29:33):
So I used to go into the fix it mode. So with, I led with
empathy and alignment and thenasked what I could do to serve
to help with those. So I didn'tsay, Yep, I understand. Because
I might not. And I understandit's kind of like an easy way
just to shut the door and closethe box and put it on the shelf.
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I said, I feel similarly and Iknow a lot of people that I talk
to feel very similarly. And Isaid, What can I do to help? And
what do you need from me? Andthen we went down that road. And
at the end, and it wasn't justbecause he's my coaching client,
I truly would do that foranybody.
And so call, text, email, reachout, and we'd like to hear from
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you about how you're feelingabout what's going on in the
world, your world, the universefrom your perspective, and how
how we can help even if it isjust to listen.
Blair (30:35):
And that's what's missing. It's where the biggest
part of trust right there. Nowthat's what Brent just said is
just so, so good because there'sa lack of empathy. It's me, me,
me, me, me, me. And it's witheverybody at certain times,
especially on a GoGo gadgetwe're building.
It's me, me, me, me, me, me, me.And Brent's wisdom, and I
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promise you, probably five yearsago, there wasn't that in
Brent's DNA. Am I correct insaying that? Yeah. How awesome
is that?
Brent (31:11):
Growth and prosperity is my goal.
Blair (31:13):
S crazy, right? Yep. Something so simple, but so
amazingly powerful and just toget that. So I wanna hope you
guys go back and listen to that.This, this is a good one so far.
This is a really good episode sofar. Just like last week and
this week, guys, if you haven'tfollowed us before, you better
follow us now, man, becausethere's some good stuff
(31:34):
happening. So I reached out toactually started as a client. We
are becoming really, really goodfriends. This guy is just one of
those salt of the earth.
There is not a lot of filterwith him, but man, he is pure
heart. He has tasted life onevery different aspect of it and
is not afraid to share hisstuff. He's does he's not like
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he's not a just as like, this iswhat it is. I've learned a lot
and wants to share. So I askedhim today, which we toss it
today.
So I've asked a couple of peoplethis. I'm gonna read this one to
you. And then, Brenna, I wantyou to respond to this. And then
I have one more to read to you.And I said, what is your biggest
hurdle trust these days?
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And he wrote back to me andgoes, it's unfortunate that
there's very little trust inthis world today, family,
friends, business partners, andbusiness deals. Today's world is
consumed with greed. Peopleforget we are all in this deal
together and that's the problem.Everyone wants the upper hand.
(32:38):
Everyone, excuse me, go writethat.
So everyone wants the upperhand. And at the end of the day,
with that mindset, all you haveis stuff, no family, no friends,
just stuff. How, you said alittle bit earlier in this show,
how do we build trust, First ofall, and I'm going to keep
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saying this, how are you goingto build trust without empathy?
Even though that you haveempathy, are you consistent with
that? And maybe you areconsistent with that.
But are you being transparent?When we, Brenna and I talk about
this, there is going to be aninvolvement. This is not, we are
the gurus of what s going onhere. We are letting you know,
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we are going to ride with you.And when I say you, everyone
that's watching this orlistening to this right now, we
are here to ride with you andstart a new era of trust that
has been eroding drastically andover years.
This is not the last six months,four years, eight years, sixteen
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years. This is not that. Thishas been eroding for a long time
and now we're becoming bitter.And that's what I said what
scares Trent and what scares us.And this is why we do this stuff
every week consistently.
Consistently. I swear to God,man, I know that you said we
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have in the past. I don'tremember us missing a week. I
know we've been off on days. Idon't remember us missing a
week.
Brent (34:07):
We missed only one.
Blair (34:09):
Did we? Okay.
Brent (34:10):
We missed only one.
Blair (34:11):
Yeah. Do we need to do this?
Brent (34:15):
Nope. Nope. Doesn't earn us a dollar.
Blair (34:19):
Yeah.
Brent (34:20):
Cost us money. Cost us time. Yeah. What I can tell you
the value for me is though, isnot just the connection with
you.
Blair (34:28):
Yeah.
Brent (34:28):
It's the connection with many other people that listen to
us. It's the connection with mywife. It's the connection with
your wife. It's the connectionwith my kids. My kids listen to
this on their tablets.
They get two hours a day oftablet and TV time period. And
that's if they get their 7,000steps in and they are taking
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their time that they earn tolisten to us on this podcast for
an hour. They're burning up anhour a week of their ten hours
to listen to us. That is thebest payout I could ever get.
That is worth more than money.
Blair (35:09):
And that's why we're doing it. That's why we're doing
it. Yeah.
Brent (35:12):
I find my son and my daughter quoting stuff that we
talk about on here and holdingme accountable to it, which
we've talked about in the past.I'm not good at. Don't like it,
doesn't feel good, but I welcomemy wife and kids to hold me
accountable to the things that Italk. Is it easy? Not at all.
Blair (35:34):
No. Well, without that. So as we said earlier, I know
that we're talking about trust,trust, trust, trust, and I
really want to get this throughthe stuff of this, but you're
holding yourself accountable.This is another form of us being
on here every week because weare now putting ourselves under
(35:56):
the microscope. And when weslide, which we will, when we
slide being consistently of whatwe're saying, people are like,
Hey, yo, what's this business?
You're talking about this andnow you're doing this. How why
are you talking about that?Checkmate. I got you. I'm going
(36:16):
back into action.
I'll adjust. I'll do somedifferent things. It takes a lot
to to hear that, But, again andthat's one of those episodes. So
one other thing on here, buddy,and I got that this is from a
teammate of mine, David Shriner.He is part of team Armstrong.
And I asked him the samequestion that we asked Joe. He
goes, my biggest hurdle withtrust is, would be letting
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people into my life be beingbetrayed by others from the
past. So many times thisconstant wall goes up. So when
someone else comes along, evenif they truly have good
intentions, sometimes forpersonal other reasons,
wondering what their angle,instead of embracing them and
learning what others may only bein your life for a certain
(37:01):
season. So what we said, whichties back into saying, so David,
when you hear this question,this is one of those episodes
you're going to have to watchover and over again.
And how are you? What are youdoing? And I want to let Brent
answer this too, because Brenthas some good stuff on here too.
What are you doing to haveothers trust you? It's not you
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trusting others.
What are you doing to haveothers trust you? So it's not
what other people are doingbecause those other people are
going to let you down. So howare you building your kingdom of
trust so others can emulate youand trust you. What do you say
on what he said?
Brent (37:44):
One more time.
Blair (37:45):
He has a, we talked about this. So he is having a hard
time trusting people becausehe's been burned in the past.
Yep. And so when you hear that,and what I was just saying to
with that is, what I was sayingis he has to be the one building
trust with others instead ofletting other people build trust
(38:08):
with him. He's got to be thecatalyst of that.
If I want trust, I have to buildtrust. It is me going out there
and going with everyrelationship, trusting them, as
you said, what you were reallygood at, is trusting others.
Until that happens, which Istruggle at, I'm the same way as
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David, I don't trust a lot ofpeople. Chris gets mad when I
say I don't trust anyone. Idon't trust a lot of people.
I'm getting better to be openwith that and giving them an
opportunity and being so closedminded in it. But do you, when
you hear David say, I have ahard time getting over this
hurdle of, or even though I meetsomebody, what's their angle?
(38:52):
What are they trying to get fromme? Blah, blah, blah, blah,
blah. And all of a sudden you'reshutting yourself down without
giving them opportunity.
What would you tell David to do?Thirty years, you just turned
30, by the way.
Brent (39:03):
Yeah. So my bookkeeper tells me this a lot, Sue, that
I'm too easily trusting that howcan I continue to do to trust
people when I continually getburned? I have to keep throwing
things out to the universe. Andwhen I get something back that
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doesn't feel good, then I stopdoing that with that person. But
I believe inherently, like Isaid, that most people are
trustworthy.
Most people want to do the rightthing, and most people want the
best for others, but they arehuman. But I would tell you,
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like, in anything, just keeptrying. If you fail, keep
trying. There is the when yougive empathy, it is not just for
the other person. When you givetrust, it's not just for the
other person.
It makes you a better human anda better individual and it makes
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you feel something. It gives youan oxytocin bump, if you will,
or a cortisol or adrenaline hitdepending upon where you're at
in the adrenaline junky world orlife, you know. But in in
essence, when you give trust andgive empathy, you're not just
doing it for them. You're doingit for yourself too. No
(40:28):
different than why do peoplegive to charities?
Because they like the feeling.It's all about the feeling. So
what you're saying is, David,is, well, I've trusted and I've
been burned, so I'm not gonnatrust anymore. And how does that
make you feel? Does that makeyou feel any better?
Does that make you feel like theworld's coming near the end to
(40:50):
an end? Sky's falling, chickenlittle? Do you like that
feeling? Does it make you feelgood to feel that way? I'm
guessing no.
And so if you hang it out there10 times and you get burned
twice, are you gonna punish theother eight people?
Blair (41:05):
Right. That's good. So this just popped in my brain
going back to professions wetrust. When you go in and you're
flying out to LA and you'resitting in that nice comfortable
seat, first class, do you trustthe guy that's flying that
airplane to get you there?
Brent (41:22):
You inherently have to because you can't fly yourself.
Blair (41:25):
Okay. Now this is where society is going. Maybe this is
what I see. I'm not not you. I'musing you as an example.
But maybe this guy has adifferent belief in God, a
different belief in politics, adifferent belief in whatever.
(41:47):
You still trust them to get youto point a, from point a to
point b.
Brent (41:51):
Again, you don't have a choice.
Blair (41:53):
You don't have a choice. Right? Right. So I mean, I
understand what choice is partof it, but the point of it is,
is you're trusting in thesepeople because that's what
you're supposed to do. What I'msaying is, if you're basing your
trust on what people watch, whatpeople do, excuse me, what
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people believe in in God orbelieve in politics, whatever
with and you're like, well, Ican't trust them because they
voted for Trump or I I can'ttrust them because they're a
Democrat.
You know, whatever. It just thepoint of it is, is when are we
actually going to sit down andtalk with them just about stuff
(42:37):
that really can make adifference? Going back to
episode 109, how are youbuilding your kingdom? What
hurdles have you had? What aresome of the things you do?
What are some of the thingsyou're struggling building your
kingdom? How can I help you getover that one brick that you're
having a hard time placing onyour kingdom?
Brent (42:58):
Yeah.
Blair (43:00):
So going back to communication, going back to the
consistency, this whole topic ofwhy I wanted to bring this on
today and talk to Brent with isthat, again, be guilty of it and
be having harsh conversationswith it. So I am not a saint in
this, and I'm going to makeadjustments in this, is that the
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keyboard warrior stuff got tostop. You have an
Brent (43:27):
Likely issue isn't going to, however.
Blair (43:30):
It's not likely going to go to. But, Brent, if we did and
I hear you. We're not I I can'tsave the world. But if you're so
upset the way the world isgoing, what are you doing to
make the change?
Brent (43:41):
Amen. Be the change you seek.
Blair (43:43):
Yep. And you're mad because of of what doing so,
what what are you doing? Youjust gonna stay mad, or are you
gonna go out and it's like,let's try to find a solution for
it? Don't know what your role Idon't know what everybody else's
ultimate solution is because noone communicates with that. I'm
just mad.
I'm just mad. That sucks. It's apretty cool world out there. We
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talked about this last week. Welive in the best freaking
country in the world.
I listen to what's going on outhere right now. I know it's
rough. I know the economy is notfun right now. I know work is
hard right now. I understandrelationships are ending every
freaking day because of all thisturmoil.
Like friendships, marriages,relationships with families, I
(44:30):
get it. But are youconcentrating on the wrong
trust? Or are you like, I needto stop and readjust my thought
process and come back and learnto trust again. Not only that,
not only do you need to learn totrust again, you need to learn
pointing finger at me, pointingthe finger at Brent. We need to
(44:54):
learn.
I should say that, that'sbetter. We are a team here.
We're going to this. We need tolearn how we can become more
trustful. And when that happens,when you make the adjustment
with your transparency, withyour empathy, which Brent, as I
said to you, Brent had a greattopic on that.
You can go back fifteen, twentyminutes on this episode and hear
what he said. And then, sotransparency, Brent has great
(45:17):
empathy and then beingconsistent with it. And when I
say consistent, it starts today,just like we talked about last
week, you're building yourkingdom starts today. Tomorrow
I'm going to build my kingdomone more day and the next day
I'm going to build my everythingto start. When I'm that
consistency doesn't stop untilyour time here on earth is done.
(45:42):
So that's what I'm excitedabout. I have to be, as Brent
says, be the change
Brent (45:50):
that you seek.
Blair (45:51):
That you seek. Ed Mylett, am I the one? I'm gonna be the
one. I'm gonna be the one.
Brent (46:01):
I do things like like set reminders for myself like that.
If I'm the one, what do I haveto do to become the one and be
the change you seek? And thoseare two things that are on my,
they pop up every single morningon my email and it's important
to revisit and again, beconsistent with the questions
(46:21):
that you ask yourself so thatway you can answer those
questions every day and getbetter.
Blair (46:27):
Yeah. Yeah. It's just, there's a lot of stuff now.
You're gonna, you know, peoplethat are watching this, I know
that you've been burned withtrust, There's a good chance you
can't look at yourself in themirror and say you've let
somebody else down because
Brent (46:39):
Probably have to.
Blair (46:41):
Yeah. Right. People trusted in you might have let
them down. I know that I have.There's a lot of bridges that I
burn because of my selfishness.
That sucks and that weighsheavy. So you have to, you know,
I have a lot of work to do toregain that trust with the
people that I broke the trustwith. And I get that. And I
(47:01):
think a lot of people when heardwhat I just said, feel, we've
always said, decisions haveconsequences. And those
consequences may eroded thattrust to a certain point that
there's no longer relationshiphere.
And if that is you who arewatching this or someone who
(47:21):
shared this show with you, asBrent says, I empathize with
you. I don't know the truefeeling that you're feeling. But
I will say is have faith thatyou can fix it and you may not
be able to fix thatrelationship.
Brent (47:36):
But don't have just blind faith in it. It's it's you gotta
do the work. As Blair saidearlier, it's up to you. You
must trust but verify. It startsout with baby steps.
You literally if it's a brokenrelationship, it's gotta be
like, okay, I'm gonna give youan opportunity to help rebuild
(47:56):
this. But the first step is onyou. The first line of
communication starts with you.If you value our friendship,
like you're saying in thisconversation, then I expect you
to reach out to me. I'm notgonna reach out to you.
I expect you to reach out to mefor no apparent reason, not just
when you need something. Iexpect you to communicate and
(48:20):
start to build a personaltrusting relationship with me
just like you would somebodythat you've never known. And
let's start from the beginning,if that's what you wanna do.
Blair (48:29):
If that's what you wanna do. And what you just said, you
know, and I'm gonna stick withwhat you just said and kinda
coincide what I just said too isthat process could go until you
see Jesus. Someone has brokenthe trust, go with caution. What
Brad said is, you know, do iton, on your, on your time. If
someone's broken your trust thatyou're allowing that time is,
(48:50):
you don't have to like fullyjump back into that.
Now the same side is that,that's what I said on the same
side is, you have done that tosomebody else. Somewhere in your
life, you've done that tosomebody else. And so the
process that you go to regainthat trust may take a lifetime.
May not. May be super Butanyways, dude, it's a lot, and
(49:14):
I'm sure that we're gonna comeback to this.
But I would say you guys, wehave a lot of really good
episodes that you can go onhere. My gut feeling, last
week's episode and today'sepisode, these are God given
episodes. That's my feeling andmy stuff to it. That's my faith
and you don't have to believe intheirs, but there's certain
(49:34):
times that God comes in andwants to give a message. I just
feel like it's building thekingdom and this trust is really
what we need right now.
And Brett's gonna have some wisewords here coming up here in a
little bit. But I will just saythis, you're not alone. We
freaking wanna help you. Andthis is I don't know how else to
say this after a 109 episodesjoined. We want to be with you
(49:58):
on this journey.
And we're literally having inthis massive ocean. Brett and I
are in this massive ocean. Wehave a lot of great other
subscribers too, and listenersto this. But we're, you're the
ones that you're watching rightnow on top of different
episodes. So we're swimmingaround with, you know, a couple
(50:19):
people with life rafts, lookingfor other people that we're not
trying to save.
We're just here to support. Soif you're struggling, I'm not
charging you. Reach out to us.Let's see how we can figure this
out. Final words for you, mydude.
Brent (50:33):
So again, I place things in in my path every day to
create positivity andconsistency. Those I said it
earlier, but I didn't have theexact quote down, and I'm gonna
read it now because it's on myphone and it goes off as a
reminder. Who do I have tobecome? Are you the one? The
second one that goes off aboutthirty minutes later is question
(50:53):
everything you're doing and howyou're doing it.
Evaluate it as if you arejudging it like somebody else is
doing it, And that's where themagic happens for change for
yourself. And as always, go makea damn difference for you, your
family, your community. That'sall I got, buddy.
Blair (51:10):
I'm grateful for you, dude.
Brent (51:12):
Likewise. Likewise.
Blair (51:14):
Super grateful for you. You guys, we love you so much,
man. And I say that from thebottom of my heart. We love all
you guys that follow us and youshare the show with us and you
give us feedback on this. And ifthis is the time that you decide
to share the show with somebody,share this one.
Share this one. Until we seeeach other until we almost got
(51:37):
emotional on that one. Until wesee each other next week,
everyone, have a freaking greatweek. Go put your trust in
someone today. Understand theconsequences on both sides, but
go put your trust in someonetoday.
Maybe it's us, but as Brentsays, let's go make a damn
difference. But until we seeeach other next week, stay safe.
But most of all, God bless,guys. We love you guys. Have a
(51:59):
great freaking week.
Take care.
When you give empathy, it is not just for the other
(00:04):
person. When you give trust,it's not just for the other
person. It makes you a betterhuman and a better individual
and it makes you feel something.It gives you an oxytocin bump,
if you will, or a cortisol oradrenaline hit depending upon
(00:25):
where you're at in theadrenaline junkie world or life,
you know, but in essence, whenyou give trust and give empathy,
you're not just doing it forthem, you're doing it for
yourself too. No different thanwhy do people give to charities?
Because they like the feeling.It's all about the feeling.
Blair (00:58):
All right, all right, all right. Good morning, good
afternoon, good evening,wherever you may be. If this is
your first time here, I'm BlairArmstrong of Team Armstrong
Coldwell Banker. I'm a globalluxury specialist in the world
of residential real estatelocated here in the beautiful,
beautiful, not cold climate ofthe Coachella Valley. We will
(01:22):
hit a nice, nice temperaturetoday, probably between one
hundred fifteen and one hundredeighteen today.
It is the yucky time of yearhere in this beautiful valley.
But again, if this is your firsttime here, this is Old Guys
Still Rock. As I said, I'm BlairArmstrong on my left, possibly
your right, depending on howthis comes out as an edit. It
seems to change every week, butwe love it. My very, very, very
(01:45):
good friend for almost thirtyyears, Brent Wright of Brent
Wright Incorporated.
He is, I don't wanna ever callhim the co host because him and
I designed this podcasttogether. Without him, this
would not exist. Without him, wewould not have joined into
episode 110 today. So BrentWright of Brent Wright
Incorporated located inbeautiful Eugene, Oregon.
(02:07):
Actually, I'd rather be thereright now.
It's probably warm for them, butI'd probably be wearing a coat
where he is right now. So what'sup my dude? How are you? What is
going That on in your
Brent (02:18):
was a great intro. Thank you very much as always. It's
gonna be a balmy 80 degreestoday, so it's probably colder
than when you how you startedthis morning. So
Blair (02:28):
It is.
Brent (02:29):
Yeah. Yep. Yep. It's been, it's been a very
interesting turn of events thelast couple of weeks, and I
think we're gonna get into thata little bit today. I feel like
people are afraid to move.
Mhmm. They're afraid to takeaction. They're afraid to commit
to anything. They're afraid tojust really trust in any
(02:52):
process, even the most simplestthings. And it's been very very
interesting to watch.
I'm trying to convey this in away that doesn't seem like
frustration. It is debilitatingto watch seemingly intelligent,
competent people mesmerized andpolarized to the point of
(03:18):
inaction because of what? Idon't know. I really don't. And
so that's kind of where I'm attoday is just trying to
understand what the universe hasfor us going forward and try to
understand my interactions withpeople and how I can do those
better, I guess.
Blair (03:39):
It's a lot, right? I mean, everyone is at high
tension. Talked about, I justtook my blood pressure the other
day and I was feeling prettygood and I got it like, that's
not good. I looked up on mymother and I was like, Oh, that
seems pretty good. And they'relike, Yeah, you got some
hypertension rolling.
And I'm like, Shit. So I justgot done. Take TMG. TMG? I love
(04:04):
it.
Brent (04:04):
MG. Google that or go on Amazon and look up TMG by NOW
Foods.
Blair (04:10):
Okay.
Brent (04:11):
That is what I take, and it's been a game changer. I got
that off of Gary Breca and testit. Right? And so, like I had I
take double the amount that itsays on the bottle because like
Gary said, you know, everybody'san individual and everybody's
different. Not everybody.
Yes, everybody's different, buteverybody is different. How they
respond to inputs and outputs.That has dropped my blood
(04:35):
pressure down considerably. I
Blair (04:38):
love it.
Brent (04:39):
And so try that out.
Blair (04:41):
I will definitely do that.
Brent (04:42):
You and anybody else, give that a shot.
Blair (04:44):
All right. I think a lot of us need that too. Know, I
just got done. I hope first andforemost, I hope everyone had a
great fourth of July. We put outan episode on the fourth and
just kind of a long weekend, alot of eating out, doing some
different things.
Long story short is on Saturdayafternoon at 02:30, he decided
to do a seventy two hour fast.
Brent (05:01):
Oh.
Blair (05:02):
Water fast with electrolytes. I had a McCumber
has done one. McCumber, if youguys don't know who that is,
he's been on our show a coupletimes. It's great, great insight
on from him. And then we wentout to dinner with another guy
named Rick Jones.
He does one once a month. And soI started reading into it and I
just heard this and these arethe guys going back to what we
will get into here in a littlebit as these guys, I trust them.
(05:24):
Their track record has proventhere's trust in these guys,
right? So anyway, I'm like,after playing golf, we had
basically three days ofleftovers and didn't have any
breakfast that morning. Cameback and I'm like, you know,
it's basically Saturday.
Nothing's going on. It's fourthof July weekend, blah, blah,
blah, blah, blah. So I had ahalf a rack of ribs, three
(05:46):
pieces of pizza and an IPA. AndI'm like, oh God, that tasted so
good. And then I'm like, andabout ten minutes later, like,
that wasn't a good idea.
You know, my, I am not 21anymore and, just powering that
stuff down was not good. So longstory short is I decided right
there, just clicked in. I'mlike, you know what? I'm gonna
do this 21 I'm gonna do thisseventy two hour fast. And it
(06:08):
was an experience.
I learned a lot about it. I'veread a lot about about it. I I
we will get in more into itlater, but I will say this,
kinda like doing live hardprogram.
Brent (06:21):
Mhmm.
Blair (06:21):
It'll change your life for the better. I know that
you've probably you and Aprilprobably read a lot about this
and know different things aboutfasting. I get that some of you
guys may have have heard aboutthis and do this stuff. It was
very intriguing how God has hadour body that it can redevelop
itself within seventy two hours.So not eating food, but just
(06:45):
having water.
Your body starts eating deadcells, which could be cancerous
cells or could be a sexuallytransmitted disease cell that
you've been trying to conquerfor years, to the onset of
dementia. It just, the list goeson and on and on and on and on
(07:07):
of things because the body'strying to survive. Any type of
energy or dead cells that canget energy from, it will eat it
dispose of it obviouslyurination or pooping, whatever
you want to call it. Yeah.Anyway, if you guys want to try
it, give me a call, text me.
(07:28):
Obviously, April and Brent, theyhave an amazing wellness center
out in Eugene. They probablyhave some good insight in there,
but I strongly suggest you doit. As I said, one of my friends
that does it, he does it once amonth. I'm probably gonna do it
once a quarter. I learned a lotfrom this one.
I'm gonna go in with betternutrition. I would've helped out
(07:48):
a lot of that way. I had so muchtoxin in my body. It was a
little rough at the start. Justeating bad food, dude.
It's not, wasn't like bad, badfood. Wasn't not eating at
Carl's Jr. Or anything likethat, but I was just, you know,
ribs and pizza and beer. It justwasn't the nutrients that needed
to go into that. So I learned alesson.
(08:08):
It was good. Yesterday, did justlike I had three first form
energy drinks in me. Today I'mjacked. So I'm excited. I know
that was a I'm just telling you,if you guys are looking for a
reset and you don't wanna do 75hard, which I strongly suggest
you do anyway, but a good resetfor just seventy two hours of
(08:28):
your life, which is seems like along time.
Do a seventy two hour fast, andI can help you through it, and
I'll get you guys if you wantmore information that I can't
provide. So
Brent (08:39):
Well, the one thing that you said preshow was I can hear
everything. Like, you you have amental acuity that's different
than before, it seems. You'reprobably smelling things
differently. You're probablyseeing things differently. You
are, as a friend of mine says,Todd, he's like, you're probably
(09:02):
the days seem shinier.
He knows when he's strugglingwhen the days don't seem shiny
anymore. That's his adjectivethat he uses. And so I do things
like that. So I do an eighteenhour fast every day.
Blair (09:14):
Okay. So so yeah.
Brent (09:16):
Yeah. Anywhere between sixteen and eighteen hours
pretty consistently. Itdefinitely helps with the
fogginess and the grogginess andthe ability to just pop up right
out of bed and all those things.So
Blair (09:27):
yep. And we'll and Brent will attest to this too is it
works for us. But if you havehealth issues, see somebody
that's a that's smarter in themedical field than
Brent (09:38):
Well, on that, my general manager for The Body Shop, his
brother started down this roadand didn't get a lot of help
with a doctor or anything likethat before he made a lot of
drastic changes in his life. Andhe started intermittent fasting,
ended up having a stroke at like40 he's at twenty four hour care
(10:00):
now.
Blair (10:00):
Yeah. There's some tension in the body and some
things might come to just Justbe warned, your body is gonna
detoxify and it'll add extrastress.
Brent (10:15):
Yeah. Get some help first.
Blair (10:17):
Check into it. Check your There's great information
through I would suggest getting
Brent (10:25):
a blood test. I get a blood test every six to eight
weeks.
Blair (10:27):
So Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, dude. Let's get into it.
Strap it in, man. As I said, Igot some stuff that, you know, I
wanted to talk to you about, butI wanna get into a deep
question. And you and I haveknown each other for thirty
years, but brought up thistopic. You just you know, you
started with a say so. Do youtrust me?
(10:49):
That's my question to you,Brent.
Brent (10:50):
So in inherently, I think an arbitrary question. Okay.
Blair (10:57):
So
Brent (10:58):
the quick answer is yes. The long answer is in what
context and in what situation?Right?
Blair (11:05):
Right on.
Brent (11:06):
So for me to clarify, trust everybody until I don't.
Blair (11:13):
Right.
Brent (11:13):
Okay. And then trust is earned, of course, layers of
trust, levels of trust. I thinktrust, if I had to explain it,
is how somebody talks about youwhen you're not in the room.
That for me is a realmeasurement of trust. Do I trust
any of my male friends to spendthe night with my wife in the
(11:34):
same room?
No. Human nature. K? And it'snot that I don't trust the
friend. It's not that I don'ttrust my wife.
But locks just keep honestpeople honest. K? Do I trust
anybody with my kids? No. Thattrust is earned.
I protect my kids, protect mywife with my life. A 100%. So
(11:58):
again, there's layers and levelsof trust. There's situational
trust, an overarching trust. DoI trust you to be a good human?
Probably not because you're afallible human. Do I trust me to
be a good human? Probably notbecause I'm a fallible human.
Right? But do I trust that mostpeople wanna do the right thing?
(12:21):
Yeah. Do I trust that they'regonna fail? For sure. You see
where I'm getting at with this?It's like, it's just layer
layers and levels, layers andlevels.
Blair (12:31):
And I think that's even important, and I think that's
where we're at. But here's, youknow, no, I'm gonna this is
gonna be on the back end of thistoo, but we're gonna start with
it. I I'm gonna start with itnow, and you can
Brent (12:42):
Mhmm.
Blair (12:42):
Take it to where you wanna go is. What I am seeing,
what you just talked abouttoday, you know, what you said
at the beginning of the show islike, I just feel like this
weird vibe. Can't, you know,trust in everyone and no one's
doing anything. Everyone's justkind of sitting around.
Brent (12:58):
Mhmm.
Blair (12:58):
We are massively and if, again, if you haven't watched
this before, go back and watch109 episodes that we have in the
past visit, especially last weekabout building your kingdom.
Right now is that time toreally, if you haven't started
or you got halfway through andyou quit, or you thought that
your kingdom was being built,this is the time to start adding
(13:20):
layers to that kingdom. And thisis going to tie into that. But
what Brent said, he's frustratedright now. It's like, he just
like everyone not doinganything.
Say that again, what you're whatyou're having a hard time with,
because I'm missing some wordsand I want to a make sure
Brent (13:35):
lack lack of action.
Blair (13:37):
A lack of action.
Brent (13:38):
Right? People are just captive and not producing any
decision making ability. I justfeel like everybody's afraid to
act for fear of making the wrongchoice.
Blair (13:53):
So here's what I'm seeing. And if you guys do, you
know, we have great listeners,super smart, lots of wisdom with
all of our listeners and ourfollowers. And Brent knows that.
I know that. I mean, that's whowatches the show.
So if you're first time here andyou wanna be surrounded by those
people, stay with us and andsubscribe to this channel and do
(14:14):
that stuff. Here's what I'mseeing right now. Veils are
being unlisted. Media is drivingsomeplace, and I'm not making
this whatever, because this ison both sides. We're trying to
stay in the middle on this.
But all of a sudden it's like, Itrusted that this was the right
thing that was happening. Andnow it's shown to me that it's
(14:36):
not happening. And this personthat I trusted before has
betrayed me because I think thisway. And so what Brett and I
have been trying for 109episodes is to pull, especially
men, women are better than this,but however, it's getting back
to where women are going intothis too, which is super scary
to me. Going into a silomentality or staying into a
(14:58):
small circle and notcommunicating anymore.
With a lack of communication,I'm going say this and I'll go
back and say something. With alack of communication, the trust
is eroding faster and faster andfaster every single day. And
it's at a point for me that Itypically don't give an ish,
like whatever, I'm gonna getbetter with or without you, that
(15:19):
it's now reaching a point thatwe've gotta do something. If it
starts with Brent and I, or ifit starts with all of our all of
our listeners and followers,great. That's where it starts
with.
We're not we're not. It's myfault. It's Brent's fault.
Everyone is guilty of this. Sothere is no like, oh, I don't do
(15:41):
that.
Yeah, you do. Because what Brentjust said, we're all fallible
humans. I'm going to own my shitand it's just going to be what
it is. And so now everyone'shere to say something. Oh my
god.
I voted for Trump, some of myfriends are not like me. And oh
my god. I hate Trump, and and Ijust don't understand how
(16:01):
someone could do this, and duhduh duh duh. Now some of my
friends don't like me, and Idon't wanna say anything. It's
like, so I'm not gonna I'm notgonna talk about what I'm upset
about anymore, and I'm justgonna pretend everything's rose
colored glasses and and fairytales and unicorns are gonna be
running around.
And the biggest thing is I saidto you, how are we supposed to
evolve when we get to thatstate? And to me, this is not
(16:26):
this is this a dark versus lightsupernatural force is keeping us
apart. That's my belief, youguys could go ahead and just, if
you say, Blair, you're crazy,put it in comments. I don't
care, let's debate it. Thatwould be great because now we
have communication.
So where Brent is frustratedright now is like, Brent is that
guy. He's gonna go in, which isa great, great avenue, which not
(16:50):
a lot of people is. He's gonnago in trusting you. He knows
that he could possibly beburned. And then there's a good
chance that it's gonna happen.
But it's better for Brent to goin trusting that Brent not going
in and trusting. Does that makesense what I just said?
Brent (17:05):
It's
Blair (17:06):
better for you to go ahead and put your ego, your
heart, your everything,everything into it. It's like,
I'm going to trust you withthis, whatever the situation is.
Brent (17:20):
Trust and verify. Trust but verify.
Blair (17:22):
Right. It's going to be a process for thirty years. Do I
have your ultimate trust?
Brent (17:27):
Well, as high as the five people in my life that I find
value in and find value in me.Yeah. Right? It's the same level
with everybody. It's not a perperson thing.
It's a, do I trust humans?
Blair (17:44):
No. But but I was just saying this, you could trust me
today, but we have to you andme, and I'm using you guys
Brent (17:50):
It's a constant validation is what you're
saying. Constant validation.
Blair (17:53):
And until we go see Jesus, we are gonna constantly
be evaluating our trust and howdo we get better? How do how am
I communicating with Brent? Howam I communicating with with my
wife? How am I communicatingwith my clients? How am I
constantly paying attention tothat word trust, which is
precisely to me the second partof building your kingdom that my
(18:14):
smart part of being is, how am Ibuilding that trust with them
every single day?
And if Brett or I, and I'm gonnatake out, I'm gonna get rid of
this mic here for two seconds,but I have to get this thought
out before my things gosideways. If I stop evolving,
why should anybody continue totrust me?
Brent (18:32):
I 100% agree with that. There's been a lot of comments
lately from people that I've haddiscussions with, deep
discussions, people that are inthat five person circle,
etcetera, and beyond that fiveperson circle. So you have
layers. So you have the fivepeople that you trust the most.
Right?
And then you have the, the 15 to30 people that you trust
(18:55):
implicably or implicitly, if youwill, but they they sometimes
let you down. Okay? So again,humans, fallible, all those
things, not trying to judge. Butin talking with a highly
intelligent, highly actionoriented individual this last
week, he says, I'm just gonnaquit. It's too hard.
(19:18):
I'm not doing it anymore. Idon't wanna deal with it. I'm
not doing it well. It's notprofitable. It doesn't make me
feel good, so I'm just gonnawalk.
And now my version of thatperson, not that I put him on a
pedestal, not that he was ahero, not that he was any you
know, none of those things. Sojust an average human being in
(19:41):
my world. My world's a littledifferent. So an average human
being is somebody thataccelerates, you know, 110, 120%
and expects nothing in return.Okay?
That's an average human being inthe world of people that I try
to surround myself with, buthe's ready to quit. And if you
really dissect the reason thathe's wanting to quit, sorry
(20:04):
about that. If you reallydissect the reason he's wanting
to quit is because he didn'tgive it a 100% in the beginning,
so he didn't get the resultsthat he expected. So now he just
wants to quit. Instead of givingthat 110, 120% and achieving a
(20:25):
different result or decidingthat he's going to pivot his
actions to get that result, he'sjust gonna walk away.
And now I don't trust going intobusiness with him ever. If he's
gonna quit when it gets hard, Idon't wanna go into business
with you.
Blair (20:41):
And, God, that's just so good because it just goes back
to it. That is where we havecome because we're instantaneous
society. We've talked about thisso much, too. It's like, okay,
it's just not working out. I'mnot going to trust the process.
Now, because this one guy didn'ttrust the process because he,
somebody that he did trust, lethim down. And now it's going to
(21:05):
affect the relationship thatBrent has with this guy, because
the lack of trust that you'regoing to stick when the fire
gets hot. You're not going to dothat. Your trust with April is
evolving every day. Your trustwith the kids are evolving every
day.
My trust with Chrissy, the samething, and vice versa, her trust
(21:28):
in me. So those are the thingswe're seeing too. And I think
the biggest thing that we'reseeing is this, again, we have
always, and this is why Brentand I always talk about, be a
leader. Be a leader. Everyone'sequipped to be a leader in a
different way or not, but youare equipped to be a leader.
(21:48):
And this is what I'm having ahard time with. And I think
Brett kind of said this indifferent words. And you can
correct me if I'm wrong when Isay this. But we have looked to
people that we haven't investedwith, unless we're watching it
on TV or a movie, blah, blah,blah, as our leaders. We trust
(22:11):
them without peeling back theonion and really get to know
them.
Oh, they're on TV, so they gottabe famous. We can trust them.
Oh, it's on the news. We seethat. We trust them.
Even though there's newschannels bait each other. But
that's the point. The point ofit is, and now all of this stuff
that we grew up on, becausewe're old guys still rock, that
(22:32):
stuff that we grew up on, we'reseeing the people that we put
our trust in fail or not tell usthe truth or come short on what
they say or find out they werein situations they shouldn't be
in. And it goes back, if I can'ttrust them, why should I trust
you?
Brent (22:51):
Well, I'll give you a for instance. So yesterday I was
talking with a staff member andrecalling since I am an old guy
that still rocks, RussellSimmons, deaf comedy jam. And
they had never heard of itbefore. And I was like, yeah,
he's done all kinds of stuff. Solet's look it up on Wikipedia.
So we go into Wikipedia and cometo find out he'd been accused of
(23:14):
molesting underage girls 14times. Didn't know that. I'm
sitting there telling a staffmember that he had one of the
coolest shows in the February,late nineties and February,
early two thousands. And heseemed like a good dude and he
had a, he was a good businessmanand he had good, you know, he
(23:39):
had supported many acts andsupported cultural diversity and
supported a lot of goodnonprofits and all those things,
very wealthy individual. Ididn't know that.
And now my trust in the factthat he was actually a good
individual just shrank. And Idon't put Russell Simmons on a
(24:00):
pedestal. I just thought he hada cool show.
Blair (24:02):
Mhmm.
Brent (24:03):
And he and I'd heard good things. But then he disappeared.
Well, why did he disappear?Well, if you're accused 14
times, you'd probably disappeartoo if it was true. So it tells
me your actions after that tellme and validate your actions
before that.
And then I have a lack of trust.
Blair (24:22):
So this goes back to it. And again, guys, if you haven't
watched last week's episode,stop right now, go back and
watch episode 109 and apply itto what I'm just gonna say right
now. This goes back to, this isthe time. I understand I'm
guilty of it. And I'm constantly
Brent (24:40):
I talk trying you off the political ledge all the time.
All the time.
Blair (24:44):
Listen, I'm in a constant state of involvement, which
probably goes to my hypertensionand stuff like that. But the
point I'm trying to make isright now we are begging, and
we've done this, I feel like forthe last two months, is begging
you guys to become the leaderthat God put inside of you. And
(25:04):
if you don't know how to findthat, reach out to Brent, reach
out to me, come be in ourcircle. I'm not saying that
we're the smartest guys in theworld, but we have learned over
109 episodes how to talk thingsout, maybe apply different
things. Brent has one way of athought, I have a different way
of a thought.
And that's why we work so welltogether. I can confidently say,
(25:26):
and I know that we don't havethe viewers because Brent and I
have never bought anything. Weknow what it takes to go ahead
and build something fromscratch, and it's going to take
a little bit of time. I yes,we'd love to have a million
followers. Absolutely 100%.
But we're not gonna buy them.We're not going to have paid
sponsors go ahead and give usfictitious followers to make us
(25:49):
look cool. This is who we are.So I will say this, besides Andy
Frisella, and there's a coupleothers. I'm just gonna put him
out there because he's grown hisfrom grassroots.
Mhmm. We have one of the bestpodcasts that's out there right
now. I can promise you that. Andif you don't think so, tell us
different, tell us differently.But we're not having commercials
on here.
(26:09):
We're not paid propaganda. We'rejust jumping. We're two guys
that are sitting out here beingreal, being vulnerable, saying,
you know, there's times thatwe'll share with you, we're
getting our arses kicked. It'snot fun.
Brent (26:20):
Mhmm.
Blair (26:21):
We're spending our time to get out here because we know
that what we're going through iswhat you guys are going through
or what you ladies are goingthrough. And there has to be
better support and attainablesupport. And I think that's one
thing that is missing in thispodcast world because, oh my
gosh, it's like, I wish I coulddo that. Well, you know what?
(26:42):
You have an opportunity to dothat here.
You can write in what you youcan come on this show, share
your stuff. It helps out withanxiety. I have massive anxiety
before I come out of here everytime. Am I gonna sound really
good? Is it gonna come offgreat?
I don't know. But we're gonna doit, and we know that we're
helping people every single day.But the point of going too long
(27:02):
winded, going back to it, isbuild your kingdom right now.
And then build that, findanother kingdom that's next to
you that you trust. Okay.
I'm building my kingdom with mywife and I'm building my kingdom
with Brent. Those are my guysand there's more guys to that,
but I'm just kind of using thosethree as examples right Those
who are building my kingdomwith. Why? Is because they're
(27:25):
building their kingdom andthere's trust in that. They're
going to Brent is gonna give mestuff.
McCumber is gonna give me stuff.My wife obviously is going to
give me stuff, which is allamazing wisdom that we can build
these kingdoms together. Andwhen people see these kingdoms
gone, Brent's might be fasterthan mine. McCumber's might be
more shinier than mine atdifferent times. But eventually
(27:48):
I will get to that spot andthey're going to feed off me.
And that's what I'm talkingabout. And when you're doing
that, there's trust involvedwith that because there has to
be communication. There'semotion that's shared with that.
There's transparency shared withbuilding that kingdom. There's
consistency with building thatkingdom.
And yes, I'm talking about that.But all of that. So
transparency, empathy, andconsistency are the three main
(28:14):
things that you need to have tobuild a trust. And so whatever
those are that you're lacking,again, transparency, this is
like, hey, how are you doing?Oh, I'm doing really good.
It's awesome. I'm getting my asskicked today. It's freaking
brutal out there. And if you'rein any type of industry right
now, it's freaking brutal outthere. Be transparent.
(28:35):
Share your feelings. What areyou struggling with? How? Or I
struggle with this. This is mywin.
Brent (28:40):
One of my coaching clients this morning said in his
check-in, he's stressed out,feels out of control. He feels
like it's too much effort forthe level of detail that's
needed and wanted for most ofthe projects he's working on. He
feels insecure and angry andfrustrated about finances and
(29:03):
feels like he's being attackedby all of the governing entities
in his business. And they'rejust it's just a money grab from
all the governing entities. Andwhen somebody tells you
something, what's the firstthing that comes to mind when
they tell you something likethat?
Go ahead go ahead and answer.Tell me, and then I'll tell you
what I what I did. Yeah.
Blair (29:23):
Yeah. It's just like, oh, yeah. I understand. And and and
this is what you need to do. Fixit.
It's my it what comes to mybrain.
Brent (29:33):
So I used to go into the fix it mode. So with, I led with
empathy and alignment and thenasked what I could do to serve
to help with those. So I didn'tsay, Yep, I understand. Because
I might not. And I understandit's kind of like an easy way
just to shut the door and closethe box and put it on the shelf.
(29:57):
I said, I feel similarly and Iknow a lot of people that I talk
to feel very similarly. And Isaid, What can I do to help? And
what do you need from me? Andthen we went down that road. And
at the end, and it wasn't justbecause he's my coaching client,
I truly would do that foranybody.
And so call, text, email, reachout, and we'd like to hear from
(30:22):
you about how you're feelingabout what's going on in the
world, your world, the universefrom your perspective, and how
how we can help even if it isjust to listen.
Blair (30:35):
And that's what's missing. It's where the biggest
part of trust right there. Nowthat's what Brent just said is
just so, so good because there'sa lack of empathy. It's me, me,
me, me, me, me. And it's witheverybody at certain times,
especially on a GoGo gadgetwe're building.
It's me, me, me, me, me, me, me.And Brent's wisdom, and I
(30:58):
promise you, probably five yearsago, there wasn't that in
Brent's DNA. Am I correct insaying that? Yeah. How awesome
is that?
Brent (31:11):
Growth and prosperity is my goal.
Blair (31:13):
S crazy, right? Yep. Something so simple, but so
amazingly powerful and just toget that. So I wanna hope you
guys go back and listen to that.This, this is a good one so far.
This is a really good episode sofar. Just like last week and
this week, guys, if you haven'tfollowed us before, you better
follow us now, man, becausethere's some good stuff
(31:34):
happening. So I reached out toactually started as a client. We
are becoming really, really goodfriends. This guy is just one of
those salt of the earth.
There is not a lot of filterwith him, but man, he is pure
heart. He has tasted life onevery different aspect of it and
is not afraid to share hisstuff. He's does he's not like
(31:55):
he's not a just as like, this iswhat it is. I've learned a lot
and wants to share. So I askedhim today, which we toss it
today.
So I've asked a couple of peoplethis. I'm gonna read this one to
you. And then, Brenna, I wantyou to respond to this. And then
I have one more to read to you.And I said, what is your biggest
hurdle trust these days?
(32:16):
And he wrote back to me andgoes, it's unfortunate that
there's very little trust inthis world today, family,
friends, business partners, andbusiness deals. Today's world is
consumed with greed. Peopleforget we are all in this deal
together and that's the problem.Everyone wants the upper hand.
(32:38):
Everyone, excuse me, go writethat.
So everyone wants the upperhand. And at the end of the day,
with that mindset, all you haveis stuff, no family, no friends,
just stuff. How, you said alittle bit earlier in this show,
how do we build trust, First ofall, and I'm going to keep
(32:59):
saying this, how are you goingto build trust without empathy?
Even though that you haveempathy, are you consistent with
that? And maybe you areconsistent with that.
But are you being transparent?When we, Brenna and I talk about
this, there is going to be aninvolvement. This is not, we are
the gurus of what s going onhere. We are letting you know,
(33:20):
we are going to ride with you.And when I say you, everyone
that's watching this orlistening to this right now, we
are here to ride with you andstart a new era of trust that
has been eroding drastically andover years.
This is not the last six months,four years, eight years, sixteen
(33:40):
years. This is not that. Thishas been eroding for a long time
and now we're becoming bitter.And that's what I said what
scares Trent and what scares us.And this is why we do this stuff
every week consistently.
Consistently. I swear to God,man, I know that you said we
(34:01):
have in the past. I don'tremember us missing a week. I
know we've been off on days. Idon't remember us missing a
week.
Brent (34:07):
We missed only one.
Blair (34:09):
Did we? Okay.
Brent (34:10):
We missed only one.
Blair (34:11):
Yeah. Do we need to do this?
Brent (34:15):
Nope. Nope. Doesn't earn us a dollar.
Blair (34:19):
Yeah.
Brent (34:20):
Cost us money. Cost us time. Yeah. What I can tell you
the value for me is though, isnot just the connection with
you.
Blair (34:28):
Yeah.
Brent (34:28):
It's the connection with many other people that listen to
us. It's the connection with mywife. It's the connection with
your wife. It's the connectionwith my kids. My kids listen to
this on their tablets.
They get two hours a day oftablet and TV time period. And
that's if they get their 7,000steps in and they are taking
(34:49):
their time that they earn tolisten to us on this podcast for
an hour. They're burning up anhour a week of their ten hours
to listen to us. That is thebest payout I could ever get.
That is worth more than money.
Blair (35:09):
And that's why we're doing it. That's why we're doing
it. Yeah.
Brent (35:12):
I find my son and my daughter quoting stuff that we
talk about on here and holdingme accountable to it, which
we've talked about in the past.I'm not good at. Don't like it,
doesn't feel good, but I welcomemy wife and kids to hold me
accountable to the things that Italk. Is it easy? Not at all.
Blair (35:34):
No. Well, without that. So as we said earlier, I know
that we're talking about trust,trust, trust, trust, and I
really want to get this throughthe stuff of this, but you're
holding yourself accountable.This is another form of us being
on here every week because weare now putting ourselves under
(35:56):
the microscope. And when weslide, which we will, when we
slide being consistently of whatwe're saying, people are like,
Hey, yo, what's this business?
You're talking about this andnow you're doing this. How why
are you talking about that?Checkmate. I got you. I'm going
(36:16):
back into action.
I'll adjust. I'll do somedifferent things. It takes a lot
to to hear that, But, again andthat's one of those episodes. So
one other thing on here, buddy,and I got that this is from a
teammate of mine, David Shriner.He is part of team Armstrong.
And I asked him the samequestion that we asked Joe. He
goes, my biggest hurdle withtrust is, would be letting
(36:40):
people into my life be beingbetrayed by others from the
past. So many times thisconstant wall goes up. So when
someone else comes along, evenif they truly have good
intentions, sometimes forpersonal other reasons,
wondering what their angle,instead of embracing them and
learning what others may only bein your life for a certain
(37:01):
season. So what we said, whichties back into saying, so David,
when you hear this question,this is one of those episodes
you're going to have to watchover and over again.
And how are you? What are youdoing? And I want to let Brent
answer this too, because Brenthas some good stuff on here too.
What are you doing to haveothers trust you? It's not you
(37:25):
trusting others.
What are you doing to haveothers trust you? So it's not
what other people are doingbecause those other people are
going to let you down. So howare you building your kingdom of
trust so others can emulate youand trust you. What do you say
on what he said?
Brent (37:44):
One more time.
Blair (37:45):
He has a, we talked about this. So he is having a hard
time trusting people becausehe's been burned in the past.
Yep. And so when you hear that,and what I was just saying to
with that is, what I was sayingis he has to be the one building
trust with others instead ofletting other people build trust
(38:08):
with him. He's got to be thecatalyst of that.
If I want trust, I have to buildtrust. It is me going out there
and going with everyrelationship, trusting them, as
you said, what you were reallygood at, is trusting others.
Until that happens, which Istruggle at, I'm the same way as
(38:31):
David, I don't trust a lot ofpeople. Chris gets mad when I
say I don't trust anyone. Idon't trust a lot of people.
I'm getting better to be openwith that and giving them an
opportunity and being so closedminded in it. But do you, when
you hear David say, I have ahard time getting over this
hurdle of, or even though I meetsomebody, what's their angle?
(38:52):
What are they trying to get fromme? Blah, blah, blah, blah,
blah. And all of a sudden you'reshutting yourself down without
giving them opportunity.
What would you tell David to do?Thirty years, you just turned
30, by the way.
Brent (39:03):
Yeah. So my bookkeeper tells me this a lot, Sue, that
I'm too easily trusting that howcan I continue to do to trust
people when I continually getburned? I have to keep throwing
things out to the universe. Andwhen I get something back that
(39:24):
doesn't feel good, then I stopdoing that with that person. But
I believe inherently, like Isaid, that most people are
trustworthy.
Most people want to do the rightthing, and most people want the
best for others, but they arehuman. But I would tell you,
(39:44):
like, in anything, just keeptrying. If you fail, keep
trying. There is the when yougive empathy, it is not just for
the other person. When you givetrust, it's not just for the
other person.
It makes you a better human anda better individual and it makes
(40:05):
you feel something. It gives youan oxytocin bump, if you will,
or a cortisol or adrenaline hitdepending upon where you're at
in the adrenaline junky world orlife, you know. But in in
essence, when you give trust andgive empathy, you're not just
doing it for them. You're doingit for yourself too. No
(40:28):
different than why do peoplegive to charities?
Because they like the feeling.It's all about the feeling. So
what you're saying is, David,is, well, I've trusted and I've
been burned, so I'm not gonnatrust anymore. And how does that
make you feel? Does that makeyou feel any better?
Does that make you feel like theworld's coming near the end to
(40:50):
an end? Sky's falling, chickenlittle? Do you like that
feeling? Does it make you feelgood to feel that way? I'm
guessing no.
And so if you hang it out there10 times and you get burned
twice, are you gonna punish theother eight people?
Blair (41:05):
Right. That's good. So this just popped in my brain
going back to professions wetrust. When you go in and you're
flying out to LA and you'resitting in that nice comfortable
seat, first class, do you trustthe guy that's flying that
airplane to get you there?
Brent (41:22):
You inherently have to because you can't fly yourself.
Blair (41:25):
Okay. Now this is where society is going. Maybe this is
what I see. I'm not not you. I'musing you as an example.
But maybe this guy has adifferent belief in God, a
different belief in politics, adifferent belief in whatever.
(41:47):
You still trust them to get youto point a, from point a to
point b.
Brent (41:51):
Again, you don't have a choice.
Blair (41:53):
You don't have a choice. Right? Right. So I mean, I
understand what choice is partof it, but the point of it is,
is you're trusting in thesepeople because that's what
you're supposed to do. What I'msaying is, if you're basing your
trust on what people watch, whatpeople do, excuse me, what
(42:15):
people believe in in God orbelieve in politics, whatever
with and you're like, well, Ican't trust them because they
voted for Trump or I I can'ttrust them because they're a
Democrat.
You know, whatever. It just thepoint of it is, is when are we
actually going to sit down andtalk with them just about stuff
(42:37):
that really can make adifference? Going back to
episode 109, how are youbuilding your kingdom? What
hurdles have you had? What aresome of the things you do?
What are some of the thingsyou're struggling building your
kingdom? How can I help you getover that one brick that you're
having a hard time placing onyour kingdom?
Brent (42:58):
Yeah.
Blair (43:00):
So going back to communication, going back to the
consistency, this whole topic ofwhy I wanted to bring this on
today and talk to Brent with isthat, again, be guilty of it and
be having harsh conversationswith it. So I am not a saint in
this, and I'm going to makeadjustments in this, is that the
(43:23):
keyboard warrior stuff got tostop. You have an
Brent (43:27):
Likely issue isn't going to, however.
Blair (43:30):
It's not likely going to go to. But, Brent, if we did and
I hear you. We're not I I can'tsave the world. But if you're so
upset the way the world isgoing, what are you doing to
make the change?
Brent (43:41):
Amen. Be the change you seek.
Blair (43:43):
Yep. And you're mad because of of what doing so,
what what are you doing? Youjust gonna stay mad, or are you
gonna go out and it's like,let's try to find a solution for
it? Don't know what your role Idon't know what everybody else's
ultimate solution is because noone communicates with that. I'm
just mad.
I'm just mad. That sucks. It's apretty cool world out there. We
(44:08):
talked about this last week. Welive in the best freaking
country in the world.
I listen to what's going on outhere right now. I know it's
rough. I know the economy is notfun right now. I know work is
hard right now. I understandrelationships are ending every
freaking day because of all thisturmoil.
Like friendships, marriages,relationships with families, I
(44:30):
get it. But are youconcentrating on the wrong
trust? Or are you like, I needto stop and readjust my thought
process and come back and learnto trust again. Not only that,
not only do you need to learn totrust again, you need to learn
pointing finger at me, pointingthe finger at Brent. We need to
(44:54):
learn.
I should say that, that'sbetter. We are a team here.
We're going to this. We need tolearn how we can become more
trustful. And when that happens,when you make the adjustment
with your transparency, withyour empathy, which Brent, as I
said to you, Brent had a greattopic on that.
You can go back fifteen, twentyminutes on this episode and hear
what he said. And then, sotransparency, Brent has great
(45:17):
empathy and then beingconsistent with it. And when I
say consistent, it starts today,just like we talked about last
week, you're building yourkingdom starts today. Tomorrow
I'm going to build my kingdomone more day and the next day
I'm going to build my everythingto start. When I'm that
consistency doesn't stop untilyour time here on earth is done.
(45:42):
So that's what I'm excitedabout. I have to be, as Brent
says, be the change
Brent (45:50):
that you seek.
Blair (45:51):
That you seek. Ed Mylett, am I the one? I'm gonna be the
one. I'm gonna be the one.
Brent (46:01):
I do things like like set reminders for myself like that.
If I'm the one, what do I haveto do to become the one and be
the change you seek? And thoseare two things that are on my,
they pop up every single morningon my email and it's important
to revisit and again, beconsistent with the questions
(46:21):
that you ask yourself so thatway you can answer those
questions every day and getbetter.
Blair (46:27):
Yeah. Yeah. It's just, there's a lot of stuff now.
You're gonna, you know, peoplethat are watching this, I know
that you've been burned withtrust, There's a good chance you
can't look at yourself in themirror and say you've let
somebody else down because
Brent (46:39):
Probably have to.
Blair (46:41):
Yeah. Right. People trusted in you might have let
them down. I know that I have.There's a lot of bridges that I
burn because of my selfishness.
That sucks and that weighsheavy. So you have to, you know,
I have a lot of work to do toregain that trust with the
people that I broke the trustwith. And I get that. And I
(47:01):
think a lot of people when heardwhat I just said, feel, we've
always said, decisions haveconsequences. And those
consequences may eroded thattrust to a certain point that
there's no longer relationshiphere.
And if that is you who arewatching this or someone who
(47:21):
shared this show with you, asBrent says, I empathize with
you. I don't know the truefeeling that you're feeling. But
I will say is have faith thatyou can fix it and you may not
be able to fix thatrelationship.
Brent (47:36):
But don't have just blind faith in it. It's it's you gotta
do the work. As Blair saidearlier, it's up to you. You
must trust but verify. It startsout with baby steps.
You literally if it's a brokenrelationship, it's gotta be
like, okay, I'm gonna give youan opportunity to help rebuild
(47:56):
this. But the first step is onyou. The first line of
communication starts with you.If you value our friendship,
like you're saying in thisconversation, then I expect you
to reach out to me. I'm notgonna reach out to you.
I expect you to reach out to mefor no apparent reason, not just
when you need something. Iexpect you to communicate and
(48:20):
start to build a personaltrusting relationship with me
just like you would somebodythat you've never known. And
let's start from the beginning,if that's what you wanna do.
Blair (48:29):
If that's what you wanna do. And what you just said, you
know, and I'm gonna stick withwhat you just said and kinda
coincide what I just said too isthat process could go until you
see Jesus. Someone has brokenthe trust, go with caution. What
Brad said is, you know, do iton, on your, on your time. If
someone's broken your trust thatyou're allowing that time is,
(48:50):
you don't have to like fullyjump back into that.
Now the same side is that,that's what I said on the same
side is, you have done that tosomebody else. Somewhere in your
life, you've done that tosomebody else. And so the
process that you go to regainthat trust may take a lifetime.
May not. May be super Butanyways, dude, it's a lot, and
(49:14):
I'm sure that we're gonna comeback to this.
But I would say you guys, wehave a lot of really good
episodes that you can go onhere. My gut feeling, last
week's episode and today'sepisode, these are God given
episodes. That's my feeling andmy stuff to it. That's my faith
and you don't have to believe intheirs, but there's certain
(49:34):
times that God comes in andwants to give a message. I just
feel like it's building thekingdom and this trust is really
what we need right now.
And Brett's gonna have some wisewords here coming up here in a
little bit. But I will just saythis, you're not alone. We
freaking wanna help you. Andthis is I don't know how else to
say this after a 109 episodesjoined. We want to be with you
(49:58):
on this journey.
And we're literally having inthis massive ocean. Brett and I
are in this massive ocean. Wehave a lot of great other
subscribers too, and listenersto this. But we're, you're the
ones that you're watching rightnow on top of different
episodes. So we're swimmingaround with, you know, a couple
(50:19):
people with life rafts, lookingfor other people that we're not
trying to save.
We're just here to support. Soif you're struggling, I'm not
charging you. Reach out to us.Let's see how we can figure this
out. Final words for you, mydude.
Brent (50:33):
So again, I place things in in my path every day to
create positivity andconsistency. Those I said it
earlier, but I didn't have theexact quote down, and I'm gonna
read it now because it's on myphone and it goes off as a
reminder. Who do I have tobecome? Are you the one? The
second one that goes off aboutthirty minutes later is question
(50:53):
everything you're doing and howyou're doing it.
Evaluate it as if you arejudging it like somebody else is
doing it, And that's where themagic happens for change for
yourself. And as always, go makea damn difference for you, your
family, your community. That'sall I got, buddy.
Blair (51:10):
I'm grateful for you, dude.
Brent (51:12):
Likewise. Likewise.
Blair (51:14):
Super grateful for you. You guys, we love you so much,
man. And I say that from thebottom of my heart. We love all
you guys that follow us and youshare the show with us and you
give us feedback on this. And ifthis is the time that you decide
to share the show with somebody,share this one.
Share this one. Until we seeeach other until we almost got
(51:37):
emotional on that one. Until wesee each other next week,
everyone, have a freaking greatweek. Go put your trust in
someone today. Understand theconsequences on both sides, but
go put your trust in someonetoday.
Maybe it's us, but as Brentsays, let's go make a damn
difference. But until we seeeach other next week, stay safe.
But most of all, God bless,guys. We love you guys. Have a
(51:59):
great freaking week.
Take care.
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