January 21, 2025 • 34 mins
The journey through becoming a teenager is filled with milestone moments and valuable life lessons. With a focus on Mac's recent 16th birthday celebrations, the conversation effortlessly weaves between lighthearted adventures, the importance of mental health, and reflections on relationships. Throughout the episode, laughter and insight combine to illustrate how the essence of growing up involves embracing both fun and challenges.
• Sweet 16 celebrations marked with joy and some chaos
• Urban Air trampoline park adventure and camaraderie
• The importance of mental wealth and Magic Mind
• Navigating relationships and communication challenges
• Learning new things and enjoying shared moments
• Finding laughter in everyday occurrences and personal growth
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey guys I'm kidding, hey guys Welcome back to On Our
Best Behavior.
You're here with Mac and Kelly.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Hey, sweet 16.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Hey, how's it going.
Good, I'm kidding.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, all you cool
cats and kittens, welcome backto On Our Best Behavior, which
isn't a great behavior becausewe are unfiltered, raw and the
real raw deal raw.
You know why I have so muchenergy because I've been taking
(00:41):
my magic mind, but we'll talkabout that later.
Mccoy, what's new?
How is 16?
Tell me about your birthday,mid I'm kidding, it was mid.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
No, it was good.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Is being 16 overrated .
Speaker 1 (00:56):
I don't know.
I can't not be 16, so I don'tknow.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
But is it any different than being 15?
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Nope, there's nothing different.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Until you get your license till you can.
Are you scared to drive withoutyour mommy in the car?
No okay, you are, I can't waityou're trying to get rid of me.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
No, but like, so I can like go like instead of me.
I didn't walk in the fuckingcold like to papa john's.
I could have drove there, bro,if I, if I had my license.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
True, I don't know, but then you'd have to be like
Mom.
Can I use your car?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Until you get a job and buy your own car.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Don't worry, I'm going to get a job, okay, trust?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
So tell me about your birthday celebration.
What did you do?
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Went to Urban Air yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Tell me about Urban Air.
Who did you bring to urban air?
What happened there?
Because I wasn't there for it.
Yeah, you left um I said I'mdumping your asses off.
Peace.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Call me when you're ready never pretty born if you
sat there forever.
Yeah, uh, so we went there andI don't know, we just did like
everything there dodgeball, thisweird like pad thing.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
I don't even know what it's called was it like
you're full of velcro and thenyou jump onto the wall and you
stick?
Speaker 1 (02:08):
no, what are you?
Speaker 2 (02:09):
talking about.
I think I saw that in a movieone time no whatever that was no
, no.
So tell me, was there anythingexciting that happened, any
drama?
Did you guys take anyone out atdodgeball?
Speaker 1 (02:24):
No, we did not take anyone out.
Did you win?
No one even played by the rules.
Dude.
No one even knew who to play.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
It was just kind of like crazy balls flying
everywhere.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah, basically.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
What was your favorite part about Urban Air?
Urban Air is a trampoline park.
If you don't know, Probablydodgeball.
So was it fun Because you guyssaid you had fun?
Yeah, it was fun.
You're not making it sound likeyou had very much fun.
I did.
There's no highlights.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Yeah, because everything was fun oh.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
I don't know how to highlight.
It was all fun, so there wasnothing that was better and
there was nothing that was worse.
It was just all middle of theroad.
That's what you're telling me.
Basically, everything had theirpoints All right after Urban
Air.
Yeah, excuse me, what did youdo after Urban Air?
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Like when we went home, yeah, we didn't really do
much.
I feel like we all just wentand got pizza Did we actually we
did that before.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
After Urban Era, you guys were hungry for Papa John's
and you walked up there and itwas freezing cold.
No, we did that before, no youwent to McDonald's on the way.
You guys got pizza laterBecause remember it was the $9
After 9 o'clock.
I am always right.
Come at me.
We got a large pizza and wedestroyed that thing because
remember it was the nine dollarsafter nine o'clock.
You're right, it was like notyet, right I?
Speaker 1 (03:45):
know, so yeah come at me we got a large pizza and we
destroyed that thing.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
What happened to your neck?
Someone clawed you.
What do you mean?
You got like scratches on yourneck I don't know, probably the
dogs or did you itch yourselfreally hard, because that
happens to me sometimes I don'tknow.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
But yeah, we got pizza.
It was cold as fuck, it was madcold.
And then we ate that wholepizza.
I probably ate like four slices, jackson probably ate four and
Jacob didn't eat anything.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
He never did.
No, Jackson ended up eating hispizza.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Yeah of course I know right, and then I feel like we
just hung around and then wejust went to bed.
We were really tired.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Yeah.
I know you guys were kind ofparty fowls, but that's good.
I feel like you probablyexerted a lot of energy at the
trampoline parking that you'renot used to doing, so probably
kicked your butt, made you tired, tell me about.
At school you were deadlifting.
How much weight can youdeadlift?
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
I thought you did 800 .
Speaker 2 (04:56):
800?
.
That sounds like a broken back.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
I'm kidding.
I don't know why I took adeadlift.
I thought you were deadlifting.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Yeah, I was, but you don't know why I took a deadlift
.
I thought you were deadlifting.
Yeah I was, but you don't knowhow much you deadlifted.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
No idea how much, was it Like 200, and I know I can
do more, but I just didn't domore because no one hurt my back
.
Okay, do you want to talk?
Speaker 2 (05:17):
anything else more about school.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
No, school's mid.
I have to go back tomorrow, bro.
We had today off because of itwas too cold.
Oh my god, I don't want to goback for three days did you
watch the trump inauguration?
Speaker 2 (05:32):
no, yeah, what do you think you got the day off for?
Just to do nothing?
Speaker 1 (05:39):
it's what today no, yesterday, yeah, I know it was
martin luther king day, andauguration day, inauguration day
.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
No idea what that is, but that's when the new
president no, yesterday yeah, Iknow it was Martin Luther King
Day Inauguration Day.
Inauguration Day.
No idea what that is, butthat's when the new president
starts with presidency.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Oh really.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Yes, all right, I'm glad that you know so much about
the world.
I do, right, thank you.
I'm worried about our future.
Even when I see not just you,even when I see other young
adults, I think, oh lordy, thisis the future of of the world.
Okay, I had.
(06:12):
There was one more thing Iwanted you to.
Oh no, I want you to talk abouthow it was so cold you didn't
go to school today.
All right, is that all you have, you boring little bitch?
yep, I'm a boring ass bitch, Imean, unless you have something
else that you want to talk aboutit sounded interesting enough
okay, we'll pipe up.
If you think of something,oopsie, okay, well, no, taking a
(06:33):
nap sorry, I wasn't gonna takea nap no laying down.
Okay, so I had, since our lastpodcast, I had a nice long
weekend.
I had a friday, monday off, soit was lovely.
I had nothing planned and Iread four books in four days Are
you serious Yep.
Unfortunately, none of them areworth recommending.
(06:55):
So there was that, and therewas also nothing great on TV.
So please send me your TVrecommendations TV shows, movies
, what I must watch, because Ifeel like I've seen all the good
stuff and there's always a lotmore bad things like bad TV than
(07:15):
good TV and movies.
So how to etch a girl?
In fact, there's so much bad TVthat Mac and I started watching
Dexter together, which is anold show, but we have both never
seen it and heard so many greatthings about it, and it's a lot
of what we like Forensic murder, whodunit.
So it's been good.
(07:36):
I've been enjoying our timewatching that.
Yeah, we're going to watch whenwe get our food.
Yes, I'm so hungry and we'regoing to get some chickity.
China, the Chinese chicken, fordinner.
Yeah, I can't wait.
What's that place called theSuperstar Buffet?
Yeah, I can't wait.
What's that place called thesuperstar buffet?
Yeah, and we just get a to-gobox.
We just say we want to do to-gobecause I can't eat enough to
(07:57):
pay for the buffet and real.
Then I just but I might get icecream because I can do you
drive.
Oh, ari can come.
She loves going in the car, bro, ari, not sorry.
My favorite house, my favoritechicken has been a house chicken
because it's been so coldoutside and I just put her out
there in the daytime when I'm atwork and then when I come home
I bring her in the house.
And today, when I brought herin the house, mac, she just
(08:19):
instantly started purring, likeI put her down, and she was just
like that's like the noise shemakes when she's purring and
happy.
And now look at her, she'sactually in the studio with us
right now.
Not a podcast, puppy Podcast,prettiest chicken, mama's
favorite chicken.
You're silky, aria, my silky.
(08:40):
Okay, so that TV, that was it.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
She just likes being in here because it's warm.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
So I gamed a lot on my Farmville on my four-day
weekend and in my backyardhomestead, Homestead and I hung
out in my snow globe and Isnuggled my chickens.
You snuggled all your chickens,yeah.
But anyway, it was nice andrelaxing and I felt like I just
needed.
Sometimes it's nice to not doanything Like to just wake up
(09:10):
and take your time, drink yourcoffee, so that's what you did,
you went in your children.
Yeah, I read I would watch someTV and go outside and putter
around and it was nice, allright.
So now, speaking of all thosethings we're going to talk about
, magic mind, are you ready?
Yeah, so what I want to talkabout with magic mind again is
(09:34):
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I love skipping thatmid-afternoon slump.
In fact, today I can tell youthat it was about 1.45, 2
o'clock and I started feelinglike, oh, it's that time of the
day where I just want to be done.
And I said that's because Ihaven't taken my magic mind.
(10:23):
And then I took it and I bing,got through work, got through
work.
And I actually tell mycoworkers, even when they're
hitting their afternoon slump, Isay it sounds like you need
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But with Magic Mind and Mackie,you pipe up because you have
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Every morning you've beenburning through that stuff, so
I'm proud of you yeah so I havea more clear mind when I take,
when I drink, magic mind and mybrain and my mouth work together
(11:06):
better.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
I oftentimes struggle with your brain, your mouth.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Yes, because this is what happens to me.
Naturally, my brain is going sofast with so many unorganized
thoughts and my mouth cannotprocess what my brain is trying
to kick out in anything thatmakes sense.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
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I feel like you've said this tome one time I'm trying to like
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of just goes and it makes sense, it all like lines up, like all
the, all the static goes awayand and everything is just makes
more sense and it's more clear.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
But without your magic mind.
It's just like no.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
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(12:38):
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I already said that Okay,perfect.
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(13:22):
So I want to talk about somethings I've been working on.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Okay, okay, I'm scared.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Because you're scared .
I'm kidding.
Well, this isn't really goingto pertain to you.
It's probably going to beboring and I know you'll just
check out when I'm talking, butthat's fine.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I don't want to check out I still want you to pipe up
.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
I know you don't have a lot of experience with this,
but I'm hoping that maybethrough me working on some of
these things you will learn fromthat, because they do say that
kids learn how to haverelationships through watching
their parents.
So the first thing I have beenworking on is making small goals
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for myself.
In the past, when I was reallystruggling, I just always had
this constant checklist in mybrain like I have to do laundry,
I have to cook dinner, I haveto you know a million things,
and I really tried to erase thisfrom my mind.
So Sorry, no, you're not.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
What am I doing?
Speaker 2 (14:19):
You are doing your own thing, making a ton of noise
.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
How are people supposed to focus when they have
to listen to all yourbackground going on there?
All right, send us an email.
Would you rather hear Mackie'snoises or my words of wisdom?
Speaker 1 (14:36):
What?
No, it's just that Wow.
I didn't mean it like thatthat's just a thing that me and
Rose do.
That really pisses off, jackson.
It's really funny.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Well then, keep doing it if it pisses off Jackson.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
I will, don't worry.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
So I've worked really hard to get rid of my checklist
.
So I feel like reallyaccomplished right now, because
when I was trying to tell youall the things that used to be
on my checklist, I don't reallyremember them Because I tell
myself.
No, no, no, no, no On thechecklist.
Exercise would be on there.
I need to exercise for thismuch time a day.
I have to make dinner, I haveto clean up dinner, I have to
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make my lunches for tomorrow, Ihave to do laundry, I have to
mow the lawn.
I have to stop at the grocerystore, I have to stop at the
pickup prescriptions and itwould just be like, oh, if
somebody wanted to snuggle withme or hey, watch this or look at
this video, I would just feellike, ah, it's already eight
o'clock, I don't have enoughtime, and so I really feel like
that was like, like big picture.
What's more important?
(15:39):
Getting the laundry done andmowing the lawn or spending time
with my family?
You know, what am I going toremember in the future?
I'm going to remember the timeI spent with my family, building
that relationship, making thatquality time, make memories
versus oh yeah, I had a cleanhouse and every you know,
(16:00):
whatever lame.
So one of the things that when Iwent to therapy one time was I
was saying, like I have thisconstant checklist in my brain
of all the things I have to do,everything that's coming up and
none of them arelife-threatening not really a
big deal.
So why do I feel that constantweight?
(16:21):
And my therapist said to me atthat time get rid of the list.
If it makes you feel better,like if I do anything today, so
like for me today we got thispodcast done, so I feel so
accomplished that that is doneand I really don't care.
If anything else I do, Great.
And if I don't get to it, guesswhat.
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It's going to be there tomorrowand I don't care.
Or, I've gotten better at askingfor help.
Mac, will you do this for me?
Mac, can you go tomorrow?
Can you do this?
Oh, you don't have school today.
It'd really be helpful if youdid this for me, and maybe you
hate that, but it really helpsme not making everything be my
problem and like saying askingfor help is okay and there's a
(17:06):
better way to ask for help thanwhat I used to do is be really
passive, aggressive, Like no oneelse does laundry.
Oh, I guess I'll do all thislaundry.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Oh, it's going to take me an hour to do all this
laundry.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Nobody ever feeds the dogs, but me how come.
I'm the only one that does blahblah, blah, blah blah.
And now I just say, hey, canyou do this for me?
Hey, it really great and I justcontinue on.
If I accomplish one thing a day, no matter how big or small it
is, I feel really great aboutthat.
(17:37):
I really need you to focus I amfocusing, I'm listening to you
I know, but you're doing like amillion things.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
I don't know.
It's like kind of hard.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
I have ada.
You have ada.
You're distracting me.
Yeah, I know I have ADD.
Okay, all right.
The other thing that I havereally been working on in
general is love.
So what, what Did you getzapped?
No, I didn't.
Oh, I was going to sing my song.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
What was your song?
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Karma is my boyfriend .
I'm working with that Because Ifeel like you deserve a little
zap right now.
I don't deserve a zap.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
I don't know what I'm doing.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
You don't know what you're doing.
That's annoying.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Never mind.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Do you know?
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
I just wanted you to think about that, all right.
So I wanted to talk about loveand relationships and I feel
like I have struggled why.
I mean, granted, my parentsdidn't have a great relationship
and I don't know if I looked atthat and tried to.
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I mean, I knew that wasn't agood, healthy relationship.
So I don't think I would strivefor something like that, but I
also maybe don't know.
Maybe sometimes you think youknow what you want and then it
doesn't, it's not really whatyou want.
So, anyway, I've been trying tokind of focus on love, like for
my friends and my family, andlove relationships and me.
So what I'm saying is I've kindof been thinking on how to make
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that more compact and not sobig and difficult.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
How is love, big and difficult.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
It can be.
It can be complicated becausepeople get mad at each other or
cranky at each other, or don'tknow each other's expectations
or try to change each other, ordon't support each other, don't
respect each other, don'tcommunicate, so you know that
sounds like mom.
What you know, never mind okayso is it something that you
can't talk about on the podcast?
(19:31):
You can't talk about it, yeah.
So tell me what it is.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
It's a skill issue yeah, you gotta lock in I know
why I'm saying that.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
I think I'm getting better that's good.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
So you're locked in.
Yes, so I'm gonna tell you.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
I'm gonna tell you some tips and tricks.
Because tips and tricks?
Because you should take loveadvice from me.
I will, okay.
So, number one you need to likethe person.
You need to like theirpersonality, the person that you
decide to like love.
If these are like your bestfriends, this is like your life
partner, your husband, your wife, whoever you need to like who
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they are, not try to change it.
You need to respect theirvalues.
So let's say and you just zipit because we're not going to
tell anyone what our politicalbeliefs are, and you just zip it
because we're not going to tellanyone what our political
beliefs are.
But if you are a liberal andyour partner is a Republican
sorry, I had to think about whatthe word is you have to respect
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their values, not try to changetheir mind.
Not try to see the potential inthem and think you can change
them or mold them somehow.
You need to just respect theirthoughts and feelings, hear them
out, maybe agree to disagree,but if that is something that's
going to drive you crazy forever, then that is not going to work
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in a relationship, in a goodfriendship or a romantic
relationship, because you're notrespecting them if you're
trying to change them, you alsoneed to commit to helping them
achieve their goals not what youwant their goals to be, but
what their goals actually are.
So I feel like if you canrespect, support and communicate
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, you are going to have asuccessful relationship.
If you can always put thosethings first, attraction and
lust are easy.
That's what initially you justwant to be with that person all
the time.
You have fun with them.
If it's a friendship, you havefun with them.
You want to do fun stuff allthe time.
If it's a romantic relationship, you just feel that spark and
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that attraction and that lust.
But as time goes on and if youare each other's ride or die
life companion, best friendyou're thinking about, your life
gets busy.
If you have kids and you work,what happens when you retire?
Can you grow old together?
Can you see your partner takingcare of you and can you see
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yourself taking care of themwith empathy and respect and
support?
You also need to be able tocommunicate, even when it's hard
.
You need to learn how to bringthings up in a not judging way
and sometimes I'll say like, hey, I want to talk to you about
something, but I want it to be aconversation, not a fight or
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not an argument.
And then I think that for me,that helps me think like okay,
all right, I'm ready, I canhandle this.
Like what is it?
Because if you keep buryingthings, like just letting it go
or-.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Don't dig the hole deeper.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
You are gonna dig the hole deeper if you do that
though.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Yeah, I know, yeah, that's so good you don't want to
.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
So you don't want to end up burying all that
resentment because eventuallyyou're not gonna have anywhere
to bury it and you're gonna blowand then you're gonna.
In every relationship, right,we all make mistakes, we, you
know.
In every relationship, right,we all make mistakes, we all do
things that we regret we all.
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No, we're not perfect, right,we're human and it happens.
But one of the things that Ilearned from my uncle Dicko and
my aunt Shelly is that if youmake decisions that are what's
best for each other and not justyourself, like that's, that's a
really big thing and I reallysee that with them and I admire
their relationship has, you know, they got together pretty young
and and they've been in my lifeforever and just seeing how
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they have grown old together.
Their kids are grown up, butthey're they're empty nesters
and grandparents and it's justit's.
It's nice to see what theirrelationship looks like.
I feel like I haven't seen arelationship that looks like
something I want, and when I sawtheirs, that really made me
(23:50):
hopeful.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Yeah, haven't they been together for like a long
time?
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
Yeah, for sure.
So anyway, that's what I'mworking on.
I'm not saying I'm perfect atit, but I'm just trying to be
more self-aware, trying to thinkabout it, trying to just be
logical instead of taking.
Sometimes I think inrelationships we get so
emotional about things and howwe feel, versus just realizing
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that it can be really black andwhite and that's okay, like, of
course we're emotional becausewe care, and you should be
emotional and you should care.
But a lot of times you justneed to take that out.
Static is my new word.
You need to take that staticout and just look at.
And if you take the static andthe emotion out and just look at
(24:38):
the logical facts, it doesn'thave to be that hard.
And if you support each otherand you respect each other and
you remember that you like thatperson's personality and you're
just doing all that for somebodyand they're not returning the
(24:58):
favor, well then for sure that'sgoing to wear you down and
build resentment.
And if it doesn't tell me yoursecret because I want it, all
right.
That's all I have about whereI'm at with my love situation.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
I'm about to flip dude.
That was pretty good.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
Thanks the static.
The static.
That's what the static issupposed to be.
Dude, that was pretty goodsituation.
Thanks the static, the static.
What's the static supposed tobe?
So do you feel like that washelpful for when you have a
romantic relationship someday,and how to maneuver it?
I guess, yeah, yeah, well, good, I'm glad I'm here for you oh,
something new you learned thisweek what do you have something
because you know you're supposedto?
I'll tell you what mine issupposed to actually.
(25:36):
Yeah, I told you that's a newthing we're going to do for
starting in 2025, for new year'sresolutions and goals and being
better.
So I'll tell you something Ilearned and let me tell you I've
really been trying to like,think of something.
I learn something every day,for sure, 100%, but a lot of it
is medical and nobody probablycares what I have to say about
(25:57):
what?
I learned?
yeah, because I learn a lot ofnew stuff at work all the time
yeah, actually but I try toremember, like the just normal
stuff that I learned, but Ididn't write anything down, so
anyway, one thing that I learnedthis week is that non-invasive
prenatal testing can nowdetermine fetal blood type as
early as 10 weeks.
(26:18):
Mccoy, when I was pregnant withyou, they didn't even have
non-invasive prenatal testing.
What even is that?
It's where they can test thebaby for a handful of genetic
disorders and anomalies the mostcommon ones and it can also
tell the gender of your baby.
And now it can even tell theblood type of your baby, which
(26:40):
is a big deal.
If you are rh negative whenyou're 28 weeks pregnant, this
is going to be all boring, I'msorry.
Uh, 28 weeks pregnant, you geta rogam injection because we
don't know if your baby's bloodtype is like yours rh negative
or rh positive, and if they arenot the same, if if your baby's
negative and you're negative,then that's same.
If your baby's negative andyou're negative, then that's
(27:01):
fine.
But if your baby's positive andyou're negative, down the road
with future pregnancies that cancause some issues.
But now, if you know yourbaby's blood type, you don't
have to get that, and I justthink that that's nifty.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Science.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
Science, McCoy Science.
Did you learn anything thisweek?
Did you learn?
Did you learn anything newabout driving?
You drove on the freeway withme for the first time with you.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Actually, that was the first time I did it with you
with me?
Speaker 2 (27:29):
yeah, do you have anything to input there?
Speaker 1 (27:35):
no boring, I'm like what I don't want I wanted to.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
Ari's not sorry, I know I always.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
I always call aria sorry ari.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Sorry ari, but she's living her best chicken life
here.
You can't even hear her.
She doesn't make, make anynoise.
She's the perfect chicken.
She just sits there and groomsherself.
Yeah, because she's a prettygirl, aren't you, ari?
Yeah, okay, so I only have onemore thing I want to talk about,
and then I have a funny joke,and I'm pretty sure you have a,
(28:12):
would you rather?
For me, and then we can go eatChinese food and I am so excited
.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
I have like literally nothing to say.
You know what I'm going to doEat chicken, I am going to warm
up the car Already.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Yeah, I feel like we're like 10 minutes away from
and it's already 6.23.
Actually, I don't want to go tofreaking school tomorrow
already.
Do you have any tests or hardthings that are coming up?
Speaker 1 (28:36):
I think I have a test this week.
Yes, in math, and maybe one inscience.
Are you ready for them?
Nope, well, the math one yes.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Well, you should be.
You're an honor roll student,that's just because I'm good at
school.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
Mom, you are good.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
Just a natural Lock my doors At some things Lock my
doors so I can start my car.
I'm not even good at science atall.
Do you have science right now,or just chemistry?
Yeah, it's chemistry.
Yeah, that kind of science ishard.
All right, I think the car.
Yeah, I'm pretty buns at it Ithink the car started.
I think.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
And I hope our teacher's chill enough and
doesn't make us do the test thisweek because we've been off for
so long.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Oh yeah, you probably need to do a ton of review.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
Yeah, so hopefully we can do it either on Friday or
next week on like Tuesday.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
I know you can't hear it, but all, is it actually
super?
Speaker 1 (29:25):
I don't know, it's super loud and.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
What is going on?
Speaker 2 (29:29):
Sometimes it's so goddamn cold that my car won't
fucking start.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Is that actually why?
And that?
Speaker 2 (29:34):
makes me so crabby I could go run a Saturday now.
Also, I want you to know thatwhen it's this cold outside, I
go through more gas just warmingup my car than actually driving
it.
All right, come on, you littlebitch, all right.
So anyway, I just want to letyou know, if you're not from
Minnesota and you're listeningto this, it has been so cold
(29:56):
here.
Windchills were recorded atnegative 42 degrees, what, yeah?
And my car finally started.
Thank you, amen.
Alright, we're at 30 minutes,so tell me your, would you
rather?
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Would you rather be able to run on your feet or
write Wait?
Speaker 2 (30:18):
I'm an idiot, I can already run on my feet, bro.
Would you rather be able to runon your feet or write Wait, I'm
an idiot, I can already run onmy feet, bro.
Would you rather be able to run?
Speaker 1 (30:22):
on your hands or write with your feet.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
That's what I meant to say Write with my feet.
That'd be Then I could relax myhands or I could use my phone
and I could write with my feetat the same time.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
Why would you ever need to write with your feet?
Speaker 2 (30:41):
Well, if you want to write, and look at your phone at
the same time.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
But how would you write if you can't?
Speaker 2 (30:42):
see your feet.
I guess that's a good point.
I guess you couldn't.
It's kind of hard to write.
What would you pick?
I would run on my hands.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
Why do you want to run on your hands?
I don't know.
Do you know how much it seemscool gross bacteria there is on
the ground I don't care, I'lljust wash my hands okay what do
you mean?
Speaker 2 (30:53):
okay, okay, I believe it when I see it.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
I do wash my hands.
Speaker 2 (30:59):
All right, are you ready for a funnier joke than
your?
Would you rather?
Oh, that was pretty funny.
That was nasty.
Look at that.
That was off the chart.
Look at that I was just waitingfor you to say, like Mom, I
can't wait to hear your joke.
(31:20):
I can't wait to hear your joke,mom.
Okay, here it comes.
This one's actually appropriatefor all ages.
What does a cannibal eat for asnack?
Do you know what a cannibal is?
Mccoy?
Yeah, it's something that eatspeople.
I don't know what they'reeating.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
Finger food I don't know what finger food is.
Finger food I don't know whatfinger food is Well, when you're
a cannibal, it's fingers.
You're like calling me offguard with this one, okay.
Speaker 2 (31:48):
I was like what?
You're not laughing, ha ha ha.
You're so fake.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
No, but I don't know, I don't even understand the
joke.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
What does a cannibal eat for a snack?
Finger food, yeah, but likeit's a joke, you're totally
overthinking it.
Speaker 1 (32:07):
I am Okay, all right.
Speaker 2 (32:13):
So there he is.
I'm going to beat you why areyou going to?
Beat me.
What did I do wrong?
Are you going to call childprotection?
Speaker 1 (32:18):
on me, yes.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
You're going to live in a foster care.
See how much you like it there.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
That's going to be really great.
It's going to suck is what Imean.
Why are you smiling at me likethat?
Speaker 2 (32:29):
Because you're weird and I'm trying to listen to what
you're saying because you'retaking a long time to get it out
.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Oh man.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
All right.
So reminders 45% off the MagicMind bundle with our link.
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(32:57):
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Yeah, it is like full normal.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Yeah, okay, it was away for a couple hours.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
Yeah, okay.
So anyway, I guess we're onTikTok and we are on Instagram
and Facebook on our bestbehavior.
Our Instagram handle, I believe, is at on our underscore best
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Thank you so much forcontinuing to listen, to support
us.
You know we're forever grateful.
And at Cool Cat.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
You already know right who's that Cool Cat that's
?
I don't know, know, I'm justsaying some random thing again.
Weird, so weird.
Are you cool cat?
Mom duh, are you okay?
Yep?
Speaker 2 (33:48):
mccoy, I just want to tell you one more thing what I
love you.
Oh yeah, we chill all right.
Thanks for listening to anotherepisode of on Our Best Behavior
.
Ari says are you not sorry andpeace, because we're going to
get some Chinese food.
Hey guys I'm kidding, hey guys Welcome back to On Our
Best Behavior.
You're here with Mac and Kelly.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Hey, sweet 16.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Hey, how's it going.
Good, I'm kidding.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, all you cool
cats and kittens, welcome backto On Our Best Behavior, which
isn't a great behavior becausewe are unfiltered, raw and the
real raw deal raw.
You know why I have so muchenergy because I've been taking
(00:41):
my magic mind, but we'll talkabout that later.
Mccoy, what's new?
How is 16?
Tell me about your birthday,mid I'm kidding, it was mid.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
No, it was good.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Is being 16 overrated .
Speaker 1 (00:56):
I don't know.
I can't not be 16, so I don'tknow.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
But is it any different than being 15?
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Nope, there's nothing different.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Until you get your license till you can.
Are you scared to drive withoutyour mommy in the car?
No okay, you are, I can't waityou're trying to get rid of me.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
No, but like, so I can like go like instead of me.
I didn't walk in the fuckingcold like to papa john's.
I could have drove there, bro,if I, if I had my license.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
True, I don't know, but then you'd have to be like
Mom.
Can I use your car?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Until you get a job and buy your own car.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Don't worry, I'm going to get a job, okay, trust?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
So tell me about your birthday celebration.
What did you do?
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Went to Urban Air yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Tell me about Urban Air.
Who did you bring to urban air?
What happened there?
Because I wasn't there for it.
Yeah, you left um I said I'mdumping your asses off.
Peace.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Call me when you're ready never pretty born if you
sat there forever.
Yeah, uh, so we went there andI don't know, we just did like
everything there dodgeball, thisweird like pad thing.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
I don't even know what it's called was it like
you're full of velcro and thenyou jump onto the wall and you
stick?
Speaker 1 (02:08):
no, what are you?
Speaker 2 (02:09):
talking about.
I think I saw that in a movieone time no whatever that was no
, no.
So tell me, was there anythingexciting that happened, any
drama?
Did you guys take anyone out atdodgeball?
Speaker 1 (02:24):
No, we did not take anyone out.
Did you win?
No one even played by the rules.
Dude.
No one even knew who to play.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
It was just kind of like crazy balls flying
everywhere.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah, basically.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
What was your favorite part about Urban Air?
Urban Air is a trampoline park.
If you don't know, Probablydodgeball.
So was it fun Because you guyssaid you had fun?
Yeah, it was fun.
You're not making it sound likeyou had very much fun.
I did.
There's no highlights.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Yeah, because everything was fun oh.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
I don't know how to highlight.
It was all fun, so there wasnothing that was better and
there was nothing that was worse.
It was just all middle of theroad.
That's what you're telling me.
Basically, everything had theirpoints All right after Urban
Air.
Yeah, excuse me, what did youdo after Urban Air?
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Like when we went home, yeah, we didn't really do
much.
I feel like we all just wentand got pizza Did we actually we
did that before.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
After Urban Era, you guys were hungry for Papa John's
and you walked up there and itwas freezing cold.
No, we did that before, no youwent to McDonald's on the way.
You guys got pizza laterBecause remember it was the $9
After 9 o'clock.
I am always right.
Come at me.
We got a large pizza and wedestroyed that thing because
remember it was the nine dollarsafter nine o'clock.
You're right, it was like notyet, right I?
Speaker 1 (03:45):
know, so yeah come at me we got a large pizza and we
destroyed that thing.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
What happened to your neck?
Someone clawed you.
What do you mean?
You got like scratches on yourneck I don't know, probably the
dogs or did you itch yourselfreally hard, because that
happens to me sometimes I don'tknow.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
But yeah, we got pizza.
It was cold as fuck, it was madcold.
And then we ate that wholepizza.
I probably ate like four slices, jackson probably ate four and
Jacob didn't eat anything.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
He never did.
No, Jackson ended up eating hispizza.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Yeah of course I know right, and then I feel like we
just hung around and then wejust went to bed.
We were really tired.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Yeah.
I know you guys were kind ofparty fowls, but that's good.
I feel like you probablyexerted a lot of energy at the
trampoline parking that you'renot used to doing, so probably
kicked your butt, made you tired, tell me about.
At school you were deadlifting.
How much weight can youdeadlift?
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
I thought you did 800 .
Speaker 2 (04:56):
800?
.
That sounds like a broken back.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
I'm kidding.
I don't know why I took adeadlift.
I thought you were deadlifting.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Yeah, I was, but you don't know why I took a deadlift
.
I thought you were deadlifting.
Yeah I was, but you don't knowhow much you deadlifted.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
No idea how much, was it Like 200, and I know I can
do more, but I just didn't domore because no one hurt my back
.
Okay, do you want to talk?
Speaker 2 (05:17):
anything else more about school.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
No, school's mid.
I have to go back tomorrow, bro.
We had today off because of itwas too cold.
Oh my god, I don't want to goback for three days did you
watch the trump inauguration?
Speaker 2 (05:32):
no, yeah, what do you think you got the day off for?
Just to do nothing?
Speaker 1 (05:39):
it's what today no, yesterday, yeah, I know it was
martin luther king day, andauguration day, inauguration day
.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
No idea what that is, but that's when the new
president no, yesterday yeah, Iknow it was Martin Luther King
Day Inauguration Day.
Inauguration Day.
No idea what that is, butthat's when the new president
starts with presidency.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Oh really.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Yes, all right, I'm glad that you know so much about
the world.
I do, right, thank you.
I'm worried about our future.
Even when I see not just you,even when I see other young
adults, I think, oh lordy, thisis the future of of the world.
Okay, I had.
(06:12):
There was one more thing Iwanted you to.
Oh no, I want you to talk abouthow it was so cold you didn't
go to school today.
All right, is that all you have, you boring little bitch?
yep, I'm a boring ass bitch, Imean, unless you have something
else that you want to talk aboutit sounded interesting enough
okay, we'll pipe up.
If you think of something,oopsie, okay, well, no, taking a
(06:33):
nap sorry, I wasn't gonna takea nap no laying down.
Okay, so I had, since our lastpodcast, I had a nice long
weekend.
I had a friday, monday off, soit was lovely.
I had nothing planned and Iread four books in four days Are
you serious Yep.
Unfortunately, none of them areworth recommending.
(06:55):
So there was that, and therewas also nothing great on TV.
So please send me your TVrecommendations TV shows, movies
, what I must watch, because Ifeel like I've seen all the good
stuff and there's always a lotmore bad things like bad TV than
(07:15):
good TV and movies.
So how to etch a girl?
In fact, there's so much bad TVthat Mac and I started watching
Dexter together, which is anold show, but we have both never
seen it and heard so many greatthings about it, and it's a lot
of what we like Forensic murder, whodunit.
So it's been good.
(07:36):
I've been enjoying our timewatching that.
Yeah, we're going to watch whenwe get our food.
Yes, I'm so hungry and we'regoing to get some chickity.
China, the Chinese chicken, fordinner.
Yeah, I can't wait.
What's that place called theSuperstar Buffet?
Yeah, I can't wait.
What's that place called thesuperstar buffet?
Yeah, and we just get a to-gobox.
We just say we want to do to-gobecause I can't eat enough to
(07:57):
pay for the buffet and real.
Then I just but I might get icecream because I can do you
drive.
Oh, ari can come.
She loves going in the car, bro, ari, not sorry.
My favorite house, my favoritechicken has been a house chicken
because it's been so coldoutside and I just put her out
there in the daytime when I'm atwork and then when I come home
I bring her in the house.
And today, when I brought herin the house, mac, she just
(08:19):
instantly started purring, likeI put her down, and she was just
like that's like the noise shemakes when she's purring and
happy.
And now look at her, she'sactually in the studio with us
right now.
Not a podcast, puppy Podcast,prettiest chicken, mama's
favorite chicken.
You're silky, aria, my silky.
(08:40):
Okay, so that TV, that was it.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
She just likes being in here because it's warm.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
So I gamed a lot on my Farmville on my four-day
weekend and in my backyardhomestead, Homestead and I hung
out in my snow globe and Isnuggled my chickens.
You snuggled all your chickens,yeah.
But anyway, it was nice andrelaxing and I felt like I just
needed.
Sometimes it's nice to not doanything Like to just wake up
(09:10):
and take your time, drink yourcoffee, so that's what you did,
you went in your children.
Yeah, I read I would watch someTV and go outside and putter
around and it was nice, allright.
So now, speaking of all thosethings we're going to talk about
, magic mind, are you ready?
Yeah, so what I want to talkabout with magic mind again is
(09:34):
mental wealth.
So we talk about being wealthyregarding money, but with magic
mind you get mental wealth,which goes a really long way.
Five benefits I've experiencedusing Magic Mind would be
(09:59):
enhanced cognition, feeling moremotivated, experiencing better
balance, focus and stressmanagement.
I love skipping thatmid-afternoon slump.
In fact, today I can tell youthat it was about 1.45, 2
o'clock and I started feelinglike, oh, it's that time of the
day where I just want to be done.
And I said that's because Ihaven't taken my magic mind.
(10:23):
And then I took it and I bing,got through work, got through
work.
And I actually tell mycoworkers, even when they're
hitting their afternoon slump, Isay it sounds like you need
Magic Mind and they say I reallydo need to.
But with Magic Mind and Mackie,you pipe up because you have
been amazing at taking yourmagic for somebody who can't
(10:45):
remember to do things like theirchores you sure can remember to
take your Magic Mind.
Every morning you've beenburning through that stuff, so
I'm proud of you yeah so I havea more clear mind when I take,
when I drink, magic mind and mybrain and my mouth work together
(11:06):
better.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
I oftentimes struggle with your brain, your mouth.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Yes, because this is what happens to me.
Naturally, my brain is going sofast with so many unorganized
thoughts and my mouth cannotprocess what my brain is trying
to kick out in anything thatmakes sense.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
But with Magic.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
Mind, it's kind of like everything.
I feel like you've said this tome one time I'm trying to like
hold my mic and still be able totalk I see, but everything kind
of just goes and it makes sense, it all like lines up, like all
the, all the static goes awayand and everything is just makes
more sense and it's more clear.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
But without your magic mind.
It's just like no.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
And so when my brain and my mouth work better
together and I just have moreclear thinking and I think more
logically and take out a lot ofthat emotion out of thinking um,
and now, since last time we'vebeen doing the sleep elixir and
I think that stuff's tasty.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
I like the day one better, I know you do.
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.
I usually sleep funny on myneck.
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.
I usually sleep funny on myneck and I just feel like I go
(12:38):
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(12:58):
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So 45,.
You guys, that's huge.
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So we'll add that in the shownotes.
I already said that Okay,perfect.
I already said that Ooh, ooh,ooh, all right.
(13:22):
So I want to talk about somethings I've been working on.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Okay, okay, I'm scared.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Because you're scared .
I'm kidding.
Well, this isn't really goingto pertain to you.
It's probably going to beboring and I know you'll just
check out when I'm talking, butthat's fine.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I don't want to check out I still want you to pipe up
.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
I know you don't have a lot of experience with this,
but I'm hoping that maybethrough me working on some of
these things you will learn fromthat, because they do say that
kids learn how to haverelationships through watching
their parents.
So the first thing I have beenworking on is making small goals
(13:57):
for myself.
In the past, when I was reallystruggling, I just always had
this constant checklist in mybrain like I have to do laundry,
I have to cook dinner, I haveto you know a million things,
and I really tried to erase thisfrom my mind.
So Sorry, no, you're not.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
What am I doing?
Speaker 2 (14:19):
You are doing your own thing, making a ton of noise
.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
How are people supposed to focus when they have
to listen to all yourbackground going on there?
All right, send us an email.
Would you rather hear Mackie'snoises or my words of wisdom?
Speaker 1 (14:36):
What?
No, it's just that Wow.
I didn't mean it like thatthat's just a thing that me and
Rose do.
That really pisses off, jackson.
It's really funny.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Well then, keep doing it if it pisses off Jackson.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
I will, don't worry.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
So I've worked really hard to get rid of my checklist
.
So I feel like reallyaccomplished right now, because
when I was trying to tell youall the things that used to be
on my checklist, I don't reallyremember them Because I tell
myself.
No, no, no, no, no On thechecklist.
Exercise would be on there.
I need to exercise for thismuch time a day.
I have to make dinner, I haveto clean up dinner, I have to
(15:17):
make my lunches for tomorrow, Ihave to do laundry, I have to
mow the lawn.
I have to stop at the grocerystore, I have to stop at the
pickup prescriptions and itwould just be like, oh, if
somebody wanted to snuggle withme or hey, watch this or look at
this video, I would just feellike, ah, it's already eight
o'clock, I don't have enoughtime, and so I really feel like
that was like, like big picture.
What's more important?
(15:39):
Getting the laundry done andmowing the lawn or spending time
with my family?
You know, what am I going toremember in the future?
I'm going to remember the timeI spent with my family, building
that relationship, making thatquality time, make memories
versus oh yeah, I had a cleanhouse and every you know,
(16:00):
whatever lame.
So one of the things that when Iwent to therapy one time was I
was saying, like I have thisconstant checklist in my brain
of all the things I have to do,everything that's coming up and
none of them arelife-threatening not really a
big deal.
So why do I feel that constantweight?
(16:21):
And my therapist said to me atthat time get rid of the list.
If it makes you feel better,like if I do anything today, so
like for me today we got thispodcast done, so I feel so
accomplished that that is doneand I really don't care.
If anything else I do, Great.
And if I don't get to it, guesswhat.
(16:43):
It's going to be there tomorrowand I don't care.
Or, I've gotten better at askingfor help.
Mac, will you do this for me?
Mac, can you go tomorrow?
Can you do this?
Oh, you don't have school today.
It'd really be helpful if youdid this for me, and maybe you
hate that, but it really helpsme not making everything be my
problem and like saying askingfor help is okay and there's a
(17:06):
better way to ask for help thanwhat I used to do is be really
passive, aggressive, Like no oneelse does laundry.
Oh, I guess I'll do all thislaundry.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Oh, it's going to take me an hour to do all this
laundry.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Nobody ever feeds the dogs, but me how come.
I'm the only one that does blahblah, blah, blah blah.
And now I just say, hey, canyou do this for me?
Hey, it really great and I justcontinue on.
If I accomplish one thing a day, no matter how big or small it
is, I feel really great aboutthat.
(17:37):
I really need you to focus I amfocusing, I'm listening to you
I know, but you're doing like amillion things.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
I don't know.
It's like kind of hard.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
I have ada.
You have ada.
You're distracting me.
Yeah, I know I have ADD.
Okay, all right.
The other thing that I havereally been working on in
general is love.
So what, what Did you getzapped?
No, I didn't.
Oh, I was going to sing my song.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
What was your song?
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Karma is my boyfriend .
I'm working with that Because Ifeel like you deserve a little
zap right now.
I don't deserve a zap.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
I don't know what I'm doing.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
You don't know what you're doing.
That's annoying.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Never mind.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Do you know?
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
I just wanted you to think about that, all right.
So I wanted to talk about loveand relationships and I feel
like I have struggled why.
I mean, granted, my parentsdidn't have a great relationship
and I don't know if I looked atthat and tried to.
(18:40):
I mean, I knew that wasn't agood, healthy relationship.
So I don't think I would strivefor something like that, but I
also maybe don't know.
Maybe sometimes you think youknow what you want and then it
doesn't, it's not really whatyou want.
So, anyway, I've been trying tokind of focus on love, like for
my friends and my family, andlove relationships and me.
So what I'm saying is I've kindof been thinking on how to make
(19:05):
that more compact and not sobig and difficult.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
How is love, big and difficult.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
It can be.
It can be complicated becausepeople get mad at each other or
cranky at each other, or don'tknow each other's expectations
or try to change each other, ordon't support each other, don't
respect each other, don'tcommunicate, so you know that
sounds like mom.
What you know, never mind okayso is it something that you
can't talk about on the podcast?
(19:31):
You can't talk about it, yeah.
So tell me what it is.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
It's a skill issue yeah, you gotta lock in I know
why I'm saying that.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
I think I'm getting better that's good.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
So you're locked in.
Yes, so I'm gonna tell you.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
I'm gonna tell you some tips and tricks.
Because tips and tricks?
Because you should take loveadvice from me.
I will, okay.
So, number one you need to likethe person.
You need to like theirpersonality, the person that you
decide to like love.
If these are like your bestfriends, this is like your life
partner, your husband, your wife, whoever you need to like who
(20:07):
they are, not try to change it.
You need to respect theirvalues.
So let's say and you just zipit because we're not going to
tell anyone what our politicalbeliefs are, and you just zip it
because we're not going to tellanyone what our political
beliefs are.
But if you are a liberal andyour partner is a Republican
sorry, I had to think about whatthe word is you have to respect
(20:29):
their values, not try to changetheir mind.
Not try to see the potential inthem and think you can change
them or mold them somehow.
You need to just respect theirthoughts and feelings, hear them
out, maybe agree to disagree,but if that is something that's
going to drive you crazy forever, then that is not going to work
(20:52):
in a relationship, in a goodfriendship or a romantic
relationship, because you're notrespecting them if you're
trying to change them, you alsoneed to commit to helping them
achieve their goals not what youwant their goals to be, but
what their goals actually are.
So I feel like if you canrespect, support and communicate
(21:16):
, you are going to have asuccessful relationship.
If you can always put thosethings first, attraction and
lust are easy.
That's what initially you justwant to be with that person all
the time.
You have fun with them.
If it's a friendship, you havefun with them.
You want to do fun stuff allthe time.
If it's a romantic relationship, you just feel that spark and
(21:39):
that attraction and that lust.
But as time goes on and if youare each other's ride or die
life companion, best friendyou're thinking about, your life
gets busy.
If you have kids and you work,what happens when you retire?
Can you grow old together?
Can you see your partner takingcare of you and can you see
(22:01):
yourself taking care of themwith empathy and respect and
support?
You also need to be able tocommunicate, even when it's hard
.
You need to learn how to bringthings up in a not judging way
and sometimes I'll say like, hey, I want to talk to you about
something, but I want it to be aconversation, not a fight or
(22:26):
not an argument.
And then I think that for me,that helps me think like okay,
all right, I'm ready, I canhandle this.
Like what is it?
Because if you keep buryingthings, like just letting it go
or-.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Don't dig the hole deeper.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
You are gonna dig the hole deeper if you do that
though.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Yeah, I know, yeah, that's so good you don't want to
.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
So you don't want to end up burying all that
resentment because eventuallyyou're not gonna have anywhere
to bury it and you're gonna blowand then you're gonna.
In every relationship, right,we all make mistakes, we, you
know.
In every relationship, right,we all make mistakes, we all do
things that we regret we all.
(23:08):
No, we're not perfect, right,we're human and it happens.
But one of the things that Ilearned from my uncle Dicko and
my aunt Shelly is that if youmake decisions that are what's
best for each other and not justyourself, like that's, that's a
really big thing and I reallysee that with them and I admire
their relationship has, you know, they got together pretty young
and and they've been in my lifeforever and just seeing how
(23:30):
they have grown old together.
Their kids are grown up, butthey're they're empty nesters
and grandparents and it's justit's.
It's nice to see what theirrelationship looks like.
I feel like I haven't seen arelationship that looks like
something I want, and when I sawtheirs, that really made me
(23:50):
hopeful.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Yeah, haven't they been together for like a long
time?
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
Yeah, for sure.
So anyway, that's what I'mworking on.
I'm not saying I'm perfect atit, but I'm just trying to be
more self-aware, trying to thinkabout it, trying to just be
logical instead of taking.
Sometimes I think inrelationships we get so
emotional about things and howwe feel, versus just realizing
(24:17):
that it can be really black andwhite and that's okay, like, of
course we're emotional becausewe care, and you should be
emotional and you should care.
But a lot of times you justneed to take that out.
Static is my new word.
You need to take that staticout and just look at.
And if you take the static andthe emotion out and just look at
(24:38):
the logical facts, it doesn'thave to be that hard.
And if you support each otherand you respect each other and
you remember that you like thatperson's personality and you're
just doing all that for somebodyand they're not returning the
(24:58):
favor, well then for sure that'sgoing to wear you down and
build resentment.
And if it doesn't tell me yoursecret because I want it, all
right.
That's all I have about whereI'm at with my love situation.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
I'm about to flip dude.
That was pretty good.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
Thanks the static.
The static.
That's what the static issupposed to be.
Dude, that was pretty goodsituation.
Thanks the static, the static.
What's the static supposed tobe?
So do you feel like that washelpful for when you have a
romantic relationship someday,and how to maneuver it?
I guess, yeah, yeah, well, good, I'm glad I'm here for you oh,
something new you learned thisweek what do you have something
because you know you're supposedto?
I'll tell you what mine issupposed to actually.
(25:36):
Yeah, I told you that's a newthing we're going to do for
starting in 2025, for new year'sresolutions and goals and being
better.
So I'll tell you something Ilearned and let me tell you I've
really been trying to like,think of something.
I learn something every day,for sure, 100%, but a lot of it
is medical and nobody probablycares what I have to say about
(25:57):
what?
I learned?
yeah, because I learn a lot ofnew stuff at work all the time
yeah, actually but I try toremember, like the just normal
stuff that I learned, but Ididn't write anything down, so
anyway, one thing that I learnedthis week is that non-invasive
prenatal testing can nowdetermine fetal blood type as
early as 10 weeks.
(26:18):
Mccoy, when I was pregnant withyou, they didn't even have
non-invasive prenatal testing.
What even is that?
It's where they can test thebaby for a handful of genetic
disorders and anomalies the mostcommon ones and it can also
tell the gender of your baby.
And now it can even tell theblood type of your baby, which
(26:40):
is a big deal.
If you are rh negative whenyou're 28 weeks pregnant, this
is going to be all boring, I'msorry.
Uh, 28 weeks pregnant, you geta rogam injection because we
don't know if your baby's bloodtype is like yours rh negative
or rh positive, and if they arenot the same, if if your baby's
negative and you're negative,then that's same.
If your baby's negative andyou're negative, then that's
(27:01):
fine.
But if your baby's positive andyou're negative, down the road
with future pregnancies that cancause some issues.
But now, if you know yourbaby's blood type, you don't
have to get that, and I justthink that that's nifty.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Science.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
Science, McCoy Science.
Did you learn anything thisweek?
Did you learn?
Did you learn anything newabout driving?
You drove on the freeway withme for the first time with you.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Actually, that was the first time I did it with you
with me?
Speaker 2 (27:29):
yeah, do you have anything to input there?
Speaker 1 (27:35):
no boring, I'm like what I don't want I wanted to.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
Ari's not sorry, I know I always.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
I always call aria sorry ari.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Sorry ari, but she's living her best chicken life
here.
You can't even hear her.
She doesn't make, make anynoise.
She's the perfect chicken.
She just sits there and groomsherself.
Yeah, because she's a prettygirl, aren't you, ari?
Yeah, okay, so I only have onemore thing I want to talk about,
and then I have a funny joke,and I'm pretty sure you have a,
(28:12):
would you rather?
For me, and then we can go eatChinese food and I am so excited
.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
I have like literally nothing to say.
You know what I'm going to doEat chicken, I am going to warm
up the car Already.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Yeah, I feel like we're like 10 minutes away from
and it's already 6.23.
Actually, I don't want to go tofreaking school tomorrow
already.
Do you have any tests or hardthings that are coming up?
Speaker 1 (28:36):
I think I have a test this week.
Yes, in math, and maybe one inscience.
Are you ready for them?
Nope, well, the math one yes.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Well, you should be.
You're an honor roll student,that's just because I'm good at
school.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
Mom, you are good.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
Just a natural Lock my doors At some things Lock my
doors so I can start my car.
I'm not even good at science atall.
Do you have science right now,or just chemistry?
Yeah, it's chemistry.
Yeah, that kind of science ishard.
All right, I think the car.
Yeah, I'm pretty buns at it Ithink the car started.
I think.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
And I hope our teacher's chill enough and
doesn't make us do the test thisweek because we've been off for
so long.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Oh yeah, you probably need to do a ton of review.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
Yeah, so hopefully we can do it either on Friday or
next week on like Tuesday.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
I know you can't hear it, but all, is it actually
super?
Speaker 1 (29:25):
I don't know, it's super loud and.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
What is going on?
Speaker 2 (29:29):
Sometimes it's so goddamn cold that my car won't
fucking start.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Is that actually why?
And that?
Speaker 2 (29:34):
makes me so crabby I could go run a Saturday now.
Also, I want you to know thatwhen it's this cold outside, I
go through more gas just warmingup my car than actually driving
it.
All right, come on, you littlebitch, all right.
So anyway, I just want to letyou know, if you're not from
Minnesota and you're listeningto this, it has been so cold
(29:56):
here.
Windchills were recorded atnegative 42 degrees, what, yeah?
And my car finally started.
Thank you, amen.
Alright, we're at 30 minutes,so tell me your, would you
rather?
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Would you rather be able to run on your feet or
write Wait?
Speaker 2 (30:18):
I'm an idiot, I can already run on my feet, bro.
Would you rather be able to runon your feet or write Wait, I'm
an idiot, I can already run onmy feet, bro.
Would you rather be able to run?
Speaker 1 (30:22):
on your hands or write with your feet.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
That's what I meant to say Write with my feet.
That'd be Then I could relax myhands or I could use my phone
and I could write with my feetat the same time.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
Why would you ever need to write with your feet?
Speaker 2 (30:41):
Well, if you want to write, and look at your phone at
the same time.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
But how would you write if you can't?
Speaker 2 (30:42):
see your feet.
I guess that's a good point.
I guess you couldn't.
It's kind of hard to write.
What would you pick?
I would run on my hands.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
Why do you want to run on your hands?
I don't know.
Do you know how much it seemscool gross bacteria there is on
the ground I don't care, I'lljust wash my hands okay what do
you mean?
Speaker 2 (30:53):
okay, okay, I believe it when I see it.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
I do wash my hands.
Speaker 2 (30:59):
All right, are you ready for a funnier joke than
your?
Would you rather?
Oh, that was pretty funny.
That was nasty.
Look at that.
That was off the chart.
Look at that I was just waitingfor you to say, like Mom, I
can't wait to hear your joke.
(31:20):
I can't wait to hear your joke,mom.
Okay, here it comes.
This one's actually appropriatefor all ages.
What does a cannibal eat for asnack?
Do you know what a cannibal is?
Mccoy?
Yeah, it's something that eatspeople.
I don't know what they'reeating.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
Finger food I don't know what finger food is.
Finger food I don't know whatfinger food is Well, when you're
a cannibal, it's fingers.
You're like calling me offguard with this one, okay.
Speaker 2 (31:48):
I was like what?
You're not laughing, ha ha ha.
You're so fake.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
No, but I don't know, I don't even understand the
joke.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
What does a cannibal eat for a snack?
Finger food, yeah, but likeit's a joke, you're totally
overthinking it.
Speaker 1 (32:07):
I am Okay, all right.
Speaker 2 (32:13):
So there he is.
I'm going to beat you why areyou going to?
Beat me.
What did I do wrong?
Are you going to call childprotection?
Speaker 1 (32:18):
on me, yes.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
You're going to live in a foster care.
See how much you like it there.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
That's going to be really great.
It's going to suck is what Imean.
Why are you smiling at me likethat?
Speaker 2 (32:29):
Because you're weird and I'm trying to listen to what
you're saying because you'retaking a long time to get it out
.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Oh man.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
All right.
So reminders 45% off the MagicMind bundle with our link.
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(32:57):
email us if you have anyquestions, anything you want to
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Do you want to be a guest onour podcast?
Hit us up, follow us on socials.
Is TikTok back?
Yeah, it is like full normal.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Yeah, okay, it was away for a couple hours.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
Yeah, okay.
So anyway, I guess we're onTikTok and we are on Instagram
and Facebook on our bestbehavior.
Our Instagram handle, I believe, is at on our underscore best
behavior.
Thank you so much forcontinuing to listen, to support
us.
You know we're forever grateful.
And at Cool Cat.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
You already know right who's that Cool Cat that's
?
I don't know, know, I'm justsaying some random thing again.
Weird, so weird.
Are you cool cat?
Mom duh, are you okay?
Yep?
Speaker 2 (33:48):
mccoy, I just want to tell you one more thing what I
love you.
Oh yeah, we chill all right.
Thanks for listening to anotherepisode of on Our Best Behavior
.
Ari says are you not sorry andpeace, because we're going to
get some Chinese food.
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