July 2, 2025 • 47 mins
What happens when the dating pool shrinks but your standards don't? In this refreshingly candid conversation, Kelli welcomes special guest co-host Robert "Bigfoot Bob" Dominguez for an unfiltered look at dating in later life and the courage it takes to stay true to yourself while navigating romantic possibilities.
Robert shares his personal journey of remaining deliberately single while fielding well-intentioned matchmaking attempts from friends and family. He articulates something many of us feel but rarely admit: the desire to experience that unmistakable "bolt of lightning" connection rather than settling for comfortable companionship. His story about backing out of a date with his fourth-grade crush reveals the complexity of timing, chemistry, and knowing your own heart.
The conversation weaves through dating app hesitations, relationship red flags (speaking negatively about family members), and green flags (consideration for others) that signal compatibility. Robert's perspective has been profoundly shaped by his health challenges, giving him a unique appreciation for life's simple pleasures – from walking on gravel to taking showers independently – while making him thoughtfully selective about who he might share his life with.
What emerges is a powerful narrative about contentment, patience, and the underrated value of waiting for the right connection rather than forcing relationships that don't feel aligned. Robert's loyalty, self-awareness, and willingness to admit when he's wrong highlight qualities that make for lasting partnerships whenever the timing is right.
Whether you're actively dating, taking a break, or happily coupled, this episode offers wisdom about honoring your instincts and finding fulfillment regardless of relationship status. The question isn't just whether you've been together for decades – it's whether you still like each other after all that time.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey everyone, Welcome back to On Our Best Behavior.
I'm your host, Kelly, and todaywe are diving into a topic
that's equal parts hilarious,awkward and totally real Dating
when you're older.
Joining me today is a veryspecial guest, co-host Robert
Dominguez, also known as BigfootBob.
Why Bigfoot?
(00:21):
Well, he's been spotted once ortwice in the dating world, but
no one's really sure if he'sreal or just a legend.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Hey Kelly, thanks for having me on.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Did you like that intro?
Speaker 2 (00:34):
I did.
It was awesome.
It was awesome.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I like to surprise people with a good intro, so all
right.
So today we're going to talkabout the joys and pains of
putting yourself out there.
I'm going to ask you aboutdating apps and just modern
expectations and why sometimesit's just easier to stay home
with your dog and DoorDash.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
You don't even have a dog.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
No, I don't, but I would rent one, but I would rent
one.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
You would rent one Easier than dating right, yeah.
Okay, so tell me right now, inregards to romantic
relationships, what does thischapter of your life look like
right now of your life?
Speaker 2 (01:22):
look like right now.
You know it's really reallytough.
I know Stephen's wife, blair,wants me to date more than
anything, probably more than Ido.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Okay, I was wondering if you had some pressure.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Yeah, she pressures me a lot to do it and I was
actually supposed to go on adate last Sunday, yeah, but I
backed out of it.
But anyway, uh, we'll.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
We'll get back to that, but yeah, I have a lot of
questions about that.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Uh, yeah, that it's, it's really it's.
It's tougher as the older youget, because you know, I'm, I'm
a lot older than you are.
Like you know what, I don'tcare, I don't care.
I kind of do that sometimes,but I I find it harder as you
get older because, like you, Idon't want to settle for anybody
(02:12):
.
Okay, so, that's, that's thebiggest thing.
I don't want to settle and I'mvery, very patient, but at the
same time I don't want to playgames.
I don't want to play games atall with anybody.
Anybody that comes with like agame or something.
Okay, I'm done.
I'm done, I see you later.
So it is.
I think it is.
It is tougher the older you get, cause I tell everybody that
(02:32):
the older you get, the harder itis to like like to date.
So, um, I don't know, I mean Idon't know.
It's just it's tough for me andI don't, I don't go looking for
it or something, but it's toughto find people like you know,
like, cause.
The interest I have is Bigfootand the paranormal.
There's not that many women inBigfoot, like, like to begin
(02:55):
with.
There's tons of girls inparanormal.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
But, uh, I don't do a lot of paranormal stuff anymore
and I've told you before, cause, like Steven and I, we don't.
We don't do a lot of that stuffanymore.
But we don't call ourselvesresearchers and where we call
ourselves cryptic sportsentertainers.
So we, we, we kind of go thatroute now.
So, you know, we've beeninvited to go do stuff, but you
know, a lot of times we have toturn people down and say, well,
(03:20):
We'll go and report what you'redoing, but we can't be a part of
that because that's just Idon't know.
I kind of see myself as themedia.
Now, Is that weird?
Speaker 1 (03:30):
No, I don't think so.
But do you have an interest tostill be a part of that?
Or is that where the barrier is?
Is you really just don't havethe passion for?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
that side of it, If someone were to reach out to me
and we got to get back to dating.
But if someone were to reachout to me and ask me for help, I
would help them If they don'thave any other avenue, Because
I've had people reach out to merecently and they don't have a
way to talk to someone Liketheir family members don't
believe them, or their local lawenforcement doesn't believe
(04:02):
them and stuff.
So if they come to me, I willhelp them.
I will, I will coach themthrough stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
But it's hard to find people that in that field and
to date, you know, it's justthat's kind of what I was
getting at Like maybe that wouldbe a good gateway.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
It's really tough.
So, uh, I don't know, I thinkwhen I was younger, I don't know
, I think when I was younger, Iwas attracting, for some reason,
older women.
And then it was like olderwomen were attracting.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Oh, you liked those cougars.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Well, I didn't date any of them because I just
thought it was unprofessional todo that while you were helping
people.
So I don't know.
I just didn't see it that way.
But now it's harder to find thepeople you know, people like
you know to date or something Idon't know.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Well, the dating pool is smaller right.
And a lot of people havebaggage, yep, and so that I
think that makes it challengingbecause there's not as many fish
in the sea and then you have todecide if you can put up with
their baggage yeah, yeah, that's, that's very, very true.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
So I'm I'm not on any dating apps at all so okay, I
was gonna ask you that too, ifyou were no have you, have you
ever I think I was back when, uh, the girl that I met, that
steven, didn't like when wetalked on on the last the bad,
angela the bad, yeah I've mether on a date I can't remember
which one it was, but I met heron there and we went on a couple
(05:36):
dates and we just startedhanging out and stuff.
So, yeah, that was the lasttime I ever done it.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
So yeah, I feel like so.
My friend Emily, she's like aserial singlist.
She's been single for I don'tthink I've ever seen her like in
a relationship.
That's not long distance.
So I'm always like, oh, let'sdo your dating app.
Like this will be super fun,Like why wouldn't you want to do
(06:03):
that?
Like get on there, that's gotto be so much fun.
But I think the biggest problemwith that is I've had some time
to think about if I wanted toput myself on a dating app.
And it's terrifying because youget so much creeps and so much
ick and so much people who justwant sex.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
And when, especially when you're older.
For myself, anyway, like I wantstability and I want somebody
who's established in their lifeand someone who has their shit
together and somebody who's okaywith 525 chickens.
So that might not be easy tofind, just like somebody who's
(06:43):
into Bigfoot yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You know it's, it's just tough, I mean I was like I
was saying earlier.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I was supposed to go on a date last, yeah, but I I
backed out.
So tell me, what I want to knowabout that is how, how did that
happen?
How did you schedule a date?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
okay, this is.
I really hope she doesn'tlisten to this.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Chances are slim Chances are slim Cause she cause
we.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
she wants to reschedule.
Yeah, and it was on Father'sDay, it was.
You know, how do you?
Speaker 1 (07:15):
feel how?
How do you feel about thereschedule?
Are you open to it?
Speaker 2 (07:20):
I, I was.
I was talked into it by severalof my female friends.
She didn't pressure me as much,but it was weird because, okay,
I've known this girl since Iwas in elementary.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
And she was dating one of my friends.
That was like the toughest guyin the whole school and she was
like the prettiest girl in thewhole school and I was like in
fourth grade so she broke upwith my best friend and you know
, and then she, like, thefollowing year she transferred
to, like you know, some otherschool and she reached out to me
(07:57):
whenever I was sick, whenever Iwas sick, and she went up to
the hospital to see me and shewas seeing Blair's post about
whenever I was.
I was getting better.
So she showed up and she wasreally nice about it and she's
still very, very, very prettyand a very, very nice person.
It's just, you know, shereached out to me recently and
(08:19):
she said that she was ever sincewe she we had met in fourth
grade and she was in love withme.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Oh, that's really great.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Yeah, but I I didn't know how to take that.
I go wow, okay well.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Because you really liked her back then.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Yeah, I liked her, but I knew she was going out
with my friend Guys have guys.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
you know, this guy code Bros before hoes.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
I wasn't going to say that.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
I got you.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
So we don't date like your, your best friend's girl,
we just don't do that, you don'tdouble dip.
No, no, okay.
So and then she told me thatshe told me that she's always
been in love with me.
And I go, I didn't know, Ididn't know how to take it.
I go, wow, I wish I'd haveknown it back then.
But she's a really good personand she's really sweet and she's
really, really pretty.
(09:07):
But I don't know, this isreally dumb of me.
I know, whenever I say this,some of my friends will say,
well, that's really dumb, but Iwasn't feeling it.
And when I go out with somebodyor I want to feel, want to, I
want to feel nervous, I want toget my you know, my palms sweaty
(09:27):
Right, and I want to feel likeI've been hit by, you know, like
a bolt of lightning, and I justdidn't feel it and I think I
think she deserves better.
I think she deserves somebodythat will give her equal
attention, and I don't know if Icould give it to her right now.
I don't know.
Hopefully your listeners arenot going to send you bad emails
(09:51):
.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
No, I think that's fair.
But, my question is like okay,so you had feelings for her a
long long time ago?
Do you think that maybe seeingher, I mean, I think you should
give it a chance, because maybethere is some chemistry that
could kind of get picked back upthat you kind of forgot.
That's there, right, or itcould ignite your spark.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Or I could go out, like on this date, and if I
don't feel it, then we can just,you know, stay friends and be
cool.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
And then you'll know right, you won't wonder.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Yeah, I think I know, but I think most, mostly, I
think you're probably like thefifth female friend of mine
who's told me you should go andjust see if it's there.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
And if it isn't, then it's not there.
And I have one friend Do youfeel like you're ever going to
have like the spark to want todate somebody, or do you feel
like there's just nothing therefor you right now?
Speaker 2 (10:50):
No, I, I, I want to say, I want to say there is Um,
but I, I don't know.
Uh, if it's, I don't, I mean I,I want to like really bad, like
, cause, like, whenever I wasgoing through physical therapy,
one of the guys that was doingphysical therapy on me I was
just joking with him he says he,he, he, he comes to me and goes
(11:10):
what's your goal, you know?
And I told the other guy that Iwanted to walk and so I told
this other physical therapist Igo, I want to get married.
And he goes okay, let's work onthat, let's get you up and
walking so you can walk down theaisle and get married.
Oh, what a bad story I just toldhim that Because I told the
(11:31):
other physical therapist I saidI want to walk.
And he goes okay, let's work onthat.
So this other guy comes to meand goes what's your goal?
I want to get married.
So I was kind of told the boyswant me to get married.
So.
So I've kind of told like theboys want me to get married too.
And when they were reallylittle I said I used to say to
(11:53):
them I go, um, cause I wasn'tliving with Steven at the time,
I was just going there on theweekends and I said I go, I wish
I can be with y'all.
He goes you can, you can justmove in with us.
That's what the boys say.
And I go.
I said, but what if I have togo to work?
Speaker 1 (12:08):
I go go to mommy and daddy's job.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
And I go.
What if I want to get married?
Get married on the sidewalk,that's what they would tell me.
Get married on the sidewalk,they got you taken care of.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
They're like, hey, whatever you need, Uncle Robert,
we got you.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Yeah.
So I asked Sebastian becauseI'm watching a girl wrestler.
He goes hey, uncle Robert, doyou like her?
I go.
Yeah, I go, I really do.
He goes, maybe you can getmarried on the sidewalk with her
.
Oh, maybe.
So cute.
So that's how they think now.
So get married on the sidewalk.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
I love that.
I hope one of them gets marriedon the sidewalk someday.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's.
I don't know, it's just um.
So I think I think you're likethe fifth friend of mine that
said go on a date with her.
I have one female friend, uh,lindsay.
She told me he goes if you'renot feeling, feeling it, don't
(13:09):
do it.
You have to be in the rightit's just like this podcast,
right like you have to be in theright mood and in the right
mindset, otherwise it's not fairto either one of you, right?
Yeah, I kind of think thatbecause she's she's a really
she's a really really good ladyand I think she deserves
somebody that's going to giveher a lot of attention.
And I'm not sure if I'm thatperson so I just don't.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
so that's what I don't understand.
So, as a girl, I know that menand women think so much
differently.
So, as a girl, I don'tunderstand how I don't even know
how to really say this but like.
I'm trying to get my wordstogether.
So have you?
So when you guys startedtalking and she reached out to
(13:45):
you, did you ever feel like, oh,maybe I could date this girl,
or has that never been there?
Speaker 2 (13:49):
I don't think it's ever been there.
To be honest with you, I, I, Ithought she was really beautiful
and like fourth grade.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
And what changed?
What changed for you that youare feeling it?
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
I guess, getting sick and then getting better, and
then my whole perspective on alot of things changed.
I used to be very passionateabout comics and I'm not anymore
and so I used to be passionateabout the Cowboys and the
(14:22):
Mavericks and the Dallas Starsand I used to bid my will.
Whenever they won, I was in agood mood, and when they weren't
, I was in a bad mood.
Now I don't even care.
I don't care about that, I gowhatever.
I just want to experience lifeand be happy.
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(15:18):
Yours could use it, I don'tknow.
Dating should be part ofexperiencing life and making you
feel happy.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
It should and I don't know why it's not so.
It kind of in a way, I guess itkind of bugs me a little bit
that I don't feel as passionateabout it.
You know, I think I will.
I don't know when You're justnot there yet.
Yeah, it may not be today ortomorrow or next week, but I
think, maybe I don't know,because you must feel like
(15:49):
you're fulfilled.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yeah, I mean, you're not lacking anything that you're
really searching for that.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Yeah, I think you're right.
I've.
I told steven, like I've toldsteven a bunch of times.
I said I don't know why I cameback, I don't know why he
brought me back, but whenever Ido see it I'll know.
Yeah, I don't know when it is,or whatever the situation is.
I think I'll know.
So I don't know.
(16:16):
That's just how I feel about it.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
So, so you're not really putting yourself out
there.
You're not doing dating appsYou're not doing, you're not
going out and mingling.
So it's just kind of like if itfalls in your lap, it's meant
to be.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
You know I've gone out.
I've gone out with friends.
You know I've gone out withlike a couple of ex coworkers
and I've hung out with them andand just went, you know, to go
have dinner and stuff like that.
But you know I wasn't wasn'treally looking for it, so I
wasn't trying to get hooked upwith anybody or I don't know.
It sounds weird.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Well, I admire that because, as a woman, there's
just like I had said earlier,like it's so hard to weed out
all the creeps.
Yeah, I mean guys are creepierthan girls.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Yeah, they can.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
Do you agree?
Speaker 2 (17:06):
Yeah, Cause like if for example, I always tell them
like you know, you know all mynieces, this I go.
If a guy looks up, you know helooks from your feet all the way
up, just up and down, thenwatch out, because that's kind
of creepy it is yeah, it'salmost like they're looking at
you like a buffet or something.
Yeah, I don't want to be nobuffet, but I don't know the
(17:37):
last serious girlfriend I hadwas, you know, the policeman or
the police woman, the?
Good Angela.
No, that's, uh, Elaine.
Speaker 1 (17:41):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Yeah, so she, uh, she was she was yeah, eileen, there
you go.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
You remembered man I do remember you were good.
Yeah, I pay attention.
I'm a girl, I pay attention.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
But she's like, she was a like, like a super, super
independent woman and I think Iwas attracted to that.
So I don't know.
So she was strong and she wasvery opinionated about stuff and
I really dig that.
So I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
But she was too independent for you because she
couldn't handle being number twoto Steven.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
No, no, no, that was the bad Angela.
Oh no, that was the bad Angela.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Oh, okay, that was the bad.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Angela Eileen loves Steven, but she worked too much.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
She put her job first .
Yes, yeah, that's what it wasshe wouldn't show up because she
got stuck working.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
So that was too independent for you at that time
in your life.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
Yeah, I really think I needed more of her.
So I think it was.
It was really tough to get herto open up and talk about stuff.
It was like like pulling teeth,you know, kind of like, kind of
like I'm talking to a man, youknow, I'm fine, I'm fine, no
you're okay, you know stuff likethat.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
No, yes, no, yes, no.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Yeah, so it was pretty tough and I needed more
and I didn't get it, so I left.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Do you know if she is she in a relationship now?
Speaker 2 (19:05):
You know, I don't, I don't ask that question, I don't
really know.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
You don't creep on her social media.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
She's not on Facebook , she's never believed in
Facebook, and I don't still talkto her son, but I don't, I
don't, uh, I don't ask about her.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
So yeah, and he doesn't bring it up like hey,
okay, he knows me, he knows mereally well.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
So I think one time he asked me one time about it, I
said hey, dude, that's betweenme and your mom, so we laid down
some boundaries so, so, buthe's a really good kid.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
I wish, I wish he was my kid, but he's not oh you're
so sweet yeah, he's taking oneveryone's kid, I have to look
at my doorbell because my dog isgoing crazy and I'm like you
got food coming, I'm out there.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
No remember, I made dinner but um, you got dessert
coming it's just a family, justa family walking by, so get this
story.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
So my neighbor texted me yesterday and she said this
is is totally off topic.
But she said it's a good story.
But she says, hey, somebody'sabout to knock on your door,
don't answer it.
And I was kind of like I neveranswer my door anyway, unless I
am expecting somebody or I knowwho's out there.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Right.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
And that's why I love my ring doorbell, because you
don't have to like peek, you canjust look on the camera.
And so I'm like okay, and thenI heard like literally 30
seconds later, someone's likebanging on the door and my dog
is very vicious pit bull and heseems very scary, so I like that
and he's like barking.
Hey, what happened that?
You told me not to answer thedoor and she said that the same
(20:41):
person was knocking on her door.
They didn't answer and the guytried to open the door and come
in and she said usually the dooris locked, but Logan, who's
Mackie's buddy, had left outthat door and of course his mom
and dad were home.
So he didn't lock the door.
And I said well, what did youdo when he tried to come in?
And she said that she just likehurried up and shut and locked
(21:01):
the door and then her husbandwent out there and was like you
need to leave or I'm calling thecops.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
But like we just had this really big thing happen
about two weeks ago here in likeour community, where this guy
kind of went.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Short long story, short kind of went.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
AWOL, had this list of like 70 people that he wanted
to kill like politician peopleDid?
You see it here, and he dressedup like a cop and knocked on
people's doors in the middle ofthe night, looked like a cop and
then was killing them.
But there's a couple ofsurvivors that are at like the
hospital that I work at rightnow that had like seven or eight
close range close range gunshotwounds that lived, so like the
(21:44):
hospital was on lockdown for along time where I work and stuff
, but anyway.
So it's super crazy.
So we're like nobody answeryour door at all.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Even if I see it's a cop at my door, I'm calling 911
and asking why they're there.
I'm not answering my door.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
I don't blame you.
I don't blame you at all.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
There's no reason for anyone to be at my door.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
No, and I love that you and your neighbors are close
enough where she can warn you.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Yeah, we look out for each other, for sure.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
That's awesome.
I love that I've been no, justkidding.
I love that I've been no, justkidding.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
Back to dating.
On that note, meet people onthe internet, but don't open
your door.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's crazy.
I think I was asking my newboss I think he's been married
like 40-something years and Itold him I go, how long you been
married?
He goes, oh, 40 years.
But I've known her like 47.
I said, man, I think if I putall my girlfriends together it
wouldn't even make 47 months.
He was, he was laughing Causehe asked me the other day.
(22:50):
He asked me cause, like healways, like for some reason, he
he shows me what his wife makeshim for lunch and dinner.
He'll show me a picture of itand it's so good.
I go.
Why didn't she just make aYouTube?
Because I've told her that butshe won't do it.
He shows me every day what hiswife made for dinner and stuff.
(23:12):
He goes are you seeing anybody?
And I looked at him for a longtime.
He goes.
I'm so sorry, I shouldn't haveasked go.
No, that's fine.
I mean I.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
I love that you're asking me a personal question
was he loaning his wife out toyou?
Speaker 2 (23:25):
no, no, no, I think he was just wondering if I,
because I think he cared aboutme and I think he oh, does
someone make your lunch for youtoo?
Yeah, yeah, or just like orjust have conversation about you
know, your, your other, yourother partner and stuff.
So I told him I go.
No, I'm actually I'm single.
He goes, I'm so sorry.
I go.
No, no, it's fine, I was wasn'toffended by it I'm single by
(23:50):
choice, buddy, yeah yeah, yeah.
So I don't know, I think I kindof like it, you know, I think,
uh, my other I have.
I have, like, like you know,the, the boys that I see all the
time, and I have another set oftwins that I go see.
They're 14, but they don't.
They don't want me to dateanybody because they think if I
date somebody I'm not going tohave time for them.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
They don't know you well because that's not like you
at all.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
I know it's not your character.
Because I was telling them Iwas going on a date and they go
oh no, you can't go on this date.
No, you need to call her andtell her you're not going to go.
And you know, I ended up notgoing because number one, I
didn't feel it and it was onFather's Day.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
So I go no, I'm not going to do it.
Bad time for a date yeah.
So tell me, I want to know redflag for you First date red flag
.
Or talking to somebody beforeyou even go on a first date red
flag.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Red flag.
Hold on.
Let me see here.
You know, I think if they talkbad about their family, you know
, like their mom and their dador their siblings or whatever,
that's usually a bad sign.
That's usually.
That's probably.
That would probably be me inlike two months.
They're going to be arguingwith me about something and
(25:06):
talking bad about me, orsomething.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
Well, yeah, I see what you're saying.
At first I was like what, yeah,yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
I think, I think, I think that's a red flag, because
if, if you talk bad about yoursiblings, you know they're going
to talk bad about you too, orjust argue with you or just not
have good character what's?
A deal breaker, deal breakerwould be.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
They didn't like Bigfoot.
That's a good one.
You know, I like that a lotabout how about you?
Red flag for me is I was gonnadeal breaker for me.
I was gonna say what I wasgonna say is a deal breaker, not
a red flag smoker yeah drinkeryes um.
(25:56):
Red flag for me.
Somebody who talks negativeabout past relationships,
current, like you said, currentpeople, co-workers, people in
their lives, like just have alot of negativity, is a big red
flag for me.
Green flag for you green flag.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
Um, I'd probably uh a very like bigfoot yeah, that,
that bigfoot's one wrestling'stwo.
Oh yeah being very considerate.
I I really like.
I like I don't know why I'mjust really attracted to people
that are considerate and uh, soit shows, it shows character to
(26:42):
me.
I think it shows character,shows, uh, that they're, that
they're just an all-around goodperson and I don't know.
I just really, really like it.
There's a co-worker of mine oran ex-co-worker of mine.
She's probably the mostconsidered person I've ever met
and, uh, she's such a sweetperson.
(27:02):
If she was single I would, Iwould ask her out big time, but
but she's not so uh, but uh, Isaid so, here we are I know yeah
yeah, square one she, she's.
I mean, she's the type of personthat would go and like,
decorate like your cube for likebirthdays and stuff like that
anniversaries, birthdays, stufflike that, and she's just a.
(27:25):
She's just a great person.
You know she, she makesactually, she makes all my, all
my um, merch stuff oh reallyyeah, she did the, the mouse
pads and all that stuff mackie,I took a really good picture of
the merch that you sent me thesidebar right here and Mackie
was really excited.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
He goes how come there's two mouse pads?
And I go well, if you want them, you can put them together and
make a really big mouse pad foryour game.
And he's like, yeah, I want todo that.
So he was so excited.
Speaker 2 (27:56):
Did he really?
Yes, that's awesome.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
Because he wants a really long one.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, and I hadordered him one on Etsy, but
then the guy never shipped it,so it was a big nightmare.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
But anyway, well, it's good that I stepped up for
that.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Yeah, no, he loved it .
Speaker 2 (28:11):
Good, good, good good .
Speaker 1 (28:14):
What is a quality in yourself that a partner would be
appreciative of?
Speaker 2 (28:19):
I'm very loyal, I'm super loyal me too.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
I'm that way too, like even in my friends I'm like
do we love them or do we hatethem?
Speaker 2 (28:26):
like I just need to know.
Yeah, I always say I said, do Ineed a super kick him or what
super kick candidate or no superkick candidate if you love him?
Speaker 1 (28:35):
I love him.
If you hate him, I hate himlike ride or die.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Yeah, I'm very loyal because I just think, you know,
I hear all these stories aboutpeople cheating and stuff.
I said, man, if I'm going to dothis much work to be with
somebody, I'm going to be withthem, and it just boggles my
mind how people cheat and I go.
Come on.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
Okay, i'm'm gonna play devil's advocate for you on
this.
So what if you are married,okay, and you are having a lot
of marital problems and I'm notsaying this is right, I'm just
playing devil's advocate, rightand let's say your partner has a
gambling problem or a drinkingproblem or a drug problem or
abuses you and you start seekingsomething more outside of that,
(29:26):
because it's hard to just leavea relationship yeah, so.
So you're asking me if that'sokay well, I I'm just saying do
you think there's exceptions?
Speaker 2 (29:43):
Yeah, there's always exceptions to stuff like that.
It's not black and white allthe way, it's just.
You know, I think there'scertain situations and certain
people and certaincharacteristics, because this
person, this scenario, wants tostay loyal, but still it doesn't
(30:08):
like the way they're beingtreated and they're trying to
seek out stuff, I think it'sokay.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Well then, I don't think you're trying to be loyal
anymore at that point if you'restarting to seek something else
out.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
Well, yeah, you're right, but I think there's
certain situations, Becausewhenever I was dating the bad
Angela, Eileen came back in mylife and Eileen and I we didn't
do anything physical at all, wewere just talking.
And Eileen and I we didn't doanything physical at all, we
(30:37):
were just talking and I decidedthat I didn't want to be with
the bad Angela anymore and Ijust told her.
I said I don't want to be withyou anymore and she got very
angry and then we broke up andthen I got back with Eileen.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
Because you were already having an emotional
connection.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
See, I think that happens.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
Yeah, so I think hopefully I've answered your
question.
So I think certain scenariosit's acceptable and sometimes
it's not.
Would I do it?
I don't know if I would.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
I mean, that's just me, because if I'm not, Don't
you think the goal is to find apartner who, if you're having a
problem with something, you guyscan work it out together?
Speaker 2 (31:22):
Right.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
And not let it get to that point.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Right, right, yeah To to work it out, cause I think
you know the one, the one, theother quality that I have and
I'll say this, I never bragabout myself is that I, that I
will admit I'm wrong aboutsomething.
I will always do that and Iwould just say look, it's my
fault, I'm sorry, I'll do better.
Blah, blah, blah, and I'vealways done that.
So I think, if I was in thatscenario, that I would try to
(31:47):
help it or try to fix it someway, and if I can't, if they're
not willing to do it, thenthere's not much I can do.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
That's the hard part is if you're not both, if you
don't both have that um goodquality, then it can be a
struggle.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
Yeah, so I think it's um, you know the the ultimate
goal is to be happy and theultimate goal, I think, if I was
in a relationship with somebody, I used to always tell I think
I told like the bad, angela, Igo.
If you're not happy, you needto go because I don't want you
to be with me.
I don't want to be FlorenceNightingale.
(32:27):
I don't know if you know thatreference.
No, I don't.
It was like in.
I think it was World War I orWorld War II.
It was a.
It was like in I think it was awar one or war two.
It was a nurse by the name ofFlorence Nightingale and it was,
uh, I think it was a pilot thathad got shot down.
He was burned and then, uh, shefelt sorry for him.
So she married him cause shefelt sorry she wasn't in love
with him.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
She just felt sorry for him.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
So I, I refuse to be Florence Nightingale.
So if people don't want to bewith me, I don't want them with
me.
Just go and be happy withsomeone else, because I think
that's the worst to be withsomebody.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
I think another hard part about relationships is that
people stop putting in theeffort, and you have to
constantly put in the effort fora good relationship to thrive.
This is something else I wasgoing to ask you.
When you were saying that yourboss was asked, he was saying
he'd been married for 40 yearsor whatever.
Whenever people tell me like oh, it's my wedding anniversary 20
(33:23):
years, 25 years, I'm like doyou still love each other?
I always ask that because-.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
Do you still like each other?
Because there's so many peoplewho are in really long
relationships that are just likethey've been there so long.
They just hang out.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Yeah, I want to.
I, I, I believe in fairy talesand I, I, I want to be in that.
I want to be in that so bad,because, like, when I was
younger I wanted to have kids sobad, and I didn't get to.
You know, I didn't get thatchance.
So I think I would want to bein a relationship where I just
love them forever.
(33:57):
I mean, I know that's such acliche to say that, but really
that's what I thrive for or want, and that's why I kind of don't
want to go on this date,because I'm not feeling it,
because I want to feel like Igot hit by a bolt of lightning.
So that's what I want and it'snot there.
(34:17):
And she's such a good girl, Ireally love her.
I just want the best for her.
I don't know if I'm it.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
And maybe the time is just off, and maybe it is just
not meant to be.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
It's timing.
Timing is everything.
So I think I've met lots ofgirls bad timing and it just
never worked out.
So I don't know.
I think I, I think God has meexactly where he wants me to be,
so to be in certain people'slives, You've been really good
about that, about just beingcontent.
(34:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
And good and happy and optimistic.
Speaker 2 (34:54):
Yeah, you know, I think you know whenever you know
, whenever you can't feedyourself or whenever you can't
walk, you kind of appreciate alot of stuff and I appreciate a
lot of stuff.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
Effective yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:07):
And you know, just like walking on gravel.
I mean that to me.
I find that glorious, I love it.
Walking on the beach, I love it.
You know the beach, I love it,you know just stuff like that.
Or just taking a shower byyourself.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
The things that you take for granted every day.
I'll tell people sometimes thathave like a, you know they're
in like a walking boot, or youknow they broke their leg.
It's like you don't realize howmuch you depend on that body
part until you can't use itanymore.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
Man, I would love to go to your hospital and talk to
anybody, about being likegetting the willpower back to do
something or just wanting tomotivate people.
I would love to do that becauseI've told the hospital where I
came from.
I said anytime you want me totalk to someone, just call me.
I go up there and talk to them.
Speaker 1 (36:03):
Watching was off the charts and like to be able to be
like I saw the Rock wrestlelike that's badass.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
Is this your uncle from Florida?
Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, okay,okay, um, so is the rock, your
your celebrity crush no, I don'treally have one you know,
boring, I know not one person oractor or no, like I don't know.
Speaker 1 (36:28):
I don't know if it's like my age or just where I am
in my life, but I just likedon't have the oomph yeah every
once in a while, like like I'llget.
Like sometimes I'll say and youknow what, I'm not going to
edit this part out, robert butI'll say like, oh, that thing in
my vagina just happened, andthat's like where you get like
the zing and the tingles and I'mlike I don't know where that
(36:48):
came from.
Must be ovulating, because thatwas not on my radar.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
gotta say who is that who is that?
Speaker 1 (36:57):
but let me tell you, the last time that happened was
a long time ago, when traviskelsey was like just getting
like on the map before he wasdating taylor swift yeah and
like they would show him likeout on the field and I was like
whoa, who is that guy?
But now like his hair is weirdand his stash is weird and don't
you listen, you can have himtaylor.
(37:18):
Um, sometimes I'll fall asleepto it because, only because I
wanted to hear him talk abouttaylor.
So like I was trying to like,fast forward, to get to like the
taylor parts, because I do liketaylor swift yeah um, but I was
really disappointed.
I listened to one of theirrecent episodes and I got really
pissy because they werenominated for like kids choice
(37:38):
award best podcast and I'm likethis is not a kid's podcast it's
not kid friendly it is not kidfriendly.
They say fuck more than I dolike.
How is no?
No, you can like the bestsports podcast, but you are not
kid friendly I like it.
I like it whenever you cusswell, I do a lot I think, I do,
(38:00):
I think a lot everywhere like Inever really filter myself down,
so I get the wide eye a lotlike whoa you know, I think I've
texted you that a couple times.
I like, because I'm I'm like,I'm like driving, listen to your
podcast and you're cussing, Igo I like when other people cuss
and I just feel like it's theway of the world, like it's
(38:20):
pretty normalized now.
I mean, I hear a lot of peopleat work, like when people are
talking to me, like not mycoworkers but patients like
they'll say the word pussy, they, they say they use all these
crazy words that I have to hear,you know and they'll you know,
and I just okay.
(38:44):
There's some words I don't use,like I don't use the P word in
reference to vagina, I justdon't like it.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
It's fine If you're calling someone like a wuss,
that's fine.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
Um, I also don't use the C word.
I think that's really too far,but a lot of people use it Like
it's.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
you know the word, the good for them those aren't
on my radar but fucking shitalways, always going to be on
the radar I think I think I'veheard you say that on your on
your podcast before the p wordyeah because don't say the c
word the c word yeah no we don'tsay the c word mom, I'm not
going to tell you that I know.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
He's like what's so bad about the c word?
I'm like do you know what itmeans?
And he's like no, and I'm likewell, it's the most derogatory
word for a vagina when it is onits period.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
And he's like yeah, what, why did?
Speaker 1 (39:30):
you tell me that and I'm like because you asked you
can't use the word enough.
He's been better.
He's been with his summer break.
He's been a little sleeping allday, up all night.
And so we've been trying to kindof rearrange his sleep schedule
to be back to a normal person.
(39:51):
And yesterday was Sunday and Iwoke him up and I said hey, it's
really early, I know it's only830 in the morning, but I need
to clean the house and go to thegrocery store and if you could
get up and help me, I can get itdone so much faster.
And he did and it was great.
And then he even drove me tothe grocery store and drove me
to all the places I needed to go, and now he can almost take his
(40:12):
license test because I think heonly has three hours left.
Speaker 2 (40:15):
Nice.
Speaker 1 (40:16):
Yeah, that makes me so happy.
And he was like telling me mom,I know I've really been
annoying you and I'm reallyworking hard on not being like
that.
I go yeah, you're I go.
You're Mac annoying me.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
Cause I think I think I've texted you before.
I said how's Mac sauce and yougo annoying me.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
He's annoying me Sometimes.
I'm just like, well, even liketonight, we're eating dinner and
he's like mom, can I haveseconds?
And I'm like, yeah, of course,you have as much as you want to.
And he's in the bathroom, he'sin the kitchen making his plate
and I'm eating dinner in theliving room because we're
watching prison break, you know.
And he's in the kitchen.
He's like I'm like McCoy, whyare you making barf noises?
(40:54):
I'm trying to eat and he goes.
Well, mom, I like the way itsounds and I go.
Well, I don't.
Speaker 2 (41:00):
I like the way it sounds.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
It's not cute.
Speaker 2 (41:06):
You know, I think whenever Stephen was younger and
he gave me an answer I didn'tlike, like, I would say I go hey
, did you do your homework?
He says, well, my friends came.
Friends came over, and if Ididn't like it and he knew I
didn't like it I would say thesame thing over, I go.
My friends came over.
And he would go okay, you don'tlike that.
Okay.
So so now, whenever his boys dothat to you know, say something
(41:29):
to me.
I say it back to them and theygo okay, uncle Robert, you don't
like that.
That's what I always do.
I used to do to him all thetime, stephen, and he hears me
saying it to his boys.
Now he goes okay, I do rememberthat.
Speaker 1 (41:43):
I'll do that to Mac too, and he'll be like, okay,
okay, okay, okay, because I'llkeep doing, okay, yeah yeah,
yeah, it's a lot.
It's a lot, isn't it?
It's a lot, isn't it.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
Yeah, so I really enjoyed your last episode With
Emily.
Speaker 1 (42:00):
Yes, yeah, she's fun.
She's been my best friend for amillion like 17 years, maybe A
long time.
Speaker 2 (42:05):
Yeah, it's not like I had a really, really good time
talking.
Speaker 1 (42:08):
Yeah, yeah, we do, we do.
We had met, so there's three ofus best girlfriends me, Emily
and Jen and Jen used to liveclose by us, but she moved like
40 minutes, 35, 40 minutes away,which isn't terrible, but we
just don't see her as often andanyway, her mom still lives
close to us and so a lot oftimes her mom and her mom's
(42:32):
friend, they're widows andthey're like 70, but they'll go
to this local bar by our houseand a lot of times it's like,
you know, like it was like taptakeover last weekend and so, or
last thursday when and then soemily and I met them up there,
went to tap takeover and we'relike what's tap takeover?
And they're like, oh, you know,it's just like a a vendor comes
in and they have a bunch offree swag and so whatever they
(42:55):
had like t-shirts and hats andand whatever and so we had gone
up there and then mac and hismac had texted me and he's like
where you at?
and so I'm like, oh, we're up atthe boulevard.
And so him and his friend cameand they had been at mcdonald's,
which is like across the streetfrom there, and uh, he came in
and everyone was laughing at himbecause he had like put a bunch
of his leftover chicken nuggetsin his pocket and then he would
(43:15):
just randomly pull one out andeat it.
And people were like what areyou eating?
Where did you get that?
He's like McNugget.
Oh my God, child.
Speaker 2 (43:24):
That's him.
Speaker 1 (43:25):
That's not mine, he does not belong to me.
I don't know whose child thatis, but he can't be in here.
Speaker 2 (43:31):
Put nuggets in his pocket.
Speaker 1 (43:33):
I was like where did you get that he's like out of my
pocket.
I'm like, oh my god.
And then he had them all loadedin his pockets with nuggets.
Speaker 2 (43:40):
That's like a poliodonamite putting tots in
his pocket.
Give me some tots.
Speaker 1 (43:49):
Give me some tots.
And then what does he say tothe llama?
No, tina, these are my tots,can't remember how that goes,
but it's funny.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
Yeah, actually the boys love that movie too.
Speaker 1 (44:01):
It is good I haven't watched it in a long time.
It is a good one.
Speaker 2 (44:04):
It's kid-friendly.
Speaker 1 (44:05):
It is kid-friendly, Super kid-friendly.
You know what?
In nowadays generation andworld?
It's kid-friendly becausethere's a lot worse shit going
on.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:16):
Alright, you ready to wrap this up?
Speaker 2 (44:19):
I am.
Speaker 1 (44:20):
Thank you for listening to another episode of
Honor Best Behavior.
Thank you, robert, for being myspecial guest co-host, and more
to come.
I jotted down some ideas onsome topics that I have for the
future, because I'm always like,hey Robert, what should we talk
about?
I'm usually driving.
Hey Robert, what should we talk?
Speaker 2 (44:37):
about.
I'm usually driving wheneveryou ask me that too, and I'm
like don't text and drive.
No, I don't Focus, I stop, Istop.
Speaker 1 (44:44):
Do you ever text me and it's like hi, kelly is
driving.
She can't return your textright now because I'm that
person who has that on my phone.
Speaker 2 (44:54):
No, I actually stop Because I stop and I text
Because that's just how I am too.
I got to be safe, Safe yeah.
Speaker 1 (45:03):
You almost died once.
You can't.
That only gives you so manychances.
Speaker 2 (45:06):
Right, right, right.
I'm not a cat.
Speaker 1 (45:09):
I was just talking about, like I was saying
something today about when I wasgoing to my brother's house,
like my thing today about when Iwas going to my brother's house
, like my GPS took me a weirdway because I was just saying
like the fastest way.
And then it took me a reallyweird way that I had never gone
before.
And I'm like, and I was likesaying like, oh, it's God's plan
, because I probably like misseda bad car accident, or like, if
I'm late, like one day lastweek Mackie unplugged my coffee
(45:31):
pot, so then it didn'tautomatically make my coffee, so
then I had to sit there andwait for it to make my coffee
and I'm like, oh, it's God'splan, he's making me avoid
something.
So I always say that.
And so somebody was like soyou're using God as a scapegoat
for your forgetfulness and beinglate?
I'm like, no, I am grateful forGod's plans.
He's saving my life.
Speaker 2 (45:52):
I love that.
That's awesome.
Speaker 1 (45:55):
And I'd rather be late than never show up.
Speaker 2 (45:58):
Because that's what I tell people whenever I got sick
.
So my mom was.
So I think I told you my momwas so mad at the hospital, yeah
, and she wanted to sue them andI said no, what if God pulled
me out of the street for areason to humble me and to put
me in his spot?
Speaker 1 (46:15):
He bitch slapped you.
Speaker 2 (46:16):
He did Get slapped you together.
Dominguez.
Speaker 1 (46:19):
Dominguez, wake up so so, yeah, all right, well, I'm
going to let you go, okay, andI'll cut that part out, I
promise.
Speaker 2 (46:30):
Can I, can I, can I plug the podcast?
Speaker 1 (46:32):
Of course, yeah, okay , the podcast.
Speaker 2 (46:33):
Of course, yeah, okay , so if you want to listen to my
podcast, or the podcast, it'sOn Our Best Behavior I thought
you were going to plug theBigfoot Club?
Speaker 1 (46:45):
No, you already have 10,000 listeners, you don't?
Speaker 2 (46:47):
need anymore, so I just want to plug yours.
Speaker 1 (46:51):
Okay, well, thank you .
Follow us on social media.
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to hit stop on the recording.
Hey everyone, Welcome back to On Our Best Behavior.
I'm your host, Kelly, and todaywe are diving into a topic
that's equal parts hilarious,awkward and totally real Dating
when you're older.
Joining me today is a veryspecial guest, co-host Robert
Dominguez, also known as BigfootBob.
Why Bigfoot?
(00:21):
Well, he's been spotted once ortwice in the dating world, but
no one's really sure if he'sreal or just a legend.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Hey Kelly, thanks for having me on.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Did you like that intro?
Speaker 2 (00:34):
I did.
It was awesome.
It was awesome.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I like to surprise people with a good intro, so all
right.
So today we're going to talkabout the joys and pains of
putting yourself out there.
I'm going to ask you aboutdating apps and just modern
expectations and why sometimesit's just easier to stay home
with your dog and DoorDash.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
You don't even have a dog.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
No, I don't, but I would rent one, but I would rent
one.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
You would rent one Easier than dating right, yeah.
Okay, so tell me right now, inregards to romantic
relationships, what does thischapter of your life look like
right now of your life?
Speaker 2 (01:22):
look like right now.
You know it's really reallytough.
I know Stephen's wife, blair,wants me to date more than
anything, probably more than Ido.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Okay, I was wondering if you had some pressure.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Yeah, she pressures me a lot to do it and I was
actually supposed to go on adate last Sunday, yeah, but I
backed out of it.
But anyway, uh, we'll.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
We'll get back to that, but yeah, I have a lot of
questions about that.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Uh, yeah, that it's, it's really it's.
It's tougher as the older youget, because you know, I'm, I'm
a lot older than you are.
Like you know what, I don'tcare, I don't care.
I kind of do that sometimes,but I I find it harder as you
get older because, like you, Idon't want to settle for anybody
(02:12):
.
Okay, so, that's, that's thebiggest thing.
I don't want to settle and I'mvery, very patient, but at the
same time I don't want to playgames.
I don't want to play games atall with anybody.
Anybody that comes with like agame or something.
Okay, I'm done.
I'm done, I see you later.
So it is.
I think it is.
It is tougher the older you get, cause I tell everybody that
(02:32):
the older you get, the harder itis to like like to date.
So, um, I don't know, I mean Idon't know.
It's just it's tough for me andI don't, I don't go looking for
it or something, but it's toughto find people like you know,
like, cause.
The interest I have is Bigfootand the paranormal.
There's not that many women inBigfoot, like, like to begin
(02:55):
with.
There's tons of girls inparanormal.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
But, uh, I don't do a lot of paranormal stuff anymore
and I've told you before, cause, like Steven and I, we don't.
We don't do a lot of that stuffanymore.
But we don't call ourselvesresearchers and where we call
ourselves cryptic sportsentertainers.
So we, we, we kind of go thatroute now.
So, you know, we've beeninvited to go do stuff, but you
know, a lot of times we have toturn people down and say, well,
(03:20):
We'll go and report what you'redoing, but we can't be a part of
that because that's just Idon't know.
I kind of see myself as themedia.
Now, Is that weird?
Speaker 1 (03:30):
No, I don't think so.
But do you have an interest tostill be a part of that?
Or is that where the barrier is?
Is you really just don't havethe passion for?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
that side of it, If someone were to reach out to me
and we got to get back to dating.
But if someone were to reachout to me and ask me for help, I
would help them If they don'thave any other avenue, Because
I've had people reach out to merecently and they don't have a
way to talk to someone Liketheir family members don't
believe them, or their local lawenforcement doesn't believe
(04:02):
them and stuff.
So if they come to me, I willhelp them.
I will, I will coach themthrough stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
But it's hard to find people that in that field and
to date, you know, it's justthat's kind of what I was
getting at Like maybe that wouldbe a good gateway.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
It's really tough.
So, uh, I don't know, I thinkwhen I was younger, I don't know
, I think when I was younger, Iwas attracting, for some reason,
older women.
And then it was like olderwomen were attracting.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Oh, you liked those cougars.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Well, I didn't date any of them because I just
thought it was unprofessional todo that while you were helping
people.
So I don't know.
I just didn't see it that way.
But now it's harder to find thepeople you know, people like
you know to date or something Idon't know.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Well, the dating pool is smaller right.
And a lot of people havebaggage, yep, and so that I
think that makes it challengingbecause there's not as many fish
in the sea and then you have todecide if you can put up with
their baggage yeah, yeah, that's, that's very, very true.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
So I'm I'm not on any dating apps at all so okay, I
was gonna ask you that too, ifyou were no have you, have you
ever I think I was back when, uh, the girl that I met, that
steven, didn't like when wetalked on on the last the bad,
angela the bad, yeah I've mether on a date I can't remember
which one it was, but I met heron there and we went on a couple
(05:36):
dates and we just startedhanging out and stuff.
So, yeah, that was the lasttime I ever done it.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
So yeah, I feel like so.
My friend Emily, she's like aserial singlist.
She's been single for I don'tthink I've ever seen her like in
a relationship.
That's not long distance.
So I'm always like, oh, let'sdo your dating app.
Like this will be super fun,Like why wouldn't you want to do
(06:03):
that?
Like get on there, that's gotto be so much fun.
But I think the biggest problemwith that is I've had some time
to think about if I wanted toput myself on a dating app.
And it's terrifying because youget so much creeps and so much
ick and so much people who justwant sex.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
And when, especially when you're older.
For myself, anyway, like I wantstability and I want somebody
who's established in their lifeand someone who has their shit
together and somebody who's okaywith 525 chickens.
So that might not be easy tofind, just like somebody who's
(06:43):
into Bigfoot yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You know it's, it's just tough, I mean I was like I
was saying earlier.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I was supposed to go on a date last, yeah, but I I
backed out.
So tell me, what I want to knowabout that is how, how did that
happen?
How did you schedule a date?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
okay, this is.
I really hope she doesn'tlisten to this.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Chances are slim Chances are slim Cause she cause
we.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
she wants to reschedule.
Yeah, and it was on Father'sDay, it was.
You know, how do you?
Speaker 1 (07:15):
feel how?
How do you feel about thereschedule?
Are you open to it?
Speaker 2 (07:20):
I, I was.
I was talked into it by severalof my female friends.
She didn't pressure me as much,but it was weird because, okay,
I've known this girl since Iwas in elementary.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
And she was dating one of my friends.
That was like the toughest guyin the whole school and she was
like the prettiest girl in thewhole school and I was like in
fourth grade so she broke upwith my best friend and you know
, and then she, like, thefollowing year she transferred
to, like you know, some otherschool and she reached out to me
(07:57):
whenever I was sick, whenever Iwas sick, and she went up to
the hospital to see me and shewas seeing Blair's post about
whenever I was.
I was getting better.
So she showed up and she wasreally nice about it and she's
still very, very, very prettyand a very, very nice person.
It's just, you know, shereached out to me recently and
(08:19):
she said that she was ever sincewe she we had met in fourth
grade and she was in love withme.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Oh, that's really great.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Yeah, but I I didn't know how to take that.
I go wow, okay well.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Because you really liked her back then.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Yeah, I liked her, but I knew she was going out
with my friend Guys have guys.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
you know, this guy code Bros before hoes.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
I wasn't going to say that.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
I got you.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
So we don't date like your, your best friend's girl,
we just don't do that, you don'tdouble dip.
No, no, okay.
So and then she told me thatshe told me that she's always
been in love with me.
And I go, I didn't know, Ididn't know how to take it.
I go, wow, I wish I'd haveknown it back then.
But she's a really good personand she's really sweet and she's
really, really pretty.
(09:07):
But I don't know, this isreally dumb of me.
I know, whenever I say this,some of my friends will say,
well, that's really dumb, but Iwasn't feeling it.
And when I go out with somebodyor I want to feel, want to, I
want to feel nervous, I want toget my you know, my palms sweaty
(09:27):
Right, and I want to feel likeI've been hit by, you know, like
a bolt of lightning, and I justdidn't feel it and I think I
think she deserves better.
I think she deserves somebodythat will give her equal
attention, and I don't know if Icould give it to her right now.
I don't know.
Hopefully your listeners arenot going to send you bad emails
(09:51):
.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
No, I think that's fair.
But, my question is like okay,so you had feelings for her a
long long time ago?
Do you think that maybe seeingher, I mean, I think you should
give it a chance, because maybethere is some chemistry that
could kind of get picked back upthat you kind of forgot.
That's there, right, or itcould ignite your spark.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Or I could go out, like on this date, and if I
don't feel it, then we can just,you know, stay friends and be
cool.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
And then you'll know right, you won't wonder.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Yeah, I think I know, but I think most, mostly, I
think you're probably like thefifth female friend of mine
who's told me you should go andjust see if it's there.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
And if it isn't, then it's not there.
And I have one friend Do youfeel like you're ever going to
have like the spark to want todate somebody, or do you feel
like there's just nothing therefor you right now?
Speaker 2 (10:50):
No, I, I, I want to say, I want to say there is Um,
but I, I don't know.
Uh, if it's, I don't, I mean I,I want to like really bad, like
, cause, like, whenever I wasgoing through physical therapy,
one of the guys that was doingphysical therapy on me I was
just joking with him he says he,he, he, he comes to me and goes
(11:10):
what's your goal, you know?
And I told the other guy that Iwanted to walk and so I told
this other physical therapist Igo, I want to get married.
And he goes okay, let's work onthat, let's get you up and
walking so you can walk down theaisle and get married.
Oh, what a bad story I just toldhim that Because I told the
(11:31):
other physical therapist I saidI want to walk.
And he goes okay, let's work onthat.
So this other guy comes to meand goes what's your goal?
I want to get married.
So I was kind of told the boyswant me to get married.
So.
So I've kind of told like theboys want me to get married too.
And when they were reallylittle I said I used to say to
(11:53):
them I go, um, cause I wasn'tliving with Steven at the time,
I was just going there on theweekends and I said I go, I wish
I can be with y'all.
He goes you can, you can justmove in with us.
That's what the boys say.
And I go.
I said, but what if I have togo to work?
Speaker 1 (12:08):
I go go to mommy and daddy's job.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
And I go.
What if I want to get married?
Get married on the sidewalk,that's what they would tell me.
Get married on the sidewalk,they got you taken care of.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
They're like, hey, whatever you need, Uncle Robert,
we got you.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Yeah.
So I asked Sebastian becauseI'm watching a girl wrestler.
He goes hey, uncle Robert, doyou like her?
I go.
Yeah, I go, I really do.
He goes, maybe you can getmarried on the sidewalk with her
.
Oh, maybe.
So cute.
So that's how they think now.
So get married on the sidewalk.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
I love that.
I hope one of them gets marriedon the sidewalk someday.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's.
I don't know, it's just um.
So I think I think you're likethe fifth friend of mine that
said go on a date with her.
I have one female friend, uh,lindsay.
She told me he goes if you'renot feeling, feeling it, don't
(13:09):
do it.
You have to be in the rightit's just like this podcast,
right like you have to be in theright mood and in the right
mindset, otherwise it's not fairto either one of you, right?
Yeah, I kind of think thatbecause she's she's a really
she's a really really good ladyand I think she deserves
somebody that's going to giveher a lot of attention.
And I'm not sure if I'm thatperson so I just don't.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
so that's what I don't understand.
So, as a girl, I know that menand women think so much
differently.
So, as a girl, I don'tunderstand how I don't even know
how to really say this but like.
I'm trying to get my wordstogether.
So have you?
So when you guys startedtalking and she reached out to
(13:45):
you, did you ever feel like, oh,maybe I could date this girl,
or has that never been there?
Speaker 2 (13:49):
I don't think it's ever been there.
To be honest with you, I, I, Ithought she was really beautiful
and like fourth grade.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
And what changed?
What changed for you that youare feeling it?
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
I guess, getting sick and then getting better, and
then my whole perspective on alot of things changed.
I used to be very passionateabout comics and I'm not anymore
and so I used to be passionateabout the Cowboys and the
(14:22):
Mavericks and the Dallas Starsand I used to bid my will.
Whenever they won, I was in agood mood, and when they weren't
, I was in a bad mood.
Now I don't even care.
I don't care about that, I gowhatever.
I just want to experience lifeand be happy.
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(15:18):
Yours could use it, I don'tknow.
Dating should be part ofexperiencing life and making you
feel happy.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
It should and I don't know why it's not so.
It kind of in a way, I guess itkind of bugs me a little bit
that I don't feel as passionateabout it.
You know, I think I will.
I don't know when You're justnot there yet.
Yeah, it may not be today ortomorrow or next week, but I
think, maybe I don't know,because you must feel like
(15:49):
you're fulfilled.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yeah, I mean, you're not lacking anything that you're
really searching for that.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Yeah, I think you're right.
I've.
I told steven, like I've toldsteven a bunch of times.
I said I don't know why I cameback, I don't know why he
brought me back, but whenever Ido see it I'll know.
Yeah, I don't know when it is,or whatever the situation is.
I think I'll know.
So I don't know.
(16:16):
That's just how I feel about it.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
So, so you're not really putting yourself out
there.
You're not doing dating appsYou're not doing, you're not
going out and mingling.
So it's just kind of like if itfalls in your lap, it's meant
to be.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
You know I've gone out.
I've gone out with friends.
You know I've gone out withlike a couple of ex coworkers
and I've hung out with them andand just went, you know, to go
have dinner and stuff like that.
But you know I wasn't wasn'treally looking for it, so I
wasn't trying to get hooked upwith anybody or I don't know.
It sounds weird.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Well, I admire that because, as a woman, there's
just like I had said earlier,like it's so hard to weed out
all the creeps.
Yeah, I mean guys are creepierthan girls.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Yeah, they can.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
Do you agree?
Speaker 2 (17:06):
Yeah, Cause like if for example, I always tell them
like you know, you know all mynieces, this I go.
If a guy looks up, you know helooks from your feet all the way
up, just up and down, thenwatch out, because that's kind
of creepy it is yeah, it'salmost like they're looking at
you like a buffet or something.
Yeah, I don't want to be nobuffet, but I don't know the
(17:37):
last serious girlfriend I hadwas, you know, the policeman or
the police woman, the?
Good Angela.
No, that's, uh, Elaine.
Speaker 1 (17:41):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Yeah, so she, uh, she was she was yeah, eileen, there
you go.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
You remembered man I do remember you were good.
Yeah, I pay attention.
I'm a girl, I pay attention.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
But she's like, she was a like, like a super, super
independent woman and I think Iwas attracted to that.
So I don't know.
So she was strong and she wasvery opinionated about stuff and
I really dig that.
So I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
But she was too independent for you because she
couldn't handle being number twoto Steven.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
No, no, no, that was the bad Angela.
Oh no, that was the bad Angela.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Oh, okay, that was the bad.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Angela Eileen loves Steven, but she worked too much.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
She put her job first .
Yes, yeah, that's what it wasshe wouldn't show up because she
got stuck working.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
So that was too independent for you at that time
in your life.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
Yeah, I really think I needed more of her.
So I think it was.
It was really tough to get herto open up and talk about stuff.
It was like like pulling teeth,you know, kind of like, kind of
like I'm talking to a man, youknow, I'm fine, I'm fine, no
you're okay, you know stuff likethat.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
No, yes, no, yes, no.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Yeah, so it was pretty tough and I needed more
and I didn't get it, so I left.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Do you know if she is she in a relationship now?
Speaker 2 (19:05):
You know, I don't, I don't ask that question, I don't
really know.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
You don't creep on her social media.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
She's not on Facebook , she's never believed in
Facebook, and I don't still talkto her son, but I don't, I
don't, uh, I don't ask about her.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
So yeah, and he doesn't bring it up like hey,
okay, he knows me, he knows mereally well.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
So I think one time he asked me one time about it, I
said hey, dude, that's betweenme and your mom, so we laid down
some boundaries so, so, buthe's a really good kid.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
I wish, I wish he was my kid, but he's not oh you're
so sweet yeah, he's taking oneveryone's kid, I have to look
at my doorbell because my dog isgoing crazy and I'm like you
got food coming, I'm out there.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
No remember, I made dinner but um, you got dessert
coming it's just a family, justa family walking by, so get this
story.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
So my neighbor texted me yesterday and she said this
is is totally off topic.
But she said it's a good story.
But she says, hey, somebody'sabout to knock on your door,
don't answer it.
And I was kind of like I neveranswer my door anyway, unless I
am expecting somebody or I knowwho's out there.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Right.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
And that's why I love my ring doorbell, because you
don't have to like peek, you canjust look on the camera.
And so I'm like okay, and thenI heard like literally 30
seconds later, someone's likebanging on the door and my dog
is very vicious pit bull and heseems very scary, so I like that
and he's like barking.
Hey, what happened that?
You told me not to answer thedoor and she said that the same
(20:41):
person was knocking on her door.
They didn't answer and the guytried to open the door and come
in and she said usually the dooris locked, but Logan, who's
Mackie's buddy, had left outthat door and of course his mom
and dad were home.
So he didn't lock the door.
And I said well, what did youdo when he tried to come in?
And she said that she just likehurried up and shut and locked
(21:01):
the door and then her husbandwent out there and was like you
need to leave or I'm calling thecops.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
But like we just had this really big thing happen
about two weeks ago here in likeour community, where this guy
kind of went.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Short long story, short kind of went.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
AWOL, had this list of like 70 people that he wanted
to kill like politician peopleDid?
You see it here, and he dressedup like a cop and knocked on
people's doors in the middle ofthe night, looked like a cop and
then was killing them.
But there's a couple ofsurvivors that are at like the
hospital that I work at rightnow that had like seven or eight
close range close range gunshotwounds that lived, so like the
(21:44):
hospital was on lockdown for along time where I work and stuff
, but anyway.
So it's super crazy.
So we're like nobody answeryour door at all.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Even if I see it's a cop at my door, I'm calling 911
and asking why they're there.
I'm not answering my door.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
I don't blame you.
I don't blame you at all.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
There's no reason for anyone to be at my door.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
No, and I love that you and your neighbors are close
enough where she can warn you.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Yeah, we look out for each other, for sure.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
That's awesome.
I love that I've been no, justkidding.
I love that I've been no, justkidding.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
Back to dating.
On that note, meet people onthe internet, but don't open
your door.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's crazy.
I think I was asking my newboss I think he's been married
like 40-something years and Itold him I go, how long you been
married?
He goes, oh, 40 years.
But I've known her like 47.
I said, man, I think if I putall my girlfriends together it
wouldn't even make 47 months.
He was, he was laughing Causehe asked me the other day.
(22:50):
He asked me cause, like healways, like for some reason, he
he shows me what his wife makeshim for lunch and dinner.
He'll show me a picture of itand it's so good.
I go.
Why didn't she just make aYouTube?
Because I've told her that butshe won't do it.
He shows me every day what hiswife made for dinner and stuff.
(23:12):
He goes are you seeing anybody?
And I looked at him for a longtime.
He goes.
I'm so sorry, I shouldn't haveasked go.
No, that's fine.
I mean I.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
I love that you're asking me a personal question
was he loaning his wife out toyou?
Speaker 2 (23:25):
no, no, no, I think he was just wondering if I,
because I think he cared aboutme and I think he oh, does
someone make your lunch for youtoo?
Yeah, yeah, or just like orjust have conversation about you
know, your, your other, yourother partner and stuff.
So I told him I go.
No, I'm actually I'm single.
He goes, I'm so sorry.
I go.
No, no, it's fine, I was wasn'toffended by it I'm single by
(23:50):
choice, buddy, yeah yeah, yeah.
So I don't know, I think I kindof like it, you know, I think,
uh, my other I have.
I have, like, like you know,the, the boys that I see all the
time, and I have another set oftwins that I go see.
They're 14, but they don't.
They don't want me to dateanybody because they think if I
date somebody I'm not going tohave time for them.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
They don't know you well because that's not like you
at all.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
I know it's not your character.
Because I was telling them Iwas going on a date and they go
oh no, you can't go on this date.
No, you need to call her andtell her you're not going to go.
And you know, I ended up notgoing because number one, I
didn't feel it and it was onFather's Day.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
So I go no, I'm not going to do it.
Bad time for a date yeah.
So tell me, I want to know redflag for you First date red flag
.
Or talking to somebody beforeyou even go on a first date red
flag.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Red flag.
Hold on.
Let me see here.
You know, I think if they talkbad about their family, you know
, like their mom and their dador their siblings or whatever,
that's usually a bad sign.
That's usually.
That's probably.
That would probably be me inlike two months.
They're going to be arguingwith me about something and
(25:06):
talking bad about me, orsomething.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
Well, yeah, I see what you're saying.
At first I was like what, yeah,yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
I think, I think, I think that's a red flag, because
if, if you talk bad about yoursiblings, you know they're going
to talk bad about you too, orjust argue with you or just not
have good character what's?
A deal breaker, deal breakerwould be.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
They didn't like Bigfoot.
That's a good one.
You know, I like that a lotabout how about you?
Red flag for me is I was gonnadeal breaker for me.
I was gonna say what I wasgonna say is a deal breaker, not
a red flag smoker yeah drinkeryes um.
(25:56):
Red flag for me.
Somebody who talks negativeabout past relationships,
current, like you said, currentpeople, co-workers, people in
their lives, like just have alot of negativity, is a big red
flag for me.
Green flag for you green flag.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
Um, I'd probably uh a very like bigfoot yeah, that,
that bigfoot's one wrestling'stwo.
Oh yeah being very considerate.
I I really like.
I like I don't know why I'mjust really attracted to people
that are considerate and uh, soit shows, it shows character to
(26:42):
me.
I think it shows character,shows, uh, that they're, that
they're just an all-around goodperson and I don't know.
I just really, really like it.
There's a co-worker of mine oran ex-co-worker of mine.
She's probably the mostconsidered person I've ever met
and, uh, she's such a sweetperson.
(27:02):
If she was single I would, Iwould ask her out big time, but
but she's not so uh, but uh, Isaid so, here we are I know yeah
yeah, square one she, she's.
I mean, she's the type of personthat would go and like,
decorate like your cube for likebirthdays and stuff like that
anniversaries, birthdays, stufflike that, and she's just a.
(27:25):
She's just a great person.
You know she, she makesactually, she makes all my, all
my um, merch stuff oh reallyyeah, she did the, the mouse
pads and all that stuff mackie,I took a really good picture of
the merch that you sent me thesidebar right here and Mackie
was really excited.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
He goes how come there's two mouse pads?
And I go well, if you want them, you can put them together and
make a really big mouse pad foryour game.
And he's like, yeah, I want todo that.
So he was so excited.
Speaker 2 (27:56):
Did he really?
Yes, that's awesome.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
Because he wants a really long one.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, and I hadordered him one on Etsy, but
then the guy never shipped it,so it was a big nightmare.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
But anyway, well, it's good that I stepped up for
that.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Yeah, no, he loved it .
Speaker 2 (28:11):
Good, good, good good .
Speaker 1 (28:14):
What is a quality in yourself that a partner would be
appreciative of?
Speaker 2 (28:19):
I'm very loyal, I'm super loyal me too.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
I'm that way too, like even in my friends I'm like
do we love them or do we hatethem?
Speaker 2 (28:26):
like I just need to know.
Yeah, I always say I said, do Ineed a super kick him or what
super kick candidate or no superkick candidate if you love him?
Speaker 1 (28:35):
I love him.
If you hate him, I hate himlike ride or die.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Yeah, I'm very loyal because I just think, you know,
I hear all these stories aboutpeople cheating and stuff.
I said, man, if I'm going to dothis much work to be with
somebody, I'm going to be withthem, and it just boggles my
mind how people cheat and I go.
Come on.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
Okay, i'm'm gonna play devil's advocate for you on
this.
So what if you are married,okay, and you are having a lot
of marital problems and I'm notsaying this is right, I'm just
playing devil's advocate, rightand let's say your partner has a
gambling problem or a drinkingproblem or a drug problem or
abuses you and you start seekingsomething more outside of that,
(29:26):
because it's hard to just leavea relationship yeah, so.
So you're asking me if that'sokay well, I I'm just saying do
you think there's exceptions?
Speaker 2 (29:43):
Yeah, there's always exceptions to stuff like that.
It's not black and white allthe way, it's just.
You know, I think there'scertain situations and certain
people and certaincharacteristics, because this
person, this scenario, wants tostay loyal, but still it doesn't
(30:08):
like the way they're beingtreated and they're trying to
seek out stuff, I think it'sokay.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Well then, I don't think you're trying to be loyal
anymore at that point if you'restarting to seek something else
out.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
Well, yeah, you're right, but I think there's
certain situations, Becausewhenever I was dating the bad
Angela, Eileen came back in mylife and Eileen and I we didn't
do anything physical at all, wewere just talking.
And Eileen and I we didn't doanything physical at all, we
(30:37):
were just talking and I decidedthat I didn't want to be with
the bad Angela anymore and Ijust told her.
I said I don't want to be withyou anymore and she got very
angry and then we broke up andthen I got back with Eileen.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
Because you were already having an emotional
connection.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
See, I think that happens.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
Yeah, so I think hopefully I've answered your
question.
So I think certain scenariosit's acceptable and sometimes
it's not.
Would I do it?
I don't know if I would.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
I mean, that's just me, because if I'm not, Don't
you think the goal is to find apartner who, if you're having a
problem with something, you guyscan work it out together?
Speaker 2 (31:22):
Right.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
And not let it get to that point.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Right, right, yeah To to work it out, cause I think
you know the one, the one, theother quality that I have and
I'll say this, I never bragabout myself is that I, that I
will admit I'm wrong aboutsomething.
I will always do that and Iwould just say look, it's my
fault, I'm sorry, I'll do better.
Blah, blah, blah, and I'vealways done that.
So I think, if I was in thatscenario, that I would try to
(31:47):
help it or try to fix it someway, and if I can't, if they're
not willing to do it, thenthere's not much I can do.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
That's the hard part is if you're not both, if you
don't both have that um goodquality, then it can be a
struggle.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
Yeah, so I think it's um, you know the the ultimate
goal is to be happy and theultimate goal, I think, if I was
in a relationship with somebody, I used to always tell I think
I told like the bad, angela, Igo.
If you're not happy, you needto go because I don't want you
to be with me.
I don't want to be FlorenceNightingale.
(32:27):
I don't know if you know thatreference.
No, I don't.
It was like in.
I think it was World War I orWorld War II.
It was a.
It was like in I think it was awar one or war two.
It was a nurse by the name ofFlorence Nightingale and it was,
uh, I think it was a pilot thathad got shot down.
He was burned and then, uh, shefelt sorry for him.
So she married him cause shefelt sorry she wasn't in love
with him.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
She just felt sorry for him.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
So I, I refuse to be Florence Nightingale.
So if people don't want to bewith me, I don't want them with
me.
Just go and be happy withsomeone else, because I think
that's the worst to be withsomebody.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
I think another hard part about relationships is that
people stop putting in theeffort, and you have to
constantly put in the effort fora good relationship to thrive.
This is something else I wasgoing to ask you.
When you were saying that yourboss was asked, he was saying
he'd been married for 40 yearsor whatever.
Whenever people tell me like oh, it's my wedding anniversary 20
(33:23):
years, 25 years, I'm like doyou still love each other?
I always ask that because-.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
Do you still like each other?
Because there's so many peoplewho are in really long
relationships that are just likethey've been there so long.
They just hang out.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Yeah, I want to.
I, I, I believe in fairy talesand I, I, I want to be in that.
I want to be in that so bad,because, like, when I was
younger I wanted to have kids sobad, and I didn't get to.
You know, I didn't get thatchance.
So I think I would want to bein a relationship where I just
love them forever.
(33:57):
I mean, I know that's such acliche to say that, but really
that's what I thrive for or want, and that's why I kind of don't
want to go on this date,because I'm not feeling it,
because I want to feel like Igot hit by a bolt of lightning.
So that's what I want and it'snot there.
(34:17):
And she's such a good girl, Ireally love her.
I just want the best for her.
I don't know if I'm it.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
And maybe the time is just off, and maybe it is just
not meant to be.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
It's timing.
Timing is everything.
So I think I've met lots ofgirls bad timing and it just
never worked out.
So I don't know.
I think I, I think God has meexactly where he wants me to be,
so to be in certain people'slives, You've been really good
about that, about just beingcontent.
(34:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
And good and happy and optimistic.
Speaker 2 (34:54):
Yeah, you know, I think you know whenever you know
, whenever you can't feedyourself or whenever you can't
walk, you kind of appreciate alot of stuff and I appreciate a
lot of stuff.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
Effective yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:07):
And you know, just like walking on gravel.
I mean that to me.
I find that glorious, I love it.
Walking on the beach, I love it.
You know the beach, I love it,you know just stuff like that.
Or just taking a shower byyourself.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
The things that you take for granted every day.
I'll tell people sometimes thathave like a, you know they're
in like a walking boot, or youknow they broke their leg.
It's like you don't realize howmuch you depend on that body
part until you can't use itanymore.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
Man, I would love to go to your hospital and talk to
anybody, about being likegetting the willpower back to do
something or just wanting tomotivate people.
I would love to do that becauseI've told the hospital where I
came from.
I said anytime you want me totalk to someone, just call me.
I go up there and talk to them.
Speaker 1 (36:03):
Watching was off the charts and like to be able to be
like I saw the Rock wrestlelike that's badass.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
Is this your uncle from Florida?
Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, okay,okay, um, so is the rock, your
your celebrity crush no, I don'treally have one you know,
boring, I know not one person oractor or no, like I don't know.
Speaker 1 (36:28):
I don't know if it's like my age or just where I am
in my life, but I just likedon't have the oomph yeah every
once in a while, like like I'llget.
Like sometimes I'll say and youknow what, I'm not going to
edit this part out, robert butI'll say like, oh, that thing in
my vagina just happened, andthat's like where you get like
the zing and the tingles and I'mlike I don't know where that
(36:48):
came from.
Must be ovulating, because thatwas not on my radar.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
gotta say who is that who is that?
Speaker 1 (36:57):
but let me tell you, the last time that happened was
a long time ago, when traviskelsey was like just getting
like on the map before he wasdating taylor swift yeah and
like they would show him likeout on the field and I was like
whoa, who is that guy?
But now like his hair is weirdand his stash is weird and don't
you listen, you can have himtaylor.
(37:18):
Um, sometimes I'll fall asleepto it because, only because I
wanted to hear him talk abouttaylor.
So like I was trying to like,fast forward, to get to like the
taylor parts, because I do liketaylor swift yeah um, but I was
really disappointed.
I listened to one of theirrecent episodes and I got really
pissy because they werenominated for like kids choice
(37:38):
award best podcast and I'm likethis is not a kid's podcast it's
not kid friendly it is not kidfriendly.
They say fuck more than I dolike.
How is no?
No, you can like the bestsports podcast, but you are not
kid friendly I like it.
I like it whenever you cusswell, I do a lot I think, I do,
(38:00):
I think a lot everywhere like Inever really filter myself down,
so I get the wide eye a lotlike whoa you know, I think I've
texted you that a couple times.
I like, because I'm I'm like,I'm like driving, listen to your
podcast and you're cussing, Igo I like when other people cuss
and I just feel like it's theway of the world, like it's
(38:20):
pretty normalized now.
I mean, I hear a lot of peopleat work, like when people are
talking to me, like not mycoworkers but patients like
they'll say the word pussy, they, they say they use all these
crazy words that I have to hear,you know and they'll you know,
and I just okay.
(38:44):
There's some words I don't use,like I don't use the P word in
reference to vagina, I justdon't like it.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
It's fine If you're calling someone like a wuss,
that's fine.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
Um, I also don't use the C word.
I think that's really too far,but a lot of people use it Like
it's.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
you know the word, the good for them those aren't
on my radar but fucking shitalways, always going to be on
the radar I think I think I'veheard you say that on your on
your podcast before the p wordyeah because don't say the c
word the c word yeah no we don'tsay the c word mom, I'm not
going to tell you that I know.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
He's like what's so bad about the c word?
I'm like do you know what itmeans?
And he's like no, and I'm likewell, it's the most derogatory
word for a vagina when it is onits period.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
And he's like yeah, what, why did?
Speaker 1 (39:30):
you tell me that and I'm like because you asked you
can't use the word enough.
He's been better.
He's been with his summer break.
He's been a little sleeping allday, up all night.
And so we've been trying to kindof rearrange his sleep schedule
to be back to a normal person.
(39:51):
And yesterday was Sunday and Iwoke him up and I said hey, it's
really early, I know it's only830 in the morning, but I need
to clean the house and go to thegrocery store and if you could
get up and help me, I can get itdone so much faster.
And he did and it was great.
And then he even drove me tothe grocery store and drove me
to all the places I needed to go, and now he can almost take his
(40:12):
license test because I think heonly has three hours left.
Speaker 2 (40:15):
Nice.
Speaker 1 (40:16):
Yeah, that makes me so happy.
And he was like telling me mom,I know I've really been
annoying you and I'm reallyworking hard on not being like
that.
I go yeah, you're I go.
You're Mac annoying me.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
Cause I think I think I've texted you before.
I said how's Mac sauce and yougo annoying me.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
He's annoying me Sometimes.
I'm just like, well, even liketonight, we're eating dinner and
he's like mom, can I haveseconds?
And I'm like, yeah, of course,you have as much as you want to.
And he's in the bathroom, he'sin the kitchen making his plate
and I'm eating dinner in theliving room because we're
watching prison break, you know.
And he's in the kitchen.
He's like I'm like McCoy, whyare you making barf noises?
(40:54):
I'm trying to eat and he goes.
Well, mom, I like the way itsounds and I go.
Well, I don't.
Speaker 2 (41:00):
I like the way it sounds.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
It's not cute.
Speaker 2 (41:06):
You know, I think whenever Stephen was younger and
he gave me an answer I didn'tlike, like, I would say I go hey
, did you do your homework?
He says, well, my friends came.
Friends came over, and if Ididn't like it and he knew I
didn't like it I would say thesame thing over, I go.
My friends came over.
And he would go okay, you don'tlike that.
Okay.
So so now, whenever his boys dothat to you know, say something
(41:29):
to me.
I say it back to them and theygo okay, uncle Robert, you don't
like that.
That's what I always do.
I used to do to him all thetime, stephen, and he hears me
saying it to his boys.
Now he goes okay, I do rememberthat.
Speaker 1 (41:43):
I'll do that to Mac too, and he'll be like, okay,
okay, okay, okay, because I'llkeep doing, okay, yeah yeah,
yeah, it's a lot.
It's a lot, isn't it?
It's a lot, isn't it.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
Yeah, so I really enjoyed your last episode With
Emily.
Speaker 1 (42:00):
Yes, yeah, she's fun.
She's been my best friend for amillion like 17 years, maybe A
long time.
Speaker 2 (42:05):
Yeah, it's not like I had a really, really good time
talking.
Speaker 1 (42:08):
Yeah, yeah, we do, we do.
We had met, so there's three ofus best girlfriends me, Emily
and Jen and Jen used to liveclose by us, but she moved like
40 minutes, 35, 40 minutes away,which isn't terrible, but we
just don't see her as often andanyway, her mom still lives
close to us and so a lot oftimes her mom and her mom's
(42:32):
friend, they're widows andthey're like 70, but they'll go
to this local bar by our houseand a lot of times it's like,
you know, like it was like taptakeover last weekend and so, or
last thursday when and then soemily and I met them up there,
went to tap takeover and we'relike what's tap takeover?
And they're like, oh, you know,it's just like a a vendor comes
in and they have a bunch offree swag and so whatever they
(42:55):
had like t-shirts and hats andand whatever and so we had gone
up there and then mac and hismac had texted me and he's like
where you at?
and so I'm like, oh, we're up atthe boulevard.
And so him and his friend cameand they had been at mcdonald's,
which is like across the streetfrom there, and uh, he came in
and everyone was laughing at himbecause he had like put a bunch
of his leftover chicken nuggetsin his pocket and then he would
(43:15):
just randomly pull one out andeat it.
And people were like what areyou eating?
Where did you get that?
He's like McNugget.
Oh my God, child.
Speaker 2 (43:24):
That's him.
Speaker 1 (43:25):
That's not mine, he does not belong to me.
I don't know whose child thatis, but he can't be in here.
Speaker 2 (43:31):
Put nuggets in his pocket.
Speaker 1 (43:33):
I was like where did you get that he's like out of my
pocket.
I'm like, oh my god.
And then he had them all loadedin his pockets with nuggets.
Speaker 2 (43:40):
That's like a poliodonamite putting tots in
his pocket.
Give me some tots.
Speaker 1 (43:49):
Give me some tots.
And then what does he say tothe llama?
No, tina, these are my tots,can't remember how that goes,
but it's funny.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
Yeah, actually the boys love that movie too.
Speaker 1 (44:01):
It is good I haven't watched it in a long time.
It is a good one.
Speaker 2 (44:04):
It's kid-friendly.
Speaker 1 (44:05):
It is kid-friendly, Super kid-friendly.
You know what?
In nowadays generation andworld?
It's kid-friendly becausethere's a lot worse shit going
on.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:16):
Alright, you ready to wrap this up?
Speaker 2 (44:19):
I am.
Speaker 1 (44:20):
Thank you for listening to another episode of
Honor Best Behavior.
Thank you, robert, for being myspecial guest co-host, and more
to come.
I jotted down some ideas onsome topics that I have for the
future, because I'm always like,hey Robert, what should we talk
about?
I'm usually driving.
Hey Robert, what should we talk?
Speaker 2 (44:37):
about.
I'm usually driving wheneveryou ask me that too, and I'm
like don't text and drive.
No, I don't Focus, I stop, Istop.
Speaker 1 (44:44):
Do you ever text me and it's like hi, kelly is
driving.
She can't return your textright now because I'm that
person who has that on my phone.
Speaker 2 (44:54):
No, I actually stop Because I stop and I text
Because that's just how I am too.
I got to be safe, Safe yeah.
Speaker 1 (45:03):
You almost died once.
You can't.
That only gives you so manychances.
Speaker 2 (45:06):
Right, right, right.
I'm not a cat.
Speaker 1 (45:09):
I was just talking about, like I was saying
something today about when I wasgoing to my brother's house,
like my thing today about when Iwas going to my brother's house
, like my GPS took me a weirdway because I was just saying
like the fastest way.
And then it took me a reallyweird way that I had never gone
before.
And I'm like, and I was likesaying like, oh, it's God's plan
, because I probably like misseda bad car accident, or like, if
I'm late, like one day lastweek Mackie unplugged my coffee
(45:31):
pot, so then it didn'tautomatically make my coffee, so
then I had to sit there andwait for it to make my coffee
and I'm like, oh, it's God'splan, he's making me avoid
something.
So I always say that.
And so somebody was like soyou're using God as a scapegoat
for your forgetfulness and beinglate?
I'm like, no, I am grateful forGod's plans.
He's saving my life.
Speaker 2 (45:52):
I love that.
That's awesome.
Speaker 1 (45:55):
And I'd rather be late than never show up.
Speaker 2 (45:58):
Because that's what I tell people whenever I got sick
.
So my mom was.
So I think I told you my momwas so mad at the hospital, yeah
, and she wanted to sue them andI said no, what if God pulled
me out of the street for areason to humble me and to put
me in his spot?
Speaker 1 (46:15):
He bitch slapped you.
Speaker 2 (46:16):
He did Get slapped you together.
Dominguez.
Speaker 1 (46:19):
Dominguez, wake up so so, yeah, all right, well, I'm
going to let you go, okay, andI'll cut that part out, I
promise.
Speaker 2 (46:30):
Can I, can I, can I plug the podcast?
Speaker 1 (46:32):
Of course, yeah, okay , the podcast.
Speaker 2 (46:33):
Of course, yeah, okay , so if you want to listen to my
podcast, or the podcast, it'sOn Our Best Behavior I thought
you were going to plug theBigfoot Club?
Speaker 1 (46:45):
No, you already have 10,000 listeners, you don't?
Speaker 2 (46:47):
need anymore, so I just want to plug yours.
Speaker 1 (46:51):
Okay, well, thank you .
Follow us on social media.
I'm going to post some sweetmerch pics that Robert sent me,
and I'm trying to post morepictures, so it's going to be
worth your while to hit thatfollow button.
Like follow, share, subscribefive star review five star
review.
Alright, robert, you don't haveto go anywhere, but I'm going
(47:14):
to hit stop on the recording.
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