May 5, 2025 • 13 mins
Pride can manifest in unexpected ways among introverts through self-protection and isolation that limits our growth and connection with others. By examining three key indicators—lack of accountability, limited expression of love, and rejection of community—we can identify when our introversion crosses into pride and make positive changes.
• Introverts often isolate themselves as a form of self-protection
• Without accountability, we lack the "mirrors and friends" needed to see ourselves clearly
• True love requires bearing others' burdens and being present in their difficulties
• Isolation prevents us from experiencing the weight-bearing aspect of authentic love
• Community provides perspective by showing us others who overcome similar or worse challenges
• When we see others' struggles, we lose excuses and gain appreciation for our blessings
• The goal isn't to change personality but to ensure introversion isn't rooted in pride
• Growth happens in the balance between comfort and connection
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Can an introvert have a problem with pride?
I'm going to show you threeways that they do and how they
can fix it once and for all.
On this next episode of theInspiration Station, which
starts right now, welcome backto the All Purpose Pod for an
(00:50):
all-purpose life.
Wherever you are and howeveryou're listening to me, call me
Mr U and the Inspiration Station.
Thank you again for making uspart of your week.
We definitely appreciate youguys.
I can go on and on about all ofthe comments and questions and
thoughts we'll be getting fromyou guys.
It's a bit overwhelming, but weappreciate you guys so much.
Thank you for continuing tolisten and watch the show.
(01:12):
Let's get into the topic fortoday, all right.
So when I talk about somebodythat's an introvert which I have
been a self-professed one I'vesaid that Nobody believed me
because I do shows like this.
They say you can't beintroverted because you do this.
Okay, I have some introverts inme.
Let's just say that part.
But as an introvert, is itpossible to have a problem with
(01:33):
pride?
Those two things don't seem togo together, at least in some of
our minds.
An introvert is somebody whokeeps to themselves.
They don't bother anybody,theoretically.
So how can they have a problemwith pride?
I'm going to get into it.
I got to come into the outset.
There's three ways that we canprove that introverts do have a
problem with pride and how wecan fix it once and for all.
(01:55):
For all you introverts that arewatching right now, please
don't log off, don't shut usdown.
There's a point to this.
This is good for you and it'sgood for me.
It's good for us.
I'm a self-professed introvertand I need to hear everything
I'm getting ready to say tomyself.
So please don't log us off.
Don't don't, don't tune us out.
This is going to be good for us, I promise you.
So we're going to get into whythis is a possibility for the
(02:19):
introverts.
Well, a lot of times, introvertsthey I'm speaking for myself
mainly, but introverts a lot oftimes they want to be less than
social.
They don't want to be involvedin gatherings and big functions
and big meetings.
They want to just keep tothemselves.
If they can stay in a cubicleand not be bothered all day,
(02:42):
they're good with it.
If they can work from home andnot be around people at all,
they would absolutely love it Ifthey didn't have to go to
meetings and such, and they canjust do it by teleconference.
That would be the ideal choicefor them because they want to be
away from folks.
They like being isolated, whichis really a problem.
But I want to get to the reasonwhy introverts want to do that,
(03:03):
because I believe it's a prideissue.
I believe that in doing thatit's a way of self-protecting
ourselves.
I'm speaking for myself, notpointing at anybody that I know
that's an introvert.
I'm just speaking for myself onthis one.
If you can relate to it and itresonates, that's good.
I'm talking about myself rightnow.
A lot of times I've spent manyyears wanting to be by myself
(03:25):
and being left alone.
Love to sit in a room, just me,myself and I Maybe a TV Didn't
have cell phones way back then.
I'm happy to be by myself andjust glad to not be around
people and all the messinessthat goes with it.
Like I wasn't messy, it wasreally hypocritical.
(03:46):
But the point I'm trying tomake is that there was pride
attached to that because it wasabout what I didn't want, what I
didn't want to share of myselfwith others, what I didn't want
to hear and be supportive ofwhat I didn't want, to trust
somebody in friendship andfellowship and relationship.
That's pride.
That's self and relationship.
That's pride.
That's self-protection, that'ssaying you know what, I don't
(04:08):
want nobody to hurt me, so I'mgoing to stay away from
everybody.
That's pride.
Because if you heard our show atall, especially Inspiration
Station, you know that I believethat all of us have a valuable
component in our DNA.
We have something special tooffer.
We have flavor to bring to theworld and we do just that in so
many ways.
But some of us, we don'trecognize that we're special.
(04:30):
We don't see us as having anyvalue or a very low level of
self-esteem.
So we guard ourselves and wedon't give out what is
inherently inside of us thebeauty, the love, the richness,
the substance is inside of us,because all we care about is
what we want, which is what mostintroverts do.
They don't want to do this,they don't want to go to that,
(04:53):
they don't want to be invited tothis.
If they are, they ain't goingto show up.
And they do show up, they won'tstay there long because they
want to just be to themselvesand do their own thing.
That's pride.
What are the three ways that wecan identify?
This is If the introvertdoesn't want to avoid pride.
(05:13):
They have to recognizethemselves with this part that
there's no accountability.
In your isolation Think aboutit for a second Obviously you're
by yourself.
There's nobody to hold youaccountable for what you do and
what you don't do.
There's no accountability.
I heard somebody say a long timeago that there was a person who
was walking the streets anddidn't have on the right
(05:35):
clothing or didn't seem to careabout how they looked, and the
person the very prominentminister said that person
doesn't have a mirror or afriend because they had no idea
how they looked to the outsideworld, or perhaps just didn't
care.
They didn't check themselvesout.
Before I go anywhere, I'mchecking my nose and my teeth
(05:57):
and my eyes make sure I'm good.
I won't question my eyes goingto meet with somebody, so I take
care of that kind of stuff.
That person, because of howthey were dressed, must not have
had a mirror.
They didn't check themselvesout.
Their hair was a mess, theirclothes were a mess.
They didn't check themselvesout and didn't have a friend to
say you know what?
You can't go out wearing that.
Accountability is important andintroverts a lot of times don't
(06:18):
have it because they won't allowpeople into their lives in
order to have that.
Nobody can be close enough tosay you know what?
You shouldn't wear that outfit,you know what your hair is a
hot mess, you know what youshouldn't act like, that People
care you.
When there's no accountability,like in isolation, you're free
to do whatever you want andthink how you want and feel like
(06:41):
you want and disregard whateveryou want to, and excuse me, and
that's the problem.
That's one area where there'sno accountability.
That's one area where you cantell that an introvert has a
problem with pride becausethere's no accountability in
their isolated lifestyle.
Second thing there's noevidence of love.
What does that mean?
What am I saying?
Introverts don't love folks.
(07:01):
No, I'm not saying that.
Of course introverts lovepeople.
I love real hard.
I still think I'm an introvertin so many ways.
But what I say is that love hasa certain characteristic and if
you're in isolation all thetime and you don't step outside
of that comfort zone and beginto embrace the idea of
(07:24):
interaction and getting to knowpeople and exchanging
information and exchanging ideasand just being in a creative
flow of life, of living as ahuman being, something's missing
.
The Bible says in 1 Corinthians,13 chapter.
It talks about love.
Love bears, love carries weightthis thing that we hear about
(07:46):
and that we see that carriesweight become a part of an
awesome men's group recently andthe things that I hear hear
they're very unsettling.
They're not great to hearwhat's going on in people's
lives, but because I endeavor tolove people the way god loves
me, I have to hear those thingsand carry that weight, bear
(08:10):
those burdens, take them to thelord in prayer.
I have to be present to hearthem.
It's easy to stay in isolationand not just hear that stuff.
That way I won't have to beresponsible for what I hear.
I don't have to have the extraweight on my heart because I
hear all these bad thingshappening to people who don't
deserve this stuff to happen intheir life.
But love cares, love bears thatstuff, love carries that weight
(08:31):
, excuse me, that's why I keepgoing back and receiving from
the time together and learningand growing, because that's what
love is supposed to do.
Introverts won't do that.
They'll stay away and isolatethemselves Because they don't
want to carry that weight.
It's selfish in nature and it'sa point of pride.
Love hopes, love trusts.
Love Feeds the good in otherpeople.
(08:54):
Love Is willing to trust, eventhough we've been hurt.
Introverts, man, if they gethurt, one time they're done they
ain't trying to come back intothe place where they've been
hurt before.
Love endures all things it'ssupposed to.
We've seen it in the life ofChrist and the result or the
(09:16):
promise that we received as aresult.
But at the end of the day, anintrovert can't love if you're
isolated from everybody else andyou refuse to embrace community
and you refuse to embrace theidea of being friends with
somebody.
They can't be friends withother introverts because they
don't want to be around eachother.
They can't even start anintrovert club because they
(09:36):
don't want to be outside oftheir own home, outside of their
own room, outside of their ownplace of isolation.
The third thing I think isclear evidence that introverts
have a problem with pride isthat there's no community.
Excuse me y'all, in AAA,alcohol is anonymous.
One of the reasons why I thinkit's effective I'm not saying
(09:57):
everything they do is perfectand it always works.
I'm not saying that.
I'm not here to even advocatefor that.
What I'm saying is that one ofthe reasons why I think it's
effective is because it givesyou the opportunity to see that
somebody has a situation that'ssimilar to yours or maybe even
worse than what you're goingthrough and what it does, it
removes the excuse from you tonot do what needs to be done,
(10:23):
whether it's walking steps ormake life changes, change habits
or behaviors, even move theexcuses.
Now you see John and Bob andMary and Kim who are dealing
with worse stuff than you are,and now you can't say you know
what?
There's no excuse.
You can't say you know what, Ican't do this, I can't do better
, I can't grow and come out ofthis and overcome this because
you see somebody else doing it.
(10:43):
That's just one example.
But the point is that when youdon't have community introverts,
when you don't have community,you miss out on a very
incredible opportunity to seeand hear stories about folks who
are in spots just like yours,dealing with the same things you
deal with, come from worsebackgrounds than you do and
still are able to overcome,conquer, survive and live full
(11:06):
lives.
That's the whole point ofisolation.
It's a trap.
It's not a trap set by God.
It's not a God thing.
God don't want that for you.
When you're in isolation, youcan't see how good your life
actually is, how blessed youactually are, especially in
comparison to the lives ofothers who are going through a
harder stuff than you are.
(11:27):
No accountability, no evidenceof love, no community.
For me, I don't know what elseto add.
Is it a 0.4 or 0.5?
Those three are enough for meto know that, as an introvert,
I'm having a problem with pride.
These are the three indicatorsthat let me know I need to work
on that kind of stuff.
Let me know if this actuallyworks for you.
Let me know if you see value inthis conversation, in this
(11:48):
episode.
Drop your thoughts in thecomments section.
Drop your stories.
If you don't mind sharing thosein the comments section.
I'd love to hear those andrespond back to you as soon as I
can.
Introverts, I'm talking to youguys.
Let me know what you think.
Look forward to hearing backfrom you guys real soon.
Have a great day, coach out.
Can an introvert have a problem with pride?
I'm going to show you threeways that they do and how they
can fix it once and for all.
On this next episode of theInspiration Station, which
starts right now, welcome backto the All Purpose Pod for an
(00:50):
all-purpose life.
Wherever you are and howeveryou're listening to me, call me
Mr U and the Inspiration Station.
Thank you again for making uspart of your week.
We definitely appreciate youguys.
I can go on and on about all ofthe comments and questions and
thoughts we'll be getting fromyou guys.
It's a bit overwhelming, but weappreciate you guys so much.
Thank you for continuing tolisten and watch the show.
(01:12):
Let's get into the topic fortoday, all right.
So when I talk about somebodythat's an introvert which I have
been a self-professed one I'vesaid that Nobody believed me
because I do shows like this.
They say you can't beintroverted because you do this.
Okay, I have some introverts inme.
Let's just say that part.
But as an introvert, is itpossible to have a problem with
(01:33):
pride?
Those two things don't seem togo together, at least in some of
our minds.
An introvert is somebody whokeeps to themselves.
They don't bother anybody,theoretically.
So how can they have a problemwith pride?
I'm going to get into it.
I got to come into the outset.
There's three ways that we canprove that introverts do have a
problem with pride and how wecan fix it once and for all.
(01:55):
For all you introverts that arewatching right now, please
don't log off, don't shut usdown.
There's a point to this.
This is good for you and it'sgood for me.
It's good for us.
I'm a self-professed introvertand I need to hear everything
I'm getting ready to say tomyself.
So please don't log us off.
Don't don't, don't tune us out.
This is going to be good for us, I promise you.
So we're going to get into whythis is a possibility for the
(02:19):
introverts.
Well, a lot of times, introvertsthey I'm speaking for myself
mainly, but introverts a lot oftimes they want to be less than
social.
They don't want to be involvedin gatherings and big functions
and big meetings.
They want to just keep tothemselves.
If they can stay in a cubicleand not be bothered all day,
(02:42):
they're good with it.
If they can work from home andnot be around people at all,
they would absolutely love it Ifthey didn't have to go to
meetings and such, and they canjust do it by teleconference.
That would be the ideal choicefor them because they want to be
away from folks.
They like being isolated, whichis really a problem.
But I want to get to the reasonwhy introverts want to do that,
(03:03):
because I believe it's a prideissue.
I believe that in doing thatit's a way of self-protecting
ourselves.
I'm speaking for myself, notpointing at anybody that I know
that's an introvert.
I'm just speaking for myself onthis one.
If you can relate to it and itresonates, that's good.
I'm talking about myself rightnow.
A lot of times I've spent manyyears wanting to be by myself
(03:25):
and being left alone.
Love to sit in a room, just me,myself and I Maybe a TV Didn't
have cell phones way back then.
I'm happy to be by myself andjust glad to not be around
people and all the messinessthat goes with it.
Like I wasn't messy, it wasreally hypocritical.
(03:46):
But the point I'm trying tomake is that there was pride
attached to that because it wasabout what I didn't want, what I
didn't want to share of myselfwith others, what I didn't want
to hear and be supportive ofwhat I didn't want, to trust
somebody in friendship andfellowship and relationship.
That's pride.
That's self and relationship.
That's pride.
That's self-protection, that'ssaying you know what, I don't
(04:08):
want nobody to hurt me, so I'mgoing to stay away from
everybody.
That's pride.
Because if you heard our show atall, especially Inspiration
Station, you know that I believethat all of us have a valuable
component in our DNA.
We have something special tooffer.
We have flavor to bring to theworld and we do just that in so
many ways.
But some of us, we don'trecognize that we're special.
(04:30):
We don't see us as having anyvalue or a very low level of
self-esteem.
So we guard ourselves and wedon't give out what is
inherently inside of us thebeauty, the love, the richness,
the substance is inside of us,because all we care about is
what we want, which is what mostintroverts do.
They don't want to do this,they don't want to go to that,
(04:53):
they don't want to be invited tothis.
If they are, they ain't goingto show up.
And they do show up, they won'tstay there long because they
want to just be to themselvesand do their own thing.
That's pride.
What are the three ways that wecan identify?
This is If the introvertdoesn't want to avoid pride.
(05:13):
They have to recognizethemselves with this part that
there's no accountability.
In your isolation Think aboutit for a second Obviously you're
by yourself.
There's nobody to hold youaccountable for what you do and
what you don't do.
There's no accountability.
I heard somebody say a long timeago that there was a person who
was walking the streets anddidn't have on the right
(05:35):
clothing or didn't seem to careabout how they looked, and the
person the very prominentminister said that person
doesn't have a mirror or afriend because they had no idea
how they looked to the outsideworld, or perhaps just didn't
care.
They didn't check themselvesout.
Before I go anywhere, I'mchecking my nose and my teeth
(05:57):
and my eyes make sure I'm good.
I won't question my eyes goingto meet with somebody, so I take
care of that kind of stuff.
That person, because of howthey were dressed, must not have
had a mirror.
They didn't check themselvesout.
Their hair was a mess, theirclothes were a mess.
They didn't check themselvesout and didn't have a friend to
say you know what?
You can't go out wearing that.
Accountability is important andintroverts a lot of times don't
(06:18):
have it because they won't allowpeople into their lives in
order to have that.
Nobody can be close enough tosay you know what?
You shouldn't wear that outfit,you know what your hair is a
hot mess, you know what youshouldn't act like, that People
care you.
When there's no accountability,like in isolation, you're free
to do whatever you want andthink how you want and feel like
(06:41):
you want and disregard whateveryou want to, and excuse me, and
that's the problem.
That's one area where there'sno accountability.
That's one area where you cantell that an introvert has a
problem with pride becausethere's no accountability in
their isolated lifestyle.
Second thing there's noevidence of love.
What does that mean?
What am I saying?
Introverts don't love folks.
(07:01):
No, I'm not saying that.
Of course introverts lovepeople.
I love real hard.
I still think I'm an introvertin so many ways.
But what I say is that love hasa certain characteristic and if
you're in isolation all thetime and you don't step outside
of that comfort zone and beginto embrace the idea of
(07:24):
interaction and getting to knowpeople and exchanging
information and exchanging ideasand just being in a creative
flow of life, of living as ahuman being, something's missing
.
The Bible says in 1 Corinthians,13 chapter.
It talks about love.
Love bears, love carries weightthis thing that we hear about
(07:46):
and that we see that carriesweight become a part of an
awesome men's group recently andthe things that I hear hear
they're very unsettling.
They're not great to hearwhat's going on in people's
lives, but because I endeavor tolove people the way god loves
me, I have to hear those thingsand carry that weight, bear
(08:10):
those burdens, take them to thelord in prayer.
I have to be present to hearthem.
It's easy to stay in isolationand not just hear that stuff.
That way I won't have to beresponsible for what I hear.
I don't have to have the extraweight on my heart because I
hear all these bad thingshappening to people who don't
deserve this stuff to happen intheir life.
But love cares, love bears thatstuff, love carries that weight
(08:31):
, excuse me, that's why I keepgoing back and receiving from
the time together and learningand growing, because that's what
love is supposed to do.
Introverts won't do that.
They'll stay away and isolatethemselves Because they don't
want to carry that weight.
It's selfish in nature and it'sa point of pride.
Love hopes, love trusts.
Love Feeds the good in otherpeople.
(08:54):
Love Is willing to trust, eventhough we've been hurt.
Introverts, man, if they gethurt, one time they're done they
ain't trying to come back intothe place where they've been
hurt before.
Love endures all things it'ssupposed to.
We've seen it in the life ofChrist and the result or the
(09:16):
promise that we received as aresult.
But at the end of the day, anintrovert can't love if you're
isolated from everybody else andyou refuse to embrace community
and you refuse to embrace theidea of being friends with
somebody.
They can't be friends withother introverts because they
don't want to be around eachother.
They can't even start anintrovert club because they
(09:36):
don't want to be outside oftheir own home, outside of their
own room, outside of their ownplace of isolation.
The third thing I think isclear evidence that introverts
have a problem with pride isthat there's no community.
Excuse me y'all, in AAA,alcohol is anonymous.
One of the reasons why I thinkit's effective I'm not saying
(09:57):
everything they do is perfectand it always works.
I'm not saying that.
I'm not here to even advocatefor that.
What I'm saying is that one ofthe reasons why I think it's
effective is because it givesyou the opportunity to see that
somebody has a situation that'ssimilar to yours or maybe even
worse than what you're goingthrough and what it does, it
removes the excuse from you tonot do what needs to be done,
(10:23):
whether it's walking steps ormake life changes, change habits
or behaviors, even move theexcuses.
Now you see John and Bob andMary and Kim who are dealing
with worse stuff than you are,and now you can't say you know
what?
There's no excuse.
You can't say you know what, Ican't do this, I can't do better
, I can't grow and come out ofthis and overcome this because
you see somebody else doing it.
(10:43):
That's just one example.
But the point is that when youdon't have community introverts,
when you don't have community,you miss out on a very
incredible opportunity to seeand hear stories about folks who
are in spots just like yours,dealing with the same things you
deal with, come from worsebackgrounds than you do and
still are able to overcome,conquer, survive and live full
(11:06):
lives.
That's the whole point ofisolation.
It's a trap.
It's not a trap set by God.
It's not a God thing.
God don't want that for you.
When you're in isolation, youcan't see how good your life
actually is, how blessed youactually are, especially in
comparison to the lives ofothers who are going through a
harder stuff than you are.
(11:27):
No accountability, no evidenceof love, no community.
For me, I don't know what elseto add.
Is it a 0.4 or 0.5?
Those three are enough for meto know that, as an introvert,
I'm having a problem with pride.
These are the three indicatorsthat let me know I need to work
on that kind of stuff.
Let me know if this actuallyworks for you.
Let me know if you see value inthis conversation, in this
(11:48):
episode.
Drop your thoughts in thecomments section.
Drop your stories.
If you don't mind sharing thosein the comments section.
I'd love to hear those andrespond back to you as soon as I
can.
Introverts, I'm talking to youguys.
Let me know what you think.
Look forward to hearing backfrom you guys real soon.
Have a great day, coach out.
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