109. Asking For a Friend with Cakesbyalexys Part 1

Get ready for a heart-to-heart chat that will make you feel like you just hung out with your two best girlfriends! In this episode of our new series, ASKING FOR A FRIEND, Jess sits down with Alexys Calhoun. Alexys is her former personal assistant, a long-time friend, and owner of CakesByAlexys. The girls go into the importance of women celebrating other women and how understanding yourself can help you raise your standards. They also look at the principles of non-monogamy and how people's perception of you changes when they find out you are open. In this episode of Open Late: • Celebrating other women and raising your standards • Group "Mom" energy  • How to balance sobriety and going out • Principles of non-monogamy and other’s misinformed perceptions of CNM Connect with Alexys: • Instagram: @cakesbyalexys Connect with Jessica: • Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast • Website: openlatepodcast.com  • YouTube: Open Late Podcast • What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz • Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp • Open Late Dictionary   5:59 You helped me step into my hot girl era before I even knew it was happening. - Jessica Esfandiary 8:29 Don't be too big, don't overshadow anybody. Growing up in a society that was like don't take up too much space, embracing sexuality was taboo. - Jessica Esfandiary 9:36 This is the year of cringe, and we are going to embrace it.- Alexys Calhoun 14:29 I am enough on my own, and there is no competition. - Jessica Esfandiary 15:31 I want more for everybody. Like I hope in 10 years, women are like, "You put that woman down?; we don't do that anymore!" - Alexys Calhoun 19:04 I take naked photos with the idea it's art, not sex. - Jessica Esfandiary 20:09 I would just look in the mirror and tell myself I am beautiful even though I didn't think it for the longest time. - Alexys Calhoun 21:25 For a long time, I thought I had to be a role model. - Jessica Esfandiary 24:09 These days, I’m taking a step back and trying to be an ear to somebody rather than giving them my opinion. - Alexys Calhoun 31:28 Non-Monogamy is great, but some people can find it weird. And I am like, "It's weird for you; it's not weird for them." - Alexys Calhoun 33:39 Not “letting” your partner do something stems from the belief that you own your partner. - Jessica Esfandiary 35:10 Keeping constantly away your desires and attraction from your partner will erode your own confidence, self-esteem and your relationship. - Jessica Esfandiary 39:05 If you really love somebody and you want to hold them to their greatness, let them decide how they wanna handle the information. - Jessica Esfandiary  Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions. • Open Smarter Course The product I love who support this show: • Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20 • The Oh Club OPENLATE • Desire Resorts  This is a Sabbatical Jess Production Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices