Unplugging The Need for a Straight Pride Month?

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Dustin & Ashley give you their weekly life updates including registering a car in the state of Florida (with taxes and fees) and then dive into a controversial topic. They discuss a bar in Idaho that is making waves as they have proclaimed June "Heterosexual awesomeness month."

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:12):
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Speaker 2 (00:22):
Hello Ashley, hello Dustin holders.

Speaker 3 (00:32):
Hello Ashley, hello Dustin.
You're listening to Orlando,unplugged, celebrating life in
living color with Dustin andAshley.
Grab a cocktail or a mocktailand let's get unplugged.

Speaker 1 (00:43):
Orlando what is up?
Unplugged fam.
I'm dustin and I'm ashley, andwelcome back to episode 22 of
orlando unplugged podcast.
That was pretty cool.

Speaker 2 (00:55):
I know I'm pretty proud of us we've done well 22,
22.

Speaker 1 (00:59):
You know what this is , what this is the taylor swift
no episode no I don't know aboutyou, but I'm feeling 22 why
don't you go ahead and telleveryone, ashley, what kind of
cocktails we're having today,because clearly you have been
drinking I've only had two sips,but 13, 13.9 apvs got me
feeling something um.

Speaker 2 (01:21):
So today we are sipping on zarita, that's what
I'm calling it.
Uh, it's an aldi brand, sowe're bougieing it on a budget.

Speaker 1 (01:30):
It's a strawberry margarita wine cocktail and I
have these fancy I will beposting photos of them these
fancy little plastic margaritaglasses and it's I mean it's
delicious, so I like a goodmargarita, but I wanted
something to drink, like whenwe're doing podcasts and just
doing stuff, and I saw this samething at Trader Joe's a long
time ago and we got it, andJulie and I love it.

Speaker 2 (01:53):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (01:54):
But we just found this one a few weeks ago.

Speaker 2 (01:58):
I'm a big fan of this one.
I like this one.
This one's very, very nice.

Speaker 1 (02:01):
And it's what percent alcohol 13.9.

Speaker 2 (02:03):
13, this one's very, very nice, and it's what percent
alcohol 13.9 13.9.

Speaker 1 (02:06):
Kids 100% de gave de gave.

Speaker 2 (02:09):
I don't know what wine is.
I have no idea.

Speaker 1 (02:11):
I know what a gave is , but I don't know what de gave
is it doesn't taste like, um, Imean, it doesn't taste like a,
like a wine cocktail, it tasteslike an actual margarita, but I
don't think there's any tequilain it at all, is there?

Speaker 2 (02:22):
I don't believe.
So the instructions it doesn'tsay.

Speaker 1 (02:26):
The instructions say pour over ice and enjoy.

Speaker 2 (02:29):
Which we are Pouring over ice and enjoying in my very
festive colorful.
Do you know what?
I just realized?
What my cups are colorfulbecause it's Pride Month.
Oh my God, oh my God.
Look, ashley Ally back at itagain.

Speaker 1 (02:45):
You want to tell me about some homophobia that I
experienced this week I wouldlove for you to tell me about.

Speaker 2 (02:49):
Do I need to beat some people?
I?

Speaker 1 (02:51):
went to the Orange County tax collector's office
this week.

Speaker 2 (02:55):
I love that for you.
I had an appointment to get myFlorida tags.

Speaker 1 (02:57):
Well, I did it all ahead of time.
I did all my research.
Wow, you're such an adult.
Well, hold on, here's where itgets messed up.
So $233, because I do not havea state of Florida license plate
, so I had to pay for the plate.
So it's gonna be $233.
And then it said you had theoption of a one year or two year

(03:17):
registration.
Obviously you pick two.
Well, I didn't have that option.
Why?

Speaker 2 (03:22):
So you know, in total , why didn't you I don't know
what that I got a build to it?
Did you hear me ask you why,though?
That was a weird why, so why,honey?

Speaker 1 (03:34):
and this is why our episodes are two hours long um
so anywho, so I get up there thewoman is she kind of nice, but
she's also kind of rude.
Um, this whole time that ourinteraction's going on, there's
an interaction going on besideus of a girl trying to get a
floor to something another, andthen her, her, I'm gonna call
him baby daddy.
I don't know who he was.
Must have been a boyfriend deadbut he was over at a different

(03:56):
place and then he just walksover and pretty much stands on
top of me I love that for you.
It's just cussing and yellingand being hateful and the
girlfriend's like what's wrong?
And she's like they cancelingmy appointment and canceling my
driver's license because I gottickets and they won't let me
update my license.
And then the man was like thatwas helping the girl.
When she finished, when hefinished helping the girl,
started helping the man and hewas like well, sir, you have

(04:18):
this ticket.
And he goes how do I have aticket?
And well, sir, the ticket wasfrom 2020 for.
And then I didn't hear what hesaid, what it was pertaining to,
and the man goes dude, how thehell am I supposed to have a
ticket?
I was in prison in 2020.
And I, and it was just one ofthose things that me and the
woman behind the counter bothlocked eyes with each other
Cause we both heard it and herefor my florida tags.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
I'm here for my florida tags and this, ladies
and gentlemen, is why I cannever be a government employee
and it was just.

Speaker 1 (04:46):
It was funny.
But anywho, back to the realstory here, the real homophobia
um give it to me I get my total,and I'm expecting my total to
be like 300 dollars, sure alittle over 300, sure, and she
goes.
Okay.
Your total today is 389.
Oh my god, and I was like, ohokay, well, I guess that's just

(05:08):
the two.
I guess she gave me thetwo-year one, right?
Well then, she pulls out alicense plate and she smacks a
sticker on it, a sticker thatexpires 10 2024, that's this
year.
That's my birthday month, it is, and I said, excuse me, I said
this was like a hundred dollarsmore than it was supposed to be.
And she goes oh, taxes and fees.
And I said, okay, well, can youexplain to me why it expires in

(05:30):
like six months?
And she said, oh, you've been aFlorida resident for less than
a year and you're trying totransfer a car from out of state
.
So the policy is that yourregistration will go until
midnight on your birthday andthen you can apply for a one to
two year registration.
So I paid four hundred dollarsfor a five, six month
registration to turn around,have to pay four hundred dollars
again?
and well, no, I don't have topay the 50 or seven, or it's

(05:52):
like 30 or 70 dollars, dependingon the but I was just like
though in my head I was justlike well, that's homophobia,
and also far more than I hadbudgeted for see in this, and
everybody asked me why it isthat I don't have a vehicle.

Speaker 2 (06:04):
This right here is why I don't have a vehicle.

Speaker 1 (06:05):
Oh, there's more homophobia.
Lay it on me.
Well, do you remember how, inlast week's episode, we talked
about unplugging our finances inOrlando?
Yes, I remember that episode wemade the finance gods of
Orlando angry because I getalmost the way home.
I get to the last red lightbefore my house and I stop and
there's a homeless man sittingon the side with a big sign and

(06:27):
I didn't see him until I turnedand I looked over and he did the
full eye contact, he did thenod head and he waved I am.
I am a sucker yeah, you are tobe a decent human being.
So of course I wave back andthen I immediately look forward
and I'm just like don't make eyecontact, you know, don't?

Speaker 2 (06:43):
do.
Why would you wave kiddo?

Speaker 1 (06:44):
because, because he waved to me, he didn't approach
my car he stayed, he stayed off.
Okay but then I was like, do Ihave a couple dollars?
Stop, I don't like to givepeople at.
But he wasn't asking for, hewas just chilling on the side of
the road and like did the headnod thing?
And I was like I can respectthat because you're not like
knocking on my car window you'renot holding up a sign that says

(07:06):
and then I was like I'm notgoing to.
So then the light turns green, Iapply the gas and suddenly the
sound of what I thought was likea squirrel or something had
crawled into my engine and wasbeing crushed by moving gears
and I was like what is that?
So I let off the gas and itslows down, but it doesn't
completely stop.
And I'm like, well, there'scars.
So I let off the gas and itslows down, but it doesn't
completely stop.
And I'm like well, there's carsbehind me.

(07:26):
I'm in the middle of theintersection, I've got to go.
So I press the gas again andthen I'm hearing this clunk,
clunk, clunk.

Speaker 2 (07:31):
And I'm like, what is this noise?
Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,stop.

Speaker 1 (07:45):
Can you go back, friendship?
So then I get to my house,uh-huh, and I turn my car off
and I open my trunk, because mytrunk is the hood of my car,
like my engine, is under thetrunk and I open it and I look
in there and I'm like I seenothing wrong and I was like
okay, I know I'm a gay, but likemy dad has taught me decent car
skills and decent man skillsbecause you know, I can, I also
as a gay man do hard things doyou really?
do so I got back in the car andI turned the car back on and

(08:06):
then it just made this god awfulnoise and I go back and I look.
What kind of noise it was.
That noise again, but a lotfaster.

Speaker 2 (08:14):
Can you give me that noise one more time?
This is why our podcast goes solong.

Speaker 1 (08:21):
So then I realized it's the serpentine belt.
Serpentine, serpentineserpentine, so do you know what
a serpentine belt does on a car?
No, I do not.
It powers, it charges thealternator, or the alternator.

Speaker 2 (08:33):
See, I'm not a gay and I don't do hard things, so I
don't know this.

Speaker 1 (08:36):
It charges the car.
Okay, it works your electricalcomponents.
It works your air conditioningcompressor.
Wow, electrical components, itworks your air conditioning
compressor wow.

Speaker 2 (08:46):
And the engine, wow.
When that dies join us nextweek as we decompress, we
de-digest an entire car stopbeing homophobic.

Speaker 1 (08:51):
Let me tell the story .

Speaker 2 (08:52):
So then, I'm an ally.
I cannot be homophobic, andthen?
So then I was like okay, so now?

Speaker 1 (09:02):
now it like fully disintegrates.
Yes, so my car is nowinoperable.
Love that.
So I go back into my house andcry I have about a hundred and
something dollars left over frommy, my second pay, cause I have
two paychecks, right.
So, um, this is my off week.

Speaker 2 (09:19):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (09:20):
So this was not a week that I was expecting to
have to spend any additionalmoney.
So I was like, yeah, I gotplenty of money left over.
We did not.
No, we did not.
I couldn't take my car anywhereand I didn't want to pay a tow
driver because that's expensive.
So I got online and I did someresearching and I found a
company called AutoNation.
AutoNation when it's essentiallya mobile mechanic.
They do brake pads, oil changes, serpentine belts, you know

(09:42):
just certain little things.
And I was able to get a quotethat they would come to my house
or to my location.
They would replace theserpentine belt with the I call
it.
Delivery for to have like thetechnician drive to me is $20.
The part obviously costs a lotmore.

(10:02):
So the original quote was 180before before taxes and fees.
Um, it ended up being 211, wasthe quote before he worked on
the car, and then magically itbecame 228 when he was finished
however, it was the mostpainless thing ever, minus the
fact that the technician didn'tmeet the appointment time and

(10:23):
came, ended up coming late,which was a big stressor, but
I'm not going to get into thatbecause they ended up coming and
he was super.
He was super great technician.

Speaker 2 (10:29):
10 out of 10, what's the company?

Speaker 1 (10:31):
again it's auto, nate uh auto, nation, mobile or auto
10 out of 10 auto nation.
If you're listening to ourpodcast, we appreciate you well,
technically, I did rate them an8 out of 10 because I was upset
that they didn't come.
My original appointment timewas 8am to 1pm and they didn't
come until almost two.
Um, it's auto nation mobileservice, so check them out.
Um, they do a lot of differentthings.

(10:52):
Totally great, lots of fun.

Speaker 2 (10:54):
Love it Love it.

Speaker 1 (10:55):
Uh, how, how's your week been?
Have you had any homophobicthings?

Speaker 2 (10:59):
No, I'm a straight white woman.
No, no, homophobic things havebeen happening to me.
You know what I have been doinga lot lately, though Squats,
I've been drinking a lot, yes,thank you.
Thank you for noticing my buttis looking very well, thank you.
No, you know what I have beendoing, though.

Speaker 1 (11:13):
I've been drinking a lot of Sauvignon Blanc.

Speaker 2 (11:15):
I have been drinking a lot of Sauvignon Blanc, other
wines, no, just sevillon.
Well, a little bit of moscato.
What else have you been doing?
Working, I've been working.
I've been doing a lot ofworking, a lot of working, a lot
of working.
And you know what else I'vebeen doing?
A lot of rutting, is that theword?
Is that the right word for it?
Like I've been just doing a lotof like in a rut, like you know

(11:39):
, no like I've been like rottingrotting, I think that's the
word.
Like I've been like taking sometime to like lay in my bed and
not do anything.
Like I've been just likelistening to what my body needs.
I've been sleeping a lot, butthen also not sleeping a lot.
I've been just like lazy, lazy,very lazy this week, like
work-wise on top of my game, butlike the minute I put that key

(12:03):
inside my door and I'm home, thelaziness kicks in I have times
like that.

Speaker 1 (12:08):
I'll get into a rut and then it's like for a month I
don't do anything.

Speaker 2 (12:12):
I'm in one of those right now, like I am in a rut
like I'm dog sitting this week,so I'm not really I'm cat
sitting this week.
Yeah, I have geo's cat.
Shout out to geo, for we lovehim love him so I have I have to
geo's um cat cedric.
That is who I'm babysittingthis week well, week and a half,
something like that.
He's enjoying bonnaroo andtheme parks and I'm very sad,

(12:34):
but, um, because I want to be atthose theme parks very badly,
um, but yeah, so that's like allI've been doing cat sitting,
working and being beyond lazy.
That's literally about it.
That's not homophobic at all.
No, I told you, I haven't beendoing Cutsitting, working and
being beyond lazy.
That's literally about it.

Speaker 1 (12:46):
That's not homophobic at all.

Speaker 2 (12:48):
No, I told you I haven't been doing anything
other than being an out.
You know what I have been doing, though.
I have been looking at all ofthe merch that I cannot wait to
buy in support of you.

Speaker 1 (12:57):
Awesome.

Speaker 2 (12:57):
Speaking of that.
That's it guys.
He just goes awesome, Awesome.

Speaker 1 (13:03):
Speaking of that, oh god, we're gonna do something a
little differently today.

Speaker 2 (13:07):
I'm very nervous for this.
I just want you to know that.

Speaker 1 (13:09):
So Ashley has absolutely zero clue what we're
about to talk about Nonewhatsoever.

Speaker 2 (13:14):
I got a text message today from you and you were like
I know what we're gonna talkabout on the podcast.
Okay, cool, what are we gonnatalk about?

Speaker 1 (13:22):
I can't tell you all right, what you ready?
No, okay, let's go.
All right, guys.

(13:58):
So for today, um I need tostart like deep breathing.
I came across somethinginteresting online and I wanted
to go over it with you and dosome things, but in order to do
that.
So obviously we talked aboutwe're going to have some special
guests this month.
Yes, we're not doing that thisweek.
We are, I'm pretty excited.
I'm going to go ahead and giveyou a little bit of detail.

(14:20):
We don't have everything workedout, no, so the last thing that
we're doing is we have to find adate that works for this guest
yes, um, but I'm super excitedto say if, if, everything does
pan out on that fingers crossed,we will have uh, mama ashley
rose oh, I cannot wait, who isone of the the founder of the
rose dynasty foundation.
Yes, um, so we're gonna haveher on.

(14:41):
She is a drag queen here in thegreater orlando, lakeland,
dayton areas.
Today, as we are recording thispodcast, they are in the middle
of the grand opening ceremoniesof the Rose Dynasty Foundation
out in I think it's Dayton, isthat out near Lakeland?
I don't remember the exact city,but she's opening a kind of a

(15:02):
community center of sorts, sowe're going to have her on.
She's going to talk about herlife being a drag queen.
uh, we'll probably talk aboutthe don't say gay bill that was,
uh, in recent history here, inflorida, because she weighed in
on a lot of that and some of thework that she's doing for the
community, in the spaces thatshe is creating for not only the
lgbtq plus community but theyouth of that community, because

(15:22):
it is important for you know,give them a safe space that they
can just be them.

Speaker 2 (15:27):
I'm so, so excited.
Now, with that being said, I'mhoping that we can like share
some some secrets.
We'll see.
I want to share all of themWith that being said oh God.

Speaker 1 (15:35):
I just want to preface this is my opinion, I'm
not going to speak.
I do believe that every humanbeing on this planet deserves
their own opinion.
I also believe that sometimesthose opinions are very immoral
and completely against what Ibelieve.

Speaker 2 (15:51):
A hundred percent.

Speaker 1 (15:52):
Unfortunately unfortunately, sometimes people
have opinions that suck.
They're really bad.

Speaker 2 (16:00):
Yeah, they're awful Opinions that I've seen.

Speaker 1 (16:01):
That's fine, you can have that opinion, but I'm going
gonna choose not to associateyou because of that opinion,
because it's something that Idisagree with so much that I
just have to say I can't hangout or be friends with someone
who has that opinion on things.

Speaker 2 (16:14):
yeah, um now, that being said, you know, my mom had
a saying when it came to thatthat everybody has an opinion,
or everybody has an opinion,just like everybody has a booty
hole.
Sometimes they're clean andsometimes they just stink.

Speaker 1 (16:26):
Oh my god that's hilarious it's iconicly shan now
, that being said, I always Idon't always have the most
popular opinion in the lgbtqplus community, because I don't
necessarily agree witheverything that people do I.

Speaker 2 (16:38):
I say yes because I've asked somebody who has
known you for a minute.
I'm gonna say we've had theseconversations, I know your views
and your opinions on things.

Speaker 1 (16:49):
So, yeah, I would agree those may come to light in
conversations as we moveforward, but anyhow, so just a
bit of a brief very brief, skimoverview of history of gays

Speaker 2 (17:01):
I love.

Speaker 1 (17:02):
History of the gays.
Contrary to what popular,contrary to popular belief um
homosexuality, homosexuality-has been around wrong for how
long now?
throughout the entire existenceof the human race, correct?
Um?
So you know, it varied, why?
Wildly across differentcultures?

(17:23):
Um, back in Roman times it wassuper popular.
Relationships between men werecommon and actually they were
often celebrated.
Oh yeah, back in, like theRoman Empire, the Greeks viewed
these relationships as a form ofmentorship, which is kind of
odd to me, but I mean, hey, itis what it is.
Moving forward into the MiddleAges, we saw a shift in

(17:44):
attitudes, largely influenced bythe rise of Christianity.
The Catholic Church condemnedsame-sex relationships, europe
punished those who engaged inhomosexual acts, and then those
laws that they set in placepersisted for I mean centuries.
Moving forward into the 19thcentury, we saw a significant
change.
In 1861, the Offenses Againstthe Person Act was passed by the

(18:10):
United Kingdom, whichdecriminalized homosexual acts
between men but still imposedharsh penalties.
And it wasn't until the late19th century to early 20th
century that we saw the firstwave of activism begin to emerge
.
The first wave of activismbegin to emerge, um, and then
there's more.
You know stuff with oscar wilde, uh, who was in a renowned

(18:30):
irish playwright, who wasfamously tried and imprisoned in
uh 1895 for gross indecency dueto his relationship to another
man oh um, way to be gross,bubba.
Yeah, um the mid 20th century,we saw the birth of the gay
modern, the gay modern rightsmovement.
Um, they, these were a seriesof events that literally

(18:50):
catapulted us into the 21stcentury, uh, the most famous one
being the stonewall riots of1969 in new york.
Um, for those of you that don'tknow, on june 27th of 1969,
patrons of the stonewall inn,which was a gay bar in greenwich
village in new york.
They resisted a police raid,sparking days of protest and
clashes with law enforcement,and this pretty much galvanized

(19:12):
the uprising of the lgbtq pluscommunity into the modern day.
It led us to where we are now,and then, the decades since that
movement, we've seen tons ofmomentum, achieving several
significant victories.
Moving into the 20th centuryand the 21st century, we
witnessed unprecedented progressand fight for gay rights.
Um, we had um I'm looking at mynotes here except everything.

(19:37):
Um, the netherlands became thefirst country to legalize
same-sex marriage in 2001.
Um, and then?
What year was it?
2015, 26, when?
When was gay marriage legalizedin the us?
of course all the notes that Ihave here.
I forgot to put that one inthere.
Um, yes, google and look, um,but it's something that it's

(20:03):
been here forever um 2013.

Speaker 2 (20:07):
Okay, 2013, yeah, that's right, it started in
california first, california,california I just spilt the
drink on my leg.
Wow, and it's very cold let'ssee when it was legalized in
florida.
You know, in florida it didn'tbecome legal until 2015.
That's when it was legalized inthe entire country.

Speaker 1 (20:24):
I in florida.
It didn't become legal until2015.
That's when it was legalized inthe entire country, I believe I
believe so.
Yeah, as a result of a rulingin brenner versus scott yep, so
that was um the same time thatit was legal in the entire
country.
So, with that being said, it isnow gay pride month.
Is that right, ashley?

Speaker 2 (20:40):
it is so, or as ashley's been calling it ashley
ally awareness month.

Speaker 1 (20:44):
Thank you, yes now in all seriousness absolutely for
you, a cisgendered straightwoman yes for the record.

Speaker 2 (20:52):
I hate the term cisgendered same I don't listen,
I'm just, it doesn't matter inmy opinion.
I'm just a straight girl,that's it.
That's all I got as abiological female.

Speaker 1 (21:01):
yes, am A woman who identifies as a straight woman.
Yes, I do you?
Enjoy the company of men.

Speaker 2 (21:06):
I do, I really, really do.

Speaker 1 (21:09):
I'm curious.
I know we joke that you're anally, but I'm curious to you as
someone who was I, your firstlike gay best friend.

Speaker 2 (21:17):
No, like gay, no Well kind of On this level.
On this level.
Yes, kind of on this level onthis level yes, yes.
So to you, what does pride monthmean?
That I support you and as muchof what you would like as
possible.
That's what it means to me.
If this is a month you feellike you want to, to celebrate

(21:39):
you a little bit more than youdo in january, then I'm here for
it.
I'm also this is gonna soundreally bad because I'm one of
those people, though, that, likelike Valentine's Day and
Swedish Day I believe those arebullshit holidays because I feel
like and Hallmark has kind ofcreated this every single day
should not be a day that youlike.
We shouldn't just have onesignificant day to tell a person

(22:00):
that we love them, or that wecare for them, or that we do all
these things.
So I feel the same way when itcomes to pride month, like I
shouldn't have to look at youand be like hi, I support you,
just because june 1st to june31st says so, or june 30th.
There's only 30 days somethinglike that.
I I shouldn't feel like Ishouldn't have to just tell you
I support you in those 31 days.
I should tell you I support youevery single day, which is

(22:21):
something I do, so, like I, yes,I think pride month is is
fantastic and I love that.
You know theme parks andrestaurants and and other places
.
They and I.
I cannot wait.
I'm hoping that this, this ismy, my first year to be able to
participate in a pride parade.
But, like, I've never felt likeI needed to say, oh my god,

(22:41):
only in the month of June am Igoing to say I support you.
No, I will support you nomatter what, like, as long as
you're not trying to like yes interms of you, like I, like I.
I don't want that to besomething that, like, I only
support you during that month.
What about you?
What does pride month look likefor?

Speaker 1 (22:59):
you so that, honestly , up until recent years, has
never been something that I haveeven like put a thought into,
like what is pride month to me?
Really uh, yeah, because, asyou know, obviously, the way
that I've been responding to youthis whole time, you're like oh
it's pride month, I get to behere and I to me.
I'm just like, okay, that'sgreat yeah, which is not at all.

Speaker 2 (23:21):
I was gonna like when I was not that like I chose to
be your best friend because youwere gay, but I was like oh,
this comes with bonuses.
It does.
And I definitely.
One of them was like the factthat I could like decorate my
entire body in rainbow and you'dbe like, oh my God, I love that
.

Speaker 1 (23:37):
Fun fact I hate rainbow, you hate it, I hate
rainbow.

Speaker 2 (23:40):
I don't mean to put you on the spot, but you hate it
I do so and I hate that you Igrew we.
We kind of went into a littlebit of this in the beginning of
this podcast, like back injanuary when we first started
this wave 22 episodes ago Inever, formally ever came out to

(24:04):
my family.
Right.

Speaker 1 (24:06):
For the longest time I had this thing of you know,
hear no evil, speak no evil, seeno evil.
Correct, Don't make waves.
Yes, you know, I brought myfriends around and my roommates
around and occasionally, youknow, I started having cousins
saying like, oh well, you know,everyone knows right.
And I was right and I was likeokay, cool.

(24:27):
Well, there's no need to talkabout it like I don't need to
confirm, because I valued somuch the relationship that I had
with my dad's side of thefamily because my mom's side of
the family had completelydisintegrated and fell apart
right, I don't speak to anyoneother than my little brother,
who's hopefully coming down thisseptember to visit um.
But I was like, okay, well,there's no reason to make waves.
And then, you know, the timecame that my grandmother just

(24:50):
finally asked me.
She said oh, when did yourealize you were different?
And then, shortly after, thatwas when my father and
stepmother started saying oh, dowe need to buy so-and-so, a
separate Christmas present, ordo you guys want us like a
shared present?
So like, even to this very day,even though I know my stepmom
and my dad hi listen to thispodcast.

(25:12):
You know I've never sat down andlooked at them and said I am a
gay person because I didn't haveto right, because it became a
normal part of our lives.
I hid it for so long because Iwas afraid and I was ashamed
that my father was going to bedisappointed in me because I am
his only biological son.
He has two wonderfulstepchildren with my stepmother,

(25:35):
but I am his only technicaloffspring.
Yeah, you're the male line.
And for so long I was soashamed of myself, of thinking
that his friends, that wegrowing up as kids I was a
little different.
Everyone knew I was a littledifferent really I didn't like.
I don't like physical pain, yeahuh, and I am very small.

(25:56):
I'm very brittle and smallboned.
I don't have a lot of musclemass, so I can't do all of these
big things.
I used to ride dirt bikes whenI was a little kid until I
crashed no way yeah and I neverwanted to get back on the dirt
bike because it hurts dad.

Speaker 2 (26:09):
Do you have any videos of that, please can?
Can you please send them to?

Speaker 1 (26:11):
me videos?
I don't think so.
Photos, yes, you have toremember, I grew up in the 90s.

Speaker 2 (26:15):
Videos oh yeah, videos were not a thing.

Speaker 1 (26:17):
Give me that cam quarter um, so it's only been
since like 2016.
On that, I even haveparticipated in Pride, and the
only Prides that I'veparticipated in have been Knox
Pride in Knoxville, tennessee.
Shout out to Big Gay James andoh my God, I just totally forgot
the other host names on theKnox Pride podcast.
Shout out to you guys, go givethem a listen.

(26:38):
So it's only been recent thatI've been able to go to these
things and I've learnedsomething about Pride.
That's still quite an unpopularopinion.
What's that?
There is a stigma.
Yes, with the pride communityand the LGBT community, it is a
sexualized community.
It is all about indecency andinappropriateness.

Speaker 2 (27:02):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (27:03):
And I don't think that that's what pride
encapsulates no but I think thatthat is the forms, the only
forms, that a lot of our massmedia and our social media have
encapsulated, correct?
Will I say that there are very,very, very bad gay people in
the world?
Yes, there are but there arealso very, very bad homosexual

(27:25):
people in the world.
Just what?
A couple of months ago, weheard a newscast where a mother
was forcing her 15 year olddaughter to have sex with her
father so they could teach herhow to have sex in a christian
household correct.
And some people be straight.
And I'm not saying I'm notcondemning all christians here.
That is not at all what I'msaying.
I'm not condemning allChristians here.
That is not at all what I'msaying.
I'm not condemning gay people?

Speaker 2 (27:45):
No, because I think there are good people.
There are bad people on bothsides, and it does not matter
whether or not you're gay,straight, bisexual or whatever
you are.
You can be bad and you can begood, no matter what is
happening.

Speaker 1 (27:57):
But the biggest thing I think Pride has taught me
since 2016 to now, I have verydevout christian family members,
people that have.
They've told me they don'tapprove of my lifestyle, but
they want to see me happy andthey will always support me
correct, and I'm grateful forthat.
Um, I have an uncle that's adeacon in the church a deacon, a
deacon in a southern baptistchurch.

(28:19):
But the thing that pride hastaught me and that my community
has taught me recently, and I'mI am grateful for this.
Your religion does notconstitute how I live my life,
correct, and I grew up in achristian household.
I grew up going to church wellinto high school, and I believe

(28:40):
that that is where we arecurrently at as a society, but
it it goes both ways.
Oh yeah, our gayness does notconstitute how you live your
religious lifestyle Correct.
But, that being said, there isa separation of church and state
, correct.
That is what our country isfounded on.
Yes, I don't care if, oh, itwas just separation from the

(29:01):
Protestant church or the thischurch or the Catholic church so
we could go and be our own formof Christianity in the United
States.
That's not what it says on ink.
In ink, it says separation ofchurch and state.
And I'm a firm believer that weshould have those separated.
They asked me the other day doyou want in God you trust on
your license plate?
And I said no, I don't.
Do I believe in God?
I believe in a god.

(29:26):
No, not necessarily thechristian god, not necessarily
our version of a god but I talkto whoever is out there, whoever
is listening.

Speaker 2 (29:29):
My grandfather is like rolling over in his big
chair right now and I'm sure,and I have.

Speaker 1 (29:32):
I have some family that's probably gonna take that
with a grain of salt.

Speaker 2 (29:37):
But that's a whole nother topic for a whole nother
time.

Speaker 1 (29:39):
It is um, but that is what pride has taught me.
My, the pride has recentlytaught me that I should not be
ashamed of who I am as anindividual.
No, um, I love who I love.
Yeah, um, I love the peoplethat I love because they have
brought joy into my life.

(30:00):
They make me feel valued as ahuman being, they support me and
obviously there is a level ofphysical attraction there.

Speaker 2 (30:09):
So you were describing all the
characteristics of me up untilthat physical attraction.
So way to just ruin that lovefor me.
Thank you so much.

Speaker 1 (30:18):
So, with that being said, pride yes, it is a
month-long holiday.
I think Pride Month is.
I do not disagree that therehave been it's very, very
commercialized.

Speaker 2 (30:30):
now it is.

Speaker 1 (30:31):
There are reasons for us, as a community, to
celebrate ourselves.
Do I think it needs to be awhole month long?
No, I think anything that is amonth long is just ridiculous.

Speaker 2 (30:39):
Listen, don't hate women's month.
Thank you very much.

Speaker 1 (30:42):
I'm allowed, Girl you already get a week every month.
I kid, I kid, I kid.
Listen just because.

Speaker 2 (30:48):
I shed my.
What is it?
I saw this TikTok trend that'sgoing around right now, where
women have been like messingwith their boyfriends of their
period and they've been puttingsheet masks on that peel.
They're like honey.
It's the time of the month Igot to peel my outer layer.
Oh, that's disgusting.
So I kind of vibe with itthough.

Speaker 1 (31:08):
Here is the big conversation for this week's
episode.

Speaker 2 (31:13):
I can't wait.
Except I'm really reallynervous, but I'm ready.

Speaker 1 (31:18):
Why do we not have straight Pride Month?

Speaker 2 (31:23):
So here we go.
Oh, this is going to be fun.

Speaker 1 (31:26):
Here is where this is what I found today, so in a
recent story by Fox 12.

Speaker 2 (31:35):
Is which?
Which fox is that?

Speaker 1 (31:36):
eagle, idaho idaho.
That's where potatoes are fromum, a bar in idaho, is
celebrating what it callsheterosexual awesomeness month.
It will be this month.
In june, the Old State Saloonannounced that it would begin a
celebration of heterosexualitywith discounts and free beer for

(31:59):
couples and men.
June is generally recognized asPride Month for the LGBTQ plus
community.
In the bar's facebook post theymade a post that says june will
be oss's inaugural heterosexualawesomeness month.
Come join us all month long tocelebrate heterosexuals, for

(32:22):
without them, none of us wouldbe here.

Speaker 2 (32:24):
Jesus christ, I don't disagree without them, we would
not be here, duh, because ittakes a man and a woman to make
a baby.
Unfortunately, so here, well,not nowadays.
Well, yeah, actually it does.

Speaker 1 (32:33):
But here comes the fun part, and this is going to
be where I want to get yourfirst opinion.
Oh jesus, on mondays the barwill celebrate hetero male
monday.
Oh jesus, where any, anyheterosexual male dressed like a
heterosexual male will receivea free draft beer.
I have a couple questions.
Hold on.
So the first time I read thatpart of me wanted to get angry a

(32:56):
little bit.

Speaker 2 (32:56):
Part of me wants to hear Harrison Buckner this.
I have questions, but wait.

Speaker 1 (33:00):
But then I started laughing because I realized even
during Pride Month, not asingle gay bar is going to hand
out free alcohol.
So this man is going to belosing out on money.

Speaker 2 (33:10):
Lots of money, my money, my guy lots of money.

Speaker 1 (33:13):
Here is the first point, ashley yes the bar said
that it is looking to hiresomeone at 15 an hour who will
judge to determine if the man'sclothing is deemed heterosexual.
Now here's my question do youthink, according to american
laws and the Constitution as abusiness, this is discrimination

(33:36):
110%?
Who are we to define what isheterosexual dress?

Speaker 2 (33:40):
Yeah, that was my question.
What exactly what does astraight man look like?
Like?
What does that dress look like?
Because, I mean, you and I havebeen out at places and I've
been, I mean, as somebody who isincredibly single.
I've been hit on at a bar onceor twice with you and you know
whatever, and there's been timesthat I've I've had you know men

(34:02):
be like are you with him andyou're sitting right next to me
who is a very, very gay man, andI'm going nope, not, at least
not on Tuesdays, man, and I'mgoing nope, not, at least not on
tuesdays.
Like what, what do you what?
So like what?
What does that look like?
What?
What does that look like?
Because, like, I mean, becauseyou could, you could go both
ways with that statement.

Speaker 1 (34:22):
Look at where we are now with the world of tiktok and
social media, correct?
I follow some very straight menout of california um that.
There's one guy.
He actually wears women'sclothing, not like dresses and
stuff but like uh, veryavant-garde style.
Yeah, this man makes a lot ofmoney in the cosplay industry um
portraying characters fromanimes and other things.

(34:44):
Very straight man.
He is dating a cisgenderedwoman.
I can't say his name.
It's like abundance, I hatethat word so much abundance, no,
cisgendered.
Cisgender, yeah, I know, butunfortunately it's where we are
in the world, it's how they,it's how they explain it.
Um, but I have seen there's aman in a in europe somewhere

(35:04):
that he wears a skirt and highheels to work every single day,
just to break down some kind ofstigma.
Straight man, yeah, married toa woman, has children I just
don't understand.

Speaker 2 (35:12):
What does that look like?
What does that look like?

Speaker 1 (35:15):
because, like, I mean , is that just wearing denim
pants and a flannel shirteverywhere?

Speaker 2 (35:18):
because but then that's a cowboy, because when?
But when?
You and I go to tennessee?

Speaker 1 (35:22):
I've got to tell you something the gays love denim
and flannel because uh, what?
What is?
Orville peck and and Nelsonsing Something about cowboys.

Speaker 2 (35:33):
Beer from a horse?
No, that's the Save a Horse.
Writer.

Speaker 1 (35:36):
Cowboys are secretly fond of each other.
Oh yeah, it was a new song thatOrville Peck came out with
recently and with Willie Nelson.
But anywho, like who is thatnot?
I mean, you're discriminatingagainst what someone is wearing.

Speaker 2 (35:48):
Yeah, that's a big fat no-no.
Red flag, red flag, red flag,red flag on the play.
Not a fan.
Not a fan of that Because, likeI mean, I could also flip that
Because as a woman I grew upbeing very tomboyish.
I could not fit into oh, thisis for heterosexual males yeah,
yeah, but I could not fit intowomen's jeans growing up, so I
wore men's carpenter jeans toschool every day.

(36:10):
Sends carpenter jeans to schoolevery day, would I be
considered?
What does that look?
like, if I'm, if I'm, a straightwoman, am I dressing like a man
?
Like there are times that like,what does that look like shorts
and a t-shirt?
Is that male things?
Because if that's the case,I'll be looking like a dude
every day then now here's wherethis gets interesting okay, I

(36:31):
feel like this just gets worsewhere this gets interesting.

Speaker 1 (36:36):
Okay, I feel like this just gets worse the the
point that he makes aboutthey're gonna hire someone who
determines looks like aheterosexual male.
Sure, this is the only part Idisagree with 100.
I mean, I think it's a.
I feel like it's a bit of areach to do it in june, because
I'm just like, okay, that'sgreat, if you want to do it, do
it whenever, but do it in july.
Would you do this in hispanichispanic heritage month?
Would you do this in blackhistory month?
Would you do this during asian?

(36:56):
Uh, what?
is pacific islanders month no,you're doing it right now
because it's pride, correct?
Um, and I don't like, and evenstill I'm like.
That's fine.
If you want to do that, go forit.
It's your right as aheterosexual person.
If you want to celebrate whoyou are, go for it.
It's the fact that you're goingto put someone in the bar to
say I'm going to segregate thisyeah, I don't like determine who

(37:19):
looks straight and who isn't.
That is discrimination and Idon't like it however, no, no,
in another facebook post.
Jesus um the face on facebook.
So I'm not going to say theowner, it's just in the same bar
, though?
Yes, and again, this is OldState Saloon in what I say,
idaho.
So they made another Facebookpost and they said we hear lots

(37:42):
of people are upset aboutheterosexual awesomeness month.
Please know one we love ourLGBTQ plus patrons.
Two, we will not be changingour mind and given to a group,
or given to the group of thosewho are responding with uh
vitriol v-i-t-r-i-o-l I don'tknow the actual definition.

(38:06):
Let's assume it's that um threeall in all caps are welcome to
come celebrate heterosexualitywith us this June.
So, with that being said, Ithink it's a bit silly.
I would have said you know,let's celebrate all you know.

(38:26):
If you want to come celebrateand be gay with us, come
celebrate and be gay with us.
If you want to come celebrateand be straight with us, you
guys get discounts.

Speaker 2 (38:32):
That being said, again, I don't know any gay bar
to get a discount?

Speaker 1 (38:38):
I don't know any gay bar that's gonna give out free
drinks or discounted?
Drinks like right now there's apub crawl in orlando for pride
where it's 60 a person to getfour free drinks per person.
And I'm like four free drinksstill does not equal sixty
dollars, no, it's so.
You're really not getting.
You're not getting a discountthere, um, but I want to know so
, based on that, what you'veheard, you know, what's your

(39:01):
opinion on that facebook postthat's?
How does that make you feelthat's?

Speaker 2 (39:04):
ridiculous as a straight woman that is
ridiculous like this is notabout it is my cat.
This isn't about this month,isn't about me, like you know
what's so screwed up, but whycan it also not be about?

Speaker 1 (39:21):
you.

Speaker 2 (39:21):
Because it's not.
Because it's not.
It's the same reason why duringAfrican American Black History
Month it's not about the whitepeople.
Like it's the same concept.
It's why, during the Women'sMonth, it's not about you, men.
Like I hate to break it to you,but you know what you, we did it
as a society, we screwed up inso many aspects and we have to.
We're trying somehow, some wayto rewrite history or to make

(39:43):
things better to you know, saythat we're allies or to do all
these things when in realitynobody wants to just sit there
and go hi, we suck.
Like as society, we suck, we,we.
We sit here and be and we'regoing to behind everybody's
backs go.
Oh my god, I support you andI'm here for you, but like I
would bet nine out of ten peoplewould actually have no freaking

(40:04):
clue what you guys go through.
Like I'm a straight woman, theonly thing I have to bring to
this table is the fact that as awoman, I make less money than
you.
Or like I get treated semidifferently than you because I'm
a girl.
That's it.
I have no idea what it's liketo have to ask permission to be
married If I want to go marryJoe Schmo on the side of the

(40:24):
road.
I can do that anytime I want to.
I don't have to ask permission.
I don't have to like make surethe courts are cool with it to
ask permission.
I don't have to like make surethe courts are cool with it.

Speaker 1 (40:34):
I didn't have to wait patiently in the quarter until
somebody said it was okay, likeI think that you do have to get
your husband's permission beforeyou can have your tubes tied
correct which let's that'sthat's listen you talk about
screwed up.

Speaker 2 (40:45):
That's that's a whole nother conversation I just
don't understand it.
I I think that it's great thatyou want to celebrate all people
, but it is in this.
To me, this is a similarconcept of saying, during the
the all black lives matterconcept, sitting there and going
all lives matter.
This to me it sounds like avery uneducated group of people
that do not understand exactlywhat pride month is about or

(41:07):
what that community goes throughand goes.
So we just like, want tosupport like the one gay person
that lives in our neighborhoodbut we don't even know if
they're gay but like we want tosupport them.
But like everybody else, youguys can have free beer.
Cool, thanks.
I just ordered too much BudLight.
So to me, I love Bud Light.

Speaker 1 (41:25):
Okay, this is again.
This is where I differ so muchwith my own community.
Yes, much with my own community.

Speaker 2 (41:37):
yes, because I guess just the way that my father and
grandparents raised me like gulpdown this margarita.

Speaker 1 (41:40):
Um, I kind of don't care and I know that sounds bad
and I know that there's probablypeople out there in my
community that are going to beupset with me for my views.
But again, they're my views,they're not not yours.

Speaker 2 (41:49):
Do you know why you don't care?

Speaker 1 (41:53):
Why.

Speaker 2 (41:53):
Because for once, the spotlight isn't on the
community, the churn.
For once there is a group ofpeople that are going hi, we
really don't give a fuck aboutyou guys.
We care about straight people.
That's why you don't care,because it's not hurting your
group.

Speaker 1 (42:10):
No, I don't necessarily agree with that.
Your group, uh.
No, I don't necessarily agreewith that.
It's more of a.
My grandparents and my fatherraised me to just be me and just
do my thing and live my life.
Because you go out and you killsomeone and you wreck your car
and you steal from stuff.
People are you.

Speaker 2 (42:27):
You're not doing it to me no I'm not a victim I mean
, unless I kill you.
Well, yeah.

Speaker 1 (42:32):
Unless you kill me or you steal from me or you do
things for me.
Correct.
If I see you trying to killsomeone, I'm going to speak up
and I'm going to be like hey,don't kill that person.

Speaker 2 (42:40):
No, you're not Because you're going to be in.

Speaker 1 (42:42):
No, I'm serious, Don't put words in my mouth
right now.
I love you, but I and I want itto be.
I want our listeners tounderstand exactly where I stand
on this, Because there are alot of people that are actually
going to be very angry with mefor saying oh yeah.
You don't care because itdoesn't affect you.

(43:02):
Yeah, I don't care because itdoesn't affect me, because I
understand that there are peopleout there that are struggling
and they are literally fightingfor their lives as a transgender
human being to have commondecency and be respected.
But I feel like there is a giveand take in this world that
people have to give, they haveto take.
You have to meet on a middleground.
You cannot have your cake andeat it too, and far too many

(43:26):
people in my community have madeit to a point where they want
their cake and they want to eatit too.
You I'm not speaking to anyonespecific.
I'm just saying your religiondoes not constitute how I live
my life my life does notconstitute how you live with
your religion.
It is give and it is take.
And if these people want tohave a straight pride month,

(43:47):
that's great.
If I walk into that bar and Isit down at the bar and I say,
hi, I'm gay, I would like a beer.
Serve me my beer.
You guys have your party overthere.
I will sit at my chair and Iwill say, hell yeah, rock on,
guys.
Have a great night, be safe,make good choices, don't drink
and drive, because it's yourright as a human being, not even

(44:09):
an American citizen.
Screw the whole Americancitizen thing and our government
and our blah, blah, blah.
As a freaking human being onthis planet, you have a right to
celebrate who you are.
And I will say I'm going to goon to talk about the end of this
article in a moment and this iswhy I'm chill with this man
doing what he is, he wants to do.
He's not putting down mycommunity.

(44:31):
He's not telling me that I'mnot welcome in his establishment
.
He's not telling me to get out.
He's not trying to hurt me.
He's not trying to hurt anyonein our community.
He's saying, hey, we're goingto celebrate the straight people
.
You fucking go, dude, youcelebrate yourself, you
celebrate your life and youstraight people and you do
whatever.
I'm going to go over here withmy group of people not in your

(44:53):
establishment and we're going togo celebrate ourselves.
You celebrate yourselves, wecelebrate ourselves.
The only thing I expect is, whenthose people come to pride,
that we treat them with theexact same ounce of fucking
respect that we expect to betreated with when we walk into
that bar we expect to be treatedwith when we walk into that bar

(45:15):
.
That is all I want for thisworld and that's what I wish so
many people would understand andcome to terms with.
You do not have to like me, youdo not have to like my
lifestyle, you do not have tolike who I love, but unless I am
doing something to physicallyharm you, shut the fuck up.
Go about your life, go aboutyour religion, do whatever it is

(45:37):
that you want to do, and I'mgoing to go do whatever it is I
want to do.
This has nothing to do with thewhole pedophilia and the
grooming bullshit that is goingback and forth.
I don't care about that shit.
I'm not doing that.
No one I know is fucking doingthat.
We just want to live ourfucking lives, have a couple of
martinis jam out, so girls justwant to have fun, or whatever

(45:58):
fucking song.
It is taylor swift, who, who,whatever.
And I'll say right now I betyou didn't know this, ashley, I
perform in drag.
I do not do it.
I do not do this normally.
I don't go out to the gay barsand do it all the time it
started as a character at ahaunted house I do know this.

Speaker 2 (46:15):
I'm going to see her, and it wasn't even it wasn't
even my fault that I started.

Speaker 1 (46:18):
I got asked to fill a role one night and then it
turned into a regular thing atthe haunted house because it was
funny and it was hilarious.
And then a Halloween and horrorconvention said hey, we would
love for you to bring yourcharacter to our convention and
host some events and do some funstuff, because your character's
just really hilarious and funny.
And I said she has bigger boobsthan me and then I had to call
other people in the communityand say, hey, I will pay you

(46:41):
money to come do this to me,because I don't know what I'm
doing.
I don't know how to do this.

Speaker 3 (46:44):
She has more power to you, drag queens but I'm going
what?

Speaker 1 (46:47):
what does a drag is a drag queen hurt you?
Ashley, has a straight person.
Has a drag queen hurt you?
Ashley, as a straight person,has a drag queen ever hurt you?

Speaker 2 (46:52):
No, exactly, but I've also never I've interacted with
one drag queen in my entirelife, and that was in Vegas and
I was 21.
And I was like I don't knowwhat to do.

Speaker 1 (47:11):
Anyhow.
Sorry I got off on a tangentfor a moment that was the big
one, my guy so um to live a lothang on, let's pause for a
second.
Okay, actually for real pre-kpause.

(47:35):
Okay, sorry, I had a pre-kpause because I had to pee.
Really bad, because this, thiszarita, ran through me.
What were you saying, ashley?

Speaker 2 (47:43):
before we continue on to this next subject, are you
okay?
That was a tangent, my guy, atangent that I was not
anticipating.
I knew I had a feeling duringthis month it was going to come
up, but I did not expect a 22taylor swift episode for it to

(48:03):
to so be projected as intenselyas that was.
Also, if I murder somebody, youbetter help me bury the body.
Okay, that's all I have to say.
You must not be ratting me outto orange county police
department, you understand?

Speaker 1 (48:20):
be quiet before they start listening there's only two
bodies, guys orange county youwant to sponsor us?

Speaker 2 (48:25):
that'd be great that'd be cool, but like it was
only driving in orlando, there'sonly two bodies?

Speaker 1 (48:29):
um, no, in all seriousness, no, like I am, like
I'm, I'm fine, I for, like Isaid, for the most part I live
my own life, I do my own thing,right.
Um, it is what it is, yes, butum, I unfortunately have been
put in a position in my lifewhere I am put on a fence and I
do.
I have some fairly conservativeviews on a lot of things in the

(48:52):
United States.

Speaker 2 (48:53):
I think that's just because of how you grew up.
I wonder no.

Speaker 1 (48:57):
Believe it or not, I grew up in a very democratic
household.
That's crazy, but anywho, thereare things that the LGBTQ plus
community does and says thatjust lights a fire under me.
It makes me so angry to be apart of this community.
But then there's there.
There's the exact opposite.
They do things that I want toget out there and I want to
fight and I want to support themand I I find it so hard to

(49:21):
believe that people you know,like I can't imagine nowadays
what it would have been like ifmy father would have just been
like okay, go get out.
I don't know, because likethat's the last, it's the last
family I got um that'sterrifying to me it is.
It is it.
Yeah, it is absolutelyterrifying.
And you know my stepmom, herfather um he preacher, so she

(49:44):
grew up as a preacher's daughter.
So, excuse me, rita's kickingback ham, she's kicking back.
But I just we have so manyproblems in this country we are
talking about.
Oh, inflation is so high, thecost of living is so high.
Then why are super centers andgrocery stores reporting record

(50:06):
profits?
That's what the Democrats andRepublicans should be focusing
on.
Oh, we're getting political.
That's what Orlando Unpluggedis going political.

Speaker 2 (50:11):
No, that's what I'm saying.
That's whatans should befocusing on.
Oh, we're getting political,that's what.
That's what I'm plugged.
It's going political, no,that's what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (50:15):
That's what everyone should be focused on, not who's
marrying who and who's doingwhat behind closed doors.
I will be the first person towalk up and say if a gay man
touches an underage child, I'mright there with capital
punishment.

Speaker 2 (50:30):
Listen, cut it off but I'm the same way when it
comes to straight people.
If a straight man is touchingsomebody that is young underage,
like when we talked about themadeline soto case, we found out
that her dad was, was, was butyou don't see the christian
church trying to crucify thisman because he's a straight man
correct, and and that's thething that I'm just like again,
this is where your religion doesnot dictate my life I

(50:51):
just don't understand, because Igrew up very catholic, very,
very catholic, like sundaychurch was a thing.
It was.
I went to bible study schoollike I went to vacation bible
school during the summertime.
All my friends were going tosummer camp.
I was going to vacation bibleschool like I it was.

(51:11):
It was very much informed andtold that God, this is going to
sound horrible.
And listen, I have myconflicting views when it comes
to the Catholic Church and thosethat are closest to me know
this, so I have no issue.
But I grew up with the conceptof it was Adam and Eve, not Adam
and Steve.
That was what I was raised on.
There was no ifs, andss or butsabout it.

(51:33):
That's how it was.
So in my high school there wasthree.
There was three people in myhigh school that I knew of in my
graduating class.
That's all I knew, and I wasnot friends with them.
It's not because I didn't wantto like, it's not because I was
like, ooh, I chose not to befriends with a gay person.

(51:55):
No, they just did not associatethemselves with us.
We were not.
It was just not a vibe.
It was just how it was.
I also grew up in a householdwhere my dad was kind of like
okay, years ago there was astatistic that came out.
I'm talking like years andyears ago that there was a

(52:15):
statistic that came out, likeI'm talking like years and years
ago that there's a statisticthat came out that said one in
three siblings were gay, so weused to all joke and pick one
I'm.
I'm one of three.
I have two younger siblings yourob, or my sister lauren or
lauren like we all sat there andwe're like which one one is it,
which one is it?
And my dad?

Speaker 1 (52:33):
would be like Ashley we love you, thank you.

Speaker 2 (52:35):
My dad would be like that's not funny, that's not
something to joke about.
You want to know something realfunny.

Speaker 1 (52:42):
Tell me my sister is bisexual.
Uh-huh, and I'm not 100%certain about my brother.
I don't know if he's ever dateda guy, but I think he talked to
one at one point in his life.

Speaker 2 (52:52):
I love that.

Speaker 1 (52:53):
So all three of us?
Yep, nope, which makes sensebecause my mom's bipolar
schizophrenic, so all of herchildren just come out crazy.
But finish your statementbecause I want to plug into this
here, because this is what.

Speaker 2 (53:05):
It was one of those like households, though, that I
grew up in, that like my dadwould go that's not funny, don't
joke about that and that washow we left the conversation.
And then your mom's over herelaying on the floor, cackling,
laughing at gay jokes.
She didn't, though, until yearsafter, like this sounds
horrible.
I love my parents.

(53:25):
I had a pretty okay childhood,like I had a pretty.
I had a normal childhood.
Okay, I had a normal one.
I had a normal childhood.
I had a normal one.
It was normal, but it was oneof those situations where my mom
was a lot more I don't want tosay understanding, but she was.
She saw things differently.
My father was military.
He saw things very black andwhite.
It was the way it was becauseit was.

(53:46):
There is no ifs, ands or butsabout it.
So when I moved to Florida andhello, every single theme park
employee is a proud ally or aproud member of the LGBTQ
community and I'm going.
That's why you're singleincorrect.

Speaker 1 (54:01):
I'm going.

Speaker 2 (54:02):
Oh my god, I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't, I
don't know what to do.
I don't know what to act.
I don't know what to say.
Oh my god, like.
I didn't you realize they'rejust people like you.
Yeah, they really are, and theylike to do things that I like
to do.
Sometimes they just like tosissy that walk listen and
sometimes I just sit there and Ilook at you and I'm just like
how are we friends?
But that would be said whetheryou're gay or straight.

(54:24):
My guy, all right, give me therest of this conversation all
right.

Speaker 1 (54:28):
So in a statement to kptv, old state saloon owner
Mark Fitzpatrick said it's mydream to build a community event
center on some nearby land thatI own to help support
conservative ideas.
Ideals, sorry, ideals.
We've received so many trulyevil comments from the extreme

(54:50):
LGBTQ plus crowd.
Some of these comments aretruly horrific, but there's also
been so much support.
Now I want to focus on hiswords here.

Speaker 2 (55:02):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (55:02):
Because, if you are a member of the LGBTQ plus
community, I want you all tohear this because I do not want
anyone attacking this man.
Whether we agree with thestraight heterosexual pride
month or whatever.
They have received many, somany truly evil comments from

(55:24):
the extreme lgbtq plus crowd.
In that statement I hear thathe is not blaming the entire
community.
He is not saying that all gaypeople are out to attack him.
He said that there has beensupport but extreme LGBTQ plus

(55:45):
community.
I believe in the extremecommunity, in the LGBTQ plus
community, the same way Ibelieve in extreme Christianity.
Who were the people who burnedwitches?
during the witch trials,Extremist Islam?
Who are the people that wereresponsible for 9-11?

Speaker 2 (56:05):
the extreme white.

Speaker 1 (56:06):
This statement burned all the black string with the
glucklux glint this statementbrings to light what I think
more of us should focus on.
Not every community is a badcommunity.
Obviously the nazis, that wholecommunity, was a bad community,
but not every every communityin the world, not the LGBTQ plus
community, not the people ofcolor, not that this, not that

(56:28):
that, but there are extremistsin every single community out
there.
I think that there areextremists in religious
communities, there are extremisthomosexual communities, and I
think that we all, as humanbeings, need to realize that not
every single person in thatcommunity is an extremist.
There are people in the LGBTQplus community that they are

(56:50):
going to fish, for any reason,to start a fight with a straight
person so they can start afight, so they can start a riot,
so they can bring attention.
You do not help your community.
You do not help your communitywhether it be the lgbtq plus,
whether it be a person of color,whether you be asian, whether
you be straight, whether you beanything.

(57:12):
You do not help your communityas an extremist no there are
appropriate channels to gothrough and to fight for your
community.
And yeah, stonewall was a riot.
It started as a riot.
They defended themselves whenattacked.
I will forever stand with that.
They were raided by the police,they were severely beaten and
they fought back.
There is a difference there infighting back and standing up

(57:35):
for yourself and being anextremist person.
And what he said here he didnot.
In my opinion, in my true,honest to god opinion, this man
is not attacking the LGBTQ pluscommunity.
I do think it's a little sillyfor the heterosexual pride,
because you're not prosecutedfor being a straight man.
You're not attacked, you're notbeaten on the side of the
street, you're not killed.
You were never thrown in jailjust for simply being a straight

(57:56):
person.
So I don't think you need atime to celebrate your pride.
But, like I said, at the sametime I'm going to contradict
myself.
Every person deserves tocelebrate themselves, so if they
they want to celebrate the factthat they're straight, go for
it.
But he's not attacking theentire lgbtq community.
He's not saying that the gaypeople are out to attack him.
He said the extremists of ourcommunity are and I hope and I

(58:17):
pray that my community sees thatand they hear that and they
just just leave them alone if hewants to celebrate they're not
going to.
But if he wants to celebrate hisstraight patrons and give them
free beer and lose out on money,so be it.
Mr mr fitzpatrick, I wish youthe best of luck.
I hope everything goes well foryou can I have some straight
beer.

Speaker 2 (58:37):
Can I have some free beer because I'm a straight
woman?

Speaker 1 (58:40):
um well, it actually.
I think I must have missed itin here.
Where is it?
Oh, on Wednesdays, the bar willcelebrate Heterosexual Couples
Day, where heterosexual coupleswill receive 15% off their bill.

Speaker 2 (58:51):
I'm not one of those.

Speaker 1 (58:53):
Well, you're just a woman, so I guess you don't get
anything there.

Speaker 2 (58:57):
Can I have something else to bitch and complain about
, please?
I don't get free beer, but allthe male do.
God, I have to be a freakingcouple I can dress like a
straight man, and we can go aslong as I can pass the test, dr
Greg.

Speaker 1 (59:21):
He's got a lot to work on this week.

Speaker 2 (59:28):
Ashley, my drink is low.
Does this mean the episode'swinding down?
This is our second one thisconversation I need another one
requires some heavy drinking.
Um, okay, I okay here's.
Here's my new opinion, becauseI really don't like the fact,
though, that you're onlysupporting the male population
or the couple population.
As somebody who has been singlefor a year and a half of my
damn life, for my drink, whycan't I be celebrated?

(59:49):
Why do I.

Speaker 1 (59:52):
Maybe you should reach out to him and I am.

Speaker 2 (59:54):
I'm gonna be like listen, I support the fact that
you want to give the thestraight people free beer, but
can you give the straight womenfree beer please?
Because, like I, low-key, likea bed light on tap, thank you
well, that's.

Speaker 1 (01:00:05):
Another thing that I find interesting about this
article is he seems to only havean issue with gay men, not
lesbians.

Speaker 2 (01:00:10):
Because, nothing, because maybe that's what I have
to do then if it's hetero, malemonday what about hetero male
monday?

Speaker 1 (01:00:17):
that's what it's called.
The bar will celebrate heteromale monday what about Hetero
Female?

Speaker 2 (01:00:24):
Tuesday I had to think about the opposite of
family.

Speaker 1 (01:00:28):
What about Hetero?
Taco Tuesday.

Speaker 2 (01:00:32):
Because her vagina is like tacos.

Speaker 1 (01:00:35):
We're going to have to put a disclaimer on the
beginning of this episode.
We went south.

Speaker 2 (01:00:39):
You know what it is.
It's 13.9% ABV.
It's getting to us.

Speaker 1 (01:00:44):
I just want to point out that we didn't say anything
about hoo-hahs until we weretalking about straight people
docos.
I'm so sorry to any of ourfamily that's listening to this
episode.

Speaker 2 (01:00:55):
I'm not because Shan's gonna clap back and
Shan's gonna be like I supportall, listen, I, I am a full, I,
I will, I will jokes aside, Iwill.
You dived here you go, youready.
I may have grown up in theconcept that I don't care what.
If you like what you likewhatever, just don't talk about

(01:01:17):
it to me.
I don't want to know about it,I don't care about it.
If I can't see it, it doesn'texist.
When I moved down to Florida,my entire, obviously my entire
thought process changed becauseFlorida is, is not, orlando is
is very, very much gay.
Yes, so my very good friendsare, are either, are members of
the LGBTQ community.

(01:01:37):
So I, I will never put them onblast, I will never sit there
and be like, unless it'ssomething they're comfortable
with here, let me, let mesupport, like, shout it from the
rooftops, but you know what,like, that's how I am, that's
how I feel, I, as much as wejoke and say that ashley's an
ally and this month is about me.

Speaker 1 (01:01:58):
Just you, honey, just you.

Speaker 2 (01:02:00):
Just out made a random one, random grocery store
random because they think we'redating and they sit there and
be like, oh my God, that's sogreat that you're buying your
boyfriend's groceries.
No, I'm a single girl who canafford my own damn groceries.
We don't need no man, correct.

Speaker 1 (01:02:17):
God we're.
I'm just watching the volume onthe.
It's getting so fucked.

Speaker 2 (01:02:23):
Yeah, it's so.
No, I, I don't.
I.
I'm at a point in my life whereI'm almost 30 dude, I, I don't
care, I don't care.
If that is something that youwant to do, then you know what?
I will put some rainbow colorpasties on my nipples and we
will go to the pride parade andI will paint my ass rainbow, and
that's how it will be.

Speaker 1 (01:02:41):
See, I don't agree with that.

Speaker 2 (01:02:42):
But that's fine, but like if that's what you want to
do, then I will be there withyou and I will hold your hand
and we will go to those parades.
If that's how you want to do it, that's fine.
If you want to make fun of thefact that I want to buy the
mickey and disney world walt,disney world rainbow pride ears,
you know what I'm going to getthem, because to me, that to me,
is like I have done it.

(01:03:05):
I have sat there and I havesaid I support and I love and I
will take bullets and I will doall these things.
You are a very prominent memberof my circle.
You are the person that I callwhen anything happens to me.
This is, this is your life.
This is the same reason whywhen I go on a date or I I'm
talking to somebody, orsomething happens, or you know

(01:03:27):
I'm just having a damn day.
You will support me in whateverdecision I want to make.
It's the same way to me.
I don't care that you are gay,I don't care that you're
straight to me, I give a fuckthat you are my friend and you
are my best friend, which is whywe just celebrated national
best friend day yeah yes, we did.

(01:03:47):
But like, that's how I look atit.
You are my best friend, so Idon't really give a shit who you
decide to sleep with and whoyou don't.
As long as you're not puttingyourself in danger and you're
not jumping off of roofs, Idon't.
I don't really give a fuck, Ireally don't, but I'm gonna wear
their damn rainbow colored shitbecause I fucking can.
It's the same reason that, likethe, the people that that I, I

(01:04:12):
know will work for, for theplaces that they work for, I
will show up to their businessand support them and do all
those things and I will over tipif I need to, if they're
working at restaurants or ifthey're they're working at theme
parks, and I will see them andI will be like, oh my god, I'm
so happy.
It's the same damn concept yeahjust be fucking nice, that's it
that's it.

(01:04:32):
I don't, I don't, I don't thinkany anymore.
Anybody is allowed to sit thereand say that they have an
opinion on anything until we, asin a damn society, can be
fucking nice.
Shut up like just thank you,but just shut up like just stop
talking until you can, honest togod, look at the person next to
you and say one nice fuckingthing about them.

(01:04:53):
Shut up, that's it.
That's my podcast, that's the13.9 apv.

Speaker 1 (01:05:01):
Ashley talking now a couple of things that I want to
reach out If you are a member ofthe LGBTQ.
I've had enough to drink.
If you are a member of the.
LGBTQ plus community.
A couple of things that I wantto say out to you guys.
With Pride Month, there's a lotof feelings that go around, a

(01:05:24):
lot of hardships.
Um, keep in mind that if youneed someone, you need a dad, a
mom, a stepdad, a stepmom, anaunt, an uncle, a brother, a
sister, a cousin, a best friend.
Um, to be in your life and tosupport you.
Feel free to reach out to meand, ashley, I will buy a gay
dad shirt and I will come toyour wedding.
I will be your gay dad, if youneed that.

Speaker 2 (01:05:45):
Stop, I am 30.

Speaker 1 (01:05:47):
I am 30.
I'm old enough to be a fatherto some people.

Speaker 2 (01:05:49):
Jesus Christ.
That's a terrifying concept.

Speaker 1 (01:05:52):
With that being said to all of our listeners around
the entire world.

Speaker 2 (01:05:56):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (01:05:56):
Because we've been on all seven continents.

Speaker 2 (01:05:59):
Look at us go guys.
Oh, I could cry with pride.

Speaker 1 (01:06:03):
It's a celebration.
Oh, I could cry with pride.
If you need someone, a goodfriend of mine, well, I guess
I'm going to call you a goodfriend, Daniel, if you're
listening.
I know someone back home fromEast Tennessee who started
something called Stand In Prideand he has been a stand in
father to several people duringtheir lives, from everything to

(01:06:25):
weddings to graduationceremonies, just to dinner.
Yep, uh, he created anorganization, the organization
called stand in pride to createfamily members to stand in.
If you need one and if you orsomeone you know needs a
stand-in family member, feelfree to reach out to
standinprideorg.
Yes, that is the organizationthat Daniel helped to create and

(01:06:48):
they are out there.
They are there for you to helpyou and provide you with
services.
If you are our listeners basedout of Knoxville, tennessee I'm
going off of what I know, so I'msorry you don't want to reach
out to Stand in Pride, feel freeto reach out to Knox Pride or
South Press Coffee with theirowner, jocelyn, who was
Knoxville's, from myunderstanding, knoxville's first

(01:07:10):
openly trans woman to operate abusiness in Knoxville.
I love it.
She is a wonderful, wonderfulactivist for the trans community
and the LGBTQ plus community asa whole.
Utilize those resources.
Reach out.
If she or they don't know howto help you.
They will get you into contactwith the people you know.

(01:07:31):
You guys, feel free.
I hope I'm not throwing anyoneunder the bus.
I'm using the people that Iknow Big Gay James at Knox Pride
.
He's also on the Knox Pridepodcast.
These are amazing people withinour community that for so many
years these are all people thatI have never hung out with

(01:07:51):
one-on-one.
I've been in social gatheringsthat they've been present, or
I've been to Establishment Smithwith them, or I've been at
Creepy Con, halloween and HorrorConvention and they were a
vendor at one and I've seen howthese people interact with our
communities and I see all thegood that they do and they don't
attack and trying to, like youknow, discredit straight people.

(01:08:12):
They stand up for theircommunities.
They provide assistance whereneeded.
Um, so if you need those things, reach out to them.
And here in in the orlando area, if you're in the orlando area,
I know there's orlando pride.
I don't know anything aboutthem.
I've been so busy since I'vemoved down here that I haven't
gotten to be involved with them.
But you can reach out to I knowright now I know I can say this

(01:08:33):
you can reach out to the RoseDynasty Foundation just
southwest of Orlando.
I had to think where they werelocated.

Speaker 2 (01:08:40):
Also reach out to Dustin and I you can, we are
here we will listen to you, wewill support, we will do
anything you need us to.
You need us to show up toDisney World wearing the rainbow
ears.
I can promise you I willpurchase them and make sure this
man next to me wears them, ifthat's what you need.
I hate rainbow, but I'll do itfor you.
If that's what you need, we'rehere for you.

Speaker 1 (01:08:57):
You need mom or dad hugs.
You've got me and Ashley here.
You need us at a wedding.

Speaker 2 (01:09:02):
We will be there I might look better than you, but
I will be there because I'll besquatting with this booty I am
taking your microphone away fromyou listen.
I think at the end of the day,we just be kind, be kind, that's
it.
We will be there, we willsupport, we will be kind to you,

(01:09:23):
we will hold your hand and getthrough those moments, because
people were there for us andwe're.
You know.
They hold our hands throughmoments.
So I think, at the end of theday, that's all that matters and
that's what we need to talk.
That's that's what.
If you're going to pullanything away from this entire
episode, that's what I hope youpull away.
I hope you pull away with thefact that just be kind to
somebody this next month and allthe months after that.

(01:09:44):
Just be kind.

Speaker 1 (01:09:45):
We want to know from you all In that description
section of the episode, clickthat link to where you guys can
text into the show for yourchance to have your response
read on next week's episode.
We would like to know what isyour opinion on the Old State
Sloan's announcement forheterosexual Mondays.
We are going to ask Give usyour honest feedback, your

(01:10:08):
honest opinion.
We do ask that you, uh, keep itclean.
Ashley and I are the onlypeople allowed to use foul
language on this podcast and wereally try not to, because we we
limit it to a certain amount.
So, uh, youtube and otherplaces, do not um knock us or
knock us down in the algorithmfor foul language, because you
can only use so many words.
So if you do foul, language.

(01:10:31):
It will get edited if you usefoul language.
But we would like to know areyou a member of the LGBTQ
community, Are you a member ofthe heterosexual community or
whatever you want to call it?
On both sides, how do youidentify as a human being and
what are your opinions on it?
Do you think like Ashley, whereit's kind of silly and kind of
dumb, or do you feel like it'sme, where you're kind of like

(01:10:53):
it's their own thing and it'sfor them to do?
But we will definitely pick acouple to read out.
If we have anyone text into theshow because no one's done it
yet.
Please text into the showbecause no one's done it yet
please text into the show please.
We want to talk to you guys,just know that if you do text
into us, we do not actually knowwho you are.
It does not tell us your name,it only tells us the city, uh,
that you are texting us from.

(01:11:14):
So it'll just be a listenerfrom orlando, or a listener from
knoxville or from brighton,united Brighton, united Kingdom.
Edward.

Speaker 2 (01:11:23):
Or Detroit Michigan, or Detroit Michigan.
Mom no, the iconic son.

Speaker 1 (01:11:29):
But until next time, guys, stay safe, stay educated.

Speaker 2 (01:11:34):
And, of course, share our podcast with your friends,
your family and, my personalfavorite, your favorite
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You.