Overcoming Sexual Abuse

If you're a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and neglect, chances are, you've developed habits and a lifestyle that perpetuate mistreatment. Based on the 3 Stages of Self Care, I'll help you identify which stage you're in and your top needs and strategies to support you. You'll be empowered to reverse unloving patterns and create a life where you're well cared for. 

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Even if you've developed boundaries in other relationships, it can be especially difficult to set boundaries with your family. They may still see you as a child and might even feel entitled to have a say in your life. Though it can feel frustrating and even shameful to revert to childhood roles, I share powerful tools for finally asserting yourself so you're free to live on your own terms. 

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In a dysfunctional family, rupture and repair, disconnection and reconnection isn’t modeled to you.  Conflict is threatening so you  betray yourself and work to keep the peace so you can avoid being abandoned. I share from my own life how I’ve overcome this and give you the specific steps for not only engaging in healthy conflict but using it for deeper connection.

Thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. 

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When you’re raised in abuse and neglect, you become very aware of other people’s feelings and needs to keep yourself safer and to get your needs met.  You become sensitive to disappointing people or losing their approval or acceptance and that can lead to exhausting yourself trying to meet their expectations.  I’ll share the powerful keys for working through that so you’re in control of your own life and can finally care for yourse...

Childhood is supposed to prepare you to be an empowered adult but childhood abuse leaves you feeling not only powerless and helpless as a child but throughout your life. The learned helplessness can impact everything from the relationships you settle for to the risks you’re unwilling to take. I’ll share the indications you’re still in learned helplessness and how to own your power and take back control of your life.

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Emotional neglect in childhood has far reaching effects in your life. In fact, most relationship troubles are rooted in the ways you coped with not getting your needs met and the way you learned to attach to people or detach from people. You’ll learn your particular attachment style, not only to transform your relationships, but to heal from the wounds of neglect. To get the masterclass, go to the show notes page: https://overcomin...

With childhood sexual abuse, your needs for protection and nurturing weren’t met. And chances are, the neglect didn’t end in childhood because the way you were treated becomes the way you treat yourself. I’ll share the 7 hidden ways you’re likely perpetuating the cycle of neglect and how to reverse the effects of neglect and abuse. To get the masterclass, go to the show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/021

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If you grew up in dysfunction, it can be very difficult to develop boundaries with your family in adulthood. I’ll share how to overcome the pressures to go along with the way things have been. Then I’ll give you a simple formula for expressing boundaries and some practical tips for thriving during family events. To get the boundaries formula I shared and the boundaries preparation checklist, go to the show notes page: https://overc...

Childhood sexual abuse can lead to perpetual people pleasing even after the abuse ends. I’ll share the damage it causes to yourself and to your relationships and why it’s vital to treat your yes as sacred. I’ll show you the best way to own your no and take back control of your life.  For a list of gracious ways to say no, go to the show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/019

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The relationship with your family of origin is for your survival and well-being. But what if the relationship is actually harmful? At what point is estrangement a good option? I'll share the pros and cons of staying and leaving, the specific ways you can gain more clarity, and the hidden signs that the relationship is actually already over. Show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/018

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It can be excruciating to really see the level of betrayal you’ve experienced with childhood sexual abuse. The betrayal wound creates a chasm in all your relationships until you face and heal it. I share my family’s betrayal and how I navigated that as well as how you can heal the wounds in your own life. Show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/017

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In the last episode, I shared the truths behind those internal and external pressures that keep us locked up with the secrets. I ended with my parents hearing about me speaking out and the certified letter from my mother demanding that I stop. We’ll continue with how I processed her threats, the subsequent lawsuit and how you can better protect yourself from the social and legal consequences of exposing your abuser. Show notes page...