September 13, 2023 • 35 mins
Ever wondered how to break free from your negative habits and build more positive ones? You're not alone.
On this week's podcast, Lisa and April come together to discuss how to truly achieve FREEDOM through Discipline, Routine and positive Habit formation. Offering insights and practical steps to start fostering more productive routines and integration. We unpack the habit snowball, a fascinating concept that explains how habits, good or bad, can swiftly build momentum.
We dive deep into the surprising connection between discipline, routine, and freedom, while sharing useful tools such as Hypnosis for powerful, yet passive habit formation, and how it can rewire our brains to aid us in transforming our identity and adopting healthier habits. We discuss how asking ourselves what a healthy person does can shift our mindset and make the process of habit formation less daunting.
This week, we're going beyond just discussing habit formation. We're emphasizing the importance of surrounding ourselves with supportive people to achieve our habit-forming goals. We'll share personal experiences, tips, and the power of seemingly simple actions like packing your own lunches. Remember, stumbling and falling are part of the process. So join us as we navigate the thrilling journey of habit formation, and discover how to grant ourselves the grace to fall and rise again while we build freedom through intentional living.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Paradigm.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
You Podcast.
Hello and welcome to theParadigm you Podcast.
My name is Lisa Sarnowski,co-host here, and in this week's
episode we are tackling a hugetopic of habit formation what to
do and some practical stepsthat you can take to really
start integrating those newroutines this season with school
(00:22):
starting.
Listen in.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
You're listening to the Paradigm you Podcast.
You're about to starttransforming your life by
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Here we'll cover real lifetopics, just like the stuff
you'd share with a good friend.
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and keep us up at night, whetherit's navigating parenthood and
becoming an adult, or wayfinding, personal development, marriage
and money.
You, my friend, are in theright place.
(00:46):
I'm glad you're here.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
All right, it's a new week and we are talking about a
really big topic this week, sowelcome back to the Paradigm you
Podcast.
Today, lisa and I are talkingabout, I feel like, probably one
of the bigger topics that ishitting me hard right now.
It's the topic of habits.
Lisa, what do you think abouthabit?
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Yeah, such a huge topic.
I absolutely agree with you andyou know I think we're going to
try our best to really breakdown some simple, actionable
steps today.
And a good place to start.
But we also know, as coaches,that this is really where people
need the most support.
So I anticipate doing a lotmore podcasts on this topic, for
(01:29):
sure.
But what a great time of yearto talk about this right.
Especially as moms andentrepreneurs, business owners
out there, this is a busy timeof year.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Yep, if you follow us on social media, you may have
seen one of my recent poststalking about how I just hit
some major resistance in thepast week, and it is probably a
lot of.
It has to do with building newhabits, all of my routines kind
of getting out of whack and thenreally trying to assess like
(01:59):
all right, what actually is ourhabits that are serving me and
what things and habits are notserving me anymore.
And you made it, you're here totell the tale.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
I'm here to talk about it.
That was a great post, by theway, and I know it got some good
engagement.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
You know, it's important to be vulnerable, I
think, when we're hitting thosemoments, because it's easy to
look outward and be like, wow,everybody else has their life
figured out.
It felt important to bevulnerable because I was hitting
a lot of roadblocks, I washitting a lot of resistance, I
was feeling really low, I wasn'ttaking care of myself, I had
(02:36):
kind of spun out as far as myroutines, my habits and the bad
habits were all sneaking in andI realized in that moment of
like, oh man, am I the only onewho's struggling right now?
And you know, I actuallyreached out to you and was like
I'm losing my mind a little bithere and thankfully I have
(02:57):
somebody to actually reach outto.
I know you actually had.
You had responded with what wasthat statistic?
You had said, oh yeah it was awild statistic.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Let me pull it up here and I just want to say that
when you reached out it wasreally validating, because
everyone I know right now is inkind of what I like to refer to
as that disintegration anxiety.
It's that in betweentransitional phase of our summer
routines and habits going by byand we're building into new
(03:31):
school time habits, and thistransitional time is more
exhausting because we'rerebuilding habits and rebuilding
who we are and how our days are.
But okay, I found the statisticapproximately 46.5 million US
adults that's 18% say they haveeither one person or nobody that
(03:54):
they can confide in forpersonal support, and that's
from a 21 associated pressresearch and I found that really
alarming.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
Yeah, it makes my heart a little sad.
It makes me want to reach outto anyone who's listening to
this and just say hey, if youare somebody who feels like you
don't have that person to reachout to, stay with us Absolutely,
we can definitely helpfacilitate some of that.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
And I was going to say and build the habit, like
let's all work together to buildthe habit to reach out, because
women were not really taughtthat habit and that skill set.
As much as we want to right.
There's this whole super womancomplex that we still grew up
with, that we're supposed to beable to do it all.
And we look around and we seeeverybody's social and we see,
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you know, there's a lot of FOMOgoing on with what should I be
doing this weekend with the kidsand all this stuff and it's all
just noise.
But learning how to reach outwhen you actually need the
support is such a great habit, Ithink, to start this school
year with.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Yeah, that was a helpful one for me, for sure, it
definitely recalibrated me.
But going back to habits, youknow, lisa, I can tell you I
spun out pretty hard.
I did have that disintegrationanxiety.
But what I also realized, whenI got quiet and I really started
reflecting on, okay, what'sactually happening here, I
realized that a lot of not sogreat habits had snuck in.
(05:27):
Yeah, I was like I'm just goingto go snoball and you know, on
some earlier podcasts listenersmay have heard me talk about the
habit snowball.
And it can go both ways.
It can be for good habits andyou can just build that momentum
and build that strength, but italso, I've realized, can go the
other way.
Oh yeah, full transparency.
(05:47):
Mine was caffeine and I didn'trealize how I'll use the word
addicted I've become to caffeine, but realizing just how
everything else had kind of spunout in my life because I'd
gotten into this habit of oh, Iget the kids going in the
morning, I get into my office, Ihave my first, like you know,
(06:09):
hit of caffeine in between nineand 10.
And then I like 1130.
It's like oh, where's the nextone?
And then it was oh gosh.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
You know you train your brain right, and we all do
this.
We train our brain at thispoint of our morning routine,
when I'm getting the kids coaton, that's when I grab for my
cup of coffee.
It's a cue, and so rebuildingthe habit really is all about
taking back those triggermoments, those cues that you've
already built other habitsaround to make them positive
(06:41):
ones.
So I'm curious how you've beenretraining your habit of
caffeine.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
Yeah, I'm so glad you asked.
Well, so here's the thing whatI've learned from doing the
personal development work thatI've been doing for as long as I
can remember is it really comesdown to a choice, and in
choosing, how do I want to showup, who do I want to be and what
are the steps that I need totake to change that.
(07:08):
But equally, if it's notsomething that I agree with,
that I'm like, yeah, I sign upfor this, this is why I want to
to be in, you know, my kids toknow me, as Then I just have to
eliminate that as part of myidentity.
So it was a quick.
Like April just doesn't drinkcaffeine anymore, like it's a
thing of the past.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Yeah, you want to hear the funny part.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Yeah, so I?
I don't.
I associate caffeine with likeopening a can and drinking.
I'm not a coffee drinker and soit's, you know, energy drinks.
It's like any kind of like teasthat you can like, buy and cans
and love, like a bunch ofdifferent, like flavored teas in
particular that are veryheavily caffeinated and what so
(07:54):
funny, I'm like all right, well,it's a thing of the past.
April doesn't drink caffeine.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
And so I have an entire fridge stocked of all of
my favorite drinks that Iusually would go to and I'm like
nope, we're just not doing that.
Every time I would open in thefridge, I'm like nope, find
something else, like replacethat with something if I need to
, yeah, but yeah.
So I'm like I'm done withcaffeine.
Couple days into it, I'm likecocky.
I'm like I'm four days in, likelook how good I am at just when
(08:23):
I decide to change a habit.
And then I drink a chai tea.
I was out with a group ofpeople and at a coffee shop,
didn't even occur to me thatthat would have caffeine in it.
But you know, so interestingly,as soon as I drank it I felt
awful.
I had this intense headache andI was foggy for the rest of the
day and it solidified like yep,that's a habit that needs to go
(08:47):
away.
So I also want to say that I'veused hypnosis really really
consistently to kick habits andkick and change things and
rewire my brain on a regularbasis.
And so when I knew that Ineeded to change that habit, I
went to a hypnosis audio trackand I just started doing it.
(09:09):
Some self discipline, hmm.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Such a good one.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
Yep, I do it every single day and it just you know
it.
It's just part of my routinenow, which I really appreciate.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
I love that, congratulations, and you know,
and really just feeling that andbeing in the momentum of
building those habits.
You know, two things popped outto me as you were talking.
The first is you mentioneddiscipline, and discipline is
how we get freedom.
You know, and that concept wasreally hard for me to accept.
(09:40):
There's something about thatword discipline, that I just
pushed back on, so I had to.
For a while I had to use theword commitment to just seem
softer and like, okay, I can dothat.
But when you really think aboutit and take a step back, your
ability to be disciplined withwhat you choose to consume In
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this case no caffeine isultimately what's gonna get you
the freedom to truly have theenergy and be the person that
you want to be.
And so often we think thatfreedom comes with just doing
anything we want.
Right, you're almost kind oflazy, there's no routine and the
reality is the more disciplinedof a person you can become and
learn how to be whether it'sbusiness or life or school you
(10:24):
know school calendar is goodgolly, those are just between
activities and school things iscrazy times these days.
The more disciplined you can be, the more freedom and time
freedom in particular you canhave not.
And of course, financialfreedom.
But the other thing Icompletely forgot.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
I forgot.
I agree, though.
I totally agree with you.
I think discipline is the path,and I actually you know I had
reflected on that, you and whenI called you and I'd hit my like
, holy cow, I'm hitting somemajor resistance, I'm having a
really rough day and a roughweek.
You actually said thatdiscipline is the path to
(11:06):
freedom, and that was whathelped me to recalibrate and
just say okay, what do I need tobe disciplined in to make sure
that I'm living the life that Iwant to live?
So I'm grateful for that.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Well, wonderful, I'm so glad you reached out.
It's important for us to havethese supportive conversation,
and I do remember the second one, and that is when you were
talking about self-hypnosis sucha great tool, that does not get
enough discussion with habitformation and behavior
modification and let alonehealth and healing and wealth
building and all the things thatself-hypnosis can do.
(11:44):
But from a habit formationstandpoint, self-hypnosis is a
wonderful tool.
So maybe you could just, youknow, talk a little bit more
about how that operates sopeople, if they're listening,
can really decide, like I wantto try this because I'm having
some problems really integratingsome new habits into my life
(12:04):
right now.
Speaker 4 (12:05):
Sure, yeah.
So I actually became certifiedas a hypnotherapist earlier this
year and I chose to do thatbecause I wanted to learn more
about why hypnosis was sopowerful for me over the last
few years with healing and withbuilding new habits, with
changing my thought processes,and what I learned was that
(12:29):
through that process was thatusing hypnosis really is
rewiring our brain and modifyingour subconscious, is in a way
where it can recalibrate ouridentity.
If that makes sense and it's, Iwould say it's probably one of
the most passive forms oftherapy that you could do.
(12:51):
It's as easy as it comes.
Like I said, I just I pop in anaudio track and I listen to it
each day, so it's about 27minutes long and I just commit
to like deep breathing andlistening to that and it's been
quite easy for me.
But hypnosis it really startsto get into.
(13:12):
You know, subconsciousreprogramming but also rewiring
the brain and changing yourneural pathways.
So when we have a habit that,if you can imagine, that's like
a road that's been like groovedin on a regular basis.
It's been, you know, driven onfor how long it's, you know,
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paved by this point.
If it's a really strong habitand it could be most people
think, oh, I just would need tolike deconstruct that road if I
want to change something, butwhen, in reality and I'm using
that as an analogy, but ifyou're using that analogy, it
wouldn't be necessarily using ordeconstructing that road it
would actually be like, allright, that road isn't serving
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us anymore.
Let's actually build a new roadand a new path alongside it to
the direction and to the outcomethat we actually want.
So it's shifting your mindsetand changing what is the
identity of who you actuallywant to be and what is the
action steps that would actuallyget you there, and so it's like
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abandoning that old road.
So when I said, for example,that April just doesn't drink
caffeine anymore, it's as easyas that, but you have to commit
to okay.
What are the other things thatI can do to support that?
Because me just saying thatthat's one thing, that's right,
my identity verbally, yep, yeah.
What are all of the actionsteps and how do I believe
(14:44):
internally and deeply thatthat's true and using hypnosis
can actually, I'd say,accelerate that process?
Speaker 2 (14:54):
Yeah for sure.
What a great analogy with theroad being paved in the pathway,
and I want to talk about.
A lot of times when we discusshabits and how to form new
habits again, whether it's tohave your home function more
optimally or your business, oryour career, or just managing
(15:15):
everything that's going on inyour life your health, your
well-being, your finances a lotof times we talk about result
based habits, right, and so alot of times when people talk
about how to build new habits,the conversation starts okay,
well, what do you want?
And let's say, for example, Iwant to lose weight, right.
(15:35):
And then people go well, I wantto in order to lose weight, I
know I need to work out more,and so they go into the process.
What I like to call the processhabit stage, but rarely doesn't
get to that identity levelstage that you're talking about
with self hypnosis, and this isthe key with habit formation is
to really take what you want andthen ask yourself who do I need
(16:00):
to be in order to, in thisexample, lose weight or in order
to build wealth?
What does that person, how dothey operate, what is their
personality, what do theybelieve and what is their
worldview, really give yourselftime to figure out the identity
of who that person is, and thenyou start it's not fake it till
(16:23):
you make it at all, but youstart operating as that person
and that, to me, is where thedisintegration anxiety really
starts kicking in, right?
So I want to be someone whoworks out every day.
Let's say Okay, great.
And you have it in yourschedule and you put it in your
calendar.
You put it in your planner,it's there, at eight o'clock
every day I'm working out, orfor some people it's five am.
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Those people I love you.
Because I'm not a morningperson.
I don't know how you all dothat.
8 am is way too early alreadyfor me but you have it in your
calendar and then you look at itand you're going.
But at this time of day I'mnormally checking my email, or
I'm normally making a pot ofcoffee, or I'm getting the kids
on the bus, whatever it is, andyou're fighting yourself because
(17:05):
you're fighting that oldidentity, just as you were
talking about with caffeine.
And that's where self-hypnosisas a tool can really start to
support and accelerate what agreat word, april accelerate
that identity shift, which isultimately what will make your
habit stick because you are yourhabits, that's it.
We are simply our habits.
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And when we can take a stepback and say, if I'm just my
habits and not personalize it,we are who we are, we got here
how we got here, but I wantsomething to shift, then you
have to go look at your habitsand it's such a practical way to
change your identity is to justbe in the motion of doing
(17:46):
something new and beingdisciplined around that new
activity, to build a new habit.
Am I making sense.
Speaker 4 (17:53):
Yeah, I'm totally following you.
In fact, when you're talkingabout this, I don't even think
it's just actions, I think it'sbehaviors too.
I know for a fact that thereare certain behaviors, that when
I act a certain way, it'stypically a habit at this point
and I start to have thatawareness of like oh, april
(18:16):
response that way.
Well, I don't really like that.
What was me attitude at certaintimes?
that comes out and so havingthat awareness, like you said.
I think that's the key is theawareness and paying attention
to.
Is this something that I'm okaywith?
Is this?
Speaker 2 (18:32):
something.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
I'm willing to accept .
And if I'm willing to acceptthis, what environment does that
create?
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Yeah, yeah, Beautifully said, but ultimately
, this is such a great time ofyear to consider habits and our
new routines.
Right?
Schools here and it's herethrough May or June, so it's not
going anywhere for a while.
What are our school time habits, what are these routines and
how do we really build intothose collectively as a team
(19:03):
unit?
Right?
So now you're also working withyour kids and a potential
partner or other people thatyou're building these new
routines with.
Speaker 4 (19:12):
Yeah, you know, when you're talking about thinking
about who do I need to be?
I have a fun story, a realquick tangent.
But I have a friend who, as youhad mentioned when weight loss,
this is what popped into myhead.
He has been wanting to loseweight and struggled to lose
weight for a really long time.
He's tried all sorts ofdifferent things and here's the
(19:35):
cool part and he started askinghimself what does a healthy
person do?
That was all he did.
He's like I'm just going toshift it Instead of beating
myself up because I eat certainthings or because I'm going to
the gym and I'm doing thesethings, but this isn't working.
Why aren't these things working?
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He decided to eliminate all ofthat and just start asking
himself what does a healthyperson do?
And that was all that shifted.
And now he's down well over 100pounds.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
He's got so much more Good for him.
Speaker 4 (20:10):
Really fun.
But his fun story that he'stold me and shared with me and
actually last spring I don'tknow if I told you he had
invited me down to speak withhis group and teach on the power
of hypnosis and subconscious,because he's like this is just
wild.
I didn't even know that option.
But he's like this is the funstory.
Does a healthy person go andget their meal from a gas
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station?
That was his big thing.
He's like no, a healthy personprobably isn't eating one to two
meals a day from a gas station,and I found that really
interesting.
Of course, he's telling me thisright in the season where we're
running around and we're likequick grab, whatever you can eat
(20:55):
, let's go kids.
But I actually used that storywith my kids.
We did have those moments ofchaos and short times to eat and
then I also realized wait a sec, a healthy person would have
planned out my schedule a littlebit more to think through when
are we eating and said no tothings if it's going to go
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against healthy lifestyle.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
So prepacked a few things?
Yeah, absolutely.
And what you've tapped intothere, what a great story.
I love that and that's what I'mhoping all the listeners can
take away is, whatever it isyou're trying to build a habit
around.
Ask yourself, what would anorganized person do right now,
or what would a healthy persondo right now, what would an
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abundant person do right now,whatever it is strong person,
disciplined person, whatever youneed in that moment to really
shift your habits, really startdrilling in and asking yourself
that what a great, great example.
Speaker 4 (21:57):
Yeah, we actually we ask our kids this often.
If they want to do something,we're like, okay, what would a
wealthy person do?
Or definitely not judgingpeople's choices, but we're just
trying to teach our kids whatwe think are important values.
(22:18):
And I was asking my oldest theother day she wanted to wear
just a huge sweatpants, likesuper baggy, like it was about
to fall off of her these pants,and I said, what does somebody
who's really confident and feelsgood about themselves and is
really ready to show up and takeon the world, what do they wear
(22:39):
?
Do they wear something that'sgoing to weigh them down and
make them feel like I just wantto snuggle up on my couch
because those outfits are supercomfy, don't get me wrong, but I
think there's a place for those.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Sure.
Speaker 4 (22:52):
And not when we're, for example, going to church or
we're going to school or goingto a job interview.
They think that there's some ofthose things that we can start
teaching our kids.
How do you want to show up inthe world and who do you want to
be?
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Absolutely, it.
Really tapping into values isat the core as well with habits
and identity, and they reallyjust synergistically work
together.
So what a great example.
I was trying to think if therewas anything recently with our
kids, but we haven't come up toanything.
I'm sure something's going toexplode at any moment, but today
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is not that day for us.
Speaker 4 (23:29):
Well, hold on a sec.
I want to call you out on that.
If you say I'm sure something'sgoing to come up and explode,
then that's a habit that it isin a weird way.
At least, I'm doing this veryaffectionately as an example for
all of our listeners.
Yes, words are powerful.
Speaker 2 (23:46):
I just called it into my life.
I totally hear that.
Speaker 4 (23:50):
What we call into what we speak, and what our
thoughts are become our reality.
Our thoughts are also a habit,yes, and if you can have that
awareness, if you can catch thatin no judgment, no shame, like,
not like.
Oh man, I just had that thoughtagain.
Come on, I do this too, youguys.
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But here's the thing If we cantake those moments of awareness
when we are at our strongest,then we can start to rebuild
those habits.
We can start to rebuild thosethoughts that become our
feelings, that become ourvibration and our frequency, and
that is how we shift and wechange our environment.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Yeah, indeed, absolutely.
Speaker 4 (24:37):
Oh, such a good podcast.
I'm loving this, so good Habits.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Habits.
We are habits, for sure.
Speaker 4 (24:44):
Yes, and you know, I think one of the other pieces
before we wrap up I think totalk about is deciding what.
When you talked about values,what are the top things that you
want to tackle and not tryingto do them all at once?
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (25:00):
I really do think that this is something that if
you try to do everything it canbe immobilizing, it can feel
overwhelming and you can reallyquickly easily, I think get to a
place of like, oh, this is toomuch yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
And that such sage advice.
I mean when you're building ahabit.
I feel like as someone who hasa very ambitious personality, it
can be very challenging for meto just focus on one thing.
What do you mean?
I'm only going to focus on.
I don't know.
What am I focusing on right now?
(25:36):
Like working out Is that reallyall I'm trying to shift?
But to your point, it'ssnowball so quickly.
If you start to become theperson who does work out every
single day, whatever that meansI say workout, I mean movement
for myself personally.
But the next 90 days you'regoing to do something else and
(25:57):
if you think of these in 90 daychunks, you're building for
strong habits a year minimum.
And the reality is, in myexperience, in my clients
experience, you end up buildinga lot more because you start to
become the person that's able todo these more quickly, because
your mindset does change and youare recalibrating things a lot
(26:21):
quicker and you are juststarting to really live your
values.
So my top value is health.
So, going back to your example,the gentleman who lost all that
weight there was a moment intime this summer where I thought
why, why am I resigned to takemy kids out to eat at a
restaurant when we're up north,when that's sure, that's fun
(26:43):
Occasionally, that's fine, and Ican teach them how to eat
healthy off of the menu or,equally, how to balance out
their day overall.
So we're going to eat out, sowe're going to eat these other
things at home early.
There's other conversations tobe had, but I realized if I just
started packing lunches more,it wasn't to save money, it
wasn't out of lack, it wasbecause it was truly a value
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structure for me.
And and that's where it startsto become fun with true habit
formation is you really get todig into your values and really
live them and truly become theperson you know, and your habits
will reflect that.
Speaker 4 (27:19):
Thank you, yeah, I agree with that.
I just have to do a shout outfor you really quick, for all of
our listeners, if you haven'tseen Lisa's lunches that she
packs, she tends this time ofyear.
She posts pictures of howbeautiful they are and actually
you've posted throughout theyear.
(27:39):
But gosh, lisa, would you mindon the Paradigm U platform,
would you mind posting some ofthese pictures?
And this is the habit that youformed a long time ago and it's
teaching your children how tochoose healthy foods, and
they're building those habitsright alongside you, and I just
think that that's a perfectexample.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Thanks, lady.
Yeah, I'd be happy to shareit's.
What's hilarious for me is mylunch is, growing up were awful.
It was a purely processed foodchild and in second grade I had
the audacity to come home andask my mom really, you packed me
the same lunch again.
And she just throws her handsup in the air and goes that's it
(28:22):
, I'm done.
You pack your lunch from now on.
And we were in a, we were in apro-Kiel school, so we we didn't
have hot lunches, so we had topack lunches, and so I've been
packing lunches since secondgrade.
Wow.
But I have actually come toreally really love them and, to
my kids credit, they really dotoo, and I I cannot stress this
(28:44):
enough I do with their lunchespretty, pretty regularly, what I
refer to as deja food.
It is basically the same foodevery day, but they love it so
much more than even the hotlunches, so I'll take it.
Speaker 4 (29:02):
Pretty awesome.
I think that's a huge win and Ithink that's an awesome habit.
Not only that you'veestablished for yourself, but
now you're teaching your kids,yeah thanks, that's a pretty
cool one, and that goes back todiscipline.
So I just want to kind of likecircle us back and and mind all
of us that the habit piece isimportant, but it's really
(29:24):
choosing to, to lean into thatdiscipline that's going to give
us the freedom, because reallythose habits are going to create
the routines and the routinesthat we choose to create,
whether they're chaos and likerunning around like your head's
on fire at all time or no, not,head hair pants, what's on fire?
Pants on fire, I don't know,pants on fire yeah.
(29:47):
Okay, thank you.
You're running around like inthat chaotic, like holy cow
cycle, or you can choose tobuild a routine that's of ease,
of peace and calm and joy.
We can choose that, but itreally does start with the
habits and the discipline tocommit to.
What are those habits that wewant to form?
(30:08):
Yeah, and once we decide to dothat, that really is living an
intentional life like to itscore.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
Absolutely, absolutely.
And you know I would just.
I would add that the way tomake your life beautiful is just
to choose it and to make it asfun and as easy as you want it
to be right.
And it's one thing.
One thing I tell my kids oftenis you don't have to like it,
you just need to do it.
So when there's resistancecoming up, like you don't have
(30:37):
to like the actual act ofbuilding a new habit, but you
know that you want it, you knowyou want what's on the other
side of it.
So just give yourselfpermission to do it.
And just like your toddlertoddled and fell before he, you
know, crawled before he walked,before he ran, the same with
building habits Give yourselfpermission to fall down, just
(30:59):
get yourself back up and it'llbe an easier action every single
time.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
Yep and equally, I think, surrounding yourself with
others who support thatAbsolutely.
It's a really helpful piece.
So listening to this podcast,for example, that's a great
habit every week.
So for all of you who downloadthis right when it comes out
every week, we are grateful foryou and that cool habit that you
have.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Love you listeners Absolutely.
Speaker 4 (31:27):
Yeah, and if you've been listening to this podcast
and you are like, Okay, I havesome habits that I know I need
to either start or stop, I thinkright, because there's like two
different directions we can gowith habits I'd like to invite
you to really assess what thoselook like.
Lisa, what do you think aboutthat?
Speaker 2 (31:48):
Yeah, absolutely Take a step back, assess what you
actually want and then reallydecide for yourself who do I
need to be, what is thatidentity?
And start taking action to thatidentity for sure.
Speaker 4 (32:02):
Yeah, and we are going to be sending out some
additional information on ourweekly email.
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Speaker 2 (32:10):
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Speaker 4 (32:27):
Yay, all right.
Well, on that note, I hope allof our listeners have an
incredible week.
Lisa, do you have any lastthoughts?
Speaker 2 (32:37):
You know, enjoy the habit formation.
You are your habits.
You got this, just go out thereand do it and pick yourself up
and do it again and again, andagain, and then tell us how
great these habits are.
Speaker 4 (32:48):
Yeah, whatever you've like eliminated like.
If you're like eliminatingcaffeine, I'll be right there
with you.
My friend, she's your buddy, Iam your non-caffeinated friend
over here that's right All time.
But if you're eliminating ahabit or you're starting a habit
, we want to support you withthat and we'd love to hear how
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that's going for you.
And if questions come up, goahead and post those to our
social media pages and we'd behappy to respond to you there.
So, on that note,congratulations on getting back
to school, getting back into anew season.
For everybody who's got kidsgoing back to school, and new
habit formation.
It's a new season Cheers.
(33:29):
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Speaker 1 (33:35):
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Speaker 4 (00:47):
All right, it's a new week and we are talking about a
really big topic this week, sowelcome back to the Paradigm you
Podcast.
Today, lisa and I are talkingabout, I feel like, probably one
of the bigger topics that ishitting me hard right now.
It's the topic of habits.
Lisa, what do you think abouthabit?
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Yeah, such a huge topic.
I absolutely agree with you andyou know I think we're going to
try our best to really breakdown some simple, actionable
steps today.
And a good place to start.
But we also know, as coaches,that this is really where people
need the most support.
So I anticipate doing a lotmore podcasts on this topic, for
(01:29):
sure.
But what a great time of yearto talk about this right.
Especially as moms andentrepreneurs, business owners
out there, this is a busy timeof year.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Yep, if you follow us on social media, you may have
seen one of my recent poststalking about how I just hit
some major resistance in thepast week, and it is probably a
lot of.
It has to do with building newhabits, all of my routines kind
of getting out of whack and thenreally trying to assess like
(01:59):
all right, what actually is ourhabits that are serving me and
what things and habits are notserving me anymore.
And you made it, you're here totell the tale.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
I'm here to talk about it.
That was a great post, by theway, and I know it got some good
engagement.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
You know, it's important to be vulnerable, I
think, when we're hitting thosemoments, because it's easy to
look outward and be like, wow,everybody else has their life
figured out.
It felt important to bevulnerable because I was hitting
a lot of roadblocks, I washitting a lot of resistance, I
was feeling really low, I wasn'ttaking care of myself, I had
(02:36):
kind of spun out as far as myroutines, my habits and the bad
habits were all sneaking in andI realized in that moment of
like, oh man, am I the only onewho's struggling right now?
And you know, I actuallyreached out to you and was like
I'm losing my mind a little bithere and thankfully I have
(02:57):
somebody to actually reach outto.
I know you actually had.
You had responded with what wasthat statistic?
You had said, oh yeah it was awild statistic.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Let me pull it up here and I just want to say that
when you reached out it wasreally validating, because
everyone I know right now is inkind of what I like to refer to
as that disintegration anxiety.
It's that in betweentransitional phase of our summer
routines and habits going by byand we're building into new
(03:31):
school time habits, and thistransitional time is more
exhausting because we'rerebuilding habits and rebuilding
who we are and how our days are.
But okay, I found the statisticapproximately 46.5 million US
adults that's 18% say they haveeither one person or nobody that
(03:54):
they can confide in forpersonal support, and that's
from a 21 associated pressresearch and I found that really
alarming.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
Yeah, it makes my heart a little sad.
It makes me want to reach outto anyone who's listening to
this and just say hey, if youare somebody who feels like you
don't have that person to reachout to, stay with us Absolutely,
we can definitely helpfacilitate some of that.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
And I was going to say and build the habit, like
let's all work together to buildthe habit to reach out, because
women were not really taughtthat habit and that skill set.
As much as we want to right.
There's this whole super womancomplex that we still grew up
with, that we're supposed to beable to do it all.
And we look around and we seeeverybody's social and we see,
(04:46):
you know, there's a lot of FOMOgoing on with what should I be
doing this weekend with the kidsand all this stuff and it's all
just noise.
But learning how to reach outwhen you actually need the
support is such a great habit, Ithink, to start this school
year with.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Yeah, that was a helpful one for me, for sure, it
definitely recalibrated me.
But going back to habits, youknow, lisa, I can tell you I
spun out pretty hard.
I did have that disintegrationanxiety.
But what I also realized, whenI got quiet and I really started
reflecting on, okay, what'sactually happening here, I
realized that a lot of not sogreat habits had snuck in.
(05:27):
Yeah, I was like I'm just goingto go snoball and you know, on
some earlier podcasts listenersmay have heard me talk about the
habit snowball.
And it can go both ways.
It can be for good habits andyou can just build that momentum
and build that strength, but italso, I've realized, can go the
other way.
Oh yeah, full transparency.
(05:47):
Mine was caffeine and I didn'trealize how I'll use the word
addicted I've become to caffeine, but realizing just how
everything else had kind of spunout in my life because I'd
gotten into this habit of oh, Iget the kids going in the
morning, I get into my office, Ihave my first, like you know,
(06:09):
hit of caffeine in between nineand 10.
And then I like 1130.
It's like oh, where's the nextone?
And then it was oh gosh.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
You know you train your brain right, and we all do
this.
We train our brain at thispoint of our morning routine,
when I'm getting the kids coaton, that's when I grab for my
cup of coffee.
It's a cue, and so rebuildingthe habit really is all about
taking back those triggermoments, those cues that you've
already built other habitsaround to make them positive
(06:41):
ones.
So I'm curious how you've beenretraining your habit of
caffeine.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
Yeah, I'm so glad you asked.
Well, so here's the thing whatI've learned from doing the
personal development work thatI've been doing for as long as I
can remember is it really comesdown to a choice, and in
choosing, how do I want to showup, who do I want to be and what
are the steps that I need totake to change that.
(07:08):
But equally, if it's notsomething that I agree with,
that I'm like, yeah, I sign upfor this, this is why I want to
to be in, you know, my kids toknow me, as Then I just have to
eliminate that as part of myidentity.
So it was a quick.
Like April just doesn't drinkcaffeine anymore, like it's a
thing of the past.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Yeah, you want to hear the funny part.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Yeah, so I?
I don't.
I associate caffeine with likeopening a can and drinking.
I'm not a coffee drinker and soit's, you know, energy drinks.
It's like any kind of like teasthat you can like, buy and cans
and love, like a bunch ofdifferent, like flavored teas in
particular that are veryheavily caffeinated and what so
(07:54):
funny, I'm like all right, well,it's a thing of the past.
April doesn't drink caffeine.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
And so I have an entire fridge stocked of all of
my favorite drinks that Iusually would go to and I'm like
nope, we're just not doing that.
Every time I would open in thefridge, I'm like nope, find
something else, like replacethat with something if I need to
, yeah, but yeah.
So I'm like I'm done withcaffeine.
Couple days into it, I'm likecocky.
I'm like I'm four days in, likelook how good I am at just when
(08:23):
I decide to change a habit.
And then I drink a chai tea.
I was out with a group ofpeople and at a coffee shop,
didn't even occur to me thatthat would have caffeine in it.
But you know, so interestingly,as soon as I drank it I felt
awful.
I had this intense headache andI was foggy for the rest of the
day and it solidified like yep,that's a habit that needs to go
(08:47):
away.
So I also want to say that I'veused hypnosis really really
consistently to kick habits andkick and change things and
rewire my brain on a regularbasis.
And so when I knew that Ineeded to change that habit, I
went to a hypnosis audio trackand I just started doing it.
(09:09):
Some self discipline, hmm.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Such a good one.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
Yep, I do it every single day and it just you know
it.
It's just part of my routinenow, which I really appreciate.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
I love that, congratulations, and you know,
and really just feeling that andbeing in the momentum of
building those habits.
You know, two things popped outto me as you were talking.
The first is you mentioneddiscipline, and discipline is
how we get freedom.
You know, and that concept wasreally hard for me to accept.
(09:40):
There's something about thatword discipline, that I just
pushed back on, so I had to.
For a while I had to use theword commitment to just seem
softer and like, okay, I can dothat.
But when you really think aboutit and take a step back, your
ability to be disciplined withwhat you choose to consume In
(10:00):
this case no caffeine isultimately what's gonna get you
the freedom to truly have theenergy and be the person that
you want to be.
And so often we think thatfreedom comes with just doing
anything we want.
Right, you're almost kind oflazy, there's no routine and the
reality is the more disciplinedof a person you can become and
learn how to be whether it'sbusiness or life or school you
(10:24):
know school calendar is goodgolly, those are just between
activities and school things iscrazy times these days.
The more disciplined you can be, the more freedom and time
freedom in particular you canhave not.
And of course, financialfreedom.
But the other thing Icompletely forgot.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
I forgot.
I agree, though.
I totally agree with you.
I think discipline is the path,and I actually you know I had
reflected on that, you and whenI called you and I'd hit my like
, holy cow, I'm hitting somemajor resistance, I'm having a
really rough day and a roughweek.
You actually said thatdiscipline is the path to
(11:06):
freedom, and that was whathelped me to recalibrate and
just say okay, what do I need tobe disciplined in to make sure
that I'm living the life that Iwant to live?
So I'm grateful for that.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Well, wonderful, I'm so glad you reached out.
It's important for us to havethese supportive conversation,
and I do remember the second one, and that is when you were
talking about self-hypnosis sucha great tool, that does not get
enough discussion with habitformation and behavior
modification and let alonehealth and healing and wealth
building and all the things thatself-hypnosis can do.
(11:44):
But from a habit formationstandpoint, self-hypnosis is a
wonderful tool.
So maybe you could just, youknow, talk a little bit more
about how that operates sopeople, if they're listening,
can really decide, like I wantto try this because I'm having
some problems really integratingsome new habits into my life
(12:04):
right now.
Speaker 4 (12:05):
Sure, yeah.
So I actually became certifiedas a hypnotherapist earlier this
year and I chose to do thatbecause I wanted to learn more
about why hypnosis was sopowerful for me over the last
few years with healing and withbuilding new habits, with
changing my thought processes,and what I learned was that
(12:29):
through that process was thatusing hypnosis really is
rewiring our brain and modifyingour subconscious, is in a way
where it can recalibrate ouridentity.
If that makes sense and it's, Iwould say it's probably one of
the most passive forms oftherapy that you could do.
(12:51):
It's as easy as it comes.
Like I said, I just I pop in anaudio track and I listen to it
each day, so it's about 27minutes long and I just commit
to like deep breathing andlistening to that and it's been
quite easy for me.
But hypnosis it really startsto get into.
(13:12):
You know, subconsciousreprogramming but also rewiring
the brain and changing yourneural pathways.
So when we have a habit that,if you can imagine, that's like
a road that's been like groovedin on a regular basis.
It's been, you know, driven onfor how long it's, you know,
(13:34):
paved by this point.
If it's a really strong habitand it could be most people
think, oh, I just would need tolike deconstruct that road if I
want to change something, butwhen, in reality and I'm using
that as an analogy, but ifyou're using that analogy, it
wouldn't be necessarily using ordeconstructing that road it
would actually be like, allright, that road isn't serving
(13:57):
us anymore.
Let's actually build a new roadand a new path alongside it to
the direction and to the outcomethat we actually want.
So it's shifting your mindsetand changing what is the
identity of who you actuallywant to be and what is the
action steps that would actuallyget you there, and so it's like
(14:20):
abandoning that old road.
So when I said, for example,that April just doesn't drink
caffeine anymore, it's as easyas that, but you have to commit
to okay.
What are the other things thatI can do to support that?
Because me just saying thatthat's one thing, that's right,
my identity verbally, yep, yeah.
What are all of the actionsteps and how do I believe
(14:44):
internally and deeply thatthat's true and using hypnosis
can actually, I'd say,accelerate that process?
Speaker 2 (14:54):
Yeah for sure.
What a great analogy with theroad being paved in the pathway,
and I want to talk about.
A lot of times when we discusshabits and how to form new
habits again, whether it's tohave your home function more
optimally or your business, oryour career, or just managing
(15:15):
everything that's going on inyour life your health, your
well-being, your finances a lotof times we talk about result
based habits, right, and so alot of times when people talk
about how to build new habits,the conversation starts okay,
well, what do you want?
And let's say, for example, Iwant to lose weight, right.
(15:35):
And then people go well, I wantto in order to lose weight, I
know I need to work out more,and so they go into the process.
What I like to call the processhabit stage, but rarely doesn't
get to that identity levelstage that you're talking about
with self hypnosis, and this isthe key with habit formation is
to really take what you want andthen ask yourself who do I need
(16:00):
to be in order to, in thisexample, lose weight or in order
to build wealth?
What does that person, how dothey operate, what is their
personality, what do theybelieve and what is their
worldview, really give yourselftime to figure out the identity
of who that person is, and thenyou start it's not fake it till
(16:23):
you make it at all, but youstart operating as that person
and that, to me, is where thedisintegration anxiety really
starts kicking in, right?
So I want to be someone whoworks out every day.
Let's say Okay, great.
And you have it in yourschedule and you put it in your
calendar.
You put it in your planner,it's there, at eight o'clock
every day I'm working out, orfor some people it's five am.
(16:45):
Those people I love you.
Because I'm not a morningperson.
I don't know how you all dothat.
8 am is way too early alreadyfor me but you have it in your
calendar and then you look at itand you're going.
But at this time of day I'mnormally checking my email, or
I'm normally making a pot ofcoffee, or I'm getting the kids
on the bus, whatever it is, andyou're fighting yourself because
(17:05):
you're fighting that oldidentity, just as you were
talking about with caffeine.
And that's where self-hypnosisas a tool can really start to
support and accelerate what agreat word, april accelerate
that identity shift, which isultimately what will make your
habit stick because you are yourhabits, that's it.
We are simply our habits.
(17:26):
And when we can take a stepback and say, if I'm just my
habits and not personalize it,we are who we are, we got here
how we got here, but I wantsomething to shift, then you
have to go look at your habitsand it's such a practical way to
change your identity is to justbe in the motion of doing
(17:46):
something new and beingdisciplined around that new
activity, to build a new habit.
Am I making sense.
Speaker 4 (17:53):
Yeah, I'm totally following you.
In fact, when you're talkingabout this, I don't even think
it's just actions, I think it'sbehaviors too.
I know for a fact that thereare certain behaviors, that when
I act a certain way, it'stypically a habit at this point
and I start to have thatawareness of like oh, april
(18:16):
response that way.
Well, I don't really like that.
What was me attitude at certaintimes?
that comes out and so havingthat awareness, like you said.
I think that's the key is theawareness and paying attention
to.
Is this something that I'm okaywith?
Is this?
Speaker 2 (18:32):
something.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
I'm willing to accept .
And if I'm willing to acceptthis, what environment does that
create?
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Yeah, yeah, Beautifully said, but ultimately
, this is such a great time ofyear to consider habits and our
new routines.
Right?
Schools here and it's herethrough May or June, so it's not
going anywhere for a while.
What are our school time habits, what are these routines and
how do we really build intothose collectively as a team
(19:03):
unit?
Right?
So now you're also working withyour kids and a potential
partner or other people thatyou're building these new
routines with.
Speaker 4 (19:12):
Yeah, you know, when you're talking about thinking
about who do I need to be?
I have a fun story, a realquick tangent.
But I have a friend who, as youhad mentioned when weight loss,
this is what popped into myhead.
He has been wanting to loseweight and struggled to lose
weight for a really long time.
He's tried all sorts ofdifferent things and here's the
(19:35):
cool part and he started askinghimself what does a healthy
person do?
That was all he did.
He's like I'm just going toshift it Instead of beating
myself up because I eat certainthings or because I'm going to
the gym and I'm doing thesethings, but this isn't working.
Why aren't these things working?
(19:55):
He decided to eliminate all ofthat and just start asking
himself what does a healthyperson do?
And that was all that shifted.
And now he's down well over 100pounds.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
He's got so much more Good for him.
Speaker 4 (20:10):
Really fun.
But his fun story that he'stold me and shared with me and
actually last spring I don'tknow if I told you he had
invited me down to speak withhis group and teach on the power
of hypnosis and subconscious,because he's like this is just
wild.
I didn't even know that option.
But he's like this is the funstory.
Does a healthy person go andget their meal from a gas
(20:34):
station?
That was his big thing.
He's like no, a healthy personprobably isn't eating one to two
meals a day from a gas station,and I found that really
interesting.
Of course, he's telling me thisright in the season where we're
running around and we're likequick grab, whatever you can eat
(20:55):
, let's go kids.
But I actually used that storywith my kids.
We did have those moments ofchaos and short times to eat and
then I also realized wait a sec, a healthy person would have
planned out my schedule a littlebit more to think through when
are we eating and said no tothings if it's going to go
(21:17):
against healthy lifestyle.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
So prepacked a few things?
Yeah, absolutely.
And what you've tapped intothere, what a great story.
I love that and that's what I'mhoping all the listeners can
take away is, whatever it isyou're trying to build a habit
around.
Ask yourself, what would anorganized person do right now,
or what would a healthy persondo right now, what would an
(21:42):
abundant person do right now,whatever it is strong person,
disciplined person, whatever youneed in that moment to really
shift your habits, really startdrilling in and asking yourself
that what a great, great example.
Speaker 4 (21:57):
Yeah, we actually we ask our kids this often.
If they want to do something,we're like, okay, what would a
wealthy person do?
Or definitely not judgingpeople's choices, but we're just
trying to teach our kids whatwe think are important values.
(22:18):
And I was asking my oldest theother day she wanted to wear
just a huge sweatpants, likesuper baggy, like it was about
to fall off of her these pants,and I said, what does somebody
who's really confident and feelsgood about themselves and is
really ready to show up and takeon the world, what do they wear
(22:39):
?
Do they wear something that'sgoing to weigh them down and
make them feel like I just wantto snuggle up on my couch
because those outfits are supercomfy, don't get me wrong, but I
think there's a place for those.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Sure.
Speaker 4 (22:52):
And not when we're, for example, going to church or
we're going to school or goingto a job interview.
They think that there's some ofthose things that we can start
teaching our kids.
How do you want to show up inthe world and who do you want to
be?
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Absolutely, it.
Really tapping into values isat the core as well with habits
and identity, and they reallyjust synergistically work
together.
So what a great example.
I was trying to think if therewas anything recently with our
kids, but we haven't come up toanything.
I'm sure something's going toexplode at any moment, but today
(23:27):
is not that day for us.
Speaker 4 (23:29):
Well, hold on a sec.
I want to call you out on that.
If you say I'm sure something'sgoing to come up and explode,
then that's a habit that it isin a weird way.
At least, I'm doing this veryaffectionately as an example for
all of our listeners.
Yes, words are powerful.
Speaker 2 (23:46):
I just called it into my life.
I totally hear that.
Speaker 4 (23:50):
What we call into what we speak, and what our
thoughts are become our reality.
Our thoughts are also a habit,yes, and if you can have that
awareness, if you can catch thatin no judgment, no shame, like,
not like.
Oh man, I just had that thoughtagain.
Come on, I do this too, youguys.
(24:12):
But here's the thing If we cantake those moments of awareness
when we are at our strongest,then we can start to rebuild
those habits.
We can start to rebuild thosethoughts that become our
feelings, that become ourvibration and our frequency, and
that is how we shift and wechange our environment.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Yeah, indeed, absolutely.
Speaker 4 (24:37):
Oh, such a good podcast.
I'm loving this, so good Habits.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Habits.
We are habits, for sure.
Speaker 4 (24:44):
Yes, and you know, I think one of the other pieces
before we wrap up I think totalk about is deciding what.
When you talked about values,what are the top things that you
want to tackle and not tryingto do them all at once?
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (25:00):
I really do think that this is something that if
you try to do everything it canbe immobilizing, it can feel
overwhelming and you can reallyquickly easily, I think get to a
place of like, oh, this is toomuch yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
And that such sage advice.
I mean when you're building ahabit.
I feel like as someone who hasa very ambitious personality, it
can be very challenging for meto just focus on one thing.
What do you mean?
I'm only going to focus on.
I don't know.
What am I focusing on right now?
(25:36):
Like working out Is that reallyall I'm trying to shift?
But to your point, it'ssnowball so quickly.
If you start to become theperson who does work out every
single day, whatever that meansI say workout, I mean movement
for myself personally.
But the next 90 days you'regoing to do something else and
(25:57):
if you think of these in 90 daychunks, you're building for
strong habits a year minimum.
And the reality is, in myexperience, in my clients
experience, you end up buildinga lot more because you start to
become the person that's able todo these more quickly, because
your mindset does change and youare recalibrating things a lot
(26:21):
quicker and you are juststarting to really live your
values.
So my top value is health.
So, going back to your example,the gentleman who lost all that
weight there was a moment intime this summer where I thought
why, why am I resigned to takemy kids out to eat at a
restaurant when we're up north,when that's sure, that's fun
(26:43):
Occasionally, that's fine, and Ican teach them how to eat
healthy off of the menu or,equally, how to balance out
their day overall.
So we're going to eat out, sowe're going to eat these other
things at home early.
There's other conversations tobe had, but I realized if I just
started packing lunches more,it wasn't to save money, it
wasn't out of lack, it wasbecause it was truly a value
(27:04):
structure for me.
And and that's where it startsto become fun with true habit
formation is you really get todig into your values and really
live them and truly become theperson you know, and your habits
will reflect that.
Speaker 4 (27:19):
Thank you, yeah, I agree with that.
I just have to do a shout outfor you really quick, for all of
our listeners, if you haven'tseen Lisa's lunches that she
packs, she tends this time ofyear.
She posts pictures of howbeautiful they are and actually
you've posted throughout theyear.
(27:39):
But gosh, lisa, would you mindon the Paradigm U platform,
would you mind posting some ofthese pictures?
And this is the habit that youformed a long time ago and it's
teaching your children how tochoose healthy foods, and
they're building those habitsright alongside you, and I just
think that that's a perfectexample.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Thanks, lady.
Yeah, I'd be happy to shareit's.
What's hilarious for me is mylunch is, growing up were awful.
It was a purely processed foodchild and in second grade I had
the audacity to come home andask my mom really, you packed me
the same lunch again.
And she just throws her handsup in the air and goes that's it
(28:22):
, I'm done.
You pack your lunch from now on.
And we were in a, we were in apro-Kiel school, so we we didn't
have hot lunches, so we had topack lunches, and so I've been
packing lunches since secondgrade.
Wow.
But I have actually come toreally really love them and, to
my kids credit, they really dotoo, and I I cannot stress this
(28:44):
enough I do with their lunchespretty, pretty regularly, what I
refer to as deja food.
It is basically the same foodevery day, but they love it so
much more than even the hotlunches, so I'll take it.
Speaker 4 (29:02):
Pretty awesome.
I think that's a huge win and Ithink that's an awesome habit.
Not only that you'veestablished for yourself, but
now you're teaching your kids,yeah thanks, that's a pretty
cool one, and that goes back todiscipline.
So I just want to kind of likecircle us back and and mind all
of us that the habit piece isimportant, but it's really
(29:24):
choosing to, to lean into thatdiscipline that's going to give
us the freedom, because reallythose habits are going to create
the routines and the routinesthat we choose to create,
whether they're chaos and likerunning around like your head's
on fire at all time or no, not,head hair pants, what's on fire?
Pants on fire, I don't know,pants on fire yeah.
(29:47):
Okay, thank you.
You're running around like inthat chaotic, like holy cow
cycle, or you can choose tobuild a routine that's of ease,
of peace and calm and joy.
We can choose that, but itreally does start with the
habits and the discipline tocommit to.
What are those habits that wewant to form?
(30:08):
Yeah, and once we decide to dothat, that really is living an
intentional life like to itscore.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
Absolutely, absolutely.
And you know I would just.
I would add that the way tomake your life beautiful is just
to choose it and to make it asfun and as easy as you want it
to be right.
And it's one thing.
One thing I tell my kids oftenis you don't have to like it,
you just need to do it.
So when there's resistancecoming up, like you don't have
(30:37):
to like the actual act ofbuilding a new habit, but you
know that you want it, you knowyou want what's on the other
side of it.
So just give yourselfpermission to do it.
And just like your toddlertoddled and fell before he, you
know, crawled before he walked,before he ran, the same with
building habits Give yourselfpermission to fall down, just
(30:59):
get yourself back up and it'llbe an easier action every single
time.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
Yep and equally, I think, surrounding yourself with
others who support thatAbsolutely.
It's a really helpful piece.
So listening to this podcast,for example, that's a great
habit every week.
So for all of you who downloadthis right when it comes out
every week, we are grateful foryou and that cool habit that you
have.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Love you listeners Absolutely.
Speaker 4 (31:27):
Yeah, and if you've been listening to this podcast
and you are like, Okay, I havesome habits that I know I need
to either start or stop, I thinkright, because there's like two
different directions we can gowith habits I'd like to invite
you to really assess what thoselook like.
Lisa, what do you think aboutthat?
Speaker 2 (31:48):
Yeah, absolutely Take a step back, assess what you
actually want and then reallydecide for yourself who do I
need to be, what is thatidentity?
And start taking action to thatidentity for sure.
Speaker 4 (32:02):
Yeah, and we are going to be sending out some
additional information on ourweekly email.
Is that true?
Speaker 2 (32:10):
That is true.
Yes, we got some fun insiderinformation we would love to
share with you.
So if you're listening here butyou're not on our newsletter
list, please hop on there,because we got something super
exciting we are sharing onlywith our email subscribers next
week.
Speaker 4 (32:27):
Yay, all right.
Well, on that note, I hope allof our listeners have an
incredible week.
Lisa, do you have any lastthoughts?
Speaker 2 (32:37):
You know, enjoy the habit formation.
You are your habits.
You got this, just go out thereand do it and pick yourself up
and do it again and again, andagain, and then tell us how
great these habits are.
Speaker 4 (32:48):
Yeah, whatever you've like eliminated like.
If you're like eliminatingcaffeine, I'll be right there
with you.
My friend, she's your buddy, Iam your non-caffeinated friend
over here that's right All time.
But if you're eliminating ahabit or you're starting a habit
, we want to support you withthat and we'd love to hear how
(33:09):
that's going for you.
And if questions come up, goahead and post those to our
social media pages and we'd behappy to respond to you there.
So, on that note,congratulations on getting back
to school, getting back into anew season.
For everybody who's got kidsgoing back to school, and new
habit formation.
It's a new season Cheers.
(33:29):
Yeah, all right, on that note,it is closing time.
Cheers to good karma.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
Thank you for listening to this entire podcast
.
I hope this episode has leftyou feeling curious and inspired
.
This podcast is intended tocreate expansion in your life
through unique stories andshared experiences, and if you
enjoy today's episode, I have arequest.
I'd like to ask you to sharethis podcast with your friends
and family.
(33:55):
I bet they'd enjoy it just asmuch as you have.
And, if you found value, pleaseshare this on your social media
outlets.
That is good karma in action.
My friends, all right, it isnow closing time.
Cheers to good karma and thepower to choose joy.
Stay tuned for the end, becausewe have outtakes.
Speaker 3 (34:17):
And now for the outtakes.
And now for the outtakes.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
If you like this, tell your friends.
Speaker 4 (34:25):
Hold on, I'm totally using this as outtake.
Go for it.
Speaker 1 (34:31):
Oh, that was fun, I got tongue-tied.
Hey, you've been listening.
Test one, two, three, four.
Speaker 4 (34:40):
Okay, Now say hey, welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 1 (34:44):
Hey, welcome to the podcast.
You're really great.
Everyone, everyone that'slistening to this podcast, even
if they don't even hear the rest, even if they only can listen
to a part of it because of ascreaming baby You're all really
awesome.
Yeah, thanks for listening.
Bye-bye, bye, Over and out.
Thanks for listening.
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