September 22, 2023 • 38 mins
One big problem that women and clients keep talking to us about is how to juggle all the plates in this season of life. The combination of too little time, big ambitions, angst to grow our wealth and fears we’ll never sleep or have energy again leaves us feeling more stressed than ever before.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Paradigm you podcast.
You're listening to theParadigm you podcast.
This is episode 150.
Woop, woop.
On this episode, lisa and Idive into a topic that we both
are seeing and hearing a wholeawful lot with our clients and
with a lot of listeners who arereaching out.
(00:21):
So thank you to each of you whoreaches out and shares
vulnerable stories and questions, all in the name of growing and
stretching yourself to live thelife that you dream.
A topic that we hear often isthe struggle to juggle all the
plates.
In this season of life, thecombination of too little time,
big ambitions, the angst to growour wealth and perhaps even the
(00:45):
fears that will never sleepagain or have enough energy,
leaves us feeling more stressedthan ever before.
If you can relate to any ofthose things that I just listed
off you, my friends, are in theright spot.
Listen in to the end of thispodcast, because we have some
big news and a very specialinvitation just for you.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
You're listening to the Paradigm you podcast.
You're about to starttransforming your life by
growing your mind and expandingyour paradigms.
Here we'll cover real lifetopics, just like the stuff
you'd share with a good friend.
This podcast will serve uptopics that weigh on our hearts
and keep us up at night, whetherit's navigating parenthood and
becoming an adult, or wayfinding, personal development, marriage
and money.
You, my friend, are in theright place.
(01:26):
I'm glad you're here.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
All right well, welcome back to another episode
of the Paradigm you podcast.
My name is AprilMarleski-Hudzinski and I am the
co-host of this awesome podcastalongside the brilliant and
incredible Lisa Sarnowski.
Lisa, how are you doing?
Whoa, whoa, I'm great.
Momentum we are downloaded.
Lisa, I don't know if you knowthis, but we are downloaded in,
like I think it's eightdifferent countries on a regular
(01:49):
basis.
Whoa, that's amazing.
Big shout out to our listeners.
Yeah, very fun, and I think youknow.
The last time I checked, Ithink we are in almost every
state, which is also pretty coolin the United States.
Amazing.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
We want to con-visit each one of you.
I have a goal to get to everysingle state.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
All right, you've heard it here first.
I like that idea.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Can't prevent, We'll just, we'll do take a road show.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Don't cheat me, all right.
Well, anyways, I want to saythank you to all of the
listeners because, as Imentioned, the podcast is
definitely building a lot ofmomentum, and I think one of the
key reasons why this ishappening is, if I had to guess
the things that you and I, lisa,are talking about, I think a
(02:34):
lot of people can relate.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
And I think you know, I think a lot of people may be
suffering or struggling withthings or, you know, bumping up
against some sort of resistancein the privacy of their own home
and their own environments.
But not too quick to maybeshare all of that, you agree.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Oh yeah, I think the silent suffering and the silent
struggle it's something thatwe've been.
It's like a conditionedresponse at this, this age and
season of life, and to take asecond to pause and go wait a
second.
What would I want if I wasn'tstruggling or I wasn't silent
about this?
I think that's really great,that we're able to put a voice
there for people to connect with.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
It's very cool and I think the other piece that gets
me lit up is this reality thatbeing open and transparent and
vulnerable, I think that's whatspeaks to a lot of listeners and
I feel so honored that you knowyou and I can navigate and
maybe even try to climb throughthings and figure it out and
(03:41):
then sharing our stories.
it's exciting to hear that thatcan have a really large impact
for many people.
So, lisa, if you're cool withit today, you know it is really
exciting to realize how muchmomentum the podcast is getting.
But there's been a handful ofpeople that have reached out
recently that have shared someof the things that they are
(04:02):
wrestling with, and I would liketo take this podcast, if you're
open to it, to just reallyanswer some of those questions
and be a resource and be a guidefor people who may be looking
for somebody else who has maybea few steps ahead of them on the
journey.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I love that idea and first of all, I wanna add big
shout out to everyone who'sreached out, because that is
some vulnerability and strengthto not only identify what it is
that you may need, but reach outto someone and ask for it.
So thanks for reaching out,keep the comments and
suggestions coming and, yeah,let's dive in Apes.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Cool.
Well, some of the topics that Ihave heard in the last just week
, just this week alone, werethings like hey, I'm struggling
with our personal finances, Iwanna figure out how to create
generational wealth and yet,equally, I'm really unclear on
where it even starts.
(04:57):
Equally, some of the otherthings that people have been
wrestling with is I'll use themessage I just got this weekend.
It said I feel like I'm burningthe candle at both ends, in
fact, all ends, and I have noidea when this will stop.
I'm just out and I don't knowhow to get out of this vicious
(05:18):
like hamster wheel or the cycletrying to be everything for
everyone, and one of themessages I think that person, if
I had to guess, I think thatthey had mentioned that they had
like three or four children andthey are working full time and
they're trying to just keep theship sailing.
(05:39):
That's right.
And how to overcome some ofthose day to day challenges and,
equally, take a moment toactually reflect on what it is
they even want.
I think there's a little bit ofa disconnect there and I'd love
to tackle some of those topicstoday.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Yeah, those are some good and big topics, for sure.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Yeah, I can relate.
I feel like I've been there andI feel like we all hit some of
those seasons.
At least can you think of anexample of like when you hit a
season of life like that whereyou're like holy cow, something
needs to change, and I'm unclearof what it is.
Or I know something needs tochange and I just need to take
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the time to figure it out.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
Yeah, absolutely, I mean.
So.
I've been coaching now for over15 years and part of that
journey I'm a firm believer thatevery coach needs a coach, and
so I've been involved in a lotof coaching over the years
programs, private, you name itI've done it.
And but there was oneparticular season of life that
it really I'll use the word Ifelt really lost.
(06:48):
I felt really stagnant.
I just I didn't really knowwhat was happening.
But ultimately, the thread thatties all of my decisions to get
coaching together is that I knewthat Changes in my life or my
business, I wanted change tohappen, and I knew that I
wouldn't be able to answer andsolve for that in my own head.
(07:09):
I needed some external Stretch,and here's what I mean by
stretch.
So If if you're listening, I'msure if I would ask you who's
your support network, you couldcome up with a few names.
Maybe it's a partner, a bestfriend, the other soccer moms
that you see on Saturdays at thegames, whatever it is, you have
(07:29):
a little support network.
In business, this might be anetworking group, okay, but it
was important for me on myjourney to identify key times in
my life where I had people thatwould stretch me.
Okay, because supportive peoplewant to keep you in your comfort
zone.
It's just by design, because ifyou change and you become
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outside of your comfort zone,now you change the equilibrium
and now you change the familydynamics, and now you change
everything in your mind for thepositive.
But in their mind now they'retrying to keep up and so, by
design, your support of peopleare Are keeping you comfortable,
right, and that's definitely asign of love and devotion.
(08:11):
That's not necessarily anythingnegative, but if you're, if
you're looking for something toactively change in your life
whether it be more wealth,whether it be decluttering your
house, whether it be being morepresent with your kids or
mindful parenting, or losingweight or whatever it is you
need to find people on yourjourney that are willing to
stretch you, willing to ask thehard questions, willing to come
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at something from a completelydifferent set of eyes instead of
circumstances.
And there was one part in myjourney it was about, oh man,
three years ago now that I justand I think I've shared with the
listeners I looked around and Ididn't recognize my.
I recognized my life almost toomuch, but I didn't recognize
myself anymore and I knew I hadto be with other people that
(08:55):
were willing to look me in theface and basically call you know
BS on my, my stories and what Iwas allowing myself to suffer
silently through.
Wow.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Yeah, so when you found yourself in that moment of
life, what were the steps thatyou found most helpful?
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Oh, I mean truly when I when I said earlier on just
being aware and Willing to bevulnerable and ask for the
support to people that havereached out to us through DMs.
That is a key first step.
So if you're able and willingto do that already, you're on
the right, the right path.
(09:39):
But otherwise, you know, what Ireally started to do was just
focus in on remembering that Iam.
I'm the captain of this familyship.
Right?
The moms, I think listeningthis, the single parents, the
dads we all understand thatthere tends to be one main
person operating the family,social dynamics and and
(10:01):
household management and ofcourse, there's duality and
support there.
I don't mean to begrudge anyone, but I, in talking to other
moms, what I've come to realizeis it tends to fall that we are
the captains of the ship and Irecognize very quickly that I
was going down and when I godown, I take the whole family
down Because I'm unable tosupport the emotional needs of
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the kids, I'm unable to maintainother things going on in the
house.
So I really needed to reframemy mind that taking care of
myself, this is not self-care,taskless Okay, this is well
beyond that but learning trulywhat this next level, season of
life, embodiment of reallyputting myself first, how that
(10:47):
in and of itself would have amassive ripple effect on my
family and the Dynamics and ourgenerational wealth.
It was a I had to really flipthat mindset.
Let me tell you, I can bestubborn sometimes and I really,
I really thought that because Iwas, I Subconsciously or
consciously really took on thatpersona, that identity of
(11:09):
superwoman.
Right, I'm the mom I'm supposedto put everyone first.
I'm supposed to care for myailing not ailing, but aging
mother and my in-laws andeverybody else around me my, my
partner.
And why would I ever ever thinkof putting myself first?
Why would I ever think that Icould have two hours a week to
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Invest in just learning how toimprove my inner self?
That made no sense to me, and Ihad been coaching for years
Because all of my coachingpreviously was based around I
want more clients, right, I needto learn how to do marketing
messaging better.
It was business focused or itwas High-level, very specific,
(11:53):
health focused.
It was I want to lose weight, Iwant to exercise more, I want
to, you know, gain more muscle,whatever it was.
So for me, even it was a bigleap of faith to say I'm enough,
I'm worthy enough to take thetime and figure this out,
because if I don't, won't elsewill.
It's like socks.
(12:13):
Here is my example in myhousehold.
I Walk around my house andeverybody's socks are everywhere
.
Okay, I'm picking up socks.
Now I was told by mygrandmother who who is no longer
on this planet that one day Iwill miss picking up those socks
, and I believe her.
So I let go of being angry atconstantly having to pick up my
(12:35):
husband socks and constantlyhaving to pick up my kids socks,
because they've learned thisfrom their dad and They've
learned from me that I wouldenable that behavior.
But there was a time when I hada pair of socks sitting out, for
whatever reason, I think I justgot back from work out and my
kids looked at me and said whyaren't you picking up your socks
?
And I said wait a second, Ithink of everybody else's socks.
(12:58):
Do I have to pick up my owntune?
Nobody else in this house willpick up my socks.
And and I know that's a reallysilly analogy I'm actually
really bad at analogies but Ithink that every time I pick up
socks, I think, see, I am notonly have this subconscious
programming, that it's myresponsibility To put everyone
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first and take care of everyoneelse, but it's also my
responsibility to put myselflast.
And that was a moment in timewhere I just really had to
accept responsibility that I hadTaken on that story.
And when I reversed it throughcoaching, with the program that
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was willing to look me in theface and call Me out on stuff in
a very loving way, it ittransformed everything.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
That was the game changer.
Yes, socks.
Well, I think that that's agreat example, but I think you
can tie that into most areas oflife and also how we're choosing
to show up.
What is the story that we areembracing and are we agreeing
(14:10):
that that's the truth that wewant to continue on For the rest
of our lives?
Are down our journey?
Yeah, onto that story because,yeah, you know, I can relate so
much.
In fact, I just was negotiatingwith one of my kids this
morning who is on unload thedishes Duty this week, and he
looks at me and he goes why dowe have to do the dishes?
(14:32):
I don't understand, why don'tyou do the dishes?
Then I said well, if I do allof the household chores, how
will one, how will you everlearn To be?
Because at some point you needto go out into the world and be
who you're gonna be, and I'm notdoing a Great job now of
teaching you all of these skillsets.
(14:53):
I'm kind of holding you backand making you enabled.
Totally but equally, it's myresponsibility To teach you the
skill that you need so that youcan go out into the world.
This is my responsibility is doall of the the tasks for
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everyone in this house when, IWill click the box as explicit.
But I tell my kids, you guys,when I push you out of my vagina
, that was me signing a contractthat I am going to teach you
how to be a good human being.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
I love responsible human being.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
It's totally.
It's tied to the socks.
It's tied to theresponsibilities around your
house and being a good teammateand a good yeah for a family
unit, but also Learning torecognize you have
responsibilities, but one of themost important responsibilities
is taking care of yourself.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
Yeah, and then when did, when did self sacrifice for
females become like our numberone badge of honor?
I just it's wild to me and Iknow that there's probably some
amazing listeners that know thehistorical facts around all that
comments, but it amazes me thatit's still embedded in our
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culture today.
And and and.
Having the and I'll use theword but having the audacity To
look back and just say no, I putmyself first, and here's what
that means for me, right now,right, and I think that's
powerful what you need.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Yeah, I think that that.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
Yeah, that's your spot on leaves and here's the
other part to that.
It's you can have a dance ofknowing like I need something to
change.
I'm not exactly sure what.
So I need some outside supportto figure that out, and I think
that's the key to just be open,right, because your definition,
definition of success isdifferent than mine.
(17:07):
We've had this conversationMaybe that's in a future podcast
as well but even money as anexample, money is simply a tool
in life and we put so muchpressure and attachment around
what money means and how itReflects our own sense of
self-worth.
(17:27):
I Mean, if you have more moneyyou're more worthy.
No, not at all.
But, man, it is Culturallydeeply embedded into our psyche,
psyche.
Money, you know, is just.
It's a reflection of ourinternal environment.
And that's where I get excitedwhen people actually reach out
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to me and clients reach out tome, because If you want to talk
about creating generationalwealth, you better look inside
first.
But taking that, there's a bigdisconnect there.
Why would I quote, unquote,take time to look at my internal
programming when I could justhustle, hustle, hustle and work
(18:10):
until my eyeballs bleed and makemore money, what?
It's such a backwards game thatwe're taught, but if you can
really identify what you need,ask for it and invest in taking
the time.
It's a total game changer.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Yeah, you know, one of the listeners that reached
out recently said I just needanother set of eyes on what's
happening in my life, and theylisted off a handful of
different areas that they'restruggling with or that they're
feeling like that that's astruggle, but they're like.
You know, I'm so caught up ineverything in the day to day
(18:48):
that I just need somebodyexternally to come in and say
here's where I'm observing someopportunities for growth and I
thought that that was a reallyinteresting perspective to have
that outside set of eyes,because you know we look for
that in so many other areas ofour life.
But I mean, you know you thinkyou're healthy.
(19:09):
You go to the doctor on aregular basis.
You're like, hey, I needanother set of eyes, am I
healthy?
Yes, and I'm going to tell youon other external people and
their expertise and I like thatFor sure.
Yeah, I like that.
So at least tell me a littlebit about so.
When you realized that youneeded something different.
(19:30):
You know, I feel like I was ina season much like you, and when
I realized that I neededsomething different, I looked
externally.
I said, okay, I need to reachout to the people in my life
that are going to support me butequally push me.
How did you do that, or whatdid you do that you found most
(19:53):
helpful?
Speaker 3 (19:55):
The most helpful thing was making the decision to
invest.
There's something magical thathappens when you trade money
right you actually find the time.
You create the time.
So I did invest and that's avalue set for me.
So that's not a hard leap forme to say here you go, take my
money so I can actually improveand change the way I want.
(20:16):
The biggest thing I did, though, inside of a particular group
coaching program was I showed up, I just committed and I said I
don't, and I was open, so Ididn't know what I needed.
I was just open to figuring itout, and every day I just I
showed up.
I just showed up and I trustedthat the answer would find me.
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What's interesting on thejourney is I uncovered a few
things.
One I could not answer for thelongest time, and it is the one
question that brought me to myknees and made me sob.
The question was why do youmatter?
And I could not answer thatquestion for months.
(21:02):
It was like this was my job.
It's to figure that out,because my mind went to external
achievements, external visionsof definitions of success I
couldn't inherently own, forwhatever reason.
I matter because I'm here.
I matter because I'm human.
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It's truly that simple and onceI was able to really breathe
that in, I recognized that partof that story is self-love is
kind of floating out there inthe industry these days.
But it wasn't that I didn'tlove myself, I didn't even like
myself, and so trying to figureout who even am I in this season
(21:44):
of life and also trust was abig part of the journey as well.
I got so many.
I just got in my head a lot ofwho I should listen to about
what.
Clearly they know more.
Clearly they know what's bestfor my kids.
Clearly they know the best wayto make wealth.
Like pause, I needed to goinside because how you move the
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needle is not adding more toyour plate.
It's not.
It's an internal game.
So if you can figure out yourinternal game and figure out who
you are in this season of lifeand what you want, I promise you
the plan and the strategy isthere and that's really where I
focus these days with clients.
But it's like when I wasbusiness coaching predominantly,
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people would come to me forvery specific reasons they want
more clients, they want to learnbetter marketing copy, I want
to learn budgeting better Allthese things Very externally
focused.
What?
Speaker 1 (22:45):
Yeah, feevements and results.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
It sounds like 100% Right and that makes sense.
That's a business mindset.
But any coach knows that yougive people what they want from
a marketing perspective, fine,I'll teach you how to get more
clients.
But the work I always did withthem, I gave them what they
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really needed.
They needed the internal gamethey needed to build their
confidence, which is really justcompetence from a business
perspective.
They really needed self-love.
They needed to have some toolslike self-hypnosis and other
ways to rewire their brain andrewrite those stories, and so
(23:29):
it's interesting to just seewhatever people want in life.
You know, maybe your internalgame is already strong and
you're really just at the phaseof life where you need, you know
, an expert finance planner tosit down with you.
Totally cool.
That's not the people that I'mtalking to every day, especially
the women.
The women are just juggling waytoo much, and I feel like it's
(23:53):
time that they hang up theirsuperwoman cape and just figure
out who they are now.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
And we've heard so much of that.
Speaker 3 (24:04):
Mm, hmm.
Speaker 1 (24:05):
That it's really encouraged us to take a pause
and say, okay, what are we doinghere?
Yeah our purpose on this planetright now, in this moment of
time.
You know, when we linked arms,we really had a vision of
wanting to help more people andrecognizing that you know, when
(24:26):
you have two people coachingindependently, you can only
serve so many.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
And we had decided okay, you know what, let's link
arms, because we can pull somuch more weight if we hook our
harnesses together.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
And now, as we're hearing this feedback from more
and more people, from listeners,from people who are following
us on social media, it's veryclear to us where we see an
opportunity to help.
Yeah, I want to tell thelisteners because, you know,
this is pretty exciting that weare sharing this, but equally
(25:05):
it's exciting to share it withour listeners first.
Speaker 3 (25:09):
It absolutely is.
So, listeners, we are finallyat a point where we wanted to
offer you and let you know aboutour new group coaching program,
which we call Elevate, becausewe're here to elevate each other
, elevate your minds, elevateyour growth, and this is going
to be an exclusive group foronly 12 women who are committed
(25:30):
to actually making changes,women who are willing to be
coached, to have the hardquestions asked and to equally
be loved up on, because this isgoing to be a community like no
other.
As mentioned before, I've beenin a lot of coaching programs.
I know it works and whatdoesn't.
April knows what works and whatdoesn't, and we're here to
bring the best to you.
(25:51):
So, if you are interested, weare sending this out an
invitation only to ournewsletter list.
So please hop on the newsletterlist.
Or, if you don't know where tofind that link even though we're
going to have it very clearwherever you find this go ahead
and DM one of us and we will getyou that information.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Yeah, and we chose to make it pretty intimate.
Yeah because when, as youmentioned, lisa, the internal
game is really where it's at youand I have been so many clients
that are looking for theexternal results, for the
achieve, or, if I just get this,this and this done, my life is
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going to feel so much betterwhen, in reality, as you
mentioned, we can see, becausewe're that external set of eyes
yes, we see a different storythat needs to be identified, but
it's hard to do when you have alot of people, so we want to
make sure that this was intimateenough where we could actually,
(26:53):
you know, wrap our arms aroundeach person and say OK, what are
you working on?
Where?
Speaker 3 (26:58):
are you?
Speaker 1 (26:58):
going, what needs to change in your life and what is
the external environment thatyou are experiencing, and how is
that a reflection of theinternal game?
Speaker 3 (27:09):
Absolutely.
That is key right there.
If you want to know if youreally need to change or you
need coaching, a betting timewhether it's in our Elevate
program or somewhere else, youknow find what works for you.
But look around yourenvironment right now.
Just pause and look around.
Is this the environment thatyou want?
Because your environment is areflection of your mind, and I'm
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here to tell you that, unlessyou look around and have every
single thing in your life thatyou already want, then there's
change that needs to stillhappen in your brain.
There's change that's stillavailable for you, whether
that's now, if you feel thecalling is right, or in a future
time.
That's entirely up to you.
But your environment can informwhether or not change is
(27:53):
something that you want rightnow or you're ready for.
Absolutely, absolutely.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
You know I hear from people often when I explain that
to them, they're like well, Ithink my environment is going to
be like OK, what do you want inlife?
What do you actually want andwhat do you believe is available
to you?
Or what do you think is aparadigm that might be telling
you that this is all that'savailable to you?
(28:21):
And that's an interesting piece, lisa.
Do you hear that from yourclients Because I hear that a
lot where people are like yeah,I have everything I want.
I couldn't have imagined havingmore than I have right now.
Or, you know, this is as goodas it's going to get Because my
generation or my family lineagedictated for me.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
So I yeah, I hear some of that.
What I also hear, though, iswhat?
Why would I possibly want more?
Why am I unsettled when Ialready have everything?
And it's almost like you'refighting your identity.
Hey, you're ambitious, you wantsomething different.
Instead of fighting that andsaying that, you have to be
(29:06):
grounded in and, yes, I believein gratitude, but you just need
to be more content and gratefulfor what you have.
Why continue to go after forwhat you want and also be
grateful for what you alreadyhave?
It's not either or it's a yes,and, in my opinion and those are
the women that I'm having moreand more conversations with it's
(29:27):
hey, sure, you're at whereyou're at, but there's nothing
immoral about wanting more,whatever that is for you, and
you can also continue to begrateful.
You know one thing that I'venoticed on my journey of
coaching, no matter what it ishealth coaching for weight loss,
business coaching for you know,more profits, whatever it is
(29:49):
there is one key trait to everysingle person I've worked with
Do you want to know what is?
Speaker 1 (29:55):
it.
Yeah, I'm sitting down with mybreath like 90% of the time.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
Okay, I'm going to give myself a little grace there
, but most of the time, peopleknow exactly what they do to
what they need to do to get whatthey want Right.
So maybe you need to stopovereating, maybe you need to, I
don't know, I guess no, spendSeptember is a thing as a way to
promote creating new habits tosave money.
(30:23):
More often than not, peopleknow what they need to do,
they're just not doing it.
And this is key, because if youalready were doing it, you'd
already have the results thatyou wanted, but you don't, and
so this is the big gap in thecoaching industry that does not
get any attention.
(30:44):
It's this identity piece andthis is the core of elevate.
It's listen, we know where youwere.
Congratulations, you got here.
We also know that you're in aseason of life where you want
something different, and that'samazing.
Let's figure out what that isand let's figure out how to get
(31:05):
it for you in your own uniqueway, because this is not life,
is not a one size fit allapproach.
Okay, but and within acommunity, to your point, that
is equally supportive andwilling to share resources and
and love and connections, andthen two coaches that bring a
(31:27):
wealth of experience but are whoare willing to ask the hard
questions to support you ingetting what you want in life.
Speaker 1 (31:35):
That's pretty awesome least I, I would agree.
I think that the percentageprobably is even higher than 90%
of people know exactly whatthey need to do to get there.
However I do, I do think thatthere is a segment out there
that Understands or knows whatthey need to do, but maybe
(31:56):
unclear on how to do that orwhat are the first steps to get
that momentum happening soabsolutely and I think it's a
dance to of the the stuff andelevate that'll actually move
the needle on creating effectivehabits, creating your
generational wealth, creatingthe health that you want.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Whatever your focus is, that is gonna be.
That's gonna require someunlearning and some learning.
So there is gonna be somereally cool science-backed
information and elevate, wherewe will talk about new topics
that we guarantee you haven'theard before and that's the
exciting part, if you can't tellfrom me and elevate is to
(32:35):
Actually give you what you needto create sustainable,
life-changing habits, becausethat is what will move the
needle for you long term.
It's creating that internalenvironment.
So anything you want externallyyou can have.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
Please, can you think of any reason why somebody
wouldn't want to be part of this?
Because you know, you and I arefamiliar with coaching.
We believe in coaching.
Obviously we've seen theprofound impact it has on the
people that we work with as wellas we've.
Both.
We agree and we Align withbeing coached.
(33:16):
So I'm thinking of, for example, that there's probably
listeners who've never had acoach before, so they're like
this sounds awesome.
Yeah but boy, does it soundscary or intimidating, or what
am I even signing up for?
I'm thinking of the example Forlisteners who've ever heard the
(33:36):
episode I did a couple yearsago on my first experience with
rakey, like I was like sure Iheard, this is great, I know
people who love it.
I didn't know what I wassigning up for, so I literally
asking questions like do I getnaked?
I had no clue what I waswalking into, but I knew.
I felt it in my core that Ineeded to do this, but I didn't
(34:00):
know what I was going into.
So any information that we canprovide listeners, I think would
be helpful to some of thatconfusion, absolutely.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
You know, I think one of the biggest questions is
just, it's that discomfort thatyou're feeling inside that comes
out as fear.
And and when it comes out thatway, we've we've created a
habitual response to that aswomen, as moms over the years to
say I can't afford it or Idon't have time.
And the reality is, you knowwhat you need when you need it.
(34:36):
So if this is calling to youfor any reason, let's find a way
to make it happen.
Right, and we want you to starthoning the skill of being
comfortable with beingUncomfortable.
That is the only way thingswill continue to change in your
life Is if you are willing toask a question.
(34:59):
I remember asking a questioninside the group and I threw the
phone under the bed and wentfor a walk up, an hour walk
outside, because I just couldn'thandle the fact that I asked
the question.
It was so raw and vulnerablefor me, but I did it and then it
became easier and easier andeasier.
So I guess, if anything issurfacing for you, really tune
in and just ask yourself what isit, what is going on?
(35:22):
Because again, the ship isgonna go down with you or
without you.
I mean it's really.
You can change what you want inlife if you decide you want to
change and if you have made thatdecision, but you're simply
looking for some guides or anavenue, this is a great place to
start.
I.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
Would agree.
All right.
Well, I think it is probablytime.
Yes, because I think that thisis so exciting, but I think you
and I could probably go on andon, because we are so excited
about the Opportunity that we'reoffering for an intimate group,
like we're literally committingto spend the rest of 2023, yeah
(36:05):
, this group of people who areadmitted to changing their lives
, like they're ready, they'relike something's off.
I can, yes, let's do this.
So we, you know, I think we'reexcited and we can continue
talking about this, but I wouldsay anybody who's listening who
may have questions, reach out toLisa myself, our social media
(36:28):
pages, go ahead and message backon our website, whatever it
might be, and if you areinterested in this, you have to
hop onto our newsletter, becausethat is the only place we are
posting this and sending it outand it is a very intentional
Invitation for the people whoare we are connected to.
Any last thoughts, lisa?
Speaker 3 (36:49):
No, I think you summarized that well.
Just if you're, if you'relooking to elevate and have
something change in your life,now's the time.
You know, if not now, when?
Speaker 1 (36:57):
all right on that note.
Cheers to good karma.
It is closing time.
Speaker 4 (37:02):
Thank you for listening to this entire podcast
.
I hope this episode has leftyou feeling curious and inspired
.
This podcast is intended tocreate expansion in your life
through unique stories andshared experiences, and if you
enjoy today's episode, I have arequest.
I'd like to ask you to sharethis podcast with your friends
and family.
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I bet they'd enjoy it just asmuch as you have.
And, if you found value, pleaseshare this on your social media
outlets.
That is good karma in action.
My friends, all right, it isnow closing time.
Cheers to good karma and thepower to choose joy.
If you like this, tell yourfriends, stay tuned for the end,
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because we have outtakes andnow for the.
Speaker 2 (37:50):
Now for the outtakes, and now for the outtakes hold
on.
Speaker 1 (37:54):
I'm totally using this as outtake.
Go for it.
Speaker 3 (38:00):
Oh, that was fun.
I got tongue-tied.
Hey, you've been listening test.
Speaker 4 (38:05):
Well, test one, two, three, four.
Okay, now say hey, welcome tothe podcast.
Hey, welcome to the podcast.
You're really great.
Everyone, everyone that'slistening to this podcast, even
if they don't even hear the rest, even if they only can listen
to a Part of it because ofscreaming baby, you're all
(38:27):
really awesome.
Yeah, thanks for listening.
Bye over now.
Thanks for listening, bye.
Welcome to the Paradigm you podcast.
You're listening to theParadigm you podcast.
This is episode 150.
Woop, woop.
On this episode, lisa and Idive into a topic that we both
are seeing and hearing a wholeawful lot with our clients and
with a lot of listeners who arereaching out.
(00:21):
So thank you to each of you whoreaches out and shares
vulnerable stories and questions, all in the name of growing and
stretching yourself to live thelife that you dream.
A topic that we hear often isthe struggle to juggle all the
plates.
In this season of life, thecombination of too little time,
big ambitions, the angst to growour wealth and perhaps even the
(00:45):
fears that will never sleepagain or have enough energy,
leaves us feeling more stressedthan ever before.
If you can relate to any ofthose things that I just listed
off you, my friends, are in theright spot.
Listen in to the end of thispodcast, because we have some
big news and a very specialinvitation just for you.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
You're listening to the Paradigm you podcast.
You're about to starttransforming your life by
growing your mind and expandingyour paradigms.
Here we'll cover real lifetopics, just like the stuff
you'd share with a good friend.
This podcast will serve uptopics that weigh on our hearts
and keep us up at night, whetherit's navigating parenthood and
becoming an adult, or wayfinding, personal development, marriage
and money.
You, my friend, are in theright place.
(01:26):
I'm glad you're here.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
All right well, welcome back to another episode
of the Paradigm you podcast.
My name is AprilMarleski-Hudzinski and I am the
co-host of this awesome podcastalongside the brilliant and
incredible Lisa Sarnowski.
Lisa, how are you doing?
Whoa, whoa, I'm great.
Momentum we are downloaded.
Lisa, I don't know if you knowthis, but we are downloaded in,
like I think it's eightdifferent countries on a regular
(01:49):
basis.
Whoa, that's amazing.
Big shout out to our listeners.
Yeah, very fun, and I think youknow.
The last time I checked, Ithink we are in almost every
state, which is also pretty coolin the United States.
Amazing.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
We want to con-visit each one of you.
I have a goal to get to everysingle state.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
All right, you've heard it here first.
I like that idea.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Can't prevent, We'll just, we'll do take a road show.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Don't cheat me, all right.
Well, anyways, I want to saythank you to all of the
listeners because, as Imentioned, the podcast is
definitely building a lot ofmomentum, and I think one of the
key reasons why this ishappening is, if I had to guess
the things that you and I, lisa,are talking about, I think a
(02:34):
lot of people can relate.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
And I think you know, I think a lot of people may be
suffering or struggling withthings or, you know, bumping up
against some sort of resistancein the privacy of their own home
and their own environments.
But not too quick to maybeshare all of that, you agree.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Oh yeah, I think the silent suffering and the silent
struggle it's something thatwe've been.
It's like a conditionedresponse at this, this age and
season of life, and to take asecond to pause and go wait a
second.
What would I want if I wasn'tstruggling or I wasn't silent
about this?
I think that's really great,that we're able to put a voice
there for people to connect with.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
It's very cool and I think the other piece that gets
me lit up is this reality thatbeing open and transparent and
vulnerable, I think that's whatspeaks to a lot of listeners and
I feel so honored that you knowyou and I can navigate and
maybe even try to climb throughthings and figure it out and
(03:41):
then sharing our stories.
it's exciting to hear that thatcan have a really large impact
for many people.
So, lisa, if you're cool withit today, you know it is really
exciting to realize how muchmomentum the podcast is getting.
But there's been a handful ofpeople that have reached out
recently that have shared someof the things that they are
(04:02):
wrestling with, and I would liketo take this podcast, if you're
open to it, to just reallyanswer some of those questions
and be a resource and be a guidefor people who may be looking
for somebody else who has maybea few steps ahead of them on the
journey.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I love that idea and first of all, I wanna add big
shout out to everyone who'sreached out, because that is
some vulnerability and strengthto not only identify what it is
that you may need, but reach outto someone and ask for it.
So thanks for reaching out,keep the comments and
suggestions coming and, yeah,let's dive in Apes.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Cool.
Well, some of the topics that Ihave heard in the last just week
, just this week alone, werethings like hey, I'm struggling
with our personal finances, Iwanna figure out how to create
generational wealth and yet,equally, I'm really unclear on
where it even starts.
(04:57):
Equally, some of the otherthings that people have been
wrestling with is I'll use themessage I just got this weekend.
It said I feel like I'm burningthe candle at both ends, in
fact, all ends, and I have noidea when this will stop.
I'm just out and I don't knowhow to get out of this vicious
(05:18):
like hamster wheel or the cycletrying to be everything for
everyone, and one of themessages I think that person, if
I had to guess, I think thatthey had mentioned that they had
like three or four children andthey are working full time and
they're trying to just keep theship sailing.
(05:39):
That's right.
And how to overcome some ofthose day to day challenges and,
equally, take a moment toactually reflect on what it is
they even want.
I think there's a little bit ofa disconnect there and I'd love
to tackle some of those topicstoday.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Yeah, those are some good and big topics, for sure.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Yeah, I can relate.
I feel like I've been there andI feel like we all hit some of
those seasons.
At least can you think of anexample of like when you hit a
season of life like that whereyou're like holy cow, something
needs to change, and I'm unclearof what it is.
Or I know something needs tochange and I just need to take
(06:24):
the time to figure it out.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
Yeah, absolutely, I mean.
So.
I've been coaching now for over15 years and part of that
journey I'm a firm believer thatevery coach needs a coach, and
so I've been involved in a lotof coaching over the years
programs, private, you name itI've done it.
And but there was oneparticular season of life that
it really I'll use the word Ifelt really lost.
(06:48):
I felt really stagnant.
I just I didn't really knowwhat was happening.
But ultimately, the thread thatties all of my decisions to get
coaching together is that I knewthat Changes in my life or my
business, I wanted change tohappen, and I knew that I
wouldn't be able to answer andsolve for that in my own head.
(07:09):
I needed some external Stretch,and here's what I mean by
stretch.
So If if you're listening, I'msure if I would ask you who's
your support network, you couldcome up with a few names.
Maybe it's a partner, a bestfriend, the other soccer moms
that you see on Saturdays at thegames, whatever it is, you have
(07:29):
a little support network.
In business, this might be anetworking group, okay, but it
was important for me on myjourney to identify key times in
my life where I had people thatwould stretch me.
Okay, because supportive peoplewant to keep you in your comfort
zone.
It's just by design, because ifyou change and you become
(07:50):
outside of your comfort zone,now you change the equilibrium
and now you change the familydynamics, and now you change
everything in your mind for thepositive.
But in their mind now they'retrying to keep up and so, by
design, your support of peopleare Are keeping you comfortable,
right, and that's definitely asign of love and devotion.
(08:11):
That's not necessarily anythingnegative, but if you're, if
you're looking for something toactively change in your life
whether it be more wealth,whether it be decluttering your
house, whether it be being morepresent with your kids or
mindful parenting, or losingweight or whatever it is you
need to find people on yourjourney that are willing to
stretch you, willing to ask thehard questions, willing to come
(08:33):
at something from a completelydifferent set of eyes instead of
circumstances.
And there was one part in myjourney it was about, oh man,
three years ago now that I justand I think I've shared with the
listeners I looked around and Ididn't recognize my.
I recognized my life almost toomuch, but I didn't recognize
myself anymore and I knew I hadto be with other people that
(08:55):
were willing to look me in theface and basically call you know
BS on my, my stories and what Iwas allowing myself to suffer
silently through.
Wow.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Yeah, so when you found yourself in that moment of
life, what were the steps thatyou found most helpful?
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Oh, I mean truly when I when I said earlier on just
being aware and Willing to bevulnerable and ask for the
support to people that havereached out to us through DMs.
That is a key first step.
So if you're able and willingto do that already, you're on
the right, the right path.
(09:39):
But otherwise, you know, what Ireally started to do was just
focus in on remembering that Iam.
I'm the captain of this familyship.
Right?
The moms, I think listeningthis, the single parents, the
dads we all understand thatthere tends to be one main
person operating the family,social dynamics and and
(10:01):
household management and ofcourse, there's duality and
support there.
I don't mean to begrudge anyone, but I, in talking to other
moms, what I've come to realizeis it tends to fall that we are
the captains of the ship and Irecognize very quickly that I
was going down and when I godown, I take the whole family
down Because I'm unable tosupport the emotional needs of
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the kids, I'm unable to maintainother things going on in the
house.
So I really needed to reframemy mind that taking care of
myself, this is not self-care,taskless Okay, this is well
beyond that but learning trulywhat this next level, season of
life, embodiment of reallyputting myself first, how that
(10:47):
in and of itself would have amassive ripple effect on my
family and the Dynamics and ourgenerational wealth.
It was a I had to really flipthat mindset.
Let me tell you, I can bestubborn sometimes and I really,
I really thought that because Iwas, I Subconsciously or
consciously really took on thatpersona, that identity of
(11:09):
superwoman.
Right, I'm the mom I'm supposedto put everyone first.
I'm supposed to care for myailing not ailing, but aging
mother and my in-laws andeverybody else around me my, my
partner.
And why would I ever ever thinkof putting myself first?
Why would I ever think that Icould have two hours a week to
(11:32):
Invest in just learning how toimprove my inner self?
That made no sense to me, and Ihad been coaching for years
Because all of my coachingpreviously was based around I
want more clients, right, I needto learn how to do marketing
messaging better.
It was business focused or itwas High-level, very specific,
(11:53):
health focused.
It was I want to lose weight, Iwant to exercise more, I want
to, you know, gain more muscle,whatever it was.
So for me, even it was a bigleap of faith to say I'm enough,
I'm worthy enough to take thetime and figure this out,
because if I don't, won't elsewill.
It's like socks.
(12:13):
Here is my example in myhousehold.
I Walk around my house andeverybody's socks are everywhere
.
Okay, I'm picking up socks.
Now I was told by mygrandmother who who is no longer
on this planet that one day Iwill miss picking up those socks
, and I believe her.
So I let go of being angry atconstantly having to pick up my
(12:35):
husband socks and constantlyhaving to pick up my kids socks,
because they've learned thisfrom their dad and They've
learned from me that I wouldenable that behavior.
But there was a time when I hada pair of socks sitting out, for
whatever reason, I think I justgot back from work out and my
kids looked at me and said whyaren't you picking up your socks
?
And I said wait a second, Ithink of everybody else's socks.
(12:58):
Do I have to pick up my owntune?
Nobody else in this house willpick up my socks.
And and I know that's a reallysilly analogy I'm actually
really bad at analogies but Ithink that every time I pick up
socks, I think, see, I am notonly have this subconscious
programming, that it's myresponsibility To put everyone
(13:21):
first and take care of everyoneelse, but it's also my
responsibility to put myselflast.
And that was a moment in timewhere I just really had to
accept responsibility that I hadTaken on that story.
And when I reversed it throughcoaching, with the program that
(13:41):
was willing to look me in theface and call Me out on stuff in
a very loving way, it ittransformed everything.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
That was the game changer.
Yes, socks.
Well, I think that that's agreat example, but I think you
can tie that into most areas oflife and also how we're choosing
to show up.
What is the story that we areembracing and are we agreeing
(14:10):
that that's the truth that wewant to continue on For the rest
of our lives?
Are down our journey?
Yeah, onto that story because,yeah, you know, I can relate so
much.
In fact, I just was negotiatingwith one of my kids this
morning who is on unload thedishes Duty this week, and he
looks at me and he goes why dowe have to do the dishes?
(14:32):
I don't understand, why don'tyou do the dishes?
Then I said well, if I do allof the household chores, how
will one, how will you everlearn To be?
Because at some point you needto go out into the world and be
who you're gonna be, and I'm notdoing a Great job now of
teaching you all of these skillsets.
(14:53):
I'm kind of holding you backand making you enabled.
Totally but equally, it's myresponsibility To teach you the
skill that you need so that youcan go out into the world.
This is my responsibility is doall of the the tasks for
(15:14):
everyone in this house when, IWill click the box as explicit.
But I tell my kids, you guys,when I push you out of my vagina
, that was me signing a contractthat I am going to teach you
how to be a good human being.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
I love responsible human being.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
It's totally.
It's tied to the socks.
It's tied to theresponsibilities around your
house and being a good teammateand a good yeah for a family
unit, but also Learning torecognize you have
responsibilities, but one of themost important responsibilities
is taking care of yourself.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
Yeah, and then when did, when did self sacrifice for
females become like our numberone badge of honor?
I just it's wild to me and Iknow that there's probably some
amazing listeners that know thehistorical facts around all that
comments, but it amazes me thatit's still embedded in our
(16:25):
culture today.
And and and.
Having the and I'll use theword but having the audacity To
look back and just say no, I putmyself first, and here's what
that means for me, right now,right, and I think that's
powerful what you need.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Yeah, I think that that.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
Yeah, that's your spot on leaves and here's the
other part to that.
It's you can have a dance ofknowing like I need something to
change.
I'm not exactly sure what.
So I need some outside supportto figure that out, and I think
that's the key to just be open,right, because your definition,
definition of success isdifferent than mine.
(17:07):
We've had this conversationMaybe that's in a future podcast
as well but even money as anexample, money is simply a tool
in life and we put so muchpressure and attachment around
what money means and how itReflects our own sense of
self-worth.
(17:27):
I Mean, if you have more moneyyou're more worthy.
No, not at all.
But, man, it is Culturallydeeply embedded into our psyche,
psyche.
Money, you know, is just.
It's a reflection of ourinternal environment.
And that's where I get excitedwhen people actually reach out
(17:48):
to me and clients reach out tome, because If you want to talk
about creating generationalwealth, you better look inside
first.
But taking that, there's a bigdisconnect there.
Why would I quote, unquote,take time to look at my internal
programming when I could justhustle, hustle, hustle and work
(18:10):
until my eyeballs bleed and makemore money, what?
It's such a backwards game thatwe're taught, but if you can
really identify what you need,ask for it and invest in taking
the time.
It's a total game changer.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Yeah, you know, one of the listeners that reached
out recently said I just needanother set of eyes on what's
happening in my life, and theylisted off a handful of
different areas that they'restruggling with or that they're
feeling like that that's astruggle, but they're like.
You know, I'm so caught up ineverything in the day to day
(18:48):
that I just need somebodyexternally to come in and say
here's where I'm observing someopportunities for growth and I
thought that that was a reallyinteresting perspective to have
that outside set of eyes,because you know we look for
that in so many other areas ofour life.
But I mean, you know you thinkyou're healthy.
(19:09):
You go to the doctor on aregular basis.
You're like, hey, I needanother set of eyes, am I
healthy?
Yes, and I'm going to tell youon other external people and
their expertise and I like thatFor sure.
Yeah, I like that.
So at least tell me a littlebit about so.
When you realized that youneeded something different.
(19:30):
You know, I feel like I was ina season much like you, and when
I realized that I neededsomething different, I looked
externally.
I said, okay, I need to reachout to the people in my life
that are going to support me butequally push me.
How did you do that, or whatdid you do that you found most
(19:53):
helpful?
Speaker 3 (19:55):
The most helpful thing was making the decision to
invest.
There's something magical thathappens when you trade money
right you actually find the time.
You create the time.
So I did invest and that's avalue set for me.
So that's not a hard leap forme to say here you go, take my
money so I can actually improveand change the way I want.
(20:16):
The biggest thing I did, though, inside of a particular group
coaching program was I showed up, I just committed and I said I
don't, and I was open, so Ididn't know what I needed.
I was just open to figuring itout, and every day I just I
showed up.
I just showed up and I trustedthat the answer would find me.
(20:42):
What's interesting on thejourney is I uncovered a few
things.
One I could not answer for thelongest time, and it is the one
question that brought me to myknees and made me sob.
The question was why do youmatter?
And I could not answer thatquestion for months.
(21:02):
It was like this was my job.
It's to figure that out,because my mind went to external
achievements, external visionsof definitions of success I
couldn't inherently own, forwhatever reason.
I matter because I'm here.
I matter because I'm human.
(21:23):
It's truly that simple and onceI was able to really breathe
that in, I recognized that partof that story is self-love is
kind of floating out there inthe industry these days.
But it wasn't that I didn'tlove myself, I didn't even like
myself, and so trying to figureout who even am I in this season
(21:44):
of life and also trust was abig part of the journey as well.
I got so many.
I just got in my head a lot ofwho I should listen to about
what.
Clearly they know more.
Clearly they know what's bestfor my kids.
Clearly they know the best wayto make wealth.
Like pause, I needed to goinside because how you move the
(22:08):
needle is not adding more toyour plate.
It's not.
It's an internal game.
So if you can figure out yourinternal game and figure out who
you are in this season of lifeand what you want, I promise you
the plan and the strategy isthere and that's really where I
focus these days with clients.
But it's like when I wasbusiness coaching predominantly,
(22:30):
people would come to me forvery specific reasons they want
more clients, they want to learnbetter marketing copy, I want
to learn budgeting better Allthese things Very externally
focused.
What?
Speaker 1 (22:45):
Yeah, feevements and results.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
It sounds like 100% Right and that makes sense.
That's a business mindset.
But any coach knows that yougive people what they want from
a marketing perspective, fine,I'll teach you how to get more
clients.
But the work I always did withthem, I gave them what they
(23:07):
really needed.
They needed the internal gamethey needed to build their
confidence, which is really justcompetence from a business
perspective.
They really needed self-love.
They needed to have some toolslike self-hypnosis and other
ways to rewire their brain andrewrite those stories, and so
(23:29):
it's interesting to just seewhatever people want in life.
You know, maybe your internalgame is already strong and
you're really just at the phaseof life where you need, you know
, an expert finance planner tosit down with you.
Totally cool.
That's not the people that I'mtalking to every day, especially
the women.
The women are just juggling waytoo much, and I feel like it's
(23:53):
time that they hang up theirsuperwoman cape and just figure
out who they are now.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
And we've heard so much of that.
Speaker 3 (24:04):
Mm, hmm.
Speaker 1 (24:05):
That it's really encouraged us to take a pause
and say, okay, what are we doinghere?
Yeah our purpose on this planetright now, in this moment of
time.
You know, when we linked arms,we really had a vision of
wanting to help more people andrecognizing that you know, when
(24:26):
you have two people coachingindependently, you can only
serve so many.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
And we had decided okay, you know what, let's link
arms, because we can pull somuch more weight if we hook our
harnesses together.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
And now, as we're hearing this feedback from more
and more people, from listeners,from people who are following
us on social media, it's veryclear to us where we see an
opportunity to help.
Yeah, I want to tell thelisteners because, you know,
this is pretty exciting that weare sharing this, but equally
(25:05):
it's exciting to share it withour listeners first.
Speaker 3 (25:09):
It absolutely is.
So, listeners, we are finallyat a point where we wanted to
offer you and let you know aboutour new group coaching program,
which we call Elevate, becausewe're here to elevate each other
, elevate your minds, elevateyour growth, and this is going
to be an exclusive group foronly 12 women who are committed
(25:30):
to actually making changes,women who are willing to be
coached, to have the hardquestions asked and to equally
be loved up on, because this isgoing to be a community like no
other.
As mentioned before, I've beenin a lot of coaching programs.
I know it works and whatdoesn't.
April knows what works and whatdoesn't, and we're here to
bring the best to you.
(25:51):
So, if you are interested, weare sending this out an
invitation only to ournewsletter list.
So please hop on the newsletterlist.
Or, if you don't know where tofind that link even though we're
going to have it very clearwherever you find this go ahead
and DM one of us and we will getyou that information.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Yeah, and we chose to make it pretty intimate.
Yeah because when, as youmentioned, lisa, the internal
game is really where it's at youand I have been so many clients
that are looking for theexternal results, for the
achieve, or, if I just get this,this and this done, my life is
(26:31):
going to feel so much betterwhen, in reality, as you
mentioned, we can see, becausewe're that external set of eyes
yes, we see a different storythat needs to be identified, but
it's hard to do when you have alot of people, so we want to
make sure that this was intimateenough where we could actually,
(26:53):
you know, wrap our arms aroundeach person and say OK, what are
you working on?
Where?
Speaker 3 (26:58):
are you?
Speaker 1 (26:58):
going, what needs to change in your life and what is
the external environment thatyou are experiencing, and how is
that a reflection of theinternal game?
Speaker 3 (27:09):
Absolutely.
That is key right there.
If you want to know if youreally need to change or you
need coaching, a betting timewhether it's in our Elevate
program or somewhere else, youknow find what works for you.
But look around yourenvironment right now.
Just pause and look around.
Is this the environment thatyou want?
Because your environment is areflection of your mind, and I'm
(27:30):
here to tell you that, unlessyou look around and have every
single thing in your life thatyou already want, then there's
change that needs to stillhappen in your brain.
There's change that's stillavailable for you, whether
that's now, if you feel thecalling is right, or in a future
time.
That's entirely up to you.
But your environment can informwhether or not change is
(27:53):
something that you want rightnow or you're ready for.
Absolutely, absolutely.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
You know I hear from people often when I explain that
to them, they're like well, Ithink my environment is going to
be like OK, what do you want inlife?
What do you actually want andwhat do you believe is available
to you?
Or what do you think is aparadigm that might be telling
you that this is all that'savailable to you?
(28:21):
And that's an interesting piece, lisa.
Do you hear that from yourclients Because I hear that a
lot where people are like yeah,I have everything I want.
I couldn't have imagined havingmore than I have right now.
Or, you know, this is as goodas it's going to get Because my
generation or my family lineagedictated for me.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
So I yeah, I hear some of that.
What I also hear, though, iswhat?
Why would I possibly want more?
Why am I unsettled when Ialready have everything?
And it's almost like you'refighting your identity.
Hey, you're ambitious, you wantsomething different.
Instead of fighting that andsaying that, you have to be
(29:06):
grounded in and, yes, I believein gratitude, but you just need
to be more content and gratefulfor what you have.
Why continue to go after forwhat you want and also be
grateful for what you alreadyhave?
It's not either or it's a yes,and, in my opinion and those are
the women that I'm having moreand more conversations with it's
(29:27):
hey, sure, you're at whereyou're at, but there's nothing
immoral about wanting more,whatever that is for you, and
you can also continue to begrateful.
You know one thing that I'venoticed on my journey of
coaching, no matter what it ishealth coaching for weight loss,
business coaching for you know,more profits, whatever it is
(29:49):
there is one key trait to everysingle person I've worked with
Do you want to know what is?
Speaker 1 (29:55):
it.
Yeah, I'm sitting down with mybreath like 90% of the time.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
Okay, I'm going to give myself a little grace there
, but most of the time, peopleknow exactly what they do to
what they need to do to get whatthey want Right.
So maybe you need to stopovereating, maybe you need to, I
don't know, I guess no, spendSeptember is a thing as a way to
promote creating new habits tosave money.
(30:23):
More often than not, peopleknow what they need to do,
they're just not doing it.
And this is key, because if youalready were doing it, you'd
already have the results thatyou wanted, but you don't, and
so this is the big gap in thecoaching industry that does not
get any attention.
(30:44):
It's this identity piece andthis is the core of elevate.
It's listen, we know where youwere.
Congratulations, you got here.
We also know that you're in aseason of life where you want
something different, and that'samazing.
Let's figure out what that isand let's figure out how to get
(31:05):
it for you in your own uniqueway, because this is not life,
is not a one size fit allapproach.
Okay, but and within acommunity, to your point, that
is equally supportive andwilling to share resources and
and love and connections, andthen two coaches that bring a
(31:27):
wealth of experience but are whoare willing to ask the hard
questions to support you ingetting what you want in life.
Speaker 1 (31:35):
That's pretty awesome least I, I would agree.
I think that the percentageprobably is even higher than 90%
of people know exactly whatthey need to do to get there.
However I do, I do think thatthere is a segment out there
that Understands or knows whatthey need to do, but maybe
(31:56):
unclear on how to do that orwhat are the first steps to get
that momentum happening soabsolutely and I think it's a
dance to of the the stuff andelevate that'll actually move
the needle on creating effectivehabits, creating your
generational wealth, creatingthe health that you want.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Whatever your focus is, that is gonna be.
That's gonna require someunlearning and some learning.
So there is gonna be somereally cool science-backed
information and elevate, wherewe will talk about new topics
that we guarantee you haven'theard before and that's the
exciting part, if you can't tellfrom me and elevate is to
(32:35):
Actually give you what you needto create sustainable,
life-changing habits, becausethat is what will move the
needle for you long term.
It's creating that internalenvironment.
So anything you want externallyyou can have.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
Please, can you think of any reason why somebody
wouldn't want to be part of this?
Because you know, you and I arefamiliar with coaching.
We believe in coaching.
Obviously we've seen theprofound impact it has on the
people that we work with as wellas we've.
Both.
We agree and we Align withbeing coached.
(33:16):
So I'm thinking of, for example, that there's probably
listeners who've never had acoach before, so they're like
this sounds awesome.
Yeah but boy, does it soundscary or intimidating, or what
am I even signing up for?
I'm thinking of the example Forlisteners who've ever heard the
(33:36):
episode I did a couple yearsago on my first experience with
rakey, like I was like sure Iheard, this is great, I know
people who love it.
I didn't know what I wassigning up for, so I literally
asking questions like do I getnaked?
I had no clue what I waswalking into, but I knew.
I felt it in my core that Ineeded to do this, but I didn't
(34:00):
know what I was going into.
So any information that we canprovide listeners, I think would
be helpful to some of thatconfusion, absolutely.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
You know, I think one of the biggest questions is
just, it's that discomfort thatyou're feeling inside that comes
out as fear.
And and when it comes out thatway, we've we've created a
habitual response to that aswomen, as moms over the years to
say I can't afford it or Idon't have time.
And the reality is, you knowwhat you need when you need it.
(34:36):
So if this is calling to youfor any reason, let's find a way
to make it happen.
Right, and we want you to starthoning the skill of being
comfortable with beingUncomfortable.
That is the only way thingswill continue to change in your
life Is if you are willing toask a question.
(34:59):
I remember asking a questioninside the group and I threw the
phone under the bed and wentfor a walk up, an hour walk
outside, because I just couldn'thandle the fact that I asked
the question.
It was so raw and vulnerablefor me, but I did it and then it
became easier and easier andeasier.
So I guess, if anything issurfacing for you, really tune
in and just ask yourself what isit, what is going on?
(35:22):
Because again, the ship isgonna go down with you or
without you.
I mean it's really.
You can change what you want inlife if you decide you want to
change and if you have made thatdecision, but you're simply
looking for some guides or anavenue, this is a great place to
start.
I.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
Would agree.
All right.
Well, I think it is probablytime.
Yes, because I think that thisis so exciting, but I think you
and I could probably go on andon, because we are so excited
about the Opportunity that we'reoffering for an intimate group,
like we're literally committingto spend the rest of 2023, yeah
(36:05):
, this group of people who areadmitted to changing their lives
, like they're ready, they'relike something's off.
I can, yes, let's do this.
So we, you know, I think we'reexcited and we can continue
talking about this, but I wouldsay anybody who's listening who
may have questions, reach out toLisa myself, our social media
(36:28):
pages, go ahead and message backon our website, whatever it
might be, and if you areinterested in this, you have to
hop onto our newsletter, becausethat is the only place we are
posting this and sending it outand it is a very intentional
Invitation for the people whoare we are connected to.
Any last thoughts, lisa?
Speaker 3 (36:49):
No, I think you summarized that well.
Just if you're, if you'relooking to elevate and have
something change in your life,now's the time.
You know, if not now, when?
Speaker 1 (36:57):
all right on that note.
Cheers to good karma.
It is closing time.
Speaker 4 (37:02):
Thank you for listening to this entire podcast
.
I hope this episode has leftyou feeling curious and inspired
.
This podcast is intended tocreate expansion in your life
through unique stories andshared experiences, and if you
enjoy today's episode, I have arequest.
I'd like to ask you to sharethis podcast with your friends
and family.
(37:22):
I bet they'd enjoy it just asmuch as you have.
And, if you found value, pleaseshare this on your social media
outlets.
That is good karma in action.
My friends, all right, it isnow closing time.
Cheers to good karma and thepower to choose joy.
If you like this, tell yourfriends, stay tuned for the end,
(37:46):
because we have outtakes andnow for the.
Speaker 2 (37:50):
Now for the outtakes, and now for the outtakes hold
on.
Speaker 1 (37:54):
I'm totally using this as outtake.
Go for it.
Speaker 3 (38:00):
Oh, that was fun.
I got tongue-tied.
Hey, you've been listening test.
Speaker 4 (38:05):
Well, test one, two, three, four.
Okay, now say hey, welcome tothe podcast.
Hey, welcome to the podcast.
You're really great.
Everyone, everyone that'slistening to this podcast, even
if they don't even hear the rest, even if they only can listen
to a Part of it because ofscreaming baby, you're all
(38:27):
really awesome.
Yeah, thanks for listening.
Bye over now.
Thanks for listening, bye.
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