Episode 155: Living Authentically - The Upside of Missing Out

Are you desperately trying to keep up with everyone else, saying 'yes' to everything out of fear that you'll miss out on something? What if you could flip that 'Fear Of Missing Out' (FOMO) on its head? Here, we explore a potent antidote – the 'Joy Of Missing Out' (JOMO). We untangle the heavy burden of guilt, judgment and comparison often associated with FOMO, and reveal how we can replace those negative emotions with a celebration of individuality and self-love through JOMO. This episode is not just a chat; it's a heart-to-heart conversation about real-life topics such as personal development, money, and parenting that will not only entertain but also empower you.

We, your hosts April and Lisa, share our personal experiences of how embracing JOMO has had a profound impact on our lives and those of our families. From teaching our children about the importance of decision-making and avoiding over-commitment, to understanding when to say 'yes' or 'no', we delve into how JOMO helps us take joy in our unique identities. We also share our insights on how aligning our actions with our personal values has led to a more fulfilling life. So, tune in, relax, and let's discover together the liberating joy of missing out, understand our unique visions of success, and learn how to live within our values.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Paradigm you podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
You're listening to the Paradigm you podcast.
On today's episode we have ashort but powerful episode that
packs a punch.
If you've ever felt the FOMOfear of missing out, you want to
listen to this episode becausewe take that concept and flip it
on its head.
Enjoy.

Speaker 3 (00:22):
You're listening to the Paradigm you podcast.
You're about to starttransforming your life by
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Here we'll cover real lifetopics, just like the stuff
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This podcast will serve uptopics that weigh on our hearts
and keep us up at night, whetherit's navigating parenthood and
becoming an adult, or wayfinding, personal development, marriage
and money.
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(00:44):
I'm glad you're here.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
All right, it is a new week.
Happy Wednesday.
Welcome to the Paradigm youpodcast.
My name is AprilMarluski-Hydzinski and I am here
with the incredibly brilliantLisa Sarnowski.
How's it going, lisa?

Speaker 4 (00:58):
Hello, I'm great.
How are you doing?
Brilliant, that's so kind ofyou, right back at you.

Speaker 2 (01:04):
Oh man, you didn't know we were going to be
fluffing each other on thisepisode.
Oh, that's all we're going todo back and forth.

Speaker 4 (01:10):
How many compliments can I give you?

Speaker 2 (01:14):
Well, hey, you know what?
This episode is a reallyexciting topic for me because
it's had such a profound impacton my life and, I'm guessing,
yours as well.
And you know, as I'd say, justpeople who believe in good karma
when we've learned about thesethings, we want to pass them on
to our listeners.
So, yeah, welcome to theepisode called Jo Mo.

(01:36):
Jo Mo, woohoo, lisa loves this.
What's Jo Mo?

Speaker 4 (01:41):
Joy of missing out, man, when you told me that my
whole body seemed to have thishumongous, amazing party.
Like what?
This is a thing I can actuallycelebrate.
Missing out on things, Love it.

Speaker 2 (01:59):
Yeah.
So I'm sure all of ourlisteners, I'm sure you've heard
of this concept of FOMO, right,we see memes about it, we hear
people talking about it I meanyou hear it everywhere.
You're having FOMO, which isfear of missing out.
But the opposite of that couldactually be true and if you

(02:20):
think about FOMO, it really doeshave this negative energy
associated.

Speaker 4 (02:26):
It's so heavy.

Speaker 2 (02:27):
It is, there's comparison, there's judgment,
there's maybe even some shame orguilt that you're having
because you're missing somethingthat you think is something you
should be participating indoing, showing up that way.
But this concept of Jo Mo is alittle bit different.

(02:47):
It takes the idea of FOMO andit flips it on its head, and
it's actually something that wewant to educate you on and
invite you to consider applyingin your own life.
I love it and what have you?

Speaker 4 (03:01):
how have you been using it?
April?

Speaker 2 (03:04):
Thank you for asking.
So, jo Mo, I really do feellike it's the joy of missing out
.
You know, I had a good friendyears ago tell me, if it's not a
hell, yes, it's a hell, no.
And I've applied that in somany ways.
But even when I'd asked myselfand get cleared to myself, okay,
is this something that'simportant to me?

(03:25):
I'd still have those feelingsof like, oh man, am I the weird
one?
Am I like the strange one thatdoesn't want to participate in
XYZ or do XYZ or look a certainway.
But when I started applying theidea of Jomo, the joy of missing
out I realized how important itis to love up on yourself and

(03:48):
to show yourself the self trustof knowing what's going to serve
you best, not anyone else.
And when I started asking myselfthat it really did allow me to
lean into this joy ofcelebrating who I am and not
necessarily living for otherpeople, living for social media

(04:09):
posts or any kind of attention,right, yes, it really did start
asking me or encouraging me toask myself okay, what is going
to serve me and my family best?
And then how can I justcelebrate that, even if it is
missing out on things?
And we've even started applyingthis in our home and talking to

(04:32):
our kids about it.
You know we've talked onepisodes previously about
parenting and overachievementand over committing, and we
really do invite our childrenand we ask them okay, if you're
going to say yes to this, whatare we saying no to?
And so now when we offer upopportunities to our kids my

(04:52):
oldest is great at that she saysif I say yes to this, what do I
have to say no to?
And what we've started doing iswe've been role modeling and
inviting our children tocelebrate saying no to things
and recognizing when somethingdoesn't motivate them or light
them up and they don't want toparticipate, just to participate
, because then they can show upfully to the things that they're

(05:16):
really excited about andcelebrate, creating space and
opportunity for other people tolean into what they want to do,
because if everybody doeseverything, that doesn't make
anybody unique either.

Speaker 4 (05:27):
Yeah Well, and it's a good recipe for burning out,
right?
If our motivation is to justkeep up with everybody else,
first of all, that's impossible,and so we can intellectualize
that and go yes, I know that'simpossible, and yet look at that
family and what amazingexperience they had with their
kids, or look at that businessand how amazing they did at that

(05:48):
particular event or whatever itis, and it's okay to just pause
and get mindful and reallypresent.
I feel like it's a differentway of saying being present and
learning how to just live insideyour vision of success, inside
your values.
You know, we took a weekendrecently where it was rainy all

(06:08):
weekend and we had a lot ofdifferent ideas of what we were
going to do.
Outside, it's fall over here inWisconsin, it's beautiful, and
so hikes we didn't want to hikein that kind of weather or go
kayaking or anything, and soinstead of going somewhere and
crafting some crazy experienceinside a museum or you know
these amazing things we haveaccess to living in a city we

(06:29):
said what if we just stayed homeand baked, thank you.
And what if we just cuddled onthe couch and, like, had a nice
little cup of tea?
My kids are tea drinkers.
April.
It's like it's amazing andthat's what we did, and it was
just so rewarding to have thejoy of their presence and for
them to fully experience the joyof ours.

Speaker 2 (06:52):
There you go, you're applying it.
Joy yes, it really is the joyof missing out, and I think it's
all driven by our values.
When we have clarity on what'simportant to us, then we can
actually say, yeah, this is ahell yes, or this is a no.
I don't want to participate inthis.
Yeah, because we know we'vealready established those

(07:14):
boundaries, we understand wherewe're headed in life and what we
want to create, and so then itreally does make life a little
bit easier.

Speaker 4 (07:22):
It's so much easier when you feel like you're not
missing out on anything, whenyou can really get in that
mindset and I think, with accessto so many things, with visual
access to so many things, ofwhat's possible with our global
world and economy and just howeverything really is accessible.
For for most it, it's almostchallenging to figure out where

(07:44):
to cut.
You know where it can feelalmost stifling to say, well,
what if I don't expand my mindand travel over to Europe every
year?
What if I don't?
And it's like just be happy,what if we just focus there?
What if we got a pumpkin and wecarved it together and just had
a great time and a good laugh,right, like it doesn't have to

(08:04):
be so hard?
But the achievement culture aswell within parenting today and
for our kids, I think thatequally embeds here is we have
this interesting competitivespirit, is being a human, just
this desire to do more, alwaysmore, more, more, better, better
, better.
And it's okay to tap into thatand say, what if more and better

(08:25):
is actually doing less and justdoing less better?
So that's really when you said,joe mo, I just my whole like.
I said my whole body was like Ijust wanted to have a dance
party Like, yes, I just want todo this more, and because of
that topic.

Speaker 2 (08:39):
We also have decided to keep this episode really
short, super short, because onewe wanted to introduce this
concept in this topic to you.
But we also want to respectyour time and recognize that you
know what we want to carve outadditional time for you to just
enjoy.
Enjoy, joe mo, my friends.

(09:01):
Joe mo, go enjoy your day.
Go enjoy your day and enjoy,missing out on all of the things
that no longer or don't serveyou.
Amen, yeah, and that note it isclosing time.
Go and have a great week.
Cheers, good karma.
There you go.
We did it together.

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Cheers to good karma and thepower to choose joy.
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(10:05):
because we have outtakes.

Speaker 3 (10:07):
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Speaker 4 (10:18):
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(10:48):
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Speaker 1 (10:51):
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Speaker 4 (10:53):
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listen to a part of it becauseof a screaming baby.
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Speaker 2 (11:05):
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and out.

Speaker 1 (11:09):
Thanks for listening.