Do you feel like you’re always battling your child? You tell them to do something and you immediately get a “no” followed by whining and complaining or outright defiance? A simple request that turns into a war is enough to send us over the edge sometimes.
In this podcast I talk about how to avoid power struggles by using a secret weapon -- Choices! When used BEFORE battles start choices can be super effective.
If you kids are...
I'm in California where parents are going through setting up and managing distanced learning in their homes since almost no schools are doing in-person learning.
This podcast will cover these areas:
1 - Physical LEARNING AREA - how to organize it, get rid of distractions, provide a quiet area to focus, how and when to charge and test devices, and how to keep online safety in your home in mind
2 - Establish clear routines - have ...
Many of us struggle with kids who whine, disobey and maybe even lie just to get their way. We get so exasperated we want to explode and some of us certainly do explode.
In this podcast we’ll explore what happens in our families if we’re always operating in “crisis mode” then talk about ways to avoid ever getting into that mode by using Family Meetings to set boundaries and limits while communicating as a family what behaviors are...
In this podcast I’m going to cover issues relating to money with middle and high schoolers. I will go over how to give money and how much, when to give money, and how to set up responsible money habits including how to use an ATM card, checking account, credit cards.
Money is a huge challenge for us all and at this stage your high schooler or middle schooler is at a huge crossroads with learning life skills. Dealing with money i...
There are things to do at different ages and stages to help introduce money concepts to your kids so that by the time they graduate from high school they know about budgeting, credit cards and debt. In this podcast, I’ll concentrate on what to do with younger kids, from toddler years up through elementary school using a simple spend-save-share method.
Here's a transcript of the podcast: TRANSCRIPT
If you'd like to look at...
I’ve had quite a few people asking me about chores – how to set them up, do you pay for them, how much do you pay, is allowance tied to chores, do I need chore charts with rewards, what do I do if my kid won’t do their chores. In this podcast I want to address all those issues and more. Chores let your kids develop life skills that, if taught well, will launch them into a good place in life. I’ll start with the research behind w...
In this episode I talk about the anger in our homes that gets directed at our children and some ideas for how we can get it under control. First, I’ll talk about the impact anger has on our families then three ways to help mitigate anger in your home. Lastly, I’ll give you some fun and creative ideas about how to repair relationships with your kids.
Here's a link to IdealistMom.com's article on the "Five Hair Ties...
In Part 2, I cover my final 5 rules dealing with older kids when individual cell-phones, laptops and other electronics come in to play by about middle school.
Rule 9: Use Contracts
Rule 10: Use Monitoring Software
Rule 11: Talk About Online Safety
Rule 12: Talk About Social Media and Gaming
Rule 13: Talk about Porn
Here are links to resources mentioned in the podcast:
Helpful Websites for Keeping Up To Date
As most parents have noticed screens are a constant source of friction in our households that just never seems to end.
This podcast is the first of two parts; Part 1 targeting younger families and how to deal with what I call “family screens.” I go over ways we can set up screens in our family in such a way that there are limits with obedience, and if there’s not, how to set up effective consequences.
Although the target audience...
Getting our kids to obey and comply is a daily struggle for so many. Our classic styles of punishment just seem to be falling on deaf ears these days, doesn't it? You can take stuff away or give time outs until your face turns blue and the next day your kids are right back on their bad behaviors. Right?
In this episode we'll talk about why "punishments" are only temporarily effective. Instead, using a combinati...
In this episode we talk about what good might come from sibling rivalry but then some really practical techniques to use with your kids:
I also talk about the very useful technique from Love and Logic Institute called Energy Drain and where to get more information on how to get your own energy back after your kids fight and argue.
In this podcast we about how to handle sleep for our tweens and teens and why sleep seems to be so difficult for them biologically and socially. I want to give you some ideas about how to react and manage both your expectations and theirs regarding this really essential part of their growing years. With the stresses in our environment today the impact of sleep on our mental health and immune system is super important for us to pay...
This podcast is for parents of toddlers through elementary school, I have a separate podcast on dealing with issues of sleep and teens so please head there if you have older kids. In this podcast we’ll go through some ideas for moving toward bed, getting ready for bed, turning out the lights and finally ideas for those of you who have kids who wake up at night. With that said, let’s get started.
Here: TRANSCRIPT OF PODCAST
Today with CoVID-19 virus keeping families in close quarters I wanted to do a special podcast to help with tantrums that might be happening way too often. Tantrums can be so draining and disruptive to happy family life so in this hour of great need I’m going to talk about:
· the emotion behind the tantrums
· how to set up “calm down” time
· how to brainstorm with our kids after meltdown
The target for this podcast i...
We often fret about young ones not eating right but things can be just as stressful for parents of teens and tweens. In this episode I talk about what to do when:
Here: TRANSCRIPT OF PODCAST
Food battles are so common in families this podcast is dedicated to giving ideas on how to move from battle to harmony at mealtime.
Here are some of the items covered:
Family Mealtime Rules
1. We eat at the table
2. We don’t have electronics, toys, or books while we eat
3. If a kid can lift a fork on their own, they need to feed themselves
4. When someone gets up from the table, they are done eating
I go into detail a...
In this episode we review a number of different situations where a parent not remembering something allowed their children to become responsible and prove to themselves and their parents that they are capable as well.
We also learn how being the "Finder" parent in your household isn't as helpful as we think it is. Finder parents are those parents who know where everything in the house is thus allowing their family mem...
In this episode targeted toward parents of teens we'll learn how to deal with disrespect in our home. As part of dealing with disrespect we learn what happens to our teens and tweens when they get upset. We learn about the brain science behind the teen brain that makes maintaining respect in our homes more difficult.
We discuss the ways in which parents react to disrespect and how it doesn't work.
We will cover how wait...
Episode #1 - Helicopter Parenting
Take a look at how to decode this now classic style of parenting -- the Helicopter Parent. The hovering and nagging are holding our kids back! Learn why we do this and get hints on what to do about it so you can raise a responsible, respectful child to be an independent and amazing adult.
HOW WE HELICOPTER
WHY WE HELICOPTER - three examples
- Forgetting a lun...