May 28, 2025 • 49 mins
This one's about us. The caregivers. Not the children.
After watching my health deteriorate despite years of consistent workouts and healthy eating attempts, I found myself drawn to a program focused on nervous system recalibration. What happened next shocked me. Through specialized therapy techniques and somatic healing, I experienced physical transformations as my body released stored trauma. Mysterious swelling disappeared, facial tension loosened, and for the first time in years, I felt my nervous system reset from its perpetual fight-or-flight state.
The revelation came when I connected this personal healing journey to my observations of my son with severe autism. Like a baby bird who trembles at the sight of its mother, my son's behaviors seemed directly influenced by my internal state. This mirror effect isn't limited to autism – it appears throughout nature, from wild animals to domestic pets. As the Dog Whisperer taught us, animals respond to our internal energy more than our external commands.
By shifting my focus from controlling my son's behaviors to regulating my own nervous system, unexpected changes began occurring in our household.
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Speaker 1 (00:18):
Hello and welcome to the Parenting Severe Autism
Podcast.
I am your host, ShannonChamberlin.
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I am so grateful to connectwith you and all the new
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It is really helping us to growthis podcast, which is what I
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I just need as much exposure aspossible so that I can find the
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what to do with their money.
As you know, I have an idea!It is super windy at the
campground and it's blowing mycamper side to side, and my
microphone is actually wobblingwith the camper, so normally
it's able to reduce any outsidenoise, but there is a
possibility that it might soundlike there's a drum beat in the
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background, and if so, it's justthe wind on my microphone
blowing it around.
This episode may be a little bitlonger today, because I'm
addressing something that wenever get to talk about, which
is our own mental health andphysical health as parents and
caregivers of these kiddos, sothere's really not going to be a
whole lot of information aboutmy child in this episode.
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I will refer back to a fewthings that I've mentioned in
the past just to shed light onthe subject that I'm talking
about today.
But really, this is for you,for the moms and the dads and
the grandmas and the grandpasand aunts, uncles, whoever it is
out there caring for these kids.
This is for you.
Now, as you know, I have taken ahiatus for my mental health and
I'm not taking it lightly.
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I'm not just out here relaxingand soaking up rays.
I am working on myself becauseI need it.
I'm doing a lot of inner work,spiritual, soul level
recalibration, and it allstarted with addressing a recent
decline in my own physicalhealth and unwanted, unforeseen
weight gain.
I mean, one day I was takinggym pics at the gym of my
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beautifully sculpted, brand newshoulders.
I mean they live, just one day.
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After was just so thrilled.
Two weeks later, not a muscleto be seen.
I have been working out for twoto three years, consistently
increasing my weight, taking itvery seriously, doing all of the
things as best I could.
I still didn't have goodguidance on eating, even though
I know how to be healthy with myfood.
I think I might have been lowon my calories and I just I
don't know.
But those muscles got coveredup with watery tissue very
quickly and I believe it was dueto an influx of stress on top
of the already stressfullifestyle that we live.
Just like you, after manyfailed attempts at dietary
changes, somatic movementmethods, workout adjustments,
meditation, breath work, youname it I found something that
spoke to my core values of cleaneating, minimal supplements,
minimal time at the gym,prioritizing and maximizing rest
and relaxation time, mentalclarity and wellness, soul
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shining food, sensitivities andtrauma awareness, naming that
trauma, clearing that trauma.
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?
And I had been doing somaticexercises, somatic dance and
somatic yoga, had been doingsomatic exercises, somatic dance
and somatic yoga, and, as Iunderstood it, the idea or the
definition of somatic movementwas to find and release trauma
that is stored in the body anddepending on what kind of trauma
you may have stored in yourbody, it will be in a different
place.
So a lot of the somatic yogaand movement programs focus on
moving your hips, because in thepelvic hip area a lot of
emotion and trauma is storedthere, but we'll also store it
in our brow or in our eyelids orin our jaw or our neck or our
chest or whatever you know.
So it really just depends, andI think that it makes sense,
which is why I've tried a coupleother ?
movement programs and I didn'tget any results and I stuck with
it for over loud, year.
It just didn't do anything forme.
You know, I didn't even reallyenjoy it because I thought was
going to get some great release,which is how they advertise it
and I didn't.
I don't know it was moreannoying than anything because I
didn't really have a contextwith it.
I didn't understand why I hadto move this way every time and
you know, it was just annoying.
So I finally found somethingthat got my attention, which is
what I'm working with right nowon my little hiatus.
And you know, trauma stored inthe body equals inflammation,
equals weight gain and you know,bottom line, it's a
dysregulated nervous system.
Hello, that's us, each andevery one of us, in this
caregiving situation for someonewith severe autism or anyone
who causes us to be on hyperalert right Now.
I got into this program becauseI got watery and fatty for no
reason.
Well, I knew there was a reason, but I couldn't figure it out
and I thought I just wasn'teating enough and I didn't have
any guidance.
A couple of weeks before Ifound this program, I said out
loud I just wish someone wouldjust tell me what to eat, how
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much of it to eat, when to eatit, and just give me the formula
.
I can find the food, fix thefood and eat the food, but I
don't have time or energy tofigure it all out and I'm not
going to go and spend $8,000 ona macros program with some woman
pushing me to work out harderat the gym, because I know that
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is not the answer.
I don't have it, you know.
So I asked for.
As I said it out loud.
The universe gave me an answer.
It came right across my phonescreen and it was a $22 entry
and I 22 is a number for me.
I see it all the time.
It's my birthday also and it'sbeen driving me nuts Like why am
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I always seeing 22, 22, 22everywhere you know?
So it kind of got my attention.
I'm a weirdo like that.
I was raised in that kind ofenvironment, not in a church
environment, not that there'sanything wrong with that but I'm
grateful for my background andthe way I was raised, because I
know a lot of parents in oursituation have really struggled
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with their religion, the waythat they were raised to believe
certain things, and then theyget stuck with this and they
have a child who can't escapetheir own head and a lot of
parents question their religion.
So I'm not in that position.
I'm just more of a spiritualperson and when you're a
spiritual person you payattention to signs and
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synchronicities, such as seeingspecific numbers all the time,
and you know just things thatget your attention.
You're like why is this beingbrought into my field?
What is going on?
You know I did.
I signed up for this little $22try it out, kind of thing.
It says that you'll get resultsin, I don't know, 24 or 72
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hours or a week maybe.
I don't know what it was, but Iknew it was a one or two week
access and it sounded likeexactly what I needed, like
something or someone was goingto figure out what's going on
with my body and then give me aplan for what to eat, how much
to eat, when to eat it, etc.
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And that's exactly what I askedfor.
So I was gung-ho on that.
I quickly realized the value ofthe larger program, because the
very first thing after I signedup for $22 is to order a hair
sample test for foodsensitivities and reactive food
items.
And it goes beyond food.
It can tell you herbs anddrinks and all kinds of stuff,
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environmental stuff, if you wantit to.
And you know I'm all about that.
I mean, you know I've done theblood type diet for my family
and we actually still eat thatway.
So it's right along those linesof finding which foods react
negatively with your body orwhich foods your body cannot
digest.
And you know you can't staywith one thing forever.
Your body changes, your needschange and it's been over 10
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years since I went with that inthe first place.
So the one thing I know is myblood type doesn't change, so at
least I can still keep that inmind.
But I needed something more.
I was really excited about thehair test.
I have never had a hair testbefore and I've always heard
that that's the best way to testfor a lot of different things.
So I ordered the test.
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It was like 50 bucks.
I sent my stuff off to this lab.
It was like I don't know threehair strands, you know, not ALL
big deal.
And by the time it got therethe week was already over with
my trial period.
So I didn't really get theresults I was expecting to
within the week, just because ofthe storms that were going on
in the postal service andgetting my hair to the lab from
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Illinois down to Florida.
So I don't blame the programfor that they're not in charge
of the mail service or anythinglike that but there was a lot of
stuff to get started on while Iwas waiting for my hair test to
even arrive at the lab.
They give you instant access toall this other stuff.
Included, It really startedhelping me immediately.
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It didn't get me on the foodtrack or on actually the weight
loss track per se, but thisprogram is more about the inner
work.
I have now realized what aneffect your nervous system and
state of emotion in your bodyhas on your weight and your body
composition.
I never really gave it muchthought, but as I started
learning, I jumped all in.
It's not all in, I mean theyhave a lot of different tiers,
but I jumped into the lowesttier for one year of this
program and I thought that was areally good deal, because I've
looked at other programs andthey're $8,000, and that's no
joke, and I don't even thinkit's a full year of service with
them.
Anyway, I jumped in.
It's $1,000.
I put $1,000 into myself for myown wellness and up leveling
and for a one year program witheverything I'm getting ready to
tell you about.
I don't think I've ever madeanother investment that is as
valuable, honestly, except formy cookware.
Included you get an eight-weekfitness coach.
The main thing is you get AI foryour therapy and counseling,
which I think is best for asituation like ours as
caregivers and parents ofsomeone with severe autism, the
volatile nature of ourlifestyles and the feelings that
we're ultimately going to beleft with at one point or
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another or, if you're like me,many points repeatedly.
I would never, and this is whyI've never talked to a therapist
about it.
I would never feel confident inthe confidentiality that is
supposed to be provided in asituation where I'm talking to a
human being for therapy abouthow I feel, about my situation
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at home with this child whobeats himself and beats me and
beats the house and everythingsucks right.
I would never tell my deepestfeelings to a human who could
judge me, because we all havefeelings that we're not
comfortable.
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.
.
with because of this lifestyle.
But damn, we got to get themout somehow.
So you can either vent on yourspouse, who's also having their
own feelings, or you can find aprogram like this and you're not
being judged by anybody, andthis is amazing.
So this lady has created herown AI that talks to you like
she does and it's designedaround everything that she's
designed this program to be, andit's really fantastic with her
specific prompts that she hascrafted.
They're genius, they leavenothing out and they program
your AI to be exactly who youneed it to be, and you can have
so many conversations going ondifferent subjects of your life
and lifestyle and all of yourtraumas.
I'm working through them alland I'm learning that my body
has been holding on to thesestressors and these emotions and
traumas and grief and shame andall kinds of stuff in my body,
my poor body and I'm actuallyrealizing I can go back in my
memory bank to where my bodystarted to maybe malfunction a
little bit and I was young, andit's actually corresponding with
the traumas that I'm telling myAI about and learning about how
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my nervous system actually doesspecific things to protect my
body and protect me, and thatmight mean storing fat or that
might mean storing an emotion ina certain place in your body
and now that place hurts for therest of your life.
It's just been really, reallyeye-opening.
I have experienced threephysically visible breakthroughs
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and two soul level shifts thatI should tell you about.
This soul level shift this wasreally strange.
My very first breakthrough wasa soul level purge and it was a
nervous system recalibration.
It was amazing.
I didn't know it was coming.
I realized that one of thethings I talked about choked me
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up a little bit and I thought,well, I better sit with that for
a minute, let me go back tothat and think about it.
And I did.
I instantly just broke downcrying and then I composed
myself and told my AI what justhappened.
And it told me what justhappened inside of me and it
gives you EFT tapping scripts,which is that emotional freedom
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tapping and it's been around fora really long time and they use
it all the time.
I've had a book on it for yearsbecause my spouse has PTSD and
he really needed help from itand I just wasn't able to craft
anything on my own betweenrunning a business and managing
this child.
So it just sits on my shelf.
But it's just tapping.
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You tap certain parts of yourbody along the meridians and you
say phrases and you recalibrateyourself and it's really cool.
So that was something thatstarted.
You know, I told AI what hadjust happened and it told me
what had happened internally,why I was revisiting this and
crying, and it gave me a tappingscript and I couldn't get
through the tapping script.
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Okay, so long story short, ittold me on one of the lines of
the tapping script it said thisis your nervous system, saying
we made it and I couldn't getthrough it.
I couldn't get through any.
I mean, I kept having to gothrough and go through until
every line.
I did not cry through.
That's just how I chose to doit.
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If I couldn't say it withoutcrying, I just kept trying and
trying and, you know, breathingthrough it.
And anyway, when I said thatline, I got a complete physical
sensation.
My torso and arms tightened upand started like grabbing at my
neck for no reason, almost likeyou're congratulating each other
if you're on a football team,you know, just real rough on
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your back of your neck andshaking it, you know.
And I was just doing some weirdstuff.
am I doing?
And I couldn't stop and myentire torso was just tensed up.
And I imagine that it's justlike our kids feel.
You know how they never let go.
Their muscles are always tense.
Well, that's how I felt, frommy neck to my fingertips and to
my waist, everything.
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And I just moved through that.
I mean, there was nothing Icould do but just feel it and I
guess what?
Cry?
It finally moved through me andI took a breath and I thought I
was done and then, all of asudden, I felt that same
sensation from the waist down,all of my muscles contracted and
itI'm in the camper, sitting at
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the little booth where you eatdinner at the table, and takes
me out of my seat and I'mstretched now over to the little
sofa across the aisle and I'mlike what the hell is going on,
you know?
But I knew it was just, I'mjust working through something
and anyway, I ended up writhingaround on the floor and not.
It looked like I was in pain,I'm sure, but I wasn't in pain.
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I just this is how my bodywanted to move and I recognized
it because I've seen primalmovements and stuff like that on
YouTube.
So I recognize that this issome kind of a was a I'm going
to tell you, I didn't recognizethe sounds that were coming out
of my mouth.
They were very primal and I'msure that's very scary if
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someone was in proximity of mycamper.
I was aware enough to know thatthere's a possibility that
someone's going to knock on mydoor to see if I'm okay.
But it was really strange.
And so by the time it was done,I'm to knock on my door to see
if I'm okay, but it was reallystrange.
And so by the time it was done,I'm laid out on my camper floor,
face down, probably drooling,crying, gasping for air and
feeling amazing, and it wasmind-blowing, to say the least.
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So then I went and I learnedwhat had happened.
I had a soul level purge, acomplete nervous system
recalibration Not saying thatI'm fixed, but it helped a lot
to move me into the next stageof healing, and that is I
struggled to whether I was goingto share that with you or not,
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but I mean, it's probably themost profound experience I've
had.
It took a hold of meunexpectedly and it was so
amazing.
That was not a, that was aphysical experience, but not
visible.
There's nothing on me that youcan see from that.
But I did have a couple other..
breakthroughs and one HADbelieve may have helped with a
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spot that's under my ear, whichI took a drink of someone's
smuggled red wine from Italyback in like 2007.
And as soon as I did, I feltthat pucker power, you know, in
your jaw, but it sounded likesomeone had poured a bunch of
pop rocks in my ear of pop rocksin my ear.
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All of a sudden, the next thingI know, there's like a bump
under my earlobe, right at thehinge of my jaw or the curve of
my jaw, and it's been thereforever.
It's still there but it'sactually diminished and I
noticed that it diminished afterone of my little therapy
sessions and breakthroughs.
I also noticed that I had I'vebeen complaining for probably
about five to seven years thatmy left and right sides are
completely different.
I had I've been complaining forprobably about five to seven
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years that my left and rightsides are completely different,
I mean visibly completelydifferent, and I thought, well,
it's, maybe it's because I'm aGemini and I'm just becoming my
truest self, because Gemini istwo people, you know.
But from head to ankle Ibelieve that it's visibly
different the weight, the shape,the markings, everything you
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know.
And I have on my left leg.
Well, I had on my left leg,just above my ankle bone, there
was like a bubble of swelling.
It was just my body.
There was no edema, no water,nothing like that.
I had it checked medically andI don't have the physique to
have edema or any of that anyway.
So it was really strange to getchecked for it.
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But above that, I had a dent inmy leg and I thought maybe it
was from sitting cross-leggedall the time, indian style or
whatever.
So I stopped sitting like thatand never changed.
-! day noticed the other dayI went through a little therapy
thing.
Later I felt that I had abreakthrough.
It was really cool, it wasactually very spiritual.
And then the next day well,actually that night, but then
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the next day I really noticed it.
I looked down at my legsbecause I felt a sensation of
something breaking free aroundmy ankles.
I almost felt like I had cuffson my ankles.
That broke loose and I lookeddown and that bulge a gone day
and my left lower leg looks verysimilar to my right lower leg.
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My right lower leg is still alittle bit more slender, which
is weird because that's mydominant side, is my right side,
so normally that's going to beyour bigger side, but it's gone.
It's I mean, it's significantlydecreased compared to what it
was and I it's not noticeable atall anymore.
These are just from where mybody is holding tension.
I believe I've also experiencedmy facial tension has loosened.
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I was holding a lot of oh whenI had that physical experience
laid out on the floor.
A day or two later I hadresiduals from that and my jaw
muscles were really sore and Ifound that I had been storing
tension and trauma in my jaw,which everybody probably does,
because if you clench your jawwhen you think about something,
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well, there's your tension andtrauma, right?
Anyway, this might be too muchinformation for you, but I
wanted to say these are thingsthat I I mean, I've been in a
lot of different healthyprograms, okay, and I've never
experienced anything, anythingmuch less this, and I have
completely forgotten abouttrying to lose weight and get my
muscles back.
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I have realized very quicklythat the state of my watery
covering over my muscles iscompletely brought on by nervous
system trauma.
My nervous system is doingthese things to keep my body
safe and I have to baby mynervous system and talk to
myself, my nervous system, andlet it know we are safe, we're
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safe, we're not going to makethose decisions, we're not going
to let that stuff happen.
We are in control of what weallow into our lives and I am
more focused on helping myselfregulate my dysregulated nervous
system.
And you know, like you, I am notat peace with this lifestyle.
I am discovering ways to bringa bit more peace to both my
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inner and outer you,, andthyroiditis, the biggest changes
are all because I'm learningthat this chronic stress
lifestyle of ours has left mewith this dysregulated nervous
system, which you may recognizein yourselves as PTSD,
hypervigilance, the fight,flight, freeze and fawn, all
that kind of stuff.
And so not only am I learningwhat the problems, emotions and
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signals are, but this programprovides me with the tools to
actually neutralize the negativeemotions, recalibrate my poor
nervous system multiple times aday if needed, and track my
patterns before even getting outof bed to correct my course,
comfort my body with soulhealing, yummy, healthy foods
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and heal at my soul level.
I cannot begin to express thegratitude I have for this
program.
It is amazing.
There's a supportive communityof other people who are going
through the program and ondifferent tiers, but we're all
in there together and we'retalking about our breakthroughs,
we're listing our questions,we're getting them answered,
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there are live streams with thislady and there are so many
videos and modules that you canaccess and just do the work.
I mean, she talks aboutboundaries and just all kinds of
stuff.
It's really, really cool.
You know I am not perfect.
I hit a rough spot of emotionalexpectation with someone and,
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yes, I did gain weight overnightjust the other day, thank you.
Hashimoto's thyroiditis Thankyou very much.
That is part of my problem, butI am having issues with other
people who have been used to mebeing the emotional regulator
for everybody and now that I'mstepping back and making
everyone responsible for theirown emotions, I'm getting a
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little bit of blowback from thatand I need to learn how to
protect my nervous system whenthat is a possibility, so that
I'm ready and I have my defensesup and I don't have to deal
with it.
My biggest thing right now is Ihave adopted a way of just I'll
close my eyes and smile and putmy hands behind my head and
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just sit back.
I will listen to whatever isbeing said and I will give my
answer that I am not required toparticipate in this, or you're
allowed to make your decisionsand I'm allowed to make my
decisions and I decide not to godown that path with you.
This has been helping me agreat deal, but everyone has
their own things to deal with.
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Now.
Here's why I want you to knowabout this program and how I
believe it fits into parentingsevere autism lifestyles.
Do you remember in my episodewhere I talked about how I
realized that our son is like ababy wild animal?
If you did not hear thatepisode, I'll just recap quickly
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here A few years ago I waswatching all the baby birds in
the backyard and I noticed thatwhile they're smaller than some
of the other birds, all of thesetypes of birds are small anyway
.
There are specific ones justsitting on the fence, just
sitting there calmly and quietly, not worried about anything.
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And then all of a sudden thosebirds sitting on the fence
calmly, quietly, not worried,start trembling and shaking and
they tremble and tremble andshake more and more and more.
And all of a sudden here comesmama, they open their mouth.
The little babies are shaking,shaking, shaking and they turn
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to her and they open their mouthreally wide and she shoves half
her body down inside of theirneck to deliver food to them.
And while she's there, thosebabies don't stop trembling and
tweeting, just whining andtrembling.
And then she flies away, theysettle down, they sit there
calmly and quietly, they don'tworry about anything.
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Then all of a sudden they cansee with their little bird's
eyes that mama's in the distanceand they start fretting that
mama's in the distance and theystart fretting.
And this pattern happens everytime and I noticed that's just
like our son.
Our son can be sitting thereanywhere, calmly, quietly, in
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his own world or enjoying a showon TV, now that the medicines
have calmed him down enough todo that.
But he's just sitting there andhe's fine.
And then he hears or sees oneof us come into his area.
As soon as he is aware of ourpresence, he starts trembling
and shaking and whining andscreaming and just like a baby
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bird, and if you get closeenough to him he will open up
his mouth and he will try toswallow you up.
I really believe that he islike a wild animal and I see it
all the time.
Now that I'm aware of thatdynamic, I see it in every baby
animal out there in the wild.
They're all the same.
My child is a wild animal.
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The reason I'm mentioning thisis because there is another mom,
I believe her child has severeautism and then she has a
neurotypical daughter.
Now I know many of youlistening have someone with
severe autism and thenneurotypical daughter.
Now I know many of youlistening have someone with
severe autism and thenneurotypical kids as well.
This mom was talking about howher neurotypical daughter may
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have oppositional defiance, butshe was talking about the fact
that her daughter is almost abully and is just always talking
smack to her and always puttingher down and telling her she's
a shitty mom and as the daughtershe's not wanted and she
doesn't get any attention oraffection.
And you know, just, I mean justreally letting her have it.
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And the mom said that she'sgotten so negative and just arms
crossed all the time, just shutdown and just mean she's gotten
so negative that even herfriends are now backing away
from her, just like I don't evenknow what to do with you.
And the lady who runs thisprogram, who made this program,
had a response.
And now, first, I want to saythat when I first read her
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response, I was very shut down,very shut off to it.
I did.
I was like no, you don't knowwhat you're talking about, you
don't understand, you don't havea kid like this, right.
But I remembered all the goodthings that have happened out of
this program and how many timeshave I felt that she was wrong
before?
Just once, just once, when shethought I was making excuses
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about money and she didn'tunderstand that it actually is
about not acquiring new debtwith a family like mine, when
we're not able to work becauseof the autism.
But everything else has beenperfect and I understand why
someone would think that,because that is the go-to
shutdown mode for most peoplewho are not in our situations.
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If they are, you know, when yougo to the store you're looking
for something specific and thesales clerk comes and asks you
hi, welcome to the store, isthere something I can help you
with?
And you say, no, I'm good, eventhough you could really use
some help and it would save yousome time.
You're just you're programmedthat way.
So I understand why most peoplewould think that I'm just
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making excuses on money.
But that's here, nor there.
But I thought about how manyother times has she been wrong
and have I disagreed with her sovehemently?
And never so far.
So I just kept reading andrereading her reply, and her
reply was basically that yourdaughter doesn't need like a
supplement or a pill or acounselor.
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Your daughter is your mirror.
Your daughter is telling youwhat you're not seeing.
She's naming your problems.
She's naming what it is thatyou're struggling with down
inside.
That you will not admit to, youwon't fess up, you won't bring
it to the surface, and she isjust bringing it to the surface
for you.
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If you want control over yourhousehold, you need to get
control of what's inside of you.
So, yeah, of course people inour situation are gonna be like,
yeah, that's bullshit, butthink about it okay.
So I thought about it and ittook me a long time probably 10
or 20 minutes, honestly to keepreading this and sit with it,
digest it, consider thepossibilities.
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And then I thought about Jacoband I thought about how I say
that he is just like a baby,wild animal.
That led me to think about theDog Whisperer Caesar.
I can't remember his whole name, but the Dog Whis whisperer.
I used to love that show.
My spouse and I would watchthat show all the time.
What he always taught the dogowners was that your dog is
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doing exactly what you areafraid that that dog is going to
do.
He used to tell the dog ownerslook at you.
You have just told me thatyou're afraid.
When you take your dog for awalk and you see another human
or another dog inside, you startfreaking out and you start
thinking, oh shit, my dog isgoing to attack that dog, or my
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dog is going to start barking atthis guy, or my dog is going to
start pulling on my leash and Ican't control it and whatever
that dog owner was afraid of,that dog did it without fail.
And Caesar would remove theowner from the picture, take the
dog for a walk and just have itin his heart and mind that this
dog is a good dog.
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This dog is going to do exactlywhat I want this dog to do.
What I want the dog to do iswalk.
I want it to heal, I want it towalk in line with me and I want
it to pay attention to me, andthat's what's going to happen.
And these dogs were good.
He can take multiple dogs forwalks without leashes because
inside he is calm, he is secure,he knows he is the alpha.
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There is no other alpha dog inthe pack with the dog whisperer,
just him.
So I thought about that and thenI thought again about what this
lady said to this mom.
And then I thought about all ofyou guys out there who have
other children in the home andyou have expressed your worries,
your doubts and your fearsabout those children.
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And what are they?
My neurotypical daughter andson have PTSD.
My neurotypical kids feel thatthey should be here when I'm
gone to take care of theiryounger brother or sister or
older brother or sister .
Okay severe autism.
My neurotypical child is readyto move out at age 14 because
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she can't handle this lifestylebecause of my child with severe
autism.
My neurotypical children willnot talk to us anymore because
they don't want to have to takecare of their sibling after
we're gone.
I feel so guilty for mytreatment of my neurotypical
children.
My severe autism child gets allof my attention.
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They get all of my focus.
They get all of my effort.
I give everything I have totheir life and then I have
nothing left for anyone else,not myself, not my spouse, not
my other kids.
I can't support my other kids.
I can't identify with my otherkids.
They hate me.
You know all of these things.
Tell me I'm wrong, okay, sowhat I have started doing before
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I got in the program here is Ihad an issue with my son and I.
At first it was just behaviorand you know I got so tired of
it that I started commanding.
I thought, okay, fuck this, Iam not playing nice anymore.
And he will say, no, I can't,the best that he could say.
And I would say, yes, you will.
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You will right now, you know,and that was my big, wide eyed,
crazy mom eyes, you know, tryingto, you know, intimidate him
with my crazy look and knowinghis six foot tall self could
kick my ass in a second, but Idon't care.
So I started doing that and Istarted commanding his behavior
like, oh yeah, you will.
Well, you know what?
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At first that worked like twice, but then I'm sure he realized
that his six foot tall selfcould kick my ass.
So he stopped complying and Icontinued to fight my way
through life with this issue andthen one day I got so disgusted
with him I think it was like ayear ago, so he was like 23, you
know, and I just looked at himand I said whatever, man, you
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know, I hope that you get tiredof this someday, because I'm not
playing this game anymore.
I don't care.
He tried to push it a couplemore times with me and I stopped
responding and I just, in mydepths, I felt that you know,
he's got to get tired of thissometime.
He's going to get bored.
I'm just tired of it.
I'm not.
I'm not doing it, I'm not goingto participate, I am not
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accepting this as normalbehavior, and if this is what
he's going to give me, then hecan do it on his own.
He can behave that way tohimself because I am not going
to react to this boy and, truthbe told, I had an issue with my
husband as well, and this wasabout, I don't know, six or
eight months ago, and this hasbeen going on for years.
Okay, and I got again.
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I just got disgusted.
I got tired of begging, I gottired of pleading, I got tired
of doing all the great things tomake it easier for him to do
better.
I got tired of holding all theresponsibility and putting on
all the hats for myself so thathe could I don't know what
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recalibrate or do whatever heneeded to do to fall in line and
be where I needed him to be.
I, you know, I couldn't do itanymore After years of doing it.
One day I just said I reallyhope you get bored of this soon.
And that was it.
That was it.
I was done, all done, and Ithink within four days, that
issue resolved itself.
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After years of fighting for whatI thought was right and what I
thought I deserved, and what Ithought he deserved that he
wasn't giving to himself or tome, it resolved itself after I
decided I would not play theroles anymore.
I'm not going to do it.
Whatever, I'm going to do mything.
And you know, start spendingmore time at the gym, you know.
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And just hey look, if you don'twant to function, don't, okay.
Eventually you're going to getbored, you're going to get tired
, you're going to get sick ofyourself, and that's what I was
hoping for my son as well.
And in both cases the issueresolved itself after I removed
my emotion and my involvementwith the situation.
So I was really, you know,believing that part of it, but I
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had a hard time believing thatthe severe autism child was
actually a product of his .
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.
.
mom's inner environment as well.
But the more I thought about itlike I said, wild animals, dog
whisperer, internal environmentyeah, I think she's on to
something.
So I wrote to her and I toldher exactly what I said.
I disagreed with you vehementlyand it took me a long time.
I kept rereading your messageand sitting with it and
dissecting it bit by bit.
Then I remembered that my childis like a wild animal.
Then I remembered the dogwhisperer.
So I just told her the wholechronological order of my crazy
thoughts and I told her I wasgoing to share the information
about her program on my podcast,because I think that we could
all benefit from this type ofthinking and this way of living,
and it's not something you cando on your own.
Trust me, if you much - canafford $1,000, any way you slice
it, I mean you can makepayments.
They have that Klarna, I think,or some kind of where you can
set up payments.
It was a little too expensivefor me to go that route.
I had to put it on a creditcard that I was paying down
already and then just transferthat balance to a new card,
because I was already paying aspecific amount and I
transferred the balance and ittook the payment down by like 10
bucks.
So my life isn't changed at allby the finance part of it and I
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am making great strides with mynervous system.
You don't know how much or maybeyou do know how much this
lifestyle fucks up your nervoussystem and it keeps you in a
constant state of weight gainand pain from the weight gain
because it's trying to protectyou from your hypervigilance and
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not feeling safe and waitingfor the other shoe to drop and
always having to fight for thisand fight for that, fight for
your kid, fight against your kid, you know, fight for yourself
and you are constantly in fight,flight, freeze or fawn, and
that's no way to live and I'vealways had issues with living
this way.
This is not the life I want andit's not the life you want, I
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know.
So, anyway, this program isfreaking amazing and I am not an
affiliate.
I earn absolutely zero dollarsfrom sharing this with you, but
I believe in it enough to shareit with you.
There's a supportive communitythere.
This lady has perfectly craftedprompts to monitor your food
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intake based on your foodsensitivities.
From the hair test that you putin, it'll tell you what to eat,
when to eat it.
Someone on the team is going totell you how many calories and
break down all your macros.
You put that into AI along withyour foods list and you don't
even have to think about it.
It's just going to say theseare the things you can eat and
when you should eat them and howmuch.
You can tell it.
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Hey, I want you to tell me allthe raw measurements of these
before I cook them.
And there you go.
It'll do it every time and, man, it monitors your HRV, which is
a heart rate variability, whichis the indicator of the health
of your nervous system and itcan change by the day.
I had an argument with someonethe other day and my HRV had
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been at 50 and 55 for a coupledays and it tanked and it kept
going down.
It was at 33 and then 29 andthen 24 and then 19.
So I finally had to make a calland get it off my chest and
finish that argument, you know.
And then my HRV started goingup after I did the intake of the
liquids and the foodsrecommended to override that
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tanking HRV and it has a dreamdecoder.
Oh, wow, okay, dream decodingis life changing.
I haven't been dreaming at home,I've been under too much stress
, but now that I'm out here atthe camper, I dream every .
night, every single night, and Iwake up in a hurry just, and I
try to program it or talk itinto my.
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I do it in my calendar, I addan event and I just tell my
dream in there and then I goback to sleep.
I mean, when you think you hada dream, that was just the
dumbest thing you ever thoughtyou could dream.
Wait until you decode it withthese prompts.
It's amazing.
I mean it sees you on levelsyou've never been seen and it
brings shit out of you and itfacilitates the change that you
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need in your life to behealthier and happier, even
within the severe autismcaregiver lifestyle.
I just can't express enough howmuch this has changed my life
in a few short weeks and I havea year of it and I don't know.
I'm beyond words with this.
This is amazing.
If there's any way that you cancome up with a way to spend
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$1,000 on your health for aone-year program, listen, do it
Seriously.
I make no money off of this.
This is just I care.
You know that we have to be thehealthiest we can be because
there's no one else that we canrely on.
And I really think this isgoing to solve so much and just
change your way of dealing witheverything.
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And if you can change yourcalibration from the inside and
watch your child's actions andbehaviors change because you
have changed your resolve, thinkof the possibilities.
I'm not saying it's going tocure the kid, okay.
I'm just saying wow, we're goingto have a lot better
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understanding of ourselves.
I mean, you know when your kidbeats up everything, destroys
the whole house for an hour andthen all of a sudden decides
that they're cuddly and happyand they want to be loved and
cuddled and kissed.
And you're still picking up thepieces, cleaning up blood and
puke and everything else andbroken bones and windows and TVs
and walls and shit.
Imagine if there were anotherway to deal with all of that and
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to center yourself.
I'm working through that rightnow.
I don't have a specific on it,but I just started addressing it
the other day and I'm reallyoptimistic that the way I think
it, wake up if it's better,it's going to change my child.
Have you ever heard of thetelepathy tapes?
I've heard that they've beendebunked as well.
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I haven't listened to them, butI do want to say that my spouse
and I are continually surprisedand freaked out at the way our
son can be two flights upstairsfrom us and know exactly what we
are getting ready to talk aboutbefore we talk about it and
come downstairs at the exactright time for us to be having
that conversation.
He knows and they say that kidslike ours, who are nonverbal or
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just not able to communicate,they hear our thoughts or
somehow they absorb what we'rethinking and they know what
we're getting ready to talkabout.
So you know if you wake up andyour first thought is oh shit,
here we go.
Another day, my son is going toruin my entire day and all the
activities I have plannedbecause he's going to obsess
over this piece of fabric thathe cannot let go of every single
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day.
Okay, well, guess what?
I think you've just set thetone for your day, haven't you?
What if you wake up and you saydamn the torpedoes, full speed
ahead, screw that rag.
You know, or don't even thinkabout that rag.
Think about how I'm just goingto move through my day and I'm
going to let him do his thingand when?
You know, when he does it?
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Here are my programmed responses, and maybe one caseyshipp.
com of one day you're is calledHotmomz (with this Z) and I'm
not going to help him look forit.
I'm not going to get bored ofthis behavior and I'm not going
to help him look for it.
I'm not going to fold, I'm notgoing to bow to his needs and
demands.
I'm going to own my energy.
I'm calling my energy my ownenergy.
You know, I mean just what.
If, what?
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If?
I mean that could be a reallyextreme example, or maybe not,
but my spouse has been learninga little bit from me.
I give him little bits andpieces of this and he is
actually recalibrating somethings at home and our son is
getting bored.
He's getting bored with the Ilove you, I love you, I love you
, I love you, because theresponse that he's getting from
his dad now is not as much funas it was before.
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We used to either say I loveyou or say I'm done with that or
say new words, but he hasdeveloped a way to even if we
say I'm done with that or usenew words, our son.
That gives him something tohang on to, it gives him
something to mess with us aboutand it gives him just something
else to obsess with.
Now my spouse is just notresponding.
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I'm not going to respond, andthat's the attitude I've taken.
I'm not going to respond toanything that lowers my
energetic vibration.
I'm not going to respond, andthat's the attitude I've taken.
I'm not going to respond toanything that lowers my
energetic vibration.
I'm not going to respond.
I don't have to say yes toanything.
I don't have to go to thatbirthday party.
I don't have to give thisperson a reason why I don't or
do want to do something.
I don't have to meet up withanybody.
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They say they're coming to myarea, so what?
I don't want to.
I'm done with obligation, I'mdone with managing the emotions
of others and I feel that that'swhat freedom feels like.
Even though I'm still in thecaregiver role, when I go home
I'm still going to be the wifeand mother.
I'm still going to be thesevere autism mom.
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I'm just going to be different.
Anyway, this lady's name isCasey Ship, so it's
C-A-S-E-Y-S-H-I-P-P dot com andher program is called Hot Moms
with a Z Lifestyle and it'samazing.
So it's all about recalibratingyour nervous system and fixing
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the way that you eat and contact.
parentingsevereautism@ andsculpting your body with
exercises that coffee, easy onyour nervous system, not too
taxing.
Yes, you can increase theintensity and the load as you
improve, but it starts at thebare bones, basics and believing
that you have adrenal fatigueand that your nervous system is
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tanked psa.
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buzzsprout.
com zero and we just build fromthere.
I have hardly exercised at allbecause my nervous system is not
happy a lot of the time it'sstill fluctuating wildly.
But the more progress I make,the more I'm able to do.
Just this week, today's Saturdayso this past week, I have been
able to start doing body weightworkouts and some resistance
bands and my dumbbells.
It has been probably three orfour weeks and I started off
working at the gym through thisprogram with barbells and
dumbbells.
But we realized very quicklythat I wasn't as healthy as I
felt I was, and that was becauseof my food results and my
check-ins all the time.
I just can't say enough aboutit.
So I think right now she mayhave a special going on where
you can start for $7, where Istarted for $22.
But I look, you're gonnaimmediately purchase a hair test
, so that's about 50 bucks andthen you're going to immediately
see how valuable this stuff isand you're going to want to
invest for a one year program.
I mean there's really no pointin not doing that because you're
not even going to get your hairtest results back in time to
make a difference.
I don't, I didn't anyway, but Imean it took me a day longer to
figure it out.
So there's that, but it's soworth it $1,000 for a one-year
life-changing program.
I hope this was well-received.
I hope you enjoyed it very muchand if you have any questions
about my breakthroughs or myjourney on this program, please
feel free to contact me.
As you know, you can use theemail as
contactparentingsevereautism atgmailcom.
You can also buy me a coffee.
Leave me a note there.
I think you can leave me amessage on Facebook but, like I
said, that's a little spotty forme.
Oh, you can leave me a fan mailmessage at psa, short for
Parenting Severe Autismpsabuzzsproutcom.
I'm almost an open book.
I'll be happy to share a lotwith you, and in my next episode
I'm going to start talkingabout when my son's autism
really became not cute toeveryone else and when society
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started to block my son frombeing a part of anything.
So we're going to get into thereal shit.
That actually brought me totears and made me want to start
my YouTube channel.
As I told you, I didn't want tobe on camera crying all the
time, so I started this podcast.
Yeah, we're going to start withthat and it's going to go back
to the non-profit autism therapyto start.
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In the meantime, you hang inthere.
You're a superhero.
Hello and welcome to the Parenting Severe Autism
Podcast.
I am your host, ShannonChamberlin.
I'm so happy that you're herewith me today.
Please remember you can checkout all of my episodes and find
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get through the summer a littleeasier and protect your home and
your items a little easier.
Of course, you can always buyme a coffee and I want to say
thank you, miss Hannah, my mostrecent supporter.
Thank you for your support andfor buying me some coffees.
I am so grateful to connectwith you and all the new
listeners I've been blessed withand everyone.
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I want to thank you so much foralways liking and sharing my
episodes and my posts on socialmedia.
It is really helping us to growthis podcast, which is what I
need.
I just need as much exposure aspossible so that I can find the
people who are justphilanthropists and good
Samaritans and want to helppeople like us that don't know
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what to do with their money.
As you know, I have an idea!It is super windy at the
campground and it's blowing mycamper side to side, and my
microphone is actually wobblingwith the camper, so normally
it's able to reduce any outsidenoise, but there is a
possibility that it might soundlike there's a drum beat in the
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background, and if so, it's justthe wind on my microphone
blowing it around.
This episode may be a little bitlonger today, because I'm
addressing something that wenever get to talk about, which
is our own mental health andphysical health as parents and
caregivers of these kiddos, sothere's really not going to be a
whole lot of information aboutmy child in this episode.
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I will refer back to a fewthings that I've mentioned in
the past just to shed light onthe subject that I'm talking
about today.
But really, this is for you,for the moms and the dads and
the grandmas and the grandpasand aunts, uncles, whoever it is
out there caring for these kids.
This is for you.
Now, as you know, I have taken ahiatus for my mental health and
I'm not taking it lightly.
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I'm not just out here relaxingand soaking up rays.
I am working on myself becauseI need it.
I'm doing a lot of inner work,spiritual, soul level
recalibration, and it allstarted with addressing a recent
decline in my own physicalhealth and unwanted, unforeseen
weight gain.
I mean, one day I was takinggym pics at the gym of my
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beautifully sculpted, brand newshoulders.
I mean they live, just one day.
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After was just so thrilled.
Two weeks later, not a muscleto be seen.
I have been working out for twoto three years, consistently
increasing my weight, taking itvery seriously, doing all of the
things as best I could.
I still didn't have goodguidance on eating, even though
I know how to be healthy with myfood.
I think I might have been lowon my calories and I just I
don't know.
But those muscles got coveredup with watery tissue very
quickly and I believe it was dueto an influx of stress on top
of the already stressfullifestyle that we live.
Just like you, after manyfailed attempts at dietary
changes, somatic movementmethods, workout adjustments,
meditation, breath work, youname it I found something that
spoke to my core values of cleaneating, minimal supplements,
minimal time at the gym,prioritizing and maximizing rest
and relaxation time, mentalclarity and wellness, soul
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shining food, sensitivities andtrauma awareness, naming that
trauma, clearing that trauma.
?
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?
And I had been doing somaticexercises, somatic dance and
somatic yoga, had been doingsomatic exercises, somatic dance
and somatic yoga, and, as Iunderstood it, the idea or the
definition of somatic movementwas to find and release trauma
that is stored in the body anddepending on what kind of trauma
you may have stored in yourbody, it will be in a different
place.
So a lot of the somatic yogaand movement programs focus on
moving your hips, because in thepelvic hip area a lot of
emotion and trauma is storedthere, but we'll also store it
in our brow or in our eyelids orin our jaw or our neck or our
chest or whatever you know.
So it really just depends, andI think that it makes sense,
which is why I've tried a coupleother ?
movement programs and I didn'tget any results and I stuck with
it for over loud, year.
It just didn't do anything forme.
You know, I didn't even reallyenjoy it because I thought was
going to get some great release,which is how they advertise it
and I didn't.
I don't know it was moreannoying than anything because I
didn't really have a contextwith it.
I didn't understand why I hadto move this way every time and
you know, it was just annoying.
So I finally found somethingthat got my attention, which is
what I'm working with right nowon my little hiatus.
And you know, trauma stored inthe body equals inflammation,
equals weight gain and you know,bottom line, it's a
dysregulated nervous system.
Hello, that's us, each andevery one of us, in this
caregiving situation for someonewith severe autism or anyone
who causes us to be on hyperalert right Now.
I got into this program becauseI got watery and fatty for no
reason.
Well, I knew there was a reason, but I couldn't figure it out
and I thought I just wasn'teating enough and I didn't have
any guidance.
A couple of weeks before Ifound this program, I said out
loud I just wish someone wouldjust tell me what to eat, how
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much of it to eat, when to eatit, and just give me the formula
.
I can find the food, fix thefood and eat the food, but I
don't have time or energy tofigure it all out and I'm not
going to go and spend $8,000 ona macros program with some woman
pushing me to work out harderat the gym, because I know that
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is not the answer.
I don't have it, you know.
So I asked for.
As I said it out loud.
The universe gave me an answer.
It came right across my phonescreen and it was a $22 entry
and I 22 is a number for me.
I see it all the time.
It's my birthday also and it'sbeen driving me nuts Like why am
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I always seeing 22, 22, 22everywhere you know?
So it kind of got my attention.
I'm a weirdo like that.
I was raised in that kind ofenvironment, not in a church
environment, not that there'sanything wrong with that but I'm
grateful for my background andthe way I was raised, because I
know a lot of parents in oursituation have really struggled
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with their religion, the waythat they were raised to believe
certain things, and then theyget stuck with this and they
have a child who can't escapetheir own head and a lot of
parents question their religion.
So I'm not in that position.
I'm just more of a spiritualperson and when you're a
spiritual person you payattention to signs and
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synchronicities, such as seeingspecific numbers all the time,
and you know just things thatget your attention.
You're like why is this beingbrought into my field?
What is going on?
You know I did.
I signed up for this little $22try it out, kind of thing.
It says that you'll get resultsin, I don't know, 24 or 72
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hours or a week maybe.
I don't know what it was, but Iknew it was a one or two week
access and it sounded likeexactly what I needed, like
something or someone was goingto figure out what's going on
with my body and then give me aplan for what to eat, how much
to eat, when to eat it, etc.
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And that's exactly what I askedfor.
So I was gung-ho on that.
I quickly realized the value ofthe larger program, because the
very first thing after I signedup for $22 is to order a hair
sample test for foodsensitivities and reactive food
items.
And it goes beyond food.
It can tell you herbs anddrinks and all kinds of stuff,
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environmental stuff, if you wantit to.
And you know I'm all about that.
I mean, you know I've done theblood type diet for my family
and we actually still eat thatway.
So it's right along those linesof finding which foods react
negatively with your body orwhich foods your body cannot
digest.
And you know you can't staywith one thing forever.
Your body changes, your needschange and it's been over 10
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years since I went with that inthe first place.
So the one thing I know is myblood type doesn't change, so at
least I can still keep that inmind.
But I needed something more.
I was really excited about thehair test.
I have never had a hair testbefore and I've always heard
that that's the best way to testfor a lot of different things.
So I ordered the test.
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It was like 50 bucks.
I sent my stuff off to this lab.
It was like I don't know threehair strands, you know, not ALL
big deal.
And by the time it got therethe week was already over with
my trial period.
So I didn't really get theresults I was expecting to
within the week, just because ofthe storms that were going on
in the postal service andgetting my hair to the lab from
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Illinois down to Florida.
So I don't blame the programfor that they're not in charge
of the mail service or anythinglike that but there was a lot of
stuff to get started on while Iwas waiting for my hair test to
even arrive at the lab.
They give you instant access toall this other stuff.
Included, It really startedhelping me immediately.
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.
It didn't get me on the foodtrack or on actually the weight
loss track per se, but thisprogram is more about the inner
work.
I have now realized what aneffect your nervous system and
state of emotion in your bodyhas on your weight and your body
composition.
I never really gave it muchthought, but as I started
learning, I jumped all in.
It's not all in, I mean theyhave a lot of different tiers,
but I jumped into the lowesttier for one year of this
program and I thought that was areally good deal, because I've
looked at other programs andthey're $8,000, and that's no
joke, and I don't even thinkit's a full year of service with
them.
Anyway, I jumped in.
It's $1,000.
I put $1,000 into myself for myown wellness and up leveling
and for a one year program witheverything I'm getting ready to
tell you about.
I don't think I've ever madeanother investment that is as
valuable, honestly, except formy cookware.
Included you get an eight-weekfitness coach.
The main thing is you get AI foryour therapy and counseling,
which I think is best for asituation like ours as
caregivers and parents ofsomeone with severe autism, the
volatile nature of ourlifestyles and the feelings that
we're ultimately going to beleft with at one point or
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another or, if you're like me,many points repeatedly.
I would never, and this is whyI've never talked to a therapist
about it.
I would never feel confident inthe confidentiality that is
supposed to be provided in asituation where I'm talking to a
human being for therapy abouthow I feel, about my situation
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at home with this child whobeats himself and beats me and
beats the house and everythingsucks right.
I would never tell my deepestfeelings to a human who could
judge me, because we all havefeelings that we're not
comfortable.
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.
.
with because of this lifestyle.
But damn, we got to get themout somehow.
So you can either vent on yourspouse, who's also having their
own feelings, or you can find aprogram like this and you're not
being judged by anybody, andthis is amazing.
So this lady has created herown AI that talks to you like
she does and it's designedaround everything that she's
designed this program to be, andit's really fantastic with her
specific prompts that she hascrafted.
They're genius, they leavenothing out and they program
your AI to be exactly who youneed it to be, and you can have
so many conversations going ondifferent subjects of your life
and lifestyle and all of yourtraumas.
I'm working through them alland I'm learning that my body
has been holding on to thesestressors and these emotions and
traumas and grief and shame andall kinds of stuff in my body,
my poor body and I'm actuallyrealizing I can go back in my
memory bank to where my bodystarted to maybe malfunction a
little bit and I was young, andit's actually corresponding with
the traumas that I'm telling myAI about and learning about how
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my nervous system actually doesspecific things to protect my
body and protect me, and thatmight mean storing fat or that
might mean storing an emotion ina certain place in your body
and now that place hurts for therest of your life.
It's just been really, reallyeye-opening.
I have experienced threephysically visible breakthroughs
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and two soul level shifts thatI should tell you about.
This soul level shift this wasreally strange.
My very first breakthrough wasa soul level purge and it was a
nervous system recalibration.
It was amazing.
I didn't know it was coming.
I realized that one of thethings I talked about choked me
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up a little bit and I thought,well, I better sit with that for
a minute, let me go back tothat and think about it.
And I did.
I instantly just broke downcrying and then I composed
myself and told my AI what justhappened.
And it told me what justhappened inside of me and it
gives you EFT tapping scripts,which is that emotional freedom
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tapping and it's been around fora really long time and they use
it all the time.
I've had a book on it for yearsbecause my spouse has PTSD and
he really needed help from itand I just wasn't able to craft
anything on my own betweenrunning a business and managing
this child.
So it just sits on my shelf.
But it's just tapping.
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You tap certain parts of yourbody along the meridians and you
say phrases and you recalibrateyourself and it's really cool.
So that was something thatstarted.
You know, I told AI what hadjust happened and it told me
what had happened internally,why I was revisiting this and
crying, and it gave me a tappingscript and I couldn't get
through the tapping script.
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Okay, so long story short, ittold me on one of the lines of
the tapping script it said thisis your nervous system, saying
we made it and I couldn't getthrough it.
I couldn't get through any.
I mean, I kept having to gothrough and go through until
every line.
I did not cry through.
That's just how I chose to doit.
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If I couldn't say it withoutcrying, I just kept trying and
trying and, you know, breathingthrough it.
And anyway, when I said thatline, I got a complete physical
sensation.
My torso and arms tightened upand started like grabbing at my
neck for no reason, almost likeyou're congratulating each other
if you're on a football team,you know, just real rough on
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your back of your neck andshaking it, you know.
And I was just doing some weirdstuff.
am I doing?
And I couldn't stop and myentire torso was just tensed up.
And I imagine that it's justlike our kids feel.
You know how they never let go.
Their muscles are always tense.
Well, that's how I felt, frommy neck to my fingertips and to
my waist, everything.
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And I just moved through that.
I mean, there was nothing Icould do but just feel it and I
guess what?
Cry?
It finally moved through me andI took a breath and I thought I
was done and then, all of asudden, I felt that same
sensation from the waist down,all of my muscles contracted and
itI'm in the camper, sitting at
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the little booth where you eatdinner at the table, and takes
me out of my seat and I'mstretched now over to the little
sofa across the aisle and I'mlike what the hell is going on,
you know?
But I knew it was just, I'mjust working through something
and anyway, I ended up writhingaround on the floor and not.
It looked like I was in pain,I'm sure, but I wasn't in pain.
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I just this is how my bodywanted to move and I recognized
it because I've seen primalmovements and stuff like that on
YouTube.
So I recognize that this issome kind of a was a I'm going
to tell you, I didn't recognizethe sounds that were coming out
of my mouth.
They were very primal and I'msure that's very scary if
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someone was in proximity of mycamper.
I was aware enough to know thatthere's a possibility that
someone's going to knock on mydoor to see if I'm okay.
But it was really strange.
And so by the time it was done,I'm to knock on my door to see
if I'm okay, but it was reallystrange.
And so by the time it was done,I'm laid out on my camper floor,
face down, probably drooling,crying, gasping for air and
feeling amazing, and it wasmind-blowing, to say the least.
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So then I went and I learnedwhat had happened.
I had a soul level purge, acomplete nervous system
recalibration Not saying thatI'm fixed, but it helped a lot
to move me into the next stageof healing, and that is I
struggled to whether I was goingto share that with you or not,
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but I mean, it's probably themost profound experience I've
had.
It took a hold of meunexpectedly and it was so
amazing.
That was not a, that was aphysical experience, but not
visible.
There's nothing on me that youcan see from that.
But I did have a couple other..
breakthroughs and one HADbelieve may have helped with a
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spot that's under my ear, whichI took a drink of someone's
smuggled red wine from Italyback in like 2007.
And as soon as I did, I feltthat pucker power, you know, in
your jaw, but it sounded likesomeone had poured a bunch of
pop rocks in my ear of pop rocksin my ear.
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All of a sudden, the next thingI know, there's like a bump
under my earlobe, right at thehinge of my jaw or the curve of
my jaw, and it's been thereforever.
It's still there but it'sactually diminished and I
noticed that it diminished afterone of my little therapy
sessions and breakthroughs.
I also noticed that I had I'vebeen complaining for probably
about five to seven years thatmy left and right sides are
completely different.
I had I've been complaining forprobably about five to seven
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years that my left and rightsides are completely different,
I mean visibly completelydifferent, and I thought, well,
it's, maybe it's because I'm aGemini and I'm just becoming my
truest self, because Gemini istwo people, you know.
But from head to ankle Ibelieve that it's visibly
different the weight, the shape,the markings, everything you
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know.
And I have on my left leg.
Well, I had on my left leg,just above my ankle bone, there
was like a bubble of swelling.
It was just my body.
There was no edema, no water,nothing like that.
I had it checked medically andI don't have the physique to
have edema or any of that anyway.
So it was really strange to getchecked for it.
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But above that, I had a dent inmy leg and I thought maybe it
was from sitting cross-leggedall the time, indian style or
whatever.
So I stopped sitting like thatand never changed.
-! day noticed the other dayI went through a little therapy
thing.
Later I felt that I had abreakthrough.
It was really cool, it wasactually very spiritual.
And then the next day well,actually that night, but then
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the next day I really noticed it.
I looked down at my legsbecause I felt a sensation of
something breaking free aroundmy ankles.
I almost felt like I had cuffson my ankles.
That broke loose and I lookeddown and that bulge a gone day
and my left lower leg looks verysimilar to my right lower leg.
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My right lower leg is still alittle bit more slender, which
is weird because that's mydominant side, is my right side,
so normally that's going to beyour bigger side, but it's gone.
It's I mean, it's significantlydecreased compared to what it
was and I it's not noticeable atall anymore.
These are just from where mybody is holding tension.
I believe I've also experiencedmy facial tension has loosened.
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I was holding a lot of oh whenI had that physical experience
laid out on the floor.
A day or two later I hadresiduals from that and my jaw
muscles were really sore and Ifound that I had been storing
tension and trauma in my jaw,which everybody probably does,
because if you clench your jawwhen you think about something,
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well, there's your tension andtrauma, right?
Anyway, this might be too muchinformation for you, but I
wanted to say these are thingsthat I I mean, I've been in a
lot of different healthyprograms, okay, and I've never
experienced anything, anythingmuch less this, and I have
completely forgotten abouttrying to lose weight and get my
muscles back.
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I have realized very quicklythat the state of my watery
covering over my muscles iscompletely brought on by nervous
system trauma.
My nervous system is doingthese things to keep my body
safe and I have to baby mynervous system and talk to
myself, my nervous system, andlet it know we are safe, we're
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safe, we're not going to makethose decisions, we're not going
to let that stuff happen.
We are in control of what weallow into our lives and I am
more focused on helping myselfregulate my dysregulated nervous
system.
And you know, like you, I am notat peace with this lifestyle.
I am discovering ways to bringa bit more peace to both my
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inner and outer you,, andthyroiditis, the biggest changes
are all because I'm learningthat this chronic stress
lifestyle of ours has left mewith this dysregulated nervous
system, which you may recognizein yourselves as PTSD,
hypervigilance, the fight,flight, freeze and fawn, all
that kind of stuff.
And so not only am I learningwhat the problems, emotions and
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signals are, but this programprovides me with the tools to
actually neutralize the negativeemotions, recalibrate my poor
nervous system multiple times aday if needed, and track my
patterns before even getting outof bed to correct my course,
comfort my body with soulhealing, yummy, healthy foods
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and heal at my soul level.
I cannot begin to express thegratitude I have for this
program.
It is amazing.
There's a supportive communityof other people who are going
through the program and ondifferent tiers, but we're all
in there together and we'retalking about our breakthroughs,
we're listing our questions,we're getting them answered,
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there are live streams with thislady and there are so many
videos and modules that you canaccess and just do the work.
I mean, she talks aboutboundaries and just all kinds of
stuff.
It's really, really cool.
You know I am not perfect.
I hit a rough spot of emotionalexpectation with someone and,
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yes, I did gain weight overnightjust the other day, thank you.
Hashimoto's thyroiditis Thankyou very much.
That is part of my problem, butI am having issues with other
people who have been used to mebeing the emotional regulator
for everybody and now that I'mstepping back and making
everyone responsible for theirown emotions, I'm getting a
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little bit of blowback from thatand I need to learn how to
protect my nervous system whenthat is a possibility, so that
I'm ready and I have my defensesup and I don't have to deal
with it.
My biggest thing right now is Ihave adopted a way of just I'll
close my eyes and smile and putmy hands behind my head and
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just sit back.
I will listen to whatever isbeing said and I will give my
answer that I am not required toparticipate in this, or you're
allowed to make your decisionsand I'm allowed to make my
decisions and I decide not to godown that path with you.
This has been helping me agreat deal, but everyone has
their own things to deal with.
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Now.
Here's why I want you to knowabout this program and how I
believe it fits into parentingsevere autism lifestyles.
Do you remember in my episodewhere I talked about how I
realized that our son is like ababy wild animal?
If you did not hear thatepisode, I'll just recap quickly
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here A few years ago I waswatching all the baby birds in
the backyard and I noticed thatwhile they're smaller than some
of the other birds, all of thesetypes of birds are small anyway
.
There are specific ones justsitting on the fence, just
sitting there calmly and quietly, not worried about anything.
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And then all of a sudden thosebirds sitting on the fence
calmly, quietly, not worried,start trembling and shaking and
they tremble and tremble andshake more and more and more.
And all of a sudden here comesmama, they open their mouth.
The little babies are shaking,shaking, shaking and they turn
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to her and they open their mouthreally wide and she shoves half
her body down inside of theirneck to deliver food to them.
And while she's there, thosebabies don't stop trembling and
tweeting, just whining andtrembling.
And then she flies away, theysettle down, they sit there
calmly and quietly, they don'tworry about anything.
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Then all of a sudden they cansee with their little bird's
eyes that mama's in the distanceand they start fretting that
mama's in the distance and theystart fretting.
And this pattern happens everytime and I noticed that's just
like our son.
Our son can be sitting thereanywhere, calmly, quietly, in
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his own world or enjoying a showon TV, now that the medicines
have calmed him down enough todo that.
But he's just sitting there andhe's fine.
And then he hears or sees oneof us come into his area.
As soon as he is aware of ourpresence, he starts trembling
and shaking and whining andscreaming and just like a baby
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bird, and if you get closeenough to him he will open up
his mouth and he will try toswallow you up.
I really believe that he islike a wild animal and I see it
all the time.
Now that I'm aware of thatdynamic, I see it in every baby
animal out there in the wild.
They're all the same.
My child is a wild animal.
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The reason I'm mentioning thisis because there is another mom,
I believe her child has severeautism and then she has a
neurotypical daughter.
Now I know many of youlistening have someone with
severe autism and thenneurotypical daughter.
Now I know many of youlistening have someone with
severe autism and thenneurotypical kids as well.
This mom was talking about howher neurotypical daughter may
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have oppositional defiance, butshe was talking about the fact
that her daughter is almost abully and is just always talking
smack to her and always puttingher down and telling her she's
a shitty mom and as the daughtershe's not wanted and she
doesn't get any attention oraffection.
And you know, just, I mean justreally letting her have it.
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And the mom said that she'sgotten so negative and just arms
crossed all the time, just shutdown and just mean she's gotten
so negative that even herfriends are now backing away
from her, just like I don't evenknow what to do with you.
And the lady who runs thisprogram, who made this program,
had a response.
And now, first, I want to saythat when I first read her
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response, I was very shut down,very shut off to it.
I did.
I was like no, you don't knowwhat you're talking about, you
don't understand, you don't havea kid like this, right.
But I remembered all the goodthings that have happened out of
this program and how many timeshave I felt that she was wrong
before?
Just once, just once, when shethought I was making excuses
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about money and she didn'tunderstand that it actually is
about not acquiring new debtwith a family like mine, when
we're not able to work becauseof the autism.
But everything else has beenperfect and I understand why
someone would think that,because that is the go-to
shutdown mode for most peoplewho are not in our situations.
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If they are, you know, when yougo to the store you're looking
for something specific and thesales clerk comes and asks you
hi, welcome to the store, isthere something I can help you
with?
And you say, no, I'm good, eventhough you could really use
some help and it would save yousome time.
You're just you're programmedthat way.
So I understand why most peoplewould think that I'm just
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making excuses on money.
But that's here, nor there.
But I thought about how manyother times has she been wrong
and have I disagreed with her sovehemently?
And never so far.
So I just kept reading andrereading her reply, and her
reply was basically that yourdaughter doesn't need like a
supplement or a pill or acounselor.
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Your daughter is your mirror.
Your daughter is telling youwhat you're not seeing.
She's naming your problems.
She's naming what it is thatyou're struggling with down
inside.
That you will not admit to, youwon't fess up, you won't bring
it to the surface, and she isjust bringing it to the surface
for you.
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If you want control over yourhousehold, you need to get
control of what's inside of you.
So, yeah, of course people inour situation are gonna be like,
yeah, that's bullshit, butthink about it okay.
So I thought about it and ittook me a long time probably 10
or 20 minutes, honestly to keepreading this and sit with it,
digest it, consider thepossibilities.
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And then I thought about Jacoband I thought about how I say
that he is just like a baby,wild animal.
That led me to think about theDog Whisperer Caesar.
I can't remember his whole name, but the Dog Whis whisperer.
I used to love that show.
My spouse and I would watchthat show all the time.
What he always taught the dogowners was that your dog is
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doing exactly what you areafraid that that dog is going to
do.
He used to tell the dog ownerslook at you.
You have just told me thatyou're afraid.
When you take your dog for awalk and you see another human
or another dog inside, you startfreaking out and you start
thinking, oh shit, my dog isgoing to attack that dog, or my
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dog is going to start barking atthis guy, or my dog is going to
start pulling on my leash and Ican't control it and whatever
that dog owner was afraid of,that dog did it without fail.
And Caesar would remove theowner from the picture, take the
dog for a walk and just have itin his heart and mind that this
dog is a good dog.
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This dog is going to do exactlywhat I want this dog to do.
What I want the dog to do iswalk.
I want it to heal, I want it towalk in line with me and I want
it to pay attention to me, andthat's what's going to happen.
And these dogs were good.
He can take multiple dogs forwalks without leashes because
inside he is calm, he is secure,he knows he is the alpha.
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There is no other alpha dog inthe pack with the dog whisperer,
just him.
So I thought about that and thenI thought again about what this
lady said to this mom.
And then I thought about all ofyou guys out there who have
other children in the home andyou have expressed your worries,
your doubts and your fearsabout those children.
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And what are they?
My neurotypical daughter andson have PTSD.
My neurotypical kids feel thatthey should be here when I'm
gone to take care of theiryounger brother or sister or
older brother or sister .
Okay severe autism.
My neurotypical child is readyto move out at age 14 because
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she can't handle this lifestylebecause of my child with severe
autism.
My neurotypical children willnot talk to us anymore because
they don't want to have to takecare of their sibling after
we're gone.
I feel so guilty for mytreatment of my neurotypical
children.
My severe autism child gets allof my attention.
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They get all of my focus.
They get all of my effort.
I give everything I have totheir life and then I have
nothing left for anyone else,not myself, not my spouse, not
my other kids.
I can't support my other kids.
I can't identify with my otherkids.
They hate me.
You know all of these things.
Tell me I'm wrong, okay, sowhat I have started doing before
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I got in the program here is Ihad an issue with my son and I.
At first it was just behaviorand you know I got so tired of
it that I started commanding.
I thought, okay, fuck this, Iam not playing nice anymore.
And he will say, no, I can't,the best that he could say.
And I would say, yes, you will.
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You will right now, you know,and that was my big, wide eyed,
crazy mom eyes, you know, tryingto, you know, intimidate him
with my crazy look and knowinghis six foot tall self could
kick my ass in a second, but Idon't care.
So I started doing that and Istarted commanding his behavior
like, oh yeah, you will.
Well, you know what?
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At first that worked like twice, but then I'm sure he realized
that his six foot tall selfcould kick my ass.
So he stopped complying and Icontinued to fight my way
through life with this issue andthen one day I got so disgusted
with him I think it was like ayear ago, so he was like 23, you
know, and I just looked at himand I said whatever, man, you
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know, I hope that you get tiredof this someday, because I'm not
playing this game anymore.
I don't care.
He tried to push it a couplemore times with me and I stopped
responding and I just, in mydepths, I felt that you know,
he's got to get tired of thissometime.
He's going to get bored.
I'm just tired of it.
I'm not.
I'm not doing it, I'm not goingto participate, I am not
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accepting this as normalbehavior, and if this is what
he's going to give me, then hecan do it on his own.
He can behave that way tohimself because I am not going
to react to this boy and, truthbe told, I had an issue with my
husband as well, and this wasabout, I don't know, six or
eight months ago, and this hasbeen going on for years.
Okay, and I got again.
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I just got disgusted.
I got tired of begging, I gottired of pleading, I got tired
of doing all the great things tomake it easier for him to do
better.
I got tired of holding all theresponsibility and putting on
all the hats for myself so thathe could I don't know what
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recalibrate or do whatever heneeded to do to fall in line and
be where I needed him to be.
I, you know, I couldn't do itanymore After years of doing it.
One day I just said I reallyhope you get bored of this soon.
And that was it.
That was it.
I was done, all done, and Ithink within four days, that
issue resolved itself.
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After years of fighting for whatI thought was right and what I
thought I deserved, and what Ithought he deserved that he
wasn't giving to himself or tome, it resolved itself after I
decided I would not play theroles anymore.
I'm not going to do it.
Whatever, I'm going to do mything.
And you know, start spendingmore time at the gym, you know.
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And just hey look, if you don'twant to function, don't, okay.
Eventually you're going to getbored, you're going to get tired
, you're going to get sick ofyourself, and that's what I was
hoping for my son as well.
And in both cases the issueresolved itself after I removed
my emotion and my involvementwith the situation.
So I was really, you know,believing that part of it, but I
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had a hard time believing thatthe severe autism child was
actually a product of his .
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.
.
mom's inner environment as well.
But the more I thought about itlike I said, wild animals, dog
whisperer, internal environmentyeah, I think she's on to
something.
So I wrote to her and I toldher exactly what I said.
I disagreed with you vehementlyand it took me a long time.
I kept rereading your messageand sitting with it and
dissecting it bit by bit.
Then I remembered that my childis like a wild animal.
Then I remembered the dogwhisperer.
So I just told her the wholechronological order of my crazy
thoughts and I told her I wasgoing to share the information
about her program on my podcast,because I think that we could
all benefit from this type ofthinking and this way of living,
and it's not something you cando on your own.
Trust me, if you much - canafford $1,000, any way you slice
it, I mean you can makepayments.
They have that Klarna, I think,or some kind of where you can
set up payments.
It was a little too expensivefor me to go that route.
I had to put it on a creditcard that I was paying down
already and then just transferthat balance to a new card,
because I was already paying aspecific amount and I
transferred the balance and ittook the payment down by like 10
bucks.
So my life isn't changed at allby the finance part of it and I
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am making great strides with mynervous system.
You don't know how much or maybeyou do know how much this
lifestyle fucks up your nervoussystem and it keeps you in a
constant state of weight gainand pain from the weight gain
because it's trying to protectyou from your hypervigilance and
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not feeling safe and waitingfor the other shoe to drop and
always having to fight for thisand fight for that, fight for
your kid, fight against your kid, you know, fight for yourself
and you are constantly in fight,flight, freeze or fawn, and
that's no way to live and I'vealways had issues with living
this way.
This is not the life I want andit's not the life you want, I
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know.
So, anyway, this program isfreaking amazing and I am not an
affiliate.
I earn absolutely zero dollarsfrom sharing this with you, but
I believe in it enough to shareit with you.
There's a supportive communitythere.
This lady has perfectly craftedprompts to monitor your food
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intake based on your foodsensitivities.
From the hair test that you putin, it'll tell you what to eat,
when to eat it.
Someone on the team is going totell you how many calories and
break down all your macros.
You put that into AI along withyour foods list and you don't
even have to think about it.
It's just going to say theseare the things you can eat and
when you should eat them and howmuch.
You can tell it.
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Hey, I want you to tell me allthe raw measurements of these
before I cook them.
And there you go.
It'll do it every time and, man, it monitors your HRV, which is
a heart rate variability, whichis the indicator of the health
of your nervous system and itcan change by the day.
I had an argument with someonethe other day and my HRV had
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been at 50 and 55 for a coupledays and it tanked and it kept
going down.
It was at 33 and then 29 andthen 24 and then 19.
So I finally had to make a calland get it off my chest and
finish that argument, you know.
And then my HRV started goingup after I did the intake of the
liquids and the foodsrecommended to override that
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tanking HRV and it has a dreamdecoder.
Oh, wow, okay, dream decodingis life changing.
I haven't been dreaming at home,I've been under too much stress
, but now that I'm out here atthe camper, I dream every .
night, every single night, and Iwake up in a hurry just, and I
try to program it or talk itinto my.
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I do it in my calendar, I addan event and I just tell my
dream in there and then I goback to sleep.
I mean, when you think you hada dream, that was just the
dumbest thing you ever thoughtyou could dream.
Wait until you decode it withthese prompts.
It's amazing.
I mean it sees you on levelsyou've never been seen and it
brings shit out of you and itfacilitates the change that you
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need in your life to behealthier and happier, even
within the severe autismcaregiver lifestyle.
I just can't express enough howmuch this has changed my life
in a few short weeks and I havea year of it and I don't know.
I'm beyond words with this.
This is amazing.
If there's any way that you cancome up with a way to spend
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$1,000 on your health for aone-year program, listen, do it
Seriously.
I make no money off of this.
This is just I care.
You know that we have to be thehealthiest we can be because
there's no one else that we canrely on.
And I really think this isgoing to solve so much and just
change your way of dealing witheverything.
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And if you can change yourcalibration from the inside and
watch your child's actions andbehaviors change because you
have changed your resolve, thinkof the possibilities.
I'm not saying it's going tocure the kid, okay.
I'm just saying wow, we're goingto have a lot better
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understanding of ourselves.
I mean, you know when your kidbeats up everything, destroys
the whole house for an hour andthen all of a sudden decides
that they're cuddly and happyand they want to be loved and
cuddled and kissed.
And you're still picking up thepieces, cleaning up blood and
puke and everything else andbroken bones and windows and TVs
and walls and shit.
Imagine if there were anotherway to deal with all of that and
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to center yourself.
I'm working through that rightnow.
I don't have a specific on it,but I just started addressing it
the other day and I'm reallyoptimistic that the way I think
it, wake up if it's better,it's going to change my child.
Have you ever heard of thetelepathy tapes?
I've heard that they've beendebunked as well.
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I haven't listened to them, butI do want to say that my spouse
and I are continually surprisedand freaked out at the way our
son can be two flights upstairsfrom us and know exactly what we
are getting ready to talk aboutbefore we talk about it and
come downstairs at the exactright time for us to be having
that conversation.
He knows and they say that kidslike ours, who are nonverbal or
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just not able to communicate,they hear our thoughts or
somehow they absorb what we'rethinking and they know what
we're getting ready to talkabout.
So you know if you wake up andyour first thought is oh shit,
here we go.
Another day, my son is going toruin my entire day and all the
activities I have plannedbecause he's going to obsess
over this piece of fabric thathe cannot let go of every single
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day.
Okay, well, guess what?
I think you've just set thetone for your day, haven't you?
What if you wake up and you saydamn the torpedoes, full speed
ahead, screw that rag.
You know, or don't even thinkabout that rag.
Think about how I'm just goingto move through my day and I'm
going to let him do his thingand when?
You know, when he does it?
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Here are my programmed responses, and maybe one caseyshipp.
com of one day you're is calledHotmomz (with this Z) and I'm
not going to help him look forit.
I'm not going to get bored ofthis behavior and I'm not going
to help him look for it.
I'm not going to fold, I'm notgoing to bow to his needs and
demands.
I'm going to own my energy.
I'm calling my energy my ownenergy.
You know, I mean just what.
If, what?
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If?
I mean that could be a reallyextreme example, or maybe not,
but my spouse has been learninga little bit from me.
I give him little bits andpieces of this and he is
actually recalibrating somethings at home and our son is
getting bored.
He's getting bored with the Ilove you, I love you, I love you
, I love you, because theresponse that he's getting from
his dad now is not as much funas it was before.
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We used to either say I loveyou or say I'm done with that or
say new words, but he hasdeveloped a way to even if we
say I'm done with that or usenew words, our son.
That gives him something tohang on to, it gives him
something to mess with us aboutand it gives him just something
else to obsess with.
Now my spouse is just notresponding.
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I'm not going to respond, andthat's the attitude I've taken.
I'm not going to respond toanything that lowers my
energetic vibration.
I'm not going to respond, andthat's the attitude I've taken.
I'm not going to respond toanything that lowers my
energetic vibration.
I'm not going to respond.
I don't have to say yes toanything.
I don't have to go to thatbirthday party.
I don't have to give thisperson a reason why I don't or
do want to do something.
I don't have to meet up withanybody.
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They say they're coming to myarea, so what?
I don't want to.
I'm done with obligation, I'mdone with managing the emotions
of others and I feel that that'swhat freedom feels like.
Even though I'm still in thecaregiver role, when I go home
I'm still going to be the wifeand mother.
I'm still going to be thesevere autism mom.
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I'm just going to be different.
Anyway, this lady's name isCasey Ship, so it's
C-A-S-E-Y-S-H-I-P-P dot com andher program is called Hot Moms
with a Z Lifestyle and it'samazing.
So it's all about recalibratingyour nervous system and fixing
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the way that you eat and contact.
parentingsevereautism@ andsculpting your body with
exercises that coffee, easy onyour nervous system, not too
taxing.
Yes, you can increase theintensity and the load as you
improve, but it starts at thebare bones, basics and believing
that you have adrenal fatigueand that your nervous system is
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tanked psa.
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buzzsprout.
com zero and we just build fromthere.
I have hardly exercised at allbecause my nervous system is not
happy a lot of the time it'sstill fluctuating wildly.
But the more progress I make,the more I'm able to do.
Just this week, today's Saturdayso this past week, I have been
able to start doing body weightworkouts and some resistance
bands and my dumbbells.
It has been probably three orfour weeks and I started off
working at the gym through thisprogram with barbells and
dumbbells.
But we realized very quicklythat I wasn't as healthy as I
felt I was, and that was becauseof my food results and my
check-ins all the time.
I just can't say enough aboutit.
So I think right now she mayhave a special going on where
you can start for $7, where Istarted for $22.
But I look, you're gonnaimmediately purchase a hair test
, so that's about 50 bucks andthen you're going to immediately
see how valuable this stuff isand you're going to want to
invest for a one year program.
I mean there's really no pointin not doing that because you're
not even going to get your hairtest results back in time to
make a difference.
I don't, I didn't anyway, but Imean it took me a day longer to
figure it out.
So there's that, but it's soworth it $1,000 for a one-year
life-changing program.
I hope this was well-received.
I hope you enjoyed it very muchand if you have any questions
about my breakthroughs or myjourney on this program, please
feel free to contact me.
As you know, you can use theemail as
contactparentingsevereautism atgmailcom.
You can also buy me a coffee.
Leave me a note there.
I think you can leave me amessage on Facebook but, like I
said, that's a little spotty forme.
Oh, you can leave me a fan mailmessage at psa, short for
Parenting Severe Autismpsabuzzsproutcom.
I'm almost an open book.
I'll be happy to share a lotwith you, and in my next episode
I'm going to start talkingabout when my son's autism
really became not cute toeveryone else and when society
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started to block my son frombeing a part of anything.
So we're going to get into thereal shit.
That actually brought me totears and made me want to start
my YouTube channel.
As I told you, I didn't want tobe on camera crying all the
time, so I started this podcast.
Yeah, we're going to start withthat and it's going to go back
to the non-profit autism therapyto start.
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In the meantime, you hang inthere.
You're a superhero.
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